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Ever turnd up to a meet and the other person/people havent
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes a few times and not just on here also had it for dating.
One I particularly remember is going to my local costa to meet a 20 year old woman and I ended up just with a pot of tea and cake instead of getting to know her. |
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"Yes a few times and not just on here also had it for dating.
One I particularly remember is going to my local costa to meet a 20 year old woman and I ended up just with a pot of tea and cake instead of getting to know her."
Least you had tea and cake. It’s horrible when I go to the effort of dressing (like my pics) to be sat waiting for some guy that hasn’t the courtesy to let us know he’s bottked it. |
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Least you had tea and cake. It’s horrible when I go to the effort of dressing (like my pics) to be sat waiting for some guy that hasn’t the courtesy to let us know he’s bottked it. "
...and very nice pics they are! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We had a 'no show' very recently. It was just for a drink and chat not a play meet. He simply didn't turn up, no messege beforehand to say he wasn't coming. He messeged many hours later giving an excuse however i don't understand why he didn't have a couple of minutes to send me a messege cancelling, i wouldn't be so miffed then. |
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Once, invited to a party, turned up to the address at the time given. Nobody answered the door.
That was a couple with lots of Veris.
Couple of times, had ladies arrange meets and then disappear. But as I was host, I just sat at home, so not so bad. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Had a few meets now where I've turned up and the others haven't has this happend to anybody else "
oh yes .....many.....you learn to tighten the odds but some still slip through  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Meeting at a club is our preference because we can have fun even if the guy doesn't turn up or isn't to our liking. "
you'd never get me going to a meet on that premise sorry but each to their own |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not to me yet.
"Yes loads of times. Social only now first as it's a waste of time getting ready to meet and getting stood up ! "
*Loads of times* damn! 
I don't get why people can't say changed mind etc even if it was a day before meet. That is better then simply just not turning up.
Maybe they get a kick out of it... or were fake/timewasters. Having said that I have heard even people who are well verified and you think would never be a no show do the exact same thing:
Spend time/messages on arranging meets, but then don't say anything if not going ahead with it!
I wonder if any of the no shows out there get stood up and know that *feeling* ...
What if:
On a meet nobody turned up and didn't say anything. All no shows! That must have happened a few times in Fab history. I guess we will never know  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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5 times over the years where just the male half arrived  lol
Few no shows.
Saying that I did a no show myself before as couple got very very pushy / demanding on what I must wear and sexually rude on morning blowing my phone up, I couldn't be assed as put me off so I just didn't bother turning up .
When I got the expected kicking off text. I just replied treat me rude I will treat you back in kind  with a big kiss 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Meeting at a club is our preference because we can have fun even if the guy doesn't turn up or isn't to our liking. you'd never get me going to a meet on that premise sorry but each to their own "
Yes each to their own. You wouldn't get me going to meet a stranger at their home or hotel. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We've had it happen a few times two of them were off the cuff daytime meets at ours where we got inundated with offers only to pick the time wasters both times! It was slightly annoying as we rarely get spare time during the day so would of been nice if they had the balls to say they wasn't coming.
The other was a guy the wife had been chatting to for weeks and we decided to drive the 20 odd miles to great Yarmouth to meet socially in a cafe and the guy never turned up or even responded to any messages! He replied the next day saying he was there and we were in the wrong place which was utter bollocks as we walked up and down the road and that was the only cafe on that road!
I really don't get why people think it's acceptable to waste people's time  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Only once in over 8 years on fab, arranged to meet in pub, she messaged me asked why I did not show up, I was in the bar all the evening as I was staying in the pub |
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Yes this has happened to me during my early days.
Back then it wasn't the norm to Skype but use chat rooms and yahoo groups.
I'd met couples for dogging and cinema play no issues so a woman saying she wanted to meet up was the normal.
Sadly it turned out to be a fake meet and I had a hotel room on my own..
The impact of fake meets meant I started to ask for phone validation and or Skype calls which I understand some couples don't like.
So I probably missed a few meets because of it.
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"Quite a few times as sadly a solo female must be a bloke so its ok to waste my time to 'teach me a lesson'.
Despite proving I'm really a woman prior to meeting.
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There are a lot of "all mouth no trousers" guys out there. We use to organise free gbs for content shoots in The 00s and The number of guys who didn't show was hilarious |
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It’s very frustrating when you chat to guy for a while, arrange a meet say at a pub and spend time doing yourself up nice.
