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"Casual meets can turn into more " Yes, so I've heard, not experienced it myself though! | |||
"Casual meets can turn into more Yes, so I've heard, not experienced it myself though!" Ditto | |||
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"I'm a single woman hoping to meet a fellow perv for longlasting love and know for a fact I'm not the only one who would like to find someone I could share all the naughty fun with. Wouldn't it be great if fab had a section for people looking for more than casual meets? "  | |||
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"Been there done that didn’t work for me after 2 yrs! " Can one ask what happened? If it's too personal then don't | |||
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"Been there, done it....twice.. and both times the guys turned out to be liars and very dishonest in what was meant to be a semi open relationship. Made me a bit wiser and harder and not so gullible to men's lies "Being on the dating scene has made me extremely cynical. | |||
"Been there, done it....twice.. and both times the guys turned out to be liars and very dishonest in what was meant to be a semi open relationship. Made me a bit wiser and harder and not so gullible to men's lies
Being on the dating scene has made me extremely cynical. "Me too | |||
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"Been there, done it....twice.. and both times the guys turned out to be liars and very dishonest in what was meant to be a semi open relationship. Made me a bit wiser and harder and not so gullible to men's lies
Being on the dating scene has made me extremely cynical. "I agree why im not on the dating scene | |||
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"Walks on the beach, candle lit dinners, deep penetration and group play. That isn't too much to ask for. Is it? "You old romantic you! | |||
"Have had what I thought was a relationship until her husband who worked away found out. Always looking for another should one come along." I have been there and done the other man thing .............never again! | |||
"Walks on the beach, candle lit dinners, deep penetration and group play. That isn't too much to ask for. Is it? "Marry me  | |||
If anyone had broken a site rule they’d have been on it like a rash!  | |||
"Walks on the beach, candle lit dinners, deep penetration and group play. That isn't too much to ask for. Is it? "Make that ‘double penetration’ and I’m in!  | |||
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"Walks on the beach, candle lit dinners, deep penetration and group play. That isn't too much to ask for. Is it?
Marry me " | |||
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Not sure if a separate forum would be a good idea. The Lounge is the busiest part of the forum so keeping it as threads in there will get more views. A separate place might get quiet. | |||
"I'm a single woman hoping to meet a fellow perv for longlasting love and know for a fact I'm not the only one who would like to find someone I could share all the naughty fun with. Wouldn't it be great if fab had a section for people looking for more than casual meets? " This although the fun of meeting new people is great, to find that someone to share it all with is much more appealing to me | |||
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"I'm a single woman hoping to meet a fellow perv for longlasting love and know for a fact I'm not the only one who would like to find someone I could share all the naughty fun with. Wouldn't it be great if fab had a section for people looking for more than casual meets? It does happen.... "  | |||
"Walks on the beach, candle lit dinners, deep penetration and group play. That isn't too much to ask for. Is it? "Not at  | |||
"A while ago someone suggested a forum space ‘(like the lounge, introductions etc) for those looking for fwb’s/relationships/couples looking for a ‘sictificant third’! It ran for weeks with 100% positive comments. There was loads of support for it but not one solitary comment from admin!
If anyone had broken a site rule they’d have been on it like a rash! "Got a politics forum, cannot see why we cannot have a dating one. | |||
" Wouldn't it be great if fab had a section for people looking for more than casual meets? " Yup... Im far too messed up to mix with the general populus | |||
" Wouldn't it be great if fab had a section for people looking for more than casual meets? Yup... Im far too messed up to mix with the general populus "I'd date the fuck out of you | |||
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" Wouldn't it be great if fab had a section for people looking for more than casual meets? Yup... Im far too messed up to mix with the general populus "You can mix with me any time sexy! | |||
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" Wouldn't it be great if fab had a section for people looking for more than casual meets? Yup... Im far too messed up to mix with the general populus
I'd date the fuck out of you "grrrr  | |||
"Walks on the beach, candle lit dinners, deep penetration and group play. That isn't too much to ask for. Is it?
You old romantic you!"True story. | |||
It’s happened to me before. I’m holding out for another time.
But until then I’m enjoying the casual
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"That's what I want but it is proving harder than I thought" I'm doing ok off this thread | |||
"Walks on the beach, candle lit dinners, deep penetration and group play. That isn't too much to ask for. Is it? " | |||
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"Walks on the beach, candle lit dinners, deep penetration and group play. That isn't too much to ask for. Is it?
