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What is sex and why do we do it
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Wouldn’t have asked if I knew lol "
Oh right...ok.
Sex is various things.
Power, pleasure, control, revenge, love, hatred, a weapon and many more.
The reasons we do it are as above plus continuation of the species. |
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"Most rediculous question for the day goes to....
Imagine if sex didn’t exist.. don’t you wonder if things were different.. think outside the box.."
If sex didn't exist the species would die out |
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"Most rediculous question for the day goes to....
Imagine if sex didn’t exist.. don’t you wonder if things were different.. think outside the box.."
This is not outside the box, it's a question for google or a primary school class.
If sex didn't exist we wouldn't as a species. The only reason it feels good is so that we keep pro-creating. People get addicted to it because of the endorphins released during and after. |
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"Most rediculous question for the day goes to....
Imagine if sex didn’t exist.. don’t you wonder if things were different.. think outside the box..
This is not outside the box, it's a question for google or a primary school class.
If sex didn't exist we wouldn't as a species. The only reason it feels good is so that we keep pro-creating. People get addicted to it because of the endorphins released during and after. "
Come on mate, we both know it’s more than that.. like one comment above summed it up |
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"Most rediculous question for the day goes to....
Imagine if sex didn’t exist.. don’t you wonder if things were different.. think outside the box..
This is not outside the box, it's a question for google or a primary school class.
If sex didn't exist we wouldn't as a species. The only reason it feels good is so that we keep pro-creating. People get addicted to it because of the endorphins released during and after. "
If sex didn't exist there would have to be another way to procreate. E.g. women laying eggs and men fertilising them like fish do. This would mean we would no longer be mammals though. |
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"Most rediculous question for the day goes to....
Imagine if sex didn’t exist.. don’t you wonder if things were different.. think outside the box..
This is not outside the box, it's a question for google or a primary school class.
If sex didn't exist we wouldn't as a species. The only reason it feels good is so that we keep pro-creating. People get addicted to it because of the endorphins released during and after.
Come on mate, we both know it’s more than that.. like one comment above summed it up "
How is it? People treat it as power, or to manipulate etc. But the only reason they can is because of the other person's desire to mate with them or pro-create. Besides, none of the ways people use sex as a tool changes what it is or why we do it |
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"Most rediculous question for the day goes to....
Imagine if sex didn’t exist.. don’t you wonder if things were different.. think outside the box..
This is not outside the box, it's a question for google or a primary school class.
If sex didn't exist we wouldn't as a species. The only reason it feels good is so that we keep pro-creating. People get addicted to it because of the endorphins released during and after.
If sex didn't exist there would have to be another way to procreate. E.g. women laying eggs and men fertilising them like fish do. This would mean we would no longer be mammals though."
It was more of a psychological question.. |
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"Most rediculous question for the day goes to....
Imagine if sex didn’t exist.. don’t you wonder if things were different.. think outside the box..
This is not outside the box, it's a question for google or a primary school class.
If sex didn't exist we wouldn't as a species. The only reason it feels good is so that we keep pro-creating. People get addicted to it because of the endorphins released during and after.
If sex didn't exist there would have to be another way to procreate. E.g. women laying eggs and men fertilising them like fish do. This would mean we would no longer be mammals though."
Yeah we would all be obsessed with egg laying sessions then. People using their eggs to manipulate others to do what they want |
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"Most rediculous question for the day goes to....
Imagine if sex didn’t exist.. don’t you wonder if things were different.. think outside the box..
This is not outside the box, it's a question for google or a primary school class.
If sex didn't exist we wouldn't as a species. The only reason it feels good is so that we keep pro-creating. People get addicted to it because of the endorphins released during and after.
If sex didn't exist there would have to be another way to procreate. E.g. women laying eggs and men fertilising them like fish do. This would mean we would no longer be mammals though.
Yeah we would all be obsessed with egg laying sessions then. People using their eggs to manipulate others to do what they want"
Keep your eggs away from me lol |
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"Most rediculous question for the day goes to....
