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WHAT EVER'S HAPPENED TO ALL THE SINGLE BI-FEMALE'S??
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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We run Bi-parties in the northwest fairly successfully & get good numbers. The last party we had 117 people & already have 62 couple, 17 tv's, 27 Bi-guys for our next party in feb but ONLY 6 Bi-females.
We always seem to struggle for single Bi-females & it Begs the question.... What ever's happen to all the single Bi-female??
So ladies we wanted to ask you direct what is it that stops you wanting to attend parties like ours because we can't understand with our feedback what's putting you off & why you knock us back so much after inviting you ???
Yes we know single ladies are very hard to meet before you roast us but .... we see lots of other parties & events with lot of single females attending, so what can we do to entice you ladies ??
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I can only speak for myself and not every single bisexual female but I personally have no interest in the party scene. I want to know who I'll be spending my time with and feel comfortable, over 100 folk wouldn't allow that for me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Isn't it all down the females own preferences and maybe they don't want to be seen as the unicorn for a couple? If that's what they are into I'm sure they will come if the location is right and the club has a good reputation and depends who they go with.*Mr |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I can only speak for myself and not every single bisexual female but I personally have no interest in the party scene. I want to know who I'll be spending my time with and feel comfortable, over 100 folk wouldn't allow that for me. "
Thanks for that input & did wonder if in part some single females maybe prefered smaller more intimate gatherings and attending a big party alone was a bit to much for some ladies  But then again other seem to get the numbers with single bi-females so finding it a little confusing why we can't  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I can only speak for myself and not every single bisexual female but I personally have no interest in the party scene. I want to know who I'll be spending my time with and feel comfortable, over 100 folk wouldn't allow that for me.
Thanks for that input & did wonder if in part some single females maybe prefered smaller more intimate gatherings and attending a big party alone was a bit to much for some ladies But then again other seem to get the numbers with single bi-females so finding it a little confusing why we can't "
Are these other parties on the same area? If so how do they differ to your own? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I can only speak for myself and not every single bisexual female but I personally have no interest in the party scene. I want to know who I'll be spending my time with and feel comfortable, over 100 folk wouldn't allow that for me.
Thanks for that input & did wonder if in part some single females maybe prefered smaller more intimate gatherings and attending a big party alone was a bit to much for some ladies But then again other seem to get the numbers with single bi-females so finding it a little confusing why we can't
Are these other parties on the same area? If so how do they differ to your own? "
Take raw at townhouse it can get up to 30-40 single female & other club nights & parties get 20 plus females to there event. We are wondering if it's the Bi thing putting some females off?? |
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By *ucy LewdWoman
over a year ago
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"Personally, I don't want to play with other women in front of men.
I suppose each to there own view & what they like & perfer Xx"
Thinking about it further - if I'm intending to play with women I go to clubs with women only spaces or lockable and private rooms. Your venue seems to not offer that from reading your profile so I might as well be straight if I attended which you obviously don't want.
I think you could also quantify what "bi couple" means. Does it mean both have to enjoy having sex with the same sex? Or just one of the couple? |
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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago
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Like some have said above it’s like you’re only inviting the single women because they’re bi not because they’re single women.
I wouldn’t want to be invited and then be expected to only play with women. I don’t really like playing with a woman if it’s going to be viewed as a spectator sport.
There also has to be some attraction with the person I’m playing with.
Concentrate on your parties and less about the numbers of couples and singles etc. I’m sure the bi women in the couples are quite capable of playing with each other too.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think you may also struggle with the vetting of bisexuality, not sure how that can be done.
Club nights are more relaxed and will encourage people who may have never explored their bisexuality before, I know that's where I started. So requiring bisexual females to "prove" their bisexuality may put a lot of women off. If I attend a party or a club I want to decide who I play with, not have it expected that I'll pay with men and women |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Personally, I don't want to play with other women in front of men.
I suppose each to there own view & what they like & perfer Xx
Thinking about it further - if I'm intending to play with women I go to clubs with women only spaces or lockable and private rooms. Your venue seems to not offer that from reading your profile so I might as well be straight if I attended which you obviously don't want.
I think you could also quantify what "bi couple" means. Does it mean both have to enjoy having sex with the same sex? Or just one of the couple?"
Bi-Couple means - Both in the couple are bi-sexaul but it does not mean they nead to play exclusively Bi-sexauly at our parties.
It's what they or you desire on the evening and if you play Bi or not is up to you. Our parties are for bi-sexaul people to play without being froaned and pointed at & so people can feel comfortable being who they are and why only Bisexaul people can attend.
As with all other clubs & parties no means no & people play to suit there sexaul desires, some people don't play and just watch. Like we said each to there own Xx
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I think you may also struggle with the vetting of bisexuality, not sure how that can be done.
Club nights are more relaxed and will encourage people who may have never explored their bisexuality before, I know that's where I started. So requiring bisexual females to "prove" their bisexuality may put a lot of women off. If I attend a party or a club I want to decide who I play with, not have it expected that I'll pay with men and women "
We have never struggled for Bi-couples, tv's or Bi-males and spend a lot of time checking peoples Verifactions that they have a least 2 Bi-sexaul Verifactions and where they came from. We also check length of time on fab and that they are verified by fab.
If you have never been to one of our Bi-parties you would never know the massive difference between our Bi-parties & a Bi club night but our guests do!! They return time & time again to our parties. We have around 70% returning guests that come from all parts of the UK!! One couple even fly in from Spain easpically for our parties 
We would just like a few more Bi females to attend to even number out a bit better but no big deal because people play & socialise with each others anyway and enjoy themselves Xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think you may also struggle with the vetting of bisexuality, not sure how that can be done.
Club nights are more relaxed and will encourage people who may have never explored their bisexuality before, I know that's where I started. So requiring bisexual females to "prove" their bisexuality may put a lot of women off. If I attend a party or a club I want to decide who I play with, not have it expected that I'll pay with men and women
We have never struggled for Bi-couples, tv's or Bi-males and spend a lot of time checking peoples Verifactions that they have a least 2 Bi-sexaul Verifactions and where they came from. We also check length of time on fab and that they are verified by fab.
If you have never been to one of our Bi-parties you would never know the massive difference between our Bi-parties & a Bi club night but our guests do!! They return time & time again to our parties. We have around 70% returning guests that come from all parts of the UK!! One couple even fly in from Spain easpically for our parties
We would just like a few more Bi females to attend to even number out a bit better but no big deal because people play & socialise with each others anyway and enjoy themselves Xx"
And this vetting is probably a big reason you're struggling for single bisexual ladies to attend. But like you say you're parties are largely attended so single bisexual females are obviously not needed so why should you change your approach. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As a single female I prefer attending clubs. I find them more impersonal and if I get any unwanted attention, someone becomes a bit too full on or whatever I find it easier to decline, walk away, disappear into the crowd, etc. Perhaps because clubs are open many nights a week and are run as a business I feel less obliged to make it a great night for the hosts, party goers, etc.
A party is more like a one off (or rarer event) and is not being done as a profit making business. Despite all the communications about ‘no means no’ I think there is a greater expectation of play because of the ‘now or never’ party effect.
I don’t know if this makes sense but just trying to get my views across. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just to add, if you attend the same club regularly, you get familiar with the layout and rooms available. Perhaps this is more comfortable for a single fem.
With parties, especially if the venue changes each time, you don’t really know what to expect. |
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"I think you may also struggle with the vetting of bisexuality, not sure how that can be done.
