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By *aeBabe OP Woman
over a year ago
London |
To the single men out there that don't read profiles and message a woman that isn't into last minute meets, to meet last minute. Don't get angry and abusive when she declines, you do yourself no favours and frankly if you had probably asked nicely to plan a meet, it could have gone better.
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By *aeBabe OP Woman
over a year ago
London |
But this is in general to some men who find it hard to deal with rejection. If you message a woman or couple and they decline and point out you haven't read their profile, I think the best thing to do is accept and move on, not send an abusive message their way because you didn't bother reading their profile and they didn't reply favourably  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If someone asks for a last minute meet, I ignore. I don't engage with someone who thinks i'd fuck them, before I've even chatted to them. They can't get abusive if you don't reply  |
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By *aeBabe OP Woman
over a year ago
London |
"If someone asks for a last minute meet, I ignore. I don't engage with someone who thinks i'd fuck them, before I've even chatted to them. They can't get abusive if you don't reply "
Yes and I think this was my mistake 
I usually have single guys blocked and just unblocked today. Now I remember why  |
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By *FFB69Woman
over a year ago
Torfaen/Gwent |
"If someone asks for a last minute meet, I ignore. I don't engage with someone who thinks i'd fuck them, before I've even chatted to them. They can't get abusive if you don't reply "
Actually they can and do. Often it goes from “you’re hot wanna fuck” to “well you’re ugly and a *insert name here* I don’t wanna fuck You anyway” without replying. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If someone asks for a last minute meet, I ignore. I don't engage with someone who thinks i'd fuck them, before I've even chatted to them. They can't get abusive if you don't reply
Yes and I think this was my mistake
I usually have single guys blocked and just unblocked today. Now I remember why "
Hahaha how sweet that he made a you remember so fast . Did you thank him before blocking? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If someone asks for a last minute meet, I ignore. I don't engage with someone who thinks i'd fuck them, before I've even chatted to them. They can't get abusive if you don't reply
Actually they can and do. Often it goes from “you’re hot wanna fuck” to “well you’re ugly and a *insert name here* I don’t wanna fuck You anyway” without replying. "
But if you don't read the second message, you are not aware of the abuse. Let them jog on |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"To the single men out there that don't read profiles and message a woman that isn't into last minute meets, to meet last minute. Don't get angry and abusive when she declines, you do yourself no favours and frankly if you had probably asked nicely to plan a meet, it could have gone better.
#JustSaying "
The same can be said for everybody. I’ve had abusive messages from women and couples when I have politely declined. A lot of couples think they just need to click their fingers and ya men will go running, they don’t like it when you turn them down. It’s not just single men that can be arseholes, it just so happens there are more of us so stand out more. |
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By *aeBabe OP Woman
over a year ago
London |
"If someone asks for a last minute meet, I ignore. I don't engage with someone who thinks i'd fuck them, before I've even chatted to them. They can't get abusive if you don't reply
Actually they can and do. Often it goes from “you’re hot wanna fuck” to “well you’re ugly and a *insert name here* I don’t wanna fuck You anyway” without replying. "
Owww that old noodle haha...
Something a bit bipolar in that |
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By *aeBabe OP Woman
over a year ago
London |
"To the single men out there that don't read profiles and message a woman that isn't into last minute meets, to meet last minute. Don't get angry and abusive when she declines, you do yourself no favours and frankly if you had probably asked nicely to plan a meet, it could have gone better.
#JustSaying
The same can be said for everybody. I’ve had abusive messages from women and couples when I have politely declined. A lot of couples think they just need to click their fingers and ya men will go running, they don’t like it when you turn them down. It’s not just single men that can be arseholes, it just so happens there are more of us so stand out more."
Yup true and those are the ones, I as a single female, get the abuse from |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"To the single men out there that don't read profiles and message a woman that isn't into last minute meets, to meet last minute. Don't get angry and abusive when she declines, you do yourself no favours and frankly if you had probably asked nicely to plan a meet, it could have gone better.
#JustSaying
The same can be said for everybody. I’ve had abusive messages from women and couples when I have politely declined. A lot of couples think they just need to click their fingers and ya men will go running, they don’t like it when you turn them down. It’s not just single men that can be arseholes, it just so happens there are more of us so stand out more."
Ahh but that means the good guys stand out more too. The aresholes do the good ones a huge favour. You are right btw.... Not everyone who's a dick, has a dick |
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By *aeBabe OP Woman
over a year ago
London |
"If someone asks for a last minute meet, I ignore. I don't engage with someone who thinks i'd fuck them, before I've even chatted to them. They can't get abusive if you don't reply
Yes and I think this was my mistake
I usually have single guys blocked and just unblocked today. Now I remember why
Hahaha how sweet that he made a you remember so fast . Did you thank him before blocking? "
Just sent him on his merry way and blocked. According to his profile, if he messages you, you should reply or risk of getting blocked
Saved him the trouble  |
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By *aeBabe OP Woman
over a year ago
London |
"To the single men out there that don't read profiles and message a woman that isn't into last minute meets, to meet last minute. Don't get angry and abusive when she declines, you do yourself no favours and frankly if you had probably asked nicely to plan a meet, it could have gone better.
#JustSaying
The same can be said for everybody. I’ve had abusive messages from women and couples when I have politely declined. A lot of couples think they just need to click their fingers and ya men will go running, they don’t like it when you turn them down. It’s not just single men that can be arseholes, it just so happens there are more of us so stand out more.
Ahh but that means the good guys stand out more too. The aresholes do the good ones a huge favour. You are right btw.... Not everyone who's a dick, has a dick "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"And this is what I don't like. It gives single guys a bad reputation, and inadvertently the lasses carry that to the next guy prejudging him. "
Hopefully a lot realise that not all men are like that |
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By *os19Man
over a year ago
Edmonton |
"If someone asks for a last minute meet, I ignore. I don't engage with someone who thinks i'd fuck them, before I've even chatted to them. They can't get abusive if you don't reply
Yes and I think this was my mistake
I usually have single guys blocked and just unblocked today. Now I remember why
Hahaha how sweet that he made a you remember so fast . Did you thank him before blocking?