Imagine if sex didn’t exist.. don’t you wonder if things were different.. think outside the box..
This is not outside the box, it's a question for google or a primary school class.
If sex didn't exist we wouldn't as a species. The only reason it feels good is so that we keep pro-creating. People get addicted to it because of the endorphins released during and after.
If sex didn't exist there would have to be another way to procreate. E.g. women laying eggs and men fertilising them like fish do. This would mean we would no longer be mammals though.
It was more of a psychological question.. "
Ahh. You should have phrased it that way then. Your original comment is quite literal |
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"Most rediculous question for the day goes to....
Imagine if sex didn’t exist.. don’t you wonder if things were different.. think outside the box..
This is not outside the box, it's a question for google or a primary school class.
If sex didn't exist we wouldn't as a species. The only reason it feels good is so that we keep pro-creating. People get addicted to it because of the endorphins released during and after.
If sex didn't exist there would have to be another way to procreate. E.g. women laying eggs and men fertilising them like fish do. This would mean we would no longer be mammals though.
It was more of a psychological question..
Ahh. You should have phrased it that way then. Your original comment is quite literal "
Didn’t predict it would turn into a biology lesson |
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"Most rediculous question for the day goes to....
Imagine if sex didn’t exist.. don’t you wonder if things were different.. think outside the box..
This is not outside the box, it's a question for google or a primary school class.
If sex didn't exist we wouldn't as a species. The only reason it feels good is so that we keep pro-creating. People get addicted to it because of the endorphins released during and after.
If sex didn't exist there would have to be another way to procreate. E.g. women laying eggs and men fertilising them like fish do. This would mean we would no longer be mammals though.
Yeah we would all be obsessed with egg laying sessions then. People using their eggs to manipulate others to do what they want"
Or their semen, depending on which was easier to obtain. |
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"Most rediculous question for the day goes to....
Imagine if sex didn’t exist.. don’t you wonder if things were different.. think outside the box..
This is not outside the box, it's a question for google or a primary school class.
If sex didn't exist we wouldn't as a species. The only reason it feels good is so that we keep pro-creating. People get addicted to it because of the endorphins released during and after.
If sex didn't exist there would have to be another way to procreate. E.g. women laying eggs and men fertilising them like fish do. This would mean we would no longer be mammals though.
Yeah we would all be obsessed with egg laying sessions then. People using their eggs to manipulate others to do what they want
Or their semen, depending on which was easier to obtain."
People are doing it anyway.. I was asked on here to breed.. only person I ever blocked |
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"Most rediculous question for the day goes to....
Imagine if sex didn’t exist.. don’t you wonder if things were different.. think outside the box..
This is not outside the box, it's a question for google or a primary school class.
If sex didn't exist we wouldn't as a species. The only reason it feels good is so that we keep pro-creating. People get addicted to it because of the endorphins released during and after.
If sex didn't exist there would have to be another way to procreate. E.g. women laying eggs and men fertilising them like fish do. This would mean we would no longer be mammals though.
Yeah we would all be obsessed with egg laying sessions then. People using their eggs to manipulate others to do what they want
Or their semen, depending on which was easier to obtain."
Like a big ol' milking farm? |
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"Most rediculous question for the day goes to....
Imagine if sex didn’t exist.. don’t you wonder if things were different.. think outside the box..
This is not outside the box, it's a question for google or a primary school class.
If sex didn't exist we wouldn't as a species. The only reason it feels good is so that we keep pro-creating. People get addicted to it because of the endorphins released during and after.
If sex didn't exist there would have to be another way to procreate. E.g. women laying eggs and men fertilising them like fish do. This would mean we would no longer be mammals though.
Yeah we would all be obsessed with egg laying sessions then. People using their eggs to manipulate others to do what they want
Or their semen, depending on which was easier to obtain.
People are doing it anyway.. I was asked on here to breed.. only person I ever blocked "
Immediately putting you in a position of power. |
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"Most rediculous question for the day goes to....
Imagine if sex didn’t exist.. don’t you wonder if things were different.. think outside the box..
