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Point of view from ladies and gents please!
I get lots of full on opening messages for example this morning I get "any chance you were cummed in last night, I love to smell a dirty pussy" and that was just the first line.
Never spoke to the person so my thoughts are "twat" and delete messsage.
So ladies; what are your thoughts, do you like these type of messages and guys do you do it for your entertainment or do you think it will work to get a conversation? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I can't stand messages like that, especially as a first contact, I'm just like    Really!!
Call me old fashioned but I find it crude, immature and unnecessary and if I'm honest, from a complete stranger, a little creepy as they have made no attemp to introduce themselves.
I'm fully aware of the nature of this site but it doesn't mean the usual polite respectful normal rules of engagement don't apply.
This is the main reason I've blocked everyone and search for people myself. |
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By *wotrwuhCouple
over a year ago
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"Point of view from ladies and gents please!
I get lots of full on opening messages for example this morning I get "any chance you were cummed in last night, I love to smell a dirty pussy" and that was just the first line.
Never spoke to the person so my thoughts are "twat" and delete messsage.
So ladies; what are your thoughts, do you like these type of messages and guys do you do it for your entertainment or do you think it will work to get a conversation? "
We had the same message this morning. The ‘copy and paste’ has obviously taken a hammering this morning. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A friend showed me some examples of these kind of messages she had received. They were essays
Unfortunately terribly written and grammatically incorrect essays...lol |
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"I can't stand messages like that, especially as a first contact, I'm just like Really!!
Call me old fashioned but I find it crude, immature and unnecessary and if I'm honest, from a complete stranger, a little creepy as they have made no attemp to introduce themselves.
I'm fully aware of the nature of this site but it doesn't mean the usual polite respectful normal rules of engagement don't apply.
This is the main reason I've blocked everyone and search for people myself."
Am so glad it's not just me xx |
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By *SophiexCouple
over a year ago
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"...Never spoke to the person so my thoughts are "twat" and delete messsage... "
I tend to block as well, this type of guy is not worth knowing and for me they only come across as looking for a cheap thrill rather than being serious about any potential meet... of course also a huge turn-off  |
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over a year ago
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"I come round you answer the door in a towel when door closes your towel drops and we kiss to the sofa you sit down and I go down on you and make you boldness your lips apart for my tongue I’ll lick and suck your clit I’ll you beg for a fist
I’ll fit you slow and deep and bend you over and push my cock in you to get it wet then I’ll rub it on your ass
And you rub your clit and finger yourself as I begin to push my hard cock in your ass or pussy ? Your choose
Can’t beat the feeling of fingers in a pussy as my cock is it there too
Even better if you have toys too xx"
Absolute dross, sorry, so off putting.
What happens if they mistake the postman for you and drop their towel for him? 
Way too full on. |
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"Point of view from ladies and gents please!
I get lots of full on opening messages for example this morning I get "any chance you were cummed in last night, I love to smell a dirty pussy" and that was just the first line.
Never spoke to the person so my thoughts are "twat" and delete messsage.
So ladies; what are your thoughts, do you like these type of messages and guys do you do it for your entertainment or do you think it will work to get a conversation?
We had the same message this morning. The ‘copy and paste’ has obviously taken a hammering this morning. "
I don't understand what they get out if it especially if they are all just deleted. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I put things like this to catch the attention is it bad idea ?
Terrible idea my friend.
Also...punctuation."
I think he is on a wind up
He's 37 apparently
No 37 yr old would send messages like that |
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"I put things like this to catch the attention is it bad idea ?
Terrible idea my friend.
Also...punctuation.
I think he is on a wind up
He's 37 apparently
No 37 yr old would send messages like that"
Oh I think you know just from reading the forums that’s very possible
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I put things like this to catch the attention is it bad idea ?
Terrible idea my friend.
Also...punctuation.
I think he is on a wind up
He's 37 apparently
No 37 yr old would send messages like that"
We can only hope...
The art of seduction |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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I think in the majority of cases the guys that send that kind of message cold are just using it as some kind of wank fodder, getting off on the fact they're "interacting" with someone by sending it - even if it's not reciprocated.
Sadly though, there probably are some that genuinely think sending that type of message is a direct route into the recipients knickers and that in itself is quite scary.
I do wonder if that kind of message, or even the "fancy a fuck" type ever do get a positive response, and even if they do whether they lead to any kind of fulfilling experience!! |
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"I come round you answer the door in a towel when door closes your towel drops and we kiss to the sofa you sit down and I go down on you and make you boldness your lips apart for my tongue I’ll lick and suck your clit I’ll you beg for a fist
I’ll fit you slow and deep and bend you over and push my cock in you to get it wet then I’ll rub it on your ass
And you rub your clit and finger yourself as I begin to push my hard cock in your ass or pussy ? Your choose
Can’t beat the feeling of fingers in a pussy as my cock is it there too
Even better if you have toys too xx
Absolute dross, sorry, so off putting.
