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I'm having reservations due to other users comments on this site and how you should act.
Im all for nsa.. casual relationship exploratory sexual relations... if i ever have a relationship I want both parties to be able to sleep with others if they so wish... but.. I have standards and apparently just by being on this sex site I and everyone on it should be willing to meet without rappor.. meet without a social... laugh at the meet suggestion of a social.. and have sex without necessarily being attracted to the other...
Is it me or are some people on this site unreasonable for making assumptions and not being open to other people's way of doing things..
I like fab I really do.. I lack the confidence to really enjoy it as some do  but i like that everyone is (mostly) honest about what they want.. I'm just struggling with the pressure single guys seem to think they have the right to put on single females to meet on their terms  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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What pressure? If they want something that's different to you just say no thanks.
Lots of men think the women on here are just free prostitutes, available for them to empty their balls. Some women like that.  |
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To be fair, if you said "I have a woman unconscious in a hotel room, who's up for fun?" Or "Here's my girlfriend's address, she wants a r*pe roll play."
Some guys would turn up, no questions asked...  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"To be fair, if you said "I have a woman unconscious in a hotel room, who's up for fun?" Or "Here's my girlfriend's address, she wants a r*pe roll play."
Some guys would turn up, no questions asked... "
It's crap innit. 
I know not all men are like this but fuuuucking hell. |
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Oh yes...I can see how that digital harassment must be hard to refuse, ffs!!! I’m sorry but it really grates on me when people bang on about hassle on here..
Like people say..BLOCK = SORTED
I have no idea how cyber bullying is so effective...there’s these great things with technology called odd names like OFF - REPORT _ LOG OUT?? My grandad fought real people with weapons that could actually kill you to read about things like cyber hassle?? |
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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago
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"To be fair, if you said "I have a woman unconscious in a hotel room, who's up for fun?" Or "Here's my girlfriend's address, she wants a r*pe roll play."
Some guys would turn up, no questions asked... "
Ive seen a couple of those type of threads. I understand that r4pe roll play is a thing but getting randoms just fucking screams wrong. |
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"I'm having reservations due to other users comments on this site and how you should act.
Im all for nsa.. casual relationship exploratory sexual relations... if i ever have a relationship I want both parties to be able to sleep with others if they so wish... but.. I have standards and apparently just by being on this sex site I and everyone on it should be willing to meet without rappor.. meet without a social... laugh at the meet suggestion of a social.. and have sex without necessarily being attracted to the other...
Is it me or are some people on this site unreasonable for making assumptions and not being open to other people's way of doing things..
I like fab I really do.. I lack the confidence to really enjoy it as some do but i like that everyone is (mostly) honest about what they want.. I'm just struggling with the pressure single guys seem to think they have the right to put on single females to meet on their terms "
We feel it's become too much of a dating site. Too many rules and boundries on some profiles. Height, tatts, size, socails, connection, ect ect. We have a few basic rules. We are here for the sexual enconters and pure sex. It's not like were gonna marry the person. We don't do socails or endless ping pong mail. We're old fashioned swingers. Casual sex mostly unplanned with strangers.
Part of the thrill for us is you don't know the "play" your get. |
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" I'm just struggling with the pressure single guys seem to think they have the right to put on single females to meet on their terms "
The only pressure comes from you... its just words on a screen, if you don't fancy them, kick them to the kerb.
Its your body, your sex life, you can pick and choose who and what happens, so stop stressing and enjoy it!  |
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"Oh yes...I can see how that digital harassment must be hard to refuse, ffs!!! I’m sorry but it really grates on me when people bang on about hassle on here..
Like people say..BLOCK = SORTED
I have no idea how cyber bullying is so effective...there’s these great things with technology called odd names like OFF - REPORT _ LOG OUT?? My grandad fought real people with weapons that could actually kill you to read about things like cyber hassle??"
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"Oh yes...I can see how that digital harassment must be hard to refuse, ffs!!! I’m sorry but it really grates on me when people bang on about hassle on here..
Like people say..BLOCK = SORTED
I have no idea how cyber bullying is so effective...there’s these great things with technology called odd names like OFF - REPORT _ LOG OUT?? My grandad fought real people with weapons that could actually kill you to read about things like cyber hassle??"
