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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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i state on my profile "no blacks or asians not my type". just been messaged and told im a racist for saying this.
so are we all ageist if we use the new filter?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i state on my profile "no blacks or asians not my type". just been messaged and told im a racist for saying this.
so are we all ageist if we use the new filter?
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No, you're not. Some people just love to find a reason to be outraged. Ignore them.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i state on my profile "no blacks or asians not my type". just been messaged and told im a racist for saying this.
so are we all ageist if we use the new filter?
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only you can answer that !! |
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"i state on my profile "no blacks or asians not my type". just been messaged and told im a racist for saying this.
so are we all ageist if we use the new filter?
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If you think you are you probably know best! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"i state on my profile "no blacks or asians not my type". just been messaged and told im a racist for saying this.
so are we all ageist if we use the new filter?
If you think you are you probably know best!"
i just dont find them sexy. i have friends who are black and my ancestors are black |
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Oh good. Not had one of these for a while 
Some will say you are not, its just a preference, some will say yes cos you are tarring all blacks and asians with the same brush
Only you.know the real you so......are you racist?? |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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"i state on my profile "no blacks or asians not my type". just been messaged and told im a racist for saying this.
so are we all ageist if we use the new filter?
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not at all.. but sometimes it can be a fine line between a preference and racism..
for examples (i'll use ones that I have seen here..)
would you say there was a difference betweeen not playing with blacks or asians..
what would you call someone who says they won't play with anyone who has played with blacks or asians....
what you would call someone who thinks races shouldn't mix sexually???
see i believe that what you suggest is a preference... but you can sometimes see how it can lead towards a slippery slope |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Racism isn't what u say its what the listener thinks you have said. let me explain, often you here young black men using the N word to each ther, (i hate this word) but to them it's no offence you try it you may have a fight on ur hands.
to expand further_ sexual harassment, as a man you might tell a colleague nice perfume totally innocent, she might take it as her boss ur hitting on her, u now have to go defend urself.
Anyway he is an idiot its ur body ur allowed to do with it as you please. |
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By *LBishCouple
over a year ago
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Its one thing to not want to go with none white, but its another to say it in this PC world. You can just about get away with saying no BBW's and in my view theres no difference. Your best bet is just not to say it and if any get in touch just say a polite no thanks.
Most people don't seem to read profiles anyway. |
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By *LBishCouple
over a year ago
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"Racism isn't what u say its what the listener thinks you have said. let me explain, often you here young black men using the N word to each ther, (i hate this word) but to them it's no offence you try it you may have a fight on ur hands."
Thats because theres one rule for them, and another for the rest of us. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My dear, it's just people who who are jelous of being denied access to you or some of the same PC loons who dont like school sports because there are winners and losers.
It's your body so it's your rules, end of discusion
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Oh no, not again...............
Saying you don't find people of a certain skin colour attractive enough to shag isn't racist although it is a bit of a generalisation.
Saying you would prejudge someone's potential intelligence, employability, trustworthiness, freidnship etc based on their skin colour IS racist.
Asssuming that because someone has dark skin they must be unable to speak English, smell, carry diseases and want to bomb your local bus station is racist.
So now you can answer the question of whether or not you are a racist |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i state on my profile "no blacks or asians not my type". just been messaged and told im a racist for saying this.
so are we all ageist if we use the new filter?
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It depends on how you feel about people with a different skin colour but it is fair to say you don't have a liking for Asian or black skinned men. Thats racist to some and not to others. |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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"Its down to you but personaly we have turned tail a couple of times when we have read this on profiles.
Once again its down to each individual "
and this is a good point... I have done the same in the past, which goes to show that people do pay attention to what is written both the people you are not only shooing those away but also trying to attract |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The way I state it on mine is
"no offence but my preference is for white guys", as yet I have had no remarks back about being racist, I have found this much easier than having to explain to a person contacting me, it is your personal choice, just the same as it is for age, body type, smoker/non smoker, I have seen many a black, asian, oriental mans/womans profile on here saying white only, don't let it worry you, at the end of the day you're here to enjoy yourself and play with the people you're attracted to |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't like to see comments like that on profiles because they can be seen as inflammatory to people,hence the messages you have got
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Agreed!
