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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So how do you tell your new partner that your bi?
Specially when she has already commented that she’s not sure she could handle it ( handle what exactly ) I’m unsure lol.
Any others with stories how they told there new partners ? |
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"So how do you tell your new partner that your bi?
Specially when she has already commented that she’s not sure she could handle it ( handle what exactly ) I’m unsure lol.
Any others with stories how they told there new partners ?"
I'm confused. Your profile states you are straight I would tell her as soon as you can. |
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"So how do you tell your new partner that your bi?
Specially when she has already commented that she’s not sure she could handle it ( handle what exactly ) I’m unsure lol.
Any others with stories how they told there new partners ?
I'm confused. Your profile states you are straight I would tell her as soon as you can. "
Didn’t see that. But love the status |
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Ours isn't probably much help but me & M had a chat when we were d*unk & both said we had been on swingers site before we meet & M told me he was bisexual I'm totally fine with it, I'm really open minded & I am just happy he can be himself around me you have to be honest as hard as it is, I would be really hurt if M had kept it from me, id feel he couldn't trust/talk to me x Mrs |
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I have always found honesty to be the best policy when I am becoming close to someone. Generally I have said things like ‘just so you know, I am bisexual’. Then I answer their questions. |
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"I have always found honesty to be the best policy when I am becoming close to someone. Generally I have said things like ‘just so you know, I am bisexual’. Then I answer their questions. "
I wonder if many men would have a problem with that though. I'm thinking it may be harder for a man to say it.
I would love it if a boyfriend had said it to me. |
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Tell her the truth but explain everything to her. As I love bi men. But when my friend found out she was disgusted with me. Yet she is bi herself. I explained all an she is still disgusted. There’s still a lot of people who are closed minds an set in ways. I guess all I’m saying is, she also sounds closed. An her worry would be you cheating on her with a man. |
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"So how do you tell your new partner that your bi?
Specially when she has already commented that she’s not sure she could handle it ( handle what exactly ) I’m unsure lol.
Any others with stories how they told there new partners ?"
How important is it to you? Have you discussed swinging with your girlfriend? The reason i ask is that if you are planning on living maonogamously ever after then what difference does it make.
Yes I've have many experiences of this, mostly negative. They don't have to like it, but it does piss you off when they want experiment with another girl but tell you it's disgusting for a guy to do the same! Usually this kind of attitude is masking a deeper character flaw and it's best to ditch her. For example, I've had more than one ex say "but how could i trust you not to cheat on me when you are out with your male friends?". In other words, because I'm bi that means that everyone is a sexual target so i can't be trusted to go out and not bum everyone. For me, a relationship with such a stupid and or irrational person was never going to last. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I had it kinda taken out of my hands
I got pissed and sucked a lad off she worked with
He told her
Thankfully, she was cool with it
Much to his disappointment
It was within weeks of starting to see her though
Had it been later on, I dare say I would have been wearing my bollocks as a necklace |
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"I had it kinda taken out of my hands
I got pissed and sucked a lad off she worked with
He told her
Thankfully, she was cool with it
Much to his disappointment
It was within weeks of starting to see her though
Had it been later on, I dare say I would have been wearing my bollocks as a necklace"
That's why it's always best to fuck a guy in the ass after you suck his dick. People don't boast about that so much. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I had it kinda taken out of my hands
I got pissed and sucked a lad off she worked with
He told her
Thankfully, she was cool with it
Much to his disappointment
It was within weeks of starting to see her though
Had it been later on, I dare say I would have been wearing my bollocks as a necklace
That's why it's always best to fuck a guy in the ass after you suck his dick. People don't boast about that so much."
Noted. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So how do you tell your new partner that your bi?
Specially when she has already commented that she’s not sure she could handle it ( handle what exactly ) I’m unsure lol.
Any others with stories how they told there new partners ?" leave your phone on side with a pic of you obviously with your face in it being sucked by a guy no words needed ha she either leaves you or she doesn't |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I had it kinda taken out of my hands
I got pissed and sucked a lad off she worked with
He told her
Thankfully, she was cool with it
Much to his disappointment
It was within weeks of starting to see her though
Had it been later on, I dare say I would have been wearing my bollocks as a necklace
That's why it's always best to fuck a guy in the ass after you suck his dick. People don't boast about that so much."
Haha. Love it
You can get such wonderful advice from Fab |
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"So how do you tell your new partner that your bi?
Specially when she has already commented that she’s not sure she could handle it ( handle what exactly ) I’m unsure lol.
Any others with stories how they told there new partners ?"
