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A mutual wink thing before you are allowed to message anyone.
If I like the look of you, we both have to wink before we can message each other.
No mutual wink, no message. Won't this eliminate the strife that seems to go on here? |
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"A mutual wink thing before you are allowed to message anyone.
If I like the look of you, we both have to wink before we can message each other.
No mutual wink, no message. Won't this eliminate the strife that seems to go on here?"
No, because you'd get "why does nobody ever wink back?" "Ignorant people who don't respond to winks" etc |
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i always wink first otherwise you spend ages reading there profile , ages writing a message then as you send it , it says site supporters only or no single guys .. |
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"A mutual wink thing before you are allowed to message anyone.
If I like the look of you, we both have to wink before we can message each other.
No mutual wink, no message. Won't this eliminate the strife that seems to go on here?
No, because you'd get "why does nobody ever wink back?" "Ignorant people who don't respond to winks" etc"
You don't wink back, you don't get a message that you don't want. Simple. Nobody gets pestered. |
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"A mutual wink thing before you are allowed to message anyone.
If I like the look of you, we both have to wink before we can message each other.
No mutual wink, no message. Won't this eliminate the strife that seems to go on here?
No, because you'd get "why does nobody ever wink back?" "Ignorant people who don't respond to winks" etc"
This! And then people will feel even more entitled to a response to their message since there was a mutual wink. |
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"A mutual wink thing before you are allowed to message anyone.
If I like the look of you, we both have to wink before we can message each other.
No mutual wink, no message. Won't this eliminate the strife that seems to go on here?
No, because you'd get "why does nobody ever wink back?" "Ignorant people who don't respond to winks" etc
You don't wink back, you don't get a message that you don't want. Simple. Nobody gets pestered."
What about a wink that you don't want? |
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"A mutual wink thing before you are allowed to message anyone.
If I like the look of you, we both have to wink before we can message each other.
No mutual wink, no message. Won't this eliminate the strife that seems to go on here?
No, because you'd get "why does nobody ever wink back?" "Ignorant people who don't respond to winks" etc
You don't wink back, you don't get a message that you don't want. Simple. Nobody gets pestered.
What about a wink that you don't want? "
Better than a message you don't want. It need not be a wink at all for you to see. However the site can notifier you of interest from others. You have a look, if the feeling is mutual, then the site allows you to message.
That's easy, nest pas? |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"A mutual wink thing before you are allowed to message anyone.
If I like the look of you, we both have to wink before we can message each other.
No mutual wink, no message. Won't this eliminate the strife that seems to go on here?
No, because you'd get "why does nobody ever wink back?" "Ignorant people who don't respond to winks" etc"
It would give the forums some newish threads though! I think it would help cut out the crappy entitled messages to an extent but not sure how often it would be used. |
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"A mutual wink thing before you are allowed to message anyone.
If I like the look of you, we both have to wink before we can message each other.
No mutual wink, no message. Won't this eliminate the strife that seems to go on here?
No, because you'd get "why does nobody ever wink back?" "Ignorant people who don't respond to winks" etc
It would give the forums some newish threads though! I think it would help cut out the crappy entitled messages to an extent but not sure how often it would be used."
Well, you don't use it, you can't message or be messaged; whether you are the hottest single bifem or the most horrendous looking single straight guy. |
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"A mutual wink thing before you are allowed to message anyone.
If I like the look of you, we both have to wink before we can message each other.
No mutual wink, no message. Won't this eliminate the strife that seems to go on here?
No, because you'd get "why does nobody ever wink back?" "Ignorant people who don't respond to winks" etc
You don't wink back, you don't get a message that you don't want. Simple. Nobody gets pestered.
What about a wink that you don't want?
Better than a message you don't want. It need not be a wink at all for you to see. However the site can notifier you of interest from others. You have a look, if the feeling is mutual, then the site allows you to message.
That's easy, nest pas?"
Non ce n'est pas, because then people will no longer receive the messages they do want without mutual winks first... Which means they do have to check winks as a first step process and look at all the profiles of winkers to see if they want to wink back or message and there will be hundreds more winks to sift through from people who never would have taken the time to message anyway. Then on top of that, winking back will send the wrong message as people will assume that they're entitled to a response when they write a message since they got a mutual wink and there the cycle begins again of people complaining that they got a mutual wink but no response to their message blah blah. Non ce n'est pas! |
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You seem to be stuck with the word, " wink".