Im sorry to have caused you such offence. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm having reservations due to other users comments on this site and how you should act.
Im all for nsa.. casual relationship exploratory sexual relations... if i ever have a relationship I want both parties to be able to sleep with others if they so wish... but.. I have standards and apparently just by being on this sex site I and everyone on it should be willing to meet without rappor.. meet without a social... laugh at the meet suggestion of a social.. and have sex without necessarily being attracted to the other...
Is it me or are some people on this site unreasonable for making assumptions and not being open to other people's way of doing things..
I like fab I really do.. I lack the confidence to really enjoy it as some do but i like that everyone is (mostly) honest about what they want.. I'm just struggling with the pressure single guys seem to think they have the right to put on single females to meet on their terms
We feel it's become too much of a dating site. Too many rules and boundries on some profiles. Height, tatts, size, socails, connection, ect ect. We have a few basic rules. We are here for the sexual enconters and pure sex. It's not like were gonna marry the person. We don't do socails or endless ping pong mail. We're old fashioned swingers. Casual sex mostly unplanned with strangers.
Part of the thrill for us is you don't know the "play" your get. "
Some of us can't have sex with people we aren't physically attracted to or who have personality traits that are off putting. I'm certainly not here to date, and I don't have strict physical appearance I find attractive, but I turn down a lot of people because I don't feel any lust for them. |
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Block them all and you msg the ones you like the look of and re-block them if you change your mind. It's your body and your life, play how you want to play and cut out anyone that doesn't fit with that.
You're not here for hassle so don't let it be |
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Surely anyone trying to pressure anyone into having sex is missing the point of fab?
As I understand it this is a place we can express our desires and want a without judgement and without pressure or fear.
I'm a white middle class make so... It is possible I need to check my privileged? |
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"I'm having reservations due to other users comments on this site and how you should act.
Im all for nsa.. casual relationship exploratory sexual relations... if i ever have a relationship I want both parties to be able to sleep with others if they so wish... but.. I have standards and apparently just by being on this sex site I and everyone on it should be willing to meet without rappor.. meet without a social... laugh at the meet suggestion of a social.. and have sex without necessarily being attracted to the other...
Is it me or are some people on this site unreasonable for making assumptions and not being open to other people's way of doing things..
I like fab I really do.. I lack the confidence to really enjoy it as some do but i like that everyone is (mostly) honest about what they want.. I'm just struggling with the pressure single guys seem to think they have the right to put on single females to meet on their terms
We feel it's become too much of a dating site. Too many rules and boundries on some profiles. Height, tatts, size, socails, connection, ect ect. We have a few basic rules. We are here for the sexual enconters and pure sex. It's not like were gonna marry the person. We don't do socails or endless ping pong mail. We're old fashioned swingers. Casual sex mostly unplanned with strangers.
Part of the thrill for us is you don't know the "play" your get.
Some of us can't have sex with people we aren't physically attracted to or who have personality traits that are off putting. I'm certainly not here to date, and I don't have strict physical appearance I find attractive, but I turn down a lot of people because I don't feel any lust for them. "
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"" I'm just struggling with the pressure single guys seem to think they have the right to put on single females to meet on their terms "
The only pressure comes from you... its just words on a screen, if you don't fancy them, kick them to the kerb.
Its your body, your sex life, you can pick and choose who and what happens, so stop stressing and enjoy it! "
No all women must have sex upon request on Fab. Goodness me you were talking as if women are not the property of men to be used as men please. Next thing you’ll be saying women want to move away from the kitchen and vote. |
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"I'm having reservations due to other users comments on this site and how you should act.
Im all for nsa.. casual relationship exploratory sexual relations... if i ever have a relationship I want both parties to be able to sleep with others if they so wish... but.. I have standards and apparently just by being on this sex site I and everyone on it should be willing to meet without rappor.. meet without a social... laugh at the meet suggestion of a social.. and have sex without necessarily being attracted to the other...
Is it me or are some people on this site unreasonable for making assumptions and not being open to other people's way of doing things..
I like fab I really do.. I lack the confidence to really enjoy it as some do but i like that everyone is (mostly) honest about what they want.. I'm just struggling with the pressure single guys seem to think they have the right to put on single females to meet on their terms "
Let others assume whatever they want to assume and you just carry on doing as you think is best.
