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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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My partner loves to go straight into the job with little or no foreplay. Its physically sore. I've mentioned it before but doesn't seem to sink in. What's your thoughts folks? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If I was you I'd be banning sex until they learned that it's about mutual pleasure and gave a thorough demo of how he's going to get you purring before getting his end away. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If I was you I'd be banning sex until they learned that it's about mutual pleasure and gave a thorough demo of how he's going to get you purring before getting his end away. "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thanks for the replys guys. I don't enjoy it and.pretend to cum to get it over with. I think he is just lazy and thoughtless. Maybe time for a new model me thinks  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well pretending to cum wont help. Talk to him let him know its not working and advise how to fix it. Pretending its working isnt going to change anything
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
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"Thanks for the replys guys. I don't enjoy it and.pretend to cum to get it over with. I think he is just lazy and thoughtless. Maybe time for a new model me thinks "
Sounds like he's a bit selfish to me. If you've mentioned it before and nothings changed get yourself a new model like you say!! |
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"Thanks for the replys guys. I don't enjoy it and.pretend to cum to get it over with. I think he is just lazy and thoughtless. Maybe time for a new model me thinks "
This is why i never understand people who advocate no sex before marriage. Can you imagine if you were stuck with that for the rest of your life!? |
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By *inful xWoman
over a year ago
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"My partner loves to go straight into the job with little or no foreplay. Its physically sore. I've mentioned it before but doesn't seem to sink in. What's your thoughts folks?"
He wouldn't be my partner anymore 
If you're not enjoying it , stop doing it. He sounds selfish so it's time to put what you want first  |
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"Thanks for the replys guys. I don't enjoy it and.pretend to cum to get it over with. I think he is just lazy and thoughtless. Maybe time for a new model me thinks "
If you’re pretending to cum he’ll think you’re enjoying it. I’d suggest a serious honest conversation when he’s not got a hard on so he can listen properly  |
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"Wow nope, once could be looked passed... but continuing to do it when you've stated discomfort. Pure ignorance."
Yeah some guys just think their way is best whatever you say, shame as in other aspects they’re what you need  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My partner loves to go straight into the job with little or no foreplay. Its physically sore. I've mentioned it before but doesn't seem to sink in. What's your thoughts folks?"
Tell him to feck off and find someone less selfish |
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Glad its not just us tvs that get guys like that lol
They have to be told while they are horny so they listen.... If that means they get put off... So be it... Foreplay is something that is needed for most girls.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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TBH lots of men think sex /intimacy is all about their pleasure!! They miss out on such eroticism penetrating with out adequate foreplay!! It shows a lack of respect to their partner!!!your partner needs to hear clearly from you howimportant it is that you are aroused prior to him entering!! Xxx |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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You need to talk to him about it OP and tell him it's not just wham am thank you Ma'am - I hate sex without any kind of foreplay and build up to reach full arousal and feel less in control when it happens like that. |
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"I've mentioned it before but doesn't seem to sink in. What's your thoughts folks?"
'Mention' something to a guy, it isn't that important.
To quote Dan Savage, you need to "Use Your Words". No more 'mention', sit down and talk explicitly about likes, dislikes, and exactly what you want from sex.
Dropping a hint now and then and letting the bad behaviour continue isn't doing either of you any good.
He needs to know that this is a mutual experience that should benefit you both, at least most of the time (We'll accept taking one for your partner's pleasure happens sometimes).
If not for now, he needs to learn for future partner's.
If that isn't happening in the longer term, then DTMFA. Drop him and start over with someone who isn't so selfish. Sex might not be everything, but it's significant enough you need to be compatible to spend a lengthy relationship in. |
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By *wo4FemCouple
over a year ago
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If you're going to continue just having sex with no foreplay then i'd suggest that you get yourself some lube.
Have to say that there doesn't seem to be much communication between you both. Either that or he's not listening to you.
You could always take the lead and sit on his face and make him lick your pussy till you feel ready to be penetrated.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No foreplay what!!!! Lol..
The build up teasing kissing touching the intense feeling you both get that's amazing..
Sorry without foreplay what's the point x |
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"If you're going to continue just having sex with no foreplay then i'd suggest that you get yourself some lube.
Have to say that there doesn't seem to be much communication between you both. Either that or he's not listening to you.
You could always take the lead and sit on his face and make him lick your pussy till you feel ready to be penetrated.
Mr2 "
I agree with this, most guys enjoy a bit of face sitting even from a girl like me... The control is delicious x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My partner loves to go straight into the job with little or no foreplay. Its physically sore. I've mentioned it before but doesn't seem to sink in. What's your thoughts folks?"
I'm stunned at least 20min foreplay is needed min |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Foreplay can be short for a spontaneous quickie, but surely there should be some. Not many ladies get wet enough without a little physical stimulation. . |
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"My partner loves to go straight into the job with little or no foreplay. Its physically sore. I've mentioned it before but doesn't seem to sink in. What's your thoughts folks?"