Just sent him on his merry way and blocked. According to his profile, if he messages you, you should reply or risk of getting blocked
Saved him the trouble "
. So according to his profile if he messages you and you don't reply he blocks you what a arsehole.Good luck with your event in April by the way |
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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago
Slough Windsor ish |
"And this is what I don't like. It gives single guys a bad reputation, and inadvertently the lasses carry that to the next guy prejudging him. "
Id like to hope most people 'judge' on individual merit rather than tarring all with the same brush |
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By *aeBabe OP Woman
over a year ago
London |
"If someone asks for a last minute meet, I ignore. I don't engage with someone who thinks i'd fuck them, before I've even chatted to them. They can't get abusive if you don't reply
Yes and I think this was my mistake
I usually have single guys blocked and just unblocked today. Now I remember why
Hahaha how sweet that he made a you remember so fast . Did you thank him before blocking?
Just sent him on his merry way and blocked. According to his profile, if he messages you, you should reply or risk of getting blocked
Saved him the trouble . So according to his profile if he messages you and you don't reply he blocks you what a arsehole.Good luck with your event in April by the way"
I don't mind if he blokes me or any other woman that doesn't reply to his messages, that's totally fine, just the way he worded it had a negative vibe.
Thank you! |
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By *aeBabe OP Woman
over a year ago
London |
"And this is what I don't like. It gives single guys a bad reputation, and inadvertently the lasses carry that to the next guy prejudging him.
Id like to hope most people 'judge' on individual merit rather than tarring all with the same brush"
Yes, I'd like to think that too. Decent guys do stand out. You can usually see this through the way they have written their profiles |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"And this is what I don't like. It gives single guys a bad reputation, and inadvertently the lasses carry that to the next guy prejudging him.
Hopefully a lot realise that not all men are like that "
Hopefully that's true, in the short time I've been here I've accrued some rejections, to each one I have replied politely, thanking them for taking the time to respond to my message and moved on. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"To the single men out there that don't read profiles and message a woman that isn't into last minute meets, to meet last minute. Don't get angry and abusive when she declines, you do yourself no favours and frankly if you had probably asked nicely to plan a meet, it could have gone better.
#JustSaying "
Works both ways but not every fella will run to the forum page to post a generic rant in order to get profile views.
#Justsaying. |
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By *aeBabe OP Woman
over a year ago
London |
"To the single men out there that don't read profiles and message a woman that isn't into last minute meets, to meet last minute. Don't get angry and abusive when she declines, you do yourself no favours and frankly if you had probably asked nicely to plan a meet, it could have gone better.
#JustSaying
Works both ways but not every fella will run to the forum page to post a generic rant in order to get profile views.
#Justsaying. "
Cool assumption |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"To the single men out there that don't read profiles and message a woman that isn't into last minute meets, to meet last minute. Don't get angry and abusive when she declines, you do yourself no favours and frankly if you had probably asked nicely to plan a meet, it could have gone better.
#JustSaying "
Those types won't see this. They don't read forums, they just trawl the site desperate for a fuck.
Remember they are terribly sexually frustrated. Report abuse. Be thankful you didn't meet him.
How did you turn him down? What did you say? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We've been lucky we've had no abusive messages yet, and certainly not sent any if a couple has said no. Funny not had any single guys saying weren't their type,do single guys say no? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"To the single men out there that don't read profiles and message a woman that isn't into last minute meets, to meet last minute. Don't get angry and abusive when she declines, you do yourself no favours and frankly if you had probably asked nicely to plan a meet, it could have gone better.
#JustSaying "
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"There is a great deal of misunderstanding around this topic on both sides"
With respect, sounding off abusively isn't a misunderstanding, at best it is rude, but generally its vile and has no place here. Whatever the gender, if you get rejected, take it on the chin and move on. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"To the single men out there that don't read profiles and message a woman that isn't into last minute meets, to meet last minute. Don't get angry and abusive when she declines, you do yourself no favours and frankly if you had probably asked nicely to plan a meet, it could have gone better.
#JustSaying
Works both ways but not every fella will run to the forum page to post a generic rant in order to get profile views.
#Justsaying.
Cool assumption "
Well if they don't read your profile they are hardly likely to read your forum post. Why not just use your filters like most women do on here and block by age and gender. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We've been lucky we've had no abusive messages yet, and certainly not sent any if a couple has said no. Funny not had any single guys saying weren't their type,do single guys say no? "
Yes, this one certainly does. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There is a great deal of misunderstanding around this topic on both sides
With respect, sounding off abusively isn't a misunderstanding, at best it is rude, but generally its vile and has no place here. Whatever the gender, if you get rejected, take it on the chin and move on."
With further respect we have only one sides account of the situation. I agree with your position but single females on this site behave in ways they would never behave in the real world. Genuine abuse is never right, but it's hardly surprising that some of them get called out and don't like it very much. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"To the single men out there that don't read profiles and message a woman that isn't into last minute meets, to meet last minute. Don't get angry and abusive when she declines, you do yourself no favours and frankly if you had probably asked nicely to plan a meet, it could have gone better.
#JustSaying
Works both ways but not every fella will run to the forum page to post a generic rant in order to get profile views.
#Justsaying.
Cool assumption
Well if they don't read your profile they are hardly likely to read your forum post. Why not just use your filters like most women do on here and block by age and gender. "
Alas the OP has blocked me for posting my opinions on her post.
