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Yet another couple who hate the dreaded wink!! Get over yourselves will ya!! Just cos a person winks does that mean they aint read ya profile. Take it as what its meant, a compliment, a sign of interest!! Oh yeh winking back and blocking sum1 - so very mature! |
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over a year ago
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"Yet another couple who hate the dreaded wink!! Get over yourselves will ya!! Just cos a person winks does that mean they aint read ya profile. Take it as what its meant, a compliment, a sign of interest!! Oh yeh winking back and blocking sum1 - so very mature!"
You are so right.....a wink shows that the sender has interest alright....in themselves! They need to expend no effort or creativity in messaging someone to create a favorable impression. They simply expect all the work to be done by the recipient to save them the trouble. That is why we find them rude and arrogant. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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if i like them i'll wink back to see if it prompts them to going the whole hog and actually message me with something interesting!
but if they're really nice, i'll respond with a message... after all they may just be a bit shy and need a little friendly nudge to break the ice...
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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago
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Getting winks doesn't bother us at all....we just forget to check them that often. So do prefer people to email us if interested.
Now random friends invites from those we have never chatted with, they bug us!
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"if it is clear they've not read your profile then just wink them back THEN block them !
Especially if they have email notifications set up that'll confuse them  "
Could you really be arsed? 
Just ignore and delete. |
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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago
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"'Unwarranted' winks.
God forbid anyone actually smiled at another human being in the street."
lol
I will smile at most people when walking out and about....always amazed at how many look at you as if your mad or just scowl. |
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"'Unwarranted' winks.
God forbid anyone actually smiled at another human being in the street.
lol
I will smile at most people when walking out and about....always amazed at how many look at you as if your mad or just scowl."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"'Unwarranted' winks.
God forbid anyone actually smiled at another human being in the street."
What an excellent point….!. nowt wrong with a bit of random smiling 
I’m from the school of thought, which believes you can always tell a genuine smile from a fake, by the person’s eyes who’s giving it….!.  |
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I take it a step further.
I SPEAK to people in the Supermarket.
I've nearly been punched a couple of times.
(Though, in fairness, asking her what she was doing with Loserboy when she could be sliding joyfully on my lovepole MAY have been a little forward) |
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"I take it a step further.
I SPEAK to people in the Supermarket.
I've nearly been punched a couple of times.
(Though, in fairness, asking her what she was doing with Loserboy when she could be sliding joyfully on my lovepole MAY have been a little forward)"
Yeah but did you introduce yourself first with a crafty wink   |
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"I take it a step further.
I SPEAK to people in the Supermarket.
I've nearly been punched a couple of times.
(Though, in fairness, asking her what she was doing with Loserboy when she could be sliding joyfully on my lovepole MAY have been a little forward)
Yeah but did you introduce yourself first with a crafty wink "
No. I asked if she was straight, or just saying it to get meets. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"doesnt bother me,if i like the person i wink back if i dont i delete,no big deal"
exactly, I can never understand why folks get so worked up and stressed over a wink, what's it there for if not to, erm, well .... wink  |
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over a year ago
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"if it is clear they've not read your profile then just wink them back THEN block them !
Especially if they have email notifications set up that'll confuse them "
he he he, gotta laugh, they wink cos they fancy ya's, so it's warranted. |
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over a year ago
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ok reasons for winking on my part -
you take the time and think about the person the profile etc etc type a well worded and well thought out message , you attach any relevant pictures etc etc and then its straight into the delete box , so for me saves time and effort , its my way of saying im interested . if i get one ill look read the profile and send a message if its sometone im interested in . |
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"ok reasons for winking on my part -
you take the time and think about the person the profile etc etc type a well worded and well thought out message , you attach any relevant pictures etc etc and then its straight into the delete box , so for me saves time and effort , its my way of saying im interested . if i get one ill look read the profile and send a message if its sometone im interested in ."
aye, I do the same when I am feeling a bit lazy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i just think its sad...its only an introduction, wink back if u like and maybe getta chat...FFS... fucking always something to complain at, such a small gesture such a small issue...does my tits in... then maybe complain at a lack of meets etc etc...all for a simple block any wink that comes by ya...
sorry OP, I do mean it in general to all non-winkable sorts..is it THAT fuckin bad??? |
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"Yet another couple who hate the dreaded wink!! Get over yourselves will ya!! Just cos a person winks does that mean they aint read ya profile. Take it as what its meant, a compliment, a sign of interest!! Oh yeh winking back and blocking sum1 - so very mature!
