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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No, and frankly I prefer it when people do, shows they're thinking about their health. We do tend to ask if it's not mentioned in the course of discussion. Only once has a guy thrown a strop having taken offence.
PP what about people who go to clubs? Why are they any different? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Good question as fab can be the flagship to STI and don’t get me started about people who go to clubs 
Fab can also be the 'flagship' to eating the crayons.
Don't eat the crayons mate."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Doesn't bother me at all and if I have any slip ups I always have the conversation with the other person as well, never had anyone take it offensive so far, thank goodness |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm tested and STI free.
Do you believe me? Anyone can say it but who can prove it?
Who waits the two weeks between testing and results before having sex?
I know I'm tested and STI free but I wouldn't expect anyone to believe me and I wouldn't take someone's word for it!
This place is full of liars who will say anything to get in your pants.
I rekon that 50/60% of people on this site have never set foot in a sexual health clinic in their lives! |
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"I'm tested and STI free.
Do you believe me? Anyone can say it but who can prove it?
Who waits the two weeks between testing and results before having sex?
I know I'm tested and STI free but I wouldn't expect anyone to believe me and I wouldn't take someone's word for it!
This place is full of liars who will say anything to get in your pants.
I rekon that 50/60% of people on this site have never set foot in a sexual health clinic in their lives! "
Took the words out of my mouth. I daresay if I was ever to ask that question and the reply was something along the lines of 'nah, not bothered about testing' I'd rethink a meet but the truth is, no news is good news when it comes to results and nobody can claim ever to be STI free. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Good question as fab can be the flagship to STI and don’t get me started about people who go to clubs "
What exactly are you referring to here? People that go to clubs are just the same as people that don't... just we spend money and time socialising and making friends first! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Good question as fab can be the flagship to STI and don’t get me started about people who go to clubs
What exactly are you referring to here? People that go to clubs are just the same as people that don't... just we spend money and time socialising and making friends first!"
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"Good question as fab can be the flagship to STI and don’t get me started about people who go to clubs
What exactly are you referring to here? People that go to clubs are just the same as people that don't... just we spend money and time socialising and making friends first!"
Exactly this !! Well said |
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By *irldnCouple
over a year ago
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OP it is your health and well being and no amount of naughty fun is worth a serious risk to your health... Ask away and if they take offence then you probably better off not meeting them anyway! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It wouldn't bother us if we were asked. It would also indicate to us that the person doing the asking were interested in looking after their sexual health too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Good question as fab can be the flagship to STI and don’t get me started about people who go to clubs
What exactly are you referring to here? People that go to clubs are just the same as people that don't... just we spend money and time socialising and making friends first!"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Although I am for testing and don't mind being asked or asking the question I always look at it like an MOT , only good on the day the test actually taken. |
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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago
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"Good question as fab can be the flagship to STI and don’t get me started about people who go to clubs "
Oh do please get started..... I can hardly contain myself waiting for this pearl of wisdom
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"Good question as fab can be the flagship to STI and don’t get me started about people who go to clubs
Oh do please get started..... I can hardly contain myself waiting for this pearl of wisdom
V x "
You and me both |
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"Although I am for testing and don't mind being asked or asking the question I always look at it like an MOT , only good on the day the test actually taken. "
Not necessarily. If on the day of the test im positive for chlamydia, 2 weeks later after the course of tablets, id be ok to bareback the sxxt outta ya! |
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By *not69Man
over a year ago
Lancashire |
"Good question as fab can be the flagship to STI and don’t get me started about people who go to clubs "
Why? I go to clubs, I got tested 4 weeks ago. Your more likely to meet untested people in town on a Saturday night than you are in a swinger's club |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Although I am for testing and don't mind being asked or asking the question I always look at it like an MOT , only good on the day the test actually taken.
Not necessarily. If on the day of the test im positive for chlamydia, 2 weeks later after the course of tablets, id be ok to bareback the sxxt outta ya! "
True but conversely if you are clear on the day of the test and then bareback some one and catch an STI, the clear test result would be worthless  |
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"Although I am for testing and don't mind being asked or asking the question I always look at it like an MOT , only good on the day the test actually taken.
Not necessarily. If on the day of the test im positive for chlamydia, 2 weeks later after the course of tablets, id be ok to bareback the sxxt outta ya!