Make your own minds up everyone. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"But this is in general to some men who find it hard to deal with rejection. If you message a woman or couple and they decline and point out you haven't read their profile, I think the best thing to do is accept and move on, not send an abusive message their way because you didn't bother reading their profile and they didn't reply favourably "
I've found some women an couples are much the same. Don't think it's just single men as you seem to imply. Some of the abuse I've had over the couple years has put me off couples completely, and I rarely would meet a forumite female now too as many have a lot of angst generated from the forums. To much baggage and most of the conversation at a social or at a coffee meet is about all forum the crap going on. Just found those not involved much on forums have more natural conversation. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"But this is in general to some men who find it hard to deal with rejection. If you message a woman or couple and they decline and point out you haven't read their profile, I think the best thing to do is accept and move on, not send an abusive message their way because you didn't bother reading their profile and they didn't reply favourably
I've found some women an couples are much the same. Don't think it's just single men as you seem to imply. Some of the abuse I've had over the couple years has put me off couples completely, and I rarely would meet a forumite female now too as many have a lot of angst generated from the forums. To much baggage and most of the conversation at a social or at a coffee meet is about all forum the crap going on. Just found those not involved much on forums have more natural conversation."
This, if you think men are aggressive when rejected you've seen NOTHING like what happens when a woman is told she doesn't make the grade. Doesn't happen very often on here but when it does, back away slowly and pray she doesn't know who you are.
I couldn't count the number of times I've been physically assaulted or groped in response to rejection. Slightly skewed statistically since I had a job for a number of years that put me in an environment around thousands of d*unk women, but the fact remains a large portion of women get nasty when rejected. It just happens less often that a man rejects a woman (so they haven't learned to deal with it gracefully) and because of the women are wonderful effect we are happy to excuse it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think there's a group of men on here that ruin it for the guys who genuinely want to swing and actually meet people instead of just getting somebody round for an hour to "relieve some stress" and then it becomes harder for us guys as women become sceptical! And it's all over the country I find as I travel a lot |
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By *aeBabe OP Woman
over a year ago
London |
I do find it strange that some people here are on the assumption that I think that all men are like this and that it is a situation limited to the male species.
I have indicated that I know that some women and and couples do that too, but as a single woman it is mostly from men that I get the abuse from.
Also to the poster indicating I did this get more profile views - blocking you is one less person to view my profile.
I think any volatile reaction to rejection whether male, female or a couple is more of a problem with that person reacting, not the person rejecting. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There is a great deal of misunderstanding around this topic on both sides
With respect, sounding off abusively isn't a misunderstanding, at best it is rude, but generally its vile and has no place here. Whatever the gender, if you get rejected, take it on the chin and move on.
With further respect we have only one sides account of the situation. I agree with your position but single females on this site behave in ways they would never behave in the real world. Genuine abuse is never right, but it's hardly surprising that some of them get called out and don't like it very much. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I do find it strange that some people here are on the assumption that I think that all men are like this and that it is a situation limited to the male species.
I have indicated that I know that some women and and couples do that too, but as a single woman it is mostly from men that I get the abuse from.
Also to the poster indicating I did this get more profile views - blocking you is one less person to view my profile.
I think any volatile reaction to rejection whether male, female or a couple is more of a problem with that person reacting, not the person rejecting."
But blocking someone for disagreeing with your point of view on an open forum says more about you than me. |
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By *ANDA2Couple
over a year ago
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"If someone asks for a last minute meet, I ignore. I don't engage with someone who thinks i'd fuck them, before I've even chatted to them. They can't get abusive if you don't reply
Actually they can and do. Often it goes from “you’re hot wanna fuck” to “well you’re ugly and a *insert name here* I don’t wanna fuck You anyway” without replying.
Owww that old noodle haha...
Something a bit bipolar in that "
Nothing bi polar in that.
It’s just rude |
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By *aeBabe OP Woman
over a year ago
London |
"I do find it strange that some people here are on the assumption that I think that all men are like this and that it is a situation limited to the male species.
I have indicated that I know that some women and and couples do that too, but as a single woman it is mostly from men that I get the abuse from.
Also to the poster indicating I did this get more profile views - blocking you is one less person to view my profile.
I think any volatile reaction to rejection whether male, female or a couple is more of a problem with that person reacting, not the person rejecting.
But blocking someone for disagreeing with your point of view on an open forum says more about you than me. "
And what's that?
That we don't agree and I'd rather not have you view my profile?
That me posting my small rant about being sent an abusive message when I rejected someone is something that I just have to shut up and deal with?
I'm free to block whomever I chose without an explanation as to why. Just as you are free to not say anything at all on this post and not have a need to view my profile.
Or would you rather I let you view my profile for your viewing pleasure as you disagree with me on everything I say?
Yes it's an open forum so feel free to say as you please, but blocking you or anyone else for that matter, is my choice. |
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"I do find it strange that some people here are on the assumption that I think that all men are like this and that it is a situation limited to the male species.
I have indicated that I know that some women and and couples do that too, but as a single woman it is mostly from men that I get the abuse from.
Also to the poster indicating I did this get more profile views - blocking you is one less person to view my profile.
I think any volatile reaction to rejection whether male, female or a couple is more of a problem with that person reacting, not the person rejecting.
But blocking someone for disagreeing with your point of view on an open forum says more about you than me. "
Nah, it's a great tactic! Stops any unsolicited messages from them. Or them using your profile as a weapon. Happens all the time. |
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A single guy not mentioning any names messaged us for a meet, when we said no thanks happy searching he gave us a barrage of abuse, no need and certainly not every sigle guy does this but certainly doesn't send out the correct message seems to be getting worst on here recently for that. Such a shame !! |
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"If someone asks for a last minute meet, I ignore. I don't engage with someone who thinks i'd fuck them, before I've even chatted to them. They can't get abusive if you don't reply "
Me too. Used to answer every message when I 1st joined but after abuse to the no thanks or not meeting anyone new I just ignore if im not interested, which iv added to my profile. X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This isn't gender specific, it happens with women and, to an even greater degree, couples too.