Don't!
Put it this way: won't you like messages from people with whom you only have a mutual attraction of some sorts?
Won't you like to message only people who liked something about you to start with? |
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"You seem to be stuck with the word, " wink".
Don't
Put it this way: won't you like messages from people with whom you only have a mutual attraction of some sorts?
Won't you like to message only people who liked something about you to start with?"
And if messages is one of the things that makes me attracted to people... then what? How do we determine mutual attraction before you begin messaging each other?
And also again how will we solve the issue of receiving a ton of winks to sift through? Lastly, what happens when you receive a wink back, message, and then receive no response to your message, will you be annoyed and complain? Just saying I don't think it will solve anything, just complicates matters for people who prefer to just message and take what comes or doesn't. |
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"A mutual wink thing before you are allowed to message anyone.
If I like the look of you, we both have to wink before we can message each other.
No mutual wink, no message. Won't this eliminate the strife that seems to go on here?"
I don’t loook at my winks. Ergo I’d never get any messages! Could be interesting!  |
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"You seem to be stuck with the word, " wink".
Don't
Put it this way: won't you like messages from people with whom you only have a mutual attraction of some sorts?
Won't you like to message only people who liked something about you to start with?
And if messages is one of the things that makes me attracted to people... then what? How do we determine mutual attraction before you begin messaging each other?
And also again how will we solve the issue of receiving a ton of winks to sift through? Lastly, what happens when you receive a wink back, message, and then receive no response to your message, will you be annoyed and complain? Just saying I don't think it will solve anything, just complicates matters for people who prefer to just message and take what comes or doesn't. "
I shall tell you whatnot will achieve. People will take some responsibility for who messages them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"You seem to be stuck with the word, " wink".
Don't
Put it this way: won't you like messages from people with whom you only have a mutual attraction of some sorts?
Won't you like to message only people who liked something about you to start with?
And if messages is one of the things that makes me attracted to people... then what? How do we determine mutual attraction before you begin messaging each other?
And also again how will we solve the issue of receiving a ton of winks to sift through? Lastly, what happens when you receive a wink back, message, and then receive no response to your message, will you be annoyed and complain? Just saying I don't think it will solve anything, just complicates matters for people who prefer to just message and take what comes or doesn't.
I shall tell you what it will achieve. People will take some responsibility for who messages them."
But that's not what you're trying to achieve. You're trying to ensure that you'll get a response, aren't you?
If you wink someone back and they send a "fancy a fuck" or some other trash, why would the recipient need to take responsibility for that? |
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What about if you were wanting to message about something unrelated to a shag (strange idea I know) would never be able to have a conversation about other things too  |
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"What about if you were wanting to message about something unrelated to a shag (strange idea I know) would never be able to have a conversation about other things too "
U need to get on nosebook for that one. |
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"You seem to be stuck with the word, " wink".
Don't
Put it this way: won't you like messages from people with whom you only have a mutual attraction of some sorts?
Won't you like to message only people who liked something about you to start with?
And if messages is one of the things that makes me attracted to people... then what? How do we determine mutual attraction before you begin messaging each other?
And also again how will we solve the issue of receiving a ton of winks to sift through? Lastly, what happens when you receive a wink back, message, and then receive no response to your message, will you be annoyed and complain? Just saying I don't think it will solve anything, just complicates matters for people who prefer to just message and take what comes or doesn't.
I shall tell you what it will achieve. People will take some responsibility for who messages them.
But that's not what you're trying to achieve. You're trying to ensure that you'll get a response, aren't you?
If you wink someone back and they send a "fancy a fuck" or some other trash, why would the recipient need to take responsibility for that? "
It's a judgement you are going to have to make after checking somebody out. Do they look like they are going to send you, "fancy a fuck?"?
In any case, what's wrong with that; esp as you already fancy them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"i always wink first otherwise you spend ages reading there profile , ages writing a message then as you send it , it says site supporters only or no single guys .."
