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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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We've seen hundreds of these threads of the married man posting he's after NSA and getting taken down a peg or two but never the women on here getting the same treatment or t-girls!
Does being unfaithful depend on what gender? |
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"We've seen hundreds of these threads of the married man posting he's after NSA and getting taken down a peg or two but never the women on here getting the same treatment or t-girls!
Does being unfaithful depend on what gender? "
You bet it does....!! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"We've seen hundreds of these threads of the married man posting he's after NSA and getting taken down a peg or two but never the women on here getting the same treatment or t-girls!
Does being unfaithful depend on what gender?
You bet it does....!!"
It certainly does it seems. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I can't remember the last time I saw a married woman start a thread moaning that she can't meet anyone.
Men on the other hand...pretty much daily isn't it?  "
She'd be inundated with messages of fancy a fuck or I'll meet you! |
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
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"I can't remember the last time I saw a married woman start a thread moaning that she can't meet anyone.
Men on the other hand...pretty much daily isn't it?
She'd be inundated with messages of fancy a fuck or I'll meet you! "
Yes, she probably would  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We've seen hundreds of these threads of the married man posting he's after NSA and getting taken down a peg or two but never the women on here getting the same treatment or t-girls!
Does being unfaithful depend on what gender? "
It depends on those making the judgements. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We've seen hundreds of these threads of the married man posting he's after NSA and getting taken down a peg or two but never the women on here getting the same treatment or t-girls!
Does being unfaithful depend on what gender?
It depends on the gender making the judgements."
Fixed it for myself 
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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago
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I dont feel its down to the gender of the married/in relationship person.
Its the view of the other persons gender ie
Men or most men dont give a dam if a women is attached or not as a meet is a meet. Most married women on here do not have any problems actually getting meets.
However womens views on married men etc and meets is very differant and I think thats why they get a harder time. 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't knowingly meet any married/attached people regardless of their sex unless the spouse knows and or is part of the fun! The secrecy is too much like hard work, can't meet here, got to meet at this time, blah blah blah. But most of all I'm not going to be the cheating parties idea of relationship coucncilling!  |
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By *olliPineCouple
over a year ago
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"We've seen hundreds of these threads of the married man posting he's after NSA and getting taken down a peg or two but never the women on here getting the same treatment or t-girls!
Does being unfaithful depend on what gender? "
Not to us it doesn't |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Truth is, from an evolutionary and psychological stand point - women consider cheating to be anything sexual.
Men consider cheating to be when you make a bond and enter a relationship.
That’s why you see scorned ladies kicking off on here about NSA sex being cheating. Meanwhile the men are quiet and don’t see it as a big deal. So they don’t moan about it.
There’s been tons of studies about it. It’s the way we are wired. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Truth is, from an evolutionary and psychological stand point - women consider cheating to be anything sexual.
Men consider cheating to be when you make a bond and enter a relationship.
That’s why you see scorned ladies kicking off on here about NSA sex being cheating. Meanwhile the men are quiet and don’t see it as a big deal. So they don’t moan about it.
There’s been tons of studies about it. It’s the way we are wired."
100% certain that if I fucked a guy without Adam being present, he would definitely class it as cheating and be furious!
So not all men are wired that way.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i don't think it's so much of a different standard, but more that married women seem to just get on with it...not posting whiny threads about how unfair it is that some people won't meet them...whining about people 'not looking past' the fact they are married, and bleating about 'if you understood my reason etc etc..' |
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It’s all down to numbers. There are probably more men on here than any other party. So it’s a lot easier to ‘put down’ the majority in an alpha male fighting/mating ritual. Women are the minority on here and so people will be more hesitant to speak the truth, in fear of upsetting any chances of sex. Some men on here merely think with their dick and play a supposedly clever game by sitting on the fence and trying desperately to impress the opposite sex. Me personally, cheating is disrespectful. Why would I bother trying to impress someone who has little respect for anyone else but themselves? Just outright selfishness.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Truth is, from an evolutionary and psychological stand point - women consider cheating to be anything sexual.
Men consider cheating to be when you make a bond and enter a relationship.