This is not outside the box, it's a question for google or a primary school class.
If sex didn't exist we wouldn't as a species. The only reason it feels good is so that we keep pro-creating. People get addicted to it because of the endorphins released during and after.
If sex didn't exist there would have to be another way to procreate. E.g. women laying eggs and men fertilising them like fish do. This would mean we would no longer be mammals though.
It was more of a psychological question..
Ahh. You should have phrased it that way then. Your original comment is quite literal
Didn’t predict it would turn into a biology lesson "
What happens when you ask biology related questions.... |
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"Most rediculous question for the day goes to....
Imagine if sex didn’t exist.. don’t you wonder if things were different.. think outside the box..
This is not outside the box, it's a question for google or a primary school class.
If sex didn't exist we wouldn't as a species. The only reason it feels good is so that we keep pro-creating. People get addicted to it because of the endorphins released during and after.
If sex didn't exist there would have to be another way to procreate. E.g. women laying eggs and men fertilising them like fish do. This would mean we would no longer be mammals though.
Yeah we would all be obsessed with egg laying sessions then. People using their eggs to manipulate others to do what they want
Or their semen, depending on which was easier to obtain.
Like a big ol' milking farm?"
It's common in the farming and horse world. |
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"A basic biological urge which also happens to feel good
Which is also psychological "
Damn it OP !!
As a team member of 2018 Virgin I have no qualifications to post in here however...
What I remember from memory is both of the above posts are valid and can add:
It is our natural instincts. Some even go as far as saying "animalistic impules"
I miss those pleasurable days   
Nice thread though. Thanks a lot  |
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"Most rediculous question for the day goes to....
Imagine if sex didn’t exist.. don’t you wonder if things were different.. think outside the box..
This is not outside the box, it's a question for google or a primary school class.
If sex didn't exist we wouldn't as a species. The only reason it feels good is so that we keep pro-creating. People get addicted to it because of the endorphins released during and after.
If sex didn't exist there would have to be another way to procreate. E.g. women laying eggs and men fertilising them like fish do. This would mean we would no longer be mammals though.
Yeah we would all be obsessed with egg laying sessions then. People using their eggs to manipulate others to do what they want
Or their semen, depending on which was easier to obtain.
People are doing it anyway.. I was asked on here to breed.. only person I ever blocked "
I'm still hurt by that. I just thought we'd make beautiful babies together, that's all..... |
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It was more of a psychological question.. "
Of course it was, duh!!
People have sex for a myriad of reasons - hormonal, phsychological, emotional.
I think that's a lot of where the problems arise in male vs female 'why can't I just get an easy shag' threads too.
Women are more hard wired for the social, relational side of life to be paramount, men are more hard wired to be driven by physical or topical imperatives.
Sometimes we all just get horny off our own bat - I would say that was mostly hormonal. Sometimes it is pure lust inspired by contact with someone you find extremely sexually attractive.
Often sex is a release, of all kinds of tension - I know I am someone who holds some kinds of tension sexually and then I get a strong drive to seek relief, or a strong emotional release during sex.
Others will be starved of physical intimacy or affection or attention or approval so they seek sex to provide that which they lack in their lives. Sometimes you can see sexual activity as an expression of some fairly extreme psychological damage.
It's when you get a mismatch of drives that I think tensions can arise, especially if people don't realise why they are doing what they are doing in the first place. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Most rediculous question for the day goes to....
Imagine if sex didn’t exist.. don’t you wonder if things were different.. think outside the box..
This is not outside the box, it's a question for google or a primary school class.
If sex didn't exist we wouldn't as a species. The only reason it feels good is so that we keep pro-creating. People get addicted to it because of the endorphins released during and after.
If sex didn't exist there would have to be another way to procreate. E.g. women laying eggs and men fertilising them like fish do. This would mean we would no longer be mammals though.
Yeah we would all be obsessed with egg laying sessions then. People using their eggs to manipulate others to do what they want
Or their semen, depending on which was easier to obtain.
People are doing it anyway.. I was asked on here to breed.. only person I ever blocked
Immediately putting you in a position of power."
