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So... we like meeting the odd single guy and have had some great meets (and some not so great ones...), but with all the single guys asking for meets, what do you look for to know that a guy understands couple dynamics, or how do you as a single guy demonstrate that level of depth? Interested to hear other people’s thoughts... |
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There are 3 fundamental checks that we do. First one is fairly basic - have they ticked the ‘MF couples’ box? Obviously if they haven’t then they are not looking for couples. However we are conscious that a lot of guys tick that box just to expand their chances of getting sex, and aren’t really interested in playing with a couple. So we look at the verifications to see if they play with couples. We will also read the profile text. If the text implies that they are on Fab to look for a lady, and there is no mention of couples at all in the text and there are no veris from couples, we will probably assume they are not that into couples. We find it easier to meet single guys on the scene though, as opposed to via Fab.
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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago
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For me if I was looking to meet off forum I would does couple look for single guy, are they within traveling distance for example London or Manchester, is there anything in photos that grabs my attention, do they do clubs and also have they met any friends ( m or f or mf)
A few couples won’t meet me as one I am a bit sub in photos, and also the Manchester ones think I am from London and don’t want someone passing through. That’s fine. I find London couples extremely difficult to meet - none kind of fit in to what I am looking for |
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Thanks - that’s helpful. On the scene... you mean at clubs and through friends?
I did once see a single man’s profile who had a very eloquent statement - something along the lines of “I fully understand that I’m a guest when I meet couples”. That resonated with us - you invite a guest because you want to entertain them and be entertained by them, certainly don’t expect them to invade your space or move in afterwards!
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Well actually - kudos for having the balls to post a pic which captures what you’re into, without worrying about what others think. Bizarre though that even in a place like this we have to worry about being judged! |
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I share some points from a singles guys point on view I've only ever had one social with a couple when I first joined fab and it don't go great I found the guy very pushy towards me playing with his mrs and could see she was as uncomfortable as me in that situation so I politely left and that cooled my interest. No I would say I'm little different than most single guys in regards to I don't just want a quick fuck and certainly not looking for a couple to tick any box however it is something that intrigues me and in mind it's not just about getting having a fuck with the female it's the whole build up and being involved in that situation with a couple. I would want to know what ticks the boxes for them and play my part in that ! That would be a massive turn on for me knowing how turned on the both of them are !
I just find it really hard connecting with couples as I find most want a quick last minute meet and don't like it when I ask to chat first, so my focus goes on meeting one. I do live in hope.
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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago
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"Thanks - that’s helpful. On the scene... you mean at clubs and through friends?
I did once see a single man’s profile who had a very eloquent statement - something along the lines of “I fully understand that I’m a guest when I meet couples”. That resonated with us - you invite a guest because you want to entertain them and be entertained by them, certainly don’t expect them to invade your space or move in afterwards!
R"
Tbh I wouldn’t have any to move in after anyway. Don’t get me wrong, I tend do be asked to be invited which means that I don’t always play because people don’t think I am assertive and that is fine.
Rather be know as someone who can behave and is decent, than someone that oversteps |
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We normally like to build a rapport, however we’ve been let down plenty of times and have resorted to last minute meets.
A question for you as a single guy would be, when you try and picture a scenario in your head before meeting a couple, how do you view the male half? Partner in crime, spectator, host, master, victim...?
"I share some points from a singles guys point on view I've only ever had one social with a couple when I first joined fab and it don't go great I found the guy very pushy towards me playing with his mrs and could see she was as uncomfortable as me in that situation so I politely left and that cooled my interest. No I would say I'm little different than most single guys in regards to I don't just want a quick fuck and certainly not looking for a couple to tick any box however it is something that intrigues me and in mind it's not just about getting having a fuck with the female it's the whole build up and being involved in that situation with a couple. I would want to know what ticks the boxes for them and play my part in that ! That would be a massive turn on for me knowing how turned on the both of them are !
I just find it really hard connecting with couples as I find most want a quick last minute meet and don't like it when I ask to chat first, so my focus goes on meeting one. I do live in hope.
Do you have any questions for a single guy ?