You are so right.....a wink shows that the sender has interest alright....in themselves! They need to expend no effort or creativity in messaging someone to create a favorable impression. They simply expect all the work to be done by the recipient to save them the trouble. That is why we find them rude and arrogant."
rude and arrogant to wink back then start dialogue??-yeahhh...can see ur point, sakes lol |
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By *obletonMan
over a year ago
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I'm looking forward to getting a shag out of this thread at some point.
last time someone whinged about winks in the forums, I winked one of the posters, she winked back, messages ensued, followed by a rather spectacular meet.
so if there are any tall, slim yet curvy redheaded brewery heiresses reading this thread and wondering whether to post or not, dont bother - just skip to sending me a message.
but don't forget to attach a pic .......... of the brewery |
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"I'm looking forward to getting a shag out of this thread at some point.
last time someone whinged about winks in the forums, I winked one of the posters, she winked back, messages ensued, followed by a rather spectacular meet.
so if there are any tall, slim yet curvy redheaded brewery heiresses reading this thread and wondering whether to post or not, dont bother - just skip to sending me a message.
but don't forget to attach a pic .......... of the brewery"
Quo erat demonstrandum..
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What's a WARRENTED wink then? Is there ever such a thing?"
See anyone yer wana get fruity with ?
Think they warrant a wink ?
Send a fucker %*
Its not summat I would ever do. not my style, but can`t fer the life of me see the harm, or understand the angst at getting one..
On a sex site and people wink at yer..( sigh )..Broken Britain.. |
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"if i like them i'll wink back to see if it prompts them to going the whole hog and actually message me with something interesting!
but if they're really nice, i'll respond with a message... after all they may just be a bit shy and need a little friendly nudge to break the ice...
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this is way we wink |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Wink at you? How very dare they. Lol.
I know! Members of a swinger site using the facilities provided for them to contact like minded people? The nerve!!"
Brilliant.
No offence OP but the person sending the wink meant no harm and wanted to get to know you better. No need to get worked up. Just move on. |
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"Yet another couple who hate the dreaded wink!! Get over yourselves will ya!! Just cos a person winks does that mean they aint read ya profile. Take it as what its meant, a compliment, a sign of interest!! Oh yeh winking back and blocking sum1 - so very mature!
You are so right.....a wink shows that the sender has interest alright....in themselves! They need to expend no effort or creativity in messaging someone to create a favorable impression. They simply expect all the work to be done by the recipient to save them the trouble. That is why we find them rude and arrogant.
rude and arrogant to wink back then start dialogue??-yeahhh...can see ur point, sakes lol"
Glad I wasn't the only one confused... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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profile:"we get so many messages we cant deal with them all"
wink:"look at me, I think ur nice"
profile:"I've time to look at a profile,I'm a perv after all.."
profile,"well I will wink back"
wink:"Oh that's nice they winked at me back, doesn't really mean too much does it, but I CAN say hya and see what happens"
after that the profile and the wink lived happily ever after sucking cock and licking fannys....until the next wink came.............. |
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"i just think its sad...its only an introduction, wink back if u like and maybe getta chat...FFS... fucking always something to complain at, such a small gesture such a small issue...does my tits in... then maybe complain at a lack of meets etc etc...all for a simple block any wink that comes by ya...
sorry OP, I do mean it in general to all non-winkable sorts..is it THAT fuckin bad???"
Absolutely right!
This topic comes up soooooo many times, but I can never understand why some people see it as 'rude' and 'arrogant'???? It's there to expresss interest and to make first contact. If you like what you se then you can wink back and illicit a proper message or response?
