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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Since ive been on hear a short while on certain profile people are asking that you must be verified before you meet when they are not verified themselves i find that strange or is it me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why people put so much stock in what another total strange says about a person is beyond me!
Surely it's all about who you contact and how you get on, not some others opinion
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These strangers have in most probability fucked the people in question, so when you say strangers in an implied derisory term, you should remember that everyone is a stranger until you've met.
You wouldn't leave a positive verification for someone who you didn't share an enjoyable experience with. If you left a negative verification it wouldn't be displayed.
As for putting stock in verifications, it's no different to one of your friends or even a complete stranger recommending a programme to watch on telly, or recommending a restaurant. You're never going to know until you try it yourself, but word of mouth carries a lot of weight and you'd be more inclined to try something if you'd heard good reviews.
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"Why people put so much stock in what another total strange says about a person is beyond me!
Surely it's all about who you contact and how you get on, not some others opinion
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While I agree it's about how people get on and not another's opinion of them I do think you can gain a couple of things from someone's veri.
Firstly that they are genuine and do turn up etc i.e. not a time waster (although appreciate it's not cast iron).
Secondly it gives an indication there's nothing odd/strange about them (again not cast iron but would think, particularly for ladies, from a safety perspective it offers some level of reassurance)
Finally an overtly sexual veri (especially if similar is left in return) would tell me a lot about the person and put me off meeting them. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"What i mean is that people who are not verified themselves want people they meet to be verified is that more clear "
How do you know they're not verified? People can choose not to display their veris - or are you referring to people who have no green flag/tick?
If they don't have a green flag or tick then I can understand where you're coming from but if it's a single woman perhaps she's opted only to meet verified people as a partial safety mechanism.
Either way people can choose whatever criteria they want for meeting - if you don't meet those criteria then no point bemoaning it - just move on to someone whose criteria you do fit.  |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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"Why people put so much stock in what another total strange says about a person is beyond me!
Surely it's all about who you contact and how you get on, not some others opinion
While I agree it's about how people get on and not another's opinion of them I do think you can gain a couple of things from someone's veri.
Firstly that they are genuine and do turn up etc i.e. not a time waster (although appreciate it's not cast iron).
Secondly it gives an indication there's nothing odd/strange about them (again not cast iron but would think, particularly for ladies, from a safety perspective it offers some level of reassurance)
Finally an overtly sexual veri (especially if similar is left in return) would tell me a lot about the person and put me off meeting them. "
One of my worst meets from a verified profile from a safety perspective scared the shit out of me!
All I am saying is the perspective of other strangers means jack! That is all I am saying, so why newbies are given a hard time is beyond me, just because someone else hasn't met them yet, Use your brain and see if you are compatible by messaging and getting to know each other, not by the words of another stranger that is all  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why people put so much stock in what another total strange says about a person is beyond me!
Surely it's all about who you contact and how you get on, not some others opinion
While I agree it's about how people get on and not another's opinion of them I do think you can gain a couple of things from someone's veri.
Firstly that they are genuine and do turn up etc i.e. not a time waster (although appreciate it's not cast iron).
Secondly it gives an indication there's nothing odd/strange about them (again not cast iron but would think, particularly for ladies, from a safety perspective it offers some level of reassurance)
Finally an overtly sexual veri (especially if similar is left in return) would tell me a lot about the person and put me off meeting them.
One of my worst meets from a verified profile from a safety perspective scared the shit out of me!
All I am saying is the perspective of other strangers means jack! That is all I am saying, so why newbies are given a hard time is beyond me, just because someone else hasn't met them yet, Use your brain and see if you are compatible by messaging and getting to know each other, not by the words of another stranger that is all "
I've spoken to and met a few unverified single males. Never had any problems with them. |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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"Why people put so much stock in what another total strange says about a person is beyond me!
Surely it's all about who you contact and how you get on, not some others opinion
While I agree it's about how people get on and not another's opinion of them I do think you can gain a couple of things from someone's veri.
Firstly that they are genuine and do turn up etc i.e. not a time waster (although appreciate it's not cast iron).