I'll always answer honestly "
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We prefer people who get us of course rather than be assertive for the sake of it... but with 130+ veris to your name we’d say you’re not doing toooo badly
"Thanks - that’s helpful. On the scene... you mean at clubs and through friends?
I did once see a single man’s profile who had a very eloquent statement - something along the lines of “I fully understand that I’m a guest when I meet couples”. That resonated with us - you invite a guest because you want to entertain them and be entertained by them, certainly don’t expect them to invade your space or move in afterwards!
R
Tbh I wouldn’t have any to move in after anyway. Don’t get me wrong, I tend do be asked to be invited which means that I don’t always play because people don’t think I am assertive and that is fine.
Rather be know as someone who can behave and is decent, than someone that oversteps "
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I would know before meeting what Mr wanted to get out of it ... what does he enjoy about the scenario ?
Does he enjoy watching his wife and then joining in ? Does he like to be fully involved in the fun? For me it's about them and I'm just an extra in the fun like I said I knowing the both of them are fully engaged in the fun would be a huge turn on and a big part of it for me |
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That sounds right - we view it very much as a three way experience, too many people just have their own wants and needs as their sole goal...
"I would know before meeting what Mr wanted to get out of it ... what does he enjoy about the scenario ?
Does he enjoy watching his wife and then joining in ? Does he like to be fully involved in the fun? For me it's about them and I'm just an extra in the fun like I said I knowing the both of them are fully engaged in the fun would be a huge turn on and a big part of it for me"
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I wouldn't get anything out of that at all !!
It's why I struggle on here, I think as s single guy I'm just expected to take whatever comes my way and that couldn't be further away from what I'm looking for however I do understand we are all different and try to embrace the site. |
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I’ve often wondered what it’d like to be on the site as a single guy (hopefully I’ll never find out!), but I imagine that unless you are under 35 and can crack a nut with your six pack, your immediate availability will be your key to meets until you build up a reputation/a decent verification profile. And inevitably that’s going to involve some level of acceptable compromising... I’m not in any way suggesting you should go down that route - be your own man and you’ll get what you want in the end...
"I wouldn't get anything out of that at all !!
It's why I struggle on here, I think as s single guy I'm just expected to take whatever comes my way and that couldn't be further away from what I'm looking for however I do understand we are all different and try to embrace the site."
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It's actually refreshing to chat to you it's restored my faith a little bit in the couples scenario 
I'm mainly just on the forums these days but maybe I should put some focus back on this and keep you updated |
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Please do - good luck, there’s plenty of decent people out there, so hang in there!
"It's actually refreshing to chat to you it's restored my faith a little bit in the couples scenario
I'm mainly just on the forums these days but maybe I should put some focus back on this and keep you updated "
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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago
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"We prefer people who get us of course rather than be assertive for the sake of it... but with 130+ veris to your name we’d say you’re not doing toooo badly
Thanks - that’s helpful. On the scene... you mean at clubs and through friends?
I did once see a single man’s profile who had a very eloquent statement - something along the lines of “I fully understand that I’m a guest when I meet couples”. That resonated with us - you invite a guest because you want to entertain them and be entertained by them, certainly don’t expect them to invade your space or move in afterwards!
R
Tbh I wouldn’t have any to move in after anyway. Don’t get me wrong, I tend do be asked to be invited which means that I don’t always play because people don’t think I am assertive and that is fine.
Rather be know as someone who can behave and is decent, than someone that oversteps "
For me I just go with flow. So sometimes a guy will want to watch sometimes he will join in as we pleasure wife or other lady. Sometimes he will ask to take photos
I play differently in a 1-2-1 than a mfm. More sort of how I interact. It’s hard to explain |
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"Thanks - that’s helpful. On the scene... you mean at clubs and through friends?"
Yes exactly. Men we have met at parties and through friends. Or we might notice a man from a friends verification list. It’s very rare for us to start from scratch with a total stranger off the Internet, although we do occasionally.
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"I wouldn't get anything out of that at all !!
It's why I struggle on here, I think as s single guy I'm just expected to take whatever comes my way and that couldn't be further away from what I'm looking for however I do understand we are all different and try to embrace the site."