That’s why you see scorned ladies kicking off on here about NSA sex being cheating. Meanwhile the men are quiet and don’t see it as a big deal. So they don’t moan about it.
There’s been tons of studies about it. It’s the way we are wired.
100% certain that if I fucked a guy without Adam being present, he would definitely class it as cheating and be furious!
So not all men are wired that way.
Eve. X"
Hey Eve. As soon as I posted it i realised I’d get that response from someone haha.
I should have worded it differently - men are more likely to forgive something that’s just sexual. And less likely to forgive something that’s “deeper”. And I believe that’s why you see the difference in attitudes on here |
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It might seem llke it because the men in that situation post asking about it more often.
I recall a female forumite who often used to like mentioning her cheating status and got lots of stick about it in those threads. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Truth is, from an evolutionary and psychological stand point - women consider cheating to be anything sexual.
Men consider cheating to be when you make a bond and enter a relationship.
That’s why you see scorned ladies kicking off on here about NSA sex being cheating. Meanwhile the men are quiet and don’t see it as a big deal. So they don’t moan about it.
There’s been tons of studies about it. It’s the way we are wired.
100% certain that if I fucked a guy without Adam being present, he would definitely class it as cheating and be furious!
So not all men are wired that way.
Eve. X
Hey Eve. As soon as I posted it i realised I’d get that response from someone haha.
I should have worded it differently - men are more likely to forgive something that’s just sexual. And less likely to forgive something that’s “deeper”. And I believe that’s why you see the difference in attitudes on here"
i don't agree at all...i've seen plenty of men on here, and in my life, devastated by being cheated on, and if anything, they are in my experience just as sexually jealous as women. Men know exactly what is and what isn't cheating. It's disingenuous to say they don't. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Truth is, from an evolutionary and psychological stand point - women consider cheating to be anything sexual.
Men consider cheating to be when you make a bond and enter a relationship.
That’s why you see scorned ladies kicking off on here about NSA sex being cheating. Meanwhile the men are quiet and don’t see it as a big deal. So they don’t moan about it.
There’s been tons of studies about it. It’s the way we are wired.
100% certain that if I fucked a guy without Adam being present, he would definitely class it as cheating and be furious!
So not all men are wired that way.
Eve. X
Hey Eve. As soon as I posted it i realised I’d get that response from someone haha.
I should have worded it differently - men are more likely to forgive something that’s just sexual. And less likely to forgive something that’s “deeper”. And I believe that’s why you see the difference in attitudes on here
i don't agree at all...i've seen plenty of men on here, and in my life, devastated by being cheated on, and if anything, they are in my experience just as sexually jealous as women. Men know exactly what is and what isn't cheating. It's disingenuous to say they don't."
I completely agree. 
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"It might seem llke it because the men in that situation post asking about it more often.
I recall a female forumite who often used to like mentioning her cheating status and got lots of stick about it in those threads."
I remember her also. I think it's down to how a person goes about it really - that's what tends to affect the response. Yes, it'd be easier to say it's a man=bad sort of thing but it's a bit too simplistic and untrue. |
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By *yldstyleWoman
over a year ago
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I just don't get why its anyone's business! It becomes some weird spectator sport on here. Everyone says their piece. It means nothing though.
People will do what they want to do and the opinion of strangers on the internet is irrelevant. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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" I just don't get why its anyone's business! It becomes some weird spectator sport on here. Everyone says their piece. It means nothing though.
People will do what they want to do and the opinion of strangers on the internet is irrelevant."
Very true but that is just your opinion, no?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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" I just don't get why its anyone's business! It becomes some weird spectator sport on here. Everyone says their piece. It means nothing though.
People will do what they want to do and the opinion of strangers on the internet is irrelevant."
but it becomes other people's business when they ask not be contacted by attached people...everyone surely has a choice in whether they want to meet certain people or not? i couldn't give a flying fuck what some random married person does or does not do, but i do give a fuck about who i chose to sleep with. |
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By *yldstyleWoman
over a year ago
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" I just don't get why its anyone's business! It becomes some weird spectator sport on here. Everyone says their piece. It means nothing though.
