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By *--Cinders--- OP Couple over a year ago

a place near Blackpool

if u plan to meet a guy in town and then go onto his place for a session, and u meet him and he is awlful..whats the best way to get out of it without being nasty or hurtful?

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By *iewMan over a year ago
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Angus & Findhorn

Thanks for inviting me back but this is not working for me, I would like to leave it here.

Wish you well for the future.

Get up and leave......

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By *elsh_lass74Woman over a year ago

South Wales

Tell him thanks but no thanks, you haven't clicked with him.

Or fake a phone call or text, that needs you back home asap

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

are u typing this from your mobile while he's at the bar buying drinks by any chance ?

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By *iewMan over a year ago
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Angus & Findhorn

actually my cock is bigger than yours, do you want to see.

if he is str8, he will ask you to leave.

if bi.... refer to my previous answer

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By *atisfy janeWoman over a year ago

Torquay

I always make the first meet purely social only....that way I can (and he can) make an informed decision whether or not to meet again for sex.

I am not saying that this should work for everyone, but doing it that way takes away any feeling of awkwardness...on both sides.

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By *ilmiss75Woman over a year ago

Thornton

Maybe you should just plan a drink and see what happens kinda thing? That way nobody gets upset of either of you are not for the other. Then if you do click and want more it can be decided on over that drink

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By *--Cinders--- OP Couple over a year ago

a place near Blackpool

we had been in touch for a while via the site and was meeting today in town and going to his for the night...i met him and something didnt real right, i cudnt figure it out, i just couldnt go with him, so i made an excuse saying i had to pop to morrisons across the road and legged it..i feel rotton for letting him down but i know i did the right thing..

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By *innamon!Woman over a year ago

no matter

"we had been in touch for a while via the site and was meeting today in town and going to his for the night...i met him and something didnt real right, i cudnt figure it out, i just couldnt go with him, so i made an excuse saying i had to pop to morrisons across the road and legged it..i feel rotton for letting him down but i know i did the right thing.."

Ohh dear.. poor chap. But I agree if there is no spark no point at all.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

Nothing wrong with you changing your mind about going back to his. If things didn't feel right....

But do think it was a bit mean to just leave him sitting there. If it was me, I personally, would rather someone just be honest and tell me straight that I wasn't for them. Would be more upset over be left sitting & waiting like an idiot.

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By *ornwall-maleMan over a year ago

newquay

legging it to morrisons and doing a runner was wrong. you should of just been honest and said you didnt feel you wanted to go back to his. honesty here is best. at the end of the day i would thank someone for there time and meeting me if they just said thanks but we wont play etc. but i can understand it was difficult for you and not all men are good at taking rejection here x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm surprised to see you posting this and I have to say a bit disappointed.

You are a grown woman with plenty of meets under your belt and behaving in this manner is really unfair on the man you were meeting.

Attraction is very personal, but if you are adult enough to meet someone, you should be adult enough to let them down nicely.

And it gives us girls a bad name.

I think you owe him an appology.

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By *iewMan over a year ago
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Angus & Findhorn

I read the first post as you had gone back to his following the drinks and changed your mind...

so am I reading this right... did you just leave him there not knowing if you were coming back from the shop.

you reap what you sow..... and remember these words.

ignorance, bad manners, & totally gutless.

Think shame

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm surprised to see you posting this and I have to say a bit disappointed.

You are a grown woman with plenty of meets under your belt and behaving in this manner is really unfair on the man you were meeting.

Attraction is very personal, but if you are adult enough to meet someone, you should be adult enough to let them down nicely.

And it gives us girls a bad name.

I think you owe him an appology."

* nods head in agreement *

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By *iewMan over a year ago
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Angus & Findhorn

Cinders

if I may suggest, I would reread your thread 'cold feet' and remember how you felt when a guy you met turned you down, at least he did it to your face, he didnt run away.

You may find it a useful reminder about how that felt.