Telling her you are bi and have played with guys in the past probably won’t be as bad as telling her you are ‘still’ actively on a swinging site looking for extra fun
What you did in your past is exactly that - your past
She might not be so accomodating knowing that you may want to meet others whether it’s female or male whilst in a relationship with her either with or without her involvement
Remember swinging isn’t for everyone |
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"It’s very early days between us it’s not like this is a 3yr relasionshop and I’m thinking of dropping it for the record "
What are you thinking of dropping? Your relationship, being on Fab or the straight status on your profile ? |
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With my last girlfriend, I hoisted my freak flags on the fourth date, when I felt it might be serious.
I told her about my history of swinging and being bi.
She returned the favour and told me about her past.
It didn't last long but we were honest, and are still friends. |
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Easy, show her your profile and how you have been sleeping with other people whilst you been with her. That way she would just dump you anyway for being a cheat and you can live your life being bi. |
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"With my last girlfriend, I hoisted my freak flags on the fourth date, when I felt it might be serious.
I told her about my history of swinging and being bi.
She returned the favour and told me about her past.
It didn't last long but we were honest, and are still friends. "
Why, what was in her past |
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"With my last girlfriend, I hoisted my freak flags on the fourth date, when I felt it might be serious.
I told her about my history of swinging and being bi.
She returned the favour and told me about her past.
It didn't last long but we were honest, and are still friends. "
I think that's the best way to be. There's nothing to trip you up then |
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"With my last girlfriend, I hoisted my freak flags on the fourth date, when I felt it might be serious.
I told her about my history of swinging and being bi.
She returned the favour and told me about her past.
It didn't last long but we were honest, and are still friends.
Why, what was in her past "
Kink, fetish and bi.
She introduced me to the bizarre bazaar, amongst other things.
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"With my last girlfriend, I hoisted my freak flags on the fourth date, when I felt it might be serious.
I told her about my history of swinging and being bi.
She returned the favour and told me about her past.
It didn't last long but we were honest, and are still friends.
Why, what was in her past
Kink, fetish and bi.
She introduced me to the bizarre bazaar, amongst other things.
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Well she sounds like a keeper, why didn't it last!? |
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You need to think about how this will impact on your relationship. Will you be seeing other men or are you just saying you are bi but in a committed relationship with her? Just because you are bi doesnt mean you necessarily need to indulge your bi side. If that was the case nobody would be faithful, bi and straight people. |
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"With my last girlfriend, I hoisted my freak flags on the fourth date, when I felt it might be serious.
I told her about my history of swinging and being bi.
She returned the favour and told me about her past.
It didn't last long but we were honest, and are still friends.
Why, what was in her past
Kink, fetish and bi.
She introduced me to the bizarre bazaar, amongst other things.
Well she sounds like a keeper, why didn't it last!?"
Our kinks didn't align. I won't go into details in the forum. But we are still friends, without benefits, and go to cinema, munches etc. Together.
It's good to have a kinky friend to talk to |
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"With my last girlfriend, I hoisted my freak flags on the fourth date, when I felt it might be serious.
I told her about my history of swinging and being bi.
She returned the favour and told me about her past.
It didn't last long but we were honest, and are still friends.
Why, what was in her past
Kink, fetish and bi.
She introduced me to the bizarre bazaar, amongst other things.
Well she sounds like a keeper, why didn't it last!?
Our kinks didn't align. I won't go into details in the forum. But we are still friends, without benefits, and go to cinema, munches etc. Together.
It's good to have a kinky friend to talk to "
This is true, sex is not a good foundation for a relationship, no matter how tempting the prospect may seem. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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The sooner the better.
Some people can’t handle that their partner wants same sex shenanigans.
My ex didn’t like it as she said she could compete with a woman but not a man.
But I’ve had girlfriends and boyfriends who said ‘bring it on’ and lots of sexy escapades followed. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So how do you tell your new partner that your bi?
Specially when she has already commented that she’s not sure she could handle it ( handle what exactly ) I’m unsure lol.
Any others with stories how they told there new partners ?
I'm confused. Your profile states you are straight I would tell her as soon as you can. "
Don't tell her... if you can't tell a bunch of strangers on here you have no chance one to one in real life...
Actually if she is expecting a monogamous relationship, she may never need to know. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So how do you tell your new partner that your bi?
Specially when she has already commented that she’s not sure she could handle it ( handle what exactly ) I’m unsure lol.
Any others with stories how they told there new partners ?"
If it is early days in the relationship, just drop it in.
If it is serious and she is the one, will you intend to continue swinging?
