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I've come across something simular. I think this should be about genuinely enjoyable experiences and be easy so if i sense a persons really not into it or myself for that matter then it's not gonna happen. i don't like edgyness or people being pressured or fake. it's just too uncomfortable and definately not desire inspiring. |
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One of the handful of occasions when I've walked away from a meet was the time when the wife clearly wasn't into what was supposed to be happening - regardless of her husband's insistence that she'd be 'fine with it'... |
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Been in this situation a few times. That sense that she is "taking one for the team"
It doesn't work for me, Unless she is into the play, I lose interest and so does my cock!. We make our excuses and leave. |
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Most men use their wife or girlfriend as currency to get to fuck other men's willing partners. The amount of single men "who can involve a bi fem friend" when messaging single fems or couples when I was part of a couple was staggering. It became obvious they were coerced. |
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"Most men use their wife or girlfriend as currency to get to fuck other men's willing partners. The amount of single men "who can involve a bi fem friend" when messaging single fems or couples when I was part of a couple was staggering. It became obvious they were coerced. "
Most men glad your not making sweeping statements  |
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"Most men use their wife or girlfriend as currency to get to fuck other men's willing partners. The amount of single men "who can involve a bi fem friend" when messaging single fems or couples when I was part of a couple was staggering. It became obvious they were coerced.
Most men glad your not making sweeping statements "
No. Sorry I should have said some men. I apologise. But you get the gist. |
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By *olarfoxMan
over a year ago
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I have actually sensed this once or twice when meeting with couples and when I do I become very uncomfortable with the whole situation. This said, it is not always easy to tell the difference between a woman who is somewhat nervous and needs to gradually ease into a meet, and one who is reluctant.
My fears about some women being somewhat coerced were rather affirmed when I once ended up dating a woman for a bit who I had previously met when she was part of a swinging couple. When we were dating and discussing her precious relationship she was adamant that she had only ever gone along with it in order to keep her partner happy. I was actually rather upset to hear this...especially given that we had played together and I had of course assumed it was all mutually desired  |
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"Most men use their wife or girlfriend as currency to get to fuck other men's willing partners. The amount of single men "who can involve a bi fem friend" when messaging single fems or couples when I was part of a couple was staggering. It became obvious they were coerced.
Most men glad your not making sweeping statements
No. Sorry I should have said some men. I apologise. But you get the gist. "
So are you saying most couples on here are men manipulating their women into swinging to get their end away with other women ? |
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By *olarfoxMan
over a year ago
North Cambs |
"Most men use their wife or girlfriend as currency to get to fuck other men's willing partners. The amount of single men "who can involve a bi fem friend" when messaging single fems or couples when I was part of a couple was staggering. It became obvious they were coerced.
Most men glad your not making sweeping statements
No. Sorry I should have said some men. I apologise. But you get the gist.
So are you saying most couples on here are men manipulating their women into swinging to get their end away with other women ?"
I myself don't imagine it is anything like 'most' (and certainly hope not), but there are a small number who do this and also (as I explained), those who do it just because they get off on watching their wives/girlfriends get fucked by other men....sad but true |
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I am lucky enough so far that that hasn’t happened to myself! Have heard a few stories but the thing that gets me are the minority of men who bring their GFs/Wives or a female “friend” and then offer them off for paid services! A pimp in a swingers world, not really the company I’d like aha |
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"Have noticed this a few times in the past and it gets very awkward and embarrassing.
Any other couples come across this?"
We've found this a lot, to be honest. Very difficult to meet any genuine couples where both the guy and the girl are there because they both want to be. |
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By *olarfoxMan
over a year ago
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"...Very difficult to meet any genuine couples where both the guy and the girl are there because they both want to be."
I hope this is NOT the reality of the scene as if it is then it is actually a very sad state of affairs!! Personally and in my experience, the vast majority of couples (certainly those who I've met - and that means in excess of 30), have all been genuine and equally keen to play!! |
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"Most men use their wife or girlfriend as currency to get to fuck other men's willing partners. The amount of single men "who can involve a bi fem friend" when messaging single fems or couples when I was part of a couple was staggering. It became obvious they were coerced.
Most men glad your not making sweeping statements
No. Sorry I should have said some men. I apologise. But you get the gist.
So are you saying most couples on here are men manipulating their women into swinging to get their end away with other women ?