Club nights are more relaxed and will encourage people who may have never explored their bisexuality before, I know that's where I started. So requiring bisexual females to "prove" their bisexuality may put a lot of women off. If I attend a party or a club I want to decide who I play with, not have it expected that I'll pay with men and women
We have never struggled for Bi-couples, tv's or Bi-males and spend a lot of time checking peoples Verifactions that they have a least 2 Bi-sexaul Verifactions and where they came from. We also check length of time on fab and that they are verified by fab.
If you have never been to one of our Bi-parties you would never know the massive difference between our Bi-parties & a Bi club night but our guests do!! They return time & time again to our parties. We have around 70% returning guests that come from all parts of the UK!! One couple even fly in from Spain easpically for our parties
We would just like a few more Bi females to attend to even number out a bit better but no big deal because people play & socialise with each others anyway and enjoy themselves Xx"
Well isn't that the problem, that you 'have' to be bi. We are a bi fem, straight male couple so we couldn't come. Many ladies who are bi may feel that you are expecting them to play in a particular way. What if they fancy a straight male on the night?
It seems a bit prescriptive. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Just to add, if you attend the same club regularly, you get familiar with the layout and rooms available. Perhaps this is more comfortable for a single fem.
With parties, especially if the venue changes each time, you don’t really know what to expect. "
We are starting to now see why single females prefer clubs & party nights in clubs for the fimlar feeling aspect & safety.
We operate differently to most private parties in that we rent out a party venue easpically designed for swingers parties (owned by a swingers club owner in north west) that holds upto 200 people and we use the same venue everytime & employ the same doorstaff & the same 4 to 5 five bar staff at every party so run more like a club but try to keep the intimate feeling of a private party.
No one & I mean no one is ever under pressure to play, that's there choice.
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From knowing several bi females, most don't want to just be seen as "a unicorn", they're bi just like the female in a couple and just like the female in a couple they want cock too. Which is why many single fems get to know a couple before doing anything with them. That's why the club scene is usually good as there's cock there too.
At your parties they're being invited because they're bi and it comes across like its with the presumption that if they want to play it has to be with a woman, like the bi male has to play with the man. Majority want both, or prefer one over the over... Guess it's about setting a balance. |
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As Bi couple with no bi feedback, you vetting process as just put us off. Surely if a couple are not bi they wouldn’t attend, as they would feel very comfortable in such surrounding. Plus if only one half is bi and the other gets pleasure just joining were they can surely you are restricting them also |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"As Bi couple with no bi feedback, you vetting process as just put us off. Surely if a couple are not bi they wouldn’t attend, as they would feel very comfortable in such surrounding. Plus if only one half is bi and the other gets pleasure just joining were they can surely you are restricting them also "
Sorry this approach will not work and the reason why most Bi nights in clubs fail is because they have this attitude!!
The reason Bi-sexaul people don't play in mixed parties & club nights is mainly because of the stigma and bipohic people that are still in swinging today. The amount of guys that are Bi & hide there sexuality here on fab is amazing.
We get asked & begged by straight couples & guys to attend our parties all the time. The reason they can't attend is because the bi-sexaul people who come to our parties feel more comfortable & able to play bi without being laughed, pointed at and called names by SOME not all straight people!!
The Amount of Bi-couples telling us of straight guys pretending to be Bi just to get to the MRS at party's & so called Bi-nights is amazing.
We have rules for a reason & they work so please respect them like we respect all the rules on your profile.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"From knowing several bi females, most don't want to just be seen as "a unicorn", they're bi just like the female in a couple and just like the female in a couple they want cock too. Which is why many single fems get to know a couple before doing anything with them. That's why the club scene is usually good as there's cock there too.
At your parties they're being invited because they're bi and it comes across like its with the presumption that if they want to play it has to be with a woman, like the bi male has to play with the man. Majority want both, or prefer one over the over... Guess it's about setting a balance."
OH dear... You cleary not read the whole thread, we have made it very clear at our parties you can play as straight or Bi as you like with women or men, hell just watch if you like BUT... you have to be Bi-sexaul to attend THAT'S ALL!!
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By *ucy LewdWoman
over a year ago
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"We did think the vetting and the bi thing is probably stopping ladies from attending but its the only way we can veri all our guests. "
The vetting thing is also a fair point. I've had lots of girlfriends over the years and a fair amount of casual sex with women, but I have no idea how I could "prove" to you that I'm bisexual. |
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"As Bi couple with no bi feedback, you vetting process as just put us off. Surely if a couple are not bi they wouldn’t attend, as they would feel very comfortable in such surrounding. Plus if only one half is bi and the other gets pleasure just joining were they can surely you are restricting them also
Sorry this approach will not work and the reason why most Bi nights in clubs fail is because they have this attitude!!
The reason Bi-sexaul people don't play in mixed parties & club nights is mainly because of the stigma and bipohic people that are still in swinging today. The amount of guys that are Bi & hide there sexuality here on fab is amazing.
We get asked & begged by straight couples & guys to attend our parties all the time. The reason they can't attend is because the bi-sexaul people who come to our parties feel more comfortable & able to play bi without being laughed, pointed at and called names by SOME not all straight people!!
The Amount of Bi-couples telling us of straight guys pretending to be Bi just to get to the MRS at party's & so called Bi-nights is amazing.
We have rules for a reason & they work so please respect them like we respect all the rules on your profile.
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You asked for peoples opinion and they gave it, so the last sentence is a bit off, I think.
Your party, your rules. But it will have pros and cons to the attendance. You've found one negative is few single women come. |
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By *otForSoftiesWoman
over a year ago
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"All the bisexual single females are all looking for males on their profiles  "
Maybe because we’re all already so overwhelmed with sexy bi women we don’t need to look for more
Personally I’ve got 2 girlfriends and numerous sexy lady playmates...  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Once attended a party with another single bi-fem n everyone was hanging around us to get the party started!! Felt like we were the fresh meat...we made our excuses and left...only play in clubs now with sexy bi friends |
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"From knowing several bi females, most don't want to just be seen as "a unicorn", they're bi just like the female in a couple and just like the female in a couple they want cock too. Which is why many single fems get to know a couple before doing anything with them. That's why the club scene is usually good as there's cock there too.
At your parties they're being invited because they're bi and it comes across like its with the presumption that if they want to play it has to be with a woman, like the bi male has to play with the man. Majority want both, or prefer one over the over... Guess it's about setting a balance.
OH dear... You cleary not read the whole thread, we have made it very clear at our parties you can play as straight or Bi as you like with women or men, hell just watch if you like BUT... you have to be Bi-sexaul to attend THAT'S ALL!!
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No I didn't read the whole thread, I read your post and profile, which only goes on about being bi. Which is how you want your parties, which is your choice, but it doesn't say anywhere you can play with the opposite sex, because they're 100% vetted they're bi, it comes across giving a different message.
I've not known many females to have detailed veris that would allow them to pass the 100% bi vetting process, nor have I known many to be photo verified, it's just as easy for a fem to get a cam veri |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm 100% bisexual and enjoy clubs and such, but that whole 'vetting' thing puts me off completely.
I'm bi, my profile says I'm bi, I'm well verified. That should be enough. |
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"I'm 100% bisexual and enjoy clubs and such, but that whole 'vetting' thing puts me off completely.
I'm bi, my profile says I'm bi, I'm well verified. That should be enough. "
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over a year ago
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"I'm 100% bisexual and enjoy clubs and such, but that whole 'vetting' thing puts me off completely.
I'm bi, my profile says I'm bi, I'm well verified. That should be enough. "
The ONLY vetting we do is checking that people have 2 Bi-sexaul Verifactions & where they have come from & that they are Bi!! Not like we send an questionnaire or anything.
