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“Every man would cheat given the chance”

By *aughtySx OP TV/TS over a year ago

Wigan Bolton North West

Just saw this statement and would like to see how many people agree... Majority of men I meet aren’t single so I’d have to say the majority of men I do believe would cheat given the chance from my own personal experience

Discuss???

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By *lik and PaulCouple over a year ago

cahoots

No need to when you are a swinger

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Disagree, Fred has on a number of occasions come home early from a night out when a woman has made a pass at him as he just wants to remove himself from the situation, even though I have made it perfectly clear just how much of a turn onit is for me.

He always comes home and tells me about it, usually followed by great sex as we or I imagine what could have happened.

Ginger

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By *agneto.Man over a year ago

Bham

"Disagree, Fred has on a number of occasions come home early from a night out when a woman has made a pass at him as he just wants to remove himself from the situation, even though I have made it perfectly clear just how much of a turn onit is for me.

He always comes home and tells me about it, usually followed by great sex as we or I imagine what could have happened.

Ginger "

Yeah but what about if Fred wasn't in a swinging relationship and he wasn't able to sleep with a different woman ever again...would that result in a different outcome?

I think all men are definitely capable of cheating. I think it's hard wired to spread their seed and many men would go for it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

He always comes home and tells me about it, usually followed by great sex as we or I imagine what could have happened.

Ginger

Yeah but what about if Fred wasn't in a swinging relationship and he wasn't able to sleep with a different woman ever again...would that result in a different outcome?

I think all men are definitely capable of cheating. I think it's hard wired to spread their seed and many men would go for it. "

We were together for quite a long time before we started swinging far longer than we've been swinging for and his behaviour and attitude towards cheating hasn't changed because we swing. Swinging for us isn't exactly about having sex with others because we need but to add a different dimension, something we are unable to do with just two.

Ginger

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

He always comes home and tells me about it, usually followed by great sex as we or I imagine what could have happened.

Ginger "

Why come home, he could just say no and stay out

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

He always comes home and tells me about it, usually followed by great sex as we or I imagine what could have happened.

Ginger "
only on fab

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By *alcon43Woman over a year ago

Paisley

My Dad was faithful as was my Grandad. My Dad ended a friendship with a friend when he found out he was being used as the alibi when the so called friend was having an affair when his wife was pregnant with his third child.

This guy also tried to chat up waitresses when they were on golf outings. I guess that was both sides of the coin. The faithful and the adulterer. So no, not all men are cheats.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

He always comes home and tells me about it, usually followed by great sex as we or I imagine what could have happened.

Ginger

Why come home, he could just say no and stay out

It makes him feel uncomfortable, we live in a small place and people talk and gossip at the slightest thing so he is happier to just remove himself from the situation.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Maybe any man or woman that is not in love with their partner, maybe?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

One life live it ride like fuck

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Total rubish everyone is different and there's loose moral idiots in male and female.

My ex best friend tyres it on with my bf and he never cheated.shes a lot prettier than me and she hung her knickers on my bedroom door handle and he didn't do anything apart from tell me about all the times she had tried to tempt him into having sex with her.

There's easy men and easy women so labelling all men as cheats is total rubbish x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Total rubish everyone is different and there's loose moral idiots in male and female.

There's easy men and easy women so labelling all men as cheats is total rubbish x "
thank you .........one for the guys

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

When I'm in a relationship I never cheat? If I've got a profile on fab it means I'm single

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Not all men would cheat, there are some very faithful men in this world.

A percentage would cheat given half the chance.

Same goes for women.

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By *-and-aCouple over a year ago

Closer than you think

"Just saw this statement and would like to see how many people agree... Majority of men I meet aren’t single so I’d have to say the majority of men I do believe would cheat given the chance from my own personal experience

Discuss???"

Every cheating guy on here has a cheating woman to match! But then cheating is NOT swinging! And it’s fair we think to say women are in the whole more picky!! Shown by some of the veri’s some guys have! Literally any hole types!

So in answer majority of men NO majority of (fab) single guys on a sex website without their partners knowledge! Well yes high level of cheating there!!!

Just oho!!

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By *ady LickWoman over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

"When I'm in a relationship I never cheat? If I've got a profile on fab it means I'm single"

So you come on fab to get yourself some sex when you dont have a gf? If you met someone and started a relationship you'd forget about your fab woman?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"When I'm in a relationship I never cheat? If I've got a profile on fab it means I'm single

So you come on fab to get yourself some sex when you dont have a gf? If you met someone and started a relationship you'd forget about your fab woman?"
damn he's struck off the to do list

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By *ack with a bangCouple over a year ago

Hastings

Hubby has had women and men try it on with him whilst he been out many times but always said not interested or on several occasions has said ok but with me there Lol, one women did take him up on it and we had one of our best nights ever

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hubby has had women and men try it on with him whilst he been out many times but always said not interested or on several occasions has said ok but with me there Lol, one women did take him up on it and we had one of our best nights ever "
loving your pics especially the dirty dishes one

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No need to when you are a swinger"

Cheating isn’t necessarily just about the sex.

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By *loswingersCouple over a year ago

Gloucester

Discuss???"

Yeah I think non swinger men would , I certainly wouldn’t as I don’t need to

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Discuss???"

I guess in terms of your experiences, you would be meeting with guys actively looking for a meet (taken or otherwise)? As opposed to (I’m guessing) the majority of guys who are just going about their day to day..

In my opinion women are as likely to stray as men are :-/

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Disagree, not every man would cheat.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Absolute bollocks

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By *ames1763Man over a year ago

Aberdeen

We all have different views as regards what you class as cheating and a relationship, first point of view, am in the alternative lifestyle and I see multiple women, that is the first thing I would make clear to any lady wanting to see me.

Secondly I don't believe in the traditional relationship as it is sold , I believe it does no work.

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By *otgirl32Woman over a year ago

Ashton Under Lyne

I have a different (albeit controversial) view on cheating. I don't regard it as an evil, it's a society imposed value and a pseudo-evil.