Secondly it gives an indication there's nothing odd/strange about them (again not cast iron but would think, particularly for ladies, from a safety perspective it offers some level of reassurance)
Finally an overtly sexual veri (especially if similar is left in return) would tell me a lot about the person and put me off meeting them.
One of my worst meets from a verified profile from a safety perspective scared the shit out of me!
All I am saying is the perspective of other strangers means jack! That is all I am saying, so why newbies are given a hard time is beyond me, just because someone else hasn't met them yet, Use your brain and see if you are compatible by messaging and getting to know each other, not by the words of another stranger that is all
I've spoken to and met a few unverified single males. Never had any problems with them. "
Same here |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Has anyone ever posted a bad veri 
And why would you ever make any decision about anyone based on what they may have done with someone else...
Isn't it better to trust your own judgement rather than rely on that of others who may be total strangers to us... |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
"Why people put so much stock in what another total strange says about a person is beyond me!
Surely it's all about who you contact and how you get on, not some others opinion
While I agree it's about how people get on and not another's opinion of them I do think you can gain a couple of things from someone's veri.
Firstly that they are genuine and do turn up etc i.e. not a time waster (although appreciate it's not cast iron).
Secondly it gives an indication there's nothing odd/strange about them (again not cast iron but would think, particularly for ladies, from a safety perspective it offers some level of reassurance)
Finally an overtly sexual veri (especially if similar is left in return) would tell me a lot about the person and put me off meeting them.
One of my worst meets from a verified profile from a safety perspective scared the shit out of me!
All I am saying is the perspective of other strangers means jack! That is all I am saying, so why newbies are given a hard time is beyond me, just because someone else hasn't met them yet, Use your brain and see if you are compatible by messaging and getting to know each other, not by the words of another stranger that is all "
We're singing from the same sheet, as I said in my last I agree it's ultimately about how you get on with someone and using your judgement - and as also indicated there are no guarantees to be had from a veri, but they DO give indications along the lines I suggested.
Do I place absolute store in them? Hell no, they're just a useful guide to help back up gut instincts and things you glean from taking your time to get to know someone.
Would I meet an unverified person? Personally yes I would if I felt comfortable enough through messaging, but I also understand and respect the reasons of those that wouldn't. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Has anyone ever posted a bad veri
And why would you ever make any decision about anyone based on what they may have done with someone else...
Isn't it better to trust your own judgement rather than rely on that of others who may be total strangers to us..."
For us no. Our judgement on its own, in the circumstances in which we meet, I do believe is not sufficient.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Perhaps - The unverified Newbie wants to meet someone who is verified so that afterwards, the verified person can verify the Newbie. Something an unverified person cannot do .. .. .. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Perhaps - The unverified Newbie wants to meet someone who is verified so that afterwards, the verified person can verify the Newbie. Something an unverified person cannot do .. .. .."
Yes quite likely. XXX |
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"I don’t get it . How’s my profile terrible? Hard to take pictures of yourself. Any ladies good with a camera."
You don’t need someone to take pictures for you. Selfie stick and timer on your phone does the job op |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don’t get it . How’s my profile terrible? Hard to take pictures of yourself. Any ladies good with a camera."
What you could do is get a normal picture of yourself that is flattering. Just one from regular life. And then crop out your face or part of your face (assuming you don’t want to be recognised). Or you could also take a full length picture of yourself in the mirror and hold the camera over your face.
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Op the reason is probably this.
If the profile is not verified and they meet someone who is not verified then neither can verify each other after the meet. So in reality, they could meet 10 unverified people but still have no verifications. If you catch my drift?
Only people with verifications can verify someone.
I think I've even confused myself now.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It can be hard for new genuine members to get verified I have been swinging for mm many years was one of the original members of sh so free lifetime membership but quite new here and only met other unverified members so am still unverified maybe one day lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I guess that verifications are just another indicator to supplement your own 'due diligence' when considering a meet.
It's nothing new and sites like Amazon etc. rely on user reviews all the time. As with all reviews you may place greater reliance on those given by people with a good set of reviews themselves. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Verifications are a good indicator of not only others opinions on that person, but also of their tastes and standards. I’d much prefer to meet someone who has them listed. |
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