Yes, for once. Only happened once since I joined fab. I did feel good. Try asking the same question yourself  |
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"A basic biological urge which also happens to feel good
Which is also psychological
Damn it OP !!
As a team member of 2018 Virgin I have no qualifications to post in here however...
What I remember from memory is both of the above posts are valid and can add:
It is our natural instincts. Some even go as far as saying "animalistic impules"
I miss those pleasurable days
Nice thread though. Thanks a lot "
Welcome mate.. see you in 2019 |
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By (user no longer on site)
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It was more of a psychological question..
Of course it was, duh!!
People have sex for a myriad of reasons - hormonal, phsychological, emotional.
I think that's a lot of where the problems arise in male vs female 'why can't I just get an easy shag' threads too.
Women are more hard wired for the social, relational side of life to be paramount, men are more hard wired to be driven by physical or topical imperatives.
Sometimes we all just get horny off our own bat - I would say that was mostly hormonal. Sometimes it is pure lust inspired by contact with someone you find extremely sexually attractive.
Often sex is a release, of all kinds of tension - I know I am someone who holds some kinds of tension sexually and then I get a strong drive to seek relief, or a strong emotional release during sex.
Others will be starved of physical intimacy or affection or attention or approval so they seek sex to provide that which they lack in their lives. Sometimes you can see sexual activity as an expression of some fairly extreme psychological damage.
It's when you get a mismatch of drives that I think tensions can arise, especially if people don't realise why they are doing what they are doing in the first place."
Interesting point of view.
I heard that we're tribal and none of us are supposed to be monogamous. Within a small tribe, if no one know whose children are theirs then everyone looks after each other. In a way it explains our natural desire to shag other people even when in a relationship and also why we have such a need to protect our family |
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Great question! Sex is about deep emotional bonding with other people first of all, and reproduction second. Otherwise we wouldn't have sex countless times and yet only have a few (if any!) children as a 'result'. |
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"Great question! Sex is about deep emotional bonding with other people first of all, and reproduction second. Otherwise we wouldn't have sex countless times and yet only have a few (if any!) children as a 'result'. "
Based on your comment which is also a fact, reproduction accounts to only 0.0000000000001 percent of the sex we have.. to all the biology teachers ‘ in your face’ |
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"Most rediculous question for the day goes to....
Imagine if sex didn’t exist.. don’t you wonder if things were different.. think outside the box..
This is not outside the box, it's a question for google or a primary school class.
If sex didn't exist we wouldn't as a species. The only reason it feels good is so that we keep pro-creating. People get addicted to it because of the endorphins released during and after.
If sex didn't exist there would have to be another way to procreate. E.g. women laying eggs and men fertilising them like fish do. This would mean we would no longer be mammals though.
Yeah we would all be obsessed with egg laying sessions then. People using their eggs to manipulate others to do what they want
Or their semen, depending on which was easier to obtain.
People are doing it anyway.. I was asked on here to breed.. only person I ever blocked
Immediately putting you in a position of power.
Yes, for once. Only happened once since I joined fab. I did feel good. Try asking the same question yourself "
Nah, you're ok. I'm a 61 year old woman I'm not in a position of power where breeding is concerned |
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"Most rediculous question for the day goes to....
Imagine if sex didn’t exist.. don’t you wonder if things were different.. think outside the box..
This is not outside the box, it's a question for google or a primary school class.
If sex didn't exist we wouldn't as a species. The only reason it feels good is so that we keep pro-creating. People get addicted to it because of the endorphins released during and after.
If sex didn't exist there would have to be another way to procreate. E.g. women laying eggs and men fertilising them like fish do. This would mean we would no longer be mammals though.
Yeah we would all be obsessed with egg laying sessions then. People using their eggs to manipulate others to do what they want
Or their semen, depending on which was easier to obtain.
People are doing it anyway.. I was asked on here to breed.. only person I ever blocked
Immediately putting you in a position of power.
