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Is swinging about sex or fulfil the feeling of being wanted
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It's whatever each of is wants, though our needs often vary. The core relationship that you have is the foundation for what you may want to supplement it with. There's more potentially than sex, as I like building friendships and the social side too - plus you may also have fbs that you engage with over long periods. Everyone works it a little differently, based on their tastes and needs. |
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Sex. Nothing else.
I need cock, I get my orgasms. It's purely a physical thing.
The catch? I have to be able to hold a conversation with them at least until we have concluded. DANG!
p.s. I'm not that cynical really, many of my private friends I know from clubs or parties. |
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p.p.s. I do think it is a very valid question.
I've sometimes seen people behave in ways that made me wonder if they were in it for themselves or because they thought they needed to live up to certain expectations or, as you say, needed to feel wanted. |
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Both for me, there’s the initial lust on a first meet but I always prefer regular meets and this is where I seek friendship. I’m also a single guy so it’s nice to have some female company. Of course the whole point of it all is to have sex, but sex and friendship is even better. |
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"p.p.s. I do think it is a very valid question.
I've sometimes seen people behave in ways that made me wonder if they were in it for themselves or because they thought they needed to live up to certain expectations or, as you say, needed to feel wanted."
This!
Everyone has their own reason for being in this - for me it’s about being in a partnership & experiencing things together as well as making friends. We enjoy the social side of things at Townhouse as much as the sexual side & although we occasionally play separately, we still know who with, when, where etc & share the details. The fun for us is that we are doing it together. The feeling of being wanted / needed we get from each other, the rest of it is a thrill!! |
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Both are valid - and sexually I am definitely primal prey, so for me being pursued, lusted after and yes, wanted is a big part of the turn-on, as well as partly fulfilling deeper emotional needs, which I am very open about anyway.  |
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Fab makes the old saying Women have sex to feel loved. Men just love to have sex look pretty accurate.
It seems to me that the vast majority of single women here are using their apparent lack of inhibitions to hook a man. And the competitiveness between the females, along with the blatant pissing up lampposts, bears that out. Imo of course. |
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Both are valid - and sexually I am definitely primal prey, so for me being pursued, lusted after and yes, wanted is a big part of the turn-on, as well as partly fulfilling deeper emotional needs, which I am very open about anyway. "
What’s your top four lady? |
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Sex and socials for us
Old us. Going to friends, having food drinks and conversation maybe game then home to bed
New us. Going to friends, having food drinks and conversation about sex, games with sex and then bed (with friends of course) |
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"Fab makes the old saying Women have sex to feel loved. Men just love to have sex look pretty accurate.
It seems to me that the vast majority of single women here are using their apparent lack of inhibitions to hook a man. And the competitiveness between the females, along with the blatant pissing up lampposts, bears that out. Imo of course."
Pretty much agree with this, although I would say you can have sex and friendship, without it being a committed full-on relationship. |
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"Fab makes the old saying Women have sex to feel loved. Men just love to have sex look pretty accurate.
It seems to me that the vast majority of single women here are using their apparent lack of inhibitions to hook a man. And the competitiveness between the females, along with the blatant pissing up lampposts, bears that out. Imo of course.
Pretty much agree with this, although I would say you can have sex and friendship, without it being a committed full-on relationship. "
something women struggle with. |
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"Fab makes the old saying Women have sex to feel loved. Men just love to have sex look pretty accurate.
It seems to me that the vast majority of single women here are using their apparent lack of inhibitions to hook a man. And the competitiveness between the females, along with the blatant pissing up lampposts, bears that out. Imo of course.
Pretty much agree with this, although I would say you can have sex and friendship, without it being a committed full-on relationship.
something women struggle with."
I know. Something to do with that Venus/Mars thing and to be handled with great care..... |
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"Fab makes the old saying Women have sex to feel loved. Men just love to have sex look pretty accurate.
It seems to me that the vast majority of single women here are using their apparent lack of inhibitions to hook a man. And the competitiveness between the females, along with the blatant pissing up lampposts, bears that out. Imo of course.
Pretty much agree with this, although I would say you can have sex and friendship, without it being a committed full-on relationship.
something women struggle with.
I know. Something to do with that Venus/Mars thing and to be handled with great care....."