I grant you it's mostly men but there are some very unpleasant people of all genders on here.
It happened to me today with a couple. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I do find it strange that some people here are on the assumption that I think that all men are like this and that it is a situation limited to the male species.
I have indicated that I know that some women and and couples do that too, but as a single woman it is mostly from men that I get the abuse from.
Also to the poster indicating I did this get more profile views - blocking you is one less person to view my profile.
I think any volatile reaction to rejection whether male, female or a couple is more of a problem with that person reacting, not the person rejecting.
But blocking someone for disagreeing with your point of view on an open forum says more about you than me.
Nah, it's a great tactic! Stops any unsolicited messages from them. Or them using your profile as a weapon. Happens all the time."
If I message someone and they delete a message I generally block them. Saves me having to remember who I've messaged before, and enforces the one strike (maybe two) and you're out rule |
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By *FFB69Woman
over a year ago
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"If someone asks for a last minute meet, I ignore. I don't engage with someone who thinks i'd fuck them, before I've even chatted to them. They can't get abusive if you don't reply
Actually they can and do. Often it goes from “you’re hot wanna fuck” to “well you’re ugly and a *insert name here* I don’t wanna fuck You anyway” without replying.
But if you don't read the second message, you are not aware of the abuse. Let them jog on "
You still see it in your inbox. And it usually not a long message. Don’t need to open it to see what it says. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I get offers of meets every day wanting to suck my cock but always men .do most men get this "
Yes, several every day. It's a bit of a kink for bi/gay guys wanting to suck a straight guy |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I get offers of meets every day wanting to suck my cock but always men .do most men get this
Filter men and they suddenly disappear. Magic  "
I don't have a problem with it, I tend to reply to them politely. It was merely an observation point. |
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By *aeBabe OP Woman
over a year ago
London |
"I get offers of meets every day wanting to suck my cock but always men .do most men get this
Filter men and they suddenly disappear. Magic
I don't have a problem with it, I tend to reply to them politely. It was merely an observation point."
When you reply politely do they respond rudely?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I often say “thanks for the message but I’m politely declining, good luck with Fab”
I recently said that to two guys that wanted a mmf, I also added that it was something I wouldn’t do with a stranger but only with guys I knew. There was nothing rude about my reply and I got told to fuck off and that I was a time wasting cunt!
That’s just unacceptable!! |
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"I get offers of meets every day wanting to suck my cock but always men .do most men get this "
I used to get this, until I blocked single guys via message filters. I even had one guy offer to pay me cash if I let him wank me off |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"I often say “thanks for the message but I’m politely declining, good luck with Fab”
I recently said that to two guys that wanted a mmf, I also added that it was something I wouldn’t do with a stranger but only with guys I knew. There was nothing rude about my reply and I got told to fuck off and that I was a time wasting cunt!
That’s just unacceptable!!"
I normally ask them if they would find it acceptable for their female members of family or friends to do this with random guys off the Internet, what would they advise them to do? They either go silent or I get a message back saying they hadn't thought about it like that. |
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"I often say “thanks for the message but I’m politely declining, good luck with Fab”
I recently said that to two guys that wanted a mmf, I also added that it was something I wouldn’t do with a stranger but only with guys I knew. There was nothing rude about my reply and I got told to fuck off and that I was a time wasting cunt!
That’s just unacceptable!!
I normally ask them if they would find it acceptable for their female members of family or friends to do this with random guys off the Internet, what would they advise them to do? They either go silent or I get a message back saying they hadn't thought about it like that. "
Depends if these female family members need advice in this area  |
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"I often say “thanks for the message but I’m politely declining, good luck with Fab”
I recently said that to two guys that wanted a mmf, I also added that it was something I wouldn’t do with a stranger but only with guys I knew. There was nothing rude about my reply and I got told to fuck off and that I was a time wasting cunt!
That’s just unacceptable!!
I normally ask them if they would find it acceptable for their female members of family or friends to do this with random guys off the Internet, what would they advise them to do? They either go silent or I get a message back saying they hadn't thought about it like that. "
They had blocked me before I had a chance.  |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"I often say “thanks for the message but I’m politely declining, good luck with Fab”
I recently said that to two guys that wanted a mmf, I also added that it was something I wouldn’t do with a stranger but only with guys I knew. There was nothing rude about my reply and I got told to fuck off and that I was a time wasting cunt!
That’s just unacceptable!!
I normally ask them if they would find it acceptable for their female members of family or friends to do this with random guys off the Internet, what would they advise them to do? They either go silent or I get a message back saying they hadn't thought about it like that.
They had blocked me before I had a chance. "
Oh well keep it in mind for next time x |
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"I often say “thanks for the message but I’m politely declining, good luck with Fab”
I recently said that to two guys that wanted a mmf, I also added that it was something I wouldn’t do with a stranger but only with guys I knew. There was nothing rude about my reply and I got told to fuck off and that I was a time wasting cunt!
That’s just unacceptable!!
I normally ask them if they would find it acceptable for their female members of family or friends to do this with random guys off the Internet, what would they advise them to do? They either go silent or I get a message back saying they hadn't thought about it like that.
They had blocked me before I had a chance.
Oh well keep it in mind for next time x"
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By *av_55Man
over a year ago
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"To the single men out there that don't read profiles and message a woman that isn't into last minute meets, to meet last minute. Don't get angry and abusive when she declines, you do yourself no favours and frankly if you had probably asked nicely to plan a meet, it could have gone better.
#JustSaying
The same can be said for everybody. I’ve had abusive messages from women and couples when I have politely declined. A lot of couples think they just need to click their fingers and ya men will go running, they don’t like it when you turn them down. It’s not just single men that can be arseholes, it just so happens there are more of us so stand out more."