You turn up and the guy doesn’t and not even a message from him or he blocks you.
Never mind  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes, twice and both in hotels.
The first they just didn't turn up, the next day they asked if we could try again, no apologies or anything, blocked.
The second, despite C and his other half chatting on and off for a week they decided at the last minute that someone was closer and nicer and left us sat in our hotel room.
We know this as they verified each other the next day.
We wouldn't do that to anyone so why do some think it's OK to treat people like that?.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I arranged to meet a guy in a bar and turned up only to find he wasn't there. I waited twenty minutes and then received s message saying..."just to say I saw you in your pink blouse..very fetching". He obviously was there but didn't reveal himself. Luckily I travelled less than 5 minutes. Of course he was blocked as a timewaster. We had exchanged pics but his pic must not have resembled himself! A bit creepy but you just draw a line under it. |
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"It’s happened to us once, the couple messaged us mentioning they were sick only to find out they went on another meet. It happens, we move on."
That's unforgivable.
And people don't seem to realise the inevitable veri will give the game away.
Planning two meets at the same time is bad form. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Best one we had was a guy who went silent an hour or two before and then next day sent us a message saying his work had suddenly put him on a plane to the sudan |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Quite a few times as sadly a solo female must be a bloke so its ok to waste my time to 'teach me a lesson'.
Despite proving I'm really a woman prior to meeting.
There are a lot of "all mouth no trousers" guys out there. We use to organise free gbs for content shoots in The 00s and The number of guys who didn't show was hilarious"
lol content gb / group shoots are the best for volume of flakes. I remember having to invite 30 guys just so we could shoot like 6/7 guys with the lady lol
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Had a few meets now where I've turned up and the others haven't has this happend to anybody else "
Yeah.just the other night, I arranged to meet a guy in a pub not too far from either of us.He didn't show or message me.No prob for me as I had a good night anyway and I blocked him.His loss as far as I'm concerned. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes once.
After driving miles to get there and weeks of planning and booking a day off work and she used the most pathetic excuse ever and then blocked me x |
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Happened once I went out to meet someone and he didn't show. Figured once is enough, they can come to me from now on. Countless no shows since, but doesn't feel too bad when you're on your home turf x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yep I have. Twice now.
First time I didn't hear anything at all. They completely vanished and never heard from them again.
Second time I got a message saying "haha" afterwards |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yep I have. Twice now.
First time I didn't hear anything at all. They completely vanished and never heard from them again.
Second time I got a message saying "haha" afterwards |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Happened once I went out to meet someone and he didn't show. Figured once is enough, they can come to me from now on. Countless no shows since, but doesn't feel too bad when you're on your home turf x"
People must be crazy not to turn up and spend time with you ur gorjus |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We had a guy who didn’t turn up after we’d booked a hotel room.
He told us one hour before we were due to meet. Eventually he later told us a girl had told him she was pregnant so he couldn’t get away.
Not sure if that girl may have been his wife. He couldn’t accommodate though due to having a flat mate so might have accidentally got his flat mate pregnant. Perhaps through sharing a toilet seat ??  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Never happened to us in 3 years of Fab. However we only arrange to meet someone new about two or three times a year, so our infrequency with meets reduces the risk.
Mrs |
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"Had a few meets now where I've turned up and the others haven't has this happend to anybody else "
For socials, too many to mention
Play meets, a few when we started out. A lot more cautious these days.
One of the most memorable ones was us waiting in a hotel we had paid for for the arranged time to elapse by over an hour to be told a relative had died. Then the next morning reading a verification that our meet went to a club with a couple instead! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Had a few meets now where I've turned up and the others haven't has this happend to anybody else "
After it has happened a few times I think that you become a little more carefull. I will not meet unless we have spoken on the phone first and I always phone just before leaving to check that it is still on. Text messages or emails can be anyone so I would never go to a meet without a phone conversation first. To date it has worked for me .
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Happened loads of times, even when I was meeting with a lady. Excuses were incredible.
I assume a meet won't happen these days even though I still turn up. |
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By *ada22Couple
over a year ago
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A lad made contact with us Appeared really interested. We swopped face and full body pics.
He continued to be interested.
We arranged to meet at a club on a midweek quiet night.
He didn't show.
No message.