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"Would love to find someone for a relationship knowing I wouldn't have to have the awkward "erm I've been to swinging clubs" chat "Ditto. There are people out there who don't like regular sex, and they're terrifying... | |||
https://www.fabswingers.com/forum/lounge/698019 | |||
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"Been there, done it....twice.. and both times the guys turned out to be liars and very dishonest in what was meant to be a semi open relationship. Made me a bit wiser and harder and not so gullible to men's lies
Being on the dating scene has made me extremely cynical. "Yes, I feel the same too. | |||
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"It's the dream isn't it? To find someone as kinky as yourself but that you can also have a "normal" life. ...whatever that is." It’s what I hope for. | |||
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"A separate forum would dilute The Lounge but a 'looking for more' tick box under profile preferences might be the way forward." Perfect idea | |||
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"Walks on the beach, candle lit dinners, deep penetration and group play. That isn't too much to ask for. Is it?
Tea and biscuits too "Nothing wrong with tea and biscuits | |||
"It's the dream isn't it? To find someone as kinky as yourself but that you can also have a "normal" life. ...whatever that is." You would think so, all a person wants and more but even then it’s not enough for them | |||
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"I'm a single woman hoping to meet a fellow perv for longlasting love and know for a fact I'm not the only one who would like to find someone I could share all the naughty fun with. Wouldn't it be great if fab had a section for people looking for more than casual meets? " Keep the faith chica, he's out there/on here. We meet on here and have met many more at parties who have also met through fab. | |||
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"I'm a single woman hoping to meet a fellow perv for longlasting love and know for a fact I'm not the only one who would like to find someone I could share all the naughty fun with. Wouldn't it be great if fab had a section for people looking for more than casual meets? " yeah.. i would like to meet a "partner in crime".. | |||
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"I'm a single woman hoping to meet a fellow perv for longlasting love and know for a fact I'm not the only one who would like to find someone I could share all the naughty fun with. Wouldn't it be great if fab had a section for people looking for more than casual meets? " Absolutely agree!  | |||
Im holding out for a third time lucky.
Keep the faith people, and say bollocks to those who tell you that you shouldnt be here to date | |||
"I really couldn't go back to a vanilla relationship now, swinging and kink is part of who i am and it makes me happy. Ive had two romantic relationships over the seven years ive been here and though neither worked out in the end i would not swap the awesome experiences we had for the world. Could have done without the heartache when they ended of course but its all part of growing up
Im holding out for a third time lucky.
Keep the faith people, and say bollocks to those who tell you that you shouldnt be here to date "Amen | |||
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"Whilst I'm not looking, I do find myself sometimes missing a "special someone" in my life. However I know I would never want to live with someone again or ever get married again. I also don't get a lot of spare time and I do enjoy being by myself sometimes -so I think it would be selfish of me. If I met anyone though here I would absolutely want them to stop meeting as a single male. I used to think I would be ok with it but recent experiences have proven to me that I wouldn't be." Its all about being honest and figuring which compromises work and which would feel like too much of a sacrifice. Interestingly though boundaries are sometimes fluid and can change back and forth over time. | |||
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"Walks on the beach, candle lit dinners, deep penetration and group play. That isn't too much to ask for. Is it? "Move closer to me
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"I would love more also with a like minded person. Romance and swinging, an unconventional relationship....is that too much to ask for? "Like a man with a thai bride asking why she doesn't love him. | |||
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"Been there, done it twice Wouldn't recommend looking for love on fab. " ohhh why not ?? | |||
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"I’ve all but given up on dating but I’m always hopeful. Someone who enjoys the non vanilla side of life would be perfect "Teesside  | |||
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"I'm a single woman hoping to meet a fellow perv for longlasting love and know for a fact I'm not the only one who would like to find someone I could share all the naughty fun with. Wouldn't it be great if fab had a section for people looking for more than casual meets? Keep the faith chica, he's out there/on here. We meet on here and have met many more at parties who have also met through fab. " Not so easy for us regular dad bod to guys most ladies have only gym fit guys please. I got injured while in the forces so my gym days are very few and far between. Stuck with a dad bod for eternity lol | |||
"A separate forum would dilute The Lounge but a 'looking for more' tick box under profile preferences might be the way forward." I have a "rabbit hole" in my garden Roxi | |||
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"I'm a single woman hoping to meet a fellow perv for longlasting love and know for a fact I'm not the only one who would like to find someone I could share all the naughty fun with. Wouldn't it be great if fab had a section for people looking for more than casual meets? This would be my ideal scenario...I always come back to fab when i'm singl. In my last couple of relationships i've found that when really opening up about sexual desires they've just not been on the same wavelength as me...When mentioning things like swinging or fucking on cam they've reacted like i'm some kind of sex freak lol. I always hope i'll meet that holy grail of a local girl on here who is likeminded. An easier way of being able to go about that on here would be great...Some mind of singles searching for more section. " | |||
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"Question is why is this so elusive we are all adults here ! So most people are happy to meet for Nsa sex but can't do dinner or a movie ?"I can't even get sex ..... never mind anything else | |||
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"Question is why is this so elusive we are all adults here ! So most people are happy to meet for Nsa sex but can't do dinner or a movie ?