I regard SEXUAL monogamy as unnatural while emotional monogamy is VERY natural. I haven't met a single married man who wanted to leave his wife and didn't wish he could be honest with his wife about sleeping with other women. IF extramarital sex wasn't so natural, it wouldn't happen so rampantly. Some argue that "what you can't have" is attractive so that's why everyone cheats. Stealing and getting things for free is also attractive but NOT natural so majority DON'T steal. In time society will evolve - we accept LGBT people now (though not fully). I think all marriages should be open.

Men in swinging couples don't count - they already have the appropriate openness and have no reason to be dishonest and "cheat".

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By *iguy39Man over a year ago

manchester

When I was engaged nearly 20 years I had lots of opportunity’s to cheat as it was a long distance relationship. But I never did, and I don’t think I ever would

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By *otgirl32Woman over a year ago

Ashton Under Lyne

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By *otgirl32Woman over a year ago

Ashton Under Lyne

"When I was engaged nearly 20 years I had lots of opportunity’s to cheat as it was a long distance relationship. But I never did, and I don’t think I ever would "

I'm not debating people taking a stand on principle. What I'm saying is that sexual monogamy is still unnatural and if you resisted (because of principles) power to you. Lesbian women never came out because they believed they had to follow society's rules and took that principled stand - and married men, had children etc.

But in my humble opinion, sexual monogamy is unnecessary and extramarital sex is quite normal and natural and shouldn't be penalized in a modern society. People argue that sexual affairs are destructive on a family. The affairs aren't, it's what people have to do to get the sex that's destructive - the guilt of lying, deceiving, risk of extortion etc etc.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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everything happens for a reason don't forget ,people end up in difficult situations and make decisions based on circumstance

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By *urious CathyCouple over a year ago

Wirral

I think for the OP statement to be true, the difference between monogamous relationship’s and polyamorous relationship’s needs to be defined. Swinging couples in polyamorous relationships know there own boundaries. It’s couples who don’t accept the swinging scene or polyamorous relationships as cheating. My personal view is if you need to hide it then you are cheating. Whatever the dynamics of the relationship.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I think for the OP statement to be true, the difference between monogamous relationship’s and polyamorous relationship’s needs to be defined. Swinging couples in polyamorous relationships know there own boundaries. It’s couples who don’t accept the swinging scene or polyamorous relationships as cheating. My personal view is if you need to hide it then you are cheating. Whatever the dynamics of the relationship. "
yes so a swinger say a swinging couple that meet a woman as a couple and have fun ,then the guy of the couple who does all the organising goes and meets the woman on his own without his wife's knowledge,he's cheating yes?

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By *ab_SparklesWoman over a year ago

sparkle Surprised

"When I'm in a relationship I never cheat? If I've got a profile on fab it means I'm single"

Agree with the above and if engage in a relationship I leave the swinging life style alone. Been one 10years on n off.

I think men n women who cheat like the the home life and not lonely etc,

having been cheated on all I got was you didn't pay enough attention but wasn't moaning food n cleaning done

funny I never lived with a man again 15years and still going of bliss . ..

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By *otgirl32Woman over a year ago

Ashton Under Lyne

"My personal view is if you need to hide it then you are cheating. Whatever the dynamics of the relationship. "

Agree fully - deception = cheating. My point(s) is that because of the unnecessary weight society places on sex, a natural thing as having sex prompts people to lie. Were it something like having a pint, there'd be no lying. Our society needs to evolve.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Men in swinging couples don't count - they already have the appropriate openness and have no reason to be dishonest and "cheat". "

Trust me, men in swinging relationships cheat too

I always think it is sad that their relationship is so open, yet they can't address their bi-sexuality with their wives

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I think for the OP statement to be true, the difference between monogamous relationship’s and polyamorous relationship’s needs to be defined. Swinging couples in polyamorous relationships know there own boundaries. It’s couples who don’t accept the swinging scene or polyamorous relationships as cheating. My personal view is if you need to hide it then you are cheating. Whatever the dynamics of the relationship. yes so a swinger say a swinging couple that meet a woman as a couple and have fun ,then the guy of the couple who does all the organising goes and meets the woman on his own without his wife's knowledge,he's cheating yes?

Yes he is cheating.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have a different (albeit controversial) view on cheating. I don't regard it as an evil, it's a society imposed value and a pseudo-evil.

Men in swinging couples don't count - they already have the appropriate openness and have no reason to be dishonest and "cheat". "

Tell that to the male halfs of some couples who ask to meet me in secret then. I'm sure there are many single women who will back me up on this

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have a different (albeit controversial) view on cheating. I don't regard it as an evil, it's a society imposed value and a pseudo-evil.

Men in swinging couples don't count - they already have the appropriate openness and have no reason to be dishonest and "cheat".

Tell that to the male halfs of some couples who ask to meet me in secret then. I'm sure there are many single women who will back me up on this

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can I meet you in secret

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By *ice Thick CockkMan over a year ago

Belfast

What a stupid question, yes there is men who cheat who are absolute idiots! It’s wrong in my eyes but what a stereotypical judgement! Everyone make/female are different.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have a different (albeit controversial) view on cheating. I don't regard it as an evil, it's a society imposed value and a pseudo-evil.

Men in swinging couples don't count - they already have the appropriate openness and have no reason to be dishonest and "cheat".

Tell that to the male halfs of some couples who ask to meet me in secret then. I'm sure there are many single women who will back me up on this

can I meet you in secret

Oh you!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have a different (albeit controversial) view on cheating. I don't regard it as an evil, it's a society imposed value and a pseudo-evil.

Men in swinging couples don't count - they already have the appropriate openness and have no reason to be dishonest and "cheat".

Tell that to the male halfs of some couples who ask to meet me in secret then. I'm sure there are many single women who will back me up on this

can I meet you in secret

Oh you!

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don't tell anyone ok x

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By *itch and TwatCouple over a year ago

Nr Rushden Lakes

"I have a different (albeit controversial) view on cheating. I don't regard it as an evil, it's a society imposed value and a pseudo-evil.

Men in swinging couples don't count - they already have the appropriate openness and have no reason to be dishonest and "cheat".