I myself don't imagine it is anything like 'most' (and certainly hope not), but there are a small number who do this and also (as I explained), those who do it just because they get off on watching their wives/girlfriends get fucked by other men....sad but true "
Met a few like this where one clearly wasn't happy. People at clubs having to get pissed before they'd do anything. |
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"I have actually sensed this once or twice when meeting with couples and when I do I become very uncomfortable with the whole situation. This said, it is not always easy to tell the difference between a woman who is somewhat nervous and needs to gradually ease into a meet, and one who is reluctant.
My fears about some women being somewhat coerced were rather affirmed when I once ended up dating a woman for a bit who I had previously met when she was part of a swinging couple. When we were dating and discussing her precious relationship she was adamant that she had only ever gone along with it in order to keep her partner happy. I was actually rather upset to hear this...especially given that we had played together and I had of course assumed it was all mutually desired "
What was the context - did she want to be monogamous with you? |
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"Most men use their wife or girlfriend as currency to get to fuck other men's willing partners. The amount of single men "who can involve a bi fem friend" when messaging single fems or couples when I was part of a couple was staggering. It became obvious they were coerced.
Most men glad your not making sweeping statements
No. Sorry I should have said some men. I apologise. But you get the gist.
So are you saying most couples on here are men manipulating their women into swinging to get their end away with other women ?
I myself don't imagine it is anything like 'most' (and certainly hope not), but there are a small number who do this and also (as I explained), those who do it just because they get off on watching their wives/girlfriends get fucked by other men....sad but true "
Interesting ....
I am one of those guys who gets off watching my wife get fucked by other guys . I really don’t see what’s sad about that ? My wife loves the fact that it excites me , and gets me off . That’s why she does it , along with the fact that she’s having fun too .
And since we are one of the 30 couples you’ve met , I’d like you to expand on this theory of yours that it’s sad ......  |
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"Most men use their wife or girlfriend as currency to get to fuck other men's willing partners. The amount of single men "who can involve a bi fem friend" when messaging single fems or couples when I was part of a couple was staggering. It became obvious they were coerced.
Most men glad your not making sweeping statements
No. Sorry I should have said some men. I apologise. But you get the gist.
So are you saying most couples on here are men manipulating their women into swinging to get their end away with other women ?
I myself don't imagine it is anything like 'most' (and certainly hope not), but there are a small number who do this and also (as I explained), those who do it just because they get off on watching their wives/girlfriends get fucked by other men....sad but true
Interesting ....
I am one of those guys who gets off watching my wife get fucked by other guys . I really don’t see what’s sad about that ? My wife loves the fact that it excites me , and gets me off . That’s why she does it , along with the fact that she’s having fun too .
And since we are one of the 30 couples you’ve met , I’d like you to expand on this theory of yours that it’s sad ...... "
Oh that'll be different I'm sure.... |
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By *olarfoxMan
over a year ago
North Cambs |
"Most men use their wife or girlfriend as currency to get to fuck other men's willing partners. The amount of single men "who can involve a bi fem friend" when messaging single fems or couples when I was part of a couple was staggering. It became obvious they were coerced.
Most men glad your not making sweeping statements
No. Sorry I should have said some men. I apologise. But you get the gist.
So are you saying most couples on here are men manipulating their women into swinging to get their end away with other women ?
I myself don't imagine it is anything like 'most' (and certainly hope not), but there are a small number who do this and also (as I explained), those who do it just because they get off on watching their wives/girlfriends get fucked by other men....sad but true
Interesting ....
I am one of those guys who gets off watching my wife get fucked by other guys . I really don’t see what’s sad about that ? My wife loves the fact that it excites me , and gets me off . That’s why she does it , along with the fact that she’s having fun too .
And since we are one of the 30 couples you’ve met , I’d like you to expand on this theory of yours that it’s sad ...... "
I hope you have misread and misunderstood what I was saying...
I think most of the couples I meet are great!! I think the vast majority are genuine and both enjoy the kind of meets they have and the kind of pleasure they each derive from it! I certainly do not have any problem at all with men getting excitement from watching another man fuck their partner!
I was trying to explain that in a very small (in my experience) number of cases, it seems that the woman is reluctant or has somehow been coerced into this behaviour in order to keep her man happy. I feel that when this is the case it is sad.