I don't see the point in it tbh.... everyone has the right to say 'no' to anyone without giving any reason.... if someone feels they don't want to sleep with because of their race it never ever has to be mentioned.
"thanks but no thanks" job done. |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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"Racism isn't what u say its what the listener thinks you have said. let me explain, often you here young black men using the N word to each ther, (i hate this word) but to them it's no offence you try it you may have a fight on ur hands.
Thats because theres one rule for them, and another for the rest of us."
not in "my world" anyone who uses that word in front of me gets a punch on the nose...  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"The way I state it on mine is
"no offence but my preference is for white guys", as yet I have had no remarks back about being racist, I have found this much easier than having to explain to a person contacting me, it is your personal choice, just the same as it is for age, body type, smoker/non smoker, I have seen many a black, asian, oriental mans/womans profile on here saying white only, don't let it worry you, at the end of the day you're here to enjoy yourself and play with the people you're attracted to"
thanks i might change mine to that wording to avoid this happening again. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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your getting that aswell me to i also get abuse from white guys when i say sorry but no when i reply to them and if i dont reply i get the same abuse from all colours |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ya not rasist at all
It's like a straight guy saying no bi guys or gays
That don't mean he's homophobic it just means he don't want a cock up his ass xx  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Its being sexually prejudiced, not racist.
Everyone has that right, and you can base it on whatever you like, body types, smokers, hair colour etc.
Racism, is hatred or intolerance. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ya not rasist at all
It's like a straight guy saying no bi guys or gays
That don't mean he's homophobic it just means he don't want a cock up his ass xx "
Or won't openly admit to it |
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Hm well at the risk of hijacking the thread.... op seems to have reached a conclusion (I think) I would ask the question.... can a black guy be racist? I think so. I look at things this way... I rarely find black guys attractive but wouldnt not meet them because they are black but because I just dont fancy them. I dont think this is racist, just my taste. However, at a party I was once asked by a black guy if I had had a black guy and whether I wanted to. I did actually find this a little offensive and told him that I played with guys I found attractive and not because they were or were not black. No, I didnt find him attractive but also found his attitude kind of offensive. Maybe I was being a little sensitive as there seem loads on here who try to get meets on the basis of their colour and loads who seem to want to meet them because of this. Guess I just dont fit in that loop. I just dont get it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i state on my profile "no blacks or asians not my type". just been messaged and told im a racist for saying this.
so are we all ageist if we use the new filter?
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No your not.. but when we had it on ours we had lots of grief over it.. In the end it was just easier to say "thanks but no thanks".. 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No it isn't racist, but maybe you need to be careful with the way you express your preference.
Whether something/someone is racist or not depends on context and intent,
Also the comparisons between not meeting a certain race and a person of a certain sexual orientation on one hand makes sense, but on the other hand is also quite laughable. |
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I like Simone's wording because it expresses a positive preference ... 'I prefer / I like' rather than the negative 'I don't like'.
As a bigger woman, I don't find it offensive at all seeing the comment 'I prefer to play with slim, toned women' on someone's profile as the focus is on the preferences of the person writing it.
However, the negative 'No fat women - they're not my type' places the focus on fat women as if they, as a group, have something 'not to like'.
Same applies to race / sexuality or any other preference. Positive selection is just less offensive than negative exclusion imo
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"i state on my profile "no blacks or asians not my type". just been messaged and told im a racist for saying this.
so are we all ageist if we use the new filter?
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I don't think it's racist in itself, but obviously racists are likely to express such a statement so stating such preferences may well associate you with them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm black and only met white guys and have it on my profile (when visible). A few black guys did contact me asking what was wrong with them? They read "white men only" but nothing else.
When I told them to read my profile they apologised for wasting my time! 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Slight hijack...who remembers the couple that posted they didn't like black people, didn't want to meet black people, wouldn't meet anyone who met black people and looked through verifications and blocked anyone who had played with black people.
Ooh a fun evening on the forums that night! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I got a lot of grief for putting that I was only interested in blue women."