Tell that to the male halfs of some couples who ask to meet me in secret then. I'm sure there are many single women who will back me up on this

can I meet you in secret

Oh you!

don't tell anyone ok x

Can we watch (secretly)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Totally agree with you

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Simply put, in general, no. Swinging or not, everyone is different.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Discuss???"

Yes absolutely true

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No need to when you are a swinger"

True too

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

What men tell women and what is the truth are 2 different things!

Went on a stag do once and out of 45 on the coach only 1 guy hadn't cheated, that's just the way it is

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By *eviantdeliteWoman over a year ago

Cheltenham

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By *egasus NobMan over a year ago

Wandsworth

Given the chances, a huge number of men will, if there is a continuous time after time temptation. even if it was one time seen it too often.

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By *otgirl32Woman over a year ago

Ashton Under Lyne

Yes some of you pointed out male halves of swinging couples wanting to play "in secret". Yes I have experienced that too.

I didn't imply every swinging couple had reached some sort of utopia and were able to be totally honest with each other. Deception doesn't hold back on any boundaries. But if you look at the % of men who are attached and cheat - that's VERY high. On the other hand if you look at the % of men who are attached AND are in a swinging couple - quite small.

I guesstimate that the number of married or attached men who write to me for sex is at least 10-fold the number of married swinging men who wish to play away IN SECRET (I've met many swinging men who's other halves were quite happy for them to play with me)

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By *gnitemybodyWoman over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"Disagree, not every man would cheat."

That's comforting to hear

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By *urvymamaWoman over a year ago

Doncaster

"I have a different (albeit controversial) view on cheating. I don't regard it as an evil, it's a society imposed value and a pseudo-evil.

Men in swinging couples don't count - they already have the appropriate openness and have no reason to be dishonest and "cheat".

Tell that to the male halfs of some couples who ask to meet me in secret then. I'm sure there are many single women who will back me up on this

Yes happens a hell of a lot

Usually the couples that overly profess joe loyal they are to each other are the worst for it

It’s the old “he doth protest too much” expression

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By *hubaysiWoman over a year ago

Leeds

"No need to when you are a swinger"

So is swinging an agreement to be unfaithful so the man is cheating with consent?

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By *ynecplCouple over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Totally disagree. For the first 20 years of our marriage I either worked away or went away on business and never once thought about cheating.

We only started swinging after I got a job which meant I was home permanently. It has to be down to individual character on all people who cheat.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

In my extensive experience as both married and single, yes, I would agree. Lots of women would too of course, which goes to show how difficult/unrealistic monogamy is as a lifestyle choice

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Depends on your personal definition of cheating.

Cheating and sleeping with other people are not necessarily the same thing.

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By *iversong321Woman over a year ago

Preston/Merseyside

"I have a different (albeit controversial) view on cheating. I don't regard it as an evil, it's a society imposed value and a pseudo-evil.

Men in swinging couples don't count - they already have the appropriate openness and have no reason to be dishonest and "cheat".

Tell that to the male halfs of some couples who ask to meet me in secret then. I'm sure there are many single women who will back me up on this

Hell yeh! Those so called 'perfect' swinging relationships that the wife is oblivious to the hubby doing the dirty behind their back (and sometimes the wife too). If their relationship is that open and honest why cheat??

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By *igblackdomTV/TS over a year ago

West Midlands

Discuss???"

I think your experiences are skewing your view of reality.

The majority of men you meet aren't single? I think all that proves is the majority of men you meet are cheaters. The attached non-cheaters you'll have no experience of.

I guess it's like owning a pie shop and saying most men are overweight because your male customers are fat!

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By *itch and TwatCouple over a year ago

Nr Rushden Lakes

I think your experiences are skewing your view of reality.

The majority of men you meet aren't single? I think all that proves is the majority of men you meet are cheaters. The attached non-cheaters you'll have no experience of.

I guess it's like owning a pie shop and saying most men are overweight because your male customers are fat!

Well spotted my friend...!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

He always comes home and tells me about it, usually followed by great sex as we or I imagine what could have happened.

Ginger

Yeah but what about if Fred wasn't in a swinging relationship and he wasn't able to sleep with a different woman ever again...would that result in a different outcome?

I think all men are definitely capable of cheating. I think it's hard wired to spread their seed and many men would go for it. "

Well we went 25 years together without me cheating, before we were swingers, so I don't agree with any of this. Even as swingers now, we don't play separately and neither of us would dream of going behind the others back to play away.

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By *egin551Couple over a year ago

south west !

I've never cheated on my wife, never thought of it.

She's my best friend, lover and my wife.

I ask myself this, what would I gain out of it, the answer is nothing, I have everything with my wife, it's that simple

And I know many of my vanilla and lifestyle friends have the same feelings for their partners.

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By *rMrs CumalotCouple over a year ago

East Mids

I can say from previous relationships not in the swinging world 3 out of 4 past partners have cheated.

But I think it all depends on that person and their personality I don’t think it’s as cut and dry as they all would if they had the chance ...

Mrs C

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By *rryTMan over a year ago

Nottingham

No, definitely not

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Mr has never and never will.

Mrs has in previous relationships.

That's debunked that theory.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If a bloke is bang in love with his wife /partner /girlfriend . As in worships every step and breath she takes highly unlikely he will cheat .......

If they argue a lot . Do there own stuff . Perhaps accuse of cheating when there not and just generally not getting on then the odds change dramatically ..

Bit then bear in mind to cheat a man needs a woman . Now if we struggle to get one on here you can imagine how hard it is in the real world ...

But in answer to the question .in the real world ..on a plate ...staring you in the face ...I'd say it's 50/50...half would cheat half wouldn't ...probably because a one off and certain they won't be caught .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Some guys yes

All guys no

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By *ames1763Man over a year ago

Aberdeen

People always avoid the truth, the truth is monagamy is not a natural state of mind to anyone especially men. If monogamous relationships were natural then people will not be so worried about their partners cheating. That said, I am not in support of irresponsible polyamory.

I will always tell the ladies from the start that I am not interested in any monogamous relationship.

Most of my friends in this lifestyle do the same, we are not interested in any monogamous relationship. It does not work.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Please note the question is nothing to do with male swingers or men on this site cheating .

The question is ??