Or not at all. |
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"Fab makes the old saying Women have sex to feel loved. Men just love to have sex look pretty accurate.
It seems to me that the vast majority of single women here are using their apparent lack of inhibitions to hook a man. And the competitiveness between the females, along with the blatant pissing up lampposts, bears that out. Imo of course.
Pretty much agree with this, although I would say you can have sex and friendship, without it being a committed full-on relationship.
something women struggle with.
I know. Something to do with that Venus/Mars thing and to be handled with great care....."
Sex & friendship for me.
I don't want and tbh, don't think I could ever see myself in a 'conventional relationship' again.
But a FWB, open relationship type set up ticks the boxes.
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It's different for everyone, for some it's to get what's missing in their life, for some it's to enrich what they already have, some it's to simply scratch an itch. For me it's one of the above. |
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I've had sex with people I don't love but have been physically attracted to....but ultimately the ones who there is some kind of friendship with seem to be the best.
It's mad. I wasn't looking for any kind of relationship on here at all and yet I have crazy feelings for a guy and vice versa it's more than just lust....
He is my friend but I care about him and what happens to him.
If we were both single it wouldn't be an issue as we know we would be spending every available minute together.
But we are both married so we know it's only ever going to be a love affair and that's where it ends... |
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I think sex without strings would be easier for some women here if it were less in your face. There is such a lack of subtlety on fab, a female can see the guy she had a wonderful time with the other night, arranging to fuck another female the next, and that can hurt. No matter how casual the hook up. As a woman it can be a lot easier to have great sex with no strings so long as you don't have it rubbed in your face that you're absolutely nothing special by seeing the man going out and fucking whoever after. Imo |
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"Fab makes the old saying Women have sex to feel loved. Men just love to have sex look pretty accurate.
It seems to me that the vast majority of single women here are using their apparent lack of inhibitions to hook a man. And the competitiveness between the females, along with the blatant pissing up lampposts, bears that out. Imo of course.
Pretty much agree with this, although I would say you can have sex and friendship, without it being a committed full-on relationship.
something women struggle with.
I know. Something to do with that Venus/Mars thing and to be handled with great care.....
Or not at all. "
Pretty much. I don't know about the competitive women though. I haven't noticed any fighting over me.. |
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"I've had sex with people I don't love but have been physically attracted to....but ultimately the ones who there is some kind of friendship with seem to be the best.
It's mad. I wasn't looking for any kind of relationship on here at all and yet I have crazy feelings for a guy and vice versa it's more than just lust....
He is my friend but I care about him and what happens to him.
If we were both single it wouldn't be an issue as we know we would be spending every available minute together.
But we are both married so we know it's only ever going to be a love affair and that's where it ends... "
It's very hard but when you know in your head exactly what it is and isn't going to be it's easier to accept.
I have exactly this too, plus a couple of hundred miles between us. We count ourselves as a couple and swing separately, the bugger has much more luck than me lol.  |
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"I think sex without strings would be easier for some women here if it were less in your face. There is such a lack of subtlety on fab, a female can see the guy she had a wonderful time with the other night, arranging to fuck another female the next, and that can hurt. No matter how casual the hook up. As a woman it can be a lot easier to have great sex with no strings so long as you don't have it rubbed in your face that you're absolutely nothing special by seeing the man going out and fucking whoever after. Imo"
Double standards perhaps? I'm sure that works in both directions on here... don't you think? |
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"I think sex without strings would be easier for some women here if it were less in your face. There is such a lack of subtlety on fab, a female can see the guy she had a wonderful time with the other night, arranging to fuck another female the next, and that can hurt. No matter how casual the hook up. As a woman it can be a lot easier to have great sex with no strings so long as you don't have it rubbed in your face that you're absolutely nothing special by seeing the man going out and fucking whoever after. Imo
Double standards perhaps? I'm sure that works in both directions on here... don't you think? "
Women and men may be equal but they're not the same and their sex drives and motivations differ many times. Fab is designed for males more than women, it would appear. you only have to look at the vastly differing numbers of each sex that use it. |
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"I think sex without strings would be easier for some women here if it were less in your face. There is such a lack of subtlety on fab, a female can see the guy she had a wonderful time with the other night, arranging to fuck another female the next, and that can hurt. No matter how casual the hook up. As a woman it can be a lot easier to have great sex with no strings so long as you don't have it rubbed in your face that you're absolutely nothing special by seeing the man going out and fucking whoever after. Imo
Double standards perhaps? I'm sure that works in both directions on here... don't you think? "
I wonder how much of that is to do simply with ego.... |
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"I think sex without strings would be easier for some women here if it were less in your face. There is such a lack of subtlety on fab, a female can see the guy she had a wonderful time with the other night, arranging to fuck another female the next, and that can hurt. No matter how casual the hook up. As a woman it can be a lot easier to have great sex with no strings so long as you don't have it rubbed in your face that you're absolutely nothing special by seeing the man going out and fucking whoever after. Imo"
I agree!! I don't care if a man has fucked 1 or 100 women this week. I just don't want to know about it. |
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Sex for me, but I don't enjoy cold turn up, fuck then leave meets.