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"I get offers of meets every day wanting to suck my cock but always men .do most men get this
Filter men and they suddenly disappear. Magic
I don't have a problem with it, I tend to reply to them politely. It was merely an observation point.
When you reply politely do they respond rudely?
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Nope, they generally either respond kindly, or just delete my reply - I'm happy with either result. It's a lot easier to be nice to people (though I know entirely different for women on here getting so much idiotic mail) |
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"To the single men out there that don't read profiles and message a woman that isn't into last minute meets, to meet last minute. Don't get angry and abusive when she declines, you do yourself no favours and frankly if you had probably asked nicely to plan a meet, it could have gone better.
#JustSaying
The same can be said for everybody. I’ve had abusive messages from women and couples when I have politely declined. A lot of couples think they just need to click their fingers and ya men will go running, they don’t like it when you turn them down. It’s not just single men that can be arseholes, it just so happens there are more of us so stand out more."
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By (user no longer on site)
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Men should approach meets here as if they were in a public arena.
Most approaches we receive on here are ridiculous. Men seem to think that it is their god given right to have a shag and have it now!
If it happened in public they would be met with a decent punch! |
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"Men should approach meets here as if they were in a public arena.
Most approaches we receive on here are ridiculous. Men seem to think that it is their god given right to have a shag and have it now!
If it happened in public they would be met with a decent punch! "
Public is entirely different. People don't stand in the pub semi naked, in lingerie or having sex. Or with 'sex reviews' describing what an amazing fuck they are.
Can we really be surprised that people mention sex on a site like this? |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"I often say “thanks for the message but I’m politely declining, good luck with Fab”
I recently said that to two guys that wanted a mmf, I also added that it was something I wouldn’t do with a stranger but only with guys I knew. There was nothing rude about my reply and I got told to fuck off and that I was a time wasting cunt!
That’s just unacceptable!!
I normally ask them if they would find it acceptable for their female members of family or friends to do this with random guys off the Internet, what would they advise them to do? They either go silent or I get a message back saying they hadn't thought about it like that.
They had blocked me before I had a chance.
Oh well keep it in mind for next time x
Thanks my fellow West Country girl "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I get offers of meets every day wanting to suck my cock but always men .do most men get this
I used to get this, until I blocked single guys via message filters. I even had one guy offer to pay me cash if I let him wank me off "
I’m not offering just laughing |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Men should approach meets here as if they were in a public arena.
Most approaches we receive on here are ridiculous. Men seem to think that it is their god given right to have a shag and have it now!
If it happened in public they would be met with a decent punch!
Public is entirely different. People don't stand in the pub semi naked, in lingerie or having sex. Or with 'sex reviews' describing what an amazing fuck they are.
Can we really be surprised that people mention sex on a site like this? "
Just because people are on a swinging site, or semi-naked does not entitle you to be disrespectful to them!
But then this is probably why most men do not get anywhere and are disillusioned with the site |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Men should approach meets here as if they were in a public arena.
Most approaches we receive on here are ridiculous. Men seem to think that it is their god given right to have a shag and have it now!
If it happened in public they would be met with a decent punch!
Public is entirely different. People don't stand in the pub semi naked, in lingerie or having sex. Or with 'sex reviews' describing what an amazing fuck they are.
Can we really be surprised that people mention sex on a site like this?
Just because people are on a swinging site, or semi-naked does not entitle you to be disrespectful to them!
But then this is probably why most men do not get anywhere and are disillusioned with the site "
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"I get offers of meets every day wanting to suck my cock but always men .do most men get this
I used to get this, until I blocked single guys via message filters. I even had one guy offer to pay me cash if I let him wank me off
I’m not offering just laughing "
The straw which broke the camel’s back was the guy who sent me the eloquent offer of;
“Wank/suck fun?”
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I had a message the other day when I wasn't even online asking for a meet, followed by ten minutes later calling me a wanker then another ten minutes later calling me an ugly motherfucker. I hadn't even been online to read the messages, by the time I came online and read them he was unlos |
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"If someone asks for a last minute meet, I ignore. I don't engage with someone who thinks i'd fuck them, before I've even chatted to them. They can't get abusive if you don't reply
Yes and I think this was my mistake
Only a few single men are like that. Mostly i find single men to be very polite and respectable.x
I usually have single guys blocked and just unblocked today. Now I remember why "
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"If someone asks for a last minute meet, I ignore. I don't engage with someone who thinks i'd fuck them, before I've even chatted to them. They can't get abusive if you don't reply
Yes and I think this was my mistake
Only a few single men are like that. Mostly i find single men to be very polite and respectable.x
I usually have single guys blocked and just unblocked today. Now I remember why "
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Am I weird for actually preferring to be told no?
Actually riles me up more that if I've taken the time to write out a message (not necessarily even requesting a meet) just to see it get deleted with no reply. If I do get a rejection I usually give them a polite thank you for acknowledging my message and wish them happy fabbing. |
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By *aeBabe OP Woman
over a year ago
London |
"Am I weird for actually preferring to be told no?
Actually riles me up more that if I've taken the time to write out a message (not necessarily even requesting a meet) just to see it get deleted with no reply. If I do get a rejection I usually give them a polite thank you for acknowledging my message and wish them happy fabbing. "
It's not weird, but with all due respect, you aren't owed a reply. It also says it on the rules section of this site.
Some women and couples get a lot of messages that if you aren't what they want they ae going to just delete your message rather than risk you responding rudely. They won't know how you will react.
*I've blocked single guys from messaging me now because of that one guy that had to respond rudely to my polite rejection. The pararagh he sent had B***h in every sentence.
Not pleasant. |
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over a year ago
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"Am I weird for actually preferring to be told no?