What happens if they mistake the postman for you and drop their towel for him?
Way too full on."
Yep .... I delete these too. No connection with the person so is just boring. I'll read the stories if I want that  |
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"Just out of interest, could the ladies who rec this type of message comment as to whether the sender has veris ?
I'm intrigued "
No idea. I never got as far as looking at his profile, the delete button jumped out too quick! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I did have a phase of replying to those sorts of messages saying that's nice but I'd rather bend you over my breakfast bar and destroy your arse with my 12 inch strap on! Got blocked a few times, can't think why |
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"I did have a phase of replying to those sorts of messages saying that's nice but I'd rather bend you over my breakfast bar and destroy your arse with my 12 inch strap on! Got blocked a few times, can't think why "
Hahaha, love it. I may have to try that one |
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By *iss SJWoman
over a year ago
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I don’t even bother reading them when you can tell from the first line what they are going to be. I don’t want to give them the satisfaction of knowing it’s been read. I think the senders are like,what we used to call, flashers and get a cheap thrill from knowing someone’s read and reacted to them. Next one I get, I am going to check for veris though. Just to see if they have any success |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I can't stand messages like that, especially as a first contact, I'm just like Really!!
Call me old fashioned but I find it crude, immature and unnecessary and if I'm honest, from a complete stranger, a little creepy as they have made no attemp to introduce themselves.
I'm fully aware of the nature of this site but it doesn't mean the usual polite respectful normal rules of engagement don't apply.
This is the main reason I've blocked everyone and search for people myself."
I share these sentiments on so many levels...!!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Those kind of message earn an instant delete and block.
I work on the basis that if someone is interested in getting to know us, they should introduce themselves in a similar manner to how they would if they were approaching us in person. If someone walked up to us in a pub/club and said something crude like that, you can imagine the reaction...it wouldn't result in an evening of hot and steamy sex, that's for sure!
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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago
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"I did have a phase of replying to those sorts of messages saying that's nice but I'd rather bend you over my breakfast bar and destroy your arse with my 12 inch strap on! Got blocked a few times, can't think why "
I’ve done this too.
It amuses me but generally speaking I dislike those sort of messages. Almost as much as the “scenario” ones.
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"Point of view from ladies and gents please!
I get lots of full on opening messages for example this morning I get "any chance you were cummed in last night, I love to smell a dirty pussy" and that was just the first line.
Never spoke to the person so my thoughts are "twat" and delete messsage.
So ladies; what are your thoughts, do you like these type of messages and guys do you do it for your entertainment or do you think it will work to get a conversation? "
Twat would never send a message like that  |
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"Point of view from ladies and gents please!
I get lots of full on opening messages for example this morning I get "any chance you were cummed in last night, I love to smell a dirty pussy" and that was just the first line.
Never spoke to the person so my thoughts are "twat" and delete messsage.
So ladies; what are your thoughts, do you like these type of messages and guys do you do it for your entertainment or do you think it will work to get a conversation?
Twat would never send a message like that "
Hahaha, sorry, no offence |
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"Point of view from ladies and gents please!
I get lots of full on opening messages for example this morning I get "any chance you were cummed in last night, I love to smell a dirty pussy" and that was just the first line.
Never spoke to the person so my thoughts are "twat" and delete messsage.
So ladies; what are your thoughts, do you like these type of messages and guys do you do it for your entertainment or do you think it will work to get a conversation?
Twat would never send a message like that
Hahaha, sorry, no offence "
None taken  |
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"Seriously... why the fuck do women post secually explicit pics if they're going to cry about people wanking over them??!! It's ridiculous. "
I have no objection to my photos being wanked over. I was just wondering if these messages worked for people or not |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Point of view from ladies and gents please!
I get lots of full on opening messages for example this morning I get "any chance you were cummed in last night, I love to smell a dirty pussy" and that was just the first line.
Never spoke to the person so my thoughts are "twat" and delete messsage.
So ladies; what are your thoughts, do you like these type of messages and guys do you do it for your entertainment or do you think it will work to get a conversation? "
As a man who has never sent these messages, I can't answer. I'd hasten to guess these guys are d*unk and looking for wank fodder. |
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"I can't stand messages like that, especially as a first contact, I'm just like Really!!
Call me old fashioned but I find it crude, immature and unnecessary and if I'm honest, from a complete stranger, a little creepy as they have made no attemp to introduce themselves.
I'm fully aware of the nature of this site but it doesn't mean the usual polite respectful normal rules of engagement don't apply.
This is the main reason I've blocked everyone and search for people myself."
I see why you would block someone for an opener like that. However, blocking everyone saddens me as it means normal fellas who can read a profile and construct a polite sentence or two get shut out..