I was in no way implying that anything about what you or any other male partners enjoy with their partners is in anyway sad.
I would hate for there to be any confusion on this  |
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"Most men use their wife or girlfriend as currency to get to fuck other men's willing partners. The amount of single men "who can involve a bi fem friend" when messaging single fems or couples when I was part of a couple was staggering. It became obvious they were coerced.
Most men glad your not making sweeping statements
No. Sorry I should have said some men. I apologise. But you get the gist.
So are you saying most couples on here are men manipulating their women into swinging to get their end away with other women ?
I myself don't imagine it is anything like 'most' (and certainly hope not), but there are a small number who do this and also (as I explained), those who do it just because they get off on watching their wives/girlfriends get fucked by other men....sad but true
Interesting ....
I am one of those guys who gets off watching my wife get fucked by other guys . I really don’t see what’s sad about that ? My wife loves the fact that it excites me , and gets me off . That’s why she does it , along with the fact that she’s having fun too .
And since we are one of the 30 couples you’ve met , I’d like you to expand on this theory of yours that it’s sad ......
I hope you have misread and misunderstood what I was saying...
I think most of the couples I meet are great!! I think the vast majority are genuine and both enjoy the kind of meets they have and the kind of pleasure they each derive from it! I certainly do not have any problem at all with men getting excitement from watching another man fuck their partner!
I was trying to explain that in a very small (in my experience) number of cases, it seems that the woman is reluctant or has somehow been coerced into this behaviour in order to keep her man happy. I feel that when this is the case it is sad.
I was in no way implying that anything about what you or any other male partners enjoy with their partners is in anyway sad.
I would hate for there to be any confusion on this "
Ah , I think I get you now .... I did think it was odd that you would find it sad that guys would enjoy seeing their wives get off . I misinterpreted your post |
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By *olarfoxMan
over a year ago
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I should perhaps add that when I said "the vast majority of couples (certainly those who I've met - and that means in excess of 30), have all been genuine and equally keen to play!!", I meant 'play' in the sense of both enjoying swinging - regardless of the actual form of playing - watching, participating, cuckolding...whatever... |
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By *olarfoxMan
over a year ago
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"Most men use their wife or girlfriend as currency to get to fuck other men's willing partners. The amount of single men "who can involve a bi fem friend" when messaging single fems or couples when I was part of a couple was staggering. It became obvious they were coerced.
Most men glad your not making sweeping statements
No. Sorry I should have said some men. I apologise. But you get the gist.
So are you saying most couples on here are men manipulating their women into swinging to get their end away with other women ?
I myself don't imagine it is anything like 'most' (and certainly hope not), but there are a small number who do this and also (as I explained), those who do it just because they get off on watching their wives/girlfriends get fucked by other men....sad but true
Interesting ....
I am one of those guys who gets off watching my wife get fucked by other guys . I really don’t see what’s sad about that ? My wife loves the fact that it excites me , and gets me off . That’s why she does it , along with the fact that she’s having fun too .
And since we are one of the 30 couples you’ve met , I’d like you to expand on this theory of yours that it’s sad ......
I hope you have misread and misunderstood what I was saying...
I think most of the couples I meet are great!! I think the vast majority are genuine and both enjoy the kind of meets they have and the kind of pleasure they each derive from it! I certainly do not have any problem at all with men getting excitement from watching another man fuck their partner!
I was trying to explain that in a very small (in my experience) number of cases, it seems that the woman is reluctant or has somehow been coerced into this behaviour in order to keep her man happy. I feel that when this is the case it is sad.
I was in no way implying that anything about what you or any other male partners enjoy with their partners is in anyway sad.
I would hate for there to be any confusion on this
Ah , I think I get you now .... I did think it was odd that you would find it sad that guys would enjoy seeing their wives get off . I misinterpreted your post "
It was directly following on from what the previous person had said...I perhaps didn't explain it as well as I might have.....You most of all know what fun I have and how much respect I have for genuine couples (of all kinds)  |
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"Most men use their wife or girlfriend as currency to get to fuck other men's willing partners. The amount of single men "who can involve a bi fem friend" when messaging single fems or couples when I was part of a couple was staggering. It became obvious they were coerced.
Most men glad your not making sweeping statements
No. Sorry I should have said some men. I apologise. But you get the gist.
So are you saying most couples on here are men manipulating their women into swinging to get their end away with other women ?"