So in your case there would not be a problem at all!! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Though im not verified as bi by more than one woman so couldn't attend if i wanted to. 
Shame. Sounds like a good party "
Think you will find you have been verified by 2 women & few couples with bi-sexaul females in then so not a problem attending our parties at all |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I'm 100% bisexual and enjoy clubs and such, but that whole 'vetting' thing puts me off completely.
I'm bi, my profile says I'm bi, I'm well verified. That should be enough. "
Again the only vetting we do is looking at your profile to see you have 2 Bisexaul Verifactions and you are Bi!! So more than free to attend  Yes your Verifactions are more than enough Xx |
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"I'm 100% bisexual and enjoy clubs and such, but that whole 'vetting' thing puts me off completely.
I'm bi, my profile says I'm bi, I'm well verified. That should be enough.
The ONLY vetting we do is checking that people have 2 Bi-sexaul Verifactions & where they have come from & that they are Bi!! Not like we send an questionnaire or anything.
So in your case there would not be a problem at all!!"
Let me add to that then; your attitude is also a put off. You've asked people for help with a problem you're having with your parties, and pretty much everyone who has taken the time to let you know their thoughts has been met with a barrage of exclamation marks and sarcasm
Your vetting process is over the top in my view, and if you vetted me correctly you'd see that only one of my female verifications was from a play meet. Therefore I would be excluded. There will be many females like me who think it's just not worth the hassle to get an invite to a party, when I can go to pretty much any club and play.
Right now I think you need to accept that you need the single females more than they need you... try enticing them rather than making them jump through hoops.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I have heard great things about your parties from a couple who attended the last one.
I would definitely attend, if I happened to be in Manchester when you we're hosting one. "
The next one is Friday 16th of Feb in Manchester & you would more than welcome to attend |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm 100% bisexual and enjoy clubs and such, but that whole 'vetting' thing puts me off completely.
I'm bi, my profile says I'm bi, I'm well verified. That should be enough.
The ONLY vetting we do is checking that people have 2 Bi-sexaul Verifactions & where they have come from & that they are Bi!! Not like we send an questionnaire or anything.
So in your case there would not be a problem at all!!
Let me add to that then; your attitude is also a put off. You've asked people for help with a problem you're having with your parties, and pretty much everyone who has taken the time to let you know their thoughts has been met with a barrage of exclamation marks and sarcasm
Your vetting process is over the top in my view, and if you vetted me correctly you'd see that only one of my female verifications was from a play meet. Therefore I would be excluded. There will be many females like me who think it's just not worth the hassle to get an invite to a party, when I can go to pretty much any club and play.
Right now I think you need to accept that you need the single females more than they need you... try enticing them rather than making them jump through hoops.
Good luck "
Very well said. The amount of genuine women you're excluding because they have to have been verified by 2 members of the same sex could be huge. |
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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago
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"I have heard great things about your parties from a couple who attended the last one.
I would definitely attend, if I happened to be in Manchester when you we're hosting one.
The next one is Friday 16th of Feb in Manchester & you would more than welcome to attend "
Thank you so much.
Unfortunately I'm usually only in Manchester at the end of the year, I missed your last one by two days! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I can only speak for myself and not every single bisexual female but I personally have no interest in the party scene. I want to know who I'll be spending my time with and feel comfortable, over 100 folk wouldn't allow that for me. "
This is spot on x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I have heard great things about your parties from a couple who attended the last one.
I would definitely attend, if I happened to be in Manchester when you we're hosting one.
The next one is Friday 16th of Feb in Manchester & you would more than welcome to attend
Thank you so much.
Unfortunately I'm usually only in Manchester at the end of the year, I missed your last one by two days! "
Not a problem, sure a date of one of our future parties will match at some point
Also always nice to hear people who have acually attended one our parties recommending it |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I can only speak for myself and not every single bisexual female but I personally have no interest in the party scene. I want to know who I'll be spending my time with and feel comfortable, over 100 folk wouldn't allow that for me.
This is spot on x "
This is fine & different for everyone. Some love clubs, some love parties, some love one on one meets.
What we are getting from this thread is that single female feel safer in clubs and more comfortable in fimlar surroundings which is totally understandable.
Thanks to all that took the time to reply It has helped a lot Xx
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"I'm 100% bisexual and enjoy clubs and such, but that whole 'vetting' thing puts me off completely.
I'm bi, my profile says I'm bi, I'm well verified. That should be enough.
Again the only vetting we do is looking at your profile to see you have 2 Bisexaul Verifactions and you are Bi!! So more than free to attend Yes your Verifactions are more than enough Xx"
Maybe the best advice to you would be to remove the vetting process from your profile. Just state people are required to be bi and verified, then if people message you it's down to your own discretion whether they're able to attend. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm 100% bisexual and enjoy clubs and such, but that whole 'vetting' thing puts me off completely.
I'm bi, my profile says I'm bi, I'm well verified. That should be enough.
Again the only vetting we do is looking at your profile to see you have 2 Bisexaul Verifactions and you are Bi!! So more than free to attend Yes your Verifactions are more than enough Xx
Maybe the best advice to you would be to remove the vetting process from your profile. Just state people are required to be bi and verified, then if people message you it's down to your own discretion whether they're able to attend."
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There isn't that many single bi females in the swinging scene. If there were then companies like fab would be making cash out of them on "fabgirls". There's lots of lipstick lesbians who like to please their husbands with some girl on girl action though. |
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" There isn't that many single bi females in the swinging scene. If there were then companies like fab would be making cash out of them on "fabgirls". There's lots of lipstick lesbians who like to please their husbands with some girl on girl action though. "
That's not what a lipstick lesbian is, your using the wrong term for your assumption. |
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" There isn't that many single bi females in the swinging scene. If there were then companies like fab would be making cash out of them on "fabgirls". There's lots of lipstick lesbians who like to please their husbands with some girl on girl action though. "
That's not our experience. Also very patronising of all the married women who are bi or curious. |
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" There isn't that many single bi females in the swinging scene. If there were then companies like fab would be making cash out of them on "fabgirls". There's lots of lipstick lesbians who like to please their husbands with some girl on girl action though.
That's not our experience. Also very patronising of all the married women who are bi or curious."
Oh no! How will i sleep at night?!
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" There isn't that many single bi females in the swinging scene. If there were then companies like fab would be making cash out of them on "fabgirls". There's lots of lipstick lesbians who like to please their husbands with some girl on girl action though.
That's not what a lipstick lesbian is, your using the wrong term for your assumption. "
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" There isn't that many single bi females in the swinging scene. If there were then companies like fab would be making cash out of them on "fabgirls". There's lots of lipstick lesbians who like to please their husbands with some girl on girl action though.
That's not what a lipstick lesbian is, your using the wrong term for your assumption.
Perhaps so, but you get the point. "
Yes but I don't think it's the point you're trying to express |
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" There isn't that many single bi females in the swinging scene. If there were then companies like fab would be making cash out of them on "fabgirls". There's lots of lipstick lesbians who like to please their husbands with some girl on girl action though.
That's not what a lipstick lesbian is, your using the wrong term for your assumption.
Perhaps so, but you get the point.
Yes but I don't think it's the point you're trying to express "
Clearly you know my mind better than i do, so would you mind telling me what you think my point is? |
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" There isn't that many single bi females in the swinging scene. If there were then companies like fab would be making cash out of them on "fabgirls". There's lots of lipstick lesbians who like to please their husbands with some girl on girl action though.
That's not our experience. Also very patronising of all the married women who are bi or curious.
Oh no! How will i sleep at night?!