True but conversely if you are clear on the day of the test and then bareback some one and catch an STI, the clear test result would be worthless "
I don't think it counts on the same day. You get a grace period. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes it puts me off. If they are worried about sti's it means they must have had some. I use condoms so don't ever need to get tested.
(Some people think this...) |
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"Yes it puts me off. If they are worried about sti's it means they must have had some. I use condoms so don't ever need to get tested.
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But you can only catch each sti once like measles etc. And if you bareback someone who's already had one then you catch the immunity through your dick, or vagjayjay. Fact. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes it puts me off. If they are worried about sti's it means they must have had some. I use condoms so don't ever need to get tested.
But you can only catch each sti once like measles etc. And if you bareback someone who's already had one then you catch the immunity through your dick, or vagjayjay. Fact. "
Every day is a school day. Thanks. Bareback sex immunisation. |
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"Yes it puts me off. If they are worried about sti's it means they must have had some. I use condoms so don't ever need to get tested.
But you can only catch each sti once like measles etc. And if you bareback someone who's already had one then you catch the immunity through your dick, or vagjayjay. Fact.
Every day is a school day. Thanks. Bareback sex immunisation. "
It's nature. Dont fight nature with unnatural sex. |
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"Although I am for testing and don't mind being asked or asking the question I always look at it like an MOT , only good on the day the test actually taken. "
Well, technically it's worse than that. Hiv can take 12 weeks to show up, and in that time in can be passed on, but test clear.
Play safe and get tested for your own piece of mind long term. |
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Asking puts some people off and frankly thats why we ask. The people it puts off are the kind of idiots you don't want to touch with a 60 foot pole. What possible reasons are there to get offended by being asked:
- you have something
- you're too stupid to know that condoms don't stop HPV or Herpes
- you think strangers should instantly trust one another (which is how you get something)
- you're too stupid to understand that filters don't have to be perfect in order to be useful
- you have a giant ego
Nope, can't think of any valid reasons to resent the question. |
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"Asking puts some people off and frankly thats why we ask. The people it puts off are the kind of idiots you don't want to touch with a 60 foot pole. What possible reasons are there to get offended by being asked:
- you have something
- you're too stupid to know that condoms don't stop HPV or Herpes
- you think strangers should instantly trust one another (which is how you get something)
- you're too stupid to understand that filters don't have to be perfect in order to be useful
- you have a giant ego
Nope, can't think of any valid reasons to resent the question."
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"Asking puts some people off and frankly thats why we ask. The people it puts off are the kind of idiots you don't want to touch with a 60 foot pole. What possible reasons are there to get offended by being asked:
- you have something
- you're too stupid to know that condoms don't stop HPV or Herpes
- you think strangers should instantly trust one another (which is how you get something)
- you're too stupid to understand that filters don't have to be perfect in order to be useful
- you have a giant ego
Nope, can't think of any valid reasons to resent the question. "
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By *ngeluk69Woman
over a year ago
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"Asking puts some people off and frankly thats why we ask. The people it puts off are the kind of idiots you don't want to touch with a 60 foot pole. What possible reasons are there to get offended by being asked:
- you have something
- you're too stupid to know that condoms don't stop HPV or Herpes
- you think strangers should instantly trust one another (which is how you get something)
- you're too stupid to understand that filters don't have to be perfect in order to be useful
- you have a giant ego
Nope, can't think of any valid reasons to resent the question."
HEAR HEAR!!!!!
Don’t forget that sometimes condoms break, accidents happen, some people who preach that they don’t ever BB really do, sometimes fluids are exchanged without penetration.... all risks.
It still amazes me that grown adults are so flippant in their attitude to their own sexual health. I would rather be asked when I was last tested. Nowt to be embarrassed about! |
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By *reygorCouple
over a year ago
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"Good question as fab can be the flagship to STI and don’t get me started about people who go to clubs "
what people that use clubs are far more aware of game the playing .and take lots of care .if you pick up a striaght girl at pub night club ect .more chance .what you doing on a swingers site .just have a wank in your bedroom .we test regular at private clinic .and if any one not believe us give us your card details cos you can pay for them .you would not like the bill for sure .not a rant just a fact. |
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"Yes it puts me off. If they are worried about sti's it means they must have had some. I use condoms so don't ever need to get tested.
