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over a year ago
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Sorry, this may sound like a daft question from newbie but ..... when I see socials advertised, how do they work ? Is it a 100% social event just for swingers or more of a mixed event ? I am in South Yorkshire so might be interested in attending a local one with some guidance. Cheers. Will |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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It's normally in a public place like a bar or hall where people get together to meet new people. There is no play involved, Do not attend with that expectation. Some may decide to play after. Just like a normal time at the pub really. |
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"Sorry, this may sound like a daft question from newbie but ..... when I see socials advertised, how do they work ? Is it a 100% social event just for swingers or more of a mixed event ? I am in South Yorkshire so might be interested in attending a local one with some guidance. Cheers. Will"
they vary so widely, you'd be best to ask the organisers what their boundaries are.
i think it varies hugely on where they are held. We've found that those held in clubs tend not to be just social and there is an expectation of play. |
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Usually a social means you meet to chat over a drink and see if you get along with a view to meeting for sex at a later date. Sort of networking for swingers.
Some socials move on to sex the same day and some don't. It's best to assume that they don't. |
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"Sorry, this may sound like a daft question from newbie but ..... when I see socials advertised, how do they work ? Is it a 100% social event just for swingers or more of a mixed event ? I am in South Yorkshire so might be interested in attending a local one with some guidance. Cheers. Will"
Socials are events where swingers gather to socialise and meet new people. They are normally held in pubs so there is no play or nakedness involved. They are a great way to find out what is going on in the local scene like private parties and a perfect way for new people to dip their toes in. There is also the bonus that you can get many verifications in one go.
We don't know where the poster above gets the idea they are for timewasters, they obviously have never been to one, or has been and didn't get any interest.
Socials are for people who actually get of their arse, move away from the keyboard and meet real people. |
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"Sorry, this may sound like a daft question from newbie but ..... when I see socials advertised, how do they work ? Is it a 100% social event just for swingers or more of a mixed event ? I am in South Yorkshire so might be interested in attending a local one with some guidance. Cheers. Will
Socials are events where swingers gather to socialise and meet new people. They are normally held in pubs so there is no play or nakedness involved. They are a great way to find out what is going on in the local scene like private parties and a perfect way for new people to dip their toes in. There is also the bonus that you can get many verifications in one go.
We don't know where the poster above gets the idea they are for timewasters, they obviously have never been to one, or has been and didn't get any interest.
Socials are for people who actually get of their arse, move away from the keyboard and meet real people."
I think the poster above was joking |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Sorry, this may sound like a daft question from newbie but ..... when I see socials advertised, how do they work ? Is it a 100% social event just for swingers or more of a mixed event ? I am in South Yorkshire so might be interested in attending a local one with some guidance. Cheers. Will
Socials are events where swingers gather to socialise and meet new people. They are normally held in pubs so there is no play or nakedness involved. They are a great way to find out what is going on in the local scene like private parties and a perfect way for new people to dip their toes in. There is also the bonus that you can get many verifications in one go.
We don't know where the poster above gets the idea they are for timewasters, they obviously have never been to one, or has been and didn't get any interest.
Socials are for people who actually get of their arse, move away from the keyboard and meet real people."
I think the poster above was joking |
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"Sorry, this may sound like a daft question from newbie but ..... when I see socials advertised, how do they work ? Is it a 100% social event just for swingers or more of a mixed event ? I am in South Yorkshire so might be interested in attending a local one with some guidance. Cheers. Will
Socials are events where swingers gather to socialise and meet new people. They are normally held in pubs so there is no play or nakedness involved. They are a great way to find out what is going on in the local scene like private parties and a perfect way for new people to dip their toes in. There is also the bonus that you can get many verifications in one go.
We don't know where the poster above gets the idea they are for timewasters, they obviously have never been to one, or has been and didn't get any interest.
Socials are for people who actually get of their arse, move away from the keyboard and meet real people.
