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Yep, although you have to let HER control the situation... no topping from the bottom.
On a more serious note, you should agree rules, eg, is this just bedroom play or more part of a lifestyle, how long for? how will you communicate how its going, etc.
There's loads of resources on ideas for femdoms. If you want to help, you could find some and point her in that direction. Let her know what interests you, but remember, if she's in charge, its got to primarily be about what SHE wants to try and do . |
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"Yep, although you have to let HER control the situation... no topping from the bottom.
On a more serious note, you should agree rules, eg, is this just bedroom play or more part of a lifestyle, how long for? how will you communicate how its going, etc.
There's loads of resources on ideas for femdoms. If you want to help, you could find some and point her in that direction. Let her know what interests you, but remember, if she's in charge, its got to primarily be about what SHE wants to try and do ."
That’s very well said and I’ll bear it in mind. It’s something she has introduced as an idea but is also a bit shy about. But yes, understood, no topping from the bottom. Thank you! |
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"And once you're unleashed she only lets you fuck her with a strap on.
This is possibly going to be harder than I thought.... certainly more frustrating!"
That's the idea! If your lucky she may let you listen to her with someone else in the next room. |
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"And once you're unleashed she only lets you fuck her with a strap on.
This is possibly going to be harder than I thought.... certainly more frustrating!
That's the idea! If your lucky she may let you listen to her with someone else in the next room. "
We’ve tried a bit of that. I was cuffed to a chair while she was thoroughly fucked on the bed in front of me.... though I did get an occasional blow job when the mood took her... |
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Cool, sounds like you are on the right track and i hope you have great fun.
One other point, if she's shy... whatever she suggests you need to be positive about. For many people exposing their fantasies for fear of rejection is the biggest challenge.
So if she says "i want to see a horse have a great time sodomising you"... then its not... "omg no, you're a freak"... its, "i'm not sure i'm ready for that yet, maybe we could work towards it and see how we go?". I exaggerate obviously, but be ready to support her in getting more confident.
One of my ex's still says locking me up, spanking me and fucking me with a strap on was the best confidence boost she ever got. She said it helped with two job promotions that followed shortly after |
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"Cool, sounds like you are on the right track and i hope you have great fun.
One other point, if she's shy... whatever she suggests you need to be positive about. For many people exposing their fantasies for fear of rejection is the biggest challenge.
So if she says "i want to see a horse have a great time sodomising you"... then its not... "omg no, you're a freak"... its, "i'm not sure i'm ready for that yet, maybe we could work towards it and see how we go?". I exaggerate obviously, but be ready to support her in getting more confident.
One of my ex's still says locking me up, spanking me and fucking me with a strap on was the best confidence boost she ever got. She said it helped with two job promotions that followed shortly after "
You are a wise and kind soul! |
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"Cool, sounds like you are on the right track and i hope you have great fun.
One other point, if she's shy... whatever she suggests you need to be positive about. For many people exposing their fantasies for fear of rejection is the biggest challenge.
So if she says "i want to see a horse have a great time sodomising you"... then its not... "omg no, you're a freak"... its, "i'm not sure i'm ready for that yet, maybe we could work towards it and see how we go?". I exaggerate obviously, but be ready to support her in getting more confident.
One of my ex's still says locking me up, spanking me and fucking me with a strap on was the best confidence boost she ever got. She said it helped with two job promotions that followed shortly after "
Brilliant! True though.
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"Chastity... lock up, give her the key... she'll have plenty of time to figure the rest out
So basically she should tease, frustrate and torment...? "
You tied up and her wanking you with oil. Edging you nearly to orgasm then stopping. Then repeat. |
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"Chastity... lock up, give her the key... she'll have plenty of time to figure the rest out
So basically she should tease, frustrate and torment...?
You tied up and her wanking you with oil. Edging you nearly to orgasm then stopping. Then repeat. "
Ooooooooh.... |
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"Chastity... lock up, give her the key... she'll have plenty of time to figure the rest out
So basically she should tease, frustrate and torment...?
You tied up and her wanking you with oil. Edging you nearly to orgasm then stopping. Then repeat.
Ooooooooh...."
I did it once and he got so excited he cum when I wasn't even touching him. Not sure if that's good or not. |
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"Chastity... lock up, give her the key... she'll have plenty of time to figure the rest out
So basically she should tease, frustrate and torment...?
You tied up and her wanking you with oil. Edging you nearly to orgasm then stopping. Then repeat.
Ooooooooh....
I did it once and he got so excited he cum when I wasn't even touching him. Not sure if that's good or not. "
Wow! Impressed! |
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"We’re interested in exploring a new dynamic in our sex life, letting her take all the control. Any ideas for fun sub dom play with the woman firmly in charge?"
enforced feminisation tho in reality lotsa guys will absolutely love that so depends on what your agenda is.. |
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"We’re interested in exploring a new dynamic in our sex life, letting her take all the control. Any ideas for fun sub dom play with the woman firmly in charge?
enforced feminisation tho in reality lotsa guys will absolutely love that so depends on what your agenda is.."
But isn’t the idea that the sub secretly loves it too? |
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"We’re interested in exploring a new dynamic in our sex life, letting her take all the control. Any ideas for fun sub dom play with the woman firmly in charge?
enforced feminisation tho in reality lotsa guys will absolutely love that so depends on what your agenda is..
But isn’t the idea that the sub secretly loves it too?"
well thats what i mean .. depends if its just a bit of kinky fun for u both or if u want to actually control and humiliate him |
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"We’re interested in exploring a new dynamic in our sex life, letting her take all the control. Any ideas for fun sub dom play with the woman firmly in charge?
enforced feminisation tho in reality lotsa guys will absolutely love that so depends on what your agenda is..
But isn’t the idea that the sub secretly loves it too?
well thats what i mean .. depends if its just a bit of kinky fun for u both or if u want to actually control and humiliate him "
Well, I guess the former, but this site is about exploration of those more complex places too sometimes... |
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"Yep, although you have to let HER control the situation... no topping from the bottom.
On a more serious note, you should agree rules, eg, is this just bedroom play or more part of a lifestyle, how long for? how will you communicate how its going, etc.
There's loads of resources on ideas for femdoms. If you want to help, you could find some and point her in that direction. Let her know what interests you, but remember, if she's in charge, its got to primarily be about what SHE wants to try and do ."
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