I'd paint myself blue for you any time, but I don't think it would have the desired effect.. I'd look like an overweight smurf...  |
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its not racism at all. its no difference to someone not liking tall or short people. its just a preference. racism is about hating someone just because of who they are. not disliking having sex with them because they are not what your looking for. no different to not wanting to meet smokers. its not racism |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Slight hijack...who remembers the couple that posted they didn't like black people, didn't want to meet black people, wouldn't meet anyone who met black people and looked through verifications and blocked anyone who had played with black people.
Ooh a fun evening on the forums that night! "
As Fabio said "it's a fine line" between racism and preference and I think I remember that incident.
Nowadays, if I'm not what people are looking for, I move on. Not going to dwell on if they're racist or not when there are other people up for chatting and meeting!
Put what you want in your profile and have fun. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We to only met white English guys/couples the same as we won’t meet with fat guys/couples we aren’t racist just not our thing, it says it on our profile so if people don’t like it don’t contact us or send us messages, there are plenty of people out there who do,, what’s the difference if a profile says only guys under 30 with a min of 9 inc dick,,, there preference move on |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Its your choice, you dont find black or asian men attractive then no your not racist, i myself when i was single only had sex with white guys, my choice. no im not racisit just dont find myself sexually attracted to them. |
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Racism isn't at all about hating people, though that may be a by-product.
Racism is a selection process where the sole criteria is, would you believe, race.
Black is a colour ( though technically not )
Asian covers a multitude of races.
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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"Slight hijack...who remembers the couple that posted they didn't like black people, didn't want to meet black people, wouldn't meet anyone who met black people and looked through verifications and blocked anyone who had played with black people.
Ooh a fun evening on the forums that night! "
I remember that night.. unfortunately they lived just up the road from me.. and I still have them on my block list! that was one hell of a night.... |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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"I started a thread some time ago asking is it necessary to have to explain your preferences and no it isn't!
It's your preference just like the women who want BBC only
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absolutely correct... if I see that on a profile it is unlikely that I would reply to it other... as i said, you are not only trying to talk to the people you are trying to avoid, but also the ones you are trying to attract..... |
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i dont think it is racist just because u do not find diferent coloured skin sexy enough to have sex with nor are attracted to it's ur right to express ur preference, on the flip side i have seen profiles staing black men only, is that racised, i dont want fat old men i dont want woman it's all preference _abio points it clear on every point pc can not over rule preference, some may say do it descreetly, end of the day its the same thing we all, every one here, have preferences to each there own xx |
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By *umourCouple
over a year ago
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I always love these threads, where the black guys are cool with it and others are indignant for them!
We don’t have any preference for colour on our profile and we do play with those we find attractive. However, to say that someone shouldn’t put a preference on their profile is ridiculous. And some of this has come from people who have said in the past that people should be able to put what they want on their profile!
As I said, we don’t have that on ours but when on another site we turned down a guy we didn’t fancy, we had a mail back that said. “You are racist c**ts and don’t want to fuck me cos I am black”
So we sent a mail back with pics of us with a black guy and said. “No, it’s cos you’re an ugly fucker!”
Never heard from him again, even though there is no block on the site |
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"I like Simone's wording because it expresses a positive preference ... 'I prefer / I like' rather than the negative 'I don't like'.
As a bigger woman, I don't find it offensive at all seeing the comment 'I prefer to play with slim, toned women' on someone's profile as the focus is on the preferences of the person writing it.
However, the negative 'No fat women - they're not my type' places the focus on fat women as if they, as a group, have something 'not to like'.
Same applies to race / sexuality or any other preference. Positive selection is just less offensive than negative exclusion imo
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Totally agree..if the OP had said no c***s or P***s then yeh..that definately smacks of racism..its no more racist than a black guy,female or couple preferring someone from their own race.
I have often felt the words 'racist' or 'racism' is a bit of a one way street..a term that can only be used if its aimed at blacks or Asians etc..and the media especially are very sensitive and selective how they use it...
I would love to see the responses if a black couple said 'no Asians' thank you..or vice versa...
As someone has already stated, only you know whether you are or not (hopefully not)..if you are convinced you are not then there is no need to have any sort of conscience...
Taken in its purest sense the word racist is probably not the best choice either..'bigotted' my be a more fitting replacement...as a 'real' racist surely wouldnt want to get it on with anyone other than someone from their own race..and discount ALL foreigners totally.