I can't even get sex ..... never mind anything else "You are having us on....!!! | |||
"Question is why is this so elusive we are all adults here ! So most people are happy to meet for Nsa sex but can't do dinner or a movie ?
I can't even get sex ..... never mind anything else "Lady ... I just checked your profile ! What the hells goin on up there why you can't find some good company. Hey London is calling | |||
"I dont think I could date a swinger .Men are hard to trust .keep them at arms length until you want sex "Come on Rose we aren't all scum bags, show a little love lol | |||
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"It's a great idea. But like some other posts from fellow fabbers I am cynical. 2 single males I met turned out to be cheaters. One wanted something regular and agreed cheaters are bad. Then hey Presto, partner with child. Online sites have made genuine people hard to find. X " I read 'hey pesto', and thought I must make some fresh this weekend.  | |||
"I dont think I could date a swinger .Men are hard to trust .keep them at arms length until you want sex
Come on Rose we aren't all scum bags, show a little love lol"Most are until proven other wise | |||
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"I dont think I could date a swinger .Men are hard to trust .keep them at arms length until you want sex
Come on Rose we aren't all scum bags, show a little love lol
Most are until proven other wise "Ohh I guess that makes me a true exception. I think I'll reach round and pat myself on the back | |||
"Honey rose if you were my girl I would never even smile at another girl "Its funny fab men and vanilla men dont see what they have until it's too late . | |||
"Honey rose if you were my girl I would never even smile at another girl
Its funny fab men and vanilla men dont see what they have until it's too late . ""I'm quite happy in our fun together to bring third parties .But we do this together and agreed upon" That is the perfect attitude lady, win win if you ask me, Any guy who would dump on such an arrangement wouldn't be worth seeing in the first place, | |||
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"Honey rose if you were my girl I would never even smile at another girl
Its funny fab men and vanilla men dont see what they have until it's too late . "Exactly this, I always get a message 3 months later. Can I explain.........? Nope. Moved on. No need. | |||
"Honey rose if you were my girl I would never even smile at another girl
Its funny fab men and vanilla men dont see what they have until it's too late .
"I'm quite happy in our fun together to bring third parties .But we do this together and agreed upon"
That is the perfect attitude lady, win win if you ask me, Any guy who would dump on such an arrangement wouldn't be worth seeing in the first place, "Believe me men always want more . | |||
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"Honey rose if you were my girl I would never even smile at another girl
Its funny fab men and vanilla men dont see what they have until it's too late .
"I'm quite happy in our fun together to bring third parties .But we do this together and agreed upon"
That is the perfect attitude lady, win win if you ask me, Any guy who would dump on such an arrangement wouldn't be worth seeing in the first place,
Believe me men always want more . "As a man myself I won't be a hypocrite and disagree. But why creep when you don't have to ? If my partner in crime is on the same page, jealousy and insecurities aside why not have the cake, eat the cake and have a food fight with the rest ! | |||
"Honey rose if you were my girl I would never even smile at another girl
Its funny fab men and vanilla men dont see what they have until it's too late .
"I'm quite happy in our fun together to bring third parties .But we do this together and agreed upon"
That is the perfect attitude lady, win win if you ask me, Any guy who would dump on such an arrangement wouldn't be worth seeing in the first place,
Believe me men always want more .
As a man myself I won't be a hypocrite and disagree. But why creep when you don't have to ? If my partner in crime is on the same page, jealousy and insecurities aside why not have the cake, eat the cake and have a food fight with the rest ! "Its happens | |||
If anyone is interested... let me know x | |||
"Honey rose if you were my girl I would never even smile at another girl
Its funny fab men and vanilla men dont see what they have until it's too late .
