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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Its that time of the year to have a friend's and Hotlist clear out.
I have over 20 friends & 20 or so profiles in my Hotlist; all of which none ever reply to any messages, so what is the point if having them.
If they haven't got time for me, there's no point in having them on either list of mine, irrespective if we have met or messaged before in the past.
Anybody else feel this way?
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"Its that time of the year to have a friend's and Hotlist clear out.
I have over 20 friends & 20 or so profiles in my Hotlist; all of which none ever reply to any messages, so what is the point if having them.
If they haven't got time for me, there's no point in having them on either list of mine, irrespective if we have met or messaged before in the past.
Anybody else feel this way?
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Definitely re the hotlist if they're not replying to any messages but surely the friends reply for them to have accepted you in the first place ?
If not then bin them |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I try to communicate with my friends list, but we all have lives to live.
No need to clear any of them out though as it is a special person to get on it in the first place. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Its that time of the year to have a friend's and Hotlist clear out.
I have over 20 friends & 20 or so profiles in my Hotlist; all of which none ever reply to any messages, so what is the point if having them.
If they haven't got time for me, there's no point in having them on either list of mine, irrespective if we have met or messaged before in the past.
Anybody else feel this way?
Definitely re the hotlist if they're not replying to any messages but surely the friends reply for them to have accepted you in the first place ?
If not then bin them"
I know people are busy, its not like im sitting on mt backside all day either. It just feels like im the one making the effort without any sort of reward.
Time to stop kidding myself and just delete people
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I do this periodically with real life people. If a "friend" never initiates contact I stop contacting them. On the internet it's not as significant to me.
The people on our hot list don't know for sure they're on it so we wouldn't expect them to contact us. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If you are on our friends list and don’t reply after a couple of messages, we just block and move on x"
That makes perfect sense and i like your approach. Very sensible indeed  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Its that time of the year to have a friend's and Hotlist clear out.
I have over 20 friends & 20 or so profiles in my Hotlist; all of which none ever reply to any messages, so what is the point if having them.
If they haven't got time for me, there's no point in having them on either list of mine, irrespective if we have met or messaged before in the past.
Anybody else feel this way?
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Get rid of them all and start making new friends |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I use my hotlist to keep an eye on trouble makers etc and not for guys we would like to meet so thats left as it is.
On my friends list if im always the one to initiate contact/messeges then i delete them after a while. They arent real friends anyway. Actually i dont have friends in real life either. Im not sociable or friendly except with family. |
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Our friends list is reserved for those that we consider swinging friends and have met with/want to meet.
If however after a period of time of no replies to our messages we remove them.
Removing all our friends only photos seems to have massively reduced lurkers and attracts the ones more generally interested in getting to know us. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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we do it all the time. No reply to a message and we assume they're no longer interested and move on. Hotlist changes constantly depending on what event we have planned.
What I don't understand is people who feel the need to announce they're doing it...it feels attention seeking and unneccessary...what do they want? people to beg to stay on it? we'll often spare them the trouble snd delete them instead... |
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"Its that time of the year to have a friend's and Hotlist clear out.
I have over 20 friends & 20 or so profiles in my Hotlist; all of which none ever reply to any messages, so what is the point if having them.
If they haven't got time for me, there's no point in having them on either list of mine, irrespective if we have met or messaged before in the past.
Anybody else feel this way?
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The majority only ask to be on your friends list so that they can see your friends only pics  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"we do it all the time. No reply to a message and we assume they're no longer interested and move on. Hotlist changes constantly depending on what event we have planned.
What I don't understand is people who feel the need to announce they're doing it...it feels attention seeking and unneccessary...what do they want? people to beg to stay on it? we'll often spare them the trouble snd delete them instead..."
I never announce it, i just delete them  |
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For hotlist people I guess it depends on why they are in your hotlist. For me, they are mix of people for whom we don't converse enough or have a chance to meet to make it worth being friends or those whose profile I find very "interesting" and by being on my hotlist I get to see updates that I might normally miss. Don't feel a need to regularly clean it up as it doesn't really bother me. Doesn't take very much effort to monitor updates and as I am not on here all that often there will be quite a few that pass me by.
Mind you, neither list for me is especially large. |
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"Its that time of the year to have a friend's and Hotlist clear out.
I have over 20 friends & 20 or so profiles in my Hotlist; all of which none ever reply to any messages, so what is the point if having them.
If they haven't got time for me, there's no point in having them on either list of mine, irrespective if we have met or messaged before in the past.
Anybody else feel this way?
Definitely re the hotlist if they're not replying to any messages but surely the friends reply for them to have accepted you in the first place ?
If not then bin them
I know people are busy, its not like im sitting on mt backside all day either. It just feels like im the one making the effort without any sort of reward.
Time to stop kidding myself and just delete people
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Quite right,although if they don't talk to you they wouldn't notice you've deleted them anyway will they. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Its that time of the year to have a friend's and Hotlist clear out.
I have over 20 friends & 20 or so profiles in my Hotlist; all of which none ever reply to any messages, so what is the point if having them.
If they haven't got time for me, there's no point in having them on either list of mine, irrespective if we have met or messaged before in the past.
Anybody else feel this way?
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Did my clear out before Christmas ?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Its that time of the year to have a friend's and Hotlist clear out.
I have over 20 friends & 20 or so profiles in my Hotlist; all of which none ever reply to any messages, so what is the point if having them.
If they haven't got time for me, there's no point in having them on either list of mine, irrespective if we have met or messaged before in the past.
Anybody else feel this way?
Definitely re the hotlist if they're not replying to any messages but surely the friends reply for them to have accepted you in the first place ?
If not then bin them
I know people are busy, its not like im sitting on mt backside all day either. It just feels like im the one making the effort without any sort of reward.
Time to stop kidding myself and just delete people
Quite right,although if they don't talk to you they wouldn't notice you've deleted them anyway will they."
So true lol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Its that time of the year to have a friend's and Hotlist clear out.
I have over 20 friends & 20 or so profiles in my Hotlist; all of which none ever reply to any messages, so what is the point if having them.
If they haven't got time for me, there's no point in having them on either list of mine, irrespective if we have met or messaged before in the past.
Anybody else feel this way?
Definitely re the hotlist if they're not replying to any messages but surely the friends reply for them to have accepted you in the first place ?
If not then bin them
I know people are busy, its not like im sitting on mt backside all day either. It just feels like im the one making the effort without any sort of reward.
Time to stop kidding myself and just delete people
Quite right,although if they don't talk to you they wouldn't notice you've deleted them anyway will they."
So very True but then again i noticed when you deleted me from your friends list  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Its that time of the year to have a friend's and Hotlist clear out.
I have over 20 friends & 20 or so profiles in my Hotlist; all of which none ever reply to any messages, so what is the point if having them.
If they haven't got time for me, there's no point in having them on either list of mine, irrespective if we have met or messaged before in the past.
Anybody else feel this way?
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Exactly right only invest time into people that will return it. Start the year fresh |
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think I need to pull my finger out next year 