Yes, for once. Only happened once since I joined fab. I did feel good. Try asking the same question yourself
Nah, you're ok. I'm a 61 year old woman I'm not in a position of power where breeding is concerned "
After 61 years you escaped my block list.. that must feel good |
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Sex with someone in a loving relationship is so much better than one off fab fuck .But it is fun when there is a connection and you get what you need at that time with a fab meet.
Personally I'd prefere to swing with a man who i was with in a relationship . |
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It was more of a psychological question..
Of course it was, duh!!
People have sex for a myriad of reasons - hormonal, phsychological, emotional.
I think that's a lot of where the problems arise in male vs female 'why can't I just get an easy shag' threads too.
Women are more hard wired for the social, relational side of life to be paramount, men are more hard wired to be driven by physical or topical imperatives.
Sometimes we all just get horny off our own bat - I would say that was mostly hormonal. Sometimes it is pure lust inspired by contact with someone you find extremely sexually attractive.
Often sex is a release, of all kinds of tension - I know I am someone who holds some kinds of tension sexually and then I get a strong drive to seek relief, or a strong emotional release during sex.
Others will be starved of physical intimacy or affection or attention or approval so they seek sex to provide that which they lack in their lives. Sometimes you can see sexual activity as an expression of some fairly extreme psychological damage.
It's when you get a mismatch of drives that I think tensions can arise, especially if people don't realise why they are doing what they are doing in the first place.
Interesting point of view.
I heard that we're tribal and none of us are supposed to be monogamous. Within a small tribe, if no one know whose children are theirs then everyone looks after each other. In a way it explains our natural desire to shag other people even when in a relationship and also why we have such a need to protect our family "
I think that's a bullshit excuse myself lol, plenty of animals mate for life, and the vast majority of humans do to - happily, willingly. I don't know why people here can't just say 'Mea Culpa, I just want to shag around cos I can'!! |
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It was more of a psychological question..
Of course it was, duh!!
People have sex for a myriad of reasons - hormonal, phsychological, emotional.
I think that's a lot of where the problems arise in male vs female 'why can't I just get an easy shag' threads too.
Women are more hard wired for the social, relational side of life to be paramount, men are more hard wired to be driven by physical or topical imperatives.
Sometimes we all just get horny off our own bat - I would say that was mostly hormonal. Sometimes it is pure lust inspired by contact with someone you find extremely sexually attractive.
Often sex is a release, of all kinds of tension - I know I am someone who holds some kinds of tension sexually and then I get a strong drive to seek relief, or a strong emotional release during sex.
Others will be starved of physical intimacy or affection or attention or approval so they seek sex to provide that which they lack in their lives. Sometimes you can see sexual activity as an expression of some fairly extreme psychological damage.
It's when you get a mismatch of drives that I think tensions can arise, especially if people don't realise why they are doing what they are doing in the first place.
Interesting point of view.
I heard that we're tribal and none of us are supposed to be monogamous. Within a small tribe, if no one know whose children are theirs then everyone looks after each other. In a way it explains our natural desire to shag other people even when in a relationship and also why we have such a need to protect our family "
We were and are tribal by nature. There's no way of knowing if tribes were monogamous or not. The theory that everyone would look after each others children because they didn't know whose they were is flawed because the mother would always be known. There would also have been benefits to knowing which children were yours as a father when it came to shortages of food, times of danger etc. There is also the problem of weakening the genetic stock of the tribe if nobody knows who they're related to. |
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It was more of a psychological question.. "
An expression of love and affection.
In some cases, an expression of power over or submission to others.
Satisfying a need for intimacy.
A release of tension.
An escape from the outside world,a retreat into our own little cocoon of pleasure.Transport to a form of Nirvana.
Fear of our own mortality,the only way to be re incarnated or to live on is through our children.
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It was more of a psychological question..
Of course it was, duh!!
People have sex for a myriad of reasons - hormonal, phsychological, emotional.
I think that's a lot of where the problems arise in male vs female 'why can't I just get an easy shag' threads too.
Women are more hard wired for the social, relational side of life to be paramount, men are more hard wired to be driven by physical or topical imperatives.