If you intend to remain monogamous and faithfull to her, your bisexuality will become irrelevant, unless of course you will continue to have sex outside of your relationship.
Depends where you see yourself in 5 years time. Only you know the answer.
Good luck. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So how do you tell your new partner that your bi?
Specially when she has already commented that she’s not sure she could handle it ( handle what exactly ) I’m unsure lol.
Any others with stories how they told there new partners ?
I'm confused. Your profile states you are straight I would tell her as soon as you can.
Don't tell her... if you can't tell a bunch of strangers on here you have no chance one to one in real life...
Actually if she is expecting a monogamous relationship, she may never need to know."
Really...worst bit of advice given. She'll find out sometime and..... Shit hits the fan because of distrust....cheating...lying...the list goes on... End of! |
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"I have always found honesty to be the best policy when I am becoming close to someone. Generally I have said things like ‘just so you know, I am bisexual’. Then I answer their questions.
I wonder if many men would have a problem with that though. I'm thinking it may be harder for a man to say it.
I would love it if a boyfriend had said it to me."
Ok I am bi............polar does that count |
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"I have always found honesty to be the best policy when I am becoming close to someone. Generally I have said things like ‘just so you know, I am bisexual’. Then I answer their questions.
I wonder if many men would have a problem with that though. I'm thinking it may be harder for a man to say it.
I would love it if a boyfriend had said it to me.
Ok I am bi............polar does that count"
No |
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"Unfortunately with your bags packed as the most likely outcome from my experience is your going to get the boot."
Sorry to hear that, but maybe you should have mentioned it before moving in together. |
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By *G LanaTV/TS
over a year ago
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"Unfortunately with your bags packed as the most likely outcome from my experience is your going to get the boot.
Sorry to hear that, but maybe you should have mentioned it before moving in together. "
My experience was a bit more complicated in the relationship where I was living with my ex but I can't be bothered explaining it all. My advice was intentionally more generic based one my subsequent experiences of the dating scene. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Actually if she is expecting a monogamous relationship, she may never need to know.
Really...worst bit of advice given. She'll find out sometime and..... Shit hits the fan because of distrust....cheating...lying...the list goes on... End of!"
I am not bi, so that makes a difference I suppose, but I have not kept a list of hair colour, body type and sexual skills of all previous girlfriends to present to any future girlfriends for approval.
If the OP is getting into a swinging relationship, yes the topic is relevant. If it's to be monogamous and he will not be having sex with others outside the relationship, does it really matter? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have always found honesty to be the best policy when I am becoming close to someone. Generally I have said things like ‘just so you know, I am bisexual’. Then I answer their questions.
I wonder if many men would have a problem with that though. I'm thinking it may be harder for a man to say it.
I would love it if a boyfriend had said it to me.
Ok I am bi............polar does that count
No "
The path of true love never run straight but in this case I am straight that is ! |
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"I have always found honesty to be the best policy when I am becoming close to someone. Generally I have said things like ‘just so you know, I am bisexual’. Then I answer their questions.
I wonder if many men would have a problem with that though. I'm thinking it may be harder for a man to say it.
I would love it if a boyfriend had said it to me."
Where have you been all my life lol? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So how do you tell your new partner that your bi?
Specially when she has already commented that she’s not sure she could handle it ( handle what exactly ) I’m unsure lol.
Any others with stories how they told there new partners ?
How important is it to you? Have you discussed swinging with your girlfriend? The reason i ask is that if you are planning on living maonogamously ever after then what difference does it make.
Yes I've have many experiences of this, mostly negative. They don't have to like it, but it does piss you off when they want experiment with another girl but tell you it's disgusting for a guy to do the same! Usually this kind of attitude is masking a deeper character flaw and it's best to ditch her. For example, I've had more than one ex say "but how could i trust you not to cheat on me when you are out with your male friends?". In other words, because I'm bi that means that everyone is a sexual target so i can't be trusted to go out and not bum everyone. For me, a relationship with such a stupid and or irrational person was never going to last. "
That sums it up for me too. I told an ex and he threw it back at me every chance he could. Me being bi wasn't the issue. His attitude was. |
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For starters how honest have you been so far?
Does she know you’re on a swingers site?
You state you’re bi but would you be faithful to her if she wanted and not sleep with other males or females?
Be honest. If you can’t be honest with her she deserves better. |
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"So how do you tell your new partner that your bi?
Specially when she has already commented that she’s not sure she could handle it ( handle what exactly ) I’m unsure lol.
Any others with stories how they told there new partners ?" Tell her from the start. Why lie? |
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