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By *vetteBondTV/TS
over a year ago
English Riviera |
Oh hunni don't go stressing the poor darlings.
Trying to string an entire sentence together let alone use words of more than one syllable is just to much of a stretch for them and will induce brain ache.
Just look at their glorious non existent profile that has taken all their effort and revel in their imaginative pics of their penis from every conceivable angle and see them for that are...just a cock! |
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"Oh hunni don't go stressing the poor darlings.
Trying to string an entire sentence together let alone use words of more than one syllable is just to much of a stretch for them and will induce brain ache.
Just look at their glorious non existent profile that has taken all their effort and revel in their imaginative pics of their penis from every conceivable angle and see them for that are...just a cock! "
Beautifully put x |
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"This tickles me. Single ladies and couples can do exactly the same, or even just wink, and that's fine.   "
It’s fine or not fine according to the recipient - if you’re happy to go with that, great. If you’re not, great. |
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"So, so far this morning, I have had a 'Hiiiii! A 'hey' and a 'heya!'
I for one, will not even bother looking at a profile after messages like this, come on boys, try a little harder!"
Weird as we've had a fair few lately along with random friend invites from nowhere  |
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"This tickles me. Single ladies and couples can do exactly the same, or even just wink, and that's fine. "
It's fine because men outnumber women to 17 to 1. Hence most men will jump at any female attention, whereas men have to make themselves really attractive.
That's how supply and demand works |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would have sent a message, however...
I'm incapable of a two word sentence.
I am nowhere near Stafford.
I don't meet couples.
I'm not well hung.
I can send you something if you are struggling to sleep at night  |
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By *hil39Man
over a year ago
Dagenham |
"So, so far this morning, I have had a 'Hiiiii! A 'hey' and a 'heya!'
I for one, will not even bother looking at a profile after messages like this, come on boys, try a little harder!"
The trouble is that is often hard to think what to write initially and surly it is a polite way of maybe starting a conversation that will obviously become more in depth, equally I have sometimes written a reasonably long introduction only for that to either be read and deleted or simply deleted so it's a hard thing to get right I guess. |
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"I would have sent a message, however...
I'm incapable of a two word sentence.
I am nowhere near Stafford.
I don't meet couples.
I'm not well hung.
I can send you something if you are struggling to sleep at night "
A sleeping pill?! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So, so far this morning, I have had a 'Hiiiii! A 'hey' and a 'heya!'
I for one, will not even bother looking at a profile after messages like this, come on boys, try a little harder!"
This is NOT , I REPEAT NOT a moan .......
The apposing view to this is, if we men (I include myself here) write the most polite, well mannered message to introduce themselves to say a couple or single fem, we are still likely to ignored - sadly the vast majority don't even try ,
Conversely I have had one MF couple and a women message me today with just "hi there" ....nothing else
We cant win can we lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I would have sent a message, however...
I'm incapable of a two word sentence.
I am nowhere near Stafford.
I don't meet couples.
I'm not well hung.
I can send you something if you are struggling to sleep at night
A sleeping pill?! "
A copy of my profile should be sufficient |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This tickles me. Single ladies and couples can do exactly the same, or even just wink, and that's fine. "
Erm..no! It really isn't! The sex of the sender is unimportant, I will just delete or leave unread, messages from couples and single females if they do the same as the guys who send me messages I delete too! Especially if they do something they rant about singles doing, on their profile!  |
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"This tickles me. Single ladies and couples can do exactly the same, or even just wink, and that's fine.
so, turn the tables and ignore? make them work too?"
Then he'd never get any meets. Like I say, supply and demand. |
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The bottom line is that if you are a hot 25 year old woman and send messages to men and couples you can write any old shit and you will almost certainly get a reply.
Conversely, if you are an average middle aged man and write to women and couples your message can be of Shakespearean standard and you probably still won't get a response.