I think the poster above was joking"
Nothing makes me skip a profile as fast as a veri list made of "met at a social hopefully more fun next time!"..... there won't be a next time. |
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"Sorry, this may sound like a daft question from newbie but ..... when I see socials advertised, how do they work ? Is it a 100% social event just for swingers or more of a mixed event ? I am in South Yorkshire so might be interested in attending a local one with some guidance. Cheers. Will
Socials are events where swingers gather to socialise and meet new people. They are normally held in pubs so there is no play or nakedness involved. They are a great way to find out what is going on in the local scene like private parties and a perfect way for new people to dip their toes in. There is also the bonus that you can get many verifications in one go.
We don't know where the poster above gets the idea they are for timewasters, they obviously have never been to one, or has been and didn't get any interest.
Socials are for people who actually get of their arse, move away from the keyboard and meet real people.
I think the poster above was joking
Nothing makes me skip a profile as fast as a veri list made of "met at a social hopefully more fun next time!"..... there won't be a next time. "
WebCam meets have the same effect on us, although one or two are fine to verify they are who they purport to be but a long list? |
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"Sorry, this may sound like a daft question from newbie but ..... when I see socials advertised, how do they work ? Is it a 100% social event just for swingers or more of a mixed event ? I am in South Yorkshire so might be interested in attending a local one with some guidance. Cheers. Will
Socials are events where swingers gather to socialise and meet new people. They are normally held in pubs so there is no play or nakedness involved. They are a great way to find out what is going on in the local scene like private parties and a perfect way for new people to dip their toes in. There is also the bonus that you can get many verifications in one go.
We don't know where the poster above gets the idea they are for timewasters, they obviously have never been to one, or has been and didn't get any interest.
Socials are for people who actually get of their arse, move away from the keyboard and meet real people.
I think the poster above was joking
Nothing makes me skip a profile as fast as a veri list made of "met at a social hopefully more fun next time!"..... there won't be a next time.
WebCam meets have the same effect on us, although one or two are fine to verify they are who they purport to be but a long list?"
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"Sorry, this may sound like a daft question from newbie but ..... when I see socials advertised, how do they work ? Is it a 100% social event just for swingers or more of a mixed event ? I am in South Yorkshire so might be interested in attending a local one with some guidance. Cheers. Will
Socials are events where swingers gather to socialise and meet new people. They are normally held in pubs so there is no play or nakedness involved. They are a great way to find out what is going on in the local scene like private parties and a perfect way for new people to dip their toes in. There is also the bonus that you can get many verifications in one go.
We don't know where the poster above gets the idea they are for timewasters, they obviously have never been to one, or has been and didn't get any interest.
Socials are for people who actually get of their arse, move away from the keyboard and meet real people.
I think the poster above was joking
Nothing makes me skip a profile as fast as a veri list made of "met at a social hopefully more fun next time!"..... there won't be a next time. "
That may be the case for them. Doesn't mean a social will end that way for you. The lady you meet, may just think you're exactly what she's looking for.
I've had plenty of socials whereas some guys looked little like their pics. Some looked the same if not better.
I also take from a social whether I get on with the guy. As a genuine single woman, I will never meet a guy alone for sex if on a social, he makes me feel uncomfortable.
Met a guy in the past, straight for sex. I arrived and he looked nothing like his Pics! All the effort I went to, not to mention travel costs, was for nothing! Never again.
Socials can Show and prove a whole lot of things. I'm not desperate for sex, so for me, socials first are essential |
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A social is simply that , an opportunity to meet like minded people in a safe and non playing environment .
There is a huge % on here who love the social aspect of swinging . They live for the thrill of looking forward to the next opportunity to pretend they are real swingers by dressing up and parading themselves at these socials . The veri list grows with each social attended , and they revel in saying that most of their veris are from social meets .
So we completely agree with Clem when he says socials are a place where timewasters meet . And we’ve been to plenty and never yet gone to one without playing . Despite being banned from our local monthly social some years ago for having a mass orgy in the men’s toilets !