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"I like Simone's wording because it expresses a positive preference ... 'I prefer / I like' rather than the negative 'I don't like'.
As a bigger woman, I don't find it offensive at all seeing the comment 'I prefer to play with slim, toned women' on someone's profile as the focus is on the preferences of the person writing it.
However, the negative 'No fat women - they're not my type' places the focus on fat women as if they, as a group, have something 'not to like'.
Same applies to race / sexuality or any other preference. Positive selection is just less offensive than negative exclusion imo
Totally agree..if the OP had said no c***s or P***s then yeh..that definately smacks of racism..its no more racist than a black guy,female or couple preferring someone from their own race.
I have often felt the words 'racist' or 'racism' is a bit of a one way street..a term that can only be used if its aimed at blacks or Asians etc..and the media especially are very sensitive and selective how they use it...
I would love to see the responses if a black couple said 'no Asians' thank you..or vice versa...
As someone has already stated, only you know whether you are or not (hopefully not)..if you are convinced you are not then there is no need to have any sort of conscience...
Taken in its purest sense the word racist is probably not the best choice either..'bigotted' my be a more fitting replacement...as a 'real' racist surely wouldnt want to get it on with anyone other than someone from their own race..and discount ALL foreigners totally.
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I think someone who hates foreigners is classed as xenophobic rather than racist. The French (for example) aren't a race - they're a nationality.
A bigot, on the other hand, just hates everyone who doesn't share their opinions / beliefs generally on every issue ... religion, race, politics so not sure if someone who doesn't like others purely based on the colour of their skin comes under that brolly.
Racists believe human characteristics can be attributed to the colour of someone's skin and that THEIR particular race is superior. With that opinion, of course, comes all the associated racist clap-trap.
Just to clarify a little
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I don't think the OP is racist but I AM uncomfortable with the collective term 'blacks' ... same with 'gays'. It's just my opinion of course but used that way it just smacks of division (them and us). |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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I would say it is a preference.
Having said that, I personally don't think there is a need to see it on a profile...I like a certain build of a man but to put it on our profile of who I don't fancy I don't think is necessery. We just say no thanks to who I don't fancy.
If you are getting mails you don't like because of it, maybe time to change the profile. |
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I thinks its a preference but could be construde in a negative way. We are ageist but thats my preference, however I think some people can read into statements what they would want to and not necessarily how it is meant.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't like tomatoes!! Where do I stress this on my profile? Is it under the no vegetables section? or the no fruit section? help???? I don't want to offend  |
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"I don't like tomatoes!! Where do I stress this on my profile? Is it under the no vegetables section? or the no fruit section? help???? I don't want to offend "
Too late. This is blatant fruitism! No place for that on fab! |
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"I always love these threads, where the black guys are cool with it and others are indignant for them!
We don’t have any preference for colour on our profile and we do play with those we find attractive. However, to say that someone shouldn’t put a preference on their profile is ridiculous. And some of this has come from people who have said in the past that people should be able to put what they want on their profile!
As I said, we don’t have that on ours but when on another site we turned down a guy we didn’t fancy, we had a mail back that said. “You are racist c**ts and don’t want to fuck me cos I am black”
So we sent a mail back with pics of us with a black guy and said. “No, it’s cos you’re an ugly fucker!”
Never heard from him again, even though there is no block on the site "
love it has to be best response i have seen to a sad shit go u xx i got the white c*#t befor too and i reported it it was a lot worse was called so much, he didnt get put off site nor did the sit inform me of what was done a friend checked his profile and it was still active but hay shit happens xx |
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Being Asian I don't see this as racism Just somebodys preference but it does hurt when I read no Asians, feels weird to be outcast like that, but then I put I don't see overweight ppl or a certain age I won't go beyond too .
But im struggling to express what I feel I know my heart sinks abit... I mean to not meet because of colour is strange to me as i find all races to have some hot women, where age is well something I can accept as I have read I'm too old for certain ppl but move on anyway. |
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your profile, your preference,
some people will just find a reason to argue the toss, at least u r honest and upfront, would they rather you told them on the phone ???????????
at least you stated a preference,
x sue x |
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Nah you're not racist... doubt you would be if you have friends who are black or asian...