"I'm quite happy in our fun together to bring third parties .But we do this together and agreed upon"
That is the perfect attitude lady, win win if you ask me, Any guy who would dump on such an arrangement wouldn't be worth seeing in the first place,
Believe me men always want more .
As a man myself I won't be a hypocrite and disagree. But why creep when you don't have to ? If my partner in crime is on the same page, jealousy and insecurities aside why not have the cake, eat the cake and have a food fight with the rest !
Its happens "Well .... Hello Honey Rose ! How are you | |||
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"I'm a single woman hoping to meet a fellow perv for longlasting love and know for a fact I'm not the only one who would like to find someone I could share all the naughty fun with. Wouldn't it be great if fab had a section for people looking for more than casual meets? " If only I were younger and closer | |||
"While giving an option to meet likeminded swingers who also are open to "more" will be welcome to some, I can't say I would have a relationship with a "single male swinger" ever again. He was a prolific single male party boy, had a fab profile also, yet convinced me he wanted a committed monogamous relationship with the added benefit of swinging. I was hesitant, but it sounded perfect. However his idea of that in reality was keeping our involvement as a couple in anything "scene like" at an an arms length, while hooking up with other women on the regular, arranging fab meets and arranging and hosting his own swingers parties in secret from me. He even took secret holidays abroad to swing, and had tinder and meetings through other online platforms. I contacted one of the couples he met behind my back on Fab, and they were horrified. This was happening even though I offered him the option of swinging together and separately on a regular basis. He insisted "no" at every turn whilst talking of marriage and life commitment. It all came out in the end of course. In the end it all came down to manipulation and control. He was used to life as a single male alpha "hunter" and clearly felt a need to exercise sexual control over himself, and me. He actually got off on it and spent a lot of energy seeking it out. Anything involving me having the same freedom or giving up on his right to fuck who he wanted when he wanted was beneath what he was willing to accept. It was quite horrific for me and I can't say I would trust single swinger men's integrity to have an honest relationship after that. If you've been a single male "party hard" swinger for most of your experience, I think it's too hard for many to ever give up or compromise on. Even when a woman offers you that freedom, you want the freedom on your own terms. It's a toxic situation I hope I never become involved in again. Much more fun to be had in all this when you keep yourself single. " Wow that's crazy Echo. I guess my FB was right when she told me I'm too normal for fab ! | |||
"While giving an option to meet likeminded swingers who also are open to "more" will be welcome to some, I can't say I would have a relationship with a "single male swinger" ever again. He was a prolific single male party boy, had a fab profile also, yet convinced me he wanted a committed monogamous relationship with the added benefit of swinging. I was hesitant, but it sounded perfect. However his idea of that in reality was keeping our involvement as a couple in anything "scene like" at an an arms length, while hooking up with other women on the regular, arranging fab meets and arranging and hosting his own swingers parties in secret from me. He even took secret holidays abroad to swing, and had tinder and meetings through other online platforms. I contacted one of the couples he met behind my back on Fab, and they were horrified. This was happening even though I offered him the option of swinging together and separately on a regular basis. He insisted "no" at every turn whilst talking of marriage and life commitment. It all came out in the end of course. In the end it all came down to manipulation and control. He was used to life as a single male alpha "hunter" and clearly felt a need to exercise sexual control over himself, and me. He actually got off on it and spent a lot of energy seeking it out. Anything involving me having the same freedom or giving up on his right to fuck who he wanted when he wanted was beneath what he was willing to accept. It was quite horrific for me and I can't say I would trust single swinger men's integrity to have an honest relationship after that. If you've been a single male "party hard" swinger for most of your experience, I think it's too hard for many to ever give up or compromise on. Even when a woman offers you that freedom, you want the freedom on your own terms. It's a toxic situation I hope I never become involved in again. Much more fun to be had in all this when you keep yourself single. " Narcissist? | |||
"All dating websites are polluted by men who lie and cheat, so a dating section on here would be no different at all. It would be nice to have a section for people who are looking for a relationship, but honest and open about their sexual preferences from the start as it is such an important part of any relationship. I would love it to happen. X " | |||
"I dated someone from here for a year, big mistake, he fell for me because I’m a free spirit but then he wanted to dull that spirit, had to block all men on my phone, wasn’t allowed male friends, I would dress up for him and he would start questioning me and looking round the room as if I had another guy there. Yet he could talk to any girls he wanted and often took advice from these girls about me. He was basically mega controlling but couldn’t see it him self. Then when I was at my lowest he dropped me. So all I’m saying a lot of guys on here are not swingers... " Indeed.....for in my experience, swingers want to harm no-one x | |||
"Question is why is this so elusive we are all adults here ! So most people are happy to meet for Nsa sex but can't do dinner or a movie ?