Sometimes we all just get horny off our own bat - I would say that was mostly hormonal. Sometimes it is pure lust inspired by contact with someone you find extremely sexually attractive.
Often sex is a release, of all kinds of tension - I know I am someone who holds some kinds of tension sexually and then I get a strong drive to seek relief, or a strong emotional release during sex.
Others will be starved of physical intimacy or affection or attention or approval so they seek sex to provide that which they lack in their lives. Sometimes you can see sexual activity as an expression of some fairly extreme psychological damage.
It's when you get a mismatch of drives that I think tensions can arise, especially if people don't realise why they are doing what they are doing in the first place.
Interesting point of view.
I heard that we're tribal and none of us are supposed to be monogamous. Within a small tribe, if no one know whose children are theirs then everyone looks after each other. In a way it explains our natural desire to shag other people even when in a relationship and also why we have such a need to protect our family
I think that's a bullshit excuse myself lol, plenty of animals mate for life, and the vast majority of humans do to - happily, willingly. I don't know why people here can't just say 'Mea Culpa, I just want to shag around cos I can'!!"
Plenty of animals do mate for life but we don't. Yes some people do but it is very rare that people stick with the first person they've ever mated with. And even those people that do still have the natural urges to shag those they find attractive. Why porn and sexual imagery is so powerful. You need to be more objective and not see it as a negative to look at what your body craves and why |
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It was more of a psychological question..
Of course it was, duh!!
People have sex for a myriad of reasons - hormonal, phsychological, emotional.
I think that's a lot of where the problems arise in male vs female 'why can't I just get an easy shag' threads too.
Women are more hard wired for the social, relational side of life to be paramount, men are more hard wired to be driven by physical or topical imperatives.
Sometimes we all just get horny off our own bat - I would say that was mostly hormonal. Sometimes it is pure lust inspired by contact with someone you find extremely sexually attractive.
Often sex is a release, of all kinds of tension - I know I am someone who holds some kinds of tension sexually and then I get a strong drive to seek relief, or a strong emotional release during sex.
Others will be starved of physical intimacy or affection or attention or approval so they seek sex to provide that which they lack in their lives. Sometimes you can see sexual activity as an expression of some fairly extreme psychological damage.
It's when you get a mismatch of drives that I think tensions can arise, especially if people don't realise why they are doing what they are doing in the first place.
Interesting point of view.
I heard that we're tribal and none of us are supposed to be monogamous. Within a small tribe, if no one know whose children are theirs then everyone looks after each other. In a way it explains our natural desire to shag other people even when in a relationship and also why we have such a need to protect our family
We were and are tribal by nature. There's no way of knowing if tribes were monogamous or not. The theory that everyone would look after each others children because they didn't know whose they were is flawed because the mother would always be known. There would also have been benefits to knowing which children were yours as a father when it came to shortages of food, times of danger etc. There is also the problem of weakening the genetic stock of the tribe if nobody knows who they're related to."
The theory is based on the testing of DNA of bones. They found that all sorts of mixes existed. Even with Neanderthals so we were shagging other species never mind each other.
It's not flawed because the fathers are the protectors and they won't know. And there are no benefits to knowing whose children are yours from what you say. If there was food it would be shared with everyone. Maintaining that tribe as a whole and making them stronger. meaning other tribes cannot take their land or resources because there are more of them. This comes from really old tribes when we were hunter gatherers for thousands of years |
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I think that's a bullshit excuse myself lol, plenty of animals mate for life, and the vast majority of humans do to - happily, willingly. I don't know why people here can't just say 'Mea Culpa, I just want to shag around cos I can'!!
Plenty of animals do mate for life but we don't. Yes some people do but it is very rare that people stick with the first person they've ever mated with. And even those people that do still have the natural urges to shag those they find attractive. Why porn and sexual imagery is so powerful. You need to be more objective and not see it as a negative to look at what your body craves and why"
I am totally objective - objective enough to know I crave monogamy and why. I don't even find porn in the slightest bit interesting, I find it unattractive and fake, I have no need of it and it has no power over me. You need to open your mind to the fact that many people, maybe even the majority, are not the same as you. |
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"We do it so the human race continues to survive.