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By *carlettxWoman over a year ago

Essex

He always comes home and tells me about it, usually followed by great sex as we or I imagine what could have happened.

Ginger

Yeah but what about if Fred wasn't in a swinging relationship and he wasn't able to sleep with a different woman ever again...would that result in a different outcome?

I think all men are definitely capable of cheating. I think it's hard wired to spread their seed and many men would go for it.

Agree with this .. comes down to respect

Doesn’t matter if monogamous or swinging , trust , honesty and loyalty is paramount

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have a different (albeit controversial) view on cheating. I don't regard it as an evil, it's a society imposed value and a pseudo-evil.

Men in swinging couples don't count - they already have the appropriate openness and have no reason to be dishonest and "cheat".

Tell that to the male halfs of some couples who ask to meet me in secret then. I'm sure there are many single women who will back me up on this

Probably because it's exciting and naughty. I don't think I would get much out of having to ask permission to have sex with someone else!

Don't forget some (not all) of these couples seek the thrill, push boundaries. Some may not know where to draw the line? Looking for the next thrill.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think each and every one of us has the capacity to be duplicitous - regardless of gender or sexual orientation. A very small percentage of us resist that temptation if the consequences of that temptation are catastrophic, and all too many of us don't even try and resist! It would be easy to play the "all men are cheating bastards" card but it's simply not true - there are a few good ones, it's just damn hard to find them

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's pretty much a yes or no answer ...

And it's not about men on this site or swingers

The question is ?

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple over a year ago

Halifax

No i disagree,

Some will cheat no matter how good they have it and others would never cheat no matter how tough it gets.

Men are not all the same...

Miss

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have a different (albeit controversial) view on cheating. I don't regard it as an evil, it's a society imposed value and a pseudo-evil.

Men in swinging couples don't count - they already have the appropriate openness and have no reason to be dishonest and "cheat".

Tell that to the male halfs of some couples who ask to meet me in secret then. I'm sure there are many single women who will back me up on this

This often happens to single women, more than some people realise.

Swinging does not prevent cheating, yes it may minimise the risk of one partner cheating, but the risk is still there.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have a different (albeit controversial) view on cheating. I don't regard it as an evil, it's a society imposed value and a pseudo-evil.

Men in swinging couples don't count - they already have the appropriate openness and have no reason to be dishonest and "cheat". "

Maybe some day in the distant future, restricting or controlling someone's sexual urges will be tantamount to abuse.

We've got a long way to go though.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Men in swinging couples don't count - they already have the appropriate openness and have no reason to be dishonest and "cheat".

Tell that to the male halfs of some couples who ask to meet me in secret then. I'm sure there are many single women who will back me up on this

This often happens to single women, more than some people realise.

Swinging does not prevent cheating, yes it may minimise the risk of one partner cheating, but the risk is still there."

I've been approached by the female half of couples after an initial meet behind their partners back on a number of occasions.

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By *londieddWoman over a year ago

fife

He always comes home and tells me about it, usually followed by great sex as we or I imagine what could have happened.

Ginger

Why come home, he could just say no and stay out

It makes him feel uncomfortable, we live in a small place and people talk and gossip at the slightest thing so he is happier to just remove himself from the situation."

most unusual that a swinger would be uncomfortable enough by someone making a pass at them that they would leave a night out early and go home!

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

He always comes home and tells me about it, usually followed by great sex as we or I imagine what could have happened.

Ginger

Why come home, he could just say no and stay out

It makes him feel uncomfortable, we live in a small place and people talk and gossip at the slightest thing so he is happier to just remove himself from the situation.

most unusual that a swinger would be uncomfortable enough by someone making a pass at them that they would leave a night out early and go home!"

Why? I felt uncomfortable enough at a swingers party when someone made a pass at me to leave.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

He always comes home and tells me about it, usually followed by great sex as we or I imagine what could have happened.

Ginger

Why come home, he could just say no and stay out

It makes him feel uncomfortable, we live in a small place and people talk and gossip at the slightest thing so he is happier to just remove himself from the situation.

most unusual that a swinger would be uncomfortable enough by someone making a pass at them that they would leave a night out early and go home!"
stranger things have happened ask Rhoald Dahl

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By *hubaysiWoman over a year ago

Leeds

"I have a different (albeit controversial) view on cheating. I don't regard it as an evil, it's a society imposed value and a pseudo-evil.

Men in swinging couples don't count - they already have the appropriate openness and have no reason to be dishonest and "cheat".

Tell that to the male halfs of some couples who ask to meet me in secret then. I'm sure there are many single women who will back me up on this

Yes I can back you up on this. Many years ago pre Fab days I met a fantastic couple who I had many fantastic experiences with. The Husband very seriously tried to get me to meet him alone without his lovely wife. I politely refused as I told him it wasn’t fair to his wife and I wasn’t ‘involved’ purely for him. He persisted with asking me to meet so I took a step back and wished them well. Strangely enough I received a message from him last month so I definitely left an impact! He was clearly a cheater in a swinging lifestyle!

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By *londieddWoman over a year ago

fife

He always comes home and tells me about it, usually followed by great sex as we or I imagine what could have happened.

Ginger

Why come home, he could just say no and stay out

It makes him feel uncomfortable, we live in a small place and people talk and gossip at the slightest thing so he is happier to just remove himself from the situation.

most unusual that a swinger would be uncomfortable enough by someone making a pass at them that they would leave a night out early and go home!

Why? I felt uncomfortable enough at a swingers party when someone made a pass at me to leave."

so you felt that saying no thank you, you're not for me was not enough?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If he was with a girl who he thought was the hottest, most amazing girl in the world then no. But if he was in a boring relationship and the passion had dried up, then probably. Depends on his conscience

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

He always comes home and tells me about it, usually followed by great sex as we or I imagine what could have happened.

Ginger

Why come home, he could just say no and stay out

It makes him feel uncomfortable, we live in a small place and people talk and gossip at the slightest thing so he is happier to just remove himself from the situation.

most unusual that a swinger would be uncomfortable enough by someone making a pass at them that they would leave a night out early and go home!"