But you can only catch each sti once like measles etc. And if you bareback someone who's already had one then you catch the immunity through your dick, or vagjayjay. Fact. "
Oh God 
Why do you do this? You know people will believe you  |
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"Yes it puts me off. If they are worried about sti's it means they must have had some. I use condoms so don't ever need to get tested.
But you can only catch each sti once like measles etc. And if you bareback someone who's already had one then you catch the immunity through your dick, or vagjayjay. Fact.
Oh God
Why do you do this? You know people will believe you "
He's doing his bit for evolution |
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"I never bother asking as I know the answer will be I got tested a couple of weeks back, all clear. There is no way to tell if they being truthful or not so asking the question is pretty pointless."
I refer the honourable lady to bullet point 4. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’ve found people more safe on here than in town. As I always ask. If you’re thinking of having sex I don’t see a problem asking first. I quite like it if they do. An the safe sex option on here, is helpful.
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"I never bother asking as I know the answer will be I got tested a couple of weeks back, all clear. There is no way to tell if they being truthful or not so asking the question is pretty pointless."
Exactly ....
A pointless exercise and asking is a red light to us as it's a bit like the white knights who come on the forums to try and look good . |
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"I never bother asking as I know the answer will be I got tested a couple of weeks back, all clear. There is no way to tell if they being truthful or not so asking the question is pretty pointless.
Exactly ....
A pointless exercise and asking is a red light to us as it's a bit like the white knights who come on the forums to try and look good ."
It would be pointless if:
- everybody answered the question
- everybody who answered was prepared to lie
- you had no way of knowing who was lying
- you'd never thought of a follow up question like "great can you share your results"
The simple fact is that many people refuse to answer, many confess they don't get tested and those that try to lie often block you when you ask something simple like "great are your results text or voicemail" (our local clinic only gives one).
So no, not pointless at all. Not perfect, not pointless. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don’t think it’s a pointless question. We had all sorts of answers ranging from ‘never’ to ‘4 years ago’ to ‘every 3 months without fail’. It’s only a discussion that we’ve ever had with regulars though. Us personally we aim to get tested about twice a year, and we’d be very happy to state that if asked. Sometimes it’s a good reminder that it’s time for another checkup.
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"I don’t think it’s a pointless question. We had all sorts of answers ranging from ‘never’ to ‘4 years ago’ to ‘every 3 months without fail’. It’s only a discussion that we’ve ever had with regulars though. Us personally we aim to get tested about twice a year, and we’d be very happy to state that if asked. Sometimes it’s a good reminder that it’s time for another checkup.
Mrs"
My personal favourite was "we don't need to get tested because we only play with other couples". And block. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I was going to do the single man comment that we never get to meet
But then I got a rare blood group and I do go to swinging clubs and sexually active and when I donate I get tested few weeks before by the same clinic and get a SMS message from same number so always got a history of my checks which anyone can check
I still get nervous waiting for the message that I'm clear like I no many of us do male or female
So it's important everyone should be responsible and for the likes of me I'm very careful I'm not the stereotype male balls for brains |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I like to ask because the answers or reactions can reveal a lot about a person. If someone gets offended by a simple question then they aren't someone I am interested in fucking anyway. Likewise, if the answer is "Never" or "I know I'm clean because I have never had any symptoms" I will always politely decline the offer to play with that person!
Having said that, the answer is somewhat irrelevant in the sense that even if someone told me that they had been recently tested, I still would never fuck a stranger bareback. |
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"Good question as fab can be the flagship to STI and don’t get me started about people who go to clubs "
I’ve read the whole of this thread looking for the answer to this bollocks statement. It appears the poster is unable to answer. Either that or he didnt get lucky at a club and it’s sour grapes??? |
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"I was going to do the single man comment that we never get to meet
But then I got a rare blood group and I do go to swinging clubs and sexually active and when I donate I get tested few weeks before by the same clinic and get a SMS message from same number so always got a history of my checks which anyone can check
I still get nervous waiting for the message that I'm clear like I no many of us do male or female
So it's important everyone should be responsible and for the likes of me I'm very careful I'm not the stereotype male balls for brains"
Maybe a positive way.to donate blood for all more so for those who feel un easy visiting a gum clinic!
Just thought |
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By (user no longer on site)
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It's a stupid question. People lie. Not like they're going to admit to doing a bareback gangbang every night is it.