No. Read my follow up to your initial response to my badly written post. |
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"Most men use their wife or girlfriend as currency to get to fuck other men's willing partners. The amount of single men "who can involve a bi fem friend" when messaging single fems or couples when I was part of a couple was staggering. It became obvious they were coerced. "
You are absolutely right here. Many single guys will try to establish a couple relationship as a gateway to play with other couples and fem. |
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"Have noticed this a few times in the past and it gets very awkward and embarrassing.
Any other couples come across this?"
Yep happened to us in our local club we’d been chatting on WhatsApp previous to meeting there. We’ve known them a while too...turns out she gets herself hammered in order to play and can just about cope with a bit of girl girl....nothing more awks than a women sitting in the corner and crying
Stopped got dressed went back downstairs! |
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"Have noticed this a few times in the past and it gets very awkward and embarrassing.
Any other couples come across this?"
that's a real shame if that happens  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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It's why I won't ever have a couples profile. Too many times the guy controls the profile and basically pimps me out to guys and couples. Just because I swing, doesn't mean I'm a whore! |
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"It's why I won't ever have a couples profile. Too many times the guy controls the profile and basically pimps me out to guys and couples. Just because I swing, doesn't mean I'm a whore!"
That's very honest. |
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"I know I'm a single female, so apologies for that, but I've noticed it. It's one of the main reasons I'm a little wary of meeting couples anymore. "
That’s understandable, we’re a couple and we struggle with couples we meet separately a fair bit these days or together but with singles.
And in our case for once it’s time who runs this profile
MrsK  |
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"Have sensed it the other way round as well can be just as awkward, if we sense anything like this we get out of there "
I (Incubus) have been on a meet like this where the fem was all over me and the male just sulked all night.
Crap atmosphere and not one I'd hurry back to. |
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"I know I'm a single female, so apologies for that, but I've noticed it. It's one of the main reasons I'm a little wary of meeting couples anymore. "
This for me too, although mine would be limited to meeting in clubs as opposed to off here. |
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"I know I'm a single female, so apologies for that, but I've noticed it. It's one of the main reasons I'm a little wary of meeting couples anymore. "
nothing gets past you does it x? |
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"I know I'm a single female, so apologies for that, but I've noticed it. It's one of the main reasons I'm a little wary of meeting couples anymore. "
There are some good ones out there; just hard to find. |
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I meet at my horny hubbys request, he doesn't force, bribe, or beg me too.. I enjoy the meets, and I hope the guys I've met don't get the impression it's JUST for his pleasure |
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"I know I'm a single female, so apologies for that, but I've noticed it. It's one of the main reasons I'm a little wary of meeting couples anymore.
There are some good ones out there; just hard to find."
You're right of course. I have had some great experiences too. It was more the last two occasions. Time to dip my toe back in, I think. The dynamic can be wonderful, with the right couple and I don't just mean the sex, but the social aspect also  |
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"I know I'm a single female, so apologies for that, but I've noticed it. It's one of the main reasons I'm a little wary of meeting couples anymore.
There are some good ones out there; just hard to find.
You're right of course. I have had some great experiences too. It was more the last two occasions. Time to dip my toe back in, I think. The dynamic can be wonderful, with the right couple and I don't just mean the sex, but the social aspect also "
Totally agree with you: we want the social as well as the sex...here's hoping... |
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"I know I'm a single female, so apologies for that, but I've noticed it. It's one of the main reasons I'm a little wary of meeting couples anymore. "
Bloody hell your single?
How??? |
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We’ve had meets which are the other way around; the woman was into it and he wasn’t, or he became less so the more he saw her enjoying it, twice! It’s awkward, we just pretend we need a break and make our excuses x |
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"I know I'm a single female, so apologies for that, but I've noticed it. It's one of the main reasons I'm a little wary of meeting couples anymore.
Bloody hell your single?
How???"
Just lucky I guess |
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"I know I'm a single female, so apologies for that, but I've noticed it. It's one of the main reasons I'm a little wary of meeting couples anymore.
Bloody hell your single?
How???
Just lucky I guess "
Awwwww happy Easter x |
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I had this happen to me on a singles account I had, he was very submissive and she absolutely lost her shit part way through. He said it would be ok and I just said you need to go and talk to your wife, everything isn't ok at all. With that I got dressed and left |
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