The knuckledraggers spoiling it for sane courteous people again.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I can't stand messages like that, especially as a first contact, I'm just like Really!!
Call me old fashioned but I find it crude, immature and unnecessary and if I'm honest, from a complete stranger, a little creepy as they have made no attemp to introduce themselves.
I'm fully aware of the nature of this site but it doesn't mean the usual polite respectful normal rules of engagement don't apply.
This is the main reason I've blocked everyone and search for people myself.
I see why you would block someone for an opener like that. However, blocking everyone saddens me as it means normal fellas who can read a profile and construct a polite sentence or two get shut out..
The knuckledraggers spoiling it for sane courteous people again. "
It's part of the cpls/female power trip. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Wow! Why on earth would you send a message like that? Do they really expect a reply. I can only apologies on behalf of the male species. "
White knighting?? Do men really think that'll get them meets?? |
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"I received a long graphic message. I looked at his profile and it was exactly the same text as the message he had sent. "
I dont understand how people can be that lazy. If you are just going to ctrl-c ctrl-v, might as well send something useful, like a recipe for cheesecake, or how to make perfect yourkshire puds etc.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i get lots of first time graphic messages , dirty filthy acts men want to do to me , sometimes i find it a bit amusing and do reply but mostly i just delete them |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"This is the main reason I've blocked everyone and search for people myself.
I see why you would block someone for an opener like that. However, blocking everyone saddens me as it means normal fellas who can read a profile and construct a polite sentence or two get shut out..
The knuckledraggers spoiling it for sane courteous people again.
It's part of the cpls/female power trip."
Don't think it's any kind of power trip at all to be honest - nor do I think anyone spoils anything for others on here - I actually think it's a sensible move on the part of anyone that doesn't want to receive the kind of badly written puerile teenage level messages that some think are acceptable on here.
If people choose to search for themselves that is of course their right, and if you have a decent well written and appealing profile that matches the searchers likes/dislikes then you have every chance of being chosen |
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By *ocks99Man
over a year ago
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"I did have a phase of replying to those sorts of messages saying that's nice but I'd rather bend you over my breakfast bar and destroy your arse with my 12 inch strap on! Got blocked a few times, can't think why "
Their loss |
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"I received a long graphic message. I looked at his profile and it was exactly the same text as the message he had sent.
I dont understand how people can be that lazy. If you are just going to ctrl-c ctrl-v, might as well send something useful, like a recipe for cheesecake, or how to make perfect yourkshire puds etc.."
That’s actually not a bad first message...at least it’s useful and might start a conversation! |
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"Point of view from ladies and gents please!
I get lots of full on opening messages for example this morning I get "any chance you were cummed in last night, I love to smell a dirty pussy" and that was just the first line.
Never spoke to the person so my thoughts are "twat" and delete messsage.
So ladies; what are your thoughts, do you like these type of messages and guys do you do it for your entertainment or do you think it will work to get a conversation? "
You and I have had many a conversation about this. Today I received a message that simply said
" i want to face r**e you"
Damn boy you have a way with words!
Delete (had to star out as the forum doesnt allow the word) |
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"I can't stand messages like that, especially as a first contact, I'm just like Really!!
Call me old fashioned but I find it crude, immature and unnecessary and if I'm honest, from a complete stranger, a little creepy as they have made no attemp to introduce themselves.
I'm fully aware of the nature of this site but it doesn't mean the usual polite respectful normal rules of engagement don't apply.
This is the main reason I've blocked everyone and search for people myself."
I'm old fashioned then too.
It's an instant block & delete from me when I get messages like that.
Some I've had, have actually made me gag they've been so vulgar.
I'm no prude, but I have limits!
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"Point of view from ladies and gents please!
I get lots of full on opening messages for example this morning I get "any chance you were cummed in last night, I love to smell a dirty pussy" and that was just the first line.
Never spoke to the person so my thoughts are "twat" and delete messsage.
So ladies; what are your thoughts, do you like these type of messages and guys do you do it for your entertainment or do you think it will work to get a conversation?
You and I have had many a conversation about this. Today I received a message that simply said
" i want to face r**e you"
Damn boy you have a way with words!
Delete (had to star out as the forum doesnt allow the word)"
Well it does keep us entertained on our lunch meets xx |
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"This is the main reason I've blocked everyone and search for people myself.
I see why you would block someone for an opener like that. However, blocking everyone saddens me as it means normal fellas who can read a profile and construct a polite sentence or two get shut out..
The knuckledraggers spoiling it for sane courteous people again.
It's part of the cpls/female power trip.
Don't think it's any kind of power trip at all to be honest - nor do I think anyone spoils anything for others on here - I actually think it's a sensible move on the part of anyone that doesn't want to receive the kind of badly written puerile teenage level messages that some think are acceptable on here.
