This has got me thinking from another thread.
When we hear of women meetin others for the 1st time, we all say have someone call you a while into meet, make it a neutral place where there will be other people around.Have a social 1st ect.
Should that advice not be given to everyone, men can be vulnerable as much as women. As with couples there maybe 2 of yous but that wouldnt exculd you from harm either.
Would it not make sense for everyone to have saftey measures set in place when meeting folks for the 1st time.
Just my little thought for a saturday morning xxx |
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I think that its everyones own place to protect themselves by doing what they are comfy with..
We will sometimes not meet without a call, a social and then some time to think about it..
Other times we decide we want a meet.. find someone and meet within the hour.. ( still do a call first)
We however never ever give out the address first.. we get them to go to tescos first..and ring us from there... then direct them around...
I did however have a guy that thought my safe call to let Master know I was okay was a threat and ran off... saying that he may be robbed or something..
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We had all sorts of emergency plans set up when we went to meet a couple at BHX airport recently... thank the lord they turned out to be pretty 'normal'   |
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If I am meeting someone new it's always in a public place and I have always told my friend where I am. I have to text her to tell her I am ok and yes she is on standby to call me if I want to get away , never had to do that apart from once when I was married as I am very carful in who I choose to meet in first place. Never going to be able to do it now either having said what I do. |
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advice is just a guide... for some it will suit.. others will adapt it.. 
but for one person it may make a big difference..
Or thats how I always look at it.
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"I think that its everyones own place to protect themselves by doing what they are comfy with..
We will sometimes not meet without a call, a social and then some time to think about it..
Other times we decide we want a meet.. find someone and meet within the hour.. ( still do a call first)
We however never ever give out the address first.. we get them to go to tescos first..and ring us from there... then direct them around...
I did however have a guy that thought my safe call to let Master know I was okay was a threat and ran off... saying that he may be robbed or something..
Cali x "
I agree with what you are saying about everyone does things there own way. In my own way what I was tryin to say is that it isnt just women that have to think of their safety. It can be just as dangerous for men and couples as well. x |
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I agree with what you are saying about everyone does things there own way. In my own way what I was tryin to say is that it isnt just women that have to think of their safety. It can be just as dangerous for men and couples as well. x"
Oh it can... you never know who you are meeting.. I have read some scary things at times on meets gone wrong 
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"This has got me thinking from another thread.
When we hear of women meetin others for the 1st time, we all say have someone call you a while into meet, make it a neutral place where there will be other people around.Have a social 1st ect.
Should that advice not be given to everyone, men can be vulnerable as much as women. As with couples there maybe 2 of yous but that wouldnt exculd you from harm either.
Would it not make sense for everyone to have saftey measures set in place when meeting folks for the 1st time.
Just my little thought for a saturday morning xxx"
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By *ugby 123Couple
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I agree totally. But sadly when we first started playing we didn't think of the men turning up to a meet with a couple as them being nervous as we were so nervous ourselves.....once we all got talking we realised it must be worse for them ...at least if we meet a weirdo there are two of us, they are on their own.
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safety is vert important to me
if i get a bad feeling on messages i wont meet and if i meet someone who passed my gut feeling and wasnt what i expected or my head tells me to get out
i do |
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Agree, basics that I choose to put in place are a social meet first in a public place.
My friend knows when I go to play, where and with whom.
I call to say I am safe, or text, depending.
This is why I like to meet in clubs too, the staff are there partly for this very reason- keeping people safe. |
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Much of what is always said on these threads is pretty basic common sense and transferable in to real life as well as swinging. It bemuses me that it get's discussed so often, it's hardly rocket science. |
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"Much of what is always said on these threads is pretty basic common sense and transferable in to real life as well as swinging. It bemuses me that it get's discussed so often, it's hardly rocket science."