So people ask the question and they say yeah I got the all clear last week. How would you fuck differently? I wonder...... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Good question as fab can be the flagship to STI and don’t get me started about people who go to clubs
I’ve read the whole of this thread looking for the answer to this bollocks statement. It appears the poster is unable to answer. Either that or he didnt get lucky at a club and it’s sour grapes???"
Maybe he went to a club and caught something. |
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"I'm tested and STI free.
Do you believe me? Anyone can say it but who can prove it?
Who waits the two weeks between testing and results before having sex?
I know I'm tested and STI free but I wouldn't expect anyone to believe me and I wouldn't take someone's word for it!
This place is full of liars who will say anything to get in your pants.
I rekon that 50/60% of people on this site have never set foot in a sexual health clinic in their lives!
Took the words out of my mouth. I daresay if I was ever to ask that question and the reply was something along the lines of 'nah, not bothered about testing' I'd rethink a meet but the truth is, no news is good news when it comes to results and nobody can claim ever to be STI free."
the only thing is i would say we always get a text from the clinic saying what our results are WE CAN SHOW THIS TO whoever ask....but then again no one will show you the text saying you are positive with an STI |
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"It's a stupid question. People lie. Not like they're going to admit to doing a bareback gangbang every night is it.
So people ask the question and they say yeah I got the all clear last week. How would you fuck differently? I wonder......"
Yup and condoms break / fall off. Do you think imperfect is the same as pointless? |
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"Good question as fab can be the flagship to STI and don’t get me started about people who go to clubs
I’ve read the whole of this thread looking for the answer to this bollocks statement. It appears the poster is unable to answer. Either that or he didnt get lucky at a club and it’s sour grapes???
Maybe he went to a club and caught something. "
If this is the case then he should of played safe. Can’t generalise all people who go to clubs for this scenario |
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"It's a stupid question. People lie. Not like they're going to admit to doing a bareback gangbang every night is it.
So people ask the question and they say yeah I got the all clear last week. How would you fuck differently? I wonder......
Yup and condoms break / fall off. Do you think imperfect is the same as pointless?"
well said |
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By (user no longer on site)
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There is almost no point asking as you should assume everyone is lying to you - unless you are going to demand paperwork. Even then the 'all clear' is only as good as the date.
I'd never be annoyed with a person asking if I 'knew my status' as responsible adults should know. However, I wouldn't expect them to take me at my word - nor would I believe them! |
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"It's a stupid question. People lie. Not like they're going to admit to doing a bareback gangbang every night is it.
So people ask the question and they say yeah I got the all clear last week. How would you fuck differently? I wonder......
Yup and condoms break / fall off. Do you think imperfect is the same as pointless?
well said"
It won't stop people droning on with the same opinion though. The thing is that they don't ask so they don't see the ridiculous answers you get back. It's a feedback loop. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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People do indeed lie..... I have fallen for this and stupidly became infected with HIV, my own fault for taking someones word for it..... the short answer is assume anyone you have bareback with is positive and take the appropriate precautions |
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"It's a stupid question. People lie. Not like they're going to admit to doing a bareback gangbang every night is it.
So people ask the question and they say yeah I got the all clear last week. How would you fuck differently? I wonder......
Yup and condoms break / fall off. Do you think imperfect is the same as pointless?
well said
It won't stop people droning on with the same opinion though. The thing is that they don't ask so they don't see the ridiculous answers you get back. It's a feedback loop. "
What answer would make you fuck them? |
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"It's a stupid question. People lie. Not like they're going to admit to doing a bareback gangbang every night is it.
So people ask the question and they say yeah I got the all clear last week. How would you fuck differently? I wonder......
Yup and condoms break / fall off. Do you think imperfect is the same as pointless?
well said
It won't stop people droning on with the same opinion though. The thing is that they don't ask so they don't see the ridiculous answers you get back. It's a feedback loop.
What answer would make you fuck them?"
Yes we get tested, yes we can show you our last results. We're still using condoms anyway. In our experience that will filter around 70% of couples here. |
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"People do indeed lie..... I have fallen for this and stupidly became infected with HIV, my own fault for taking someones word for it..... the short answer is assume anyone you have bareback with is positive and take the appropriate precautions"
How about ask and take precautions? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"People do indeed lie..... I have fallen for this and stupidly became infected with HIV, my own fault for taking someones word for it..... the short answer is assume anyone you have bareback with is positive and take the appropriate precautions
How about ask and take precautions?"