What took the biscuit - he then blocked us on Fab! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We were once stood up twice within 24 hours! And the second meet we had got talking to on here because we’d been stood up the first time! It was a bit gutting at the time but we got over it x Mrs D x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Nope.
I’ve been cancelled on at the last minute a few times though, which is a bit of a bummer as I don’t have a plan b waiting in the wings!"
That's why I find the best way is to only arrange to meet at a place and time convenient to me, usually somewhere I was going to be anyway.
That way, you don't need a plan B, the meet is the plan B. |
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"Yep I have. Twice now.
First time I didn't hear anything at all. They completely vanished and never heard from them again.
Second time I got a message saying "haha" afterwards"
That is disgusting!! Why would people do that. Suppose reporting them won't help, because they'll just set up a new profile |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nope. But, I was walking out the door when I figured they weren't going to to turn up. It's a horrible feeling op, and anyone who's experienced it will agree. But, as good people we shrug it off. |
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Drove a few miles to meet a girl, twice, and both times she didn't show up. Can't remember the reason for the first, second time she said she hadn't woken up in time(it was a 9 in the morn meet). In 2012,i drove about 50 miles to meet a girl at her place. Met her, chatted for 20 mins, then it turned out she wanted a lift to a friend's house about 15 miles back the way I was headed home, so nothing doing there. She said we would have a proper meet at sometime later, nothing came of it, surprise surprise. Have been to Glasgow a few times and arranged meets and while there, they have been cancelled. 4 times by one girl. 3 or 4 others have said they were on for meeting, then while I was there, they don't respond to messages. There's been a few who have agreed to meets then leave the site without a word, and a couple of others who have also agreed, then blocked me, for whatever reason known only to them.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yes a few times and not just on here also had it for dating.
One I particularly remember is going to my local costa to meet a 20 year old woman and I ended up just with a pot of tea and cake instead of getting to know her."
tea and cake sounds bliss!  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Nope. But, I was walking out the door when I figured they weren't going to to turn up. It's a horrible feeling op, and anyone who's experienced it will agree. But, as good people we shrug it off. "
crap ain't it it's put droughts in my head about tis site
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes quite a few , it's not good when I go to the bother of dressing and drive to people's homes and be told ( on mobile when I confirm I'm there ) that can't meet due to one thing or another , I know people get cold feet but it's far better to let others know , to get time of work for meets is bad enough without wasting the day ..just saying |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Iv been lucky iv never been stood up although i only have a few meets a year I'm sure I'm due one.And iv never stood anyone up . I'm a great believer in treat others how You would want to be treated. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Nope. But, I was walking out the door when I figured they weren't going to to turn up. It's a horrible feeling op, and anyone who's experienced it will agree. But, as good people we shrug it off. crap ain't it it's put droughts in my head about tis site "
But, others will restore your confidence, resilience is a good trait to have here. Amd pretty much, don't have any expectations. |
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We’ve arranged to meet people at Clubs and they haven’t turned up. It has never been a problem as we have always managed to have a lot of fun anyway. It is part of why we go to Clubs as it doesn’t mean the evening is isn’t ruined  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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If we book a Friday & Saturday night away, we arrange morning, late lunch and evening meets. Normally, at least 2 meet.
We've had no shows from guys and couples.
We're totally puzzled, judging by the hot photos on here, that people have secured a meet with a woman and then don't show |
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"If we book a Friday & Saturday night away, we arrange morning, late lunch and evening meets. Normally, at least 2 meet.
We've had no shows from guys and couples.
We're totally puzzled, judging by the hot photos on here, that people have secured a meet with a woman and then don't show "
We are similarly surprised, but whilst many people dream of meeting it seems to prove harder to make it happen. Never been a problem in Clubs, we always manage to find someone to have fun with |
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Have travelled to Glasgow and am in a hotel. Was going to be meeting a woman last night that I've been chatting to on yahoo messenger for a few weeks. She didn't turn up and I can see that my messages to her are being read. No response from her. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Have travelled to Glasgow and am in a hotel. Was going to be meeting a woman last night that I've been chatting to on yahoo messenger for a few weeks. She didn't turn up and I can see that my messages to her are being read. No response from her. "
it happens |
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Yep we’ve had a few.
Comes with the territory. Bit annoying but we’re always ok as we have each other. Must be worse as a single.
What annoys us most is that our time precious and there could’ve always been someone else to meet!
Unfortunately there’s a lot of fab fantasists! |
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