We now go and play with like minded swingers away from the actual event , or take them dogging . Now and again we get the luxury of a hotel room if they’ve travelled and have one .
This is very much frowned upon by the holier than thou brigade though , who insist the social should be respected as a non playing event . So much so that we can’t be bothered with socials any more for fear of being tarred and feathered and banished to the inner depths of swinging hell   |
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Socials are the closest I've ever gotten to dating... The novelty wore off real quick and I've rebecome a person of loose virtues again lol... Which is infinitely more rewarding than getting d*unk, talking about sex and going home d*unk and horny imo...
I do have a real penchant for a social at a swinger/naturist venue you can go and have sex with your meet if you both feel horny though = perfect solution lol |
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"A social is simply that , an opportunity to meet like minded people in a safe and non playing environment .
There is a huge % on here who love the social aspect of swinging . They live for the thrill of looking forward to the next opportunity to pretend they are real swingers by dressing up and parading themselves at these socials . The veri list grows with each social attended , and they revel in saying that most of their veris are from social meets .
So we completely agree with Clem when he says socials are a place where timewasters meet . And we’ve been to plenty and never yet gone to one without playing . Despite being banned from our local monthly social some years ago for having a mass orgy in the men’s toilets !
We now go and play with like minded swingers away from the actual event , or take them dogging . Now and again we get the luxury of a hotel room if they’ve travelled and have one .
This is very much frowned upon by the holier than thou brigade though , who insist the social should be respected as a non playing event . So much so that we can’t be bothered with socials any more for fear of being tarred and feathered and banished to the inner depths of swinging hell "
And so was born; The 'SS' (Serial Socialisers)  |
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Maybe that's where I go wrong... I kind of assume that single females would prefer a 'social-and-see' for a first time, safety first and all that?
Then again some thought and politeness to messages doesn't seem to help much either... :D |
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"Maybe that's where I go wrong... I kind of assume that single females would prefer a 'social-and-see' for a first time, safety first and all that?
Then again some thought and politeness to messages doesn't seem to help much either... :D"
some people prefer a social first and some don't. Neither is wrong. People who don't like socials tend to avoid them which seems entirely sensible to me and people who do like them go to them which also seems entirely sensible.
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the amount of verifications for social costa coffee meets is staggering , also very few followed up by a meet to get more intimate time later , it just makes me think theres a lot of bored housewives on here who just want to be admired lol |
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IT depends on where the social is and whether it's a group social or just a profile wanting a social.
Group events tend to be where several go and unless it's in a swingers club then there's no play at them. These give you a chance to meet others and have a good laugh (in my experience).
If it's someone saying they're looking for a social then it's whatever they're looking for, could be just a social or could have the opportunity to go further. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Sorry, this may sound like a daft question from newbie but ..... when I see socials advertised, how do they work ? Is it a 100% social event just for swingers or more of a mixed event ? I am in South Yorkshire so might be interested in attending a local one with some guidance. Cheers. Will
Socials are events where swingers gather to socialise and meet new people. They are normally held in pubs so there is no play or nakedness involved. They are a great way to find out what is going on in the local scene like private parties and a perfect way for new people to dip their toes in. There is also the bonus that you can get many verifications in one go.
We don't know where the poster above gets the idea they are for timewasters, they obviously have never been to one, or has been and didn't get any interest.
Socials are for people who actually get of their arse, move away from the keyboard and meet real people.
I think the poster above was joking
Nothing makes me skip a profile as fast as a veri list made of "met at a social hopefully more fun next time!"..... there won't be a next time. "
Funny and true.. |
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"the amount of verifications for social costa coffee meets is staggering , also very few followed up by a meet to get more intimate time later , it just makes me think theres a lot of bored housewives on here who just want to be admired lol "
Mainly because the first meet is generally for a social chat over a drink, and the profile verification follow-up confirms the person/couple is genuine, and everything they purport to be in their profile. Whether you go on to arrange a more intimate meet afterward, is your business, and doesn't require another verification |
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"A social is simply that , an opportunity to meet like minded people in a safe and non playing environment .
