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"I'd love my husband to find another lady we can both meet socially either together or individually, and him and her sexually, maybe all three of us from time to time. In reality I can't imagine theres all that many ladies who would want to get involved in such a scenario. " . I’m after this for my hubby as well x | |||
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"I'd love my husband to find another lady we can both meet socially either together or individually, and him and her sexually, maybe all three of us from time to time. In reality I can't imagine theres all that many ladies who would want to get involved in such a scenario. " I'd like this 
But it's difficult finding the right dynamic with a couple.
I don't want a full on relationship with anyone - but I'd love to have people to have fun with socially and sexually x | |||
Still here - and I’d still love a loving relationship with a fellow sex crazed kinky sod who meets my meet requirements- preferably late thirties to early forties so we can have a ‘real ‘ relationship as well as a swinging one!
Oh - and an hour’s drive tops please! | |||
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I’m very lucky with my scenario and kinda spoilt at times but it’s not easy having more than one relationship. Sometimes it’s twice the fun, others it’s twice as much moaning about work and other shit lol | |||
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"I'd love my husband to find another lady we can both meet socially either together or individually, and him and her sexually, maybe all three of us from time to time. In reality I can't imagine theres all that many ladies who would want to get involved in such a scenario. " Sounds like an amazing scenario in my opinion | |||
"I'd love my husband to find another lady we can both meet socially either together or individually, and him and her sexually, maybe all three of us from time to time. In reality I can't imagine theres all that many ladies who would want to get involved in such a scenario. " We are out there...... | |||
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"Looking for tre right couple for Hotwife, Cuckold, or GF arrangement HG" £150 miles away! Tut | |||
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"I'd love my husband to find another lady we can both meet socially either together or individually, and him and her sexually, maybe all three of us from time to time. In reality I can't imagine theres all that many ladies who would want to get involved in such a scenario. " I think this is the basic formation a lot of couples would like when opening themselves up to having other partners, it's certainly something we'd like to try. | |||
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"Looking for tre right couple for Hotwife, Cuckold, or GF arrangement HG £150 miles away! Tut" Story of my life  | |||
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"Well, I’m polyamorous. Men have to pretty damn special to get my attention, so I’m looking largely to see what happens with other poly/open/non-mono women. My only requirement is that it is done ethically. No shitting on people needlessly!"  | |||
"The more I think about “normal” relationships the more I think it needs a change. Back in the 1970s everyone used to rent their TVs and buy their cars, now it’s the other way around. I’m not saying one is better than the other but the ability to change to suit what you need at the time would be very useful."  | |||
"I'm in again any local couples who want this and like my profile message me "If only you were closer. | |||
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"In my humble opinion sexual monogamy is unnatural though emotional monogamy has advantages and therefore makes sense. The ideal spouse for me is a loving man who likes to see his wife enjoy other men and also enjoys other women himself. No jealousies and no deception. In time one or more of those sex partners could be come more permanent members at home." I have been told talking through the issues helps reduce jealousy and being open and honest throughout having other partners is a good thing too. I hope to find someone who i can be honest with and share our fantasises together and enjoy them | |||
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"Just how hard can this be.. "3rd thread up and gaining momentum. It is on site where the majority are only interested in one off or 2x at best as there seems to be so much candy they could be missing out on. | |||
"I'm looking for anything really as working out who i am i am still exploring the kink and thinking poly direction as long as the person I'm with is also happy to explore and learn new things " I've had time to think more than explore and now would love a fwb who's willing to explore, other things in the fetish lifestyle and experience others. We need to be in a honest open discussion type relationship where if we want out we let each other know. I rather be told they don't want to see me no more than have no contact all of a sudden and vice versa. I love sex but love the thought of a BDSM relationship also I'm greedy for both lol | |||
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"Well, I’m polyamorous. Men have to pretty damn special to get my attention, so I’m looking largely to see what happens with other poly/open/non-mono women. My only requirement is that it is done ethically. No shitting on people needlessly!" | |||