Poor you and ouch it seems very selfish of him |
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People only treat you the way you allow them . So as you accept his behaviour by allowing him to have sex with you with no foreplay YOU are enabling his behaviour. By faking it you are also sending mixed message to him ,youve "mentioned " its uncomfortable but hes making you cum (so he thinks ) so he going assuming job done ! Why on earth would he change a thing as as far as he's concerned you both are enjoying it ! How can you expect change when you have done nothing to give him any reason to .
You need to be totally honest with him for a start ,doesn't require you to be brutal but an adult conversation.
Tell him clearly what you want and enjoy and guide him to that before you allow his dick between your legs . If he's not then listening and just trying the norm ,or just given a token effort then tell him no .Tell him you aren't turned on yet and don't continue unless he does give you enough foreplay that you are ready . He'll soon make the effort if he actually wants sex .
If he is unwilling to change then change your partner. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No way.... the build up... the intensity....the moistening.... jeez.... what's wrong with him....  "
This 
I mean maybe he’d like a dildo up the arse...and Make sure you go in dry!   |
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"People only treat you the way you allow them . So as you accept his behaviour by allowing him to have sex with you with no foreplay YOU are enabling his behaviour. By faking it you are also sending mixed message to him ,youve "mentioned " its uncomfortable but hes making you cum (so he thinks ) so he going assuming job done ! Why on earth would he change a thing as as far as he's concerned you both are enjoying it ! How can you expect change when you have done nothing to give him any reason to .
You need to be totally honest with him for a start ,doesn't require you to be brutal but an adult conversation.
Tell him clearly what you want and enjoy and guide him to that before you allow his dick between your legs . If he's not then listening and just trying the norm ,or just given a token effort then tell him no .Tell him you aren't turned on yet and don't continue unless he does give you enough foreplay that you are ready . He'll soon make the effort if he actually wants sex .
If he is unwilling to change then change your partner. "
Great advice |
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"My partner loves to go straight into the job with little or no foreplay. Its physically sore. I've mentioned it before but doesn't seem to sink in. What's your thoughts folks?"
Wondering why he’s your partner if this is the case ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My partner loves to go straight into the job with little or no foreplay. Its physically sore. I've mentioned it before but doesn't seem to sink in. What's your thoughts folks?"
Don't understand it, the foreplay is probably the best part, why any guy would want to miss out on watching a woman squirm and moan while his tongue teases her clit Is beyond me 
Plus there is nothing hotter than a woman cumming with your tongue lapping up all her juices |
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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago
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"My partner loves to go straight into the job with little or no foreplay. Its physically sore. I've mentioned it before but doesn't seem to sink in. What's your thoughts folks?
Wondering why he’s your partner if this is the case ?"
(Smiles) ain’t that the truth... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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All your comments are great folks. Think I have been missing out on so much... just feel it's sad having to educate a supposedly experienced man in.sex ed. Maybe he is just a lazy sod at end if day... |
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"All your comments are great folks. Think I have been missing out on so much... just feel it's sad having to educate a supposedly experienced man in.sex ed. Maybe he is just a lazy sod at end if day..."
Men aren't mind readers and every woman is different . They go from your responses . As you faked that are you really surprised then you aren't getting from sex what you want ? You are very quick to lay the blame all at his door . Sorry but I feel you need to be honest at the huge part you had to play in this and can't now go "all whoa is me " when you have lead yourself down a path of your own making . |
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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago
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"All your comments are great folks. Think I have been missing out on so much... just feel it's sad having to educate a supposedly experienced man in.sex ed. Maybe he is just a lazy sod at end if day...
Men aren't mind readers and every woman is different . They go from your responses . As you faked that are you really surprised then you aren't getting from sex what you want ? You are very quick to lay the blame all at his door . Sorry but I feel you need to be honest at the huge part you had to play in this and can't now go "all whoa is me " when you have lead yourself down a path of your own making ."
Every stick has two ends syndrome, Newtons 3rd law? For equilibrium there has to be an equal forward and opposite force.
The last bit doesn’t sound right, think the sentiment is there. |
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"All your comments are great folks. Think I have been missing out on so much... just feel it's sad having to educate a supposedly experienced man in.sex ed. Maybe he is just a lazy sod at end if day..."
I think that's unfair. |
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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago
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"All your comments are great folks. Think I have been missing out on so much... just feel it's sad having to educate a supposedly experienced man in.sex ed. Maybe he is just a lazy sod at end if day...