Just being on this site does not oblige you to do anything. |
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By *ucy LewdWoman
over a year ago
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"Oh yes...I can see how that digital harassment must be hard to refuse, ffs!!! I’m sorry but it really grates on me when people bang on about hassle on here..
Like people say..BLOCK = SORTED
I have no idea how cyber bullying is so effective...there’s these great things with technology called odd names like OFF - REPORT _ LOG OUT?? My grandad fought real people with weapons that could actually kill you to read about things like cyber hassle??"
My Grandad fought real people with real weapons because he hoped for a world where people wouldn't have to be harassed. He never imagined a digital future, but it's just the tools that change and not the intent.
My partner also fought real people with real weapons so that we could live in a world without various kinds of harassment.
I will fight real people with real weapons so that we can live in a better world.
Part of the problem is though that the enemy is not always who we think it is.
Having been harassed offline as well as online, I can tell you that one is not better than the other. In fact at least offline you usually know who the person is and you can go to the police about it. Online though... you don't know who they are. They could be anyone. and the threats are so much worse.
I remember male MPs discussing in parliament about how digital harassment was nothing and that people (women) just needed to get on with their lives and press the 'off' button. But you can't just push the off button. We need the Internet to survive in our world. And all of a sudden MPs started to do something about it when the male MPs started to get digital harassment... suddenly they realized how unpleasant it was. |
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"I'm having reservations due to other users comments on this site and how you should act.
Im all for nsa.. casual relationship exploratory sexual relations... if i ever have a relationship I want both parties to be able to sleep with others if they so wish... but.. I have standards and apparently just by being on this sex site I and everyone on it should be willing to meet without rappor.. meet without a social... laugh at the meet suggestion of a social.. and have sex without necessarily being attracted to the other...
Is it me or are some people on this site unreasonable for making assumptions and not being open to other people's way of doing things..
I like fab I really do.. I lack the confidence to really enjoy it as some do but i like that everyone is (mostly) honest about what they want.. I'm just struggling with the pressure single guys seem to think they have the right to put on single females to meet on their terms
We feel it's become too much of a dating site. Too many rules and boundries on some profiles. Height, tatts, size, socails, connection, ect ect. We have a few basic rules. We are here for the sexual enconters and pure sex. It's not like were gonna marry the person. We don't do socails or endless ping pong mail. We're old fashioned swingers. Casual sex mostly unplanned with strangers.
Part of the thrill for us is you don't know the "play" your get. "
We are exacrly the same , and there’s nothing wrong with that |
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By *ucy LewdWoman
over a year ago
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"I'm having reservations due to other users comments on this site and how you should act.
Im all for nsa.. casual relationship exploratory sexual relations... if i ever have a relationship I want both parties to be able to sleep with others if they so wish... but.. I have standards and apparently just by being on this sex site I and everyone on it should be willing to meet without rappor.. meet without a social... laugh at the meet suggestion of a social.. and have sex without necessarily being attracted to the other...
Is it me or are some people on this site unreasonable for making assumptions and not being open to other people's way of doing things..
I like fab I really do.. I lack the confidence to really enjoy it as some do but i like that everyone is (mostly) honest about what they want.. I'm just struggling with the pressure single guys seem to think they have the right to put on single females to meet on their terms
We feel it's become too much of a dating site. Too many rules and boundries on some profiles. Height, tatts, size, socails, connection, ect ect. We have a few basic rules. We are here for the sexual enconters and pure sex. It's not like were gonna marry the person. We don't do socails or endless ping pong mail. We're old fashioned swingers. Casual sex mostly unplanned with strangers.
Part of the thrill for us is you don't know the "play" your get. "
Ironically, as I understand it, "old fashioned" swinging is about being good friends with the people you're having sex with and regularly socializing with them.
I'd suggest, respectfully, that the people who play 'ping pong' emails and so forth are the old fashioned ones - not you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As others have said block all men and do your own searching, there's plenty of decent guys but tbh I think they are the ones least likely to be messaging you as they don't need to. It's the Desperado's who spam out most of the faf messages. |
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"Block them all and you msg the ones you like the look of and re-block them if you change your mind. It's your body and your life, play how you want to play and cut out anyone that doesn't fit with that.