Does that surprise anyone? |
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"The bottom line is that if you are a hot 25 year old woman and send messages to men and couples you can write any old shit and you will almost certainly get a reply.
Conversely, if you are an average middle aged man and write to women and couples your message can be of Shakespearean standard and you probably still won't get a response.
Does that surprise anyone? "
I’m surprised you think I’d be swayed by a bit of Hamlet tbh. I just wanna see the cock next to a sky remote |
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"The bottom line is that if you are a hot 25 year old woman and send messages to men and couples you can write any old shit and you will almost certainly get a reply.
Conversely, if you are an average middle aged man and write to women and couples your message can be of Shakespearean standard and you probably still won't get a response.
Does that surprise anyone? "
A sonnet would at least pique my interest! Shakespeare however would have limited chance as he couldn't spell!
I'm not overly into looks, attraction for me is in the mind, so yes, a well written message will often elicit a reply. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This tickles me. Single ladies and couples can do exactly the same, or even just wink, and that's fine.
so, turn the tables and ignore? make them work too?
Then he'd never get any meets. Like I say, supply and demand. "
I do. And you're right, I don't! |
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By *hil39Man
over a year ago
Dagenham |
"The bottom line is that if you are a hot 25 year old woman and send messages to men and couples you can write any old shit and you will almost certainly get a reply.
Conversely, if you are an average middle aged man and write to women and couples your message can be of Shakespearean standard and you probably still won't get a response.
Does that surprise anyone? "
100% bang on there |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This tickles me. Single ladies and couples can do exactly the same, or even just wink, and that's fine.
Erm..no! It really isn't! The sex of the sender is unimportant, I will just delete or leave unread, messages from couples and single females if they do the same as the guys who send me messages I delete too! Especially if they do something they rant about singles doing, on their profile! "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This tickles me. Single ladies and couples can do exactly the same, or even just wink, and that's fine. "
When I've sent a first message, it's always well thought out as I'm a stickler for reading profiles first, to make sure I fit their criteria. The issue is, the blanket messaging mentality and hoping for a bite. Plus it's only fine, if the men allow it to be fine |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So, so far this morning, I have had a 'Hiiiii! A 'hey' and a 'heya!'
I for one, will not even bother looking at a profile after messages like this, come on boys, try a little harder!
This is NOT , I REPEAT NOT a moan .......
The apposing view to this is, if we men (I include myself here) write the most polite, well mannered message to introduce themselves to say a couple or single fem, we are still likely to ignored - sadly the vast majority don't even try ,
Conversely I have had one MF couple and a women message me today with just "hi there" ....nothing else
We cant win can we lol "
This is why I very rarely send messages. A profile has to really pique my interest to warrant the amount of time involved in writing a message that will ultimately just be ignored anyway. It's a hard life |
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"The bottom line is that if you are a hot 25 year old woman and send messages to men and couples you can write any old shit and you will almost certainly get a reply.
Conversely, if you are an average middle aged man and write to women and couples your message can be of Shakespearean standard and you probably still won't get a response.
Does that surprise anyone?
I’m surprised you think I’d be swayed by a bit of Hamlet tbh. I just wanna see the cock next to a sky remote "
Is that a cock I see before me
Its bell end towards my hand
Come let me clutch thee.... |
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I often see women and couples complain that men wouldn't go up to someone in real life and ask fancy a fuck so why would they do it here. By the same token they wouldn't go up and tell their life story yet it's expected in an opening message that will likely be ignored anyway. Hi how are you is a perfectly acceptable opening in real life whixh furtheray lead to conversation so why not here? It's extremely demoralising for men who do put in the effort yet still get nowhere |
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"I often see women and couples complain that men wouldn't go up to someone in real life and ask fancy a fuck so why would they do it here. By the same token they wouldn't go up and tell their life story yet it's expected in an opening message that will likely be ignored anyway. Hi how are you is a perfectly acceptable opening in real life whixh furtheray lead to conversation so why not here? It's extremely demoralising for men who do put in the effort yet still get nowhere"
Supply and demand. Women can demand whatever they like on here as there is a very long queue of men vying for their attention. If one guy won't provide it, loads of others will. |
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"The bottom line is that if you are a hot 25 year old woman and send messages to men and couples you can write any old shit and you will almost certainly get a reply.