We aren't just swingers though are we? He's a Husband and a Father too and these elements of him take priority over any sexual labels. We aren't prolific swingers we just go to a club as and when we feel like it and time permits the last time being nearly two years ago.

Ginger

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

He always comes home and tells me about it, usually followed by great sex as we or I imagine what could have happened.

Ginger

Why come home, he could just say no and stay out

It makes him feel uncomfortable, we live in a small place and people talk and gossip at the slightest thing so he is happier to just remove himself from the situation.

most unusual that a swinger would be uncomfortable enough by someone making a pass at them that they would leave a night out early and go home!

Why? I felt uncomfortable enough at a swingers party when someone made a pass at me to leave.

so you felt that saying no thank you, you're not for me was not enough?"

Yes, because it clearly wasn't.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I wouldn't ever consider cheating, far too much to lose, and besides, I have what I consider the best relationship in my entire life, so why would I endanger that.

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By *teveanddebsCouple over a year ago

Norwich

"No i disagree,

Some will cheat no matter how good they have it and others would never cheat no matter how tough it gets.

Men are not all the same...

Miss"

This.

It's about integrity not opportunity.

Saying that ANY man would happily cheat given any encouragement as some sort of Pavlovian response is actually quite offensive.

Some probably would, as would some women and the number of men that would is probably higher but for a lot of people, male and female, it's just something we wouldn't do.

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By *igblackdomTV/TS over a year ago

West Midlands

"No i disagree,

Some will cheat no matter how good they have it and others would never cheat no matter how tough it gets.

Men are not all the same...

Miss

This.

It's about integrity not opportunity.

Saying that ANY man would happily cheat given any encouragement as some sort of Pavlovian response is actually quite offensive.

Some probably would, as would some women and the number of men that would is probably higher but for a lot of people, male and female, it's just something we wouldn't do."

Think it was Chris Rock who said 'men are only as faithful as their options', a rather damning assessment of his brethren!

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

"No i disagree,

Some will cheat no matter how good they have it and others would never cheat no matter how tough it gets.

Men are not all the same...

Miss

This.

It's about integrity not opportunity.

Saying that ANY man would happily cheat given any encouragement as some sort of Pavlovian response is actually quite offensive.

Some probably would, as would some women and the number of men that would is probably higher but for a lot of people, male and female, it's just something we wouldn't do.

Think it was Chris Rock who said 'men are only as faithful as their options', a rather damning assessment of his brethren!

I think people tend to assess others based on their own actions and those of their peer group.

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By *blasiansCouple over a year ago

Wakefield

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By *blasiansCouple over a year ago

Wakefield

I think people tend to assess others based on their own actions and those of their peer group.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’m inclined to believe that basic animal

Instinct can give all humans the urge to want to have sex with numerous people.

I also believe that most of us are evolved enough that if we want to..can and do chose not to be a cheater....so in short know I don’t believe that all men would cheat.

MrsK xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Just because I could, it's never meant that I automatically would. It's startling how many women and couples (and the odd fab-straight fella) assume that it's a given that I will just put out. And my capacity to say no thank you has lead to a bruised ego or two.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"No i disagree,

Some will cheat no matter how good they have it and others would never cheat no matter how tough it gets.

Men are not all the same...

Miss"

I like that!

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By *evaquitCouple over a year ago

Catthorpe

Well 20 years later and still a clean record, so I disagree. There would be a definitive split before any thoughts of going elsewhere. In the meantime I like it just where I am.

Nicecouple.

We know how uncomfortable that situation is when someone invades your relationship like that. We we're on a meet when mid break one of the guys cornered Mrs in the stairwell, trying it on, very uncomfortable and both not pleased.

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

"Well 20 years later and still a clean record, so I disagree. There would be a definitive split before any thoughts of going elsewhere. In the meantime I like it just where I am.

Nicecouple.

Yeah swingers don't always take no for an answer. I (female half) had to punch him.

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By *evaquitCouple over a year ago

Catthorpe

"Well 20 years later and still a clean record, so I disagree. There would be a definitive split before any thoughts of going elsewhere. In the meantime I like it just where I am.

Nicecouple.

Yeah swingers don't always take no for an answer. I (female half) had to punch him."

The lifestyle isn't always roses, hope you didn't hurt your hand

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

"Well 20 years later and still a clean record, so I disagree. There would be a definitive split before any thoughts of going elsewhere. In the meantime I like it just where I am.

Nicecouple.

Yeah swingers don't always take no for an answer. I (female half) had to punch him.

The lifestyle isn't always roses, hope you didn't hurt your hand

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Anyone on this site would cheat in the right circumstances. We are here because we enjoy sex. If we can't enjoy it anymore with our regular preferred partner, who can put their hand on their heart and say 'ok, I'll just give up sex for the rest of my life..'

Load of bollocks..

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

"Anyone on this site would cheat in the right circumstances. We are here because we enjoy sex. If we can't enjoy it anymore with our regular preferred partner, who can put their hand on their heart and say 'ok, I'll just give up sex for the rest of my life..'

Load of bollocks..

Cheating or giving up sex aren't the only options in that case.

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By *alandNitaCouple over a year ago

Scunthorpe

To me, the whole concept that everyone is the same is just bizarre.

I've played in bands for a huge part of my life and there's alwa y oportunities. I have no interest in cheating.

Cal

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Course they would....and any man that says the wouldn't are either looking to impress or have cheated.

Cue a load of men saying this is bollox...

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By *igblackdomTV/TS over a year ago

West Midlands

"Course they would....and any man that says the wouldn't are either looking to impress or have cheated.

Cue a load of men saying this is bollox..."

What's bollocks is your belief you speak for 'any man'.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Well 20 years later and still a clean record, so I disagree. There would be a definitive split before any thoughts of going elsewhere. In the meantime I like it just where I am.

Nicecouple.

Yeah swingers don't always take no for an answer. I (female half) had to punch him."

violence should never have to be used

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By *gnitemybodyWoman over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"Course they would....and any man that says the wouldn't are either looking to impress or have cheated.

Cue a load of men saying this is bollox...

What's bollocks is your belief you speak for 'any man'."