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"I had one but she found a boyfriend gutted"I'm not following you comment here? Poly means more than one lover and sharing. So having a bf or another isn't an issue unless she wasnt/isn't polyamorous. In your relationship with her were you both truly poly or was it one sided or more an idea? | |||
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"we have lived a Poly lifesryle for several years but for the last year have been exploring swingibg and friends we have fub with. What we found is in all relationships there are moments that define, alter, strengthen and sometimes break that relationship. Thats life to be honest, with polyamory that increases as the complexities that we find with one relationship magnify due too the multi layered relationships you find in Poly. Also add into the mix that a lot of people don't have a full understanding about Poly and generally, the only experience they have had is negative or none at all. From my perspective a true polyamorous relationship, is one where all partners are cognizant, and accepting of the others. And I don't mean "accepting as a necessary evil", I mean actually embracing the relationships and wanting them to work. This can take time, patients and work especially in the NRE (new relationship Energy) period of any new dynanic that can form. I say again to truly work Poly takes love, understanding, communication and work. It is about opening your heart and allowing yourself and the people you love to be the happiest and most fulfilled that they can be. The greatest thing I can experience is to see someone I love all giddy, happy and in love with a wonderful person... Love is so rare in our lives, I believe we should be able to open our hearts to the opportunities, and share in the joys as much as the sorrows of those we care for. I do not look at every person I meet as a potential partner but chose this way to live as I felt that its a sad lose if someone enters your life and we have no opportunity to enrich our lives, and theirs, with the love and sharing that can result from that connectedness.. The other risk is when there are already strong relationships built with in a poly household, is closing off the part of you that is poly as to never to fall in love again, never to love another, is like asking do not be the person I fell in love with and not to be themselves. With this also comes the issue that denying the poly feelings can lead to a shutdown from the existing poly relationships as the love all comes from the same place. Poly also does not mean you take a little of the love from one relationship to give to the new one, love is infinite, to me its the one constant in any relationship, it does not run dry with over use, are hearts, body and soul only runs out of love if you make the conscious decision to stop loving and close down your own emotional circuit board In the end I may be poly, but the lack of complexity and freedom that swinging and friends we have fun with makes life alot easier lol " Very good post and lots of good insight for those with less experience. | |||
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"We are looking still for a single guy to meet regularly....a sort of boyfriend scenario x " I like this sort of thing .... more of a turn on | |||
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"Oh is this still going?
Still here - and I’d still love a loving relationship with a fellow sex crazed kinky sod who meets my meet requirements- preferably late thirties to early forties so we can have a ‘real ‘ relationship as well as a swinging one!
Oh - and an hour’s drive tops please! "This is what I’m looking for too ( though a slightly older age range - 48 - 58), but I was once told that I ‘wouldn’t find love on a swinging site’. A girl can dream I suppose ! | |||
"We are looking still for a single guy to meet regularly....a sort of boyfriend scenario x " This is what I am after too, but i don't want to be treated just like a fb. I want a bf that will treat me like they would a gf, take me on dates, by me birthday gifts etc. | |||
"I'd quite like a fwb, but I know how hard they are to find." Shame you are so far away | |||
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"Still looking for a good man for romance, sex and an intimate relationship." I’d love to apply for this position | |||
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"There’s a very big difference between a fb or fwb and a real poly relationship xx" Yep... It seems many here are getting them confused and need to learn more what polyamorous involves. | |||
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"we have lived a Poly lifesryle for several years but for the last year have been exploring swingibg and friends we have fub with. What we found is in all relationships there are moments that define, alter, strengthen and sometimes break that relationship. Thats life to be honest, with polyamory that increases as the complexities that we find with one relationship magnify due too the multi layered relationships you find in Poly. Also add into the mix that a lot of people don't have a full understanding about Poly and generally, the only experience they have had is negative or none at all. From my perspective a true polyamorous relationship, is one where all partners are cognizant, and accepting of the others. And I don't mean "accepting as a necessary evil", I mean actually embracing the relationships