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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Good evening! So far it’s just been myself on here but I’d like some advice on how to convince my girlfriend to join too and create a couples profile.

I would love to have other guys join us in bed to giver her a good seeing to as I would enjoy her being pleasured by two or maybe more men at once. We’ve discussed playing with others but she doesn’t seem keen on having sex with other men but said she wouldn’t rule it out however she does like the idea of men watching her having sex. I’m thinking maybe to start off with men watching then maybe have her wank/suck before hopefully she takes it in her pussy.

Any advice on how to get her into this kind of thing would be great, knowing her as I do I’m sure she’d actually enjoy it when in the swing of things literally.

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By *rimson_RoseWoman over a year ago

Tamworth

It reads rather as if this is all about what you'd like to see rather than what she'd enjoy. This shouldn't be about convincing someone it should be about you both exploring where you'd like it to go.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There’s not really a lot you can do, trying to convince someone who has their reservations might be futile.

Why don’t you try masterbating together and talking dirty but turn those dirty words into a scenario where there’s men watching you pleasure her and or her pleasuring you....see if she likes that stuff and if it turns her on,if she does then great you can introduce more dirty talk where the guy joins it

But if it doesn’t like the dirty talk or she feels uncomfortable then just give up for the sake of your relationship. It’s worth more in the long run

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By *exycouplemmmmCouple over a year ago

Surrey

It would NOT be something you need to convince her to do.

And it seems it’s a lot about what YOU want. What does she want... honestly?

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Perhaps log into your profile with her and show her a few profiles and the forums on here as well? The main thing is talk to each other and respect her choices.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Perhaps log into your profile with her and show her a few profiles and the forums on here as well? The main thing is talk to each other and respect her choices. "

He should create a separate profile for that depending on how long he has been on this site and if she knows he has a profile

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"Perhaps log into your profile with her and show her a few profiles and the forums on here as well? The main thing is talk to each other and respect her choices.

He should create a separate profile for that depending on how long he has been on this site and if she knows he has a profile"

Or have admin change it to couples if she does want to go on fab.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

We have talked dirty about it and she does seem keen, I’m more than happy to have guys join us and watch or for her to masterbate guys to start with and see how she feels about going further. We have “simulated” having another cock in her by doing dp with my cock and a dildo which she loves. She’s also suggested the dirty weekend away where nobody knows us and that she’d more likely play with strangers.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

OP, does she know you have been on here over a year and met a woman 5 months ago, or was this before you met your current girlfriend? I'm a bit confused.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

She knows, I’m hoping she’s going to join me on here. As she liked being watched having sex I suggested we could cam on here to see if she’d like that.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"She knows, I’m hoping she’s going to join me on here. As she liked being watched having sex I suggested we could cam on here to see if she’d like that. "

Maybe you should consider her option of going somewhere outside your area and try it with someone you may not see anytime soon.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

That’s probably going to be the way, did it last year and she loved being watched getting fucked outdoors.....well until the police nearly caught us, not the kind of viewing we had in mind!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Try booking with someone from this site and go to a hotel by taking a city break, just need a guy who is not pushy and see if she's comfortable with the idea

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By *rimson_RoseWoman over a year ago

Tamworth

"Try booking with someone from this site and go to a hotel by taking a city break, just need a guy who is not pushy and see if she's comfortable with the idea"

Dreadful idea. 'Love, I know you said you weren't too keen but I've arranged for some bloke to join us anyway, without any input from you. What do you think?'

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"She knows, I’m hoping she’s going to join me on here. As she liked being watched having sex I suggested we could cam on here to see if she’d like that. "

Thanks for clarification OP. She may feel more comfortable chatting in the cam rooms, however I'd avoid the directing rooms for a while that will be sure to put her off!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Try booking with someone from this site and go to a hotel by taking a city break, just need a guy who is not pushy and see if she's comfortable with the idea"

This is a sure fire way to put her off the idea for life !

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Try booking with someone from this site and go to a hotel by taking a city break, just need a guy who is not pushy and see if she's comfortable with the idea

Dreadful idea. 'Love, I know you said you weren't too keen but I've arranged for some bloke to join us anyway, without any input from you. What do you think?'"

I was going on the assumption they've discussed it first, then after can chat with a potential once everyone is on board

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

She’s 100% into being watched, wanking and sucking another guy. She just wasn’t 100% into full sex but said she wouldn’t rule it out at all. I think full sex would depend on the situation and how turned on she was. I definitely think camming might be a good start though. Says she wants people to watch her have sex outdoors on say a night out or something too.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Have you tried forcing her?

Be the man. Tell her she’s going to be shared.

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple over a year ago

London

"She’s 100% into being watched, wanking and sucking another guy. She just wasn’t 100% into full sex but said she wouldn’t rule it out at all. I think full sex would depend on the situation and how turned on she was. I definitely think camming might be a good start though. Says she wants people to watch her have sex outdoors on say a night out or something too."

If she is really into what you have described, just put up a couples profile saying you want soft swap only.

It really is that simple.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I think that’s maybe the best idea and maybe start camming. Maybe a trip to a dogging area too or just as she wants....get up to dirty fun while on a night out and see what she does with anyone watching

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Maybe try a club night

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Try enjoying your relationship as it is rather than

Focusing on how to pimp her out to get your kicks..in fact none of my business, just keep pushing her, then if it all goes fuck shaped you might look back and think...mmm maybe she didn’t want to fuck other men after all.

I find this kind of thing so creepy

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple over a year ago

London

"Try enjoying your relationship as it is rather than

I find this kind of thing so creepy"

Agreed. I am dubious that she has any idea about the OP's desires.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I would be more inclined to meet another couple for a meal and drinks. Then go back to yours, some more drinks and same room fun but no swap.

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By *ay19720Man over a year ago

Ashford kent

"Perhaps log into your profile with her and show her a few profiles and the forums on here as well? The main thing is talk to each other and respect her choices. "

Lol she wont no he on here..lmao

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Try enjoying your relationship as it is rather than

I find this kind of thing so creepy"

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By *emini ManMan over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

As this thread has progressed OP, it's gone from you discussing with your girlfriend and her liking the "idea" of being watched, to suddenly it having happened already that she's been watched - so not sure which is correct?

Simple answer is you don't "get" her into anything - you discuss it with her, talk about what turns both of you on and go at the pace of whoever wants the least, not even thinking how you move things beyond that until you are BOTH ready to do so.

If she doesn't want to do anything - then you have to accept that it's no more than a fantasy thing

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Suggest taking her to a club, see what she says. Clubs are relaxed pressure free environments where she can just watch if she wishes too.

This was what Tom and I did at first when we had taken the decision to dip our toes. I wasn't sure, about a club but decided to try it... loved it, I found it to be a liberating and empowering experience.

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By *orticiaWoman over a year ago

Wirral

"Suggest taking her to a club, see what she says. Clubs are relaxed pressure free environments where she can just watch if she wishes too.

This is a good idea. No pressure to play, use a private room to begin with & just play together ... maybe then move to open playrooms so people are watching & see if she wants to take it further or not.

You can’t ‘convince’ her - but you can dis use it with her & agree how you are going to approach it!

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