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"Or it could mean they have a job in the public sector or an area of employment where being on sites like this would be frowned upon. "
We both have jobs in the public sector. You wouldn't get sacked for being on here. |
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I completely disagree strong with this. For example I’m on here actively seeking an playing. But I for one don’t want to mix my out of fab life with this lifestyle. Just because someone doesn’t want to be public an open that there in here why should they be tarnished with being a cheat just because they want to be discreet doesn’t mean there playing away |
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""discreet". Generally means "I am attached and paranoid this will get to my partner". Per se we have no issue with attached people, but we are going to get into sneaking around for anyone. "
'Discreet' generally means people keep this side of their lives to themselves, and the people they meet in here, not shout about it on social media or down the pub  |
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"I completely disagree strong with this. For example I’m on here actively seeking an playing. But I for one don’t want to mix my out of fab life with this lifestyle. Just because someone doesn’t want to be public an open that there in here why should they be tarnished with being a cheat just because they want to be discreet doesn’t mean there playing away "
Obviously "discreet" in real life doesn't mean that, but on here it tends to be code for attached and paranoid. - the sort of person who won't even meet for a drink in a public place. |
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over a year ago
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I would say that's a bit of an assumption. It could mean they just don't want word of their Fab activities getting back to work colleagues, friends and other family members (not partners) who would get all judgmental and weird about it.
That's why I say discretion is important to me. I'm single so not hiding anything from a partner but I know my siblings, parents and a few friends would give me no end of headaches if they found out I was on here.
I wouldn't be so quick to assume someone was cheating just because they use the word discreet on their profile.
I know there are those people on here but some of us are not cheating on people but just don't want the whole world to know about what we get up to on here. |
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""discreet". Generally means "I am attached and paranoid this will get to my partner". Per se we have no issue with attached people, but we are going to get into sneaking around for anyone. "
Cynical.  |
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"I completely disagree strong with this. For example I’m on here actively seeking an playing. But I for one don’t want to mix my out of fab life with this lifestyle. Just because someone doesn’t want to be public an open that there in here why should they be tarnished with being a cheat just because they want to be discreet doesn’t mean there playing away
Obviously "discreet" in real life doesn't mean that, but on here it tends to be code for attached and paranoid. - the sort of person who won't even meet for a drink in a public place. "
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"I would say that's a bit of an assumption. It could mean they just don't want word of their Fab activities getting back to work colleagues, friends and other family members (not partners) who would get all judgmental and weird about it.
That's why I say discretion is important to me. I'm single so not hiding anything from a partner but I know my siblings, parents and a few friends would give me no end of headaches if they found out I was on here.
I wouldn't be so quick to assume someone was cheating just because they use the word discreet on their profile.
I know there are those people on here but some of us are not cheating on people but just don't want the whole world to know about what we get up to on here."
But (a) no one knows who your friends and family are and (b) we all know that this is not an activity you bring up with your mum or your boss
Why the need to emphasise discretion when it's bleeding obvious? |
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"Oh yes you can check your contract ofemployment.it's usually u Der the category of bringing the employer in to disrupt under activities it can cause distress or offence "
In this day and age, any employer that argued that an employee being a swinger, per se, brought them into disrepute would have an uphill battle. |
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"I would say that's a bit of an assumption. It could mean they just don't want word of their Fab activities getting back to work colleagues, friends and other family members (not partners) who would get all judgmental and weird about it.
That's why I say discretion is important to me. I'm single so not hiding anything from a partner but I know my siblings, parents and a few friends would give me no end of headaches if they found out I was on here.
I wouldn't be so quick to assume someone was cheating just because they use the word discreet on their profile.
I know there are those people on here but some of us are not cheating on people but just don't want the whole world to know about what we get up to on here.
But (a) no one knows who your friends and family are and (b) we all know that this is not an activity you bring up with your mum or your boss
Why the need to emphasise discretion when it's bleeding obvious? "
I've never had an issue with anyone I've met from here or other sites being indescreet before. But that doesn't mean there isn't still a chance of it happening. Also I happen to live in a very small compact city chances of running into Fabbers or having mutual connections is higher. On the working in the public sector front although I don't think I could get fired the career path I'm trying to follow it could potentially create a number of headaches if service users found out I was on site like Fab.