I can honestly say I've never come across a profile on here that's taken me more than 5 mins to read....even those that look like an adaptation of war and peace. If you don't read it how do you know they're what you're looking for.
I will never understand people not reading the profile first...baffles me  |
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"You seem to be stuck with the word, " wink".
Don't
Put it this way: won't you like messages from people with whom you only have a mutual attraction of some sorts?
Won't you like to message only people who liked something about you to start with?
And if messages is one of the things that makes me attracted to people... then what? How do we determine mutual attraction before you begin messaging each other?
And also again how will we solve the issue of receiving a ton of winks to sift through? Lastly, what happens when you receive a wink back, message, and then receive no response to your message, will you be annoyed and complain? Just saying I don't think it will solve anything, just complicates matters for people who prefer to just message and take what comes or doesn't.
I shall tell you what it will achieve. People will take some responsibility for who messages them.
But that's not what you're trying to achieve. You're trying to ensure that you'll get a response, aren't you?
If you wink someone back and they send a "fancy a fuck" or some other trash, why would the recipient need to take responsibility for that?
It's a judgement you are going to have to make after checking somebody out. Do they look like they are going to send you, "fancy a fuck?"?
In any case, what's wrong with that; esp as you already fancy them."
And if you didn't fancy the look and sound of their profile, u wouldn't gibe them the chance to message you, anyway. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What about if you were wanting to message about something unrelated to a shag (strange idea I know) would never be able to have a conversation about other things too
U need to get on nosebook for that one."
I haven't got any fabbers on there |
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By *abs..Woman
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"i always wink first otherwise you spend ages reading there profile , ages writing a message then as you send it , it says site supporters only or no single guys ..
I can honestly say I've never come across a profile on here that's taken me more than 5 mins to read....even those that look like an adaptation of war and peace. If you don't read it how do you know they're what you're looking for.
I will never understand people not reading the profile first...baffles me "
I agree  |
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By *ineMan
over a year ago
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Strangely I find that profiles and pics do not determine if I want to know someone better. That comes from messages communication a connection.
If OP you don't like fab the way it is and only consider it worth communicating with someone based on a collection of pixels and pics then thete are other suitably superficial options available to you.
It gets the question why if you feel fab should operate in a certain way you feel the need to push those views on others who don't.
Operate your profile the way you desire you may get the results you want.
And extend the same courtesy yo those who do not share your views. |
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"Strangely I find that profiles and pics do not determine if I want to know someone better. That comes from messages communication a connection.
If OP you don't like fab the way it is and only consider it worth communicating with someone based on a collection of pixels and pics then thete are other suitably superficial options available to you.
It gets the question why if you feel fab should operate in a certain way you feel the need to push those views on others who don't.
Operate your profile the way you desire you may get the results you want.
And extend the same courtesy yo those who do not share your views."
Gentleman, you can take your stupid and foolishly disguised insults where you've come from.
If you cannot share your thoughts without attacking personalities, then you are the one that needs to leave the site.
The rubbish of the earth who cannot stand anyone that has a different idea. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't see the issue!! Don't want to mutually wink anyone (wank maybe....) but then the poor men might never get a message/wink replied to!! Lol
If you don't want the messages just delete them....and then don't read posts from men moaning about not getting replies or women moaning about messages!! Just enjoy it for what it is Fabbers!!! X |
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That's gonna be a shit load of work for women on here. They're gonna get winked at constantly, then they have to check them out, ok he looks alright, so they wink back, then they might not like the first message. |
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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago
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"A mutual wink thing before you are allowed to message anyone.
If I like the look of you, we both have to wink before we can message each other.
No mutual wink, no message. Won't this eliminate the strife that seems to go on here?
No, because you'd get "why does nobody ever wink back?" "Ignorant people who don't respond to winks" etc"
They would only be able to say such things on the forum where thry could be ignored. People wouldn't have huge mailboxes to admin. |
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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago
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"A mutual wink thing before you are allowed to message anyone.
If I like the look of you, we both have to wink before we can message each other.
No mutual wink, no message. Won't this eliminate the strife that seems to go on here?
No, because you'd get "why does nobody ever wink back?" "Ignorant people who don't respond to winks" etc
You don't wink back, you don't get a message that you don't want. Simple. Nobody gets pestered.
