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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Does anyone on actually meet after just a few messages, I have had several messages in the last few days from single guys and couples that want to meet right away, does that really happen? |
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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago
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To be honest, I don't want to exchange hundreds of messages, I'm here to meet men, not chat to them forever. I usually prefer to meet within a day or two of first contact if there's mutual attraction. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Does anyone on actually meet after just a few messages, I have had several messages in the last few days from single guys and couples that want to meet right away, does that really happen? "
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Not for me.... long ago I met someone (not from Fab) just once within the same day as we started chatting. The sex was good, but it the most empty and unsatisfying experience of my life, and I was back online pretty much right away afterwards looking for something more stimulating and pleasurable. It served its purpose though in that I now know for sure that I need a rapport and mental connection with someone to have really great sex  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sometime you just get a good gut feeling about someone after a few messages.
Sometimes it takes longer
Everyone different in the types of messages they sendand the way one responds to.
It’s all about connection |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I was starting to think I wasn’t cut out for this place as I havnt got it in me to meet up and have sex with a total stranger. I’ve always got to know girls for a while first before anything sexual happens. After reading the posts tho it seems it’s more the norm than not so perhaps I am in the right place after all. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Does anyone on actually meet after just a few messages, I have had several messages in the last few days from single guys and couples that want to meet right away, does that really happen? "
I've met after a few messages and they've pretty much been great meets as well (aside from 1 or 2)
I work nights and shifts so can't always plan in advance |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
Given my circumstances and limited time to meet I generally prefer to spend time messaging and building a connection and chemistry with people before suggesting meeting.
That said I've now had two very enjoyable meets that arose out of a relatively limited number of messages exchanged with a couple, so it can work either way  |
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As a single male meeting couples, it was possible to meet after minimal messages if at their invitation. Possibly one messsge for the invitation, one reply back to accept, then one more where to meet and off we go . . .
Trying to meet single females, I always felt the need to take it at a more ‘respectful’ pace.
As a couple (now of some years together) meeting other couples we both want to be sure the dynamic is exactly right for us, so prefer a rapport to build and confirm this with a ‘social’ meeting first. |
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By *olarfoxMan
over a year ago
North Cambs |
I've had quite a few 'spur of the moment' type meets - minimal messaging - they have generally been fantastic and provide a totally different kind of excitement to the building anticipation of a planned meet. |
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By *olarfoxMan
over a year ago
North Cambs |
"I’ve spent weeks chatting to people only for them to disappear in a puff of smoke (user no longer on site) so the benefits of an early meet are not wasting people’s time. "
There is definitely a lot of truth in the old adage 'all talk and no trousers' on this site...if chat goes on for too long (and it becomes easier with experience to determine what constitutes 'too long'), then the likelihood is that you are chatting to a fantasist...I just bin these kinds of connections early on these days.... |
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I've started chatting to someone in the morning and met them that night but we had been talking all day though, after just a few messages nah can't see anyone being that good to make me want to meet straight away. |
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The simplest meet I ever had went like this. A lady messaged me out of the blue on the Sunday evening. Half a dozen messages later we agreed to meet next day. We shared a couple of messages during the Monday and met as planned on the Monday night. Simples! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I once met a guy who said you can tell if someone is up for meeting or not in the first 4 messages.
Turns out he was right. Generally you can tell. I love to thrill of finding out things in person rather than endless typing on a screen.
That said, I have some good friends to I talk a lot in messages and still yet to meet in person. |
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"Due to the nature of my job and geographic location it can be a few messages and some times months till I’m there again,, horses for courses don’t ya know,,,, "
Bit like me to be fair. I could be anywhere in the country one day to the next. But could be back in area at anytime. |
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Just a couple of messages and then a club meet for me
That said I will have usually met them before at a club or a social.When I first came in here I wasted too much precious time on exchanging messages that went nowhere
I’ve never understood how people can build a connection without actually meeting first |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Its never happened with me but im sure it happens.
My conversations to and fro for days, evwn weeks before i meet. I hate comming across as forceful or disrespectful so i often ask to meet for a social and see how it goes from there.
Everyone is different... |
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"Does anyone on actually meet after just a few messages, I have had several messages in the last few days from single guys and couples that want to meet right away, does that really happen? "
Not with me it doesn't.
I need to chat a good long time before I'd consider meeting someone. |
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"Its never happened with me but im sure it happens.
My conversations to and fro for days, evwn weeks before i meet. I hate comming across as forceful or disrespectful so i often ask to meet for a social and see how it goes from there.
Everyone is different... "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If guys are meeting with other guys there would often only be 4 or 5 messages exchanged before meeting.
I think it depends on a few things really, if both people can meet there and then, it's more likely.
Generally speaking I think women are less likely to do this and want to get to know someone over a week or two perhaps, again this is generally speaking, there are always the exceptions to the rules.
What gets me is the blank profile, first message saying "wanna fuk" you reply by saying, yeah maybe, can you give me a description and let me know a bit more, also what you are up for.
Their second message goes along the lines of:
I am not answering all those questions, you either want to meet or not!