and wanting them to work. This can take time, patients and work especially in the NRE (new relationship Energy) period of any new dynanic that can form. I say again to truly work Poly takes love, understanding, communication and work. It is about opening your heart and allowing yourself and the people you love to be the happiest and most fulfilled that they can be. The greatest thing I can experience is to see someone I love all giddy, happy and in love with a wonderful person... Love is so rare in our lives, I believe we should be able to open our hearts to the opportunities, and share in the joys as much as the sorrows of those we care for. I do not look at every person I meet as a potential partner but chose this way to live as I felt that its a sad lose if someone enters your life and we have no opportunity to enrich our lives, and theirs, with the love and sharing that can result from that connectedness.. The other risk is when there are already strong relationships built with in a poly household, is closing off the part of you that is poly as to never to fall in love again, never to love another, is like asking do not be the person I fell in love with and not to be themselves. With this also comes the issue that denying the poly feelings can lead to a shutdown from the existing poly relationships as the love all comes from the same place. Poly also does not mean you take a little of the love from one relationship to give to the new one, love is infinite, to me its the one constant in any relationship, it does not run dry with over use, are hearts, body and soul only runs out of love if you make the conscious decision to stop loving and close down your own emotional circuit board In the end I may be poly, but the lack of complexity and freedom that swinging and friends we have fun with makes life alot easier lol " Best post on the subject and so true. I particularly liked this paragraph: "Poly also does not mean you take a little of the love from one relationship to give to the new one, love is infinite, to me its the one constant in any relationship, it does not run dry with over use, are hearts, body and soul only runs out of love if you make the conscious decision to stop loving and close down your own emotional circuit board" So exactly true. I can see myself loving 2 or more men (and I already do love a woman) and find it mind boggling that people don't understand that. Love is infinite as you said. People love their children (all 10 of them if they have that many!) so why not spouses? Society makes us think there's "only one" love for each human but that's totally not true. But it takes mental maturity to be able to prevent jealousy. I'll admit 10 years ago I wouldn't be saying what I say now. The difficulty is finding men who won't get jealous x | |||
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"There’s a very big difference between a fb or fwb and a real poly relationship xx Yep... It seems many here are getting them confused and need to learn more what polyamorous involves. " Yep, I third this. | |||
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"I would love to find a male for regular fun. My fiance would also love to find a female. A couple who we could meet separately with or as a four or even the odd 3sum, taking it in turns to make sure everyone got a share of the fun would be amazing but I won't hold my breath! " Sounds just like T and I would love | |||
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"we have lived a Poly lifesryle for several years but for the last year have been exploring swingibg and friends we have fub with. What we found is in all relationships there are moments that define, alter, strengthen and sometimes break that relationship. Thats life to be honest, with polyamory that increases as the complexities that we find with one relationship magnify due too the multi layered relationships you find in Poly. Also add into the mix that a lot of people don't have a full understanding about Poly and generally, the only experience they have had is negative or none at all. From my perspective a true polyamorous relationship, is one where all partners are cognizant, and accepting of the others. And I don't mean "accepting as a necessary evil", I mean actually embracing the relationships and wanting them to work. This can take time, patients and work especially in the NRE (new relationship Energy) period of any new dynanic that can form. I say again to truly work Poly takes love, understanding, communication and work. It is about opening your heart and allowing yourself and the people you love to be the happiest and most fulfilled that they can be. The greatest thing I can experience is to see someone I love all giddy, happy and in love with a wonderful person... Love is so rare in our lives, I believe we should be able to open our hearts to the opportunities, and share in the joys as much as the sorrows of those we care for. I do not look at every person I meet as a potential partner but chose this way to live as I felt that its a sad lose if someone enters your life and we have no opportunity to enrich our lives, and theirs, with the love and sharing that can result from that connectedness.. The other risk is when there are already strong relationships built with in a poly household, is closing off the part of you that is poly as to never to fall in love again, never to love another, is like asking do not be the person I fell in love with and not to be themselves. With this