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By *--Cinders--- OP Couple over a year ago

a place near Blackpool

the reason i legged it was because he was different to the person on his profile and i had travelled to meet him, i was meeting him on his own turf...he was a smoker, and his profile said he didnt smoke, he was dirty and smelt...i was afraid to say anything because i didnt know how he wud react, so i legged it to morrisons and i text him and said sorry but i cudnt go through with it...

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By *TUNNAWoman over a year ago

glasgow

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By *TUNNAWoman over a year ago

glasgow

aww legging it was bad all u had 2 say

was sorry its no wat im looking for

always best to be honest now if that was

a guy legging it he got a bad name

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By *obbytupperMan over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley

I just hope that he doesn't read the forums.

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By *isub69Man over a year ago

Epsom

Honesty is the best form. I understand you may have been nervous about how he might react but it was a little cold harted of you.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I just hope that he doesn't read the forums.

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By *he_original_poloWoman over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

"the reason i legged it was because he was different to the person on his profile and i had travelled to meet him, i was meeting him on his own turf...he was a smoker, and his profile said he didnt smoke, he was dirty and smelt...i was afraid to say anything because i didnt know how he wud react, so i legged it to morrisons and i text him and said sorry but i cudnt go through with it..."

Utter rubbish.

Read up a bit to your own previous post... "something didnt real right, i cudnt figure it out,"

Yet you seem to have managed to figure it out now?

If you had posted about a guy legging it... lying... and then (may be) texting, would you be expecting support and people to say the guy was a twat/arse/idiot/bastard/coward/whatever.

It's really simple "sorry but I am just not feeling a spark. Thanks for meeting me but I'm going to head off now. I hope you find lots of fun"

Personally, I believe if people lack the emotional maturity to be honest with other people in a face to face situation, then they are a danger to themselves and others.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This is rubbish!! you previously said you couldnt work it out what it was!! what you did is awful and now trying to justify what you did as others have lambasted you.

Have met people who were not as their profile makes out and houses smelt when arrived of wet dog!! and all you have to do is say thanks for meeting me but I dont think this is for me and leave polietly!!

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By *--Cinders--- OP Couple over a year ago

a place near Blackpool

i did meet the guy, i did turn up and we walked and chatted a while...guess u are all right and what i did was heart less but i was scared and didnt know what to do hence my post at the begining asking advice..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"i did meet the guy, i did turn up and we walked and chatted a while...guess u are all right and what i did was heart less but i was scared and didnt know what to do hence my post at the begining asking advice.."

did you remember to get the tea bags ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This is rubbish!! you previously said you couldnt work it out what it was!! what you did is awful and now trying to justify what you did as others have lambasted you.

I like that, 'wet dog' is that by L'oreal? I can hear the strapline, 'because you're wuff it' (OK, OK, it's been a long day, alright!)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I always make the first meet purely social only....that way I can (and he can) make an informed decision whether or not to meet again for sex.

I am not saying that this should work for everyone, but doing it that way takes away any feeling of awkwardness...on both sides."

Certainly works for me!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I always make the first meet purely social only....that way I can (and he can) make an informed decision whether or not to meet again for sex.

I am not saying that this should work for everyone, but doing it that way takes away any feeling of awkwardness...on both sides.

Certainly works for me! "

.... and me. Always a social meet before anything else is agreed on.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I always make the first meet purely social only....that way I can (and he can) make an informed decision whether or not to meet again for sex.

I am not saying that this should work for everyone, but doing it that way takes away any feeling of awkwardness...on both sides.

Certainly works for me!

.... and me. Always a social meet before anything else is agreed on. "

Yep us too and always worked well.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm surprised to see you posting this and I have to say a bit disappointed.

You are a grown woman with plenty of meets under your belt and behaving in this manner is really unfair on the man you were meeting.

Attraction is very personal, but if you are adult enough to meet someone, you should be adult enough to let them down nicely.