Actually riles me up more that if I've taken the time to write out a message (not necessarily even requesting a meet) just to see it get deleted with no reply. If I do get a rejection I usually give them a polite thank you for acknowledging my message and wish them happy fabbing.
It's not weird, but with all due respect, you aren't owed a reply. It also says it on the rules section of this site.
Some women and couples get a lot of messages that if you aren't what they want they ae going to just delete your message rather than risk you responding rudely. They won't know how you will react.
*I've blocked single guys from messaging me now because of that one guy that had to respond rudely to my polite rejection. The pararagh he sent had B***h in every sentence.
Not pleasant."
What did you say in your rejection message?
Did you report his message to Admin? They are great at dealing with abusive people. |
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By *aeBabe OP Woman
over a year ago
London |
"Am I weird for actually preferring to be told no?
Actually riles me up more that if I've taken the time to write out a message (not necessarily even requesting a meet) just to see it get deleted with no reply. If I do get a rejection I usually give them a polite thank you for acknowledging my message and wish them happy fabbing.
It's not weird, but with all due respect, you aren't owed a reply. It also says it on the rules section of this site.
Some women and couples get a lot of messages that if you aren't what they want they ae going to just delete your message rather than risk you responding rudely. They won't know how you will react.
*I've blocked single guys from messaging me now because of that one guy that had to respond rudely to my polite rejection. The pararagh he sent had B***h in every sentence.
Not pleasant.
What did you say in your rejection message?
Did you report his message to Admin? They are great at dealing with abusive people. "
I said that if he read my profile he would know I'm not into last minute meets, so didn't want to waste his time and declined to meet.
As he stated in his profile that if he messages you, you better reply and he hates time wasters.
I already reported to Admin |
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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago
harrow |
If someone says to me sorry your not my type. I say ok fine. If I see you in the club I will say hello.
I know loads from the club scene who because either I am a single guy or I am straight wont play with me and that is totally fine
The club scene goes a lot on reputation, and there is no point getting nickers in a twist about rejection |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"To the single men out there that don't read profiles and message a woman that isn't into last minute meets, to meet last minute. Don't get angry and abusive when she declines, you do yourself no favours and frankly if you had probably asked nicely to plan a meet, it could have gone better.
#JustSaying "
I agree with you, not everyone is for everyone’s taste and if they don’t read the profile they only have them self’s to blame. If a women or couple say no, there’s no need to be rude or nasty, all I say thanks for the reply and all the best and move on |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"To the single men out there that don't read profiles and message a woman that isn't into last minute meets, to meet last minute. Don't get angry and abusive when she declines, you do yourself no favours and frankly if you had probably asked nicely to plan a meet, it could have gone better.
#JustSaying
The same can be said for everybody. I’ve had abusive messages from women and couples when I have politely declined. A lot of couples think they just need to click their fingers and ya men will go running, they don’t like it when you turn them down. It’s not just single men that can be arseholes, it just so happens there are more of us so stand out more."
Well put. Its definitely not just single men. Ive had conversations with women and couples which have turned ugly prior to them blocking me simply because of me not wanting to play bareback . Crazy |
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By *halky90Man
over a year ago
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"We've been lucky we've had no abusive messages yet, and certainly not sent any if a couple has said no. Funny not had any single guys saying weren't their type,do single guys say no? "
yes we do. And it's quite annoying that people seem to assume we will go for anything because we are single. |
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By *halky90Man
over a year ago
Birmingham |
"Am I weird for actually preferring to be told no?
Actually riles me up more that if I've taken the time to write out a message (not necessarily even requesting a meet) just to see it get deleted with no reply. If I do get a rejection I usually give them a polite thank you for acknowledging my message and wish them happy fabbing.
It's not weird, but with all due respect, you aren't owed a reply. It also says it on the rules section of this site.
Some women and couples get a lot of messages that if you aren't what they want they ae going to just delete your message rather than risk you responding rudely. They won't know how you will react.
*I've blocked single guys from messaging me now because of that one guy that had to respond rudely to my polite rejection. The pararagh he sent had B***h in every sentence.
Not pleasant."
so one prick and you block all single men ? |
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over a year ago
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"Am I weird for actually preferring to be told no?
Actually riles me up more that if I've taken the time to write out a message (not necessarily even requesting a meet) just to see it get deleted with no reply. If I do get a rejection I usually give them a polite thank you for acknowledging my message and wish them happy fabbing.
It's not weird, but with all due respect, you aren't owed a reply. It also says it on the rules section of this site.
Some women and couples get a lot of messages that if you aren't what they want they ae going to just delete your message rather than risk you responding rudely. They won't know how you will react.
*I've blocked single guys from messaging me now because of that one guy that had to respond rudely to my polite rejection. The pararagh he sent had B***h in every sentence.
Not pleasant. so one prick and you block all single men ? "
I think the OP was expecting a lot of sympathy and a Knight in shining armour to fawn over her saying "let me prove we aren't all dick heads." Looks like it backfired. |
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By *halky90Man
over a year ago
Birmingham |
"Am I weird for actually preferring to be told no?
Actually riles me up more that if I've taken the time to write out a message (not necessarily even requesting a meet) just to see it get deleted with no reply. If I do get a rejection I usually give them a polite thank you for acknowledging my message and wish them happy fabbing.
It's not weird, but with all due respect, you aren't owed a reply. It also says it on the rules section of this site.
Some women and couples get a lot of messages that if you aren't what they want they ae going to just delete your message rather than risk you responding rudely. They won't know how you will react.
*I've blocked single guys from messaging me now because of that one guy that had to respond rudely to my polite rejection. The pararagh he sent had B***h in every sentence.
Not pleasant. so one prick and you block all single men ?
I think the OP was expecting a lot of sympathy and a Knight in shining armour to fawn over her saying "let me prove we aren't all dick heads." Looks like it backfired. "
I just don't get why people can't just block the idiots and move on |
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"Am I weird for actually preferring to be told no?