He's the leader of all men,what he says is fact...Apparently

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By *carlettxWoman over a year ago

Essex

"Course they would....and any man that says the wouldn't are either looking to impress or have cheated.

Cue a load of men saying this is bollox..."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Course they would....and any man that says the wouldn't are either looking to impress or have cheated.

Cue a load of men saying this is bollox..."

*bollocks. If you're going to try to speak for all of us, at do it speak properly

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By *igblackdomTV/TS over a year ago

West Midlands

"Course they would....and any man that says the wouldn't are either looking to impress or have cheated.

Cue a load of men saying this is bollox...

What's bollocks is your belief you speak for 'any man'.

He's the leader of all men,what he says is fact...Apparently

Indeed Ms Ignitemybody, it appears the emperor has a new style in clothes

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yaaay...here they come...defenders of the white lies

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

"Well 20 years later and still a clean record, so I disagree. There would be a definitive split before any thoughts of going elsewhere. In the meantime I like it just where I am.

Nicecouple.

Yeah swingers don't always take no for an answer. I (female half) had to punch him.

violence should never have to be used"

I agree. I doubt it made much impact apart from stopping him putting his hand up my skirt.

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By *acavityMan over a year ago

Redditch

I disagree.

I know many happily monogamous faithful men.

To be fair, also many cheating male sluts.

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By *agneto.Man over a year ago

Bham

"I’m inclined to believe that basic animal

Instinct can give all humans the urge to want to have sex with numerous people.

I also believe that most of us are evolved enough that if we want to..can and do chose not to be a cheater....so in short know I don’t believe that all men would cheat.

MrsK xx"

Yes I agree with this, that's why lots of mistakes happen when people are d*unk, as their brain is impaired and they're working with their primal brain.

I think it's in every bloke though, some suppress the urge better than others.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I agree men are the pits

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Men don't cheat. Boys do

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Men don't cheat. Boys do

Oh dear

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

He always comes home and tells me about it, usually followed by great sex as we or I imagine what could have happened.

Ginger

Yeah but what about if Fred wasn't in a swinging relationship and he wasn't able to sleep with a different woman ever again...would that result in a different outcome?

I think all men are definitely capable of cheating. I think it's hard wired to spread their seed and many men would go for it. "

Everyone is 'capable' male or female, whether they do or not is a choice they make. There are hundreds of married ladies on here who are cheating behind their hubbies backs. I don't think in this more liberal world that is any more a male or female thing. Woman's lib changed a perception and provided an outlet that reduced the stigmas. They are still there amongst certain parts of society, but it changed it and that change has escalated in recent years.

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By *aughtySx OP TV/TS over a year ago

Wigan Bolton North West

"Men don't cheat. Boys do

Oh dear

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By *ames1763Man over a year ago

Aberdeen

After some thought and seeing how some guys behave, I guess I can understand why most women are so afraid of guys cheating.

If some guys are so indiscipline that they will happily fuck ladies they are seeing other than the wife without a condom then the family wealth is at stake and that I don't support.

That said, I still don't agree with the way most ladies have it set up where they can bang as many men as they wish and the man cannot bang another woman.

It will be nice if a lady who speaks the truth can enlighten us, why are some women so worried about their partners banging another woman.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Men don't cheat. Boys do

Oh dear

Dont think ive ever been called a 'dear' before... Thats a first

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Course they would....and any man that says the wouldn't are either looking to impress or have cheated.

Cue a load of men saying this is bollox..."

Or being honest and others who wouldnt/couldn'tccan'tbbelieve that there are some of us who haven't and didn't while married.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Course they would....and any man that says the wouldn't are either looking to impress or have cheated.

Cue a load of men saying this is bollox..."

Oh dear...

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
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East Sussex

"After some thought and seeing how some guys behave, I guess I can understand why most women are so afraid of guys cheating.

If some guys are so indiscipline that they will happily fuck ladies they are seeing other than the wife without a condom then the family wealth is at stake and that I don't support.

That said, I still don't agree with the way most ladies have it set up where they can bang as many men as they wish and the man cannot bang another woman.

It will be nice if a lady who speaks the truth can enlighten us, why are some women so worried about their partners banging another woman."

Is this without their knowledge?

I suspect there are many reasons that range from having agreed to a monogamous relationship with someone they love to extra marital sex being a threat to their family with many variants in between.

Not all women are worried about their partners "banging" other women though.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Men don't cheat. Boys do

Errrr....I think you’ll find men do otherwise at least 1/2 of my meets haven’t existed...!

Don’t think we can count the under 18’s (as in ‘boys’ ) in this poll...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Don’t believe every man would nor every women ~ it’s the person not the gender that makes the decision.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Men don't cheat. Boys do

Errrr....I think you’ll find men do otherwise at least 1/2 of my meets haven’t existed...!

Don’t think we can count the under 18’s (as in ‘boys’ ) in this poll...

Yeah thats not what i was going for to be fair... It was more of a metaphor

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By *ames1763Man over a year ago

Aberdeen

With or without their knowledge.

Yeah I know not all women are worried that is why I said some.

In terms of agreeing to a monogamous relationship, that cannot be the main reason as these ladies who are so worried bang other guys.

I believe Ego has blinded so many guys to the extent that they don't realise that women cheat much more than guys.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"With or without their knowledge.

Yeah I know not all women are worried that is why I said some.

In terms of agreeing to a monogamous relationship, that cannot be the main reason as these ladies who are so worried bang other guys.

I believe Ego has blinded so many guys to the extent that they don't realise that women cheat much more than guys."

How have you reached that conclusion?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"With or without their knowledge.

Yeah I know not all women are worried that is why I said some.

In terms of agreeing to a monogamous relationship, that cannot be the main reason as these ladies who are so worried bang other guys.

I believe Ego has blinded so many guys to the extent that they don't realise that women cheat much more than guys."

Yeah, that old ego thang

Soooo many men suffer from it dont they?

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

"With or without their knowledge.

Yeah I know not all women are worried that is why I said some.

In terms of agreeing to a monogamous relationship, that cannot be the main reason as these ladies who are so worried bang other guys.

I believe Ego has blinded so many guys to the extent that they don't realise that women cheat much more than guys."