also comes the issue that denying the poly feelings can lead to a shutdown from the existing poly relationships as the love all comes from the same place. Poly also does not mean you take a little of the love from one relationship to give to the new one, love is infinite, to me its the one constant in any relationship, it does not run dry with over use, are hearts, body and soul only runs out of love if you make the conscious decision to stop loving and close down your own emotional circuit board In the end I may be poly, but the lack of complexity and freedom that swinging and friends we have fun with makes life alot easier lol Best post on the subject and so true. I particularly liked this paragraph: "Poly also does not mean you take a little of the love from one relationship to give to the new one, love is infinite, to me its the one constant in any relationship, it does not run dry with over use, are hearts, body and soul only runs out of love if you make the conscious decision to stop loving and close down your own emotional circuit board" So exactly true. I can see myself loving 2 or more men (and I already do love a woman) and find it mind boggling that people don't understand that. Love is infinite as you said. People love their children (all 10 of them if they have that many!) so why not spouses? Society makes us think there's "only one" love for each human but that's totally not true. But it takes mental maturity to be able to prevent jealousy. I'll admit 10 years ago I wouldn't be saying what I say now. The difficulty is finding men who won't get jealous x" I think there are men out there that don't get jealous. I (MT) has never really felt jealousy. I think it's how you look at it. I have the thought that I want my partner/partners to experience everything in life that they can x open their minds to new experiences and enjoy life to the fullest | |||
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"We're still keeping an eye out, I really just want a regular submissive woman to play with every now and then and be friends with outside of that but it's difficult to arrange here as I guess a lot of women avoid couples profiles for that sort of thing, thinking of creating just a single woman profile but don't want to be accused of lying on here "If you link your couples profile to your single profile and vice versa you're being open and honest. | |||
"We're still keeping an eye out, I really just want a regular submissive woman to play with every now and then and be friends with outside of that but it's difficult to arrange here as I guess a lot of women avoid couples profiles for that sort of thing, thinking of creating just a single woman profile but don't want to be accused of lying on here
If you link your couples profile to your single profile and vice versa you're being open and honest."I guess I could try that. Hopefully it can lead to fun times again as trying to do so on a couples profile is like pulling teeth. | |||
"Oh is this still going?
Still here - and I’d still love a loving relationship with a fellow sex crazed kinky sod who meets my meet requirements- preferably late thirties to early forties so we can have a ‘real ‘ relationship as well as a swinging one!
Oh - and an hour’s drive tops please! "Would love one but shame you bit far !! | |||
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"I'd love my husband to find another lady we can both meet socially either together or individually, and him and her sexually, maybe all three of us from time to time. In reality I can't imagine theres all that many ladies who would want to get involved in such a scenario. " This is perfect in my eyes too I keep encouraging my partner to put himself out there but seems Hard work. I hope he finds a play partner and then maybe I could join them as things progress | |||
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"I am looking for this. Basically someone who can keep me company whilst hubby is away in the week. X" I would love to infact looking for an open relationship  | |||
"I am looking for this. Basically someone who can keep me company whilst hubby is away in the week. X I would love to infact looking for an open relationship "I think you'd be a bit far away unfortunately | |||
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"I have a couple friends i quite fegularly have fun with but both are 70 miles away think a local girl may be needed" Me me me | |||
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"I ......A couple who we could meet separately with or as a odd 3sum, taking it in turns to make sure everyone got a share of the fun would be amazing but I won't hold my breath! " We found that couple and they are now great friends for years. Apart from playing as two couples, we have paired off with the other partner for the odd night away, had threeseomes and MM fun. Sadly they’ve moved away so we can’t see them as much as we used to
We found this “open couples” thing is a great way to explore this interest. Obviously there has to be a great amount of trust built up. We would certainly be up for this again with the right couple.
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"I am looking for this. Basically someone who can keep me company whilst hubby is away in the week. X I would love to infact looking for an open relationship
I think you'd be a bit far away unfortunately"I know its a shame that i dont have much ppl near me | |||
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