And it gives us girls a bad name.

I think you owe him an appology."

Agreed

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By *--Cinders--- OP Couple over a year ago

a place near Blackpool

i disagree, the guy lied about smoking, age etc so the guy i thought i was meeting wasnt the same guy that turned up

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By *iewMan over a year ago
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Angus & Findhorn

"i disagree, the guy lied about smoking, age etc so the guy i thought i was meeting wasnt the same guy that turned up"

well if I am honest, that says more about you than it may of him. we only have 1 side to this story.

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By *innamon!Woman over a year ago

no matter

"i disagree, the guy lied about smoking, age etc so the guy i thought i was meeting wasnt the same guy that turned up"

Do you never insist on a cam chat before going anywhere to meet. ??

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"i disagree, the guy lied about smoking, age etc so the guy i thought i was meeting wasnt the same guy that turned up"

Why are you using the excuse that he 'lied' about smoking when you have a few 'play' verifications from smokers?

If he'd done what anyone else can do and checked out who you had met before via the verifications... he'd probably thought and guessed right that you ain't so worried about meeting smokers.

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By *--Cinders--- OP Couple over a year ago

a place near Blackpool

"i disagree, the guy lied about smoking, age etc so the guy i thought i was meeting wasnt the same guy that turned up

Do you never insist on a cam chat before going anywhere to meet. ??"
no..maybe i shud start..today was scary, meeting a guy who was different to his profile..i was in a strange town on my own..my own fault i know and i know i shud of said to his face but i wasnt expecting what i saw either and i just freaked out

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Aw, I feel sorry for him.

If you really can't tell the truth, then just say you don't feel well. It spares their feelings a bit but also allows you to leave without making someones day pretty crap.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"if u plan to meet a guy in town and then go onto his place for a session, and u meet him and he is awlful..whats the best way to get out of it without being nasty or hurtful?"

just say no thanks it was nice but i dont wish to take things further

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think thats below the belt being honest. u are a woman and not a CHILD the least you could have done was be honest and not leave him waiting around for you

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By *--Cinders--- OP Couple over a year ago

a place near Blackpool

"i disagree, the guy lied about smoking, age etc so the guy i thought i was meeting wasnt the same guy that turned up

Why are you using the excuse that he 'lied' about smoking when you have a few 'play' verifications from smokers?

If he'd done what anyone else can do and checked out who you had met before via the verifications... he'd probably thought and guessed right that you ain't so worried about meeting smokers."
because other guys i play with dotn smoke round me, this guy was smoking when i met him and lit another one not long after he put other one out

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By *arnayguyMan over a year ago

Durham Tees

'I'm sorry mate, I'm off to Morrisons. I'm Buy curious.'

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By *--Cinders--- OP Couple over a year ago

a place near Blackpool

"i disagree, the guy lied about smoking, age etc so the guy i thought i was meeting wasnt the same guy that turned up

Why are you using the excuse that he 'lied' about smoking when you have a few 'play' verifications from smokers?

If he'd done what anyone else can do and checked out who you had met before via the verifications... he'd probably thought and guessed right that you ain't so worried about meeting smokers.because other guys i play with dotn smoke round me, this guy was smoking when i met him and lit another one not long after he put other one out"
plus he had on his profile, that he was a non smoker

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By *etillanteWoman over a year ago

"i disagree, the guy lied about smoking, age etc so the guy i thought i was meeting wasnt the same guy that turned up

Why are you using the excuse that he 'lied' about smoking when you have a few 'play' verifications from smokers?

If he'd done what anyone else can do and checked out who you had met before via the verifications... he'd probably thought and guessed right that you ain't so worried about meeting smokers.because other guys i play with dotn smoke round me, this guy was smoking when i met him and lit another one not long after he put other one out"

How do you know that the other guys had not just put out a cigarette before meeting you.

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By *--Cinders--- OP Couple over a year ago

a place near Blackpool

if they had of done then they wudnt be breathing smoke all over me would they...