How many kids do you have girl?
Two,so that's two time's I've had sex."
Huh.. maybe 20 so you reproduce for sure |
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"We do it so the human race continues to survive.
How many kids do you have girl?
Two,so that's two time's I've had sex.
Huh.. maybe 20 so you reproduce for sure
No just twice."
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"We do it so the human race continues to survive.
How many kids do you have girl?
Two,so that's two time's I've had sex.
Huh.. maybe 20 so you reproduce for sure
No just twice.
Na na na na na na na.."
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"We do it so the human race continues to survive.
How many kids do you have girl?
Two,so that's two time's I've had sex.
Huh.. maybe 20 so you reproduce for sure
No just twice.
Na na na na na na na..
True."
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"We do it so the human race continues to survive.
How many kids do you have girl?
Two,so that's two time's I've had sex.
Huh.. maybe 20 so you reproduce for sure
No just twice.
Na na na na na na na..
True.
I don’t believe you.. you big fat liar "
You calling me fat?! |
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"We do it so the human race continues to survive.
How many kids do you have girl?
Two,so that's two time's I've had sex.
Huh.. maybe 20 so you reproduce for sure
No just twice.
Na na na na na na na..
True.
I don’t believe you.. you big fat liar
You calling me fat?!"
Bigfatliar. One word |
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It was more of a psychological question..
Of course it was, duh!!
People have sex for a myriad of reasons - hormonal, phsychological, emotional.
I think that's a lot of where the problems arise in male vs female 'why can't I just get an easy shag' threads too.
Women are more hard wired for the social, relational side of life to be paramount, men are more hard wired to be driven by physical or topical imperatives.
Sometimes we all just get horny off our own bat - I would say that was mostly hormonal. Sometimes it is pure lust inspired by contact with someone you find extremely sexually attractive.
Often sex is a release, of all kinds of tension - I know I am someone who holds some kinds of tension sexually and then I get a strong drive to seek relief, or a strong emotional release during sex.
Others will be starved of physical intimacy or affection or attention or approval so they seek sex to provide that which they lack in their lives. Sometimes you can see sexual activity as an expression of some fairly extreme psychological damage.
It's when you get a mismatch of drives that I think tensions can arise, especially if people don't realise why they are doing what they are doing in the first place.
Interesting point of view.
I heard that we're tribal and none of us are supposed to be monogamous. Within a small tribe, if no one know whose children are theirs then everyone looks after each other. In a way it explains our natural desire to shag other people even when in a relationship and also why we have such a need to protect our family
We were and are tribal by nature. There's no way of knowing if tribes were monogamous or not. The theory that everyone would look after each others children because they didn't know whose they were is flawed because the mother would always be known. There would also have been benefits to knowing which children were yours as a father when it came to shortages of food, times of danger etc. There is also the problem of weakening the genetic stock of the tribe if nobody knows who they're related to.
The theory is based on the testing of DNA of bones. They found that all sorts of mixes existed. Even with Neanderthals so we were shagging other species never mind each other.
It's not flawed because the fathers are the protectors and they won't know. And there are no benefits to knowing whose children are yours from what you say. If there was food it would be shared with everyone. Maintaining that tribe as a whole and making them stronger. meaning other tribes cannot take their land or resources because there are more of them. This comes from really old tribes when we were hunter gatherers for thousands of years"
You're assuming that old tribes haven't made any social changes in those thousands of years. It can only ever be theory based on assumption from the very little evidence left by ancient hunter gatherers. Nobody knows for sure if they were monogamous or not.
Incidentally current theory suggests that Hunter gatherer tribes never grew to be larger than a certain size because their lifestyle wouldn't support it, too many children were an encumbrance and it's suggested that they practiced prolonged breast feeding, abstinence or abortion as ways to avoid having another baby while they still had a toddler. They had no land as we understand it but might have maintained a territory.