I prefer to chill, chat for a bit first, have a few giggles then get down to business.
I love sleeping with someone who I get on with and can have a laugh with, makes the attraction so much stronger |
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Sex and friendship for us on the whole. A club visit is diffferent though, people we meet there and play with, it has just been sex, but private meets it's more about the friendship and then the sex. |
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For me (m) it started as a curiousity thing to start with then when me and my ex started it became a sex/ego thing, it was like seeing women I wouldn't normally have a chance with were happy to let me do things to them. When I met someone else through swinging that friendship thing kicked in and I got to know a good few swingers as friends. Now with the wife we have friends who we have from vanilla life and swinging life some I've only played with some she's only played with and some we played with together. |
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its about variety and variety is the spice of life ,I imagine we all get something different out of it and perhaps feeling wanted is one of those but mostly its about sex for some with as many partners as possible and for others with a few but on a regular basis ,I lean toward the regular get to know and become friends area |
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It is both! We all want to be wanted, the main difference is that some people are happy with that just being physical and others want the connection. In my opinion, sex is rubbish without a proper connection. Might as well just masterbait. But that's just my opinion.
I gotta admit I have almost felt sorry for some let's say 'successful' swingers because they are so cold and clinical about it. I thought is that so they don't develop emotions? Or are they just like that as people? Difficult one to answer as our brains are so complex
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"I've had sex with people I don't love but have been physically attracted to....but ultimately the ones who there is some kind of friendship with seem to be the best.
It's mad. I wasn't looking for any kind of relationship on here at all and yet I have crazy feelings for a guy and vice versa it's more than just lust....
It sounds like you both love each other and if that’s the case maybe you should be together. More than half of marriages end in divorce and you only live once
He is my friend but I care about him and what happens to him.
If we were both single it wouldn't be an issue as we know we would be spending every available minute together.
But we are both married so we know it's only ever going to be a love affair and that's where it ends... "
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"I think sex without strings would be easier for some women here if it were less in your face. There is such a lack of subtlety on fab, a female can see the guy she had a wonderful time with the other night, arranging to fuck another female the next, and that can hurt. No matter how casual the hook up. As a woman it can be a lot easier to have great sex with no strings so long as you don't have it rubbed in your face that you're absolutely nothing special by seeing the man going out and fucking whoever after. Imo"
exactly if only people could keep what they do to themselves it seems and this applies to both sexes some love to brag about their exploits  |
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"It is both! We all want to be wanted, the main difference is that some people are happy with that just being physical and others want the connection. In my opinion, sex is rubbish without a proper connection. Might as well just masterbait. But that's just my opinion.
I gotta admit I have almost felt sorry for some let's say 'successful' swingers because they are so cold and clinical about it. I thought is that so they don't develop emotions? Or are they just like that as people? Difficult one to answer as our brains are so complex
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The very concept of swinging is partner swapping for nsa sex . I know it’s changed , evolved , and become something that embraces singles , TVs , cds , ts and so on , but the simple ethos is much the same .
As a happily married couple it’s easy for us to see swinging as purely nsa , and other than lust and pleasure , there are no emotions involved . Does that make us cold and clinical ? I really don’t think so . Do we have no emotions in real life ? Of course we do , the very same emotions as any other married couple with kids . We separate our swinging life from our real life , and share the same emotional bonds and so on living our lives as you and everyone else . The fact we enjoy sharing a part of our sex life with others makes no difference to how we are when we aren’t swinging . |
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"Fab makes the old saying Women have sex to feel loved. Men just love to have sex look pretty accurate.
