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I think a lot of men prefer us bubbly women (and a lot prefer slim girls too) so I wouldn’t worry xxx | |||
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"The sexiest thing is confidence. Easier said than done when you feel a bit low, but own it, strut your stuff and trust me you'll drive any man wild" This is what I do every time ! I’m sure 99% of people have many hangups But as already said Strut your stuff with CONFIDENCE | |||
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"Good for you - I genuinely don’t think I’d be able to walk into one of the clubs..... I know it’s daft and it takes all sorts of shapes and sizes.....I’d love to have the confidence x" Going to clubs dressed in sexy clothes or lingerie will help you with your confidence ! It did me | |||
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"m sorry...but whenever men post these threads they get the standard answer, so you'll have to have it too.. Men like ALL shapes and sizes, some like very slim, some like very large, if everyone said curvy would that make you super confident...I very much doubt it. Love yourself first."  | |||
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"I think a lot of us curvy girls lack confidence sometimes especially those of us whose curves are in the right places but the wrong ones too !! but so do skinny women too .. but as others say confidence is sexy so own it ! What ever your size ! So many women knock other women down when what they should be doing is boosting them up ! I worry men and women won’t like my body so it’s stated in my profile text my size and wobbly bits ! and in my friends folder pics of said bits ! That way people will know what to expect and can choose not to meet us if not for them . Xx " I assure you, you are very sexy and have nothing to worry about | |||
"I think a lot of us curvy girls lack confidence sometimes especially those of us whose curves are in the right places but the wrong ones too !! but so do skinny women too .. but as others say confidence is sexy so own it ! What ever your size ! So many women knock other women down when what they should be doing is boosting them up ! I worry men and women won’t like my body so it’s stated in my profile text my size and wobbly bits ! and in my friends folder pics of said bits ! That way people will know what to expect and can choose not to meet us if not for them . Xx I assure you, you are very sexy and have nothing to worry about " Thankyou | |||
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"Just been chatting with the Hubby as feeling a bit body conscious right now as carry a few more pounds than normal and not feeling as confident as normal. Do you men (or Ladies) really mind the curvier woman as I’m paranoid we’d arrange a meet and then the guy not fancy me!!! " We both love a curvier woman and they tend to go to the top of our list lol | |||
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"Loads - however I just think sometimes as another poster said, they don’t care what you look like, it’s just a shag!! I, don’t think some men really care as long as they are getting their end away lol....." Someone said earlier.. beauty is on the inside. Somebody else said, it's he pays attention to how a woman holds herself. I'd hazard a guess he's talking about Body Confidence. For me, both these statements ring true. Only it's not so easy finding someone who is Body Confident. Unfortunately you're not alone it seems. In my experience, nearly every woman I've been romantically and/or physically involved with dislikes her own body, that upsets me. I started a thread on body dysmorphia a long time ago. You'd be surprised at the number and the bodies of some of the women who joined the thread and admitted they didn't feel comfortable about their body. Some of the most "Traditionally attractive" Physiques were on show and these women felt ashamed. They said they weren't happy about their bums, buns, boobs, thighs, stretch marks, scars, cellulite and so on. It's quite upsetting, if I'm honest. I don't know if it's porn, fashion, advertising, film, music or the result of men's shallowness as a whole. Women tend to be less fussy about a man's body and less shallow as a general rule of thumb (I think). I spent most of the thread trying to point out that they are being silly. Look at the attention all women get on here, yes, in a majority of cases... the man might just be after a shag. He's considered you though, you can't be that unattractive - unless you reject him ofcourse   Then obviously you've suddenly become a fat pig! That he never wanted anyway.. funny that.. Only it's not, is it?
I've hidden my Veri' s now I'm back on the Forum, I can be quite opinionated and don't shy from confrontation, so it's in an effort to shield my friends from my honesty and openness.
My very first Verification is from a larger woman. She was so confident and I was putty in her hands. She gave me back some of my confidence after a difficult break up. Taught me how to be tactile again, without it having to involve emotional feelings. We're still friends, she's not really on Fab anymore, she's in a relationship with a guy with a better body than I have and they are both very much in love.
The male attention you get on here tells you all you need to know. There are plenty of threads on here that cater to all shapes and sizes.
There's nothing wrong with being concerned about your appearance, a little care and attention and desire to self improve is healthy. If it's beginning to upset you, or hold you back till you're the ideal figure.. Then maybe try and relax a little, think about what I've said and consider looking for a different kind of person, instead of waiting for them to come to you.
I like wandering around naked, I'm more than comfy in my dad bod, I like my scars, they're memories and lessons learned. I like exploring other bodies, stretch marks can be rather beautiful if you think about what caused them in the first place.
Obviously I got called a White Knight for suggesting such blasphemy and no doubt I'll attract it again. I stand by what I say though.
