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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
Some element of social first for me - now that might mean arranging to meet at a club with a view to playing later if all agree, but couldn't go straight into a sex meet the first time of meeting - would just feel too cold and clinical for me. |
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
I love a good social! 
Nothing builds expectation more if the chemistry is there and the flirting is free flowing and spontaneous.
The sex is so much better afterwards  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Always a social for me, I need to know if I feel comfortable in their company. Because I seek regular, I need to have more of a connection than pure lust, if I am going to spend more time in their company.
I also see how they behave when I walk away. |
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"Always a social for me, I need to know if I feel comfortable in their company. Because I seek regular, I need to have more of a connection than pure lust, if I am going to spend more time in their company.
I also see how they behave when I walk away."
Bit creepy that.... do you hide in bushes? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Always a social for me, I need to know if I feel comfortable in their company. Because I seek regular, I need to have more of a connection than pure lust, if I am going to spend more time in their company.
I also see how they behave when I walk away.
Bit creepy that.... do you hide in bushes? "
I have had men throw strops in the car park, they have brought a weekend bag to a Friday evening social. They fully expected to stay the weekend, as they were free. A social to them meant, meet, get on, move on to sex fuelled weekend.
I have had many men absolutely bombard me with texts to meet again before I have left the car park and late into the night, followed by a 6am 'Hi, I'm awake and horny...thinking of you'...
I have men want a little more than a peck on the cheek on saying goodbye, after all 'you are on a sex site love' etc etc. |
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"Always a social for me, I need to know if I feel comfortable in their company. Because I seek regular, I need to have more of a connection than pure lust, if I am going to spend more time in their company.
I also see how they behave when I walk away.
Bit creepy that.... do you hide in bushes?
I have had men throw strops in the car park, they have brought a weekend bag to a Friday evening social. They fully expected to stay the weekend, as they were free. A social to them meant, meet, get on, move on to sex fuelled weekend.
I have had many men absolutely bombard me with texts to meet again before I have left the car park and late into the night, followed by a 6am 'Hi, I'm awake and horny...thinking of you'...
I have men want a little more than a peck on the cheek on saying goodbye, after all 'you are on a sex site love' etc etc."
Jesus! Where do you live?!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Always a social for me, I need to know if I feel comfortable in their company. Because I seek regular, I need to have more of a connection than pure lust, if I am going to spend more time in their company.
I also see how they behave when I walk away.
Bit creepy that.... do you hide in bushes?
I have had men throw strops in the car park, they have brought a weekend bag to a Friday evening social. They fully expected to stay the weekend, as they were free. A social to them meant, meet, get on, move on to sex fuelled weekend.
I have had many men absolutely bombard me with texts to meet again before I have left the car park and late into the night, followed by a 6am 'Hi, I'm awake and horny...thinking of you'...
I have men want a little more than a peck on the cheek on saying goodbye, after all 'you are on a sex site love' etc etc.
Jesus! Where do you live?! "
In the central area for creepy men obviously  |
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"Always a social for me, I need to know if I feel comfortable in their company. Because I seek regular, I need to have more of a connection than pure lust, if I am going to spend more time in their company.
I also see how they behave when I walk away.
Bit creepy that.... do you hide in bushes?
I have had men throw strops in the car park, they have brought a weekend bag to a Friday evening social. They fully expected to stay the weekend, as they were free. A social to them meant, meet, get on, move on to sex fuelled weekend.
I have had many men absolutely bombard me with texts to meet again before I have left the car park and late into the night, followed by a 6am 'Hi, I'm awake and horny...thinking of you'...
I have men want a little more than a peck on the cheek on saying goodbye, after all 'you are on a sex site love' etc etc.
Jesus! Where do you live?!
In the central area for creepy men obviously "
Clearly. Carry on.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Always a social for me, I need to know if I feel comfortable in their company. Because I seek regular, I need to have more of a connection than pure lust, if I am going to spend more time in their company.
I also see how they behave when I walk away.
Bit creepy that.... do you hide in bushes?
I have had men throw strops in the car park, they have brought a weekend bag to a Friday evening social. They fully expected to stay the weekend, as they were free. A social to them meant, meet, get on, move on to sex fuelled weekend.
