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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I think they mean that they can meet locally at a hotel or the other persons house."
But that's still travelling even if to a hotel or other persons house.  |
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By *uciyassMan
over a year ago
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Well I can accom in the uk but can travel. But I can accom at home in ireland It’s just not possible for some to accommodate. I stay in hotels week nights and by the time I get thier al I want to do is collapse and sleep. Occasionally I might meet a friend or two but I still keep my status as can’t accom while in uk |
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"I think they mean that they can meet locally at a hotel or the other persons house.
But that's still travelling even if to a hotel or other persons house. "
Yeah, I know what you mean. It's a funny old world  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i think it's pretty clear, meaning they wont travel far...i guess it depends whether you are in a populated area or not. i wont accom, or travel any distance, because i want to be able to get to and from somewhere under my own steam safely. but im just outside london, so there is obviously far more people very close than if i lived in somewhere rural or less populated. |
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I can't accommodate and can only travel within a reasonable distance, maybe an hours drive at most.
I state this on my profile but it doesn't stop people from messaging me saying I can come round to your house or those who live 200-300 miles away.
The people who say they can't travel often mean they cannot travel far and would prefer to meet people who live locally. The site doesn't give this option so they choose what they think is most appropriate. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"i think it's pretty clear, meaning they wont travel far...i guess it depends whether you are in a populated area or not. i wont accom, or travel any distance, because i want to be able to get to and from somewhere under my own steam safely. but im just outside london, so there is obviously far more people very close than if i lived in somewhere rural or less populated."
But they still are travelling. I get they can't accommodate, but even if it's a few doors down the road or 5 miles away, they'll still be travelling.
Cannot travel should be for those who cannot travel and can only accommodate.
Distance prepared to travel should be stated on the profile, not just put that you can't. This can't travel /can't accommodate on profiles means we simply pass it by without reading further. I'm sure others do as well so it means they are potentially missing meeting because they can't be bothered to clarify a travel arrangement. |
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"i think it's pretty clear, meaning they wont travel far...i guess it depends whether you are in a populated area or not. i wont accom, or travel any distance, because i want to be able to get to and from somewhere under my own steam safely. but im just outside london, so there is obviously far more people very close than if i lived in somewhere rural or less populated.
But they still are travelling. I get they can't accommodate, but even if it's a few doors down the road or 5 miles away, they'll still be travelling.
Cannot travel should be for those who cannot travel and can only accommodate.
Distance prepared to travel should be stated on the profile, not just put that you can't. This can't travel /can't accommodate on profiles means we simply pass it by without reading further. I'm sure others do as well so it means they are potentially missing meeting because they can't be bothered to clarify a travel arrangement. "
Putting distance you are prepared to travel is a good idea, if only people would actually read profiles! |
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"i think it's pretty clear, meaning they wont travel far...i guess it depends whether you are in a populated area or not. i wont accom, or travel any distance, because i want to be able to get to and from somewhere under my own steam safely. but im just outside london, so there is obviously far more people very close than if i lived in somewhere rural or less populated.
But they still are travelling. I get they can't accommodate, but even if it's a few doors down the road or 5 miles away, they'll still be travelling.
Cannot travel should be for those who cannot travel and can only accommodate.
Distance prepared to travel should be stated on the profile, not just put that you can't. This can't travel /can't accommodate on profiles means we simply pass it by without reading further. I'm sure others do as well so it means they are potentially missing meeting because they can't be bothered to clarify a travel arrangement. "
But that's their choice. If you feel you're incompatible due to their travel arrangements so be it. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"i think it's pretty clear, meaning they wont travel far...i guess it depends whether you are in a populated area or not. i wont accom, or travel any distance, because i want to be able to get to and from somewhere under my own steam safely. but im just outside london, so there is obviously far more people very close than if i lived in somewhere rural or less populated.
But they still are travelling. I get they can't accommodate, but even if it's a few doors down the road or 5 miles away, they'll still be travelling.
Cannot travel should be for those who cannot travel and can only accommodate.
Distance prepared to travel should be stated on the profile, not just put that you can't. This can't travel /can't accommodate on profiles means we simply pass it by without reading further. I'm sure others do as well so it means they are potentially missing meeting because they can't be bothered to clarify a travel arrangement.
But that's their choice. If you feel you're incompatible due to their travel arrangements so be it."
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Yes I have often wondered the same thing I have had this in the past in the Manchester area and I was expected to pick up the person take to my house for a meet then take them back home afterwards which I no longer do I see it as a waste of my time |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"i think it's pretty clear, meaning they wont travel far...i guess it depends whether you are in a populated area or not. i wont accom, or travel any distance, because i want to be able to get to and from somewhere under my own steam safely. but im just outside london, so there is obviously far more people very close than if i lived in somewhere rural or less populated.