What about a wink that you don't want? "
A wink will never call someone a fat slag. |
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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago
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"A mutual wink thing before you are allowed to message anyone.
If I like the look of you, we both have to wink before we can message each other.
No mutual wink, no message. Won't this eliminate the strife that seems to go on here?
No, because you'd get "why does nobody ever wink back?" "Ignorant people who don't respond to winks" etc
You don't wink back, you don't get a message that you don't want. Simple. Nobody gets pestered.
What about a wink that you don't want?
Better than a message you don't want. It need not be a wink at all for you to see. However the site can notifier you of interest from others. You have a look, if the feeling is mutual, then the site allows you to message.
That's easy, nest pas?
Non ce n'est pas, because then people will no longer receive the messages they do want without mutual winks first... Which means they do have to check winks as a first step process and look at all the profiles of winkers to see if they want to wink back or message and there will be hundreds more winks to sift through from people who never would have taken the time to message anyway. Then on top of that, winking back will send the wrong message as people will assume that they're entitled to a response when they write a message since they got a mutual wink and there the cycle begins again of people complaining that they got a mutual wink but no response to their message blah blah. Non ce n'est pas! "
Lesser of two evils. |
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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago
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"What about if you were wanting to message about something unrelated to a shag (strange idea I know) would never be able to have a conversation about other things too "
No one said it was a perfect system. |
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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago
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"That's gonna be a shit load of work for women on here. They're gonna get winked at constantly, then they have to check them out, ok he looks alright, so they wink back, then they might not like the first message. "
No different from not liking the first nessage now. |
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"A mutual wink thing before you are allowed to message anyone.
If I like the look of you, we both have to wink before we can message each other.
No mutual wink, no message. Won't this eliminate the strife that seems to go on here?
No, because you'd get "why does nobody ever wink back?" "Ignorant people who don't respond to winks" etc
It would give the forums some newish threads though! I think it would help cut out the crappy entitled messages to an extent but not sure how often it would be used.
Well, you don't use it, you can't message or be messaged; whether you are the hottest single bifem or the most horrendous looking single straight guy."
I'll get my jacket then |
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"A mutual wink thing before you are allowed to message anyone.
If I like the look of you, we both have to wink before we can message each other.
No mutual wink, no message. Won't this eliminate the strife that seems to go on here?
No, because you'd get "why does nobody ever wink back?" "Ignorant people who don't respond to winks" etc
It would give the forums some newish threads though! I think it would help cut out the crappy entitled messages to an extent but not sure how often it would be used.
Well, you don't use it, you can't message or be messaged; whether you are the hottest single bifem or the most horrendous looking single straight guy.
I'll get my jacket then "
Not so fast. You forgot to wink! |
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"What about if you were wanting to message about something unrelated to a shag (strange idea I know) would never be able to have a conversation about other things too "
You make a great point, I once messaged someone to find out where they got a toy from as i wanted one which they had in a pic  |
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"What about if you were wanting to message about something unrelated to a shag (strange idea I know) would never be able to have a conversation about other things too
No one said it was a perfect system."
Perhaps a 'tap on the shoulder button' for things unrelated to sex |
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"What about if you were wanting to message about something unrelated to a shag (strange idea I know) would never be able to have a conversation about other things too
You make a great point, I once messaged someone to find out where they got a toy from as i wanted one which they had in a pic "
Exactly, or where they got their knickers from etc |
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"What about if you were wanting to message about something unrelated to a shag (strange idea I know) would never be able to have a conversation about other things too
You make a great point, I once messaged someone to find out where they got a toy from as i wanted one which they had in a pic
Exactly, or where they got their knickers from etc "
Come on part your cheeks a bit. I can't see ya Knicks
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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago
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"What about if you were wanting to message about something unrelated to a shag (strange idea I know) would never be able to have a conversation about other things too
No one said it was a perfect system.
Perhaps a 'tap on the shoulder button' for things unrelated to sex "
Haha yeah. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I never look at winks and never send them so it’d equal zero messages for me.
If it was the only way you could message you would."
Probably not. I love the forums (who knew?) and I keep in touch with friends/lovers. |
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