I can't even get sex ..... never mind anything else
Lady ... I just checked your profile !
What the hells goin on up there why you can't find some good company. Hey London is calling "Ha last time I was in London it was because I was dating. Said guy met 3 women behind my back and was having a relationship with his sister in law. Why when you can have cake and eat it do men still fuck it up?? Plus London isn't where I feel settled | |||
"While giving an option to meet likeminded swingers who also are open to "more" will be welcome to some, I can't say I would have a relationship with a "single male swinger" ever again. He was a prolific single male party boy, had a fab profile also, yet convinced me he wanted a committed monogamous relationship with the added benefit of swinging. I was hesitant, but it sounded perfect. However his idea of that in reality was keeping our involvement as a couple in anything "scene like" at an an arms length, while hooking up with other women on the regular, arranging fab meets and arranging and hosting his own swingers parties in secret from me. He even took secret holidays abroad to swing, and had tinder and meetings through other online platforms. I contacted one of the couples he met behind my back on Fab, and they were horrified. This was happening even though I offered him the option of swinging together and separately on a regular basis. He insisted "no" at every turn whilst talking of marriage and life commitment. It all came out in the end of course. In the end it all came down to manipulation and control. He was used to life as a single male alpha "hunter" and clearly felt a need to exercise sexual control over himself, and me. He actually got off on it and spent a lot of energy seeking it out. Anything involving me having the same freedom or giving up on his right to fuck who he wanted when he wanted was beneath what he was willing to accept. It was quite horrific for me and I can't say I would trust single swinger men's integrity to have an honest relationship after that. If you've been a single male "party hard" swinger for most of your experience, I think it's too hard for many to ever give up or compromise on. Even when a woman offers you that freedom, you want the freedom on your own terms. It's a toxic situation I hope I never become involved in again. Much more fun to be had in all this when you keep yourself single. " Not that is describe myself as party hard, but I always think it’s a shame when one experience sours the whole batch... there are dicks in all walks of life ... but understand where yr coming from .... sounds like you had a shitty experience *hugs* | |||
but if she appeared out of the blue. We'd have to discuss about our feelings and the "lifestyle" and how It would all be handled.
Then if she turned out to be a Alpha party hard duplicitous bitch , I'd have to deal , sob at sad songs on the radio an eventually take the next person as they come.
AFAB - all fellas aren't bastards | |||
"Awww eh cmon now Not all guys are cheaters/narcissistic /players /generally trying to fuck the world behind your back. Women do it , trans do it , men do it , but it's going to be hard to even contemplate a relationship if you're already convinced they're cheating bastards. After nearly 2 years single It would be great if I could find a woman who has the same outlook on life and kink as I have on here. Yeah that one you wake up with in the morning and just want to snuggle into because she's her and her hair smells lush . Not fuckin likely going on history to date but if she appeared out of the blue. We'd have to discuss about our feelings and the "lifestyle" and how It would all be handled.
Then if she turned out to be a Alpha party hard duplicitous bitch , I'd have to deal , sob at sad songs on the radio an eventually take the next person as they come.
AFAB - all fellas aren't bastards "1 in 20 are | |||
"Awww eh cmon now Not all guys are cheaters/narcissistic /players /generally trying to fuck the world behind your back. Women do it , trans do it , men do it , but it's going to be hard to even contemplate a relationship if you're already convinced they're cheating bastards. After nearly 2 years single It would be great if I could find a woman who has the same outlook on life and kink as I have on here. Yeah that one you wake up with in the morning and just want to snuggle into because she's her and her hair smells lush . Not fuckin likely going on history to date but if she appeared out of the blue. We'd have to discuss about our feelings and the "lifestyle" and how It would all be handled.
Then if she turned out to be a Alpha party hard duplicitous bitch , I'd have to deal , sob at sad songs on the radio an eventually take the next person as they come.