People will do what they want to do and the opinion of strangers on the internet is irrelevant.
but it becomes other people's business when they ask not be contacted by attached people...everyone surely has a choice in whether they want to meet certain people or not? i couldn't give a flying fuck what some random married person does or does not do, but i do give a fuck about who i chose to sleep with."
And that's fine. Its between you and them. Why it entices such a response on the forum is beyond me.
Do people honestly think some moral preaching makes a difference? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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" I just don't get why its anyone's business! It becomes some weird spectator sport on here. Everyone says their piece. It means nothing though.
People will do what they want to do and the opinion of strangers on the internet is irrelevant."
Yea it's irrelevant to you as you don't know these online strangers doubt you have the same opinion if people you know was aware your a cheat
Personally if you cheat on your partner your a disgrace why play we someone's life and feelings for your own gratification and Benefit instead of being honest with them |
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I once had a 3 month fling with someone in swinging and had no idea that he was getting married and having a baby
As far as I was aware they were separated
So tbf the ones that say they are attached are being up front on here to others just not their unsuspecting partners |
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If we met women,it would still be the same,we would only meet single women or a woman playing with permission.
It does seem that married women get it easier on the forums,but i think thats because most just get on with it and don't constantly start threads about it.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I always wonder whether the people that cheat on here, would still have the same opinion on cheating if they found out their spouse was doing the dirty on them?
I suppose they will claim that they would, reality may be a different matter though.
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"I always wonder whether the people that cheat on here, would still have the same opinion on cheating if they found out their spouse was doing the dirty on them?
I suppose they will claim that they would, reality may be a different matter though.
Eve. X"
Lol imagine if the cheater on here then messaged their partner by accident that was on here too ?
Oooooooo the mind baffles |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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" I just don't get why its anyone's business! It becomes some weird spectator sport on here. Everyone says their piece. It means nothing though.
People will do what they want to do and the opinion of strangers on the internet is irrelevant.
but it becomes other people's business when they ask not be contacted by attached people...everyone surely has a choice in whether they want to meet certain people or not? i couldn't give a flying fuck what some random married person does or does not do, but i do give a fuck about who i chose to sleep with.
And that's fine. Its between you and them. Why it entices such a response on the forum is beyond me.
Do people honestly think some moral preaching makes a difference?"
i dont see any preaching...usually just whining..and people responding, as usually asked, as to why they do/dont want to meet cheats...of course it's not going to make a difference, but if men didn't put up threads bleating about how unfair it is that some arent interested in them , then no one would answer them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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" I just don't get why its anyone's business! It becomes some weird spectator sport on here. Everyone says their piece. It means nothing though.
People will do what they want to do and the opinion of strangers on the internet is irrelevant.
but it becomes other people's business when they ask not be contacted by attached people...everyone surely has a choice in whether they want to meet certain people or not? i couldn't give a flying fuck what some random married person does or does not do, but i do give a fuck about who i chose to sleep with."
Exactly this
And the ones that lie on their profiles or in messages 'I'm single' ........ take that choice away from those that don't want to meet cheats, at least be honest! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I always wonder whether the people that cheat on here, would still have the same opinion on cheating if they found out their spouse was doing the dirty on them?
I suppose they will claim that they would, reality may be a different matter though.
Eve. X
Lol imagine if the cheater on here then messaged their partner by accident that was on here too ?
Oooooooo the mind baffles "
That would be rather awkward ha ha! Although I imagine they would about and scream for a short while before making a couples profile.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"'The opinion of strangers on the Internet is irrelevant!'
*gets pissed off with opinions and spends hours trying to change them'
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Trrying to change them to suit your opinion ??  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Personally I think it’s definitely to do with gender
I would never meet a married man here for sex
But I have no problems when I meet & fuck a married woman
I prefer it if she is! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"'The opinion of strangers on the Internet is irrelevant!'
*gets pissed off with opinions and spends hours trying to change them'
Trrying to change them to suit your opinion ?? "
I'm quoting someone with different views to me and pointing out what they are doing is in complete contradiction *sigh* |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"'The opinion of strangers on the Internet is irrelevant!'