Possibly. I don't have access to statistics to know who cheats more than who. I'd say nowadays its about even.

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By *ames1763Man over a year ago

Aberdeen

From analysis of my meets and my friends meets , obviously we know these are cheating women but we guess the guys should consider themselves lucky that we are very disciplined and will not bang these women without a condom niether will we go into any serious relationship with them .

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By *otSoNewWalesCoupleCouple over a year ago

South Wales

Disagree. And would also ask why the question is limited to men?

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

"From analysis of my meets and my friends meets , obviously we know these are cheating women but we guess the guys should consider themselves lucky that we are very disciplined and will not bang these women without a condom niether will we go into any serious relationship with them ."

I understand your thoughts. I don't agree with them but I can see the reasoning behind them.

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By *orksCouple25Couple over a year ago

Leeds

It makes me laugh when women posting on threads such as this say stuff like ‘my other half wouldnt cheat’ or ‘has never cheated ‘ etc.

One that is a mathematical certainty is you don’t know that for sure unless you have been handcuffed to him 24hrs a day since the moment you met him !

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"After some thought and seeing how some guys behave, I guess I can understand why most women are so afraid of guys cheating.

If some guys are so indiscipline that they will happily fuck ladies they are seeing other than the wife without a condom then the family wealth is at stake and that I don't support.

That said, I still don't agree with the way most ladies have it set up where they can bang as many men as they wish and the man cannot bang another woman.

It will be nice if a lady who speaks the truth can enlighten us, why are some women so worried about their partners banging another woman."

My husband fucked other women but didn't want me fucking other men. He went to a great deal of trouble to try to catch me out. He never did, because I didn't cheat on him. Was I worried? No, but he was.

You do realise though that some people expect their spouse to be monogamous. Or their partners even.

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By *ames1763Man over a year ago

Aberdeen

Lol people who say things like they know their guy or woman has never cheated know they are deceiving themselves not us but I guess it makes them feel better

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By *igblackdomTV/TS over a year ago

West Midlands

"Yaaay...here they come...defenders of the white lies"

..but how do you know every man would cheat given the opportunity?

You can only speak from your own moral compass.

Ive cheated, been cheated on and now in later life wouldn't go there, albeit I'm single ATM so it would be difficult!.

I'm not a saint, or trying to curry favour with women here, but cheating demeans me, it's the ultimate lie you can tell yourself, let alone anyone you're attached to.

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

"Lol people who say things like they know their guy or woman has never cheated know they are deceiving themselves not us but I guess it makes them feel better"

You can't possibly know this.

Don't you think its a good thing that some people have such good, honest relationships and know their partner well enough to say this?

It's ok for you to believe that your own relationships are based on the assumption that your partner will cheat but not ok to imply that people who don't think that way are deluded.

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By *ames1763Man over a year ago

Aberdeen

I can understand that some people expect monogamous relationships although I don't agree with it.

I don't have a problem with a man fucking other ladies apart from his partner as long as he is disciplined and wears a condom always and is careful that his actions don't impact his family.

If it's just fun that is fine but if he can't discipline himself with multiple ladies then don't do it, that said, I believe women cheat much more than guys.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Discuss???

Yeah I think non swinger men would , I certainly wouldn’t as I don’t need to

Swinging men cheat too.

I've been approached a few times by the male of a couple wanting to meet without the Mrs knowing. Just saying, it happens when people swing too

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This label will never change men will always be accused of this. I've been on many nights out over the years and had women come onto me from my own age to older women.

and all say I'm in a relationship but I'm not from around here so it doesn't matter... what they don't know won't hurt them. And still men are the only ones who get labeled it's mad

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

"This label will never change men will always be accused of this. I've been on many nights out over the years and had women come onto me from my own age to older women.

and all say I'm in a relationship but I'm not from around here so it doesn't matter... what they don't know won't hurt them. And still men are the only ones who get labeled it's mad "

I don't know why that is. Maybe women keep it quiet?

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By *ames1763Man over a year ago

Aberdeen

I don't deceive myself and I never speak for other people just myself. To say things like you know a partner has never cheated tantamounts to deiceiving yourself. The ideal word is you hope your partner has never cheated.

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

"I don't deceive myself and I never speak for other people just myself. To say things like you know a partner has never cheated tantamounts to deiceiving yourself. The ideal word is you hope your partner has never cheated."

I didn't say you deceive yourself. You are saying what you think other people should say which is tantamount to speaking for them.

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By *ames1763Man over a year ago

Aberdeen

Women cheat much more than men , guys are just blinded by Ego and that's all it is. if the guys in the lifestyle with big cocks told you how many cheating women they fuck you will be amazed.

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By *ames1763Man over a year ago

Aberdeen

I am saying what I think is ideal , there are no absolutes in this world, nothing is impossible.

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

"I am saying what I think is ideal , there are no absolutes in this world, nothing is impossible."

Well you've just confused me now because I thought you were saying that it's impossible for anyone to know their partner hasn't cheated.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Women cheat much more than men , guys are just blinded by Ego and that's all it is. if the guys in the lifestyle with big cocks told you how many cheating women they fuck you will be amazed."

How do you know who cheats more?

I know many more men who have cheated than women. Women might just be better at not getting caught and keeping quiet about it. But, no one knows actual numbers.

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By *ames1763Man over a year ago

Aberdeen

Women are very smart and very slick , much smarter than men when it comes cheating so I believe women cheat more, the fact that women monitor their partners about cheating does not mean they are not cheating themselves.

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By *illy_the_tvTV/TS over a year ago

hoorn, Netherlands

Complete bullshit, having been cheated on myself I would never put someone else through that. In my experience I know an awful lot of women who have cheated and next to no men

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Men don't cheat. Boys do

Errrr....I think you’ll find men do otherwise at least 1/2 of my meets haven’t existed...!

Don’t think we can count the under 18’s (as in ‘boys’ ) in this poll...

Yeah thats not what i was going for to be fair... It was more of a metaphor

Again!!! Just be honest...this is the problem honesty, you were looking to put yourself in a favourable light that depicts young silly men as cheats and wise old men as non cheats, thereby hoping to come across as a wise old loyal man...

