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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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As a single man about fab is there any advice on going to clubs?
I have never been to one, as being a single guy I feel it may be frowned upon?
So what do you guys out there think is the best thing to do?? |
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The right kind of single guy is very much welcomed in most clubs.
A club isn't all about the sex. Being able to socialise is probably the most important thing for clubs. Very few people will invite someone to play if they haven't had a conversation first.
A night at a club isn't too far removed from a night at the pub or a "normal" nightclub. People want to chat, have a drink, have a dance. The only real difference is they may be wearing fewer clothes and someone may be having sex somewhere in the building, possibly in public view.
If you are socially awkward in a non sexual environment then clubs may not be for you.
I have seen single men in clubs who don't talk to anyone and follow ladies and couples around, cock in hand. They never get to play because they are a nuisance.
Before you visit a club check with them what requirements they have for single men. Some have waiting lists for membership and most restrict the numbers of single men they allow in.
Go with no expectations of play and if it happens that's a bonus. Just aim for a nice social evening and use it as a way to make contacts in the swinging scene. |
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The main reason I go to clubs in the past has been to meet single men.
My advice would be to turn up with no expectations, socialise and enjoy the night. If anything happens, it's a bonus. Have fun. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"The right kind of single guy is very much welcomed in most clubs.
A club isn't all about the sex. Being able to socialise is probably the most important thing for clubs. Very few people will invite someone to play if they haven't had a conversation first.
A night at a club isn't too far removed from a night at the pub or a "normal" nightclub. People want to chat, have a drink, have a dance. The only real difference is they may be wearing fewer clothes and someone may be having sex somewhere in the building, possibly in public view.
If you are socially awkward in a non sexual environment then clubs may not be for you.
I have seen single men in clubs who don't talk to anyone and follow ladies and couples around, cock in hand. They never get to play because they are a nuisance.
Before you visit a club check with them what requirements they have for single men. Some have waiting lists for membership and most restrict the numbers of single men they allow in.
Go with no expectations of play and if it happens that's a bonus. Just aim for a nice social evening and use it as a way to make contacts in the swinging scene. "
Excellent advise and thank you very much, I will definitely take all that into consideration. |
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"Most of us want single men so why do so many of you think you are frowned upon? The good ones anyway lol "
I think my preconceptions may actually come from here, always seems to be a profile with "no single guys" or similar on it. May just be my picking of the wrong folk mind you. |
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"The main reason I go to clubs in the past has been to meet single men.
My advice would be to turn up with no expectations, socialise and enjoy the night. If anything happens, it's a bonus. Have fun. "
The social aspect does appeal, I am a socially direct type of person. |
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If you go to a single guys night mate and behave respectfully you will never be made to feel unwelcome.
If people have a problem with single guys simply being in attendance then that’s their problem.
Some great club nights out there. Some will have varying entry requirements which gets people butthurt but horses for courses and all that.
Once you pluck up the courage to step through the front door the rest will come easy. Ask for a tour find the social area and enjoy.
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"If you go to a single guys night mate and behave respectfully you will never be made to feel unwelcome.
If people have a problem with single guys simply being in attendance then that’s their problem.
Some great club nights out there. Some will have varying entry requirements which gets people butthurt but horses for courses and all that.
Once you pluck up the courage to step through the front door the rest will come easy. Ask for a tour find the social area and enjoy.
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Butthurt doesn't sound like fun lol. Cheers mate all good info and will help a lot  |
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