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By *etillanteWoman over a year ago

"if they had of done then they wudnt be breathing smoke all over me would they..."

I meet a guy who is a smoker, I have seen him smoke as he gets out of his car and I canot smell it on him, so no not necessarily

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By *iewMan over a year ago
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Angus & Findhorn

'I couldn't figure it out'.... he was a non smoker, you don't meet smokers and he was smoking in front of you, not 1 ciggy, but 2.......

are you serious... you were rude, you have admitted you made a mistake...

now try the dignified approach and stop digging yourself a deeper hole by shifting all the blame to another Fab member. It is now totally unbelievable.

The last time it was a guy lied about having kids. Did he have them in front of you too... playing on the swings

This guy deserves more......

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sorry OP but you're not being consistent in the things you're coming out with.

I think most of us have at some point met people who appear different from their profile. I've had "non smokers" turn up reaking like a day old full astray. I've mentioned it and they've been sheepish at being caught out, but as they've travelled to me during my lunch hour...no skin of my nose.

As I always meet socially I've no qualms in saying it won't go any further. It wouldn't cross my mind to leave some poor SAP hanging...then, have the audacity to start a thread about it.

Shame on you.

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By *--Cinders--- OP Couple over a year ago

a place near Blackpool

ok...u have all made ur _iews very clear...i made this thread asking for advice..i wont be posting anything else on here...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think you should send him round to see my boss. She has been a complete bitch all week and I think a good shag might chill her out!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Cinders, you asked how best to let someone down if you didn't wish to take a meet any further.

However you then went on to say you had done a runner from him, without giving an explanation to him face to face.

I'm sorry if the answers seem harsh to you and that you won't be coming back to the forums.

It now looks like you are taking a strop with people.

I can only put myself in that guys position and think how he must be feeling now. I also think if it had been a guy who opened this post he would have been hung drawn and quartered every day for a week!

Hope you just let this blow over now and return to the forums in the future. xxx

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By *--Cinders--- OP Couple over a year ago

a place near Blackpool

"Cinders, you asked how best to let someone down if you didn't wish to take a meet any further.

However you then went on to say you had done a runner from him, without giving an explanation to him face to face.

I'm sorry if the answers seem harsh to you and that you won't be coming back to the forums.

It now looks like you are taking a strop with people.

Hope you just let this blow over now and return to the forums in the future. xxx

"
i am not taking a strop with people,,i travelled from my home to preston to meet this guy, he was local to preston..i was honest enough to say on here what i did and i know i shud of had the guts to tell him to his face..he should have been honest on his profile..at least i had the guts to stand up and say what i did..i am not the only one who has done something like this, lots have or lots havent turned up and not had the guts to say anything...i did text him and appoloize to him..the person i met wasnt the same guy i was expecting, he was older then his pic, smoked, was smelly and dirty...i felt that he had let me down by not being honest with me...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have read this thread and while I can see that yes perhaps doing a runner was maybe a little insensitive... I can also see it from the OP side..

A woman alone meeting... and sometimes guys can respond to rejection badly... What if he had got nasty... what advice would people have given.. ??? most likely the, you should have left to go the bathroom and then let him know.

(which I have seen suggested at times)

I dont even see how it can be heartless as it was meeting for sex... and if there is no chemistry,.... there is no chemistry...

I think the OP has learned that maybe always meet for a coffee first with no expectations to save peoples feelings...

It was not an intentional let down, but it is easy for a woman to feel unsure..

Cali x

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By *etillanteWoman over a year ago

"Cinders, you asked how best to let someone down if you didn't wish to take a meet any further.

However you then went on to say you had done a runner from him, without giving an explanation to him face to face.

I'm sorry if the answers seem harsh to you and that you won't be coming back to the forums.

It now looks like you are taking a strop with people.