I have had many men absolutely bombard me with texts to meet again before I have left the car park and late into the night, followed by a 6am 'Hi, I'm awake and horny...thinking of you'...
I have men want a little more than a peck on the cheek on saying goodbye, after all 'you are on a sex site love' etc etc."
One of the main reasons I do socials first! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Either way..
Hell, I don't think I have ever seen such a short reply/view off you "
Lol.. it was a simple answer Not everything is 50 shades of Grey Most is though.. so I try to pick those words carefully lol. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Either way..
Hell, I don't think I have ever seen such a short reply/view off you
Lol.. it was a simple answer Not everything is 50 shades of Grey Most is though.. so I try to pick those words carefully lol."
Well nobody can accuse you of being predictable |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Always a social for me, I need to know if I feel comfortable in their company. Because I seek regular, I need to have more of a connection than pure lust, if I am going to spend more time in their company.
I also see how they behave when I walk away.
Bit creepy that.... do you hide in bushes?
I have had men throw strops in the car park, they have brought a weekend bag to a Friday evening social. They fully expected to stay the weekend, as they were free. A social to them meant, meet, get on, move on to sex fuelled weekend.
I have had many men absolutely bombard me with texts to meet again before I have left the car park and late into the night, followed by a 6am 'Hi, I'm awake and horny...thinking of you'...
I have men want a little more than a peck on the cheek on saying goodbye, after all 'you are on a sex site love' etc etc."
Bloody hell ! I would never presume that coffee guaranteed a 'sex fuelled weekend' !!  |
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With two couples involved, we would want some social interaction to see how the chemistry works. As initial arrangements are actually made by one of each couple communicating, so only by meeting face to face can you weigh up how all four of you feel about playing.
That said, if everyone was open and honest about their views and tastes, the social should just be a formality and a chance to explore equally imaginative minds before the main event . . .
I did have a different approach though when on sites as a single male some years ago. Often received direct invitations from couples to drop everything and travel for a meet - an offer only available for that evening on their terms. Needless to say the journey was often a mixture of nervous excitement and increasing _icentious lust . . .  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I always offer a social. One accepted and things nearly got out of hand but we didn't have the opportunity. The other invited me to her house for our first meeting and things got severely out of hand...The thing was I had chatted to both for quite a while before we met so we were both pretty comfortable. . |
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
Northampton Somewhere |
Social first always. Just to have a quick coffee and to check them out, make sure they are who they say they are etc.
Nothing worse than turning up for a sex meet with someone you've not met previously only to find you dont fancy them. Unless you're happy to take one for the team that's bloody awkward and frustrating!!
Which makes me wonder how many people actually do that (men and women) rather than being honest! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Learnt from experience socials should always happen first. Been in some awkward situations when I've had to fuck/play with someone I don't fancy or vice versa. Took several of those to get into my head - social first!   |
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I like to at least say hello and take my coat off
Serious answer is that it depends on the other party and the agreed intention of the participants.
Sometimes it's all about an almost unexpected itch that needs scratching, there is no intention of repeated meets or longer term relationships - so a quick arrangement through fab or wherever, swap photos to make sure no one will be totally repulsed, and go for it. The itch gets scratched, sometimes its good, sometimes its bad, but I don't think its ever got a chance of being amazing.
Much better for me though is when there is a longer term build up, maybe a random hello message initially, leading to online chat over a period, eventually a social by which time we know quite a bit about each other anyway... Can still end up being good, bad or indifferent, but now there's a possibility that it could be amazing |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Social first always. Just to have a quick coffee and to check them out, make sure they are who they say they are etc.
Nothing worse than turning up for a sex meet with someone you've not met previously only to find you dont fancy them. Unless you're happy to take one for the team that's bloody awkward and frustrating!!
Which makes me wonder how many people actually do that (men and women) rather than being honest!"
This |
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By *hingy2Woman
over a year ago
STOKE ON TRENT |
"Some element of social first for me - now that might mean arranging to meet at a club with a view to playing later if all agree, but couldn't go straight into a sex meet the first time of meeting - would just feel too cold and clinical for me."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sexdate! A word I nicked but describes perfectly ..... it’s a bit like a social, but I’m a trollop and have been known to out on the first date.