But they still are travelling. I get they can't accommodate, but even if it's a few doors down the road or 5 miles away, they'll still be travelling.
Cannot travel should be for those who cannot travel and can only accommodate.
Distance prepared to travel should be stated on the profile, not just put that you can't. This can't travel /can't accommodate on profiles means we simply pass it by without reading further. I'm sure others do as well so it means they are potentially missing meeting because they can't be bothered to clarify a travel arrangement. "
it's not a matter of 'not bothering' ..if someone wants to ask how far someone can travel, then they can. it's just a matter of using a bit of common sense. |
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"Yes I have often wondered the same thing I have had this in the past in the Manchester area and I was expected to pick up the person take to my house for a meet then take them back home afterwards which I no longer do I see it as a waste of my time "
I hadn't thought of that. It's a bit of a cheek really. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"i think it's pretty clear, meaning they wont travel far...i guess it depends whether you are in a populated area or not. i wont accom, or travel any distance, because i want to be able to get to and from somewhere under my own steam safely. but im just outside london, so there is obviously far more people very close than if i lived in somewhere rural or less populated.
But they still are travelling. I get they can't accommodate, but even if it's a few doors down the road or 5 miles away, they'll still be travelling.
Cannot travel should be for those who cannot travel and can only accommodate.
Distance prepared to travel should be stated on the profile, not just put that you can't. This can't travel /can't accommodate on profiles means we simply pass it by without reading further. I'm sure others do as well so it means they are potentially missing meeting because they can't be bothered to clarify a travel arrangement.
But that's their choice. If you feel you're incompatible due to their travel arrangements so be it."
Of course it is, that's not in dispute. I just fail to see how such a profile can be 'tempting' to anyone viewing it.
Bit like being given a £million and told you can't spend it or give it away or destroy it.
Pointless.
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"i think it's pretty clear, meaning they wont travel far...i guess it depends whether you are in a populated area or not. i wont accom, or travel any distance, because i want to be able to get to and from somewhere under my own steam safely. but im just outside london, so there is obviously far more people very close than if i lived in somewhere rural or less populated.
But they still are travelling. I get they can't accommodate, but even if it's a few doors down the road or 5 miles away, they'll still be travelling.
Cannot travel should be for those who cannot travel and can only accommodate.
Distance prepared to travel should be stated on the profile, not just put that you can't. This can't travel /can't accommodate on profiles means we simply pass it by without reading further. I'm sure others do as well so it means they are potentially missing meeting because they can't be bothered to clarify a travel arrangement.
Putting distance you are prepared to travel is a good idea, if only people would actually read profiles!"
Read profiles? That would be novel! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i think it's pretty clear, meaning they wont travel far...i guess it depends whether you are in a populated area or not. i wont accom, or travel any distance, because i want to be able to get to and from somewhere under my own steam safely. but im just outside london, so there is obviously far more people very close than if i lived in somewhere rural or less populated.
But they still are travelling. I get they can't accommodate, but even if it's a few doors down the road or 5 miles away, they'll still be travelling.
Cannot travel should be for those who cannot travel and can only accommodate.
Distance prepared to travel should be stated on the profile, not just put that you can't. This can't travel /can't accommodate on profiles means we simply pass it by without reading further. I'm sure others do as well so it means they are potentially missing meeting because they can't be bothered to clarify a travel arrangement.
But that's their choice. If you feel you're incompatible due to their travel arrangements so be it.
Of course it is, that's not in dispute. I just fail to see how such a profile can be 'tempting' to anyone viewing it.
Bit like being given a £million and told you can't spend it or give it away or destroy it.
Pointless.
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well it's clearly not pointless to those who want to have that on their profiles.It's never been a problem for me..and as it's my safety and convenience i'm concerned with, i'm not really bothered if someone passes my profile by because of it. |
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"i think it's pretty clear, meaning they wont travel far...i guess it depends whether you are in a populated area or not. i wont accom, or travel any distance, because i want to be able to get to and from somewhere under my own steam safely. but im just outside london, so there is obviously far more people very close than if i lived in somewhere rural or less populated.
But they still are travelling. I get they can't accommodate, but even if it's a few doors down the road or 5 miles away, they'll still be travelling.
Cannot travel should be for those who cannot travel and can only accommodate.
Distance prepared to travel should be stated on the profile, not just put that you can't. This can't travel /can't accommodate on profiles means we simply pass it by without reading further. I'm sure others do as well so it means they are potentially missing meeting because they can't be bothered to clarify a travel arrangement.
But that's their choice. If you feel you're incompatible due to their travel arrangements so be it.
Of course it is, that's not in dispute. I just fail to see how such a profile can be 'tempting' to anyone viewing it.
