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If you found an ex on here...

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Completely hypothetical question based upon a forum post I just read...

If you found a recent ex on here (as a single and when you had split up you both had no idea the two of you were interested in this site) would you contact them and try and reignite the relationship on the basis that you could be open about this site? X

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By *abioMan over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

nope.... they would be an "ex" for a reason....

I would respect their privacy as much as i hope they would respect mine.....

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By *irginieWoman over a year ago

Near Marlborough

Nope. From experience

V x

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By *lanemikeMan over a year ago

Bolton

Yes.....but you do hear about "exs" getting back together. Also there is the scenario where "exs" part and remain on good terms, friends.... Just saying..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I would instantly block as I wouldn't want them giving me shit

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

hoping to find a future ex first

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No never get back with a ex always a reason why they are a ex and that reason will always be there .

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By *appy squirrelWoman over a year ago

Norwich

I manged to get him in a sex shop once in about 9 years... and he only did that to please me... I very much doubt id find him here

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No way. I'd be interested in how he sells himself and what he's looking for, but sexually, he's not what I'm looking for.

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By *azza80Woman over a year ago

Your wildest Dreams

"I would instantly block as I wouldn't want them giving me shit"

This most definately x

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By *09309309Woman over a year ago

Dublin

"nope.... they would be an "ex" for a reason....

I would respect their privacy as much as i hope they would respect mine....."

Yep

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I manged to get him in a sex shop once in about 9 years... and he only did that to please me... I very much doubt id find him here

Maybe he had a midlife crisis and changed his priorities in life :p

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Nope. From experience

V x "

I will trust your experience

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By *lanemikeMan over a year ago

Bolton

It would depend on the reasons why you became "exs".... Relationships do not always end acrimoniously.... Some do, of course !!

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By *iscean MaleMan over a year ago

Darlaston

If I was happy to see ex again and there was no sour grapes between us.. then yes.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No never get back with a ex always a reason why they are a ex and that reason will always be there .

"
This is good advice.

I have got back with a couple of exes over the years, have had a few year relashionship second time round, but you will always find out why they were ex partners!

My advise would be always leave on a good note if possible and don't go back with ex partners.

Interesting post though, if the reason you spilt with an ex was the fact you wanted more sexual variation, I guess it has the potential of working out.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ewwww hell no... he's a skank

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By *otSoNewWalesCoupleCouple over a year ago

South Wales

"nope.... they would be an "ex" for a reason....

I would respect their privacy as much as i hope they would respect mine....."

Your responses are invariably logical and sensible.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No for many of the reasons already mentioned. And because if I'd had a relationship and had no idea that they'd been interested in this lifestyle then that inability to be open and communicate wouldn't bode well for swinging

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I would instantly block as I wouldn't want them giving me shit

This most definately x"

The reason why I would block is because my recent ex dumped me by text two Christmases ago and her mum left a very harsh email a day after boxing day so if I saw my recent ex on here, it would be an instant block as I'll never forgive her for breaking my heart two years ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'd block them

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"No for many of the reasons already mentioned. And because if I'd had a relationship and had no idea that they'd been interested in this lifestyle then that inability to be open and communicate wouldn't bode well for swinging"

Excellent point

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Depends how we split..... I've split from a couple of girlfriends simply because of not seeing eachother enough..... and not on bad terms.... so yeah I'd definitely say hi to them

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Iv just seen my 2nd ex wife on here i know that she is married for her 3rd time and mother to my youngest daughter but i blocked her straight away

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By *ollyGWoman over a year ago

Southampton

My Ex is on here, we just ignore each other.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

if I still have a feeling I would have a go why not

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

That's quite a subjective question, it really depends on why you broke up in the first place, and whether you still get on with them.

My ex-husband freaked when I approached the idea of having sex with other people (that's only one of the many reasons we're no longer together), so I'd be very surprised to find him on here. If I did stumble across him, I'd block him and never mention it.