Conversely, if you are an average middle aged man and write to women and couples your message can be of Shakespearean standard and you probably still won't get a response.
Does that surprise anyone?
I’m surprised you think I’d be swayed by a bit of Hamlet tbh. I just wanna see the cock next to a sky remote
Is that a cock I see before me
Its bell end towards my hand
Come let me clutch thee.... "
And rub til it expands
Continue with the motion well
Until the balls below do swell
Swell until they take no more
And empty ones contents on the floor
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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At the end of the day I really don’t give a shit what’s in the message as long as it’s polite. A hi is fine as long as there’s a face pic attached and I see they match everything I’m looking for and have a well written profile. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I often see women and couples complain that men wouldn't go up to someone in real life and ask fancy a fuck so why would they do it here. By the same token they wouldn't go up and tell their life story yet it's expected in an opening message that will likely be ignored anyway. Hi how are you is a perfectly acceptable opening in real life whixh furtheray lead to conversation so why not here? It's extremely demoralising for men who do put in the effort yet still get nowhere"
Online can't be compared to real life. In real life, that initial attraction can be felt from setting eyes on each other. Online, a little work needs to be put into the initial message, to grab someone's attention, as there is no physical contact to gage whether someone may be interested in taking it a little further or not.  . |
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By *lceeWoman
over a year ago
Leeds |
If I get 50-100 messages a day, I can only answer maybe half a dozen (while continuing my actual, real, offline life that does useful things like pay my mortgage or ensure I eat home cooked food at night).
With that in mind, am I more likely to answer a well thought out, funny message from someone whose profile seems to indicate I’d get on with, or a message saying just, “Hi there.”
I send first messages too - and I agonise over them. And sometimes I get a reply, sometimes I don’t. Sometimes the conversation fizzles, sometimes it ends in a meet. I definitely don’t moan about an unsuccessful attempt (though I may be a little sad if I quite liked the look of their profile).
It seems more than a little harsh that guys get their knickers in a twist about this, as they often do in these threads. I’m not here to answer you. I really won’t if your initial message is under ten words because I don’t have enough to work with.
That, and I’m an inveterate chatterbox so I really am only going to get along with someone else like me
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I often find that when I respond to a status update or a particular item within the profile, I am often in receipt of a reply which seems to have forgotten what was written in the status or profile. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If I get 50-100 messages a day, I can only answer maybe half a dozen (while continuing my actual, real, offline life that does useful things like pay my mortgage or ensure I eat home cooked food at night).
With that in mind, am I more likely to answer a well thought out, funny message from someone whose profile seems to indicate I’d get on with, or a message saying just, “Hi there.”
I send first messages too - and I agonise over them. And sometimes I get a reply, sometimes I don’t. Sometimes the conversation fizzles, sometimes it ends in a meet. I definitely don’t moan about an unsuccessful attempt (though I may be a little sad if I quite liked the look of their profile).
It seems more than a little harsh that guys get their knickers in a twist about this, as they often do in these threads. I’m not here to answer you. I really won’t if your initial message is under ten words because I don’t have enough to work with.
That, and I’m an inveterate chatterbox so I really am only going to get along with someone else like me
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This thread isn't about guys getting their knickers in a twist. It's actually about the opposite.
The fact is, guys don't moan about getting "hi" messages at all. I just decided to point out that we get them too, we just don't come on the forum berating the couples and single ladies that send them.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Oh hunni don't go stressing the poor darlings.
Trying to string an entire sentence together let alone use words of more than one syllable is just to much of a stretch for them and will induce brain ache.
