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Are single guys into "soft" threesomes?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Pretty much as the title says..
We're interested in the option of a soft threesome, but I (miss) are not interested in penetration from another guy. Well maybe for DP but not to start with, maybe after gotten to know the guy a bit.
So are single guys into oral/touching soft threesomes? |
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You might want to not mention the possibility of DP further down the line, I suspect you may attract people for the wrong reasons.
Might be an idea to give a fuller explanation of what you regard as 'soft' in an MMF situation. |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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"You might want to not mention the possibility of DP further down the line, I suspect you may attract people for the wrong reasons.
Might be an idea to give a fuller explanation of what you regard as 'soft' in an MMF situation."
I totally agree... good luck and sure you will find someone... have fun x |
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I find it great fun watching another couple and then being allowed to play with the girl giving oral satisfaction. But guess you need to agree on the boundaries. Penetration maybe next time hopefully if not on first meet! |
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By *evilwolfCouple
over a year ago
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"You might want to not mention the possibility of DP further down the line, I suspect you may attract people for the wrong reasons.
Might be an idea to give a fuller explanation of what you regard as 'soft' in an MMF situation."
Not soft in the Liverpudlian sense neither 
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"You'd need to select your guy with great care.
Many will say they are fine with soft play only, but be hoping that when things heat up one thing leads to another.
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Goes without saying.
Bad enough trying to find the right "couples" to play with due to "expectations".
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There certainly are single guys who would be happy to watch, take photos, operate a camcorder for you. There will even be guys on here who will give you a massage without expectation of sex.
(Dunno about travelling to Virginia though)  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Totally. There are guys out there who understand boundaries and who meet up without expectations of things going further. Find the right guy and you'll do fine. |
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Think your best be might be to be REALLY specific about what's going to be happening - almost script it like a scene from a movie, each player knows there part, knows when to start, what do to, and importantly, when to 'leave stage left'.
At a guess the way to make the scenario work would be to ensure that 'guest male' is the one who cums first, thus removing him from the scene before he gets all overcome with emotion and tries to mount the leading lady, thus causing an 'out-take'.
On reflection, get me along to be the Director. I'll sit in a tall chair, shout 'action' and then talk the players through the scene, remembering to shout 'cut' if anyone goes off script.
I'm a fucking genius me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Miss Blonde, I don't think you'll have any trouble finding a guy - I would imagine that most guys would be happy to just sit adoringly at your feet.
I have played with single guys where its been soft play only and then they've watched me and the OH, there are guys out there. Admittedly lots of guys will hope for more and you need to be specific about what will take place, but as your part of a couple then no guy is gonna force you to do more if another guy is there.
And let's face it most guys would be happy about the chance to soft play with you rather than nothing at all  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Keeping something back like this could make the whole situation hotter I reckon, but I agree with making sure the limits are set out clearly before hand. |
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By *DSRMan
over a year ago
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yes soft 3 somes sounds nice, i don't think sex is an absolute necessity with a meet, and i know alot of men/girls enjoy orals as much as sex... I guess it's person dependant but i recon most men would really enjoy it, but on multiple meets? Would they start to push for more? i think it would take a rare bread of person to continue in such antics without things going further
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Was wondering this myself (Hubby), wasn't sure if someone would be prepared to just take part in oral for a mmf.
We are just starting out with this lifestyle and Wifey wants to take small steps....
We've had a couple of meets, but this could be another step. |
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"Was wondering this myself (Hubby), wasn't sure if someone would be prepared to just take part in oral for a mmf.
We are just starting out with this lifestyle and Wifey wants to take small steps....
We've had a couple of meets, but this could be another step."
Looking at the pic of hubby on your profile, if he said "do not fuck my wife", I would not fuck his wife.
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By *habsMan
over a year ago
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"Miss Blonde, I don't think you'll have any trouble finding a guy - I would imagine that most guys would be happy to just sit adoringly at your feet.
I have played with single guys where its been soft play only and then they've watched me and the OH, there are guys out there. Admittedly lots of guys will hope for more and you need to be specific about what will take place, but as your part of a couple then no guy is gonna force you to do more if another guy is there.
And let's face it most guys would be happy about the chance to soft play with you rather than nothing at all "
Lol "most guys" making me the exception as I'd fall into the "rather nothing at all" category.
I don't mean I'd jump the gum on a pre-arranged soft-swing meet, but after a few years I'm happy to have a sit down coffe/chat/social meet .. or a full play meet. Soft-swing (as a meet) does nothing for me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Was wondering this myself (Hubby), wasn't sure if someone would be prepared to just take part in oral for a mmf.
We are just starting out with this lifestyle and Wifey wants to take small steps....
We've had a couple of meets, but this could be another step.
Looking at the pic of hubby on your profile, if he said "do not fuck my wife", I would not fuck his wife.
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We had our first single guy meet at the weekend, chatted for a while, met socially, set boundaries, he and I chatted in bar so everyone knew what was happening, even time frame and when to leave etc.
Got upstairs where Sugar was waiting and everything flowed and we all had a fantastic time.
Guy said it was great he knew where he stood beforehand, and could relax and enjoy himself without having to second guess what we were thinking. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yep, can be done for sure, we have done it If a 3rd party cannot respect your wishes beforehand, well he obviously has difficulty with grasping "respect", end of the day, the female is in the driving seat and that needs to be made very clear right from the outset, on your profile, messages, phone, social etc and then and only then,if ALL are happy, you move forward |
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By *rummpsMan
over a year ago
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Yes of course it can happen and often does.
You just need to pick your prospective “playmates” carefully and be very specific about what will or won’t occur.
I think that most guys practice respect for others. Or I hope they would.
_rummps x
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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prefer to give oral to a woman so I suppose that puts me in the minority on here?
For me I get a bigger buzz having a woman lose herself from my tongue and fingers and hearing/seeing her reactions.
You`d be suprised how many are happily suprised to fing you wanting to carry on after they`ve cum a few times without wanting to penetrate them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Its not a problem for me. If you join in with someone at their invitation then they set the rules thats comfortable for them. If you want "in" and they don't and you don't like it,move on, gracefully declining their offer.Have had several of these kind of meets in the past and it was fine with me. Hedonistic you have a kindred spirit in Suffolk. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Mmmm.. speaking just for myself, ... No
But you're entitled to specify what the boundaries are, and single guys, who respond, should respect them, completely.
Best of luck, and have fun.
"Pretty much as the title says..
We're interested in the option of a soft threesome, but I (miss) are not interested in penetration from another guy. Well maybe for DP but not to start with, maybe after gotten to know the guy a bit.
So are single guys into oral/touching soft threesomes?"
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So long as this boundary was known before meeting see no issue with it.
Talking about what everyone wants is good, particularly when you really know very little about someone else.
A lot of play at swingers clubs counts as soft play.
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By *scottMan
over a year ago
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Soft play 3somes are great fun. As long as rules are set beforehand. A couple I see regular (not from site) started as a soft play mmf. We were all happy with it, and it was like that for over 6 months before we progressed to full play. During those 6 months we met most weeks so we played soft plenty of times.
I love soft play as it genrally is a slower more relaxed pace, which suits my play style.
So anybody looking to play this way when you find prospective playmates, just talk and set guidelines for all involved. Then let the good times role.
Good luck and happy swinging. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm more than happy to just soft swing. For me I would be happy just for a couple to want to meet me as its hard enough to find a couple that are looking for a guy in the first place. |
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i dont speak for us all tho 