If people choose to search for themselves that is of course their right, and if you have a decent well written and appealing profile that matches the searchers likes/dislikes then you have every chance of being chosen "
Exacly this, very well said. I'm not on a power trip, I'm not constantly seeking attention and then moaning I get too many messages as some do. I'm simply running my profile in a way that suits me and makes sure I enjoy the site.
Why it saddens the guy who wrote above I don't know, plenty of people block certain ages, sexes etc so its really no different.
I'm not surprised at all about messages like this, I just don't find them appealing or a suitable approach. Maybe they do work for some, who knows. They are doing what they want as am I. Crack on, it doesn't affect me anymore. |
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"I did have a phase of replying to those sorts of messages saying that's nice but I'd rather bend you over my breakfast bar and destroy your arse with my 12 inch strap on! Got blocked a few times, can't think why "
Good job I put my mug down before I read that... Hysterical!
I may have to 'borrow' it xx |
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"Point of view from ladies and gents please!
I get lots of full on opening messages for example this morning I get "any chance you were cummed in last night, I love to smell a dirty pussy" and that was just the first line.
Never spoke to the person so my thoughts are "twat" and delete messsage.
So ladies; what are your thoughts, do you like these type of messages and guys do you do it for your entertainment or do you think it will work to get a conversation?
You and I have had many a conversation about this. Today I received a message that simply said
" i want to face r**e you"
Damn boy you have a way with words!
Delete (had to star out as the forum doesnt allow the word)
Well it does keep us entertained on our lunch meets xx "
Sure does, love a good laugh  |
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"Seriously... why the fuck do women post secually explicit pics if they're going to cry about people wanking over them??!! It's ridiculous.
I have no objection to my photos being wanked over. I was just wondering if these messages worked for people or not "
Fair enough. Some people do just want a fuck and I know women that have met men after similar first messages. They do exist but I think they are rare. |
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"I can't stand messages like that, especially as a first contact, I'm just like Really!!
Call me old fashioned but I find it crude, immature and unnecessary and if I'm honest, from a complete stranger, a little creepy as they have made no attemp to introduce themselves.
I'm fully aware of the nature of this site but it doesn't mean the usual polite respectful normal rules of engagement don't apply.
This is the main reason I've blocked everyone and search for people myself.
I see why you would block someone for an opener like that. However, blocking everyone saddens me as it means normal fellas who can read a profile and construct a polite sentence or two get shut out..
The knuckledraggers spoiling it for sane courteous people again.
It's part of the cpls/female power trip."
Disagree.. I think the ones that don't use filters or block mail are the ones on a power trip. They love the ego boost of loads of mail.
The ones who block and go searching are much calmer as they're not getting annoyed by their inbox being full of crap.
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"I can't stand messages like that, especially as a first contact, I'm just like Really!!
Call me old fashioned but I find it crude, immature and unnecessary and if I'm honest, from a complete stranger, a little creepy as they have made no attemp to introduce themselves.
I'm fully aware of the nature of this site but it doesn't mean the usual polite respectful normal rules of engagement don't apply.
This is the main reason I've blocked everyone and search for people myself.
I see why you would block someone for an opener like that. However, blocking everyone saddens me as it means normal fellas who can read a profile and construct a polite sentence or two get shut out..
The knuckledraggers spoiling it for sane courteous people again.
It's part of the cpls/female power trip.
Disagree.. I think the ones that don't use filters or block mail are the ones on a power trip. They love the ego boost of loads of mail.
The ones who block and go searching are much calmer as they're not getting annoyed by their inbox being full of crap.
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I couldn't have put that better myself, thanks steely, saved me the bother! |
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Nope. It’s a power trip. A lot of the Fab culture and sheer the volume of communication and proactive approaches by men is absorbed by females & couples as a confidence boosting desire-blanket that they might lack in real life.
Im not saying that in a critical way. No doubt if I were female I’d also enjoy aspects of it - anyone who says they don’t like to sit back, feel attractive and unashamedly judge others is telling porkies. We’ve all done it and it’s great fun.
Part of the appeal of being a female or couple on Fab is the unending parade of messages - ultimately asking for approval and the irresistible temptation for you is to sit back like Caesar for ten minutes and exercise your majesty. It’s just a fact. Thumb up, thumb down.
Your post is intended to draw attention to yourself and maybe recieve a “well said”. It’s maybe a new angle you’re trying. Good luck old chap.
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"I can’t believe they would expect a reply to that, are these guys successful on here? "
Ah but some will get a reply. Lots of fake fem profiles on here. So two men wanking furiously thinking they are getting lucky. Sad bastards! Seriously who would find that sexy? |
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I think the same guy may have messaged me this morning as that was pretty much the exact wording of the message I received
I did exactly the same and thought to myself “twat” then instantly deleted |
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Nope. It’s a power trip. A lot of the Fab culture and sheer the volume of communication and proactive approaches by men is absorbed by females & couples as a confidence boosting desire-blanket that they might lack in real life.