V x

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By *ysteriousMaddieWoman over a year ago

wigan

No - I’ve seen an ex on by I know what’s in his trousers - and it leaves a LOT to be desired, if you know what I mean ! lol

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By *unloversCouple over a year ago

rotherham

He was mental so an instant block for me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

My very recent ex fiancé from a monogamous relationship is on here and left me a verification (not shown) from a profile of his that predated the end of our relationship!

I don't mind him seeing that I'm moving on with my life - but going back is a complete no - we loved each other but just weren't compatible!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Would instantly block.

Exes are exs for a reason.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Completely hypothetical question based upon a forum post I just read...

I had an ex message me. He wasn't aware on who I was. It had been 5 years since we saw each other last . I don't have a face pic up but he Did!

I politely turned him down without letting him know who I was. I had no interest in fucking him again! Lol

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman over a year ago

your imagination

My most recent boyfriend (3 years ago) popped up in my local updates as a new member late last year. Did I contact him? Hell no!

Never go back. If it was good, let it stay that way - a good memory, unspoiled. If it was bad - why go back there anyway?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"No - I’ve seen an ex on by I know what’s in his trousers - and it leaves a LOT to be desired, if you know what I mean ! lol"

This made me laugh out loud hahhaa x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

An ex would be put where all the other people I don't like or who have pissed me off belong - on my block list!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Completely hypothetical question based upon a forum post I just read...

No...been with my hubby since I was fourteen. I would have nothing in common with any of my exes from that age

the type of man I go for has totally changed since then (obviously!).

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By *olarfoxMan over a year ago

North Cambs

"nope.... they would be an "ex" for a reason....

I would respect their privacy as much as i hope they would respect mine....."

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By *ust PeachyWoman over a year ago

Prestonish

"Completely hypothetical question based upon a forum post I just read...

Nope - can’t think of a single ex that I’d ever want to be with again! X

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By *rimson_RoseWoman over a year ago

Tamworth

Run a mile. Most of mine aren't people I'd want to stay in touch with!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Someone told on ex I was on here. Caused no end of shit to be honest due

To one thing or another. They still havnt had the guts to tell me who it actually was either, although I have my suspicions.

So, no, if I saw an ex on here it would be insta-block and respect of their privacy.

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By *rincess peachWoman over a year ago

shits creek

Block and that's that thank you. My past is behind me and that's where it's staying

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I found my ex on here after we split up. And I was very open about my hobby and would have given it up if he was The One. He never once said he was on here. Never said he was interested in swinging. Then had the CHEEK to send me a message on here! Like, 'No thanks Mr Floppy 9/10 occasions. Jog on!'

Did peek at his profile though....had a few meets when we were together and from what I can gather from Fab Veris talk he didn't 'rise to the occasion' with those ladies either. As said earlier and ex is 'ex for a reason and going back there is not good for anyone. No matter how amicable the break up may have been. Dreamcatcher Xx

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By *ysteriousMaddieWoman over a year ago

wigan

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'd be mortified if an ex found me in here and some how came to conclusion that we should get back together

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By *bsinthe_boyMan over a year ago

Luton

At least four of my exes are active on here... But we all met via non-monogamy in one way or another so we definitely knew about our interests in swinging.

Yes we remain friends. Yes we sometimes visit the same clubs. No we don't usually play together.

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By *oiretblancCouple over a year ago

London

I am clearly going against the majority here because I would definitely get in touch with a view to having an entirely sex - based relationship where he gets to see other guys fuck me!

It would be a type of cuckold thing...look what you are missing...you never knew I was this horny...look how many guys want me!

And every now and then he gets to fuck me, but only at a club or a party with others watching.

What would be even more intense would be a 4some involving my lovely new partner and his partner , if he has one. But that might screw with my head a little too much!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Not much chance. Sex wasn't on their want list for the majority...

Luckily my lovely wife Miss kink loves all of it!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Run screaming down the road whilst deleting my profile!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'd be like ,aren't you getting enough cock already !

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By *hefireinsideWoman over a year ago

Cork

My ex found me on here and tried to rekindle things.. funny thing was he didn't recognise it was me for the first few msgs! He didn't wanna fuck me when we were together and now he's bordering on obsessed.. making new profiles when I block him!