Hope you just let this blow over now and return to the forums in the future. xxx

i am not taking a strop with people,,i travelled from my home to preston to meet this guy, he was local to preston..i was honest enough to say on here what i did and i know i shud of had the guts to tell him to his face..he should have been honest on his profile..at least i had the guts to stand up and say what i did..i am not the only one who has done something like this, lots have or lots havent turned up and not had the guts to say anything...i did text him and appoloize to him..the person i met wasnt the same guy i was expecting, he was older then his pic, smoked, was smelly and dirty...i felt that he had let me down by not being honest with me..."

Cinders Fleetwood to Preston is hardly a million miles. I have travelled further, met a guy and the spark was not there, I explained and left, if you had felt unsafe, you could have moved to a more public area until he left or asked the barman to arrange a taxi to meet you at the door. If you are in a public place, what can he do.

As has been said if this had been a guy asking the question he would have been pilloried for his actions

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By *iewMan over a year ago
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Angus & Findhorn

I agree it must be tough for a single female to say No thank you and that is something I respect.

Easier in a pub, coffee shop than a dogging site/ woods etc... so if people are prepared to go with virtual strangers there, they can say No in a crowded area.

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By *TUNNAWoman over a year ago

glasgow

u didnt need advice as u already legged

it an if u post then yes ur gonna get

replys which u need 2 accept

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By *--Cinders--- OP Couple over a year ago

a place near Blackpool

"Cinders, you asked how best to let someone down if you didn't wish to take a meet any further.

However you then went on to say you had done a runner from him, without giving an explanation to him face to face.

I'm sorry if the answers seem harsh to you and that you won't be coming back to the forums.

It now looks like you are taking a strop with people.

Hope you just let this blow over now and return to the forums in the future. xxx

As has been said if this had been a guy asking the question he would have been pilloried for his actions"
ok u have all made ur _iews very clear..lets just leave it now please..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Cinders, you asked how best to let someone down if you didn't wish to take a meet any further.

However you then went on to say you had done a runner from him, without giving an explanation to him face to face.

I'm sorry if the answers seem harsh to you and that you won't be coming back to the forums.

It now looks like you are taking a strop with people.

Hope you just let this blow over now and return to the forums in the future. xxx

Ok. If you were too scared to say face to face what you were thinking then maybe... make your excuse to get distance (like your Morrisons trip)... get your transport home (make sure you are on train, bus, in taxi or in car a couple of miles away) and text or phone the chap to say you won't be continuing contact with them in the future and tell them the reasons why if you feel comfortable.... If you don't feel comfortable then DO NOT feel like you must explain your reasons... it's your right to reserve them.

Try and arrange 'social' initial meets with men in the future. Like others have said, it takes away the pressure that you were under today.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Cinders, you asked how best to let someone down if you didn't wish to take a meet any further.

However you then went on to say you had done a runner from him, without giving an explanation to him face to face.

I'm sorry if the answers seem harsh to you and that you won't be coming back to the forums.

It now looks like you are taking a strop with people.

Hope you just let this blow over now and return to the forums in the future. xxx

Try and arrange 'social' initial meets with men in the future. Like others have said, it takes away the pressure that you were under today."

P.s I meant to say... Text your meet asap with the news that you ain't coming back... ie a few minutes after gaining some distance. Leaving it more than 15-20 mins might be a little harsh.

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By *--Cinders--- OP Couple over a year ago

a place near Blackpool

"Cinders, you asked how best to let someone down if you didn't wish to take a meet any further.

However you then went on to say you had done a runner from him, without giving an explanation to him face to face.

I'm sorry if the answers seem harsh to you and that you won't be coming back to the forums.

It now looks like you are taking a strop with people.

Hope you just let this blow over now and return to the forums in the future. xxx

Try and arrange 'social' initial meets with men in the future. Like others have said, it takes away the pressure that you were under today."
it was the first time i have had a experience like this, and i did text him from morrisons..he was so different from his profile..i dont see why i am the villian, he should have been honest in his profile.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"it was the first time i have had a experience like this, and i did text him from morrisons..he was so different from his profile..i dont see why i am the villian, he should have been honest in his profile.