*gets pissed off with opinions and spends hours trying to change them'
Trrying to change them to suit your opinion ??
I'm quoting someone with different views to me and pointing out what they are doing is in complete contradiction *sigh*"
Try quote and reply not retyping then I may have understood |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"'The opinion of strangers on the Internet is irrelevant!'
*gets pissed off with opinions and spends hours trying to change them'
Trrying to change them to suit your opinion ??
I'm quoting someone with different views to me and pointing out what they are doing is in complete contradiction *sigh*
Try quote and reply not retyping then I may have understood "
I'm sorry you don't understand quotation marks |
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By *yldstyleWoman
over a year ago
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"'The opinion of strangers on the Internet is irrelevant!'
*gets pissed off with opinions and spends hours trying to change them'
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No I gave up trying to change peoples opinions. I'm just stating what I see. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"'The opinion of strangers on the Internet is irrelevant!'
*gets pissed off with opinions and spends hours trying to change them'
Trrying to change them to suit your opinion ??
I'm quoting someone with different views to me and pointing out what they are doing is in complete contradiction *sigh*
Try quote and reply not retyping then I may have understood
I'm sorry you don't understand quotation marks "
You've used quotation marks and forum incorrectly ......... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"'The opinion of strangers on the Internet is irrelevant!'
*gets pissed off with opinions and spends hours trying to change them'
Trrying to change them to suit your opinion ??
I'm quoting someone with different views to me and pointing out what they are doing is in complete contradiction *sigh*
Try quote and reply not retyping then I may have understood
I'm sorry you don't understand quotation marks
You've used quotation marks and forum incorrectly ......... "
Please send me a link to the rules |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"'The opinion of strangers on the Internet is irrelevant!'
*gets pissed off with opinions and spends hours trying to change them'
Trrying to change them to suit your opinion ??
I'm quoting someone with different views to me and pointing out what they are doing is in complete contradiction *sigh*
Try quote and reply not retyping then I may have understood
I'm sorry you don't understand quotation marks
You've used quotation marks and forum incorrectly .........
Please send me a link to the rules "
I didn't say you broke any rules
Look at your quotation marks
And you must know how to use forum quote and reply button because you quoting me ok  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"'The opinion of strangers on the Internet is irrelevant!'
*gets pissed off with opinions and spends hours trying to change them'
Trrying to change them to suit your opinion ??
I'm quoting someone with different views to me and pointing out what they are doing is in complete contradiction *sigh*
Try quote and reply not retyping then I may have understood
I'm sorry you don't understand quotation marks
You've used quotation marks and forum incorrectly .........
Please send me a link to the rules
I didn't say you broke any rules
Look at your quotation marks
And you must know how to use forum quote and reply button because you quoting me ok "
You said I was using it incorrectly. According to who? You say not the rules, so I'll use the quote function or not and it really doesn't matter. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"'The opinion of strangers on the Internet is irrelevant!'
*gets pissed off with opinions and spends hours trying to change them'
Trrying to change them to suit your opinion ??
I'm quoting someone with different views to me and pointing out what they are doing is in complete contradiction *sigh*
Try quote and reply not retyping then I may have understood
I'm sorry you don't understand quotation marks
You've used quotation marks and forum incorrectly .........
Please send me a link to the rules
I didn't say you broke any rules
Look at your quotation marks
And you must know how to use forum quote and reply button because you quoting me ok
You said I was using it incorrectly. According to who? You say not the rules, so I'll use the quote function or not and it really doesn't matter."
Yeah I did say you used forum incorrectly but I never said you broke any rules. There is a difference, I would explain but I can't be bothered ............ sorry I mis-read what you meant to begin with |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Truth is, from an evolutionary and psychological stand point - women consider cheating to be anything sexual.
Men consider cheating to be when you make a bond and enter a relationship.
That’s why you see scorned ladies kicking off on here about NSA sex being cheating. Meanwhile the men are quiet and don’t see it as a big deal. So they don’t moan about it.