Sounds like you feel single guys are treated as sex toys by couples. I have heard this before. However there are couples out there who enjoy a more friendship style approach to play. Certainly the guys who join us are treated as equals and as friends. I would be horrified if any of our playmates felt they got nothing out of it and that they were there purely to serve us. We believe in there being a three-way dynamic, which we believe most guys don’t really get, and the challenge is to find those guys to understand and enjoy that dynamic. Any couples who are expecting the single guy to be there purely for their enjoyment probably don’t get that dynamic themselves. On the other hand if the single guy doesn’t mind being treated like that, then that fine too.
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Making it very clear, both on your profile and in your messages that youre there to play by their rules and boundaries. youre being invited into an intimate dynamic, so make sure you broadcast that from the start... |
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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago
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As with single ladies a lot of the couples I like are blooming miles awa. I chat to a couple on a regular basis but the chances of meeting are slim. On the flipside get a hell of a lot more localish couples message me. Every bloody time it's at stupid o'clock and they want me to go there and then. That's not how I work. |
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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago
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"Making it very clear, both on your profile and in your messages that youre there to play by their rules and boundaries. youre being invited into an intimate dynamic, so make sure you broadcast that from the start..."
Close but not quite. Change the statement their rules and boundries to rules and boundaries agreed by all 3. On my profile I state no bi play. Anything else to be discussed. |
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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago
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"There are 3 fundamental checks that we do. First one is fairly basic - have they ticked the ‘MF couples’ box? Obviously if they haven’t then they are not looking for couples. However we are conscious that a lot of guys tick that box just to expand their chances of getting sex, and aren’t really interested in playing with a couple. So we look at the verifications to see if they play with couples. We will also read the profile text. If the text implies that they are on Fab to look for a lady, and there is no mention of couples at all in the text and there are no veris from couples, we will probably assume they are not that into couples. We find it easier to meet single guys on the scene though, as opposed to via Fab.
Mrs"
Exactly what we do for ladies too, anyone can tick "couples" in their would like to meet box, but proof is in the pudding as they say & if the profile just talks of "a guy must" or "A lady must" then its a pretty good indicator.
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"Making it very clear, both on your profile and in your messages that youre there to play by their rules and boundaries. youre being invited into an intimate dynamic, so make sure you broadcast that from the start..."
No that’s not right. It should be a three-way process. Everybody’s rules and boundaries are important, including the single guy’s.
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It may sound big headed but it's not meant to be.
There are way more single men than playing couples. So coupkes can afford to be choosy. We have a good dynamic of sex between us. So for us single men we normally stipulate what we would like in the bedroom. We say xyz, if they agree to it, then we play. If they agree then start changing stuff we cancel the meet. This is the big headed bit - theres plenty more fish in the sea. Although we don't "use" a man. We always make sure that everyone enjoys the play.
We also have a unicorn. We make the play all about her. As we know they are so rare and we are very lucky. |
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Lots of interesting insight so far, thanks to everyone who has contributed. Seems to us that basically communication is key - everyone should state their wishes and boundaries, and everybody should be treated with respect, and this includes both members of a couple to one another. Sounds simple on paper, doesn’t it? Also this approach rules out the “not into endless chit chat” types because you do need some depth of communication to establish the ground rules... |
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"It may sound big headed but it's not meant to be.
There are way more single men than playing couples. So coupkes can afford to be choosy. We have a good dynamic of sex between us. So for us single men we normally stipulate what we would like in the bedroom. We say xyz, if they agree to it, then we play. If they agree then start changing stuff we cancel the meet. This is the big headed bit - theres plenty more fish in the sea. Although we don't "use" a man. We always make sure that everyone enjoys the play.
We also have a unicorn. We make the play all about her. As we know they are so rare and we are very lucky. "
From our experience I don’t agree that us,as a couple, can afford to take that approach with single men. Although it’s true there are ridiculous numbers of single guys looking for sex on Fab (numbers that far out-number couples) there are relatively few men who genuinely enjoy and understand the dynamic with playing with a couple and are also reliable. Because there are so few I sometimes describe our playmates as ‘male unicorns’. I am always acutely aware that they see more than one couple and therefore have choices. So we treat our playmates as equals because if we don’t they might not come back for more. We often lose single guys when they get girlfriends etc and when that happens we don’t find we can click our fingers and get a replacement. No, in our opinion the good ones are worth their weight in gold and we will endeavour to hold on to them.