There is a huge % on here who love the social aspect of swinging . They live for the thrill of looking forward to the next opportunity to pretend they are real swingers by dressing up and parading themselves at these socials . The veri list grows with each social attended , and they revel in saying that most of their veris are from social meets .
So we completely agree with Clem when he says socials are a place where timewasters meet . And we’ve been to plenty and never yet gone to one without playing . Despite being banned from our local monthly social some years ago for having a mass orgy in the men’s toilets !
We now go and play with like minded swingers away from the actual event , or take them dogging . Now and again we get the luxury of a hotel room if they’ve travelled and have one .
This is very much frowned upon by the holier than thou brigade though , who insist the social should be respected as a non playing event . So much so that we can’t be bothered with socials any more for fear of being tarred and feathered and banished to the inner depths of swinging hell
And so was born; The 'SS' (Serial Socialisers) "
The ex SS ..... |
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"the amount of verifications for social costa coffee meets is staggering , also very few followed up by a meet to get more intimate time later , it just makes me think theres a lot of bored housewives on here who just want to be admired lol
Mainly because the first meet is generally for a social chat over a drink, and the profile verification follow-up confirms the person/couple is genuine, and everything they purport to be in their profile. Whether you go on to arrange a more intimate meet afterward, is your business, and doesn't require another verification "
Perhaps that’s the case. And perhaps it’s not , who knows ?
We no longer display our verifications but when we did we had no social veris at all .
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By (user no longer on site)
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We attended one at the Yorkshire Wildlife Park a couple of years ago that was organised by someone from another site we were on, it was a nice day, no pressure and friendly.
It did indeed lead to some very interesting times at later date.
We also have social meets when we connect with someone from here or other sites. That way we can check whether there's chemistry, it works both ways of course, as we may not be what the other party wants or expects.
But simply stated, it's what one makes it. |
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"the amount of verifications for social costa coffee meets is staggering , also very few followed up by a meet to get more intimate time later , it just makes me think theres a lot of bored housewives on here who just want to be admired lol
Mainly because the first meet is generally for a social chat over a drink, and the profile verification follow-up confirms the person/couple is genuine, and everything they purport to be in their profile. Whether you go on to arrange a more intimate meet afterward, is your business, and doesn't require another verification "
hahaha pull the other one it may whistle Dixie  |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"A social is simply that , an opportunity to meet like minded people in a safe and non playing environment .
There is a huge % on here who love the social aspect of swinging . They live for the thrill of looking forward to the next opportunity to pretend they are real swingers by dressing up and parading themselves at these socials . The veri list grows with each social attended , and they revel in saying that most of their veris are from social meets .
So we completely agree with Clem when he says socials are a place where timewasters meet . And we’ve been to plenty and never yet gone to one without playing . Despite being banned from our local monthly social some years ago for having a mass orgy in the men’s toilets !
We now go and play with like minded swingers away from the actual event , or take them dogging . Now and again we get the luxury of a hotel room if they’ve travelled and have one .
