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Does it put you off?
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"I agree with the OP theres one individual who is shall we say 'well used',,,,,,,, good for her I say just puts me off if I see her on a profile from someone who mails me . And before you all jump on me I know what the sites for but I also have the right to be choosy and not meet people I think are prolific players ! x "Hope you dont mean me juciee! lol | |||
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I have a lot of verifications, some on consecutive nights. In fact a fair few of my veris were on the same night, as gangbangs tend to have more than one guy per woman. But now I know that there are some women that are put off gentlemen who have slept with me because I am a bit of a slapper ( ) then I'll check before we have sex, to make sure they don't mind being blacklisted. | |||
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"Lancs I think we both know who I'm talking about !!!!!!!!! x "I do know who you mean | |||
I do think in a way what is said in a verification is more important to me than the amount of people they have met...
so if I am doing the paper trail thing, I go to see what they have written about others (was it graphic, have they been indiscreet ect ect..) and I think that is more likely to put me off.... | |||
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"I show my Verifications because i hope it provers im reliable and trustworthy ..." I sometimes think on this site its damned if you do and damned if you don't! | |||
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"I think verifications are tacky myself, I find lots of them very offputting and I think what should is private should remain private. That however is just my opinion" Ah, but you have a great arse so don't need them  | |||
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I won't meet anyone that doesn't have a coaster under there glass/cup, in pics
But seriously, well done again to the OP and your certainly not on your own...Six degrees of separation, is not always a good thing | |||
and not all my meets are from here... but I do sometimes get lots in a week.. or even the same day.
Doesnt bother me as if someone would judge me because I am on a sex site and meet people I would not want to meet them.
Cali x | |||
 then I feel like it's rude not to oblige. That makes me cringe cause effectively I'm shouting about who I've fucked. I'd be much happier it there was an opt out option, which I guess there is, by not showing them. I'd like control over who shows the ones I've given though. | |||
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"sorry, one more addition, I do the " paper trail" thing myself I must confess and if someone who has initially been interesting proves to have met lots of people I would consider, I don't know how to put this, I shall say "not for me", then I usually rule them out on that. I'm not passing any judgement on anyone, that's just what I tend to do." Dear girl, this is the forums, it's ALL about passing judgement on people. Preferably on the flimsiest of evidence and with a hearty dose of your own prejudices thrown in for good measure. Dontcha know? | |||
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"Six degrees of separation, is not always a good thing "I tried it at that angle once, but it bent my willy and made it hurt. | |||
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"I say well done to the OP for having the balls, to write about what a lot of us probably do and or think....this is what forums are for after all and certainly beats the usual, 'would you fuck me please?' thread
I won't meet anyone that doesn't have a coaster under there glass/cup, in pics
But seriously, well done again to the OP and your certainly not on your own...Six degrees of separation, is not always a good thing "My thoughts exactly. I make up my mind to meet based entirely on the message to me. However, human nature being what it is if they are verified by someone who has openly written on the forums they only bareback say, and they have "safe sex only" in capitals say, then I decline their kind offer to play! Judgemental? Yes, but that's how I roll. | |||
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"I agree with the OP theres one individual who is shall we say 'well used',,,,,,,, good for her I say just puts me off if I see her on a profile from someone who mails me . And before you all jump on me I know what the sites for but I also have the right to be choosy and not meet people I think are prolific players ! x "I've known one of your recent meets for a good 20+ years.... you're not very good at sussing out the prolific players | |||
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"I won't meet anyone that doesn't have a coaster under there glass/cup, in pics "Are you really Monica from Friends 
Oh and as for the veris,
I sometimes leave them, sometimes they leave them,
some of them are social,some from play meets,
some are from women, some from men, some I display, some I don't,
and I care not what others think-unless they are people I have met or those I wish to meet. | |||
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"I won't meet anyone that doesn't have a coaster under there glass/cup, in pics