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I don't know or care, but I'll sleep better if I pull someone up who patronises decent people.
Sleep well xx |
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" There isn't that many single bi females in the swinging scene. If there were then companies like fab would be making cash out of them on "fabgirls". There's lots of lipstick lesbians who like to please their husbands with some girl on girl action though.
That's not what a lipstick lesbian is, your using the wrong term for your assumption.
Perhaps so, but you get the point.
Yes but I don't think it's the point you're trying to express
Clearly you know my mind better than i do, so would you mind telling me what you think my point is? "
That's not what I said, I read the point that you put across but the point I get from it will not be on the same lines. |
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" There isn't that many single bi females in the swinging scene. If there were then companies like fab would be making cash out of them on "fabgirls". There's lots of lipstick lesbians who like to please their husbands with some girl on girl action though.
That's not our experience. Also very patronising of all the married women who are bi or curious.
Oh no! How will i sleep at night?!
I don't know or care, but I'll sleep better if I pull someone up who patronises decent people.
Sleep well xx"
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"I'm 100% bisexual and enjoy clubs and such, but that whole 'vetting' thing puts me off completely.
I'm bi, my profile says I'm bi, I'm well verified. That should be enough.
Again the only vetting we do is looking at your profile to see you have 2 Bisexaul Verifactions and you are Bi!! So more than free to attend Yes your Verifactions are more than enough Xx
Maybe the best advice to you would be to remove the vetting process from your profile. Just state people are required to be bi and verified, then if people message you it's down to your own discretion whether they're able to attend. "
Have to agree here. I as a single button female prefer clubs than going to private parties to be totally honest
If I wanted to go to private parties I would. I feel so much safer going to a club than a party |
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" There isn't that many single bi females in the swinging scene. If there were then companies like fab would be making cash out of them on "fabgirls". There's lots of lipstick lesbians who like to please their husbands with some girl on girl action though.
That's not our experience. Also very patronising of all the married women who are bi or curious.
Oh no! How will i sleep at night?!
I don't know or care, but I'll sleep better if I pull someone up who patronises decent people.
Sleep well xx"
I sleep better after waking up the naive. Looks like I'll be sleeping like a log tonight. Xx |
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" There isn't that many single bi females in the swinging scene. If there were then companies like fab would be making cash out of them on "fabgirls". There's lots of lipstick lesbians who like to please their husbands with some girl on girl action though.
That's not our experience. Also very patronising of all the married women who are bi or curious.
Oh no! How will i sleep at night?!
I don't know or care, but I'll sleep better if I pull someone up who patronises decent people.
Sleep well xx
I sleep better after waking up the naive. Looks like I'll be sleeping like a log tonight. Xx"
Yes I'm sure there are many awakened people after your presumptive post, thank you for enlightening us all |
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" There isn't that many single bi females in the swinging scene. If there were then companies like fab would be making cash out of them on "fabgirls". There's lots of lipstick lesbians who like to please their husbands with some girl on girl action though.
That's not our experience. Also very patronising of all the married women who are bi or curious.
Oh no! How will i sleep at night?!
I don't know or care, but I'll sleep better if I pull someone up who patronises decent people.
Sleep well xx
I sleep better after waking up the naive. Looks like I'll be sleeping like a log tonight. Xx
Yes I'm sure there are many awakened people after your presumptive post, thank you for enlightening us all "
Yes, thanks. I'll make sure Bun knows about it, so she can tell the naive women she plays with on her own.
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" There isn't that many single bi females in the swinging scene. If there were then companies like fab would be making cash out of them on "fabgirls". There's lots of lipstick lesbians who like to please their husbands with some girl on girl action though.
That's not our experience. Also very patronising of all the married women who are bi or curious.
Oh no! How will i sleep at night?!
I don't know or care, but I'll sleep better if I pull someone up who patronises decent people.
Sleep well xx
I sleep better after waking up the naive. Looks like I'll be sleeping like a log tonight. Xx
Yes I'm sure there are many awakened people after your presumptive post, thank you for enlightening us all
Yes, thanks. I'll make sure Bun knows about it, so she can tell the naive women she plays with on her own.
Everyday is a school day. Sweet dreams."
Ok......so there's one. |
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The vetting part would put me off entirely, especially being verified by two bi people. By those standards I'm not bi, however in the real world I've had at least one serious girlfriend and various female lovers, so... |
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Ok......so there's one.
Well, she certainly aint playing on her own, so a few more than one...
Sorry should have stipulated, There's one (wife/girlfriend who plays as a single bi female)."
Most of the women she plays with girl-girl are female halves of couples. Those women are doing it for themselves, because they are bi and want to do it, not as a show.
Since you are such an outspokenly bi man, it seems surprising you find it hard to believe a woman would be bi and want to express that sexuality for herself. |
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Ok......so there's one.
Well, she certainly aint playing on her own, so a few more than one...
Sorry should have stipulated, There's one (wife/girlfriend who plays as a single bi female).
Most of the women she plays with girl-girl are female halves of couples. Those women are doing it for themselves, because they are bi and want to do it, not as a show.
Since you are such an outspokenly bi man, it seems surprising you find it hard to believe a woman would be bi and want to express that sexuality for herself."
Are you saying then, that in actual fact there's loads of women who want to play with other women ( attached or unattached ) but industry is too nice to take advantage of them? Hence no fabgirls? |
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Ok......so there's one.
Well, she certainly aint playing on her own, so a few more than one...
Sorry should have stipulated, There's one (wife/girlfriend who plays as a single bi female).
Most of the women she plays with girl-girl are female halves of couples. Those women are doing it for themselves, because they are bi and want to do it, not as a show.
Since you are such an outspokenly bi man, it seems surprising you find it hard to believe a woman would be bi and want to express that sexuality for herself.
Are you saying then, that in actual fact there's loads of women who want to play with other women ( attached or unattached ) but industry is too nice to take advantage of them? Hence no fabgirls? "
I'm simply saying your description of all these women just being lipstick lesbians putting on a show, is wrong and insulting to the very many who are doing it because it is their actual sexuality. |
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"We run Bi-parties in the northwest fairly successfully & get good numbers. The last party we had 117 people & already have 62 couple, 17 tv's, 27 Bi-guys for our next party in feb but ONLY 6 Bi-females.
We always seem to struggle for single Bi-females & it Begs the question.... What ever's happen to all the single Bi-female??
So ladies we wanted to ask you direct what is it that stops you wanting to attend parties like ours because we can't understand with our feedback what's putting you off & why you knock us back so much after inviting you ???
Yes we know single ladies are very hard to meet before you roast us but .... we see lots of other parties & events with lot of single females attending, so what can we do to entice you ladies ??
L & P"
I would probably go to your party but only with people I knew or if I knew you very well. I'd love to try it out but am at the opposite end of the country lol. You can vet me and I wouldn't mind but then everyone is different.
I guess us unicorns get a lot of attention anyway and we generally don't need to go to a party to get our kicks? |
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"We run Bi-parties in the northwest fairly successfully & get good numbers. The last party we had 117 people & already have 62 couple, 17 tv's, 27 Bi-guys for our next party in feb but ONLY 6 Bi-females.
We always seem to struggle for single Bi-females & it Begs the question.... What ever's happen to all the single Bi-female??
So ladies we wanted to ask you direct what is it that stops you wanting to attend parties like ours because we can't understand with our feedback what's putting you off & why you knock us back so much after inviting you ???
Yes we know single ladies are very hard to meet before you roast us but .... we see lots of other parties & events with lot of single females attending, so what can we do to entice you ladies ??