This is very much frowned upon by the holier than thou brigade though , who insist the social should be respected as a non playing event . So much so that we can’t be bothered with socials any more for fear of being tarred and feathered and banished to the inner depths of swinging hell "
If people meet and play after a social that's up to them however I think it's unacceptable to behave like that in public, however, we all have different opinions I guess. |
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"the amount of verifications for social costa coffee meets is staggering , also very few followed up by a meet to get more intimate time later , it just makes me think theres a lot of bored housewives on here who just want to be admired lol
Mainly because the first meet is generally for a social chat over a drink, and the profile verification follow-up confirms the person/couple is genuine, and everything they purport to be in their profile. Whether you go on to arrange a more intimate meet afterward, is your business, and doesn't require another verification hahaha pull the other one it may whistle Dixie "
"Yep, this is the third time I've verified this person, and they are still the same person I met 4 months ago"  |
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"the amount of verifications for social costa coffee meets is staggering , also very few followed up by a meet to get more intimate time later , it just makes me think theres a lot of bored housewives on here who just want to be admired lol
Mainly because the first meet is generally for a social chat over a drink, and the profile verification follow-up confirms the person/couple is genuine, and everything they purport to be in their profile. Whether you go on to arrange a more intimate meet afterward, is your business, and doesn't require another verification hahaha pull the other one it may whistle Dixie
"Yep, this is the third time I've verified this person, and they are still the same person I met 4 months ago" "
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By (user no longer on site)
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A place where fab members who have no vanilla friends, go to socialise and burn up your time, with no intention of ever meeting for a play at a future date |
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"Sorry, this may sound like a daft question from newbie but ..... when I see socials advertised, how do they work ? Is it a 100% social event just for swingers or more of a mixed event ? I am in South Yorkshire so might be interested in attending a local one with some guidance. Cheers. Will"
No idea, never had one!! |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"the amount of verifications for social costa coffee meets is staggering , also very few followed up by a meet to get more intimate time later , it just makes me think theres a lot of bored housewives on here who just want to be admired lol
Mainly because the first meet is generally for a social chat over a drink, and the profile verification follow-up confirms the person/couple is genuine, and everything they purport to be in their profile. Whether you go on to arrange a more intimate meet afterward, is your business, and doesn't require another verification hahaha pull the other one it may whistle Dixie
"Yep, this is the third time I've verified this person, and they are still the same person I met 4 months ago" "
Don't do it then! |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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So if you only ever want play meets then don't attend socials and leave them to the people who want to keep it as a social. Some of us aren't up for random fucks straight away, and plenty of us prefer to meet socially first. It's perfectly simple. |
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"the amount of verifications for social costa coffee meets is staggering , also very few followed up by a meet to get more intimate time later , it just makes me think theres a lot of bored housewives on here who just want to be admired lol "
How could you possibly know if the social was followed up by a meet or not? |
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"the amount of verifications for social costa coffee meets is staggering , also very few followed up by a meet to get more intimate time later , it just makes me think theres a lot of bored housewives on here who just want to be admired lol
Mainly because the first meet is generally for a social chat over a drink, and the profile verification follow-up confirms the person/couple is genuine, and everything they purport to be in their profile. Whether you go on to arrange a more intimate meet afterward, is your business, and doesn't require another verification hahaha pull the other one it may whistle Dixie
"Yep, this is the third time I've verified this person, and they are still the same person I met 4 months ago" "
Except hopefully after the second meet you can also verify they actually play, rather than just "Serial Socialise" |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
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"the amount of verifications for social costa coffee meets is staggering , also very few followed up by a meet to get more intimate time later , it just makes me think theres a lot of bored housewives on here who just want to be admired lol
How could you possibly know if the social was followed up by a meet or not?"
Some people on swap 1 veri so you wouldn't know in that case. |
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"the amount of verifications for social costa coffee meets is staggering , also very few followed up by a meet to get more intimate time later , it just makes me think theres a lot of bored housewives on here who just want to be admired lol
How could you possibly know if the social was followed up by a meet or not?"