It seems to me that the vast majority of single women here are using their apparent lack of inhibitions to hook a man. And the competitiveness between the females, along with the blatant pissing up lampposts, bears that out. Imo of course.
Pretty much agree with this, although I would say you can have sex and friendship, without it being a committed full-on relationship. "
Sex and friendship is perfect. Don't want a soulmate but an exciting set of liasons with friendship in the mix! |
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Swinging is about sex and maybe friendship, because that's the deal, no strings attached.
Wine bars, night clubs and dating sites are full of people who need to be wanted emotionally.
There's always the odd exception to the norm but people looking for commitment or to satisfy emotional wants will probably be disappointed on a swinging site. |
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Ps. Nsa sex doesn't have to be cold or cynical, more often than not its bloody good if your doing it with someone you fancy and knows what they're doing! |
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Just picked up on this one ......
My response might make some cringe, but I am not really saying much other than what is in my profile......
However the "Why am I here" element is more to do with the fact that I am a horny oversexed randy bastard , who as an insatiable appetite for sex.....
Will that do !!!!!! |
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"I think sex without strings would be easier for some women here if it were less in your face. There is such a lack of subtlety on fab, a female can see the guy she had a wonderful time with the other night, arranging to fuck another female the next, and that can hurt. No matter how casual the hook up. As a woman it can be a lot easier to have great sex with no strings so long as you don't have it rubbed in your face that you're absolutely nothing special by seeing the man going out and fucking whoever after. Imo"
Interesting this is exactly how I thought I would have felt, and was fully expecting too. But the very fact of watching what you describe really hammers home the nsa bit and really makes it easier for me to keep it at that, so I know no feelings will creep in beyond a 'friendship'.
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"I think sex without strings would be easier for some women here if it were less in your face. There is such a lack of subtlety on fab, a female can see the guy she had a wonderful time with the other night, arranging to fuck another female the next, and that can hurt. No matter how casual the hook up. As a woman it can be a lot easier to have great sex with no strings so long as you don't have it rubbed in your face that you're absolutely nothing special by seeing the man going out and fucking whoever after. Imo
Interesting this is exactly how I thought I would have felt, and was fully expecting too. But the very fact of watching what you describe really hammers home the nsa bit and really makes it easier for me to keep it at that, so I know no feelings will creep in beyond a 'friendship'.
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I can see that. Although for me it would lead to disdain for the man. |
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i think you may of misunderstood. I was calling it cold and clinical in terms of the way people treat others whilst swinging, not that you are a cold person because you swing. For me sex is better when intimate. There are some really nice people on here if you look hard enough so I'm definitely not pointing the finger. i guess I was more questioning why people are so cold when trying to elicit an act that is essentially us connecting as two beings. Is it to protect themselves? etc. More rhetorical questions than digs at people that swing; especially as I like NSA fun |
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"I think sex without strings would be easier for some women here if it were less in your face. There is such a lack of subtlety on fab, a female can see the guy she had a wonderful time with the other night, arranging to fuck another female the next, and that can hurt. No matter how casual the hook up. As a woman it can be a lot easier to have great sex with no strings so long as you don't have it rubbed in your face that you're absolutely nothing special by seeing the man going out and fucking whoever after. Imo
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Swinging is not for everyone. It makes no difference at all if you're a man or woman. If you'd prefer the person you're having sex with not to be having sex with anyone else or to hide it then as a couple or a single, this probably isn't the ideal scene for you.
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"I think sex without strings would be easier for some women here if it were less in your face. There is such a lack of subtlety on fab, a female can see the guy she had a wonderful time with the other night, arranging to fuck another female the next, and that can hurt. No matter how casual the hook up. As a woman it can be a lot easier to have great sex with no strings so long as you don't have it rubbed in your face that you're absolutely nothing special by seeing the man going out and fucking whoever after. Imo
Swinging is not for everyone. It makes no difference at all if you're a man or woman. If you'd prefer the person you're having sex with not to be having sex with anyone else or to hide it then as a couple or a single, this probably isn't the ideal scene for you.
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No shit.