I'm honest...I'm animalistic...I can HONESTLY say I wouldn't know what I'd do in any given situation, I've never had a script, therefore I've lived, I've cheated, I've been lied to, I've been cheated on... Life will always throw these curve balls..

I just hate it when people try assume a moral high ground.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Don’t believe every man would nor every women ~ it’s the person not the gender that makes the decision."

Bang on.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Women cheat much more than men , guys are just blinded by Ego and that's all it is. if the guys in the lifestyle with big cocks told you how many cheating women they fuck you will be amazed.

How do you know who cheats more?

I know many more men who have cheated than women. Women might just be better at not getting caught and keeping quiet about it. But, no one knows actual numbers."

Thinking just of the couples that I have personally known over the years, there's very little in it between which cheats more.

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By *DSM - CUCKOLD - COUPLECouple over a year ago

manchester

I suppose when you find the right partner you never need to ever again. I've cheated in a few previous relationships probably because of my own insecurities or whatever or maybe I just liked the attention but I can honestly say in my current relationship (11 years) I find her hotter than ever and have shared and done all my sexual fantasys. If another girl was interested I'd simply take her home for both of us lol. And if she wanted to fuck another guy she would tell me.. That's the point of being in a cuckold relationship cat. At the end of the day it's about communicating with each other (male half)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

when ive been in love with a man theres no way ide want to cheat on him , just doesn't enter my head

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By *alandNitaCouple over a year ago

Scunthorpe

“Every man would cheat given the chance"

Of course not... All men re individuals. Some will some won't.

The same applies to women.

Nita

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By *yldstyleWoman over a year ago

A world of my own

I haven't read all the comments so forgive me if this has already been said.

I know many people, men and women who do or have cheated on their partners. For some it probably actually keeps the relationship together. For others its a thrill. For some it's complicated. That statement doesn't just apply to men. Women do it too. If it was completely risk free I imagine it would likely become the norm rather than the exception

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By *hubaysiWoman over a year ago

Leeds

"I suppose when you find the right partner you never need to ever again. I've cheated in a few previous relationships probably because of my own insecurities or whatever or maybe I just liked the attention but I can honestly say in my current relationship (11 years) I find her hotter than ever and have shared and done all my sexual fantasys. If another girl was interested I'd simply take her home for both of us lol. And if she wanted to fuck another guy she would tell me.. That's the point of being in a cuckold relationship cat. At the end of the day it's about communicating with each other (male half) "

‘I’d simply take her home for both of us’ like she is a pizza treat that you have picked up at the local takeaway!!!!

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By *host63Man over a year ago

Bedfont Feltham

Discuss???"

Well I must be a rare bird. I have never cheated on a partner Although I am into the swinging scene I never played in the scene when I was in a vanilla relationship.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Women cheat much more than men , guys are just blinded by Ego and that's all it is. if the guys in the lifestyle with big cocks told you how many cheating women they fuck you will be amazed.

How do you know who cheats more?

I know many more men who have cheated than women. Women might just be better at not getting caught and keeping quiet about it. But, no one knows actual numbers.

Thinking just of the couples that I have personally known over the years, there's very little in it between which cheats more. "

It all depends on your circle of friends and acquaintences. My ex and all his brothers cheated on their partners. As far as I'm aware his sisters and sister in laws haven't cheated. I know a lot of his male friends who cheated too. We rarely hear of women cheating. Maybe they are better at it.

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By *ames1763Man over a year ago

Aberdeen

Well,I have done a lot of traveling and I can tell you am not interested in monogamous relationships.

For me I am not willing to be unhappy or sneak around , that is why am up front with the ladies and I don't lie to them or myself. I tell them how I operate and let them choose if they want to be with me or not.

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By *DSM - CUCKOLD - COUPLECouple over a year ago

manchester

‘I’d simply take her home for both of us’ like she is a pizza treat that you have picked up at the local takeaway!!!!

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well more of a garlic bread but you get the original idea

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I doubt it "every guy " but most PEOPLE in a non swinging relationship have at least thought about it.

Monogamy is outdated.

I think I'd be jealous of my partner fucking someone else - but I'd rather know about it.

I'd like to try a swinging relationship.

The majority of men that message me are attatched.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Maybe they call it swinging without permission..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Maybe they call it swinging without permission.."

Without consent would be a better description, I think.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

id imagine most guys on sites like this would cheat.

however most men are not on sites like this si id imagine its impossible to say

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By *hubaysiWoman over a year ago

Leeds

‘I’d simply take her home for both of us’ like she is a pizza treat that you have picked up at the local takeaway!!!!

well more of a garlic bread but you get the original idea"

Yep I get the idea !

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No i disagree,

Some will cheat no matter how good they have it and others would never cheat no matter how tough it gets.

Men are not all the same...

Miss"

Bingo!

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By *osweet69Couple over a year ago

portsmouth

Discuss???"
No not true, male half here,I have had the opportunely to cheat without been caught when i was younger and working away from home. I did not take it then and would not take it now if the opportunely rose. I would not like it to be done to me so why would i do it to someone I love.It is the deception side of cheating that really hurts not the physical part.And yes i did tell my wife all about it when i got home.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Discuss???No not true, male half here,I have had the opportunely to cheat without been caught when i was younger and working away from home. I did not take it then and would not take it now if the opportunely rose. I would not like it to be done to me so why would i do it to someone I love.It is the deception side of cheating that really hurts not the physical part.And yes i did tell my wife all about it when i got home.

Sounds almost like a confession there Jim

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

All men are tarts let's face it

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By *ilmissplumpyWoman over a year ago

Wolverhampton

"No need to when you are a swinger"

They still do it though. For some men/women it's the subterfuge of the chase that is a big turn on....

From my own personal experience i speak

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No need to when you are a swinger

They still do it though. For some men/women it's the subterfuge of the chase that is a big turn on....

From my own personal experience i speak"
you were a couple on here then ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No need to when you are a swinger

They still do it though. For some men/women it's the subterfuge of the chase that is a big turn on....

From my own personal experience i speak"
ahh you are a couple but hubby cheated so you're in driving seat now

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