V x "
love trollop xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Social first ! My friend went to meet this handsome Greek from another site! He was not who he claim he was , he claimed he had a car accident the reason he looked different ! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Social first ! My friend went to meet this handsome Greek from another site! He was not who he claim he was , he claimed he had a car accident the reason he looked different ! "
Depends how savvy you are I guess. I've never had a social and never had anything like that happen. |
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By *olarfoxMan
over a year ago
North Cambs |
I am happy with either, but a separate social is often a bit dependent on distance between one another.
Even if I do not meet with a single woman or a couple beforehand, there is always (and quite naturally) a period (often quite prolonged) of social interaction/getting to know one another/flirtation...this might be in a separate location (ie a pub or hotel bar) before going to a private place for play, or it might just be in the living room before moving things to the bedroom...(although often its already well under way at that stage ).
Of course, be it on a separate day, in a different location, or simply in a living room, there is never (an nor should there be ever) any obligation to take things to the next level unless all concerned are totally comfortable and equally keen to do so. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Social first ! My friend went to meet this handsome Greek from another site! He was not who he claim he was , he claimed he had a car accident the reason he looked different !
Depends how savvy you are I guess. I've never had a social and never had anything like that happen. "
Lucky you ! I only meet at clubs and establish contact. That's was not here,if I would to meet a guy first social.
But we all different. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sexdate! A word I nicked but describes perfectly ..... it’s a bit like a social, but I’m a trollop and have been known to out on the first date.
V x "
I prefer no socials, this is the trollop, Oh sorry lady of the couple speaking, I often play alone with hubby's full knowledge and agreement, never had any issues with the guys I've met. Having said that hubby is really good at ing out the cretins beforehand x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Social first always. Just to have a quick coffee and to check them out, make sure they are who they say they are etc.
Nothing worse than turning up for a sex meet with someone you've not met previously only to find you dont fancy them. Unless you're happy to take one for the team that's bloody awkward and frustrating!!
Which makes me wonder how many people actually do that (men and women) rather than being honest!"
Going by previous posts on similar threads, quite a few. Bizarre! |
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When we first started we always had a social meet first. Now however we don't have as much time so we always meet somewhere public but will play as long as everyone is happy.
It does make the 'thanks but no thanks' a bit more awkward though! awkward |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Where possible - Social
If it’s a logistical nightmare and I really want right meet then I will combine the two with the proviso if I not likey then it goes no further & vice versa.
So far so good but I do take the time to get ro know someone beforehand. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Although I don't mind going for a drink before sex, I don't usually have a social.
A few times I did-when I first joined Fab-they were only after a grope in the pub or a blow job in an alley by the pub.
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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago
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" For me I'm a:
no social.
Social (Phil)
Ah that's interesting. I feel weird telling my wife I'm going out for a drink with another woman. How do you make it feel like less of a date?"
Ask your wife |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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4 or 5 messages on here is enough to tell if we stand a chance of having good naughty fun with people on a similar wavelength, social only meets are a waste of time and energy, if you don’t want to rip each other’s clothes off soon after meeting then it won’t happen in the future, you can click socially and it can still be a disaster in the play
So get out there and play if you have a wonderful time, build on that and play again & again.
Never see the point of arranging socials, spending time with people, chatting endlessly on here, then arranging abolay meet only for it to be crap |
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" For me I'm a:
no social.
Social (Phil)
Ah that's interesting. I feel weird telling my wife I'm going out for a drink with another woman. How do you make it feel like less of a date?
Ask your wife"
Well she's really never had a social. I'm not sure what advice she could give me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We always had a social first before a play meet. Mainly because we never send face pics. Its usually just a quick drink and chat. It worked well for us. The only time we didnt was if we clicked with someone while at a club. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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" For me I'm a:
no social.
Social (Phil)
Ah that's interesting. I feel weird telling my wife I'm going out for a drink with another woman. How do you make it feel like less of a date?
Ask your wife
Well she's really never had a social. I'm not sure what advice she could give me."
Meet for a coffee then, hardly date like material discussing why your on a swingers / sex site whilst sipping a latte...  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I love a good social!
Nothing builds expectation more if the chemistry is there and the flirting is free flowing and spontaneous.
The sex is so much better afterwards "
This. |
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