I hope you start to see the beauty that all your admirers see in you x | |||
"Loads - however I just think sometimes as another poster said, they don’t care what you look like, it’s just a shag!! I, don’t think some men really care as long as they are getting their end away lol..... Someone said earlier.. beauty is on the inside. Somebody else said, it's he pays attention to how a woman holds herself. I'd hazard a guess he's talking about Body Confidence. For me, both these statements ring true. Only it's not so easy finding someone who is Body Confident. Unfortunately you're not alone it seems. In my experience, nearly every woman I've been romantically and/or physically involved with dislikes her own body, that upsets me. I started a thread on body dysmorphia a long time ago. You'd be surprised at the number and the bodies of some of the women who joined the thread and admitted they didn't feel comfortable about their body. Some of the most "Traditionally attractive" Physiques were on show and these women felt ashamed. They said they weren't happy about their bums, buns, boobs, thighs, stretch marks, scars, cellulite and so on. It's quite upsetting, if I'm honest. I don't know if it's porn, fashion, advertising, film, music or the result of men's shallowness as a whole. Women tend to be less fussy about a man's body and less shallow as a general rule of thumb (I think). I spent most of the thread trying to point out that they are being silly. Look at the attention all women get on here, yes, in a majority of cases... the man might just be after a shag. He's considered you though, you can't be that unattractive - unless you reject him ofcourse Then obviously you've suddenly become a fat pig! That he never wanted anyway.. funny that.. Only it's not, is it?
I've hidden my Veri' s now I'm back on the Forum, I can be quite opinionated and don't shy from confrontation, so it's in an effort to shield my friends from my honesty and openness.
My very first Verification is from a larger woman. She was so confident and I was putty in her hands. She gave me back some of my confidence after a difficult break up. Taught me how to be tactile again, without it having to involve emotional feelings. We're still friends, she's not really on Fab anymore, she's in a relationship with a guy with a better body than I have and they are both very much in love.
The male attention you get on here tells you all you need to know. There are plenty of threads on here that cater to all shapes and sizes.
There's nothing wrong with being concerned about your appearance, a little care and attention and desire to self improve is healthy. If it's beginning to upset you, or hold you back till you're the ideal figure.. Then maybe try and relax a little, think about what I've said and consider looking for a different kind of person, instead of waiting for them to come to you.
I like wandering around naked, I'm more than comfy in my dad bod, I like my scars, they're memories and lessons learned. I like exploring other bodies, stretch marks can be rather beautiful if you think about what caused them in the first place.
Obviously I got called a White Knight for suggesting such blasphemy and no doubt I'll attract it again. I stand by what I say though.
I hope you start to see the beauty that all your admirers see in you x"Thank you for this comment this made me think and actually yes every scar and stretch mark does have a story and is part of me. Thank you we dont often sit and think about it like that x | |||
"Thanks JustPeachy....I’m not massively bigger than my pics, just take a them at a good angle and avoid my Mummy tummy lol!! It’s nice to ask as it’s not something I can talk about with my friends lol.....don’t think they would really understand. X" Tell me about it! 
Fab is a secret fun life for most of us! My friends would never understand why I spend twice as much on lingerie as I do on clothes! 
Ps - most mothers have some kind of mummy tummy - myself included! The ones that don’t (*probably) did a deal with the devil!
Seriously - since joining fab I’ve realised that most of us are far more critical of ourselves than others are!
Just be honest about yourself, relax and enjoy!
Big hugs
Peachy xxx | |||
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"Thanks.....your very sweet and possibly very wise!!! " Thanks lovely - the wisdom seems to be an inevitable result of being an old fart!  | |||
"Just been chatting with the Hubby as feeling a bit body conscious right now as carry a few more pounds than normal and not feeling as confident as normal. Do you men (or Ladies) really mind the curvier woman as I’m paranoid we’d arrange a meet and then the guy not fancy me!!! " It wouldn't put me off at all. | |||
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"Just been chatting with the Hubby as feeling a bit body conscious right now as carry a few more pounds than normal and not feeling as confident as normal. Do you men (or Ladies) really mind the curvier woman as I’m paranoid we’d arrange a meet and then the guy not fancy me!!! " Some guys only like skinny girls, but they are fewer than most girls think. Most guys like a girl with curves and female perception of guys tastes are usually well off the mark. As long as u have decent pics on your profile that are relatively recent then nobody can have any complaints really. Trust me, us guys worry about stuff like this too. So just keep the pics recent and representative and unless you are meeting an arsehole or someone stupid you should be absolutely fine, get meeting! | |||
"Lot or most men are not body confident but also penis size lol." Well said that man! | |||
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"The sexiest thing is confidence. Easier said than done when you feel a bit low, but own it, strut your stuff and trust me you'll drive any man wild This is what I do every time ! I’m sure 99% of people have many hangups But as already said Strut your stuff with CONFIDENCE "Definitely this!! You’re gorgeous as you are, you just have to believe it!! xx | |||
