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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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An odd title I know, what I'm asking is whether your play has any foundations in BDSM, from impact to mind games? Certainly for Jane and I we always have an element of BDSM in our own play, call it kinky or BDSM, we enjoy impact play, we enjoy total mind games, with each other and with some of the people we meet. We push our boundaries and I enjoy being in control in all and every interaction, no matter how it plays out I set the scene, the goal or the boundary and Jane trusts me implicitly.
When I met Jane she hadn't slept with a man in 12 years, her husband, and lifelong abuser, used to beat her, literally torture her after he'd had a drink and accuse her of all manner of things. She didn't trust men and wanted little to do with them for so long, but she took a chance by dating, we met online and we didn't meet in the flesh for months, but, being the person I am, I wasnt going to miss an opportunity to make a lasting impression. Our very first meet, at her house as it happened, was very much BDSM, she had bought into my idea of eroticism and took a chance I know she doesn't regret, and we haven't looked back.
For us it's not just sex, it's a total mind game, and if there isn't that element in our play then we don't want what is being offered. No one we have played with has spanked Jane, only I get that pleasure, but mind games, every single time, whether the other people know it or not. |