The difference between me and most others, is I recognised that very early on and no longer meet. |
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"It is both! We all want to be wanted, the main difference is that some people are happy with that just being physical and others want the connection. In my opinion, sex is rubbish without a proper connection. Might as well just masterbait. But that's just my opinion.
I gotta admit I have almost felt sorry for some let's say 'successful' swingers because they are so cold and clinical about it. I thought is that so they don't develop emotions? Or are they just like that as people? Difficult one to answer as our brains are so complex
The very concept of swinging is partner swapping for nsa sex . I know it’s changed , evolved , and become something that embraces singles , TVs , cds , ts and so on , but the simple ethos is much the same .
As a happily married couple it’s easy for us to see swinging as purely nsa , and other than lust and pleasure , there are no emotions involved . Does that make us cold and clinical ? I really don’t think so . Do we have no emotions in real life ? Of course we do , the very same emotions as any other married couple with kids . We separate our swinging life from our real life , and share the same emotional bonds and so on living our lives as you and everyone else . The fact we enjoy sharing a part of our sex life with others makes no difference to how we are when we aren’t swinging . "
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"I think sex without strings would be easier for some women here if it were less in your face. There is such a lack of subtlety on fab, a female can see the guy she had a wonderful time with the other night, arranging to fuck another female the next, and that can hurt. No matter how casual the hook up. As a woman it can be a lot easier to have great sex with no strings so long as you don't have it rubbed in your face that you're absolutely nothing special by seeing the man going out and fucking whoever after. Imo
Swinging is not for everyone. It makes no difference at all if you're a man or woman. If you'd prefer the person you're having sex with not to be having sex with anyone else or to hide it then as a couple or a single, this probably isn't the ideal scene for you.
No shit.
The difference between me and most others, is I recognised that very early on and no longer meet. "
Good for you that you know what you want. Maybe you shouldn't assume that there is a difference between you and most others for recognising what they want early on. I suggest most people while joining a swinging site are not thinking of monogamous sex.
They've probably recognised early on what they're looking for. |
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"I think sex without strings would be easier for some women here if it were less in your face. There is such a lack of subtlety on fab, a female can see the guy she had a wonderful time with the other night, arranging to fuck another female the next, and that can hurt. No matter how casual the hook up. As a woman it can be a lot easier to have great sex with no strings so long as you don't have it rubbed in your face that you're absolutely nothing special by seeing the man going out and fucking whoever after. Imo"
To an extent I’d agree!
I’ve made it very clear to regular meets that , although I have zero problem with them meeting others, I don’t get off on it either!
I don’t expect them not to meet others, but I certainly don’t get a thrill when I read further verifications from others. I accept it though as it’s all part of fab - and I really don’t think tinder etc would work for me as thete’s no group social, club, forum etc aspect!
And with regard to the op - my meets fulfill both the need for raw sex and my need for friendship and affection!
Most of my one on one meets are effectively a ‘boyfriend ‘ experience - but without any hassle or expectation afterwards on either part! X |
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"I think sex without strings would be easier for some women here if it were less in your face. There is such a lack of subtlety on fab, a female can see the guy she had a wonderful time with the other night, arranging to fuck another female the next, and that can hurt. No matter how casual the hook up. As a woman it can be a lot easier to have great sex with no strings so long as you don't have it rubbed in your face that you're absolutely nothing special by seeing the man going out and fucking whoever after. Imo
Swinging is not for everyone. It makes no difference at all if you're a man or woman. If you'd prefer the person you're having sex with not to be having sex with anyone else or to hide it then as a couple or a single, this probably isn't the ideal scene for you.
No shit.
The difference between me and most others, is I recognised that very early on and no longer meet.
Good for you that you know what you want. Maybe you shouldn't assume that there is a difference between you and most others for recognising what they want early on. I suggest most people while joining a swinging site are not thinking of monogamous sex.
They've probably recognised early on what they're looking for. "
Only judging by what I read on here. |
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We do it as we see sharing with others a hobby. Sex between us is different to what we get up to when we are swinging.
When we swing we do all the crazy sex. |
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Both are valid - and sexually I am definitely primal prey, so for me being pursued, lusted after and yes, wanted is a big part of the turn-on, as well as partly fulfilling deeper emotional needs, which I am very open about anyway.
What’s your top four lady?"
Top Four?? You mean in the quiz?