L & P
I would probably go to your party but only with people I knew or if I knew you very well. I'd love to try it out but am at the opposite end of the country lol. You can vet me and I wouldn't mind but then everyone is different.
I guess us unicorns get a lot of attention anyway and we generally don't need to go to a party to get our kicks?"
The single females we do have attending usally do come along with another couple or with other single females first time they attend which we can totally understand.
If you are ever in our area please get in touch as you would be more than welcome anytime Xx |
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Ok......so there's one.
Well, she certainly aint playing on her own, so a few more than one...
Sorry should have stipulated, There's one (wife/girlfriend who plays as a single bi female).
Most of the women she plays with girl-girl are female halves of couples. Those women are doing it for themselves, because they are bi and want to do it, not as a show.
Since you are such an outspokenly bi man, it seems surprising you find it hard to believe a woman would be bi and want to express that sexuality for herself.
Are you saying then, that in actual fact there's loads of women who want to play with other women ( attached or unattached ) but industry is too nice to take advantage of them? Hence no fabgirls?
I'm simply saying your description of all these women just being lipstick lesbians putting on a show, is wrong and insulting to the very many who are doing it because it is their actual sexuality."
I apologise to them both. |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"I'm 100% bisexual and enjoy clubs and such, but that whole 'vetting' thing puts me off completely.
I'm bi, my profile says I'm bi, I'm well verified. That should be enough.
Again the only vetting we do is looking at your profile to see you have 2 Bisexaul Verifactions and you are Bi!! So more than free to attend Yes your Verifactions are more than enough Xx
Maybe the best advice to you would be to remove the vetting process from your profile. Just state people are required to be bi and verified, then if people message you it's down to your own discretion whether they're able to attend."
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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago
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As I am a straight male who has been verified by 2 bi Couples and females.
Now to me that means I must be ok or comfortable than the male or female is bi.
Personally I wouldn’t go to your parties which is a shame as I know a few people that go, but tbh I heard the male on male play is a bit full on for my liking. Again that is my preference.
I have been in situations where male on male has happened - not with me but it was a group situation and I was asked would I be ok and if I wasn’t I was ok to leave and they wouldn’t be offended |
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By *ucy LewdWoman
over a year ago
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Personally I wouldn’t go to your parties which is a shame as I know a few people that go, but tbh I heard the male on male play is a bit full on for my liking. Again that is my preference.
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I don't think you'd be welcome at their parties since you're not actually bisexual... |
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"As I am a straight male who has been verified by 2 bi Couples and females.
Now to me that means I must be ok or comfortable than the male or female is bi.
Personally I wouldn’t go to your parties which is a shame as I know a few people that go, but tbh I heard the male on male play is a bit full on for my liking. Again that is my preference.
I have been in situations where male on male has happened - not with me but it was a group situation and I was asked would I be ok and if I wasn’t I was ok to leave and they wouldn’t be offended "
Afternoon Mike & thanks for you input and agree the Bi play with guy on guy or TV's can be a bit full on at times & not a place for a straight guy who may have met the odd Bi-couple but never played Bi before. As such we would never have invited you, no offence intended you seem a really nice guy but this would not be the party for you Xx
Now you can see why we only invite Bi people that are Bi-sexaul or Bi-curious and can't invite straight guys or couples with straight females or guys in them it's because for SOME straight people our parties will take them WAY out of there comfort zones even if Bi freindly & in turn make the other bi-sexaul guests uncomfortable too, it just would not work. Hence why most club Bi-nights just don't work |
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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago
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If people can play straight why the need to verify if people are bi or bi curious. Some people won’t display verifications.
Also a free bar is surely a recipe for disaster. I know you’ve held parties but I’m sure most people could drink their contribution easily.
As for bi guys playing, they can surely have a room dedicated just for bi guy play.
Just a few thoughts having read more responses. |
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By *ucy LewdWoman
over a year ago
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As for bi guys playing, they can surely have a room dedicated just for bi guy play.
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Surely a seperate room for guys to play and a seperate room for women to play would completely defy the point of having a bisexual party for *both genders*?
I think you may have misread the opening post... |
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"If people can play straight why the need to verify if people are bi or bi curious. Some people won’t display verifications.
Also a free bar is surely a recipe for disaster. I know you’ve held parties but I’m sure most people could drink their contribution easily.
As for bi guys playing, they can surely have a room dedicated just for bi guy play.
Just a few thoughts having read more responses. "
I think the main purpose, or one of, of bi parties is a 'safe' environment for bi guys to play. Generally it doesn't happen in clubs other than on specific nights and even then having straight guys in the room / club can make them feel uncomfortable and hinder play.
The point being if you don't want to see bi guys being bi guys then don't go. |
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By *arlo82Couple
over a year ago
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I think I got fed up with the whole unicorn thing and providing "entertainment" for couples and having no one for myself. It's rare to find a bi fem for one on one never mind parties and the ones that I do see indulge seem to have little in the way of standards |
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"Forget whatever happened to the bi ladies..I want to know, whatever happened to the likely lads (if you're under 45 that joke will probably pass you by) "
I can tell you if you like, was one of my favourite shows as a kid but I think bit of topic. God showing my age now lol 
Basically they fell out over a misunderstanding in the press and never talked again after the last film in 1976 Rodney Bewes died Nov 2017 and James Bolam still alive I think |
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By *exfordMan
over a year ago
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"Forget whatever happened to the bi ladies..I want to know, whatever happened to the likely lads (if you're under 45 that joke will probably pass you by)
I can tell you if you like, was one of my favourite shows as a kid but I think bit of topic. God showing my age now lol
Basically they fell out over a misunderstanding in the press and never talked again after the last film in 1976 Rodney Bewes died Nov 2017 and James Bolam still alive I think "
Yes, James is still alive and he's still my uncle! |
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"Forget whatever happened to the bi ladies..I want to know, whatever happened to the likely lads (if you're under 45 that joke will probably pass you by)
I can tell you if you like, was one of my favourite shows as a kid but I think bit of topic. God showing my age now lol
Basically they fell out over a misunderstanding in the press and never talked again after the last film in 1976 Rodney Bewes died Nov 2017 and James Bolam still alive I think
Yes, James is still alive and he's still my uncle!"
Small world, can you get me a autograph lol Xx
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"If people can play straight why the need to verify if people are bi or bi curious. Some people won’t display verifications.
Also a free bar is surely a recipe for disaster. I know you’ve held parties but I’m sure most people could drink their contribution easily.
As for bi guys playing, they can surely have a room dedicated just for bi guy play.
Just a few thoughts having read more responses.
I think the main purpose, or one of, of bi parties is a 'safe' environment for bi guys to play. Generally it doesn't happen in clubs other than on specific nights and even then having straight guys in the room / club can make them feel uncomfortable and hinder play.
The point being if you don't want to see bi guys being bi guys then don't go. "
Back on topic, think our point about bi-parties & the reason we host them are now being made for us |
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Going by your vetting process, I wouldn't be allowed to attend. My veris don't prove I've been with bi women and I don't identify as bi. Fab are crap for not having other sexual orientations to choose from. |
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"Going by your vetting process, I wouldn't be allowed to attend. My veris don't prove I've been with bi women and I don't identify as bi. Fab are crap for not having other sexual orientations to choose from."
Just looked at your profile it says - "Bi-sexaul" plus you have at least one verifaction from a women in group play and others from couples with Bi-sexaul females in them so could attend
Agree that fab need to up there game & have other sexual orientations to choose from but we can only use the site as it is now until they change it, if they ever do. Think part of fabs charm is it's mainly free & because of that very simple Xx
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"As I am a straight male who has been verified by 2 bi Couples and females.