I cant know nor do I want to know , its an assumption made on observations only ! |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
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"the amount of verifications for social costa coffee meets is staggering , also very few followed up by a meet to get more intimate time later , it just makes me think theres a lot of bored housewives on here who just want to be admired lol
Mainly because the first meet is generally for a social chat over a drink, and the profile verification follow-up confirms the person/couple is genuine, and everything they purport to be in their profile. Whether you go on to arrange a more intimate meet afterward, is your business, and doesn't require another verification hahaha pull the other one it may whistle Dixie
"Yep, this is the third time I've verified this person, and they are still the same person I met 4 months ago"
Except hopefully after the second meet you can also verify they actually play, rather than just "Serial Socialise" "
Personally I won't meet for sex unless there's a social first to see if we click. I couldn't think of anything worse than arranging to meet for sex and finding there's no spark. At least with a social first you can find that out, if not you've still had a nice time and it can be left at that. |
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"the amount of verifications for social costa coffee meets is staggering , also very few followed up by a meet to get more intimate time later , it just makes me think theres a lot of bored housewives on here who just want to be admired lol
Mainly because the first meet is generally for a social chat over a drink, and the profile verification follow-up confirms the person/couple is genuine, and everything they purport to be in their profile. Whether you go on to arrange a more intimate meet afterward, is your business, and doesn't require another verification hahaha pull the other one it may whistle Dixie
"Yep, this is the third time I've verified this person, and they are still the same person I met 4 months ago"
Don't do it then! "
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"the amount of verifications for social costa coffee meets is staggering , also very few followed up by a meet to get more intimate time later , it just makes me think theres a lot of bored housewives on here who just want to be admired lol
Mainly because the first meet is generally for a social chat over a drink, and the profile verification follow-up confirms the person/couple is genuine, and everything they purport to be in their profile. Whether you go on to arrange a more intimate meet afterward, is your business, and doesn't require another verification hahaha pull the other one it may whistle Dixie
"Yep, this is the third time I've verified this person, and they are still the same person I met 4 months ago"
Except hopefully after the second meet you can also verify they actually play, rather than just "Serial Socialise"
Personally I won't meet for sex unless there's a social first to see if we click. I couldn't think of anything worse than arranging to meet for sex and finding there's no spark. At least with a social first you can find that out, if not you've still had a nice time and it can be left at that. "
So let’s say you’re at a social and you connect with someone . They live 100 miles away , but have a hotel room . Wouldn’t you go off for some fun with them ? |
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"So if you only ever want play meets then don't attend socials and leave them to the people who want to keep it as a social. Some of us aren't up for random fucks straight away, and plenty of us prefer to meet socially first. It's perfectly simple. "
Or just go out to a pub. |
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I've been to one social event.
Bumped into a former colleague and a friend who I didn't know was on fab, as well as a few people I know from fab.
Mostly couples and felt a bit clique-y. But a pleasant afternoon of networking.
But shortly afterwards, I was contacted by someone who had seen me there, who invited me to a party, because I turned up and was genuine. |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"the amount of verifications for social costa coffee meets is staggering , also very few followed up by a meet to get more intimate time later , it just makes me think theres a lot of bored housewives on here who just want to be admired lol
Mainly because the first meet is generally for a social chat over a drink, and the profile verification follow-up confirms the person/couple is genuine, and everything they purport to be in their profile. Whether you go on to arrange a more intimate meet afterward, is your business, and doesn't require another verification hahaha pull the other one it may whistle Dixie
"Yep, this is the third time I've verified this person, and they are still the same person I met 4 months ago"
Except hopefully after the second meet you can also verify they actually play, rather than just "Serial Socialise"
Personally I won't meet for sex unless there's a social first to see if we click. I couldn't think of anything worse than arranging to meet for sex and finding there's no spark. At least with a social first you can find that out, if not you've still had a nice time and it can be left at that.
So let’s say you’re at a social and you connect with someone . They live 100 miles away , but have a hotel room . Wouldn’t you go off for some fun with them ?"
I wouldn't meet them for a social in the first place as I'm looking for local and regular not cars or hotels as it says on my profile. |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
"So if you only ever want play meets then don't attend socials and leave them to the people who want to keep it as a social. Some of us aren't up for random fucks straight away, and plenty of us prefer to meet socially first. It's perfectly simple.
Or just go out to a pub."
Glass of wine please |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"the amount of verifications for social costa coffee meets is staggering , also very few followed up by a meet to get more intimate time later , it just makes me think theres a lot of bored housewives on here who just want to be admired lol
How could you possibly know if the social was followed up by a meet or not?