You're not here for hassle so don't let it be"
Sound advice as always Mr |
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"I'm having reservations due to other users comments on this site and how you should act.
Im all for nsa.. casual relationship exploratory sexual relations... if i ever have a relationship I want both parties to be able to sleep with others if they so wish... but.. I have standards and apparently just by being on this sex site I and everyone on it should be willing to meet without rappor.. meet without a social... laugh at the meet suggestion of a social.. and have sex without necessarily being attracted to the other...
Is it me or are some people on this site unreasonable for making assumptions and not being open to other people's way of doing things..
I like fab I really do.. I lack the confidence to really enjoy it as some do but i like that everyone is (mostly) honest about what they want.. I'm just struggling with the pressure single guys seem to think they have the right to put on single females to meet on their terms
We feel it's become too much of a dating site. Too many rules and boundries on some profiles. Height, tatts, size, socails, connection, ect ect. We have a few basic rules. We are here for the sexual enconters and pure sex. It's not like were gonna marry the person. We don't do socails or endless ping pong mail. We're old fashioned swingers. Casual sex mostly unplanned with strangers.
Part of the thrill for us is you don't know the "play" your get.
Ironically, as I understand it, "old fashioned" swinging is about being good friends with the people you're having sex with and regularly socializing with them.
I'd suggest, respectfully, that the people who play 'ping pong' emails and so forth are the old fashioned ones - not you."
We don't waste our time with endless ping pong emails. We would rather spend time playing than chatting. We only been swinging for 50 years between us, so still learning. |
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"I'm having reservations due to other users comments on this site and how you should act.
Im all for nsa.. casual relationship exploratory sexual relations... if i ever have a relationship I want both parties to be able to sleep with others if they so wish... but.. I have standards and apparently just by being on this sex site I and everyone on it should be willing to meet without rappor.. meet without a social... laugh at the meet suggestion of a social.. and have sex without necessarily being attracted to the other...
Is it me or are some people on this site unreasonable for making assumptions and not being open to other people's way of doing things..
I like fab I really do.. I lack the confidence to really enjoy it as some do but i like that everyone is (mostly) honest about what they want.. I'm just struggling with the pressure single guys seem to think they have the right to put on single females to meet on their terms
We feel it's become too much of a dating site. Too many rules and boundries on some profiles. Height, tatts, size, socails, connection, ect ect. We have a few basic rules. We are here for the sexual enconters and pure sex. It's not like were gonna marry the person. We don't do socails or endless ping pong mail. We're old fashioned swingers. Casual sex mostly unplanned with strangers.
Part of the thrill for us is you don't know the "play" your get.
Ironically, as I understand it, "old fashioned" swinging is about being good friends with the people you're having sex with and regularly socializing with them.
I'd suggest, respectfully, that the people who play 'ping pong' emails and so forth are the old fashioned ones - not you.
We don't waste our time with endless ping pong emails. We would rather spend time playing than chatting. We only been swinging for 50 years between us, so still learning. "
We'd rather waste a few strokes of the keyboard on multiple emails, than petrol money etc on people who turn out to be unpleasant mouth breathers. |
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Is it me or are some people on this site unreasonable for making assumptions and not being open to other people's way of doing things..
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No it's not just you. We have very similar issues as a couple. Part of the problem seems to be everyone has a different idea of what 'swinging' means to them. |
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"I'm having reservations due to other users comments on this site and how you should act.
Im all for nsa.. casual relationship exploratory sexual relations... if i ever have a relationship I want both parties to be able to sleep with others if they so wish... but.. I have standards and apparently just by being on this sex site I and everyone on it should be willing to meet without rappor.. meet without a social... laugh at the meet suggestion of a social.. and have sex without necessarily being attracted to the other...
Is it me or are some people on this site unreasonable for making assumptions and not being open to other people's way of doing things..
I like fab I really do.. I lack the confidence to really enjoy it as some do but i like that everyone is (mostly) honest about what they want.. I'm just struggling with the pressure single guys seem to think they have the right to put on single females to meet on their terms
We feel it's become too much of a dating site. Too many rules and boundries on some profiles. Height, tatts, size, socails, connection, ect ect. We have a few basic rules. We are here for the sexual enconters and pure sex. It's not like were gonna marry the person. We don't do socails or endless ping pong mail. We're old fashioned swingers. Casual sex mostly unplanned with strangers.