Now to me that means I must be ok or comfortable than the male or female is bi.
Personally I wouldn’t go to your parties which is a shame as I know a few people that go, but tbh I heard the male on male play is a bit full on for my liking. Again that is my preference.
I have been in situations where male on male has happened - not with me but it was a group situation and I was asked would I be ok and if I wasn’t I was ok to leave and they wouldn’t be offended
Afternoon Mike & thanks for you input and agree the Bi play with guy on guy or TV's can be a bit full on at times & not a place for a straight guy who may have met the odd Bi-couple but never played Bi before. As such we would never have invited you, no offence intended you seem a really nice guy but this would not be the party for you Xx
Now you can see why we only invite Bi people that are Bi-sexaul or Bi-curious and can't invite straight guys or couples with straight females or guys in them it's because for SOME straight people our parties will take them WAY out of there comfort zones even if Bi freindly & in turn make the other bi-sexaul guests uncomfortable too, it just would not work. Hence why most club Bi-nights just don't work "
Odd statement to make about clubs having bi nights, if they didn't work they wouldn't have them. |
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"I think I got fed up with the whole unicorn thing and providing "entertainment" for couples and having no one for myself. It's rare to find a bi fem for one on one never mind parties and the ones that I do see indulge seem to have little in the way of standards "
What kind of standards? |
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Reading some of the posts regarding segregating bi males does validate the vetting approach. The double-standards of wanting to see bi female play but not bi males is unfortunately too common.
We find it difficult to play in clubs due to the prevalence of this attitude and therefore prefer to accommodate. Having said that I did manage a mutual handjob in the corridor to the couples room at Cupids many years ago (on an ordinary mixed night) while the recipient's wife had her fingers inside my wife. 
Back to the original topic - you aren't doing too badly for bi females as, by definition, there will be one in each couple attending. When you add the single bi females to the TV/TS numbers you are almost balanced with the single bi males, which is (I assume) your aim. |
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If you're going to vet people at least get the spelling correct and consistent.
Fab doesn't use 'bi-sexual' or even 'bi-sexaul'.
The only choices under Sexuality are 'Straight', 'Bisexual', 'Bi-curious' and 'Gay'. |
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Maybe the reason has already been described. If regular club nights, and even bi club nights, aren't actually that suited for bi guys playing with each other, is there going to be much more mm play happening at one of these parties? If so, the single ladies become a bit less of the overall play, as there are already women there as part of the couples??? |
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"Reading some of the posts regarding segregating bi males does validate the vetting approach. The double-standards of wanting to see bi female play but not bi males is unfortunately too common.
We find it difficult to play in clubs due to the prevalence of this attitude and therefore prefer to accommodate. Having said that I did manage a mutual handjob in the corridor to the couples room at Cupids many years ago (on an ordinary mixed night) while the recipient's wife had her fingers inside my wife.
Back to the original topic - you aren't doing too badly for bi females as, by definition, there will be one in each couple attending. When you add the single bi females to the TV/TS numbers you are almost balanced with the single bi males, which is (I assume) your aim."
That was a miracle getting away with that in Cupids as far we know Cupids DON'T even have a Bi night which tells you all you need to know about some clubs attitudes towards bisexuality. For that matter there are number of clubs in the UK who don't do Bi event's for one reason or the other.
From a personal note, the clubs we have been to that hold Bi events are not great at all and the reason like many other Bi-couple we stopped attending them and the main reason we started our Bi parties that are very well attended.
Again back to topic, yes your completely right. When you add the single Bifemales to the TV/TS numbers they almost balanced with the single Bimales numbers & exactly how we run our parties. It would Just be nice for a few more Bifemales to attend |
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By *ucy LewdWoman
over a year ago
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"Reading some of the posts regarding segregating bi males does validate the vetting approach. The double-standards of wanting to see bi female play but not bi males is unfortunately too common.
We find it difficult to play in clubs due to the prevalence of this attitude and therefore prefer to accommodate. Having said that I did manage a mutual handjob in the corridor to the couples room at Cupids many years ago (on an ordinary mixed night) while the recipient's wife had her fingers inside my wife.
Back to the original topic - you aren't doing too badly for bi females as, by definition, there will be one in each couple attending. When you add the single bi females to the TV/TS numbers you are almost balanced with the single bi males, which is (I assume) your aim.
That was a miracle getting away with that in Cupids as far we know Cupids DON'T even have a Bi night which tells you all you need to know about some clubs attitudes towards bisexuality. For that matter there are number of clubs in the UK who don't do Bi event's for one reason or the other.
From a personal note, the clubs we have been to that hold Bi events are not great at all and the reason like many other Bi-couple we stopped attending them and the main reason we started our Bi parties that are very well attended.
Again back to topic, yes your completely right. When you add the single Bifemales to the TV/TS numbers they almost balanced with the single Bimales numbers & exactly how we run our parties. It would Just be nice for a few more Bifemales to attend "
Fwiw, my partner has played with men in quite a few swingers clubs on "normal" nights. It's not completely unheard of. |
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"Reading some of the posts regarding segregating bi males does validate the vetting approach. The double-standards of wanting to see bi female play but not bi males is unfortunately too common.
We find it difficult to play in clubs due to the prevalence of this attitude and therefore prefer to accommodate. Having said that I did manage a mutual handjob in the corridor to the couples room at Cupids many years ago (on an ordinary mixed night) while the recipient's wife had her fingers inside my wife.
Back to the original topic - you aren't doing too badly for bi females as, by definition, there will be one in each couple attending. When you add the single bi females to the TV/TS numbers you are almost balanced with the single bi males, which is (I assume) your aim.
That was a miracle getting away with that in Cupids as far we know Cupids DON'T even have a Bi night which tells you all you need to know about some clubs attitudes towards bisexuality. For that matter there are number of clubs in the UK who don't do Bi event's for one reason or the other.
From a personal note, the clubs we have been to that hold Bi events are not great at all and the reason like many other Bi-couple we stopped attending them and the main reason we started our Bi parties that are very well attended.
Again back to topic, yes your completely right. When you add the single Bifemales to the TV/TS numbers they almost balanced with the single Bimales numbers & exactly how we run our parties. It would Just be nice for a few more Bifemales to attend
Fwiw, my partner has played with men in quite a few swingers clubs on "normal" nights. It's not completely unheard of."
This more the exception rather than the norm in clubs & the reason so many Bi Guys in couples or singles don't play Bi in clubs or at mixed parties.
No, not completely unheard of but a very rare occurrence I am afraid.
True story - We were once playing in a club in bury at a friend's very well attended party on the orgy bed near the dark maze with another Bi couple but playing straight, as in a club and we know the score. Now we don't mind the attention from the odd single guy to a point, but... A group of around 15 or so of them is a bit much to handle & they were not taking NO for an answer!! to the point one sneakily tried to stick his cock in Mrs without asking & without a condom!! another ran from around the bed & cum in her face from no where, DEALT WITH BOTH VERY FAST & were going to leave the room when the other Bi-guy from the couple said WATCH THIS!! Suddenly he popped by cock in month started sucking away. Never seen a room empty so fast in my life!! Mrs asked a few men when leaving would you like to join in?? Think to stick it to them lol One response " I would rather slit my throat and die " Another response " Fucking disgusting " Another " Not in a million years " Nicest ones were " Not for me, No,No not my thing" which is cool and respect that. To say we would never go to that club again is an under statement to say the least.