There’s been tons of studies about it. It’s the way we are wired."
I'd say cheating is whatever the 2 halves of the couple say is cheating.
Are you saying that most men are happy to let their wives/girlfriends have sex with others as long as it's NSA? Ha ha...I know lots of men that would disagree with you.
For me if my other half were to see other people without telling me....then it's cheating plain and simple. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It really doesn’t matter....
Exactly
Come on ladies
Let’s move on
Yay! A man has stepped in to tell us 'ladies' what's what! Thank God!"
God?
You can thank me...... but God’s a bit strong
Awwww go on then - if you insist! Lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Can be married and playing with wife’s consent, yes but I know what your saying. Bit of double standards going on. "
Bullshit. It is only double standards if the same people are making different judgements according to gender of the cheater. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Truth is, from an evolutionary and psychological stand point - women consider cheating to be anything sexual.
Men consider cheating to be when you make a bond and enter a relationship.
That’s why you see scorned ladies kicking off on here about NSA sex being cheating. Meanwhile the men are quiet and don’t see it as a big deal. So they don’t moan about it.
There’s been tons of studies about it. It’s the way we are wired."
Source the studies |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If we met women,it would still be the same,we would only meet single women or a woman playing with permission.
It does seem that married women get it easier on the forums,but i think thats because most just get on with it and don't constantly start threads about it.
Miss"
And many men don't care whether it's a married hole or single hole |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If we met women,it would still be the same,we would only meet single women or a woman playing with permission.
It does seem that married women get it easier on the forums,but i think thats because most just get on with it and don't constantly start threads about it.
Miss
And many men don't care whether it's a married hole or single hole "
Oh and some men's egos are inflated when it's a married hole |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Cheating has all difrent types of background story's
Some are stuck and can't get out of that relationship and others do it just because there skanks and have no excuse |
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" I just don't get why its anyone's business! It becomes some weird spectator sport on here. Everyone says their piece. It means nothing though.
People will do what they want to do and the opinion of strangers on the internet is irrelevant."
You hit the nail on the head |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If we met women,it would still be the same,we would only meet single women or a woman playing with permission.
It does seem that married women get it easier on the forums,but i think thats because most just get on with it and don't constantly start threads about it.
Miss
And many men don't care whether it's a married hole or single hole
Oh and some men's egos are inflated when it's a married hole "
That's the one |
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I don't know what it is but most of the ladies on here don't like the thought of a married man playing without his wife at all and they will resist it with everything in them.
I am not sure what the fear is.
However, the same ladies don't mind the married ladies playing with as many guys as possible, I really don't understand it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't know what it is but most of the ladies on here don't like the thought of a married man playing without his wife at all and they will resist it with everything in them.
I am not sure what the fear is.
However, the same ladies don't mind the married ladies playing with as many guys as possible, I really don't understand it."
Nope, wrong again. I don't like the thought of any married person playing without permission. I don't care what their gender is.
Sweeping statements are frustrating.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We've seen hundreds of these threads of the married man posting he's after NSA and getting taken down a peg or two but never the women on here getting the same treatment or t-girls!
Does being unfaithful depend on what gender? "
Of course it does. Do you really have to ask the question?
It's no different when a man posts asking for advice on how to get his [female] partner into swinging. He gets hung, drawn and quartered.
Yet a single woman posted that she wanted her boyfriend, who didn't swing, to have a bi MMF threesome. He didn't and couldn't understand why she would want one.
The response in the forum was polar opposite - she was treated with compassion and the general consensus was that the guy was to blame!
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By *imonP23Man
over a year ago
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Relationships are often complicated!
Women lose interest in sex far more often than men do, so a lot of the men on here will be "married cheaters", whether they admit it or not. Some will be doing it with the full knowledge and permission of their partners (and are therefore arguably not "cheaters"), others will be doing it in total secrecy, and many of us are somewhere in between. In my case, I have permission to look elsewhere, but my wife dosn't want to know the sordid details. In other cases, there will be no specific permission given, but the wife is just quietly relieved that her husband has stopped pestering her for sex and seems to be happier lately. Is this still "cheating"? Opinions vary.