AFAB - all fellas aren't bastards "Ah, should have known someone would get "not all men" about this somewhere. I clearly didn't state "all men". YMMV as with any situation in life. It goes without saying that many many convos were had about what we both wanted. Having those conversations won't simply stop someone lying to you with their answers, and cheating anyway. Some people claim that swinging as a lifestyle choice, stops cheating. Which is clearly untrue and only believed by those who have a more limited grasp on the complexities of human behaviour and motivation. They say everything in life is about sex, except sex. Sex is about power. And for the prolific party hard single swinger men on the scene, there are a larger number who link some kind of "hunter" alpha male mindset to the constant pursuit of sex and winning over women outside of societal norms, and long term it can sometimes lead to an unhealthy relationship with sex, women, and themselves. For some, sanctioning something like that winthin a relationship can kill the fire of the pursuit and make the option of doing it for yourself in secret, the thrill they feel they need. It's something I literally couldn't get my head around at first, especially when there is the thrill itself of that kind of adventure when doing it with your partner. He didn't do it because he needed sex, I would have given him the green light if he had mentioned it. He did it because he needed the power. Women cheat, men cheat, trans people cheat, and gender neutral/fluid people cheat. And some people never do, some swingers included. However as a demographic, I think you run some extra risks with long term single men on the scene, due that situations unique nature and I stand by that. Swinging is easier to access and has less risk of discovery than traditional dating and sex seeking (relatively speaking of course). I think as a long term single man, that option to you is harder to let go of if you have a propensity to that kind of mindset, I feel for the single vanilla women that meet swinger single men that behave like this as they will never even know. The only reason I found out was because I know where to look and what to look for when things didn't add up. I wouldn't have had a chance if the swinging scene wasn't even in my comprehension. Could easily be the same for single women here! Maybe someone has their own story as we have had a few of cheating swinger men here so far. Personally I find cheating abhorrent in any circumstaces so am pleased to distance myself from that lifestyle choice. | |||
" Ah, should have known someone would get "not all men" about this somewhere. I clearly didn't state "all men". " It wasn't just your comment I was replying to , you just had the catchy party hard quote that I reused. Though you did say you couldn't ever trust the integrity of single fab male swingers to form a proper relationship , , or something along those lines and I think thats one of the bits that made me go awwwww eh. I actually felt sad for you having to experience that if I'm honest , as like you I don't cheat and never have and the fella you invested your heart in turned out to be a lying cheating prick ,which considering the options given him ,your comments on him are correct. Sex being about the power thing , sort of makes me do another awwww eh. Yes I get the power thing in certain sexual contacts but most of the time with a partner I loved , pleasure ,enjoyment , fun and some good fucking felt more like what we were doing , not some power struggle. | |||
"While giving an option to meet likeminded swingers who also are open to "more" will be welcome to some, I can't say I would have a relationship with a "single male swinger" ever again. He was a prolific single male party boy, had a fab profile also, yet convinced me he wanted a committed monogamous relationship with the added benefit of swinging. I was hesitant, but it sounded perfect. However his idea of that in reality was keeping our involvement as a couple in anything "scene like" at an an arms length, while hooking up with other women on the regular, arranging fab meets and arranging and hosting his own swingers parties in secret from me. He even took secret holidays abroad to swing, and had tinder and meetings through other online platforms. I contacted one of the couples he met behind my back on Fab, and they were horrified. This was happening even though I offered him the option of swinging together and separately on a regular basis. He insisted "no" at every turn whilst talking of marriage and life commitment. It all came out in the end of course. In the end it all came down to manipulation and control. He was used to life as a single male alpha "hunter" and clearly felt a need to exercise sexual control over himself, and me. He actually got off on it and spent a lot of energy seeking it out. Anything involving me having the same freedom or giving up on his right to fuck who he wanted when he wanted was beneath what he was willing to accept. It was quite horrific for me and I can't say I would trust single swinger men's integrity to have an honest relationship after that. If you've been a single male "party hard" swinger for most of your experience, I think it's too hard for many to ever give up or compromise on. Even when a woman offers you that freedom, you want the freedom on your own terms. It's a toxic situation I hope I never become involved in again. Much more fun to be had in all this when you keep yourself single. " Sorry that happened to you hun, I never knew. That sounds like a very controlling narcissistic personality on his part, seems like there are many sides to a coin, but the basis of any relationship should be honesty and trust. You'd hope that a guy like him would have appreciated your openness and willingness to explore swinging as a couple. Sometimes i just don't understand peoples thought process | |||
"Walks on the beach, candle lit dinners, deep penetration and group play. That isn't too much to ask for. Is it? Make that ‘double penetration’ and I’m in! " VDP and I'm in too! | |||
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"Great idea to use the forums or a tick box. I have it clear on my profile that I’m looking for 1 guy to have a swinging relationship with, so far I’ve had positive messages from guys saying they like my honesty. Haven’t met anyone to fill the part but I’m having fun trying them out for size! "I wish I could do that! Have reached a point where I was feeling fuckable but not girlfriend material (actually had someone tell me that once) so the sexcapades were leaving me feeling hollow and sad, hence not having indulged since June. | |||
"Great idea to use the forums or a tick box. I have it clear on my profile that I’m looking for 1 guy to have a swinging relationship with, so far I’ve had positive messages from guys saying they like my honesty. Haven’t met anyone to fill the part but I’m having fun trying them out for size!