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"Lots of interesting insight so far, thanks to everyone who has contributed. Seems to us that basically communication is key - everyone should state their wishes and boundaries, and everybody should be treated with respect, and this includes both members of a couple to one another. Sounds simple on paper, doesn’t it? Also this approach rules out the “not into endless chit chat” types because you do need some depth of communication to establish the ground rules... "
Have to admit we don’t get into discussions about rules and boundaries with potential playmates, as we prefer to go with the flow and see what happens. I’ll soon say so if I don’t want to do something. If they say they don’t want something we of course respect that. The only thing that has ever gone wrong is my husband feeling marginalised. More recently we do make sure we have a conversation about ensuring his inclusion especially as I sometimes meet alone.
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Most guys in our humble opinion,think it just rock up fuck and go as fast as lol,won’t meet for a drink nor will or can accommodate we been trying for the above for ages but most can’t read a profile nor understand it so leaves little hope |
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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago
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"It may sound big headed but it's not meant to be.
There are way more single men than playing couples. So coupkes can afford to be choosy. We have a good dynamic of sex between us. So for us single men we normally stipulate what we would like in the bedroom. We say xyz, if they agree to it, then we play. If they agree then start changing stuff we cancel the meet. This is the big headed bit - theres plenty more fish in the sea. Although we don't "use" a man. We always make sure that everyone enjoys the play.
We also have a unicorn. We make the play all about her. As we know they are so rare and we are very lucky. "
Yeah that's bigheaded and wrong. Equal respect to be shown from the couple to the 3rd party as the other way round regardless of the gender of the third party. You say you don't 'use' a man, yet the reading of the post suggests that's exactly what you do. |
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every couples dynamic is different so we wouldn't expect a guy to understand ours. Its usually quite easy to tell if we're a match at a social. I don't think there's any one thing to look out for but we do all need to interact. |
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By *ophleeCouple
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"There are 3 fundamental checks that we do. First one is fairly basic - have they ticked the ‘MF couples’ box? Obviously if they haven’t then they are not looking for couples. However we are conscious that a lot of guys tick that box just to expand their chances of getting sex, and aren’t really interested in playing with a couple. So we look at the verifications to see if they play with couples. We will also read the profile text. If the text implies that they are on Fab to look for a lady, and there is no mention of couples at all in the text and there are no veris from couples, we will probably assume they are not that into couples. We find it easier to meet single guys on the scene though, as opposed to via Fab.
Mrs"
This is quite similar for us, but on top of this Mr insists on meeting any single for a chat prior to any play meets. That way he gets the feeling if the guy is right for us and if our play rules will be followed. Everyone knows what to expect up front and keeps everyone safe |
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"There are 3 fundamental checks that we do. First one is fairly basic - have they ticked the ‘MF couples’ box? Obviously if they haven’t then they are not looking for couples. However we are conscious that a lot of guys tick that box just to expand their chances of getting sex, and aren’t really interested in playing with a couple. So we look at the verifications to see if they play with couples. We will also read the profile text. If the text implies that they are on Fab to look for a lady, and there is no mention of couples at all in the text and there are no veris from couples, we will probably assume they are not that into couples. We find it easier to meet single guys on the scene though, as opposed to via Fab.
Mrs
This is quite similar for us, but on top of this Mr insists on meeting any single for a chat prior to any play meets. That way he gets the feeling if the guy is right for us and if our play rules will be followed. Everyone knows what to expect up front and keeps everyone safe"
We used to do that when we first started, although this was on Craig’s List not Fab. It worked the first couple of times. Then a guy refused to meet my husband without me. He explained that they were a lot of weird men out there posing as a couple. At the time we thought ‘your loss’. I mean we knew we were real. These days we have realised that his concern is quite actually quite reasonable and would no longer ask a man to put himself in that situation. I suspect most of the guys we have met of Fab would not have agreed to meet my husband alone due to the risk that he might be a man posing as a couple.