But unfortunately on sites like this, for some black people, it boils down to ego. If you don't like black, they can take it very personally and will make a big song and dance about it...
Personally I think the site creators should really put an option for people to choose which ethnicity they wish to meet... It will save a lot of trouble and a lot of these "am i racist" posts..
Pick the ethnic background, set it and your done. Everybody happy.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I am with most the others on here, your choice your preference end of.
Wouldn't it be easier if the rule was; cant think of anything nice to email, then dont bother emailing!
I have never sent an email to be negative to someone and I really dont have the time on my hands to be that pathetic, I have had some stupid and some nasty messages so my block list is now twice as long as my friends list and hotlist combined. Which is simply sad |
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"Personally I think the site creators should really put an option for people to choose which ethnicity they wish to meet... It will save a lot of trouble and a lot of these "am i racist" posts..
Pick the ethnic background, set it and your done. Everybody happy...."
I agree. |
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"I would say it is a preference.
Having said that, I personally don't think there is a need to see it on a profile...I like a certain build of a man but to put it on our profile of who I don't fancy I don't think is necessery. We just say no thanks to who I don't fancy.
If you are getting mails you don't like because of it, maybe time to change the profile."
that in its self would be a form of unnecessery censorship,even to suggest a change of profile what next follow the code of ethics of some dictator loss choices incase ur preference could offend somewone that wants to go out of their way to be offened, i think if we concider how it may be read thats more than enough without turnin looney left |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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What ever you put in your profile doesnt really matter as most who reply will not have bothered to read it anyway. thats been our experience on this site.
Hence if there not what were looking for and they dont fit roughly what were asking for in our profile then its bye bye dare we say it 'block' and move on.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I just think there is a better way to say "no blacks or asians", its been said before and will say again..
"my preference is for white/caucasian people"- no apology is needed after that...BUT
"NO BLACKS NO ASIANS"- just smacks of "im so annoyed with all these blacks and asian people contacting me,so I have to shout it. |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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"I would say it is a preference.
Having said that, I personally don't think there is a need to see it on a profile...I like a certain build of a man but to put it on our profile of who I don't fancy I don't think is necessery. We just say no thanks to who I don't fancy.
If you are getting mails you don't like because of it, maybe time to change the profile.that in its self would be a form of unnecessery censorship,even to suggest a change of profile what next follow the code of ethics of some dictator loss choices incase ur preference could offend somewone that wants to go out of their way to be offened, i think if we concider how it may be read thats more than enough without turnin looney left"
whoah slow down...censorship? I put my personal comments down as to a solution if she wants to change the mails she gets.... no one is telling someone they should do something |
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Good point... I just tend to block people that put their preferences across that way... Not that I am angry or pissed off at them, but certainly there are better ways to convey a your preferences than to put "NO BLACKS NO ASIANS"... just shows a lack of manners or tact on the profile owner's part...
But heck, whatever floats their boat eh... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't like tomatoes!! Where do I stress this on my profile? Is it under the no vegetables section? or the no fruit section? help???? I don't want to offend "
mmm the use of veggies , i know i have had to take a cucumber or two xx |
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well i read profile it says preference white, any why i think preference is a personal choice how something are said may offend but sayin wot some1 doent want shouldnt ofend, god, ok i think this is way off what i'm comfortable with, so i'll finish with if i dont want people of what ever for wot ever my choice, i say no bi guy i'm not havin a go at them i just wouldnt find them attractive simply cos they are bi but i'm not anti bi not anti gay just not my thing |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Good point... I just tend to block people that put their preferences across that way... Not that I am angry or pissed off at them, but certainly there are better ways to convey a your preferences than to put "NO BLACKS NO ASIANS"... just shows a lack of manners or tact on the profile owner's part...
But heck, whatever floats their boat eh..."