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By *eviantdeliteWoman over a year ago

Cheltenham

"I would instantly block as I wouldn't want them giving me shit"

Lmao...not egotiscal then?

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By *eviantdeliteWoman over a year ago

Cheltenham

"My ex found me on here and tried to rekindle things.. funny thing was he didn't recognise it was me for the first few msgs! He didn't wanna fuck me when we were together and now he's bordering on obsessed.. making new profiles when I block him!

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By *wisted999Man over a year ago

North Bucks

My ex is on here. Sometimes we have a giggle and a reminisce but that’s as far as it goes. We did speak recently of perhaps going to a club together but that may not be happening now.

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By *azza80Woman over a year ago

Your wildest Dreams

My ex duz exactly the same thing...over 6yrs and stil wont move on lol. Probably read this too but if he wants to torture himself then thats down to him. I moved on a very very long time ago xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

With one of them I would. She was a sexual athlete and provided most of my training in becoming the sexual warrior I am now

The rest of them can fuck right off though.

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By *lceeWoman over a year ago

Leeds

I’d probably say hi...but not as a precursor to starting things up again. Just to say hi

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By *imale38Man over a year ago

Barnsley

Wouldn’t surprise me as just before me and my last ex split up we was talking about going to a swingers club but never made it.

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

"nope.... they would be an "ex" for a reason....

I would respect their privacy as much as i hope they would respect mine....."

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By *icentiousCouple over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Probably think it is a shame they weren’t a good sensual sexual stunning siren when we were together.

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By *uteLittleGeekWoman over a year ago

Somewhere

Yes my ex is on here . Again !

He keeps messaging me ( not knowning it’s me ) . He is one of those who have multiple profiles . Even imaginary couple profile .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

id say no ,a big no .

only because it comes across as sneaky and bla bla bla .

let her / him enjoy fab

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If I found my ex on here I'd say "Come and meet the lads !"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

My ex is on here

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By *udist2ukMan over a year ago

chudleigh

I liked my Ex a lot but part of why we split was i thought she was very pure. Turned out she really wasnt. If i found her on her she might of been the perfect woman lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Ewwww hell no... he's a skank"

I believe he speaks very highly of you

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By *evaquitCouple over a year ago

Catthorpe

Do Nothing.

We'd have moved on, us being on here would be a coincidence not fate, it'd be an instant block and continue to enjoy myself.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

My ex hubby on here and has verified profile haha and me his but we remain good friends and don’t hide or have secrets where swinging scene is concerned.

Ex is an ex for a reason though and I’d say unless you are friends and still in contact then to contact on here is a no x

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By *eryCuriousCouple2012Couple over a year ago

Funville

"Completely hypothetical question based upon a forum post I just read...

Hell no! And, argh! Followed by the block button. And possibly nuking my phone from orbit...just to be sure

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

i must be odd...im still very friendly with all my ex girlfriends and wouldnt be against the idea of a "bonus night".if they all want to do it on the same night,im not gonna refuse!!!

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By *azza80Woman over a year ago

Your wildest Dreams

"i must be odd...im still very friendly with all my ex girlfriends and wouldnt be against the idea of a "bonus night".if they all want to do it on the same night,im not gonna refuse!!!"

I am stil friends wiv majority of my ex's but my last one is an absolute fruit loop! xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I re kindled some fun when I found an ex in here we had split on good term but didn’t chat for a few months then I spotted her in here messaged her a bit winding her up then it led to a year of us having a couples account, sadly she met someone new and settled down into vanilla

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By *eakcoupleCouple over a year ago

peak district

"I would instantly block as I wouldn't want them giving me shit"

Absolutely right!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No never get back with a ex always a reason why they are a ex and that reason will always be there .

Unless, as the op may be inferring, fab may have been the original reason. Now they both know they swing and are open to all in entails there is no longer the original reason for split. This may solve the problem... Swinging fixes a lot of relationships or makes them stronger... why can't it fix one that has previously ended.

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