Part of the thrill for us is you don't know the "play" your get.
Ironically, as I understand it, "old fashioned" swinging is about being good friends with the people you're having sex with and regularly socializing with them.
I'd suggest, respectfully, that the people who play 'ping pong' emails and so forth are the old fashioned ones - not you.
We don't waste our time with endless ping pong emails. We would rather spend time playing than chatting. We only been swinging for 50 years between us, so still learning.
We'd rather waste a few strokes of the keyboard on multiple emails, than petrol money etc on people who turn out to be unpleasant mouth breathers. "
... surely the point is that you do it in whatever way works best for you? We are all different & we all like different things ... and it would be a very dull world if that weren’t the case!!
OP - definitely, set your filters & message or wink at guys you want to be able to contact.
Also ‘delete/block/report’ where necessary x |
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"Oh yes...I can see how that digital harassment must be hard to refuse, ffs!!! I’m sorry but it really grates on me when people bang on about hassle on here..
Like people say..BLOCK = SORTED
I have no idea how cyber bullying is so effective...there’s these great things with technology called odd names like OFF - REPORT _ LOG OUT?? My grandad fought real people with weapons that could actually kill you to read about things like cyber hassle??
Im sorry to have caused you such offence."
Don't worry, his grandad fought real people with real weapons, so that he could be offended... |
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"I'm having reservations due to other users comments on this site and how you should act.
Im all for nsa.. casual relationship exploratory sexual relations... if i ever have a relationship I want both parties to be able to sleep with others if they so wish... but.. I have standards and apparently just by being on this sex site I and everyone on it should be willing to meet without rappor.. meet without a social... laugh at the meet suggestion of a social.. and have sex without necessarily being attracted to the other...
Is it me or are some people on this site unreasonable for making assumptions and not being open to other people's way of doing things..
I like fab I really do.. I lack the confidence to really enjoy it as some do but i like that everyone is (mostly) honest about what they want.. I'm just struggling with the pressure single guys seem to think they have the right to put on single females to meet on their terms
We feel it's become too much of a dating site. Too many rules and boundries on some profiles. Height, tatts, size, socails, connection, ect ect. We have a few basic rules. We are here for the sexual enconters and pure sex. It's not like were gonna marry the person. We don't do socails or endless ping pong mail. We're old fashioned swingers. Casual sex mostly unplanned with strangers.
Part of the thrill for us is you don't know the "play" your get.
Ironically, as I understand it, "old fashioned" swinging is about being good friends with the people you're having sex with and regularly socializing with them.
I'd suggest, respectfully, that the people who play 'ping pong' emails and so forth are the old fashioned ones - not you.
We don't waste our time with endless ping pong emails. We would rather spend time playing than chatting. We only been swinging for 50 years between us, so still learning.
We'd rather waste a few strokes of the keyboard on multiple emails, than petrol money etc on people who turn out to be unpleasant mouth breathers. "
Have you been watching stranger things?? Lol |
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"To be fair, if you said "I have a woman unconscious in a hotel room, who's up for fun?" Or "Here's my girlfriend's address, she wants a r*pe roll play."
Some guys would turn up, no questions asked... "
I'm glad I'm not some guys  |
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Some people on here are jerks, avoid them. They can't upset you or affect your enjoyment of the site if you don't let them. Blocking fools and being careful about who you meet are the best options.
I believe as singles there's more of a need to be 'choosy' because of potential safety issues. As a couple there's two of you so it's probably less of an issue. Which means chatting and socials may not be needed so much.
As for the grandad who fought real people I tend to agree. Faceless people on the internet are just that. (Of course if it's serious and there are threats etc. it needs dealing with by the Police.) But letting words on a screen affect you is largely your choice because you can block, switch off etc |
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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago
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Change your setting so that people can't message you that way you can message those that interest you. Fab is what you make of it and how you choose to use it is up to you, nobody should be able to dictate whether you meet or not. Everybody be they male or female has the right to say no. |
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