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"There are 3 fundamental checks that we do. First one is fairly basic - have they ticked the ‘MF couples’ box? Obviously if they haven’t then they are not looking for couples. However we are conscious that a lot of guys tick that box just to expand their chances of getting sex, and aren’t really interested in playing with a couple. So we look at the verifications to see if they play with couples. We will also read the profile text. If the text implies that they are on Fab to look for a lady, and there is no mention of couples at all in the text and there are no veris from couples, we will probably assume they are not that into couples. We find it easier to meet single guys on the scene though, as opposed to via Fab.
Mrs
This is quite similar for us, but on top of this Mr insists on meeting any single for a chat prior to any play meets. That way he gets the feeling if the guy is right for us and if our play rules will be followed. Everyone knows what to expect up front and keeps everyone safe
We used to do that when we first started, although this was on Craig’s List not Fab. It worked the first couple of times. Then a guy refused to meet my husband without me. He explained that they were a lot of weird men out there posing as a couple. At the time we thought ‘your loss’. I mean we knew we were real. These days we have realised that his concern is quite actually quite reasonable and would no longer ask a man to put himself in that situation. I suspect most of the guys we have met of Fab would not have agreed to meet my husband alone due to the risk that he might be a man posing as a couple.
Mrs"
We get that but veris tend to show who are real cpls so it will remain our way, works for us but appreciate not for everyone |
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"Lots of interesting insight so far, thanks to everyone who has contributed. Seems to us that basically communication is key - everyone should state their wishes and boundaries, and everybody should be treated with respect, and this includes both members of a couple to one another. Sounds simple on paper, doesn’t it? Also this approach rules out the “not into endless chit chat” types because you do need some depth of communication to establish the ground rules... "
Very useful, thoughtful thread providing great insight. Understanding the dynamics and patience open / honest communiquè seems a lost art from our experience on the whole. But worth it when it occurs.
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"There are 3 fundamental checks that we do. First one is fairly basic - have they ticked the ‘MF couples’ box? Obviously if they haven’t then they are not looking for couples. However we are conscious that a lot of guys tick that box just to expand their chances of getting sex, and aren’t really interested in playing with a couple. So we look at the verifications to see if they play with couples. We will also read the profile text. If the text implies that they are on Fab to look for a lady, and there is no mention of couples at all in the text and there are no veris from couples, we will probably assume they are not that into couples. We find it easier to meet single guys on the scene though, as opposed to via Fab.
Mrs
This is quite similar for us, but on top of this Mr insists on meeting any single for a chat prior to any play meets. That way he gets the feeling if the guy is right for us and if our play rules will be followed. Everyone knows what to expect up front and keeps everyone safe
We used to do that when we first started, although this was on Craig’s List not Fab. It worked the first couple of times. Then a guy refused to meet my husband without me. He explained that they were a lot of weird men out there posing as a couple. At the time we thought ‘your loss’. I mean we knew we were real. These days we have realised that his concern is quite actually quite reasonable and would no longer ask a man to put himself in that situation. I suspect most of the guys we have met of Fab would not have agreed to meet my husband alone due to the risk that he might be a man posing as a couple.
Mrs
We get that but veris tend to show who are real cpls so it will remain our way, works for us but appreciate not for everyone"
Yeah true, I guess from our veris it’s pretty obvious we’re real. I honestly don’t know what the reaction would be if we decided to start doing that now. |
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over a year ago
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"It may sound big headed but it's not meant to be.
There are way more single men than playing couples. So coupkes can afford to be choosy. We have a good dynamic of sex between us. So for us single men we normally stipulate what we would like in the bedroom. We say xyz, if they agree to it, then we play. If they agree then start changing stuff we cancel the meet. This is the big headed bit - theres plenty more fish in the sea. Although we don't "use" a man. We always make sure that everyone enjoys the play.
We also have a unicorn. We make the play all about her. As we know they are so rare and we are very lucky.
From our experience I don’t agree that us,as a couple, can afford to take that approach with single men. Although it’s true there are ridiculous numbers of single guys looking for sex on Fab (numbers that far out-number couples) there are relatively few men who genuinely enjoy and understand the dynamic with playing with a couple and are also reliable. Because there are so few I sometimes describe our playmates as ‘male unicorns’. I am always acutely aware that they see more than one couple and therefore have choices. So we treat our playmates as equals because if we don’t they might not come back for more. We often lose single guys when they get girlfriends etc and when that happens we don’t find we can click our fingers and get a replacement. No, in our opinion the good ones are worth their weight in gold and we will endeavour to hold on to them.