For women, the situation is likely to be different. How many female "cheaters" are in sexless relationships? This is rare in the general population, but it's still likely to account for at least some women being on here. Of course women in this situation generally have much more opportunities than men do, partly because of the male/female ratio on here (and all other "adult dating" sites), and partly because men seem less likely to care if the women they see are married.
But negative stereotyping is common. A sexless relationship is not necessarily an "unhappy" one in any other respect, and nobody should ever presume to suggest that a person in one should leave his/her partner: this does become very tiresome after a while. Same with those who suggest that such problems can be magically solved by "talking it over" (as if that hasn't been tried): such suggestions are generally unhelpful. As are assumptions that those in sexless relationships "don't respect their partners", or that they are "being dishonest with them" (maybe, maybe not: you don't know, so don't presume).
Sometimes a female "married cheater" profile pops up in my area, and when it does, of course I message her if she's reasonably attractive. But so do hundreds of other guys!
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over a year ago
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It's not down to gender, there are some very successful married men on here that are / used to be fawned over in the forums.
It's how you go about it that makes a difference. Come on here moaning trying to change people's mindset you're going to get challenged just like any other thread. |
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over a year ago
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"I’m married and clearly state it too but I have had married women say not interested because I’m married and too much grief double standards lol"
Each to there own, I wouldn't but I'm single so no double standards! Maybe she see bareback pic and that's the reason because that also puts a lot of people off. |
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over a year ago
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We all have our reasons for being on this site, married, single, in a relationship, at the end of the day you can politely say no. Most women need a reason to have sex where men just need a chance  |
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"We've seen hundreds of these threads of the married man posting he's after NSA and getting taken down a peg or two but never the women on here getting the same treatment or t-girls!
Does being unfaithful depend on what gender? "
Nope, both get treated the same by us and get a not interested, we used to be quite vocal against cheaters but have realised we are swimming against the tide on here now, so just let people get on with it and ignore them, |
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"We've seen hundreds of these threads of the married man posting he's after NSA and getting taken down a peg or two but never the women on here getting the same treatment or t-girls!
Does being unfaithful depend on what gender? "
Not to us, our opinion doesn't change because of a gender. |
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Look at this way. A single bloke might get two meets a year, a married bloke might get one meet every three years. Hence he moans about the difficulty of getting meets.
Conversely, a single woman might get 100 messages a week and a married woman fifty messages a week. Hence the latter doesn't moan.
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"We've seen hundreds of these threads of the married man posting he's after NSA and getting taken down a peg or two but never the women on here getting the same treatment or t-girls!
Does being unfaithful depend on what gender? "
Of course, but it's purely down to the male/female ratio. If it was reversed then so would the threads and responses to them, they'd be the same though, just reversed gender wise. Just the way it is I suppose, although if it was reversed..... I'd promise not to behave like them and would be  ! |
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It's simply because men dont mind fucking married women. I personally get a thrill out of it. Whereas most women do mind fucking a married man. It's how we are wired. |
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Conversely, do any people on here feel they have raised their sons or daughters any different than the already existing, stereotyped gender roles?
Now, did you then? |
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There are lots of married men on here without the knowledge of their partner that do really well, and get new meets regularly, difference is they just get on with it, they don't come on the forums moaning that their wives don't want sex and trying to justify their actions, similar to cheating women on here. Hence no reaction.
The other difference is more the gender of the ones doing the challenging, a cheating woman is a badge of honour to a man, whereas a cheating man is just a cheat to many women and couples.
Seems men just like moaning, "my wife doesn't want sex with me" "women have a moral compass" This in itself is a very unattractive trait.
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"Truth is, from an evolutionary and psychological stand point - women consider cheating to be anything sexual.
Men consider cheating to be when you make a bond and enter a relationship.
That’s why you see scorned ladies kicking off on here about NSA sex being cheating. Meanwhile the men are quiet and don’t see it as a big deal. So they don’t moan about it.
There’s been tons of studies about it. It’s the way we are wired."
so if you were in a relationship and your partner was having NSA sex with other men would that be ok with you |
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