Just look at their glorious non existent profile that has taken all their effort and revel in their imaginative pics of their penis from every conceivable angle and see them for that are...just a cock! "
Ohh this tickled me....made my day
And it’s been a pretty shit x
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"If I get 50-100 messages a day, I can only answer maybe half a dozen (while continuing my actual, real, offline life that does useful things like pay my mortgage or ensure I eat home cooked food at night).
With that in mind, am I more likely to answer a well thought out, funny message from someone whose profile seems to indicate I’d get on with, or a message saying just, “Hi there.”
I send first messages too - and I agonise over them. And sometimes I get a reply, sometimes I don’t. Sometimes the conversation fizzles, sometimes it ends in a meet. I definitely don’t moan about an unsuccessful attempt (though I may be a little sad if I quite liked the look of their profile).
It seems more than a little harsh that guys get their knickers in a twist about this, as they often do in these threads. I’m not here to answer you. I really won’t if your initial message is under ten words because I don’t have enough to work with.
That, and I’m an inveterate chatterbox so I really am only going to get along with someone else like me
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This
Also. Rather than a whinging thread, it was more of a suggestion about how to get a woman's attention! |
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By *ollyGWoman
over a year ago
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"Oh hunni don't go stressing the poor darlings.
Trying to string an entire sentence together let alone use words of more than one syllable is just to much of a stretch for them and will induce brain ache.
Just look at their glorious non existent profile that has taken all their effort and revel in their imaginative pics of their penis from every conceivable angle and see them for that are...just a cock! "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I legit think male profiles shouldn’t be able to send initial messages. It would save time, it’d save women/coupes time.
When the ratios are so off as they are, there’s litteraly zero point in messaging anyway, I mean I’ve done it all, long, short, funny, seious. Picked un things the’ve said or written in their profile. It doesn’t matter.
So why not, have it a rule of the site (it would be dead eaasy to code in) the male profile simply can’t send intial messages.
Just a thought. |
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"I legit think male profiles shouldn’t be able to send initial messages. It would save time, it’d save women/coupes time.
When the ratios are so off as they are, there’s litteraly zero point in messaging anyway, I mean I’ve done it all, long, short, funny, seious. Picked un things the’ve said or written in their profile. It doesn’t matter.
So why not, have it a rule of the site (it would be dead eaasy to code in) the male profile simply can’t send intial messages.
Just a thought."
And yet I reply to so many initial messages and I'm not the only one!
They don't all lead to anything for all sorts of reasons, some based on my choice but many at theirs - people who don't like the look of me, fantasists with no intention of meeting, men who get bored waiting a few days before I'll meet them for a coffee and so on. So why create a rule that would result in so many lost opportunities! |
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"I legit think male profiles shouldn’t be able to send initial messages. It would save time, it’d save women/coupes time.
When the ratios are so off as they are, there’s litteraly zero point in messaging anyway, I mean I’ve done it all, long, short, funny, seious. Picked un things the’ve said or written in their profile. It doesn’t matter.
So why not, have it a rule of the site (it would be dead eaasy to code in) the male profile simply can’t send intial messages.
Just a thought.
And yet I reply to so many initial messages and I'm not the only one!
They don't all lead to anything for all sorts of reasons, some based on my choice but many at theirs - people who don't like the look of me, fantasists with no intention of meeting, men who get bored waiting a few days before I'll meet them for a coffee and so on. So why create a rule that would result in so many lost opportunities! "
Totally agree |
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By *lceeWoman
over a year ago
Leeds |
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This
Also. Rather than a whinging thread, it was more of a suggestion about how to get a woman's attention! "
Nooooooo! I wasn’t talking about you OP, your initial post made me giggle and nod my head in agreement
Just reading through the thread, it had been hijacked somewhat by the ‘well, I don’t see why I shouldn’t send one word messages because no-one bothers to reply anyway’ crowd so I was answering them.