Bit like being given a £million and told you can't spend it or give it away or destroy it.
Pointless.
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Now that would be frustrating. Could I at least put it in the bank to earn (pitiful amounts of) interest?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My friend had this when she was meeting. She didn’t drive so basically anywhere she could get to on a bus. Believe me me, as a woman I get men from all over expecting me to travel to them, no travel to me would be anywhere you can get to within reasonable distance using public transport but you always get dicks being sarcastic thinking this means you won’t step foot outside your house! I drive, when I’m meeting I have will travel on my profile and I still get people from Warrington, Bolton, Liverpool etc expecting me to travel to them even though I specifically state my boundaries. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Maybe just apply common sense. They meet locally or book hotels. It's really not hard to work out  "
never get why endless threads ask this question, it's perfectly obvious to me. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"i think it's pretty clear, meaning they wont travel far...i guess it depends whether you are in a populated area or not. i wont accom, or travel any distance, because i want to be able to get to and from somewhere under my own steam safely. but im just outside london, so there is obviously far more people very close than if i lived in somewhere rural or less populated.
But they still are travelling. I get they can't accommodate, but even if it's a few doors down the road or 5 miles away, they'll still be travelling.
Cannot travel should be for those who cannot travel and can only accommodate.
Distance prepared to travel should be stated on the profile, not just put that you can't. This can't travel /can't accommodate on profiles means we simply pass it by without reading further. I'm sure others do as well so it means they are potentially missing meeting because they can't be bothered to clarify a travel arrangement.
But that's their choice. If you feel you're incompatible due to their travel arrangements so be it.
Of course it is, that's not in dispute. I just fail to see how such a profile can be 'tempting' to anyone viewing it.
Bit like being given a £million and told you can't spend it or give it away or destroy it.
Pointless.
Now that would be frustrating. Could I at least put it in the bank to earn (pitiful amounts of) interest? "
No, because you'd have to travel to the bank |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't accommode because i'd rather not entertain in my home. I don't travel because I'm only looking to meet locally and am not willing to travel a distance for a meet. It's pretty simple really |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I wouldn't put that on my profile as would put people off. I wouldn't want a meet at my home first meet and I wouldn't want to travel far. Hotel or car meets would be fine |
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"Maybe just apply common sense. They meet locally or book hotels. It's really not hard to work out "
You're the second person to mention common sense. I've tried all the major supermarkets, Amazon and even Ebay.
No-one seems to have it these days! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i think it's pretty clear, meaning they wont travel far...i guess it depends whether you are in a populated area or not. i wont accom, or travel any distance, because i want to be able to get to and from somewhere under my own steam safely. but im just outside london, so there is obviously far more people very close than if i lived in somewhere rural or less populated.
But they still are travelling. I get they can't accommodate, but even if it's a few doors down the road or 5 miles away, they'll still be travelling.
Cannot travel should be for those who cannot travel and can only accommodate.
Distance prepared to travel should be stated on the profile, not just put that you can't. This can't travel /can't accommodate on profiles means we simply pass it by without reading further. I'm sure others do as well so it means they are potentially missing meeting because they can't be bothered to clarify a travel arrangement. "
If it keeps the messaging pool down, I'm all for that to be honest. It has had no impact on my meeting potential with the ones I've been lucky to meet |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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People on this site have very weird ideas of what people should and shouldn’t do. Why not just run your profile how you want and contact the people who’s profiles you like instead of trying to get everyone to conform to your way of thinking?! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Anyone else wonder how the hell the people with this on their profile actually meet?
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I posted the same topic few weeks ago and I was roasted, insulted and etcc by fabswingers members |
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By *ornCouple
over a year ago
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"I can't accommodate and can only travel within a reasonable distance, maybe an hours drive at most.
I state this on my profile but it doesn't stop people from messaging me saying I can come round to your house or those who live 200-300 miles away.
The people who say they can't travel often mean they cannot travel far and would prefer to meet people who live locally. The site doesn't give this option so they choose what they think is most appropriate. "
Exactly so |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"[Removed by poster at 19/01/18 16:05:18]"
So trains, buses, taxis, pushbikes aren't methods of travel then? Even walking is travelling.
Again, to say 'can't travel' when unless housebound and also can't accommodate, is a bit of a porky pie.. Lol
Walking to the neighbours house for a quick shag is travelling.
The answer lies with being definitive of the distance you are prepared to travel, which should be included in your profile.
I can travel within a 10 mile radius of X, for example. |
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I think as long as your profile explains in more detail, it’s not too important.
Mine is cannot accom & cannot travel as my preference is to play at the club ... so I wouldn’t be travelling to them & I wouldn’t be accommodating at home.