Im not saying that in a critical way. No doubt if I were female I’d also enjoy aspects of it - anyone who says they don’t like to sit back, feel attractive and unashamedly judge others is telling porkies. We’ve all done it and it’s great fun.
Part of the appeal of being a female or couple on Fab is the unending parade of messages - ultimately asking for approval and the irresistible temptation for you is to sit back like Caesar for ten minutes and exercise your majesty. It’s just a fact. Thumb up, thumb down.
Your post is intended to draw attention to yourself and maybe recieve a “well said”. It’s maybe a new angle you’re trying. Good luck old chap.
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Not necessarily the case for everyone. I’m under no illusion that the majority of messages I get are anything to do with me as me. They’re purely based on the fact that I’m a single woman on here. So rather than feeling flattered by messages from strangers who aren’t interested in getting to know me a little I take it with a very large pinch of salt. |
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Nope. It’s a power trip. A lot of the Fab culture and sheer the volume of communication and proactive approaches by men is absorbed by females & couples as a confidence boosting desire-blanket that they might lack in real life.
Im not saying that in a critical way. No doubt if I were female I’d also enjoy aspects of it - anyone who says they don’t like to sit back, feel attractive and unashamedly judge others is telling porkies. We’ve all done it and it’s great fun.
Part of the appeal of being a female or couple on Fab is the unending parade of messages - ultimately asking for approval and the irresistible temptation for you is to sit back like Caesar for ten minutes and exercise your majesty. It’s just a fact. Thumb up, thumb down.
Your post is intended to draw attention to yourself and maybe recieve a “well said”. It’s maybe a new angle you’re trying. Good luck old chap.
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Someone suggested blocking everyone and searching for suitable people yourself was a power trip, you're talking about people receiving lots of messages as people being on a power trip. Maybe they are but I don't care what others do on here, I just do my thing and let others do the same. |
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Nope. It’s a power trip. A lot of the Fab culture and sheer the volume of communication and proactive approaches by men is absorbed by females & couples as a confidence boosting desire-blanket that they might lack in real life.
Im not saying that in a critical way. No doubt if I were female I’d also enjoy aspects of it - anyone who says they don’t like to sit back, feel attractive and unashamedly judge others is telling porkies. We’ve all done it and it’s great fun.
Part of the appeal of being a female or couple on Fab is the unending parade of messages - ultimately asking for approval and the irresistible temptation for you is to sit back like Caesar for ten minutes and exercise your majesty. It’s just a fact. Thumb up, thumb down.
Your post is intended to draw attention to yourself and maybe recieve a “well said”. It’s maybe a new angle you’re trying. Good luck old chap.
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Believe me when I say that being a couple on fab is not a power trip (for us)...and having been a single man on fab I sympathise to an extent, but “it is what it is” and a positive attitude helps. |
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"I think the same guy may have messaged me this morning as that was pretty much the exact wording of the message I received
I did exactly the same and thought to myself “twat” then instantly deleted "
Hey, Twat is offended (again) |
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“a confidence boosting desire-blanket that they might lack in real life.”
Haha that quote tickled me. I don’t want to seem like a knob head, but I think that’s an accurate description of a fair few people on here (mainly ladies) unfortunately.
This site has a very interesting dynamic. Much different to real life. |
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Nope. It’s a power trip. A lot of the Fab culture and sheer the volume of communication and proactive approaches by men is absorbed by females & couples as a confidence boosting desire-blanket that they might lack in real life.
Im not saying that in a critical way. No doubt if I were female I’d also enjoy aspects of it - anyone who says they don’t like to sit back, feel attractive and unashamedly judge others is telling porkies. We’ve all done it and it’s great fun.
Part of the appeal of being a female or couple on Fab is the unending parade of messages - ultimately asking for approval and the irresistible temptation for you is to sit back like Caesar for ten minutes and exercise your majesty. It’s just a fact. Thumb up, thumb down.
Your post is intended to draw attention to yourself and maybe recieve a “well said”. It’s maybe a new angle you’re trying. Good luck old chap.
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'Part of the appeal....' You having a laugh? Who wants to meet saddos who will fuck anything with a hole? Some of us have standards and would rather pull decent men in the real world. Not all the women on here are desparate for attention. |
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"I put things like this to catch the attention is it bad idea ?
Terrible idea my friend.
Also...punctuation.
I think he is on a wind up
He's 37 apparently
No 37 yr old would send messages like that"
I’ve had simliar from a 56 year old before today |
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Nope. It’s a power trip. A lot of the Fab culture and sheer the volume of communication and proactive approaches by men is absorbed by females & couples as a confidence boosting desire-blanket that they might lack in real life.