Are you really Monica from Friends
Oh and as for the veris,
I sometimes leave them, sometimes they leave them,
some of them are social,some from play meets,
some are from women, some from men, some I display, some I don't,
and I care not what others think-unless they are people I have met or those I wish to meet."I have a Monica room but shhhhh! don't tell anyone 
We are all human (debatable I know) so we are always going to be picky, its in our nature to be. It can be on sex, lifestyle, dirty carpets, and/or potatoes but it will always be something. | |||
"does it matter if a person is well used as someone put it?.....shows shes popular with the guys....strikes me that certain people maybe jealous...?" Why is someone jealous of a person they don't aspire to be like? Is it from the same school of thought that cries "their loss" when people don't want to meet them? | |||
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"i like verifications and i enjoy reading veris from people who i meet as well, as a single women i have to think of my safety and i do check people out, i have to...people say its private what happens between people but it doesnt seem so private at a club does it unless u lock the door to ur room and shut the curtains...some veris make intersting reading and i enjoy them.." We like em too and no one is obliged to put one up after all. | |||
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"Well this thread has certainly opened my eyes and believe you me that takes some doing" Ooooh... gonna elaborate oh soapy one?! | |||
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"I like to make up my own mind about people. Some people like marmite, some don't! "Yup... in the same way I pay no heed to film reviews... I have a mind of my own and will decide on my interaction with someone whether I meet them or not. I guess I just value discretion and it seems that the verification system takes that away. | |||
"I like to make up my own mind about people. Some people like marmite, some don't!
Yup... in the same way I pay no heed to film reviews... I have a mind of my own and will decide on my interaction with someone whether I meet them or not. I guess I just value discretion and it seems that the verification system takes that away. "+1. Nice bum! | |||
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"It's not so much numbers... you wanna meet ten men a day/a week/a month then knock yourself out... none of my business. My issue is that several men who have contacted me have fucked the same woman. It's not a judgement on her, it's not so much a judgement on them... it's more a judgement of my rules and regulations and what I feel about it. I can't help how I feel. I can't change it. However, if I'd not read those verifications (it's not even the content) then I'd be none the wiser and it wouldn't cloud my judgement as to who had fucked who. I could have a million verifications, who's to know? I just don't need to know. It's not relevant but because I do know it puts me off. " I know what you mean as I feel the same. Unreasonable, but as you've said, you can't change how you feel. | |||
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"does it matter if a person is well used as someone put it?.....shows shes popular with the guys....strikes me that certain people maybe jealous...? Why is someone jealous of a person they don't aspire to be like? Is it from the same school of thought that cries "their loss" when people don't want to meet them? "I dont think its a jealous thing for me it dont come into it. I dont aspire to be like some and do read feed backs and it has put me off . | |||
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Also, verification trails just tell you who claims to have met whom, unless they spell it out.
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Thanks for the shrink type peep into my head. I said right at the beginning of the thread and several times since that it's absolutely not a judgement on either the woman or the blokes... it's an observation of something that I feel. I can't and won't change how I feel. I just like to question it every now and then. Doing that out loud on a forum gets you a whole thread of opinions and other aspects to consider that perhaps I hadn't thought of before. I'm an inquisitive soul and I think way too much for my own good sometimes but that's just how I roll.
I don't feel that I've lost out by not meeting or chattering to them. The bit that bugs me is that I don't need to know their sexual history. I wouldn't ask someone I met in a bar about their sexual history as a way of deciding whether I wanted to play with them or not. I use my own instincts, my own standards and my own mind to decide if I want to play with someone.
I guess what it boils down to is that I think a little green tick is enough of a verification for me. I doesn't put me off if there's no tick either. Its swings and roundabouts... what works for some doesn't really work for the next person.
Lovely to read what everyone else thinks though and thank you for the compliments on starting the thread... no need though, I should thank you for allowing me to think out loud cause that, for me, is what forums are all about. | |||