I wish I could do that! Have reached a point where I was feeling fuckable but not girlfriend material (actually had someone tell me that once) so the sexcapades were leaving me feeling hollow and sad, hence not having indulged since June."Have you tried going to socials and clubs? I think that the wider variety of friends I have the more chance of being introduced to my dream guy! You’ve got to kiss a few frogs before you find your prince x | |||
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"I would prefer the same. But would only share my partner with another woman. Yes I'm aware I'll get lynched but that's my preference. " Sign me up. Love the lady loving. | |||
"Great idea to use the forums or a tick box. I have it clear on my profile that I’m looking for 1 guy to have a swinging relationship with, so far I’ve had positive messages from guys saying they like my honesty. Haven’t met anyone to fill the part but I’m having fun trying them out for size!
I wish I could do that! Have reached a point where I was feeling fuckable but not girlfriend material (actually had someone tell me that once) so the sexcapades were leaving me feeling hollow and sad, hence not having indulged since June." | |||
"My casual meet a year ago has turned into much more. Not expected and not what I was looking for but it’s flippin fabulous x" Ditto
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"Although I'm nowhere near perfect I find myself particularly annoyed by so called swingers who are deceptive and cheat on their partners. Does the thrill of cheating really outweigh the benefits of finding a filthy minded companion that gets you and accepts you warts and all?" For some, that answer is absolutely yes, every single time. I almost couldn't believe what I found out. I do feel heartened by some very happy couples that swing together and have done long term. I'm wondering if the key here is meeting each other outside of the scene first though. I would still be concerned by unhealthy habits and views on sex/women/ego that have been adopted by long term singles (men mainly but possibly also some women) on the scene. I think it also comes down to massively unhealthy self confidence problems. Meeting someone outside of it might mean a better mindset toward relationships overall? | |||
"Awww eh cmon now Not all guys are cheaters/narcissistic /players /generally trying to fuck the world behind your back. Women do it , trans do it , men do it , but it's going to be hard to even contemplate a relationship if you're already convinced they're cheating bastards. After nearly 2 years single It would be great if I could find a woman who has the same outlook on life and kink as I have on here. Yeah that one you wake up with in the morning and just want to snuggle into because she's her and her hair smells lush . Not fuckin likely going on history to date but if she appeared out of the blue. We'd have to discuss about our feelings and the "lifestyle" and how It would all be handled.
Then if she turned out to be a Alpha party hard duplicitous bitch , I'd have to deal , sob at sad songs on the radio an eventually take the next person as they come.
I'd love to find a female partner in crime too. Chances are slim to anorexic, but it would nice. I'd definitely be interested Ina dating section.