I think that's unfair. "
Equally, you don’t know him... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Thanks for the replys guys. I don't enjoy it and.pretend to cum to get it over with. I think he is just lazy and thoughtless. Maybe time for a new model me thinks "
Maybe he doesn't enjoy it either and just wants to get it over with? |
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"Thanks for the replys guys. I don't enjoy it and.pretend to cum to get it over with. I think he is just lazy and thoughtless. Maybe time for a new model me thinks
Maybe he doesn't enjoy it either and just wants to get it over with?"
Ha ha ha, imagine there's a single guy on another forum saying he hates sex and just wants to "do his duty" to his partner in the least amount of time possible. |
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"All your comments are great folks. Think I have been missing out on so much... just feel it's sad having to educate a supposedly experienced man in.sex ed. Maybe he is just a lazy sod at end if day...
I think that's unfair.
Equally, you don’t know him..."
None of us do but what we do know tells me that in my opinion placing the blame entirely on him is unfair in my opinion. |
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"Thanks for the replys guys. I don't enjoy it and.pretend to cum to get it over with. I think he is just lazy and thoughtless. Maybe time for a new model me thinks
Maybe he doesn't enjoy it either and just wants to get it over with?"
I was with someone like this! Wasn’t ‘into sex’ Did it now and then... with v little foreplay, very frustrating. Good luck OP x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Whoa! The tide is turning by some of you. I.said I've mentioned it before. I know deep down what's right and wrong but just wanted opinions from others to confirm my thoughts and feelings. Thanks to you nice guys xx
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"paisley
Whoa! The tide is turning by some of you. I.said I've mentioned it before. I know deep down what's right and wrong but just wanted opinions from others to confirm my thoughts and feelings. Thanks to you nice guys xx
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you asked for peoples thoughts on an open forum. Some of them will be different to yours. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"paisley
Whoa! The tide is turning by some of you. I.said I've mentioned it before. I know deep down what's right and wrong but just wanted opinions from others to confirm my thoughts and feelings. Thanks to you nice guys xx
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I wasn't trying to be mean. He might not like sex and think you do because you pretend to orgasm. Has the sex always been the same? He may be feeling unwanted or unattractive.
People sometimes stay together and never have sex with each other. |
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Have a chat with him again. Then try making love, and actually guide him through what you would like him to do. And while doing it, tell him how it makes you feel when he touches and kisses you here and there. That should actually make him want to do it when he sees how much you like it. I think that should work. THINK! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Don't understand it, the foreplay is probably the best part, why any guy would want to miss out on watching a woman squirm and moan while his tongue teases her clit Is beyond me
Plus there is nothing hotter than a woman cumming with your tongue lapping up all her juices "
Good lord that is one horny paragraph. I need a lie down. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I wonder how a bloke reaches his mid twenties without realising when a woman is turned on......."
Try mid 40s. My husband is like that. I even got a piercing over my clit to show him where it is and he still can't find it. 
I've tried all the tips and tricks except the strap on lol.
I think some men just aren't good at sex
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Thanks for the replys guys. I don't enjoy it and.pretend to cum to get it over with. I think he is just lazy and thoughtless. Maybe time for a new model me thinks "
DON'T SELL YOURSELF SHORT, pussy is to taste to be left untouch. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I wonder how a bloke reaches his mid twenties without realising when a woman is turned on.......
Try mid 40s. My husband is like that. I even got a piercing over my clit to show him where it is and he still can't find it.
I've tried all the tips and tricks except the strap on lol.
I think some men just aren't good at sex
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Yet you still married him?
Man wouldn't even get past the dating stage if he couldn't satisfy me sexually. |
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"I wonder how a bloke reaches his mid twenties without realising when a woman is turned on.......
Try mid 40s. My husband is like that. I even got a piercing over my clit to show him where it is and he still can't find it.
I've tried all the tips and tricks except the strap on lol.
I think some men just aren't good at sex
Yet you still married him?
Man wouldn't even get past the dating stage if he couldn't satisfy me sexually. "
We are living in sin it's just easier to say married.
Tbh I thought it wouldn't matter and it didn't while our daughter was younger. I was so busy that it never bothered me.
Now I'm stupidly busy with work and life but it definitely does bother me.
He let's me play so long as I'm discreet. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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On the flip side, an ex of mine always skipped foreplay and it made the sex really boring. She just wanted me to put it in without much effort beforehand... Although the sex was great for both of us, and that's what she liked, I wanted to explore and enjoy each others bodies in a much deeper and more meaningful way. I guess both sides can be 'lazy' or whatever, but best to talk about it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Thanks for the replys guys. I don't enjoy it and.pretend to cum to get it over with. I think he is just lazy and thoughtless. Maybe time for a new model me thinks "
Definitely. Find a guy that makes you cum for real sweetheart. Life is too short. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My partner loves to go straight into the job with little or no foreplay. Its physically sore. I've mentioned it before but doesn't seem to sink in. What's your thoughts folks?"
I'd rather the foreplay than sex if it's one or the other! |
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