But like I said, if anyone reads my profile, it’s clear from there so I’d suggest take it in conjunction with their text too! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"[Removed by poster at 19/01/18 16:05:18]
So trains, buses, taxis, pushbikes aren't methods of travel then? Even walking is travelling.
Again, to say 'can't travel' when unless housebound and also can't accommodate, is a bit of a porky pie.. Lol
Walking to the neighbours house for a quick shag is travelling.
The answer lies with being definitive of the distance you are prepared to travel, which should be included in your profile.
I can travel within a 10 mile radius of X, for example."
That would be great if anyone actually bothered to read or take note of what you wrote, but they do note. Mine clearly said within 20 mins drive of prestwich yet I’d get people all the time messaging from all over the country and even those that had definitely read it would still be like I’m only an hour and a half away just come to me!! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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No confusion.
You talk about it being literal.. Well yes, not being able to travel is a literal as not being able to accommodate.
I can travel but only to clubs.. Is travelling, so you can travel. It's down to explaining that in your profile.
I can't accommodate... Is that at all, or just when it's not convenient too?
They are definitive statements.. So yes, they are literal unless you amend them in your profile text. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"No confusion.
You talk about it being literal.. Well yes, not being able to travel is a literal as not being able to accommodate.
I can travel but only to clubs.. Is travelling, so you can travel. It's down to explaining that in your profile.
I can't accommodate... Is that at all, or just when it's not convenient too?
They are definitive statements.. So yes, they are literal unless you amend them in your profile text. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No confusion.
You talk about it being literal.. Well yes, not being able to travel is a literal as not being able to accommodate.
I can travel but only to clubs.. Is travelling, so you can travel. It's down to explaining that in your profile.
I can't accommodate... Is that at all, or just when it's not convenient too?
They are definitive statements.. So yes, they are literal unless you amend them in your profile text. "
I had on can travel and my area, as previously stated, but still when I’d say, for example, Liverpool is too far then men would say why say you travel then! Can’t satisfy all of the people all of the time. If it bothers you just don’t message them or message asking if they have areas they can reach or if they literally never even leave the house. But I guess you could argue that they travel to the kitchen or toilet in their home so technically they do travel  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There are lots of men that put can or can’t accommodate but when you discuss with them it’s dependant on factors, such as work, when they have their kids, only once they trust you etc. It’s annoying if I contact someone because they can accommodate but then they say not on the days you’re free or only once we’ve met X amount of time etc, but I don’t moan about it I just accept it, block and move on |
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By *illowzWoman
over a year ago
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"Anyone else wonder how the hell the people with this on their profile actually meet?
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My profile says can't accom or travel. I can travel locally, but rely on public transport. I can sometimes accommodate but only when the kids aren't here. I find it easier to discuss this in a message rather than on my profile |
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I can't accommodate, I have teenagers, plus older children who have keys & often pop in unnanounced.
I've been caught out walking naked round my house or nude sunbathing too many times, having them walk in on anything else.. No chance!
I'd take can't travel, not always as someone who can't travel but has set restrictions as how far they'd actually go. |
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By *uicy72Woman
over a year ago
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"People on this site have very weird ideas of what people should and shouldn’t do. Why not just run your profile how you want and contact the people who’s profiles you like instead of trying to get everyone to conform to your way of thinking?!"
This |
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By *uicy72Woman
over a year ago
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"I think as long as your profile explains in more detail, it’s not too important.
Mine is cannot accom & cannot travel as my preference is to play at the club ... so I wouldn’t be travelling to them & I wouldn’t be accommodating at home.
But like I said, if anyone reads my profile, it’s clear from there so I’d suggest take it in conjunction with their text too!"
Same here !
Clubs and parties
Total common sense
Come on guys it’s not hard  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Most want to be picked up and dropped of in our experience"
wow fab taxi service! Haha! Everyone is different I suppose.Some people travel all over the u.k meeting people at houses and parties,clubs etc so it depends what suits |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Most want to be picked up and dropped of in our experience wow fab taxi service! Haha! Everyone is different I suppose.Some people travel all over the u.k meeting people at houses and parties,clubs etc so it depends what suits "
Actually my friend asked this too but she’d say pick me up and we’ll go to a club as a couple. It’d save her £20 in a taxi and them £40 not having to pay as a single male, I’d say it benefited both parties. |
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"I think as long as your profile explains in more detail, it’s not too important.
Mine is cannot accom & cannot travel as my preference is to play at the club ... so I wouldn’t be travelling to them & I wouldn’t be accommodating at home.
But like I said, if anyone reads my profile, it’s clear from there so I’d suggest take it in conjunction with their text too!
Same here !
Clubs and parties
Total common sense
Come on guys it’s not hard "
It may not be hard yet but if you keep stroking..... |
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