Im not saying that in a critical way. No doubt if I were female I’d also enjoy aspects of it - anyone who says they don’t like to sit back, feel attractive and unashamedly judge others is telling porkies. We’ve all done it and it’s great fun.
Part of the appeal of being a female or couple on Fab is the unending parade of messages - ultimately asking for approval and the irresistible temptation for you is to sit back like Caesar for ten minutes and exercise your majesty. It’s just a fact. Thumb up, thumb down.
Your post is intended to draw attention to yourself and maybe recieve a “well said”. It’s maybe a new angle you’re trying. Good luck old chap.
'Part of the appeal....' You having a laugh? Who wants to meet saddos who will fuck anything with a hole? Some of us have standards and would rather pull decent men in the real world. Not all the women on here are desparate for attention."
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"Just out of interest, could the ladies who rec this type of message comment as to whether the sender has veris ?
I'm intrigued "
I didn’t even look at the profile to really be able to tell you I just saw the subject line and first sentence and that was enough for it to find my bin |
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"I think in the majority of cases the guys that send that kind of message cold are just using it as some kind of wank fodder, getting off on the fact they're "interacting" with someone by sending it - even if it's not reciprocated.
Sadly though, there probably are some that genuinely think sending that type of message is a direct route into the recipients knickers and that in itself is quite scary.
I do wonder if that kind of message, or even the "fancy a fuck" type ever do get a positive response, and even if they do whether they lead to any kind of fulfilling experience!! "
When very bored on a couple of nights, as an experiment, I sent helpful feedback with suggestions on appropriate ways to message women that might lead to a positive response. Absolutely no response. One guy blocked me. They don't have any interest in a response. It's an extension of the masturbation and deeply creepy. |
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
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Full on messages from the off do absolutely nothing for me. I never reply to them.
I think that guys who send these type of messages literally have no standards and probably think this is a sex site as opposed to a swingers site. They probably think that all women are 'up for it' so don't have to put any effort in!!! |
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I wouldn't ever send a message like this to a stranger I don't know. I also think women who search themselves are pretty sensible. I've seen some of the crap my fuck buddy gets on her single profile. Its people who crave attention but don't want to meet who are on a power trip, not users who block and search themselves. |
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"I think in the majority of cases the guys that send that kind of message cold are just using it as some kind of wank fodder, getting off on the fact they're "interacting" with someone by sending it - even if it's not reciprocated.
Sadly though, there probably are some that genuinely think sending that type of message is a direct route into the recipients knickers and that in itself is quite scary.
I do wonder if that kind of message, or even the "fancy a fuck" type ever do get a positive response, and even if they do whether they lead to any kind of fulfilling experience!!
When very bored on a couple of nights, as an experiment, I sent helpful feedback with suggestions on appropriate ways to message women that might lead to a positive response. Absolutely no response. One guy blocked me. They don't have any interest in a response. It's an extension of the masturbation and deeply creepy."
Interesting that you refer to all guys as ‘they’ but yet as a woman you want to be treated as an individual.
What’s that if it’s not double standards? |
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"I think the same guy may have messaged me this morning as that was pretty much the exact wording of the message I received
I did exactly the same and thought to myself “twat” then instantly deleted
Hey, Twat is offended (again) "
Well don’t send such shit messages then |
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"This is the main reason I've blocked everyone and search for people myself.
I see why you would block someone for an opener like that. However, blocking everyone saddens me as it means normal fellas who can read a profile and construct a polite sentence or two get shut out..
The knuckledraggers spoiling it for sane courteous people again.
It's part of the cpls/female power trip.
Don't think it's any kind of power trip at all to be honest - nor do I think anyone spoils anything for others on here - I actually think it's a sensible move on the part of anyone that doesn't want to receive the kind of badly written puerile teenage level messages that some think are acceptable on here.
If people choose to search for themselves that is of course their right, and if you have a decent well written and appealing profile that matches the searchers likes/dislikes then you have every chance of being chosen "
Very well said, thank you.
A power trip...that's the most ridiculous thing I've heard today!
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"I did have a phase of replying to those sorts of messages saying that's nice but I'd rather bend you over my breakfast bar and destroy your arse with my 12 inch strap on! Got blocked a few times, can't think why "
Wow, I probably need to take a page from your book lol. I've tried replying to messages like 'fancy a fuck' or 'I'd be in your area in half an hour' in a very sarcastic way, but unfortunately the idiots thought I was being serious... Strap on idea should deter some |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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Nope. It’s a power trip. A lot of the Fab culture and sheer the volume of communication and proactive approaches by men is absorbed by females & couples as a confidence boosting desire-blanket that they might lack in real life.
Im not saying that in a critical way. No doubt if I were female I’d also enjoy aspects of it - anyone who says they don’t like to sit back, feel attractive and unashamedly judge others is telling porkies. We’ve all done it and it’s great fun.