The single guys we can handle it's the biphobic attitudes we cant stomach. We have also encountered laughing & pointing in other clubs from groups of couples. We think being high profile may not help us but we don't think we deserve that just because we are Bi. Mr has even been reported for kissing a guy in a open event tent at swingfeilds 2016 from a fair few disgusted couples!! Luckily Stuart who runs swingfeilds & Bi didn't take it very lighty at all and has now turned next year's event into a LGBT freindly event & GOOD ON HIM!!
This is just a few of our REAL experiences as a Bi couple trying to just be ourselves and enjoy our sexuality openly. Lot more people have had silmar experienced & things and the reason they attend our Bi parties so they can relax and be themselves in a safe, open environment. Clubs may make single Bi females feel safe & secure but from Bi-males or TV's point of view in a couple or single they don't feel that way at all. They feel restricting & intemataing places.
Bisexualy in females is welcomed & even expected in clubs but not form Bi-men or TV's. You got to love the double standards in what's ment to be a open and welcoming lifestyle |
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"Reading some of the posts regarding segregating bi males does validate the vetting approach. The double-standards of wanting to see bi female play but not bi males is unfortunately too common.
We find it difficult to play in clubs due to the prevalence of this attitude and therefore prefer to accommodate. Having said that I did manage a mutual handjob in the corridor to the couples room at Cupids many years ago (on an ordinary mixed night) while the recipient's wife had her fingers inside my wife.
Back to the original topic - you aren't doing too badly for bi females as, by definition, there will be one in each couple attending. When you add the single bi females to the TV/TS numbers you are almost balanced with the single bi males, which is (I assume) your aim.
That was a miracle getting away with that in Cupids as far we know Cupids DON'T even have a Bi night which tells you all you need to know about some clubs attitudes towards bisexuality. For that matter there are number of clubs in the UK who don't do Bi event's for one reason or the other.
From a personal note, the clubs we have been to that hold Bi events are not great at all and the reason like many other Bi-couple we stopped attending them and the main reason we started our Bi parties that are very well attended.
Again back to topic, yes your completely right. When you add the single Bifemales to the TV/TS numbers they almost balanced with the single Bimales numbers & exactly how we run our parties. It would Just be nice for a few more Bifemales to attend
Fwiw, my partner has played with men in quite a few swingers clubs on "normal" nights. It's not completely unheard of.
This more the exception rather than the norm in clubs & the reason so many Bi Guys in couples or singles don't play Bi in clubs or at mixed parties.
No, not completely unheard of but a very rare occurrence I am afraid.
True story - We were once playing in a club in bury at a friend's very well attended party on the orgy bed near the dark maze with another Bi couple but playing straight, as in a club and we know the score. Now we don't mind the attention from the odd single guy to a point, but... A group of around 15 or so of them is a bit much to handle & they were not taking NO for an answer!! to the point one sneakily tried to stick his cock in Mrs without asking & without a condom!! another ran from around the bed & cum in her face from no where, DEALT WITH BOTH VERY FAST & were going to leave the room when the other Bi-guy from the couple said WATCH THIS!! Suddenly he popped by cock in month started sucking away. Never seen a room empty so fast in my life!! Mrs asked a few men when leaving would you like to join in?? Think to stick it to them lol One response " I would rather slit my throat and die " Another response " Fucking disgusting " Another " Not in a million years " Nicest ones were " Not for me, No,No not my thing" which is cool and respect that. To say we would never go to that club again is an under statement to say the least.
The single guys we can handle it's the biphobic attitudes we cant stomach. We have also encountered laughing & pointing in other clubs from groups of couples. We think being high profile may not help us but we don't think we deserve that just because we are Bi. Mr has even been reported for kissing a guy in a open event tent at swingfeilds 2016 from a fair few disgusted couples!! Luckily Stuart who runs swingfeilds & Bi didn't take it very lighty at all and has now turned next year's event into a LGBT freindly event & GOOD ON HIM!!
This is just a few of our REAL experiences as a Bi couple trying to just be ourselves and enjoy our sexuality openly. Lot more people have had silmar experienced & things and the reason they attend our Bi parties so they can relax and be themselves in a safe, open environment. Clubs may make single Bi females feel safe & secure but from Bi-males or TV's point of view in a couple or single they don't feel that way at all. They feel restricting & intemataing places.
Bisexualy in females is welcomed & even expected in clubs but not form Bi-men or TV's. You got to love the double standards in what's ment to be a open and welcoming lifestyle "
The club in Bury you mention does bi nights- or it used to. If the men there that night were rude that's not really the club's fault.
People have their own preferences and what they do and don't like. Bi parties sound like a great idea. At least everyone there will (should!) be happy with man on man. |
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"Reading some of the posts regarding segregating bi males does validate the vetting approach. The double-standards of wanting to see bi female play but not bi males is unfortunately too common.
We find it difficult to play in clubs due to the prevalence of this attitude and therefore prefer to accommodate. Having said that I did manage a mutual handjob in the corridor to the couples room at Cupids many years ago (on an ordinary mixed night) while the recipient's wife had her fingers inside my wife.
Back to the original topic - you aren't doing too badly for bi females as, by definition, there will be one in each couple attending. When you add the single bi females to the TV/TS numbers you are almost balanced with the single bi males, which is (I assume) your aim.
That was a miracle getting away with that in Cupids as far we know Cupids DON'T even have a Bi night which tells you all you need to know about some clubs attitudes towards bisexuality. For that matter there are number of clubs in the UK who don't do Bi event's for one reason or the other.
From a personal note, the clubs we have been to that hold Bi events are not great at all and the reason like many other Bi-couple we stopped attending them and the main reason we started our Bi parties that are very well attended.
Again back to topic, yes your completely right. When you add the single Bifemales to the TV/TS numbers they almost balanced with the single Bimales numbers & exactly how we run our parties. It would Just be nice for a few more Bifemales to attend
Fwiw, my partner has played with men in quite a few swingers clubs on "normal" nights. It's not completely unheard of.
This more the exception rather than the norm in clubs & the reason so many Bi Guys in couples or singles don't play Bi in clubs or at mixed parties.
No, not completely unheard of but a very rare occurrence I am afraid.
True story - We were once playing in a club in bury at a friend's very well attended party on the orgy bed near the dark maze with another Bi couple but playing straight, as in a club and we know the score. Now we don't mind the attention from the odd single guy to a point, but... A group of around 15 or so of them is a bit much to handle & they were not taking NO for an answer!! to the point one sneakily tried to stick his cock in Mrs without asking & without a condom!! another ran from around the bed & cum in her face from no where, DEALT WITH BOTH VERY FAST & were going to leave the room when the other Bi-guy from the couple said WATCH THIS!! Suddenly he popped by cock in month started sucking away. Never seen a room empty so fast in my life!! Mrs asked a few men when leaving would you like to join in?? Think to stick it to them lol One response " I would rather slit my throat and die " Another response " Fucking disgusting " Another " Not in a million years " Nicest ones were " Not for me, No,No not my thing" which is cool and respect that. To say we would never go to that club again is an under statement to say the least.
The single guys we can handle it's the biphobic attitudes we cant stomach. We have also encountered laughing & pointing in other clubs from groups of couples. We think being high profile may not help us but we don't think we deserve that just because we are Bi. Mr has even been reported for kissing a guy in a open event tent at swingfeilds 2016 from a fair few disgusted couples!! Luckily Stuart who runs swingfeilds & Bi didn't take it very lighty at all and has now turned next year's event into a LGBT freindly event & GOOD ON HIM!!
This is just a few of our REAL experiences as a Bi couple trying to just be ourselves and enjoy our sexuality openly. Lot more people have had silmar experienced & things and the reason they attend our Bi parties so they can relax and be themselves in a safe, open environment. Clubs may make single Bi females feel safe & secure but from Bi-males or TV's point of view in a couple or single they don't feel that way at all. They feel restricting & intemataing places.