NO it isnt rocket science, but then again when 1st starting out some people dont think of these issues. Much of the threads are repeated there is new people joining in the forums every day and they will not have seen the threads that the long time users have seen. |
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Totally agree Coantrimcpl,im single male and going to an address is nerve wrecking on a first visit.Theres just that small risk something might happen.If opportunity is there to meet somewhere else i think you should take it.Most people are genuine though |
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"Much of what is always said on these threads is pretty basic common sense and transferable in to real life as well as swinging. It bemuses me that it get's discussed so often, it's hardly rocket science.
NO it isnt rocket science, but then again when 1st starting out some people dont think of these issues. Much of the threads are repeated there is new people joining in the forums every day and they will not have seen the threads that the long time users have seen."
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I arranged to meet a couple. They said that their back door would be unlocked and they would be already playing in the bedroom.
I insisted they pasted a note on the inside of the front window saying welcome _obbytupper.
Imagine if it had been a wind up and I had walked into a strangers house?  |
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i would love to have someone i could tell where i am playing for safety, but as being a naughty boy , i cant tell close friends and have no swinging friends close enough ,
mm maybe the sight could set up a data base we log in then if not logged in again after a day it gets followed up ,
orrrrr would any one let me leave my play details with them , xx |
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"This has got me thinking from another thread.
When we hear of women meetin others for the 1st time, we all say have someone call you a while into meet, make it a neutral place where there will be other people around.Have a social 1st ect.
Should that advice not be given to everyone, men can be vulnerable as much as women. As with couples there maybe 2 of yous but that wouldnt exculd you from harm either.
Would it not make sense for everyone to have saftey measures set in place when meeting folks for the 1st time.
Just my little thought for a saturday morning xxx"
dont even have to be the first time
Ive been doing this about 10 years now and the only time i have ever been put in danger was by a guy i had met before
He was really nice first time i met and i grew to trust him but i think that was the plan, before he betrayed my trust in a really big way
So even if you have met someone before it pays not to let your guard down and never trust anyone off here 100% |
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"I dont have anyone to tell.. "
nor do i, its not really something you can tell a friend
If i told my best friend i was going out with a guy and for her to call me about 9 she'd want to know who he is, how i met him and why i didnt trust him lol
You cant really say well its not that i dont trust him but i met him off the internet so just to be safe lol
There are some things you dont want your friends to know |
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By *ugby 123Couple
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Theres a thought, some people don't tell real life friends that they meet people from the net on sites like these.
I would suggest telling another person you have met on here and already swopped numbers with and check in with them if you are happy with the meet / get them to ring you just after the meet is due to happen to make sure you are happy. |
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"Theres a thought, some people don't tell real life friends that they meet people from the net on sites like these.
I would suggest telling another person you have met on here and already swopped numbers with and check in with them if you are happy with the meet / get them to ring you just after the meet is due to happen to make sure you are happy."
I understand what your saying but lets be honest
If i was on a meet and i asked a guy i had met before to call me as i was meeting a new guy and when he called i was feeling uneasy about the new meet, do you really think some guy i have met off here is really going to out himself out to come help me?
I dont think NSA 'friends' goes that far personally and i really do not think guys on here would do that, unless of course he thought he was going to get a shag for his help lol
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"Theres a thought, some people don't tell real life friends that they meet people from the net on sites like these.
I would suggest telling another person you have met on here and already swopped numbers with and check in with them if you are happy with the meet / get them to ring you just after the meet is due to happen to make sure you are happy.
I understand what your saying but lets be honest
If i was on a meet and i asked a guy i had met before to call me as i was meeting a new guy and when he called i was feeling uneasy about the new meet, do you really think some guy i have met off here is really going to out himself out to come help me?
I dont think NSA 'friends' goes that far personally and i really do not think guys on here would do that, unless of course he thought he was going to get a shag for his help lol
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Have to disagree with you there. If I was close enough I would be prepared to do that, and wouldn't expect a shag afterwards. I would see it as protecting a friend.
I think the friendship side of swinging is fast disappearing these days. It's a real shame. |
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