As others have said as well some people just like keeping this completely separate from the rest of their life. I know I do, again that doesn't automatically mean we're on here to cheat. |
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over a year ago
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There’s a woman in my area that constantly posts about how MAD and BAD she is,and she’s red hot and dangerous etc etc!
Generally speaking if you need to shout about this and that,you possibly aren’t really... |
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"I would say that's a bit of an assumption. It could mean they just don't want word of their Fab activities getting back to work colleagues, friends and other family members (not partners) who would get all judgmental and weird about it.
That's why I say discretion is important to me. I'm single so not hiding anything from a partner but I know my siblings, parents and a few friends would give me no end of headaches if they found out I was on here.
I wouldn't be so quick to assume someone was cheating just because they use the word discreet on their profile.
I know there are those people on here but some of us are not cheating on people but just don't want the whole world to know about what we get up to on here.
But (a) no one knows who your friends and family are and (b) we all know that this is not an activity you bring up with your mum or your boss
Why the need to emphasise discretion when it's bleeding obvious?
I've never had an issue with anyone I've met from here or other sites being indescreet before. But that doesn't mean there isn't still a chance of it happening. Also I happen to live in a very small compact city chances of running into Fabbers or having mutual connections is higher. On the working in the public sector front although I don't think I could get fired the career path I'm trying to follow it could potentially create a number of headaches if service users found out I was on site like Fab.
As others have said as well some people just like keeping this completely separate from the rest of their life. I know I do, again that doesn't automatically mean we're on here to cheat."
Fair enough. Like all generalisations, it doesn't apply in all cases, but life is too complex to do without them! |
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"Oh yes you can check your contract ofemployment.it's usually u Der the category of bringing the employer in to disrupt under activities it can cause distress or offence
In this day and age, any employer that argued that an employee being a swinger, per se, brought them into disrepute would have an uphill battle. "
Not true. The public sector has a code of conduct and social media policy for their employees. What constitutes misconduct or gross misconduct is very much open to interpretation.
And don’t forget that if accused of bringing your employer into disrepute the result and any sanction rests with the chair who makes their decision “on the balance of PROBABILLITY”.
Nothing has to be proven beyond reasonable doubt.
Our profile asks for discretion, purely because we have children and do not wish for anyone to know anything about our lifestyle. It has nothing to do with any subterfuge.
And we can’t accomodate for exactly the same reason.
However I have absolutely no doubts there are some that would put these things on their profile solely for the purpose of being a sneaky sod. But I would think that they would be in the minority.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I always try and judge each profile I see on here on their own merits. Different people will always have different ways of saying things and will have different circumstances.
With me another part of the discreet thing is the fact that I have a number of friends who are religious who would get weird about it and although I don't agree with their beliefs I want to keep them as friends.
But all that being said thinking about it I can understand why it might sometimes be a bit harder for couples and women to take some single men on here at face value. You do unfortunately still get a fair few idiots and liars among all the good people on here. |
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For us the red flag is any profile name that includes the words dick or cock or relates to the size of the aforesaid. Huge big Etc.
I won't give examples because even a made up one would probably be someones actual name on here. |
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""discreet". Generally means "I am attached and paranoid this will get to my partner". Per se we have no issue with attached people, but we are going to get into sneaking around for anyone. "
The meaning of the word 'discreet'
Has become somewhat obsolete.
Twas hidden one time
But now, for this rhyme,
It's meaning is 'Oh my God, someone's cheating on their significant other and I must retain a level of paranoia that is so far above and beyond people who smoke psychedelic plant extracts, that my world will fall apart, innit?
Sweet.
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By *ntnCleoCouple
over a year ago
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"'clean' (should go without saying really) "
This always worries me too! I mean, are there people out there who don’t wash and groom meticulously before a meet?? So if someone thinks it needs to be said...!  |
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We are a happily married, deeply in love couple.
We've been married 25 years and happily married and deeply in love.