Mrs"
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As a single guy first read the profile to help understand what both the lady and gent are looking for.
Then if you are lucky enough to get into dialogue,through conversation build a more detailed picture of how the couple would like to enjoy themselves. Always remember both are looking to enjoy themselves. If your interests coincide and you progress to a meet you are the guest in the relationship (even if they come to your home), by now you should have a pretty good picture of what is going to be pleasurable for you all. |
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"Love playing with couples I like the way I can please the Mrs and see him turned on watching. Then se him help fantastic "
Ah, no disrespec,t but therein lies the problem. You’ve just described the male half as “help” rather than a partner - unless this is specifically what is sought by all, this would lead to the marginalisation of the male half which is the scourge of many couples.
Based in what I’ve heard, still sounds to me like communication is important, whether you call it “rules” or not... |
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" Based in what I’ve heard, still sounds to me like communication is important, whether you call it “rules” or not..."
Communication has been very variable depending on guy we are playing with. This has ranged from almost zero communication if he’s someone we play with at a party, to extensive communication if we are exploring anything along the lines of D/s or cuckoldry. If we want to meet a man for an ordinary threesomes, we would of course chat in order to establish a friendship, and we might all chat about our experiences and fantasies. But we tend not to express what we expect to happen in the threesome - in fact I’m not sure we even know what we want to happen.
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"It may sound big headed but it's not meant to be.
There are way more single men than playing couples. So coupkes can afford to be choosy. We have a good dynamic of sex between us. So for us single men we normally stipulate what we would like in the bedroom. We say xyz, if they agree to it, then we play. If they agree then start changing stuff we cancel the meet. This is the big headed bit - theres plenty more fish in the sea. Although we don't "use" a man. We always make sure that everyone enjoys the play.
We also have a unicorn. We make the play all about her. As we know they are so rare and we are very lucky.
Yeah that's bigheaded and wrong. Equal respect to be shown from the couple to the 3rd party as the other way round regardless of the gender of the third party. You say you don't 'use' a man, yet the reading of the post suggests that's exactly what you do. "
Your entitled to your opinion. Thats what makes the world go round, every one is differant. We've been swinging for 50 years between us, and what ever we're doing seems to work. See our veri's. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Couples were the reason I started swinging.
You could blame it on reading the letters in magazines, especially forum magazine, where husband's were happy 'to share' their wives. Or the wife having multiple partners. Of course, 'sharing' isn't quite the right word as many would tell you, but it wasn't until I met my first couple 20 or so years ago and started playing that I realised this.
I have been in many situations with couples, not just on fab, where play has amounted to several situations. The husband, joining in, watching, filming etc. I would always expect to join the husband in pleasuring his wife unless it has already been stated different. I used to have written on my profile that I imagined myself as an extension to a couple's already great sex life. Perhaps I should put that back. But that is how I view my participation in a mfm or more. Like someone else has already said, I am well aware that I am there at their invitation. |
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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago
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See actually I had a conversation with a friend last night about a scenario which she said yes to but not with me (dp with me in her bum), because I am to big lol 
Now I had never had that conversation as before the two times we had played I have taken things as they come / cum |
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" Based in what I’ve heard, still sounds to me like communication is important, whether you call it “rules” or not...
Communication has been very variable depending on guy we are playing with. This has ranged from almost zero communication if he’s someone we play with at a party, to extensive communication if we are exploring anything along the lines of D/s or cuckoldry. If we want to meet a man for an ordinary threesomes, we would of course chat in order to establish a friendship, and we might all chat about our experiences and fantasies. But we tend not to express what we expect to happen in the threesome - in fact I’m not sure we even know what we want to happen.
Mrs"
True - getting the balance is tricky. You want to get some communication out so that everybody understands what each party is after, but you don’t want to meticulously plan every move.
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There's no way of knowing what they really think if they play the game and are resepectful. They may secretly be disgusted that a man will 'let' his wife fuck other men.
I don't really care what anyone thinks as long as they are outwardly respectful.
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