Some people on swap 1 veri so you wouldn't know in that case. "
absolutely...or we don't display repeat veris if we get one. We always have a social, they very often end up going further and we've had lots of follow up from organised socials too...the only social we hated was one at a now defunct club...nobody was very friendly and they all disappeared at 9 or so to fuck downstairs...luckily, we'd run into a couple we'd had a previous social with and ended up back at ours... |
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"So if you only ever want play meets then don't attend socials and leave them to the people who want to keep it as a social. Some of us aren't up for random fucks straight away, and plenty of us prefer to meet socially first. It's perfectly simple. "
Well said Lady!! XXXXXX |
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"the amount of verifications for social costa coffee meets is staggering , also very few followed up by a meet to get more intimate time later , it just makes me think theres a lot of bored housewives on here who just want to be admired lol
How could you possibly know if the social was followed up by a meet or not?I cant know nor do I want to know , its an assumption made on observations only ! "
You made a statement that very few socials are followed up by a meet. I ask you again, how could you possibly know that to be true? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"the amount of verifications for social costa coffee meets is staggering , also very few followed up by a meet to get more intimate time later , it just makes me think theres a lot of bored housewives on here who just want to be admired lol
How could you possibly know if the social was followed up by a meet or not?I cant know nor do I want to know , its an assumption made on observations only !
You made a statement that very few socials are followed up by a meet. I ask you again, how could you possibly know that to be true?"
Got to love the assumption brigade. To me they sound bitter.
All of my verifys are from social meets first. I've met them again at a different date for play. So it does happen and us social lovers aren't time wasters!!
I will never write a verify nor ask them to write me a verify describing anything sexual that we did.
Sexually what I get up to, is between myself and that guy. It's nobody else's business!
Personally I find written detailed sex meets cringy. What I like doing, doesn't mean his next lady will and vice versa. So it's pointless if a guy has a detailed verify describing his sex meet. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"A social is simply that , an opportunity to meet like minded people in a safe and non playing environment .
There is a huge % on here who love the social aspect of swinging . They live for the thrill of looking forward to the next opportunity to pretend they are real swingers by dressing up and parading themselves at these socials . The veri list grows with each social attended , and they revel in saying that most of their veris are from social meets .
So we completely agree with Clem when he says socials are a place where timewasters meet ......
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Maybe some, I'm still new to swinging, but the two I've been to, (and have lots of social veris from ), I've only cone away with new people to talk to in the hop of meeting up more privately.
Op, a social is what you make it, a chance to meet people for what you want. Don't let anyone put you off discovering that for yourself. |
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"You gotta love how these threads always spiral into debates. Just love how people show their cards in this game. Such a great filter.
Ed"
Hey you can't block ALL the dreamers, the servers wouldn't cope with the size of the block lists! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I love social gatherings and regularly attend the Sussex Social. I've met some of my best girlfriends thru the social over the years, and it's good to network with local people who are active on the scene rather than hiding behind their laptops at home. I usually find someone to take my fancy and will have some fun afterwards with them, or invite them to a party or club another time. For me it's just a chilled evening in a local pub chatting to some new faces.
I'm not bothered about verifications but for single guys in particular, socials are a good way yo meet some real people and get verified. Whether you play or not! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"A place where timewasters like to gather. "
I have to disagree with that statement i go to a large social where most of the people are regular players.
It gives some people a foot on the ladder especially guys struggling to meet as i know its difficult on fab for some.
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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago
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As someone else said socials are what you make them, yes some just go for the social aspects but others go with the view of meeting people and seeing if there is a connections which can be followed up.
As a couple looking to meet couples that means there are four people who have to happy, therefore we meet loads of people but very few lead to follow up meets for that reason. It does mean we achieve quickly what would otherwise take years to achieve if we were to meet couples individually.
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"A social is simply that , an opportunity to meet like minded people in a safe and non playing environment .
There is a huge % on here who love the social aspect of swinging . They live for the thrill of looking forward to the next opportunity to pretend they are real swingers by dressing up and parading themselves at these socials . The veri list grows with each social attended , and they revel in saying that most of their veris are from social meets .