Actually riles me up more that if I've taken the time to write out a message (not necessarily even requesting a meet) just to see it get deleted with no reply. If I do get a rejection I usually give them a polite thank you for acknowledging my message and wish them happy fabbing.
It's not weird, but with all due respect, you aren't owed a reply. It also says it on the rules section of this site.
Some women and couples get a lot of messages that if you aren't what they want they ae going to just delete your message rather than risk you responding rudely. They won't know how you will react.
*I've blocked single guys from messaging me now because of that one guy that had to respond rudely to my polite rejection. The pararagh he sent had B***h in every sentence.
Not pleasant."
Yeah I completely appreciare where the ladies etc. are coming from in what messages they do receive. I tend not to message that say don't meet now anyways, and even then I try at least to strike up a conversation first if I can so I can possibly see about a social or something. I never go in with high expectations and sub-consciously that may show in my messages. Best thing though is to stay positive eh? |
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"Am I weird for actually preferring to be told no?
Actually riles me up more that if I've taken the time to write out a message (not necessarily even requesting a meet) just to see it get deleted with no reply. If I do get a rejection I usually give them a polite thank you for acknowledging my message and wish them happy fabbing.
It's not weird, but with all due respect, you aren't owed a reply. It also says it on the rules section of this site.
Some women and couples get a lot of messages that if you aren't what they want they ae going to just delete your message rather than risk you responding rudely. They won't know how you will react.
*I've blocked single guys from messaging me now because of that one guy that had to respond rudely to my polite rejection. The pararagh he sent had B***h in every sentence.
Not pleasant. so one prick and you block all single men ? "
That is her choice. |
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In all honest i do respect couples and females wish where most other men do not but that is human nature we all have floors in ourselves so no one perfect.  |
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By *halky90Man
over a year ago
Birmingham |
"Am I weird for actually preferring to be told no?
Actually riles me up more that if I've taken the time to write out a message (not necessarily even requesting a meet) just to see it get deleted with no reply. If I do get a rejection I usually give them a polite thank you for acknowledging my message and wish them happy fabbing.
It's not weird, but with all due respect, you aren't owed a reply. It also says it on the rules section of this site.
Some women and couples get a lot of messages that if you aren't what they want they ae going to just delete your message rather than risk you responding rudely. They won't know how you will react.
*I've blocked single guys from messaging me now because of that one guy that had to respond rudely to my polite rejection. The pararagh he sent had B***h in every sentence.
Not pleasant. so one prick and you block all single men ?
That is her choice."
don't believe I said it wasn't. I merely asked a question. |
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over a year ago
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"A single guy not mentioning any names messaged us for a meet, when we said no thanks happy searching he gave us a barrage of abuse, no need and certainly not every sigle guy does this but certainly doesn't send out the correct message seems to be getting worst on here recently for that. Such a shame !!"
I prefer getting a no thanks message, after all manners cost nothing but I can understand if you’re bombarded with messages you can’t reply to everyone |
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"A single guy not mentioning any names messaged us for a meet, when we said no thanks happy searching he gave us a barrage of abuse, no need and certainly not every sigle guy does this but certainly doesn't send out the correct message seems to be getting worst on here recently for that. Such a shame !!
I prefer getting a no thanks message, after all manners cost nothing but I can understand if you’re bombarded with messages you can’t reply to everyone"
The classic 'manners cos nothing' line. Well actually they do - they cost time. Something I am not prepared to spend on randoms on a sex site. |
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By *aeBabe OP Woman
over a year ago
London |
"Am I weird for actually preferring to be told no?
Actually riles me up more that if I've taken the time to write out a message (not necessarily even requesting a meet) just to see it get deleted with no reply. If I do get a rejection I usually give them a polite thank you for acknowledging my message and wish them happy fabbing.
It's not weird, but with all due respect, you aren't owed a reply. It also says it on the rules section of this site.
Some women and couples get a lot of messages that if you aren't what they want they ae going to just delete your message rather than risk you responding rudely. They won't know how you will react.
*I've blocked single guys from messaging me now because of that one guy that had to respond rudely to my polite rejection. The pararagh he sent had B***h in every sentence.
Not pleasant. so one prick and you block all single men ? "
Much easier to block and message who I want. Believe I've messaged you politely |
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By *aeBabe OP Woman
over a year ago
London |
"Am I weird for actually preferring to be told no?
Actually riles me up more that if I've taken the time to write out a message (not necessarily even requesting a meet) just to see it get deleted with no reply. If I do get a rejection I usually give them a polite thank you for acknowledging my message and wish them happy fabbing.
It's not weird, but with all due respect, you aren't owed a reply. It also says it on the rules section of this site.
Some women and couples get a lot of messages that if you aren't what they want they ae going to just delete your message rather than risk you responding rudely. They won't know how you will react.
*I've blocked single guys from messaging me now because of that one guy that had to respond rudely to my polite rejection. The pararagh he sent had B***h in every sentence.
Not pleasant. so one prick and you block all single men ?
I think the OP was expecting a lot of sympathy and a Knight in shining armour to fawn over her saying "let me prove we aren't all dick heads." Looks like it backfired. "
Again I love your assumptions
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By *halky90Man
over a year ago
Birmingham |
"Am I weird for actually preferring to be told no?
Actually riles me up more that if I've taken the time to write out a message (not necessarily even requesting a meet) just to see it get deleted with no reply. If I do get a rejection I usually give them a polite thank you for acknowledging my message and wish them happy fabbing.
It's not weird, but with all due respect, you aren't owed a reply. It also says it on the rules section of this site.
Some women and couples get a lot of messages that if you aren't what they want they ae going to just delete your message rather than risk you responding rudely. They won't know how you will react.
*I've blocked single guys from messaging me now because of that one guy that had to respond rudely to my polite rejection. The pararagh he sent had B***h in every sentence.