Bisexualy in females is welcomed & even expected in clubs but not form Bi-men or TV's. You got to love the double standards in what's ment to be a open and welcoming lifestyle
The club in Bury you mention does bi nights- or it used to. If the men there that night were rude that's not really the club's fault.
People have their own preferences and what they do and don't like. Bi parties sound like a great idea. At least everyone there will (should!) be happy with man on man. "
The word "preferences" is used by a lot people hiding with biphodic or homophobic views.
The comments, pointing & laughing and yes,abusive we have encountered in that club & others are not preferences but pure biphodic attitudes.
People don't blink an eye at two women together but two men, we cant have that!! Until attitudes change most bi-men will never play Bi openly in clubs.
Don't get us started on Bi-nights in that club & others Been so we know!! They let anyone in without checking they are acaully Bi??? Other than VA (well done to them) Number of straight single guys pretending to be Bi at these events always amazes us & reason that lots of Bi-Couples on the whole avoid them. Happened to us a number of times in playrooms at club Bi club events the single guys & even some couple are not Bi and just trying to get there wicked way with the female of the couple and treat it like a normal club night. Seen lot of trouble happen because of this and can only think it's because clubs just want more money on the door & let anyone in and can be bothered checking they are actually Bi.
One last point on the club in bury, its well known they have trouble with single guys regularly just look at there reviews and now have employed 2 security guard in the club & changing rooms because of all the problems with single guys, so who's fault is that?? IT'S THE CLUB'S FOR ALLOWING IT & NOT STAMPING IT OUT!! |
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" There isn't that many single bi females in the swinging scene. If there were then companies like fab would be making cash out of them on "fabgirls". There's lots of lipstick lesbians who like to please their husbands with some girl on girl action though. "
I’m a lucky fucker because my wife is not just a lipstick lesbian , but also whatever you may call a woman who happily does anything she knows will turn me on . That’s how we roll , she gets off on me getting off .
The fact that she enjoys it all so much is to use her words ‘ a very pleasurable bonus ‘ .
Nothing wrong with that |
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I was once called a lipstick lesbian or should I say said I would make a good lipstick lesbian by a lady who is a lesbian and ask her what one is. She told me its a term of phrase to discribe a very pretty glamours more feminine Lesbian. If you google it you will see |
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I used to be a single bi fem. SaFTY, was my reason for not attending clubs alone. We've had problems in clubs - men not
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"Reading some of the posts regarding segregating bi males does validate the vetting approach. The double-standards of wanting to see bi female play but not bi males is unfortunately too common.
We find it difficult to play in clubs due to the prevalence of this attitude and therefore prefer to accommodate. Having said that I did manage a mutual handjob in the corridor to the couples room at Cupids many years ago (on an ordinary mixed night) while the recipient's wife had her fingers inside my wife.
Back to the original topic - you aren't doing too badly for bi females as, by definition, there will be one in each couple attending. When you add the single bi females to the TV/TS numbers you are almost balanced with the single bi males, which is (I assume) your aim.
That was a miracle getting away with that in Cupids as far we know Cupids DON'T even have a Bi night which tells you all you need to know about some clubs attitudes towards bisexuality. For that matter there are number of clubs in the UK who don't do Bi event's for one reason or the other.
From a personal note, the clubs we have been to that hold Bi events are not great at all and the reason like many other Bi-couple we stopped attending them and the main reason we started our Bi parties that are very well attended.
Again back to topic, yes your completely right. When you add the single Bifemales to the TV/TS numbers they almost balanced with the single Bimales numbers & exactly how we run our parties. It would Just be nice for a few more Bifemales to attend
Fwiw, my partner has played with men in quite a few swingers clubs on "normal" nights. It's not completely unheard of.
This more the exception rather than the norm in clubs & the reason so many Bi Guys in couples or singles don't play Bi in clubs or at mixed parties.
No, not completely unheard of but a very rare occurrence I am afraid.
True story - We were once playing in a club in bury at a friend's very well attended party on the orgy bed near the dark maze with another Bi couple but playing straight, as in a club and we know the score. Now we don't mind the attention from the odd single guy to a point, but... A group of around 15 or so of them is a bit much to handle & they were not taking NO for an answer!! to the point one sneakily tried to stick his cock in Mrs without asking & without a condom!! another ran from around the bed & cum in her face from no where, DEALT WITH BOTH VERY FAST & were going to leave the room when the other Bi-guy from the couple said WATCH THIS!! Suddenly he popped by cock in month started sucking away. Never seen a room empty so fast in my life!! Mrs asked a few men when leaving would you like to join in?? Think to stick it to them lol One response " I would rather slit my throat and die " Another response " Fucking disgusting " Another " Not in a million years " Nicest ones were " Not for me, No,No not my thing" which is cool and respect that. To say we would never go to that club again is an under statement to say the least.
The single guys we can handle it's the biphobic attitudes we cant stomach. We have also encountered laughing & pointing in other clubs from groups of couples. We think being high profile may not help us but we don't think we deserve that just because we are Bi. Mr has even been reported for kissing a guy in a open event tent at swingfeilds 2016 from a fair few disgusted couples!! Luckily Stuart who runs swingfeilds & Bi didn't take it very lighty at all and has now turned next year's event into a LGBT freindly event & GOOD ON HIM!!
This is just a few of our REAL experiences as a Bi couple trying to just be ourselves and enjoy our sexuality openly. Lot more people have had silmar experienced & things and the reason they attend our Bi parties so they can relax and be themselves in a safe, open environment. Clubs may make single Bi females feel safe & secure but from Bi-males or TV's point of view in a couple or single they don't feel that way at all. They feel restricting & intemataing places.
Bisexualy in females is welcomed & even expected in clubs but not form Bi-men or TV's. You got to love the double standards in what's ment to be a open and welcoming lifestyle
The club in Bury you mention does bi nights- or it used to. If the men there that night were rude that's not really the club's fault.
People have their own preferences and what they do and don't like. Bi parties sound like a great idea. At least everyone there will (should!) be happy with man on man.
The word "preferences" is used by a lot people hiding with biphodic or homophobic views.
The comments, pointing & laughing and yes,abusive we have encountered in that club & others are not preferences but pure biphodic attitudes.
People don't blink an eye at two women together but two men, we cant have that!! Until attitudes change most bi-men will never play Bi openly in clubs.
Don't get us started on Bi-nights in that club & others Been so we know!! They let anyone in without checking they are acaully Bi??? Other than VA (well done to them) Number of straight single guys pretending to be Bi at these events always amazes us & reason that lots of Bi-Couples on the whole avoid them. Happened to us a number of times in playrooms at club Bi club events the single guys & even some couple are not Bi and just trying to get there wicked way with the female of the couple and treat it like a normal club night. Seen lot of trouble happen because of this and can only think it's because clubs just want more money on the door & let anyone in and can be bothered checking they are actually Bi.
One last point on the club in bury, its well known they have trouble with single guys regularly just look at there reviews and now have employed 2 security guard in the club & changing rooms because of all the problems with single guys, so who's fault is that?? IT'S THE CLUB'S FOR ALLOWING IT & NOT STAMPING IT OUT!! "
You do realise the two security guards are dummies and it's a joke that they have 'security'. Best to check facts before you start quoting them. They are statues!!! |
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Wow, if this is true! As we have not been recently then its even more of a joke. Statues of security staff in changing rooms will not solve the issue. But the guard story did not come from the club but from a couple in another thread. |
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