So we completely agree with Clem when he says socials are a place where timewasters meet . And we’ve been to plenty and never yet gone to one without playing . Despite being banned from our local monthly social some years ago for having a mass orgy in the men’s toilets !
We now go and play with like minded swingers away from the actual event , or take them dogging . Now and again we get the luxury of a hotel room if they’ve travelled and have one .
This is very much frowned upon by the holier than thou brigade though , who insist the social should be respected as a non playing event . So much so that we can’t be bothered with socials any more for fear of being tarred and feathered and banished to the inner depths of swinging hell "
Socials are just that, held usually in public venues where non-swingers work, so playing there is only going to lead to issues.
We go with the intention of having a good time, meeting old friends and making new ones, and possibly playing in our hotel room after. Sometimes there will be a small party at someones home.
It is true to a number of people who attend socials may not be prolific in their swinging activities, but our experience is that the majority are genuine swingers. |
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"A social is simply that , an opportunity to meet like minded people in a safe and non playing environment .
There is a huge % on here who love the social aspect of swinging . They live for the thrill of looking forward to the next opportunity to pretend they are real swingers by dressing up and parading themselves at these socials . The veri list grows with each social attended , and they revel in saying that most of their veris are from social meets .
So we completely agree with Clem when he says socials are a place where timewasters meet . And we’ve been to plenty and never yet gone to one without playing . Despite being banned from our local monthly social some years ago for having a mass orgy in the men’s toilets !
We now go and play with like minded swingers away from the actual event , or take them dogging . Now and again we get the luxury of a hotel room if they’ve travelled and have one .
This is very much frowned upon by the holier than thou brigade though , who insist the social should be respected as a non playing event . So much so that we can’t be bothered with socials any more for fear of being tarred and feathered and banished to the inner depths of swinging hell
Socials are just that, held usually in public venues where non-swingers work, so playing there is only going to lead to issues.
We go with the intention of having a good time, meeting old friends and making new ones, and possibly playing in our hotel room after. Sometimes there will be a small party at someones home.
It is true to a number of people who attend socials may not be prolific in their swinging activities, but our experience is that the majority are genuine swingers."
This is the most realistic comment on this thread. May as well close it now  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I don't like the organised group socials, I'm not a sociable person and also find them boring as there's rarely anyone there that I'm interested in playing with. However we always prefer to have a social meet with potential playmates so we can see if we actually like them and want to play with them. These can be in a cafe or pub or even at a club. It works well for us |
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"Sorry, this may sound like a daft question from newbie but ..... when I see socials advertised, how do they work ? Is it a 100% social event just for swingers or more of a mixed event ? I am in South Yorkshire so might be interested in attending a local one with some guidance. Cheers. Will"
The Pandoras Club in Leeds is holding regular socials at their clubs on Sundays. They allow people to meet like minded people to chat and are free to enter. If you meet with someone and would like to play... then you pay the normal club entry fee and you can use the play rooms.
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I’ve only been to one organised social, held in my home town, by a group of local swingers. When I got to the venue, and sat down with my drink, I received a message from a couple, advising me to stay away, as another couple they know, found out their kids knew about the event, were chattering about in via Facebook, and were planning on popping down to see what was going on  I removed myself to a table in a corner, and watched the party have their fun, but also observed the staff ‘nudge, nudge, wink, winking’ and giggling between themselves. I doubt other ‘group’ social events are as public, but that evening certainly put me off |
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"I’ve only been to one organised social, held in my home town, by a group of local swingers. When I got to the venue, and sat down with my drink, I received a message from a couple, advising me to stay away, as another couple they know, found out their kids knew about the event, were chattering about in via Facebook, and were planning on popping down to see what was going on I removed myself to a table in a corner, and watched the party have their fun, but also observed the staff ‘nudge, nudge, wink, winking’ and giggling between themselves. I doubt other ‘group’ social events are as public, but that evening certainly put me off "
I went to one like that once. Some little quiet pub that amazingly was full of single men. The landlord kept commenting how it's usually dead in there. Clearly word had got out but he had no idea. |
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