We swing for variety, we're not desperately clutching a dying marriage as we're happily married and deeply in love...yeah...right!  |
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"Oh yes you can check your contract ofemployment.it's usually u Der the category of bringing the employer in to disrupt under activities it can cause distress or offence
In this day and age, any employer that argued that an employee being a swinger, per se, brought them into disrepute would have an uphill battle. "
I've been able to retire early making a living from naive people who assumed once they clocked off they could do and say what they liked. |
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"I completely disagree strong with this. For example I’m on here actively seeking an playing. But I for one don’t want to mix my out of fab life with this lifestyle. Just because someone doesn’t want to be public an open that there in here why should they be tarnished with being a cheat just because they want to be discreet doesn’t mean there playing away
Obviously "discreet" in real life doesn't mean that, but on here it tends to be code for attached and paranoid. - the sort of person who won't even meet for a drink in a public place. "
Yup - not always, but often. |
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"Oh yes you can check your contract ofemployment.it's usually u Der the category of bringing the employer in to disrupt under activities it can cause distress or offence
In this day and age, any employer that argued that an employee being a swinger, per se, brought them into disrepute would have an uphill battle.
I've been able to retire early making a living from naive people who assumed once they clocked off they could do and say what they liked."
I am not saying that at all. I am saying that, per se, engaging in swinging would not, given current social mores, be enough to constitute bringing your employer into disrepute.
Absent the types of jobs where a conventional standard of morality is part of the job description. Vicars for example. |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"I completely disagree strong with this. For example I’m on here actively seeking an playing. But I for one don’t want to mix my out of fab life with this lifestyle. Just because someone doesn’t want to be public an open that there in here why should they be tarnished with being a cheat just because they want to be discreet doesn’t mean there playing away "
exactly |
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usernames with the word 'lad' in it.... are you 12? ... or worse, an ear-we-go football type up for 'banter'... shudders lol
or 'Classy' ... if you have to call yourself it .. well .... work it out
or the 'we are soooo mad/whacky' types
'must be clean' .... no shit Sherlock
Criteria that we, clearly, dont meet yet still recieve messages... eg want BBC
I could go on.... ohhh strangely cathartic this one is
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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'Professional couple'
You do it for a living then? ... like double-teaming Escorts perchance?
Disclaimers = naive types
Passwords at the end = hoop jumpers = would not ever use or contact |
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By *aelawMan
over a year ago
Paisley |
There are a few things that make me chuckle, like the word 'pumped' *chuckles* but nothing that makes me assume people are secretly meaning something else. I can usually get a measure of folk from a few messages. |
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Sometimes it's not a case of words in a profile that give a red flag but what is missing. If people we are interested in dont have safe sex in their profile or interests than that is a huge red flag for us. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If the word "gentleman" is used multiple times in their verifications, they're probably REALLY boring when you actually meet them!  "
Spend a lot of time reading verifications on men's profiles? |
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We’re a couple seeking another couple for some foursome fun and yet we get couples interested in us but have the strap line or status update stating ‘Couple looking for lady for FFM fun’.
Showing their ulterior motive hand a little prematurely. Definitely puts us off x
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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago
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"If the word "gentleman" is used multiple times in their verifications, they're probably REALLY boring when you actually meet them!
Spend a lot of time reading verifications on men's profiles?"
Yes. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If the word "gentleman" is used multiple times in their verifications, they're probably REALLY boring when you actually meet them! "
Wow! when did being a good person become an offence?
Some women just want sex,and some want more than just sex in a meet. With me they get more, it's just how I am, I'm a genuine bloke...oops! I said genuine! Run a mile I'm a freak!!
Just be careful on here, but don't forget to be human |
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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago
Wherever the party is! |
"If the word "gentleman" is used multiple times in their verifications, they're probably REALLY boring when you actually meet them!
Wow! when did being a good person become an offence?
Some women just want sex,and some want more than just sex in a meet. With me they get more, it's just how I am, I'm a genuine bloke...oops! I said genuine! Run a mile I'm a freak!!
Just be careful on here, but don't forget to be human "
Whoosh! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I completely disagree strong with this. For example I’m on here actively seeking an playing. But I for one don’t want to mix my out of fab life with this lifestyle. Just because someone doesn’t want to be public an open that there in here why should they be tarnished with being a cheat just because they want to be discreet doesn’t mean there playing away
Obviously "discreet" in real life doesn't mean that, but on here it tends to be code for attached and paranoid. - the sort of person who won't even meet for a drink in a public place. "
In my world it simply means I have no wish to have my personal interests and interactions being plastered all over other sites social media or elsewhere by this who do not understand that discretion means nothing more than s preference for maintain done level of privacy over who if ir when I mert and who with.