Surely it's more rude and arrogant to expect everyone who's interested in you to write the equivalent of War and Peace only to have their messages ignored, or worst still deleted?
The most irritating thing about all of this is it usually comes from people who complain about getting too many messages, and not having time to respond to them all.
Dumb! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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can i offer an alternative solution ?
look at the profile of who's winked
if you like the look, message them
if you don't like the look, ignore the wink
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By (user no longer on site)
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You are so right.....a wink shows that the sender has interest alright....in themselves! They need to expend no effort or creativity in messaging someone to create a favorable impression. They simply expect all the work to be done by the recipient to save them the trouble. That is why we find them rude and arrogant."
It's amazing how one post can tell you so much about the poster, that's one of the reasons these forums are so interesting. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Winks are fun
we like to checkout the profiles and sometimes wink back
but is that our mistake having fun on the site Have we been in the wrong frame of mind all these months
i will try harder to be indignant that people like us
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we send a wink as a way of saying thanks for looking,,dont expec a reply back,,it just ,mkes us feel bettr,,they took the time to look at us so east we can do is gie a wink back,,regardless of if we ever meet them |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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exactly what impact is there from receiving a wink from someone, in what way does it cause upset or grief.
someone has read your profile and likes it and sends a virtual thumbs up.. a compliment.
they don't send a message asking to meet? because maybe, they have read the profile and realise they don't meet your preferences.
now I appreciate some may receive the wink and then link that to possible meet, check out the senders profile and be disappointed. I kinda get the 100 of messages a day issue and having to look thro the nonsense ones to find a possible golden nugget.
But 'winks'......
people who get wound up over every little thing on here are often needy, desperate for meets and may have their priorities all wrong.
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"exactly what impact is there from receiving a wink from someone, in what way does it cause upset or grief.
someone has read your profile and likes it and sends a virtual thumbs up.. a compliment.
they don't send a message asking to meet? because maybe, they have read the profile and realise they don't meet your preferences.
now I appreciate some may receive the wink and then link that to possible meet, check out the senders profile and be disappointed. I kinda get the 100 of messages a day issue and having to look thro the nonsense ones to find a possible golden nugget.
But 'winks'......
people who get wound up over every little thing on here are often needy, desperate for meets and may have their priorities all wrong.
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Thanks View. |
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"if it is clear they've not read your profile then just wink them back THEN block them !
Especially if they have email notifications set up that'll confuse them
The fact that the site endevours to...................................
Oh feck it!!! Can`t be arsed to carry on. "
Lubricate the erstwhile wanton and libidinous members licentious longings..?
Mayhaps..its introduce people to each other
Tho some might say....its to play games...
I couldn`t possibly comment |
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"exactly what impact is there from receiving a wink from someone, in what way does it cause upset or grief.
someone has read your profile and likes it and sends a virtual thumbs up.. a compliment.
they don't send a message asking to meet? because maybe, they have read the profile and realise they don't meet your preferences.
now I appreciate some may receive the wink and then link that to possible meet, check out the senders profile and be disappointed. I kinda get the 100 of messages a day issue and having to look thro the nonsense ones to find a possible golden nugget.
But 'winks'......
people who get wound up over every little thing on here are often needy, desperate for meets and may have their priorities all wrong.
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Couldn't agree more View...winks are not exactly life threatening are they? |
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"exactly what impact is there from receiving a wink from someone, in what way does it cause upset or grief.
someone has read your profile and likes it and sends a virtual thumbs up.. a compliment.
they don't send a message asking to meet? because maybe, they have read the profile and realise they don't meet your preferences.
now I appreciate some may receive the wink and then link that to possible meet, check out the senders profile and be disappointed. I kinda get the 100 of messages a day issue and having to look thro the nonsense ones to find a possible golden nugget.
But 'winks'......
people who get wound up over every little thing on here are often needy, desperate for meets and may have their priorities all wrong.