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"My casual meet a year ago has turned into much more. Not expected and not what I was looking for but it’s flippin fabulous x Ditto
Just random how when in was looking it suddenly happened "Bugger...bloody blackberry tiny screen....meant to say when I wasn't looking is just suddenly happened... | |||
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"While giving an option to meet likeminded swingers who also are open to "more" will be welcome to some, I can't say I would have a relationship with a "single male swinger" ever again. He was a prolific single male party boy, had a fab profile also, yet convinced me he wanted a committed monogamous relationship with the added benefit of swinging. I was hesitant, but it sounded perfect. However his idea of that in reality was keeping our involvement as a couple in anything "scene like" at an an arms length, while hooking up with other women on the regular, arranging fab meets and arranging and hosting his own swingers parties in secret from me. He even took secret holidays abroad to swing, and had tinder and meetings through other online platforms. I contacted one of the couples he met behind my back on Fab, and they were horrified. This was happening even though I offered him the option of swinging together and separately on a regular basis. He insisted "no" at every turn whilst talking of marriage and life commitment. It all came out in the end of course. In the end it all came down to manipulation and control. He was used to life as a single male alpha "hunter" and clearly felt a need to exercise sexual control over himself, and me. He actually got off on it and spent a lot of energy seeking it out. Anything involving me having the same freedom or giving up on his right to fuck who he wanted when he wanted was beneath what he was willing to accept. It was quite horrific for me and I can't say I would trust single swinger men's integrity to have an honest relationship after that. If you've been a single male "party hard" swinger for most of your experience, I think it's too hard for many to ever give up or compromise on. Even when a woman offers you that freedom, you want the freedom on your own terms. It's a toxic situation I hope I never become involved in again. Much more fun to be had in all this when you keep yourself single. " I can relate to so much of this! Got cajoled into a relationship just so I would stop meeting people whilst the whole time he did whatever the fuck he pleased! Dunno why I still want a relationship with a swinger tbh | |||
"While giving an option to meet likeminded swingers who also are open to "more" will be welcome to some, I can't say I would have a relationship with a "single male swinger" ever again. He was a prolific single male party boy, had a fab profile also, yet convinced me he wanted a committed monogamous relationship with the added benefit of swinging. I was hesitant, but it sounded perfect. However his idea of that in reality was keeping our involvement as a couple in anything "scene like" at an an arms length, while hooking up with other women on the regular, arranging fab meets and arranging and hosting his own swingers parties in secret from me. He even took secret holidays abroad to swing, and had tinder and meetings through other online platforms. I contacted one of the couples he met behind my back on Fab, and they were horrified. This was happening even though I offered him the option of swinging together and separately on a regular basis. He insisted "no" at every turn whilst talking of marriage and life commitment. It all came out in the end of course. In the end it all came down to manipulation and control. He was used to life as a single male alpha "hunter" and clearly felt a need to exercise sexual control over himself, and me. He actually got off on it and spent a lot of energy seeking it out. Anything involving me having the same freedom or giving up on his right to fuck who he wanted when he wanted was beneath what he was willing to accept. It was quite horrific for me and I can't say I would trust single swinger men's integrity to have an honest relationship after that. If you've been a single male "party hard" swinger for most of your experience, I think it's too hard for many to ever give up or compromise on. Even when a woman offers you that freedom, you want the freedom on your own terms. It's a toxic situation I hope I never become involved in again. Much more fun to be had in all this when you keep yourself single. I can relate to so much of this! Got cajoled into a relationship just so I would stop meeting people whilst the whole time he did whatever the fuck he pleased! Dunno why I still want a relationship with a swinger tbh "Because you're a hopeless pervy romantic..? | |||
" ... Much more fun to be had in all this when you keep yourself single. I can relate to so much of this! Got cajoled into a relationship just so I would stop meeting people whilst the whole time he did whatever the fuck he pleased! Dunno why I still want a relationship with a swinger tbh
Because you're a hopeless pervy romantic..? " and I'm sure there must be SOME nice guys out there | |||
"While giving an option to meet likeminded swingers who also are open to "more" will be welcome to some, I can't say I would have a relationship with a "single male swinger" ever again. He was a prolific single male party boy, had a fab profile also, yet convinced me he wanted a committed monogamous relationship with the added benefit of swinging. I was hesitant, but it sounded perfect. However his idea of that in reality was keeping our involvement as a couple in anything "scene like" at an an arms length, while hooking up with other women on the regular, arranging fab meets and arranging and hosting his own swingers parties in secret from me. He even took secret holidays abroad to swing, and had tinder and meetings through other online platforms. I contacted one of the couples he met behind my back on Fab, and they were horrified. This was happening even though I offered him the option of swinging together and separately on a regular basis. He insisted "no" at every turn whilst talking of marriage and life commitment. It all came out in the end of course. In the end it all came down to manipulation and control. He was used to life as a single male alpha "hunter" and clearly felt a need to exercise sexual control over himself, and me. He actually got off on it and spent a lot of energy seeking it out. Anything involving me having the same freedom or giving up on his right to fuck who he wanted when he wanted was beneath what he was willing to accept. It was quite horrific for me and I can't say I would trust single swinger men's integrity to have an honest relationship after that. If you've been a single male "party hard" swinger for most of your experience, I think it's too hard for many to ever give up or compromise on. Even when a woman offers you that freedom, you want the freedom on your own terms. It's a toxic situation I hope I never become involved in again. Much more fun to be had in all this when you keep yourself single. I can relate to so much of this! Got cajoled into a relationship just so I would stop meeting people whilst the whole time he did whatever the fuck he pleased! Dunno why I still want a relationship with a swinger tbh
Because you're a hopeless pervy romantic..? " | |||