Not pleasant. so one prick and you block all single men ?
I think the OP was expecting a lot of sympathy and a Knight in shining armour to fawn over her saying "let me prove we aren't all dick heads." Looks like it backfired.
Again I love your assumptions
Why the hate? Is it because I blocked you? I'm sorry "
no hate here. Just a question |
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By *aeBabe OP Woman
over a year ago
London |
"A single guy not mentioning any names messaged us for a meet, when we said no thanks happy searching he gave us a barrage of abuse, no need and certainly not every sigle guy does this but certainly doesn't send out the correct message seems to be getting worst on here recently for that. Such a shame !!
I prefer getting a no thanks message, after all manners cost nothing but I can understand if you’re bombarded with messages you can’t reply to everyone
The classic 'manners cos nothing' line. Well actually they do - they cost time. Something I am not prepared to spend on randoms on a sex site. "
This
Just so happened in my time I decided to reply to someone, turns out he was rude... now how many times do you think that happens? Not often, but it happens enough to make me want to block single guys and only message those I'm interested to reply to. No one wants to have messages telling them to eat sh*t, be called a dumb b*tch, etc because that person can't cope with rejection.
So writing this OP wasn't to have people come to my side to boost my ego, but rather if you get rejected, blocked, things don't go your way, etc. If you react negatively and in a hostile manner, it doesn't do anyone favours (especially yourself) to lash out on a site like this.
You may disagree with me, but people who want to make me out to be the stupid woman here are free to do so, but that also acts as a filter for myself and others.
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By *aeBabe OP Woman
over a year ago
London |
"Am I weird for actually preferring to be told no?
Actually riles me up more that if I've taken the time to write out a message (not necessarily even requesting a meet) just to see it get deleted with no reply. If I do get a rejection I usually give them a polite thank you for acknowledging my message and wish them happy fabbing.
It's not weird, but with all due respect, you aren't owed a reply. It also says it on the rules section of this site.
Some women and couples get a lot of messages that if you aren't what they want they ae going to just delete your message rather than risk you responding rudely. They won't know how you will react.
*I've blocked single guys from messaging me now because of that one guy that had to respond rudely to my polite rejection. The pararagh he sent had B***h in every sentence.
Not pleasant. so one prick and you block all single men ?
I think the OP was expecting a lot of sympathy and a Knight in shining armour to fawn over her saying "let me prove we aren't all dick heads." Looks like it backfired.
Again I love your assumptions
Why the hate? Is it because I blocked you? I'm sorry no hate here. Just a question "
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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago
Hereford |
"We've been lucky we've had no abusive messages yet, and certainly not sent any if a couple has said no. Funny not had any single guys saying weren't their type,do single guys say no? yes we do. And it's quite annoying that people seem to assume we will go for anything because we are single. "
Quite.
I've refused single women before and had some very interesting replies.
There are plenty of women on here who think that any bloke on here should not only shag them but be grateful for the opportunity to do so. |
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By *aeBabe OP Woman
over a year ago
London |
"Am I weird for actually preferring to be told no?
Actually riles me up more that if I've taken the time to write out a message (not necessarily even requesting a meet) just to see it get deleted with no reply. If I do get a rejection I usually give them a polite thank you for acknowledging my message and wish them happy fabbing.
It's not weird, but with all due respect, you aren't owed a reply. It also says it on the rules section of this site.
Some women and couples get a lot of messages that if you aren't what they want they ae going to just delete your message rather than risk you responding rudely. They won't know how you will react.
*I've blocked single guys from messaging me now because of that one guy that had to respond rudely to my polite rejection. The pararagh he sent had B***h in every sentence.
Not pleasant.
Yeah I completely appreciare where the ladies etc. are coming from in what messages they do receive. I tend not to message that say don't meet now anyways, and even then I try at least to strike up a conversation first if I can so I can possibly see about a social or something. I never go in with high expectations and sub-consciously that may show in my messages. Best thing though is to stay positive eh? "
Always best to stay positive, most definitely, I can appreciate people do take the time to write messages, as have I for couples and single ladies. I have my messages deleted too, but have to have in my mindset that they aren't interested and so they aren't for me, onto the next person. I've been blocked by couples too and yes it can be a blow to the ego, but I'm not what they are looking for so won't want to converse to "lead me on" to thinking there is a possibility.
Sometimes if you talk with someone politely and they ask to meet and you say no thanks, you can be labelled as a time waster. No one wants that |
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It staggers me the number of men out there like this. I was totally oblivious to it until seeing the many messages of the ladies I have met. Its not just a FAB thing, it happens on other sites too. I have yet to met any woman who has not had their fair share of this. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Am I weird for actually preferring to be told no?
Actually riles me up more that if I've taken the time to write out a message (not necessarily even requesting a meet) just to see it get deleted with no reply. If I do get a rejection I usually give them a polite thank you for acknowledging my message and wish them happy fabbing.
It's not weird, but with all due respect, you aren't owed a reply. It also says it on the rules section of this site.
Some women and couples get a lot of messages that if you aren't what they want they ae going to just delete your message rather than risk you responding rudely. They won't know how you will react.
*I've blocked single guys from messaging me now because of that one guy that had to respond rudely to my polite rejection. The pararagh he sent had B***h in every sentence.
Not pleasant. so one prick and you block all single men ?
I think the OP was expecting a lot of sympathy and a Knight in shining armour to fawn over her saying "let me prove we aren't all dick heads." Looks like it backfired.
Again I love your assumptions
Why the hate? Is it because I blocked you? I'm sorry "
No. You start a forum post on a subject that quite obviously has split opinion but seem unable to grasp why people are responding to you.
Quite simply you should have set your filters accordingly rather than jump on the forum with a post that could have been dealt with by telling your original messager directly rather than coming on here generalising. |
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