I haven't labelled you or even remotely tried to sneakily label you as one!

Please re-read my posts and take it as advice, not criticism.

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By *--Cinders--- OP Couple over a year ago

a place near Blackpool

I haven't labelled you or even remotely tried to sneakily label you as one!

Please re-read my posts and take it as advice, not criticism. "
thanks for the advice

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple over a year ago

hexham

"if u plan to meet a guy in town and then go onto his place for a session, and u meet him and he is awlful..whats the best way to get out of it without being nasty or hurtful?"

Hopefully you dont meet without a safe call set if,if you cant face telling him he is not for you,when your safe call rings explain you have to leave.

However,the truth,is far better...and means there can be no misunderstanding.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Master posting

I believe that Cinders did the right thing, the guy was not who he said he was and she had a bad feeling about him, what if he was also hiding the fact he was a nutter and got nasty when she tried to leave ? You did the right thing under the circumstances and should always follow your instincts, so the guy was left at Morrissons ? at least Cinders is safe and well to tell the story.

Masterq81

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By *iewMan over a year ago
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Angus & Findhorn

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By *iewMan over a year ago
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Angus & Findhorn

Glad we have found this man guilty of lying on the say so of 1 party....

I have found there is usually 2sides to every story and sometimes 3.... hers, his and then the truth.

Of course she has the right to change her mind, no one would ever suggest that anyone could not do that...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The womans safety is more important than anything, better safe than sorry, and who found him guilty ? I cant see anyone saying he is guilty of anything.

Masterq81 ( just so there is no confusion )

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By *ola cubesMan over a year ago

coatbridge

"Master posting

Masterq81 "
what if she was hiding the fact "shes a nutter it all works both ways and unfair to try and turn on the fella sitting in pub waiting on a meet returning

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By *iewMan over a year ago
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Angus & Findhorn

"The womans safety is more important than anything, better safe than sorry, and who found him guilty ? I cant see anyone saying he is guilty of anything.

Masterq81 ( just so there is no confusion ) "

everyones safety is the most important...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

how would she feel if he left to get something and never came back!!!!!!

i think its pretty shit even though she wasnt interested she could have told him face to face, after all she was in a public place

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Cinders clearly stated he had already lied, saying he was a non smoker when he clearly was, what else could he have lied about ? I will say it once more, the womans safety is more important than the what ifs and the could have beens, im going to just say to Cinders, dont worry about what others say on here, you followed your instincts and are safe and well, the ones that slate you on here would be the first to turn on the guy if the meet had went wrong and you were hurt or harmed, indignation is what they love to feel.

Masterq81

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By *ola cubesMan over a year ago

coatbridge

confusious no one said to continue the meet all people have said is it was wrong to "leg it" without a word sitting in a public bar he is going to harm her not likly but if you feel the need to candy coat things as its a fem thats your right and priveledge me i still take the standpoint it should have been said face to face

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I do not usually meet at someone's home unless I have a very good rapport or feeling about that person, and by that time, I would have done whatever I can to see pics of him (face, body and cock), to decide if I like him as a person, and whether he comes across as genuine.

I prefer to meet in a public place first for a drink or a meal.

If the other person can accommodate and prefer to play at his place, then I would agree to meet somewhere like a pub close to his home.

This way, if I like the gent enough to play with him, we could go back to his place. Otherwise, I could say my thanks however no thanks and walk away.

I do not like peeps with double standards, in that I do not like peeps who expect one thing from others, yet when the table is turned, they would do something completely different and complain/moan about being treated unfairly if the outcomes are not in their favour.

If I say no to someone, I do not always give him a reason as I do not believe I need or have to. However, if one is requested, then I shall tell the truth, and it is seldom flattering to the other person.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I would have done the same to be honest... Although I have someone always watching my back ...