Vanilla, submissive, primal, girl then brat I think lol! |
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We 'ALL' have our own individual and personal reasons as to why we joined a swinging website and I'm sure many a story is to be told;-)
For me personally I joined this great community because my Fiance Carl was on strong medication to help shrink his Cancerous Prostate,which in turn had a side effect that sadly totally destroyed his sexual Lobedo to an absolute zilch!!! :o( But Being the loving and outstanding individual Carl always has been,he suggested I join a site in order to meet other men to fulfil the massive void I had in my life[after 14 months of zero love & affection ,let alone sex & orgasms!!! if only!!!]
So after months of feeling totally "unloved & unwanted",I eventually picked up the courage to create a single female's profile &"Essentialminx1962 was created!!
Instantly I was inundated with new messages every day from all kinds of ppl & from all walks of life,genres and differing sexual stages in their lives (all very interesting, frightening lol
& some down right shocking PMAOL :O)BUT...
all welcoming me aboard!!
That was just over 6yrs ago now & for us personally It was "a relationship saver"
We have many "vanilla friends" that have absoltely no idea we swing & that's the way it will remain LOL,but also we have many that 100% know all about our situation & also know we swing & many agree that 'for us' it worked (but know,as non-swingers) many of them really don't "get it" & still often ask us " but how can you share" & "I could never ever allow anyone to fuck my husband/wife"& the gem "don't ya get jealous?" LOL
I certainly didn't start swinging to boost my ego,it was far more to fulfil a need & a want that my loving Fiance wasn't able to fulfil(for a temporary period in our loving stable & trusting relationship)
**TRUST!!!....BEING THE 'MAGIC WORD'
We are by far 'noway' the most experienced swingers on Fab,but without a shadow-of-a-doubt have this wonderful "lifestyle" to thank for being there for us personally.Eventually,after 4 yrs of begging him to join me,curiosity finally killed the cat at long last & MrC accompanied me to a private house party in Leeds & never looked back(he bloody loved it!! ;o);o) & he was hooked Yeahh!
Fast-forward 2 yrs & Carl was diagnosed with an 8th Grade Prostate Cancer **removed 2 weeks ago,so again will be out of play for possibly 6-18months (how longs'apiece'string?)** Read my thread in the forums "all pray for Mrc...xx"
Please go into the forum & read this thread xxxxx
A massive TY to everyone that has taken the time to write to us"Bless u all" x
So without this Fab lifestyle,I'd have been again simply be "expected" to 'do without' & just get on with my life???
~ Thank God for swinging and the wonderful lifestyle & genuine friends we have met along the way ... *&* long may it reign x x x x x x x x x
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For me Freedom. Freedom to do as I please with who I please and not have to answer to no one as long as no one gets hurt and to experience new things with like minded people x |
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"I think sex without strings would be easier for some women here if it were less in your face. There is such a lack of subtlety on fab, a female can see the guy she had a wonderful time with the other night, arranging to fuck another female the next, and that can hurt. No matter how casual the hook up. As a woman it can be a lot easier to have great sex with no strings so long as you don't have it rubbed in your face that you're absolutely nothing special by seeing the man going out and fucking whoever after. Imo
Interesting this is exactly how I thought I would have felt, and was fully expecting too. But the very fact of watching what you describe really hammers home the nsa bit and really makes it easier for me to keep it at that, so I know no feelings will creep in beyond a 'friendship'.
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I sometimes wonder about how we all view things here and indeed how we interact and react with others. I don't believe we can ever divorce emotions from sex in any form and maybe we forget those emotions are not just about relationships but cover everything from desire need excitement passion friendship lust a need to explore and discover an urge for adventure. I think often we reduce emotions to a binary consideration right wrong love hate etc.
We are emotional beings everything from a smile to a frown is driven by emotional stimuli and that includes the whole range of interactions from nsa,fuck and run, through to fb or fwb, or indeed possibly something more as demonstrated by the number of couples who mix swinging with a strong personal relationship.
I imagine almost every one on here has met for one off random meets with no intention of it ever being more or even just had a pick up in a pub or club and it has satisfied a need at that time.
But personally it's the connection beyond a one off random shag that delivers more that connection with another exploring together discovering likes and dislikes and being open about what each needs. That's never the same as vanilla life but it still has an emotional connection that may not be considered conventional.
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