Your initial post was spot on |
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By *ed wineMan
over a year ago
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The best messages are those from someone who contacts me interested in my profile, asking for a face pic (of course without theirs...), I reply with a pic that eventually doesn't convince them (which is totally respectable) and there is not reply but blocking you.
The anonymity can hide their rudeness for a moment, but eventually their personality is nothing but mediocre... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I legit think male profiles shouldn’t be able to send initial messages. It would save time, it’d save women/coupes time.
When the ratios are so off as they are, there’s litteraly zero point in messaging anyway, I mean I’ve done it all, long, short, funny, seious. Picked un things the’ve said or written in their profile. It doesn’t matter.
So why not, have it a rule of the site (it would be dead eaasy to code in) the male profile simply can’t send intial messages.
Just a thought."
Imagine if women and couples had to do some work for a change! Their ego's would be battered.
I think men aren't stupid. Why bother writing anything more than "hi" or wasting time reading a profile, when 99% of the time their message will be deleted anyway.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We had this yesterday..even though we are a couple and its a couples account
Hey hey hot stuff. ...What you looking for Wow..your off the charts.. second day on this so struggling to post pics (blonde, dopey). I would be peeing in my pants if you agreed to go for a few drinks with me, sorry if forward but I can send pics via what's app/ text if ok. If no like just block.. I'm no stalker, but if you look outside your window. That's me up a tree, don't make me wave..AAARRRGGG.....
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The bottom line is that if you are a hot 25 year old woman and send messages to men and couples you can write any old shit and you will almost certainly get a reply.
Conversely, if you are an average middle aged man and write to women and couples your message can be of Shakespearean standard and you probably still won't get a response.
Does that surprise anyone? "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Tbh it doesnt really matter what you write 99.9 % are just ignored and deleted anyway. Its just the way it is on here  "
Not always.
If you send the right message to the right person, you'll be surprised |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Tbh it doesnt really matter what you write 99.9 % are just ignored and deleted anyway. Its just the way it is on here "
True. Because 99.9% of people don't put any effort in. We've had a lot of messages that are just "Hi", great, what am I supposed to do with that?
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"Tbh it doesnt really matter what you write 99.9 % are just ignored and deleted anyway. Its just the way it is on here
Not always.
If you send the right message to the right person, you'll be surprised "
Agreed but you have to send out a hell of a lot of messages to people to get a reply . It takes so much time. If i have time to waste i will send a nice message or im afraid its short sweet and to the point  |
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"Tbh it doesnt really matter what you write 99.9 % are just ignored and deleted anyway. Its just the way it is on here
True. Because 99.9% of people don't put any effort in. We've had a lot of messages that are just "Hi", great, what am I supposed to do with that?
C"
So you make zero effort and can't possibly think of any reply to a "hello"?  |
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"Tbh it doesnt really matter what you write 99.9 % are just ignored and deleted anyway. Its just the way it is on here
True. Because 99.9% of people don't put any effort in. We've had a lot of messages that are just "Hi", great, what am I supposed to do with that?
C
So you make zero effort and can't possibly think of any reply to a "hello"? "
Oh no, I always respond... with "Hey"
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"Tbh it doesnt really matter what you write 99.9 % are just ignored and deleted anyway. Its just the way it is on here
True. Because 99.9% of people don't put any effort in. We've had a lot of messages that are just "Hi", great, what am I supposed to do with that?
C
So you make zero effort and can't possibly think of any reply to a "hello"?
Oh no, I always respond... with "Hey"
C"
You should write a book. |
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"Tbh it doesnt really matter what you write 99.9 % are just ignored and deleted anyway. Its just the way it is on here
True. Because 99.9% of people don't put any effort in. We've had a lot of messages that are just "Hi", great, what am I supposed to do with that?
C
So you make zero effort and can't possibly think of any reply to a "hello"?
Oh no, I always respond... with "Hey"
C
You should write a book. "
I could probably pass it off as minimalist art
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