I dont block anyone for any reason, unless they are twats...someone who doesnt like playing with people of a different race i have no problem with.However if they act like cunts online, or indeed at a party/club,they can be sure to hear my glaswegianness come out and call them a fucking cunt straight to their face...in fact id go report them first lol |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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"well i read profile it says preference white, any why i think preference is a personal choice how something are said may offend but sayin wot some1 doent want shouldnt ofend, god, ok i think this is way off what i'm comfortable with, so i'll finish with if i dont want people of what ever for wot ever my choice, i say no bi guy i'm not havin a go at them i just wouldnt find them attractive simply cos they are bi but i'm not anti bi not anti gay just not my thing"
I agree...and did agree on my first post it is preferences |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I take no notice. There must be as many that say black cock only as well as no blacks. It is racial discrimination though to say yes or no on colour but you could say the same for age and fatties or gender for being sexist. |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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oh the beauty of the english language and the written word.. where the same thing can be said but in a million and one different ways!
so as others have said "My preference is for white guys" sounds so much better than "NO BLACKS, NO ASIANS"... but says the same thing, one just sounds a lot more positive than the other...
on the flip side, it has to be said that if I see something like "WIFE WANTS BBC" then it isn't something I am likely to answer as that language tends to send me in the other direction.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This racist issue just gets on my nerves it is preference simple if I said do not meet white guys it is no different to saying will not meet Black or Asian etc etc. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This racist issue just gets on my nerves it is preference simple if I said do not meet white guys it is no different to saying will not meet Black or Asian etc etc."
Its still racial discrimination though. The profiles dont say "no guys with flat noses or curly hair" |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This racist issue just gets on my nerves it is preference simple if I said do not meet white guys it is no different to saying will not meet Black or Asian etc etc."
+1 yawns.. |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
Newcastle and Gateshead |
"anyway fuckit, this is at least a tri-weekly post isnt it??- I'm gonna move on to people who wont meet smokers"
smokers... feck them... its the gingers that get my goat!!!
p.s joking!!!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"anyway fuckit, this is at least a tri-weekly post isnt it??- I'm gonna move on to people who wont meet smokers
smokers... feck them... its the gingers that get my goat!!!
p.s joking!!!!!"
We won't meet goats |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"anyway fuckit, this is at least a tri-weekly post isnt it??- I'm gonna move on to people who wont meet smokers
smokers... feck them... its the gingers that get my goat!!!
p.s joking!!!!!
We won't meet goats "
"men who stare at goats"...I bet some countries think that films a porno... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"oh the beauty of the english language and the written word.. where the same thing can be said but in a million and one different ways!
so as others have said "My preference is for white guys" sounds so much better than "NO BLACKS, NO ASIANS"... but says the same thing, one just sounds a lot more positive than the other...
on the flip side, it has to be said that if I see something like "WIFE WANTS BBC" then it isn't something I am likely to answer as that language tends to send me in the other direction...."
I don't blame ya, there's phook all on bbc, why anyone would want it when there lots of better programmes on sky. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"on the flip side, it has to be said that if I see something like "WIFE WANTS BBC" then it isn't something I am likely to answer as that language tends to send me in the other direction....
I don't blame ya, there's phook all on bbc, why anyone would want it when there lots of better programmes on sky. "
Wonder if there are many BBCs who are also TVs. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Its a preference like any other....loads of people dont like smokers, fatties.....(how many profiles have we read with no one over size 14/16, not forgetting 'professional couple seek similar'......everyone knows what type they like.....dont let the pc idiots spoil you fun!
Mike ....Fat bald and over 50....opss...there thats me out of most poeples preferences |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i state on my profile "no blacks or asians not my type". just been messaged and told im a racist for saying this.
so are we all ageist if we use the new filter?
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Not worth worrying about. One loon you barely know called you a racist. That's all.
What about the other dozens of people who read exactly the same line on your profile and thought nothing of it? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No it isn't racist, but maybe you need to be careful with the way you express your preference. "
How?
Should she have said "no black men or asian men", in place of "no blacks or asians"? How can one say something any clearer than how she said it?
And how is it racist to not want a particular coloured body type having sex with you? Doesn't no mean no anymore? |
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Not worth worrying about. One loon you barely know called you a racist. That's all.
What about the other dozens of people who read exactly the same line on your profile and thought nothing of it?"
best way of looking at it
(said by one of the best avatars to look at  ) |
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"But unfortunately on sites like this, for some black people, it boils down to ego. If you don't like black, they can take it very personally and will make a big song and dance about it...
