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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I've been on and off fab for two years and I still wonder what I'm doing here
I Suddenly found myself single again so when a friend suggested fab I thought why not give it a try so I arranged a meet which went well a lot of kissing and a little play but when he left I cried for the rest of the day
And I still feel guilty when I meet so will it get easier or should I just give up?
Please be nice |
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"I've been on and off fab for two years and I still wonder what I'm doing here
I Suddenly found myself single again so when a friend suggested fab I thought why not give it a try so I arranged a meet which went well a lot of kissing and a little play but when he left I cried for the rest of the day
And I still feel guilty when I meet so will it get easier or should I just give up?
Please be nice"
If it makes you cry and feel guilty, stop doing it. It's a voluntary activity that required you to actively sign up to a web site and contribute to the effort required to arrange a meet. Stop deliberately hurting yourself. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I've been on and off fab for two years and I still wonder what I'm doing here
I Suddenly found myself single again so when a friend suggested fab I thought why not give it a try so I arranged a meet which went well a lot of kissing and a little play but when he left I cried for the rest of the day
And I still feel guilty when I meet so will it get easier or should I just give up?
Please be nice
If it makes you cry and feel guilty, stop doing it. It's a voluntary activity that required you to actively sign up to a web site and contribute to the effort required to arrange a meet. Stop deliberately hurting yourself."
Thanks for your advice |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I agree it's hard though as I do miss intimacy "
If the route to intimacy you're taking is making you feel bad, find another, potentially less effective route.
Don't panic, it will come at its own pace, and youwl won't feel bad when it gets there. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I agree it's hard though as I do miss intimacy "
I have a lovely partner on her and we share some very intimate moments with we are best friends too !
So you can find what your looking for just might not be to easy ? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I agree it's hard though as I do miss intimacy
I have a lovely partner on her and we share some very intimate moments with we are best friends too !
So you can find what your looking for just might not be to easy ? "
That's just it though I'm not looking for a partner I couldn't put myself through that pain again
I do miss male company though |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you pop the letter n into your name..it would read a bit like 'santa baby' 
Also..sounds like its not totally for you..you can still stay and dick about the forums and such though, and who knows..your feelings may change |
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"I agree it's hard though as I do miss intimacy
I have a lovely partner on her and we share some very intimate moments with we are best friends too !
So you can find what your looking for just might not be to easy ?
That's just it though I'm not looking for a partner I couldn't put myself through that pain again
I do miss male company though"
I get this completely. It can make you feel lonely and empty afterwards. I met with couples because I felt I would be less likely to get involved. It was fun at the time but made me sad when I went home. Maybe you need to heal a bit more yourself . Xx |
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"If you pop the letter n into your name..it would read a bit like 'santa baby'
Also..sounds like its not totally for you..you can still stay and dick about the forums and such though, and who knows..your feelings may change "
Damn how did I miss the N grrr and I can't change it
Yes and that's what I'm going to do |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What is it you feel guilty about?
Is it meeting others for sex?
Tbh it's the whole meeting guys not just the sex"
You sound as if your not ready for sex, and perhaps just a little lonely?
I'd suggest socialising via hobbies/pastimes. Keep it none sexual for now. Which means fab isn't the place for you right now. Good luck x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"What is it you feel guilty about?
Is it meeting others for sex?
Tbh it's the whole meeting guys not just the sex
You sound as if your not ready for sex, and perhaps just a little lonely?
I'd suggest socialising via hobbies/pastimes. Keep it none sexual for now. Which means fab isn't the place for you right now. Good luck x"
Thanks I think that your spot on,il just lurk around the forums for now x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you pop the letter n into your name..it would read a bit like 'santa baby'
Also..sounds like its not totally for you..you can still stay and dick about the forums and such though, and who knows..your feelings may change
Damn how did I miss the N grrr and I can't change it
Yes and that's what I'm going to do "
That's gonna annoy you now  so sorry!
And cool..no rules saying you need to be here meeting anyone. Just enjoy the bits of fab you like
You've been on the forums a bit, be nice to see you still about |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"If you pop the letter n into your name..it would read a bit like 'santa baby'
Also..sounds like its not totally for you..you can still stay and dick about the forums and such though, and who knows..your feelings may change
Damn how did I miss the N grrr and I can't change it
Yes and that's what I'm going to do
That's gonna annoy you now so sorry!
And cool..no rules saying you need to be here meeting anyone. Just enjoy the bits of fab you like
You've been on the forums a bit, be nice to see you still about "
It is annoying me and it's fine no need to be sorry
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By (user no longer on site)
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Swinging can be cold and a deep deep pond that sometimes the dregs come out before the clear water.
If you have a meet and cry when that person is gone, seems to me no swinging is not for you
It could the the time of year, could be anything, you say you miss intimacy and dont want a relationship as you are scared you will get hurt
Life throws lemons to you, and sometimes people with the best intentions hurt you, but being in love and having a deep connection is amazing, dont be afraid!
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Swinging can be cold and a deep deep pond that sometimes the dregs come out before the clear water.
If you have a meet and cry when that person is gone, seems to me no swinging is not for you
It could the the time of year, could be anything, you say you miss intimacy and dont want a relationship as you are scared you will get hurt
Life throws lemons to you, and sometimes people with the best intentions hurt you, but being in love and having a deep connection is amazing, dont be afraid!
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My late partner didn't intendtually set out to hurt me though I know what your saying and thank you |
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"I've been on and off fab for two years and I still wonder what I'm doing here
I Suddenly found myself single again so when a friend suggested fab I thought why not give it a try so I arranged a meet which went well a lot of kissing and a little play but when he left I cried for the rest of the day
And I still feel guilty when I meet so will it get easier or should I just give up?
Please be nice"
Sounds like you’re hoping to gain something you won’t find here.
Think of sex in two different boxes.
Box 1, intimate sex with someone familiar, you know ever inch of their body, you know their smell, and what they like and don’t like. It’s comfortable and is something that grows and needs to be nurtured.
Box 2, sex to feed a wanton desire, it’s raw and based on a basic animalistic instinct.
There’s no reason why , once you’ve got box 1, you can’t mix the contents of both boxes together once in a while. Some people are happy not to have box 1, some only want box 1, some like to have both boxes.
From what you say, you sound like a lady who needs box 1. So my advice is, find a man who is willing to create box 1 with you, then see if he fancies creating box 2.
Did all that make sense??? |
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