As I say that's only theory, it's unlikely we'll ever know the facts. |
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"SEX is like supermarkets ... theres a lot of pushing and shoving, and you still come out with very little at the end "
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How many kids do you have girl?
Two,so that's two time's I've had sex.
Huh.. maybe 20 so you reproduce for sure
No just twice.
Na na na na na na na..
True.
I don’t believe you.. you big fat liar
You calling me fat?!
Bigfatliar. One word "
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"We do it so the human race continues to survive.
How many kids do you have girl?
Two,so that's two time's I've had sex.
Huh.. maybe 20 so you reproduce for sure
No just twice.
Na na na na na na na..
True.
I don’t believe you.. you big fat liar
You calling me fat?!
Bigfatliar. One word
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I think that's a bullshit excuse myself lol, plenty of animals mate for life, and the vast majority of humans do to - happily, willingly. I don't know why people here can't just say 'Mea Culpa, I just want to shag around cos I can'!!
Plenty of animals do mate for life but we don't. Yes some people do but it is very rare that people stick with the first person they've ever mated with. And even those people that do still have the natural urges to shag those they find attractive. Why porn and sexual imagery is so powerful. You need to be more objective and not see it as a negative to look at what your body craves and why
I am totally objective - objective enough to know I crave monogamy and why. I don't even find porn in the slightest bit interesting, I find it unattractive and fake, I have no need of it and it has no power over me. You need to open your mind to the fact that many people, maybe even the majority, are not the same as you."
Ha! Why do over half of marriages end in divorce then? You speak like i have stated which side I support. I find it all interesting so don't say I think a certain way just because I'm trying to objectively look at our body's urges.
If you say you are never attracted to other people you are a liar. To say you don't act on it, for whatever reason is fair enough, but to say that you don't have the urges is delusional. I'm looking at why we have these urges. Not picking a side and then trying to defend it |
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"Sex to me is a hapiness/pleasure rush, it makes me forget about my mortgage and credit card for a few previous moments! "
I don’t even get a Hardon for days if I think about... forget it |
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I think that's a bullshit excuse myself lol, plenty of animals mate for life, and the vast majority of humans do to - happily, willingly. I don't know why people here can't just say 'Mea Culpa, I just want to shag around cos I can'!!
Plenty of animals do mate for life but we don't. Yes some people do but it is very rare that people stick with the first person they've ever mated with. And even those people that do still have the natural urges to shag those they find attractive. Why porn and sexual imagery is so powerful. You need to be more objective and not see it as a negative to look at what your body craves and why
I am totally objective - objective enough to know I crave monogamy and why. I don't even find porn in the slightest bit interesting, I find it unattractive and fake, I have no need of it and it has no power over me. You need to open your mind to the fact that many people, maybe even the majority, are not the same as you.
Ha! Why do over half of marriages end in divorce then? You speak like i have stated which side I support. I find it all interesting so don't say I think a certain way just because I'm trying to objectively look at our body's urges.
If you say you are never attracted to other people you are a liar. To say you don't act on it, for whatever reason is fair enough, but to say that you don't have the urges is delusional. I'm looking at why we have these urges. Not picking a side and then trying to defend it"
The break down of the family unit and marriage is a modern phenomenon and a hugely complex sociological issue and has very little with us suddenly becoming 'true to our nature' after thousands of years of suppression.
Humans have been pair-bonding for life perfectly successfully for thousands of years the world over, they still do in many cultures, that is beyond dispute.
Of course it has become the modern western way to 'try before you buy', and I participate fully in that ethos, but the fact remains that the vast majority of even horny young men in a free society eventually find that actually they'd like to settle down with one person.
Recognising people as attractive, even admiring their attributes, is very different from lusting after them, fantasising about them, or actually taking steps to connect with them when you are already in a relationship.
Being in love precludes that to start with but long term, to my mind commitment is the difference. When I was young, and uncommitted, I did sometimes decide I wanted to be with someone else whilst in a relationship. I left person a to be with person b.
Once committed, that did not even enter my head, no, I did not lust after anyone else, ever. |
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