Couldn't agree more View...winks are not exactly life threatening are they?"
speak for urself jane..i just took a stressed out cardiac arrest cos someone winked at me,,, I was so furious my blood boiled...and I was happy sitting wanking just before the wink,then all the blood left my cock via anger into my brain....that just set me off.
no winks please anymore...just relaxing fanny shot mail pics please |
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"exactly what impact is there from receiving a wink from someone, in what way does it cause upset or grief.
someone has read your profile and likes it and sends a virtual thumbs up.. a compliment.
they don't send a message asking to meet? because maybe, they have read the profile and realise they don't meet your preferences.
now I appreciate some may receive the wink and then link that to possible meet, check out the senders profile and be disappointed. I kinda get the 100 of messages a day issue and having to look thro the nonsense ones to find a possible golden nugget.
But 'winks'......
people who get wound up over every little thing on here are often needy, desperate for meets and may have their priorities all wrong.
Couldn't agree more View...winks are not exactly life threatening are they?
speak for urself jane..i just took a stressed out cardiac arrest cos someone winked at me,,, I was so furious my blood boiled...and I was happy sitting wanking just before the wink,then all the blood left my cock via anger into my brain....that just set me off.
no winks please anymore...just relaxing fanny shot mail pics please"
Love this post.... |
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"Yet another couple who hate the dreaded wink!! Get over yourselves will ya!! Just cos a person winks does that mean they aint read ya profile. Take it as what its meant, a compliment, a sign of interest!! Oh yeh winking back and blocking sum1 - so very mature!
You are so right.....a wink shows that the sender has interest alright....in themselves! They need to expend no effort or creativity in messaging
someone to create a favorable impression. They simply expect all the work to be done by the recipient to save them the trouble. That is why
we find them rude and arrogant."
So someone winks at you in the street and by your reaction comments I bet you give them a right mouthful or at the very least a smack in the mush!
Do you not remember the occasions of catching someone's eye and giving them a wink?
Of course you're entitled to your op but really...
If the site thinks there a good idea maybe you should pull your neck in a little and just _iew it as a compliment. A little like a whistle or do you not like those either |
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"exactly what impact is there from receiving a wink from someone, in what way does it cause upset or grief.
someone has read your profile and likes it and sends a virtual thumbs up.. a compliment.
they don't send a message asking to meet? because maybe, they have read the profile and realise they don't meet your preferences.
now I appreciate some may receive the wink and then link that to possible meet, check out the senders profile and be disappointed. I kinda get the 100 of messages a day issue and having to look thro the nonsense ones to find a possible golden nugget.
But 'winks'......
people who get wound up over every little thing on here are often needy, desperate for meets and may have their priorities all wrong.
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Well said. |
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I use a telepathic swinging site, which has been very productive. Admittedly, I have had a few mental slaps, but my thoughts tend to wander.
Love some of the replies in this thread, "do not wink at me, my pussy is made of gold and you have to EARN the right to stroke it by writing a soliloquy, with ten reasons why I would deign to talk to you"
I will be hiring out my ladder, to help anyone that needs to get over themselves...... |
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I will be hiring out my ladder, to help anyone that needs to get over themselves...... "
Just curious if you lend it out to people that dig themselves big holes and may not be able to get out again????
Cali |
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I will be hiring out my ladder, to help anyone that needs to get over themselves......
Just curious if you lend it out to people that dig themselves big holes and may not be able to get out again????
Cali "
Aye it is a dual use ladder, but the charge varies depending on the use |
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Aye it is a dual use ladder, but the charge varies depending on the use "
okay I had best put you on speed dial then lol never know when I will need it.. lol
on the OP, I just look at profiles that wink me.. if they interest me I may wink back or send a message.. if they dont I ignore it.
no biggy really.
Cali x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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It's a swingers site, the whole point of which is for people to make contact, if you don't want contact its best to hide your profile.
We actually prefer winks to messages, if your attracted you wink back leading to a message.
With a message, if your not attracted it means sending a "thanks but no thanks" message, which is often awkward.
We wonder how the folk who complain about these little things would feel if they got no contact at all!
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okay I had best put you on speed dial then lol never know when I will need it.. lol
Cali x"
Now I am honoured, the only other person to have me on speed dial is my pharmacist......
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