It surprises me just how many times this is encountered.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not for me.... long ago I met someone (not from Fab) just once within the same day as we started chatting. The sex was good, but it the most empty and unsatisfying experience of my life, and I was back online pretty much right away afterwards looking for something more stimulating and pleasurable. It served its purpose though in that I now know for sure that I need a rapport and mental connection with someone to have really great sex "
Spot on! |
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In my experience the more messages exchanged the less likely it is we will meet.
There have been exceptions of course, but generally email ping pong tends to fizzle out unless they really pique my interest.
I'm here for meets, not a pen friend
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By *olarfoxMan
over a year ago
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"Its never happened with me but im sure it happens.
My conversations to and fro for days, evwn weeks before i meet. I hate comming across as forceful or disrespectful so i often ask to meet for a social and see how it goes from there.
Everyone is different... "
To be honest mate, whenever I've had this kind of meet, it is nearly always a couple who get in touch and say something like 'are you free this evening'...so certainly not a question of your needing to be 'forceful or disrespectful'  |
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"Does anyone on actually meet after just a few messages, I have had several messages in the last few days from single guys and couples that want to meet right away, does that really happen? "
We’ve had over a hundred meets in just over a year , and every one of them has come after just one or two messages .
Why anyone feels the need to message more than this is beyond me .
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
"Does anyone on actually meet after just a few messages, I have had several messages in the last few days from single guys and couples that want to meet right away, does that really happen?
We’ve had over a hundred meets in just over a year , and every one of them has come after just one or two messages .
Why anyone feels the need to message more than this is beyond me .
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Because everyone is different and has different circumstances is why
If what you do works best for you, then great - just the same as taking time to get to know people is what works best for me |
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"In my experience the more messages exchanged the less likely it is we will meet.
There have been exceptions of course, but generally email ping pong tends to fizzle out unless they really pique my interest.
I'm here for meets, not a pen friend
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This is exactly how we feel too .
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Does anyone on actually meet after just a few messages, I have had several messages in the last few days from single guys and couples that want to meet right away, does that really happen? "
Yes it definitely happens have met with couples and singles on here after only two or three messages.In my experience,the longer the message ping-pong goes on the less likely a meet will occur.As somebody else has said,I'm not looking for an online penpal.Prefer to arrange a time and a place,meet up (with no expectations of play) to see if we're compatible,then take it from there.Not into endless messaging,plus it's much easier to see if we click by meeting in person than by messaging |
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"Not for me.... long ago I met someone (not from Fab) just once within the same day as we started chatting. The sex was good, but it the most empty and unsatisfying experience of my life, and I was back online pretty much right away afterwards looking for something more stimulating and pleasurable. It served its purpose though in that I now know for sure that I need a rapport and mental connection with someone to have really great sex "
I had a similar experience with a couple who contacted me for a ‘meet now?’ She was a really sexy, gorgeous young woman, but she’d had too much to drink, didn’t do kissing, didn’t do bj, it was just get your cock in her, do it while hubby watched, then leave. I felt used afterward, and empty in more ways than the obvious, so that was the last time I agreed to a last minute meet |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Majority of our meets have been literally after a few msgs (we've been on here on and off for the last 4 yrs), we don't like planning in advance as so many people muck around and either disappear off the site or they don't turn up and block you 
Basically we prefer a msg saying hi, face pics, what were all wanting to do and address...done and dusted then meet and fuck
The end of day if I wanted a deep and meaningful chat I'd speak to my hubby and if I wanted to speak to people about the weather and my plans for the day I'd go on facebook 
That being said if we've met someone fucked and got on with them and they're on the same level as us and can have a laugh with each other then we'll stay in touch on here or kik with the option of probably meeting again |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I can't speak for others but for me it would take some planning to meet. Obviously with being married and kids it's wouldn't be easy. I did meet one guy last minute here. I happened to be out and about shopping and he was too. I was sat fir a coffee and looking at fab. Agreed to meet for a quick coffee. |
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"Does anyone on actually meet after just a few messages, I have had several messages in the last few days from single guys and couples that want to meet right away, does that really happen? "
I met a guy just 10 min after couple of messages, he was in rush to swallow cum.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Chatting for to long can fizzle out
Méet for a drink and chat works "
Totally agree. Most meets are best after a few messages, if you get on and want a reg then a few days or a week max before at least confirming you want to meet. Folks should just be upfront if they just want to chat endlessly. I guess some want the thrill of the chase but its not a dating site afterall |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Does anyone on actually meet after just a few messages, I have had several messages in the last few days from single guys and couples that want to meet right away, does that really happen? "
Done this lots if times! |
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"Does anyone on actually meet after just a few messages, I have had several messages in the last few days from single guys and couples that want to meet right away, does that really happen?
Done this lots if times!"
Yep...I messaged a girl on here once, just said Hi. She messaged back asking if we should meet? I agreed, we met, fucked, got engaged, got married, then fell out and got divorced, argued over the take that CDs.. Etc etc... But remember, you don't have to do everything in life instantly. Paying your TV licence is really easy by monthly direct debit. Hope this helps... |
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