Indeed, ask AND take precautions.... I'm not the first and sure won't be the last!! |
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"It's a stupid question. People lie. Not like they're going to admit to doing a bareback gangbang every night is it.
So people ask the question and they say yeah I got the all clear last week. How would you fuck differently? I wonder......
Yup and condoms break / fall off. Do you think imperfect is the same as pointless?
well said
It won't stop people droning on with the same opinion though. The thing is that they don't ask so they don't see the ridiculous answers you get back. It's a feedback loop.
What answer would make you fuck them?
Yes we get tested, yes we can show you our last results. We're still using condoms anyway. In our experience that will filter around 70% of couples here."
Good filter. |
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"It's a stupid question. People lie. Not like they're going to admit to doing a bareback gangbang every night is it.
So people ask the question and they say yeah I got the all clear last week. How would you fuck differently? I wonder......
Yup and condoms break / fall off. Do you think imperfect is the same as pointless?
well said
It won't stop people droning on with the same opinion though. The thing is that they don't ask so they don't see the ridiculous answers you get back. It's a feedback loop.
What answer would make you fuck them?
Yes we get tested, yes we can show you our last results. We're still using condoms anyway. In our experience that will filter around 70% of couples here.
Good filter."
Good people are talking about it ...i think this post has raised the Profile and awareness |
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"People do indeed lie..... I have fallen for this and stupidly became infected with HIV, my own fault for taking someones word for it..... the short answer is assume anyone you have bareback with is positive and take the appropriate precautions
How about ask and take precautions?
Indeed, ask AND take precautions.... I'm not the first and sure won't be the last!!"
As an aside, what that guy did to you is illegal. Did you ever go to the police? |
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"People do indeed lie..... I have fallen for this and stupidly became infected with HIV, my own fault for taking someones word for it..... the short answer is assume anyone you have bareback with is positive and take the appropriate precautions
How about ask and take precautions?
Indeed, ask AND take precautions.... I'm not the first and sure won't be the last!!
As an aside, what that guy did to you is illegal. Did you ever go to the police?"
Yes it is illegal to knowingly pass on the virus |
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"People do indeed lie..... I have fallen for this and stupidly became infected with HIV, my own fault for taking someones word for it..... the short answer is assume anyone you have bareback with is positive and take the appropriate precautions
How about ask and take precautions?
Indeed, ask AND take precautions.... I'm not the first and sure won't be the last!!
As an aside, what that guy did to you is illegal. Did you ever go to the police?"
Who said it was a guy? Assumptions abound!....The person involved was obviously unaware of their infection which must have been fairly recent as they had tested negative a few months earlier. |
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"People do indeed lie..... I have fallen for this and stupidly became infected with HIV, my own fault for taking someones word for it..... the short answer is assume anyone you have bareback with is positive and take the appropriate precautions
How about ask and take precautions?
Indeed, ask AND take precautions.... I'm not the first and sure won't be the last!!
As an aside, what that guy did to you is illegal. Did you ever go to the police?
Who said it was a guy? Assumptions abound!....The person involved was obviously unaware of their infection which must have been fairly recent as they had tested negative a few months earlier."
Statistically it is far more likely to be a guy because of the probability of transmission, so yes an assumption but not an unreasonable one. Hats off to you for being upfront about it. |
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"People do indeed lie..... I have fallen for this and stupidly became infected with HIV, my own fault for taking someones word for it..... the short answer is assume anyone you have bareback with is positive and take the appropriate precautions
How about ask and take precautions?
Indeed, ask AND take precautions.... I'm not the first and sure won't be the last!!
As an aside, what that guy did to you is illegal. Did you ever go to the police?
Who said it was a guy? Assumptions abound!....The person involved was obviously unaware of their infection which must have been fairly recent as they had tested negative a few months earlier.
Statistically it is far more likely to be a guy because of the probability of transmission, so yes an assumption but not an unreasonable one. Hats off to you for being upfront about it. "
I agree.... statistically the risk of transmission is higher, but a person recently infected has a very high viral load and therefore highly infectious.... HIV doesn't discriminate and can infect regardless of sexual orientation, colour or creed |
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