I remember a thread not long ago where someone mentioned walking past the meet and deciding against it....

The thing is if your not happy you do what is best for you... Maybe he would have been ok...

My thing here is what if the original poster had come on and had said she had the meet.. it turned nasty when she said it wasn't for her.. what advice would be given...

I bet most would have suggested going to the bathroom or lying.. or making up an excuse. She didn't leave him without knowing she just didn't tell him face to face....

I always wait till after a social to say I don't think its for me.. And what you have to remember here was he was already thinking he was getting sex.

And I've not condemned the guy as I wasn't there... But what ever the reason I think that as a single woman you have to be careful...

And public place doesn't mean no scene could be made....

In hindsight its great to sit and give advice... But at the time you tend to act on instinct...

Cali x

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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O o O oo

If I was a single woman meeting men alone and met in a public place, then I would have no qualms to tell the person he wasn't for me, have a cuppa and part ways.

Morrisons is a public place.

TBH I think the way it was done is a bad thing, and if a man had done it to a woman I am sure he would get the same reaction as this thread.

Surely adults can act like adults, but if you are too scared to be a few miles from your home then maybe you shouldn't be travelling to meets.

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By *--Cinders--- OP Couple over a year ago

a place near Blackpool

i met him in a public place and we were going to walk to his place which he said was about 20 minutes away..i admit i got scared, i dont know preston and had no idea of where he lived, i told him i was just popping to morrisons, once there i texted him and said sorry..u can all judge me for being in the wrong, but u were not there, i was and i did what i thought was right at the time..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"i met him in a public place and we were going to walk to his place which he said was about 20 minutes away..i admit i got scared, i dont know preston and had no idea of where he lived, i told him i was just popping to morrisons, once there i texted him and said sorry..u can all judge me for being in the wrong, but u were not there, i was and i did what i thought was right at the time.."

so why didn't u say this in the 1st few messages

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By *DSRMan over a year ago

leicester

"if u plan to meet a guy in town and then go onto his place for a session, and u meet him and he is awlful..whats the best way to get out of it without being nasty or hurtful?"

just be polite and honest and say, i was hoping we would click and i am really sorry but we don't click like i had hoped we would! Obviously your in a crowded area so he can't try anything dumb, and obviously it's your choice what you do with anyone during a meet!

if they can't take that type of rejection then they really shouldn't be let out the mental home!

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By *--Cinders--- OP Couple over a year ago

a place near Blackpool

so why didn't u say this in the 1st few messages

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because my original thread was just asking for advice

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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O o O oo

In which case there was not really any need to start a thread, you already think you have done the right thing.

Will shut this now, as it isn't fair on the other person.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

" i was and i did what i thought was right at the time.."

and that is all that you need to remember.. you did what was right to you... your hear to tell the tale.. no real harm was done.. sure he wont lose much sleep over it..

I know I didnt when we have guys that get here.. go to get undressed and suddenly just say.. I cant.. and yes I have had one go back to his car to get something and just drive off.. I laughed about it for most of the day.. lol

Cali

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By *TUNNAWoman over a year ago

glasgow

"Cinders clearly stated he had already lied, saying he was a non smoker when he clearly was, what else could he have lied about ? I will say it once more, the womans safety is more important than the what ifs and the could have beens, im going to just say to Cinders, dont worry about what others say on here, you followed your instincts and are safe and well, the ones that slate you on here would be the first to turn on the guy if the meet had went wrong and you were hurt or harmed, indignation is what they love to feel.

Masterq81 "

no 1 is slating her as i said before

u put a post up u need 2 accept

the replys simple as an again as i

said before futher up the post

if i guy done this he'd get a bad name

an he would be slated u gotta take the good with the bad

an if she was worried about her safety

she shouldnt travel then an meet nearer home

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

In which case you have answered your own question, and should be happy, afterall, you have done what is right for you, and obviously didn't need our input anyway!

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