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I'm afraid it boils down to ego, not necessarily the black one. As others have said there are many white males who are similarly offensive when they encounter a woman who wants to meet black males exclusively. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Its down to you but personaly we have turned tail a couple of times when we have read this on profiles.
Once again its down to each individual "
Yes, we would not play with someone if we saw this on their profile. Equally we tiger gets peeved when "white" ladies only want black. It's putting people in boxes, nothing more. |
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We prefer not to put comments like that on our profile, not that we think it's 'wrong' or that you shouldn't have your personal preferneces - we all do, but it's quite negative. If someone that you wouldn't consider meeting up mesages you, it's easy to say that they're not exactly what you're looking for - in a very nice way of course! Z |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's a preference .. But when u put" I'm not racist" behind that then u make it look that way, u have nothing to prove .. An honestly it's best to see that up front, that way you know not to bother sending a message .. To each their own, but wording is also important.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I love these topics watching responses from liberal loons lol. Too PC some of you wake up and think for yourselves, stop saying what you think you have to say.
To the OP your choice Hun and stand by it. I used to feel the same but kind of changed my mind along the way.. Again my choice. So as profiles are personal , why shouldn't she state her preferences.
We don't get annoyed when people state no smokers or no bi's |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz
I also hate people falling asleep on me when am licking them out!
sakes!"
Try to see it as a compliment, they must be very relaxed in your company |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz
I also hate people falling asleep on me when am licking them out!
sakes!
Try to see it as a compliment, they must be very relaxed in your company "
its only them missing out on their squirting moments lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I might be a little late on this issue, but i never knew this site forced people to enter and contribute to threads,
however if the rule on this is what i thought it was, heres an idea, if you find the issue boring or tiresome, just don't come into this particular tread, and don't comment,
surely people realise by coming in here and typing "zzzzz" or other similar things your just keeping the thread alive and at the top of the page.
abit of advice- if you want a flower in your garden to die, stop watering it! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's not racist and never will be this site is about sexual attraction. If you are not attracted to certain types of people ie fat, thin, black, White, gay, str8,older or younger then that is your preference and the very purpose of your profile. I'd report the sender to admin as racially harassing you and block them! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just this week one of my friends was told that a lady wouldnt meet him because he had met me.
No freaking idea why! Never met, never spoke, cant see mutual friends.
SHE IS ESTEE-IST!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sorry to answer your question .... I see that as asking them not to waste their (or your) time contacting them as they know it'll be a rejection.
Ignore them .. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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yes it it a personal preference but the way we would read this is that the peeps must be quite superficial, which is fine if that is what you want. We do like to meet folks who are interested in the person/people as well as sex. Therefore they would not be for us at all. |
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By *umourCouple
over a year ago
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"yes it it a personal preference but the way we would read this is that the peeps must be quite superficial, which is fine if that is what you want. We do like to meet folks who are interested in the person/people as well as sex. Therefore they would not be for us at all."
But surely, this is a sex site and hopefully people are meeting with a view to having a sexual encounter?
What would be the point of meeting someone who doesn't fit the criteria? I can go down the pub and meet people to be mates with and I come on here to meet people we may want to shag! (although we have made some damned good friends on here that we have shagged!)
Why is stating a preference being superficial? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't go with white black brown green or purple people, begs the question Wtf am I doing on this site, lol.
Just noticed there's a bluey/ green smiley face available when I post a message, wonder where them lot are from ? Lol. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sexual preferences are just that! If I was gay would I be sexist? No, it's my sexual orientation.
Some people (regardless of skin tonality) will not accept "no" for an answer. They overcompensate for their low self esteem and inadequacies by belittling others for their lack of successful relationships.
I'm sure it would have been a single guy who accused you of being racist.
I have no doubt that these guys are single for a reason that's why we stay far away from them. Does that mean I'm gay? No, I prefer to remove such people from my sexual activities.
Rant over.
Hazel.