Part of the appeal of being a female or couple on Fab is the unending parade of messages - ultimately asking for approval and the irresistible temptation for you is to sit back like Caesar for ten minutes and exercise your majesty. It’s just a fact. Thumb up, thumb down.
Your post is intended to draw attention to yourself and maybe recieve a “well said”. It’s maybe a new angle you’re trying. Good luck old chap.
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I'm presuming from the last sentence this was aimed at me and if it wasn't then my own personal "power trip" has obviously kicked in
If it was however, I expect nothing and certainly not a "well said" or any kind of elevation in the eyes of others, I was merely calling it as I see it, take it or leave it, doesn't bother me either way.
Having a couple's profile on here, and also a partner with a single female profile, I can assure you power trip, ego boost, or any other way you might want to dress it up doesn't begin to come into it, and there's certainly no pleasure in receiving some of the messages received where the profile obviously hasn't been read or paid attention to.
Whilst there undoubtedly are some on here (of all categories) who get a kick out of the attention they receive, welcome or otherwise, I very much doubt there are many who enjoy receiving the kind of messages referred to in this thread, especially cold without any prior interaction.
I actually think the whole "power trip" argument used against single females and couples is a reason some men use to explain and justify their own lack of success on the site or reason that the seedy messages this thread is about don't get responses.
All too often we see posts from single guys blaming everyone but themselves because they're not getting anywhere, when perhaps if they took a good hard look at themselves and the way they use the site, the actual reason would be staring them right in the face. |
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
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Full on messages from the off do absolutely nothing for me. I never reply to them.
I think that guys who send these type of messages literally have no standards and probably think this is a sex site as opposed to a swingers site. They probably think that all women are 'up for it' so don't have to put any effort in!!! |
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"I did have a phase of replying to those sorts of messages saying that's nice but I'd rather bend you over my breakfast bar and destroy your arse with my 12 inch strap on! Got blocked a few times, can't think why
Wow, I probably need to take a page from your book lol. I've tried replying to messages like 'fancy a fuck' or 'I'd be in your area in half an hour' in a very sarcastic way, but unfortunately the idiots thought I was being serious... Strap on idea should deter some "
Yes but it can backfire, oh, I've always fancied that some say!! |
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"“a confidence boosting desire-blanket that they might lack in real life.”
Haha that quote tickled me. I don’t want to seem like a knob head, but I think that’s an accurate description of a fair few people on here (mainly ladies) unfortunately.
This site has a very interesting dynamic. Much different to real life."
Interesting dynamic of course ! Because (mainly single guys) think because they are horny , they should fuck! I don't need strangers to boost my confidence ! Actually is the opposite they make me cringe with thought of someone who thinks so low about a women touching me! |
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"I received a long graphic message. I looked at his profile and it was exactly the same text as the message he had sent.
I dont understand how people can be that lazy. If you are just going to ctrl-c ctrl-v, might as well send something useful, like a recipe for cheesecake, or how to make perfect yourkshire puds etc.."
Now there's a thought! The perfect brownie recipe please! |
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"“a confidence boosting desire-blanket that they might lack in real life.”
Haha that quote tickled me. I don’t want to seem like a knob head, but I think that’s an accurate description of a fair few people on here (mainly ladies) unfortunately.
This site has a very interesting dynamic. Much different to real life. Interesting dynamic of course ! Because (mainly single guys) think because they are horny , they should fuck! I don't need strangers to boost my confidence ! Actually is the opposite they make me cringe with thought of someone who thinks so low about a women touching me! "
Not sure why you aimed that comment to me and blocked me? I had no interest in you and never communicated. Not even once. So I don’t understand how you’re making those assumptions.
Kind of enforces my beliefs a little further that this site is a power trip thing for ladies. |
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Nope. It’s a power trip. A lot of the Fab culture and sheer the volume of communication and proactive approaches by men is absorbed by females & couples as a confidence boosting desire-blanket that they might lack in real life.
Im not saying that in a critical way. No doubt if I were female I’d also enjoy aspects of it - anyone who says they don’t like to sit back, feel attractive and unashamedly judge others is telling porkies. We’ve all done it and it’s great fun.
Part of the appeal of being a female or couple on Fab is the unending parade of messages - ultimately asking for approval and the irresistible temptation for you is to sit back like Caesar for ten minutes and exercise your majesty. It’s just a fact. Thumb up, thumb down.
Your post is intended to draw attention to yourself and maybe recieve a “well said”. It’s maybe a new angle you’re trying. Good luck old chap.
I'm presuming from the last sentence this was aimed at me and if it wasn't then my own personal "power trip" has obviously kicked in
If it was however, I expect nothing and certainly not a "well said" or any kind of elevation in the eyes of others, I was merely calling it as I see it, take it or leave it, doesn't bother me either way.
