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Is the word Vanilla exclusively used by Swingers??
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By * and B OP Couple
over a year ago
Durham |
Try and keep this short.
On Facebook Mrs F seen a friend say 'I don't do Vanilla, its boring' This friend is the woman that made Mrs F realise she is Bi. When they worked together years ago she fancied the arse off her, as she kept eyeing Mrs F up under her fringe. So what do we read into this statement. Swinger or not a Swinger. How would she even approach the subject with her?
What a Valentine present that would be if she not only found out she was on Fab but Bi as well  |
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"Its used heavily by the kink community- not necessarily going to be a bi lady x"
This
. . .and many in the kink community would probably categorise most swingers and swinging in general to be vanilla too. |
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By * and B OP Couple
over a year ago
Durham |
"It doesn't mean she's Bi or on Fab x"
Yes we know it doesn't mean she's Bi. We know its widely used in the Swinging and Fet community just not heard it in main stream before, Even when newbies join this lifestyle they have never heard the term before as we often have to explain the term to new Swingers |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My ears stand on end when someone uses the word "Fab" Its not something i commonly use outside of here.. so when its said.. im like rrrreheheeeeally? i wonder  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I know of people who say this word and are not on fab. So I don't think it's fab specific or swinger/kink specific. That terminology has been around for a while. I've even heard the younger generation say it |
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We must admit we had never heard the word vanilla used before we were swingers. As a swinger tho we use it a lot but usually only to others in the lifestyle. So if we heard it used in our everyday lives we would wonder if the person was also a swinger definitely.
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"My ears stand on end when someone uses the word "Fab" Its not something i commonly use outside of here.. so when its said.. im like rrrreheheeeeally? i wonder "
I use ‘fab’ all the time, have done for years!! I would also use the word ‘vanilla’ as something basic & safe long before I got into fet or swinging, so neither is necessarily a sign.
Equally, it could be - who knows!!
It’s definitely not a secret code word only used by Swingers!! |
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By * and B OP Couple
over a year ago
Durham |
"If using the word "Fab" is a code word for swingers then both Lyons Maid and the Thunderbirds have a lot to answer for!!
And the Fab Four . . . "
Despatches on TV the other day about Premiere Inn, the presenter kept using the word FAB. Do you think he knew who the main customers are |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It’s used in the IT industry for software that is straight out the box, unconfigured, not customised. So I guess we’re all customised and not straight out the box! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Try and keep this short.
On Facebook Mrs F seen a friend say 'I don't do Vanilla, its boring' This friend is the woman that made Mrs F realise she is Bi. When they worked together years ago she fancied the arse off her, as she kept eyeing Mrs F up under her fringe. So what do we read into this statement. Swinger or not a Swinger. How would she even approach the subject with her?
What a Valentine present that would be if she not only found out she was on Fab but Bi as well "
She could mention she read something about swinging and see what her friend's reaction is.
What if her friend was horrified and outed you? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"She probably meant vanilla in the context of ‘basic’, ‘conventional’, or ‘straight forward’?
Her levels of ‘normal’ may not align with some on here though . . .  "
 ^ this. I used the term long before I joined a sex site for exactly this purpose |
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By *lceeWoman
over a year ago
Leeds |
It was originally a BDSM term for anyone that was straight-down-the-line, not into fetishes or D/s of some sort.
I use vanilla in that term - most swingers I’ve met or know are definitively vanilla! Sleeping with more than one person makes you madagascan vanilla at best  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It was originally a BDSM term for anyone that was straight-down-the-line, not into fetishes or D/s of some sort.
I use vanilla in that term - most swingers I’ve met or know are definitively vanilla! Sleeping with more than one person makes you madagascan vanilla at best "
you really are addicted aren't you........come and lie on my couch  |
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By *lceeWoman
over a year ago
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"It was originally a BDSM term for anyone that was straight-down-the-line, not into fetishes or D/s of some sort.
I use vanilla in that term - most swingers I’ve met or know are definitively vanilla! Sleeping with more than one person makes you madagascan vanilla at best you really are addicted aren't you........come and lie on my couch "
Ooohhh...is this for some kinky ‘therapist-patient’ play? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It was originally a BDSM term for anyone that was straight-down-the-line, not into fetishes or D/s of some sort.
I use vanilla in that term - most swingers I’ve met or know are definitively vanilla! Sleeping with more than one person makes you madagascan vanilla at best you really are addicted aren't you........come and lie on my couch
Ooohhh...is this for some kinky ‘therapist-patient’ play? "
yes .........I'll play the shrink you play the oh woh is me I'm addicted to swinging patient |
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By *lceeWoman
over a year ago
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"It was originally a BDSM term for anyone that was straight-down-the-line, not into fetishes or D/s of some sort.
I use vanilla in that term - most swingers I’ve met or know are definitively vanilla! Sleeping with more than one person makes you madagascan vanilla at best you really are addicted aren't you........come and lie on my couch
Ooohhh...is this for some kinky ‘therapist-patient’ play? yes .........I'll play the shrink you play the oh woh is me I'm addicted to swinging patient "
“Oh doctor, won’t you help me out here? I just can’t get enough! What would you prescribe?”
*tries not to giggle* |
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By * and B OP Couple
over a year ago
Durham |
"Try and keep this short.
On Facebook Mrs F seen a friend say 'I don't do Vanilla, its boring' This friend is the woman that made Mrs F realise she is Bi. When they worked together years ago she fancied the arse off her, as she kept eyeing Mrs F up under her fringe. So what do we read into this statement. Swinger or not a Swinger. How would she even approach the subject with her?