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By *empnbunkCouple
over a year ago
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I think your missing the bigger picture here ..for starters you are a woman on a swinging site you should not have a preference on anything your supposed 2 be gagging for it 24/7 and greatful for any man that wanted to shag you so shame on you lol
All joking aside no your not being racist at all sometimes I think people play this race card for the hell of it ...not everyone is everyones cup of tea...live with it people or move on |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think your missing the bigger picture here ..for starters you are a woman on a swinging site you should not have a preference on anything your supposed 2 be gagging for it 24/7 and greatful for any man that wanted to shag you so shame on you lol
All joking aside no your not being racist at all sometimes I think people play this race card for the hell of it ...not everyone is everyones cup of tea...live with it people or move on "
hahhah temp the only person 'playing' the race card I believe is the OP, asking the question-I'd surely not believe someone was racist because they dont play with people outside their own race(granted we have few american idians,aboriginies,pgymys etc on the site)
but what people have said is that thre is a way to word ur profile preference, regardless of it being against any particular group ie 'fatties'- sorry but it just doesnt sound or look good and in fact makes the person(s) look a bit thick nd impolite.
And before anyone starts on abou PC brigade nonsense, like anywhere in life u shouldnt really see a sign on a door saying "no (insert a type here)"- and all of our profiles are indeed a doorway to some for of invitation,not an angry growling dog or cat(as im not animalist)warding u away.
the way Ive read some of the "no..blahhblahhhs"- look like theyd get angry for even looking at them.
Finally i will sy this as a mixed black glaswegian, I now racism when I see i having spent my life with mainly white family and friends, I have no chip on my shoulder feeling hard done by, but I've met very polite responses in 'real' life and the internet where I never needed a response that sounded just ridiculously over reactionary and impolite.
NB the sign above a shop door saying "no dogs allowed" is perfectly acceptable
and to the OP, ur profile sounds less of a shoutmoan and more of a statement of ur pesonal choice and again theres never a need to apologise for it!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i state on my profile "no blacks or asians not my type". just been messaged and told im a racist for saying this.
so are we all ageist if we use the new filter?
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your choice the same as ours we also got called racist but free speech and all that |
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By *_n_JCouple
over a year ago
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Your profile,Your preference
its a free world and if you cant state who you want to to fuck or not, there there is no hope for us.
I'm easy either way, but others have to respect your perference. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"yes it it a personal preference but the way we would read this is that the peeps must be quite superficial, which is fine if that is what you want. We do like to meet folks who are interested in the person/people as well as sex. Therefore they would not be for us at all.
But surely, this is a sex site and hopefully people are meeting with a view to having a sexual encounter?
What would be the point of meeting someone who doesn't fit the criteria? I can go down the pub and meet people to be mates with and I come on here to meet people we may want to shag! (although we have made some damned good friends on here that we have shagged!)
Why is stating a preference being superficial? "
It would seem superficial in this case to us as it is based on ethnic origins and takes no account of the attractiveness of the people physically or in character. As previously stated, that is not the be all and end all of swinging in our case. Just saying the way we see it, cannot say otherwise. Some peeps you like and some ya don't and peeps who judge purely on ethnicity we dont. Our preference too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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and what if you are not "Asian" but British or European or American? You may still be "dark skinned" which is in effect what is probably meant by "Asian". |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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all my life i have had white friends surgest i play the race card for one reason or another, but it is something i am strongly against, it makes black people look ignorant and also makes blacks seem less approachable to other races if they have to tread on eggshells because they risk being scorned for saying something wrong or having a different opinion on something. i spent some time in prison and there was actually a guy who said to me he got sent down because the judge was racist, it was nothing to do with him waving a shotgun around in a post office demanding money. take no notice of these idiotic people |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No one has mentioned the Timewasters yet. So many profiles state 'NO TIMEWASTERS' I've never seen anyone actually looking for them. Those poor guys don't get a look in, I bet hardly any have ever had a meet................
You may continue your discussion. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i dont think its racist to have a racial prefference,
i think it would be a good idea to put some kind of filter or something that shows who you are looking for, it can be a bit negative the way some people choose to put in the profiles stuff like "ONLY MASSIVE BLACK COCKS, EVERYONE ELSE GO AWAY!!!"
maybe it would help resolve the constant issue of people feeling there is racism on here?
personally i've never really found darker girls to be my cup of tea, (untill seeing Kelly Rowland on xfactor...or Nicole Scherzinger for that matter wow!)
Think maybe the powers of fab should consider something? but obv with respect of everyones feelings on it |
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