Having a couple's profile on here, and also a partner with a single female profile, I can assure you power trip, ego boost, or any other way you might want to dress it up doesn't begin to come into it, and there's certainly no pleasure in receiving some of the messages received where the profile obviously hasn't been read or paid attention to.
Whilst there undoubtedly are some on here (of all categories) who get a kick out of the attention they receive, welcome or otherwise, I very much doubt there are many who enjoy receiving the kind of messages referred to in this thread, especially cold without any prior interaction.
I actually think the whole "power trip" argument used against single females and couples is a reason some men use to explain and justify their own lack of success on the site or reason that the seedy messages this thread is about don't get responses.
All too often we see posts from single guys blaming everyone but themselves because they're not getting anywhere, when perhaps if they took a good hard look at themselves and the way they use the site, the actual reason would be staring them right in the face. "
This!! And I get no pleasure from this sort of ‘attention’ it just depresses me and is making me very cynical when I’m not like that at all |
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"“a confidence boosting desire-blanket that they might lack in real life.”
Haha that quote tickled me. I don’t want to seem like a knob head, but I think that’s an accurate description of a fair few people on here (mainly ladies) unfortunately.
This site has a very interesting dynamic. Much different to real life. Interesting dynamic of course ! Because (mainly single guys) think because they are horny , they should fuck! I don't need strangers to boost my confidence ! Actually is the opposite they make me cringe with thought of someone who thinks so low about a women touching me!
Not sure why you aimed that comment to me and blocked me? I had no interest in you and never communicated. Not even once. So I don’t understand how you’re making those assumptions.
Kind of enforces my beliefs a little further that this site is a power trip thing for ladies."
So someone blocked you, who cares ? |
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"I can’t believe they would expect a reply to that, are these guys successful on here?
Ah but some will get a reply. Lots of fake fem profiles on here. So two men wanking furiously thinking they are getting lucky. Sad bastards! Seriously who would find that sexy?"
Well they do, and it's keeping them off the streets.. |
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"I did have a phase of replying to those sorts of messages saying that's nice but I'd rather bend you over my breakfast bar and destroy your arse with my 12 inch strap on! Got blocked a few times, can't think why
Wow, I probably need to take a page from your book lol. I've tried replying to messages like 'fancy a fuck' or 'I'd be in your area in half an hour' in a very sarcastic way, but unfortunately the idiots thought I was being serious... Strap on idea should deter some "
Ha ha!! I seem to attract all the guys who secretly want pegging so I don’t think I’ll use this tactic |
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"I think the same guy may have messaged me this morning as that was pretty much the exact wording of the message I received
I did exactly the same and thought to myself “twat” then instantly deleted "
I wonder if we all replied "twat" he'd get the message if it is the same person |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"I think the same guy may have messaged me this morning as that was pretty much the exact wording of the message I received
I did exactly the same and thought to myself “twat” then instantly deleted
I wonder if we all replied "twat" he'd get the message if it is the same person "
Would probably think it was an offer rather than an insult!! |
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Whatever happened to targeting your message to the right audience? If someone has on their profile they'd like to read your smut or kinks, then go right ahead and message them, if it says cock avatars will be blocked, then you're in for a blocking me owd mucker.
There's an outlet for most things on here if people put any effort into finding it, however I think some bozzos that join think they're going to get whatever they like the moment they join, that'll just earn them a delete and block with me.
Cock pics sent to our profile when our profile specifically says that I, a bloke, manage the account, delete and block! |
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"I think the same guy may have messaged me this morning as that was pretty much the exact wording of the message I received
I did exactly the same and thought to myself “twat” then instantly deleted
I wonder if we all replied "twat" he'd get the message if it is the same person
Would probably think it was an offer rather than an insult!!"
He'd shoot his load over getting a response and be encouraged to send out more crappy messages, reassured that he was an insignificant insect no more. |
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"I think the same guy may have messaged me this morning as that was pretty much the exact wording of the message I received
I did exactly the same and thought to myself “twat” then instantly deleted
I wonder if we all replied "twat" he'd get the message if it is the same person "
He likely say “yes how soon can I fuck yours?” |
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"Wow! Why on earth would you send a message like that? Do they really expect a reply. I can only apologies on behalf of the male species.
White knighting?? Do men really think that'll get them meets??"
yes i think a lot try it lol |
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"Can't believe some of the messages you ladies get. Hardly endearing is it?"
Hey to some f us neither is a cock pic but doesn’t stope people from having them
No matter what we choose to do on here you can’t please everyone |
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What's wrong with these people. Fair enough there will be some people male or female who like recieving messages like that but personally I prefer to send and recieve a nice polite message stating things about me my likes and interests and things I may have on common with the person/couple I'm messaging. I'm probably old fashioned too but I was brought up with respect and to respect others |
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