What a Valentine present that would be if she not only found out she was on Fab but Bi as well
She could mention she read something about swinging and see what her friend's reaction is.
What if her friend was horrified and outed you?"
We are not really bothered if folk know our sexual preferences if we get outed, people make up stories every day about people true or not true so we don't dwell on what people say or do to be honest. When we moved where we live now 15 years ago people labeled us as swingers then, we've only been in the scene 2 years so we were outed 13 years before we were swinging |
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By *lceeWoman
over a year ago
Leeds |
"Try and keep this short.
On Facebook Mrs F seen a friend say 'I don't do Vanilla, its boring' This friend is the woman that made Mrs F realise she is Bi. When they worked together years ago she fancied the arse off her, as she kept eyeing Mrs F up under her fringe. So what do we read into this statement. Swinger or not a Swinger. How would she even approach the subject with her?
What a Valentine present that would be if she not only found out she was on Fab but Bi as well
She could mention she read something about swinging and see what her friend's reaction is.
What if her friend was horrified and outed you?
We are not really bothered if folk know our sexual preferences if we get outed, people make up stories every day about people true or not true so we don't dwell on what people say or do to be honest. When we moved where we live now 15 years ago people labeled us as swingers then, we've only been in the scene 2 years so we were outed 13 years before we were swinging "
Ha! Well, if you’ve been fingered for the crime you might as well live up to it . How on earth did that happen?! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Try and keep this short.
On Facebook Mrs F seen a friend say 'I don't do Vanilla, its boring' This friend is the woman that made Mrs F realise she is Bi. When they worked together years ago she fancied the arse off her, as she kept eyeing Mrs F up under her fringe. So what do we read into this statement. Swinger or not a Swinger. How would she even approach the subject with her?
What a Valentine present that would be if she not only found out she was on Fab but Bi as well
She could mention she read something about swinging and see what her friend's reaction is.
What if her friend was horrified and outed you?
We are not really bothered if folk know our sexual preferences if we get outed, people make up stories every day about people true or not true so we don't dwell on what people say or do to be honest. When we moved where we live now 15 years ago people labeled us as swingers then, we've only been in the scene 2 years so we were outed 13 years before we were swinging
Ha! Well, if you’ve been fingered for the crime you might as well live up to it . How on earth did that happen?!"
Fingered
Just ask her OP. |
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By * and B OP Couple
over a year ago
Durham |
"Try and keep this short.
On Facebook Mrs F seen a friend say 'I don't do Vanilla, its boring' This friend is the woman that made Mrs F realise she is Bi. When they worked together years ago she fancied the arse off her, as she kept eyeing Mrs F up under her fringe. So what do we read into this statement. Swinger or not a Swinger. How would she even approach the subject with her?
What a Valentine present that would be if she not only found out she was on Fab but Bi as well
She could mention she read something about swinging and see what her friend's reaction is.
What if her friend was horrified and outed you?
We are not really bothered if folk know our sexual preferences if we get outed, people make up stories every day about people true or not true so we don't dwell on what people say or do to be honest. When we moved where we live now 15 years ago people labeled us as swingers then, we've only been in the scene 2 years so we were outed 13 years before we were swinging
Ha! Well, if you’ve been fingered for the crime you might as well live up to it . How on earth did that happen?!"
It's a small village. We used to invite our biker mates round for parties when we first moved in and the locals made up an elaborate story. Mrs F has always dressed in little dresses and skirts so fueled the fire. When we did get into the scene Mrs F did say 'what if people find out' I reminded her they knew before us, she smiled and shrugged her shoulders. People still come and go to our house like they have for 15 years, just the locals are correct now in what we do. Always good to keep people happy |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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First I came across it was in the 50 shades book along with half of the population.
Omg did I say that out load, bracing self for incoming pitchforks... |
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By * and B OP Couple
over a year ago
Durham |
"First I came across it was in the 50 shades book along with half of the population.
Omg did I say that out load, bracing self for incoming pitchforks... "
50 shades, a lot to answer to that book  |
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By * and B OP Couple
over a year ago
Durham |
Here's an update. Mrs F sent a message back saying we don't do vanilla either. Looking back at you under my fringe. So that's her hint and intentions. This is an old friend she sees very little of. A message came back saying 'lol xxxx' |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It was originally a BDSM term for anyone that was straight-down-the-line, not into fetishes or D/s of some sort.
I use vanilla in that term - most swingers I’ve met or know are definitively vanilla! Sleeping with more than one person makes you madagascan vanilla at best you really are addicted aren't you........come and lie on my couch
Ooohhh...is this for some kinky ‘therapist-patient’ play? yes .........I'll play the shrink you play the oh woh is me I'm addicted to swinging patient
“Oh doctor, won’t you help me out here? I just can’t get enough! What would you prescribe?”
*tries not to giggle*"
abstinence its the only way |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Vanilla can be a term used by some SAAS offerings. The first time I heard the vanilla offering I did smile until I realised it was a basic package without any customisation |
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"Vanilla is used in many kink circles tbh
She may just be a kinky mare and a disliker of normal vanilla sex.
Isn't that how we all got into swinging "
Well i guess so but many don't swing but are kinky buggers that use toys, rope, whips etc
Or might just like hardcore sex like a porn movie with a partner lol.
Many people in many types of kink use the term vanilla i guess was my point x |
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"A lot of people would look at Fab as vanilla and we tend to agree"
Surely the site is only what the members are? Seems to be a broad mix of people on here, but I’m certain there are other sites that cater more for extreme kink. |
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