But let's not let a judgemental attitude and personal prejudice get in the way of reality..
Btw I am single... not fab single |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Oh yes you can check your contract ofemployment.it's usually u Der the category of bringing the employer in to disrupt under activities it can cause distress or offence
In this day and age, any employer that argued that an employee being a swinger, per se, brought them into disrepute would have an uphill battle. "
Really? Michel Fallon know that does he |
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But Being serious...
Do you girls not get freaked out by a single guy’s profile that has images of women on it! Either with the guys cock in a mouth pussy or arse, or just images of a women on their own and absolutely no mention by the guy that they have permission to post the images from the female.... gotta be a major red flag!?!?
HG
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By *inful xWoman
over a year ago
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But Being serious...
Do you girls not get freaked out by a single guy’s profile that has images of women on it! Either with the guys cock in a mouth pussy or arse, or just images of a women on their own and absolutely no mention by the guy that they have permission to post the images from the female.... gotta be a major red flag!?!?
HG
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I'm more bothered when he has loads of pics of different women all showing bareback sex and yet he states on his profile " safe sex only " |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The following should go without saying as far as I'm concerned: polite, clean, genuine, discrete. Never understood why these things need to be emphasised - I suspect we would not have the number of verifications we have if we failed on any of these.
Mrs |
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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago
Newcastle upon Tyne |
"Or it could mean they have a job in the public sector or an area of employment where being on sites like this would be frowned upon. "
Provided you don't link this site to your employment in any way you are not going to get sacked for being on here as they would not be able to say you are bringing the organisation into disrepute. Oh and don't log onto the site using the company wifi either as that could get you sack for viewing porn using company facilities. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If the word "gentleman" is used multiple times in their verifications, they're probably REALLY boring when you actually meet them! "
Ha ha. We were just complaining about that recently. I get described as hot or sexy in verifications and Mr gets described as a gentleman. Not comparable really |
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People who can't spell "discreet" and bareback!
Discrete - used in statistics and signifies a unit or something that can be counted
Discreet - as in privacy. Respecting people's privacy and right to stay that way.
To me, that's not a red flag because I am not here to judge anyone. |
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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago
Wherever the party is! |
"If the word "gentleman" is used multiple times in their verifications, they're probably REALLY boring when you actually meet them!
Ha ha. We were just complaining about that recently. I get described as hot or sexy in verifications and Mr gets described as a gentleman. Not comparable really "
You sound like the perfect couple! On the other hand, I'm the kind of gentleman who will hold the door open for the lady...while checking out her ass!  |
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over a year ago
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Any reference to 420, I don't care what people do in their own time but I don't want that as part of my sex life and it just seems quite juvenile akin to young teenagers boasting about having a cigarette.
BBC - Really? I find this very demeaning, either asking for it or selling yourself as it. We may be looking for NSA but it's all about the person not what may be in their pants.
Ginger |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"6 foot tall...usually 5'8"
8 inches, VWE....usually 5 inches erect.
Aged 45...pushing 60.
Men describing themselves as curvy...beer gut or obese.
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A lot of ladies describe themselves as curvy when they are more on the side of obese......just saying. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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""discreet". Generally means "I am attached and paranoid this will get to my partner". Per se we have no issue with attached people, but we are going to get into sneaking around for anyone. "
Single woman always puts us off |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I might just change my profile:
Discrete, clean, fun, dominant, genuine guy seeking fun with clean genuine discreet fun people who want clean discrete fun with a discrete dominant fun guy who wants fun...
Discretion assured
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By *amRod64Man
over a year ago
Gravesend |
"Any reference to 420, I don't care what people do in their own time but I don't want that as part of my sex life and it just seems quite juvenile akin to young teenagers boasting about having a cigarette.
BBC - Really? I find this very demeaning, either asking for it or selling yourself as it. We may be looking for NSA but it's all about the person not what may be in their pants.
Ginger "
Well said |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"500 + verifications
Lady in a van..."
Safe sex only.....means nothing on here.
Oh and while on the subject most of hers apparently only play safe anyways...so all is good apparently. |
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