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"Is it possible to actually fall in love with someone on fab?...has anyone actually done it?..." Why wouldnt it be 'possible'? I dont understand the question | |||
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"You can meet and fall in love with a life partner anywhere, fab is no different. We met on here just over 4 years ago. I moved in 6 months later and we’ve been married 2.5 years. " good on you guys may it last forever x  | |||
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"Is it possible to actually fall in love with someone on fab?...has anyone actually done it?..." Spoke briefly on Fab. Arranged to meet at a club... been inseparable since. Moved in together after six weeks. That was almost a year ago. | |||
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"Is it possible to actually fall in love with someone on fab?...has anyone actually done it?... Spoke briefly on Fab. Arranged to meet at a club... been inseparable since. Moved in together after six weeks. That was almost a year ago. " amazing babe  | |||
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"I'm no expert in falling in love but I think you can fall in love anywhere. It's not like everyone falls in love while picnicking by the Seine or while spending a long hot summer holidaying in the south of France. That's just in the movies. In real life people fall in love at the cheese counter in Morrisons or while having a drink down the Dog & Duck or while waiting for a bus or even while wading through dick pics and 'fancy a fuck' messages. The odds of two people falling in love on Fab are the same as the odds of two people falling in love anywhere. I've heard many stories of people falling in love through Fab "I like the idea of people falling in love at the cheese counter in Morrison's. I'll never look at a supermarket cheese counter the same way again  | |||
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"Is it possible to actually fall in love with someone on fab?...has anyone actually done it?..." just as its a swing site does not mean love cant happen and wont Love can happen anywhere if you are open to it | |||
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"You can meet and fall in love with a life partner anywhere, fab is no different. We met on here just over 4 years ago. I moved in 6 months later and we’ve been married 2.5 years. " thought it was longer x | |||
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"I'm no expert in falling in love but I think you can fall in love anywhere. It's not like everyone falls in love while picnicking by the Seine or while spending a long hot summer holidaying in the south of France. That's just in the movies. In real life people fall in love at the cheese counter in Morrisons or while having a drink down the Dog & Duck or while waiting for a bus or even while wading through dick pics and 'fancy a fuck' messages. The odds of two people falling in love on Fab are the same as the odds of two people falling in love anywhere. I've heard many stories of people falling in love through Fab
I like the idea of people falling in love at the cheese counter in Morrison's. I'll never look at a supermarket cheese counter the same way again "How exactly are people suggesting that might happen? I don't think it's possible, love at first sight is just lust at first sight. I don't think someone working at a cheese counter has enough interaction with a customer to fall in love with them. I guess two people both working at the cheese counter could fall in love but you could say that about any job. | |||
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"I'm no expert in falling in love but I think you can fall in love anywhere. It's not like everyone falls in love while picnicking by the Seine or while spending a long hot summer holidaying in the south of France. That's just in the movies. In real life people fall in love at the cheese counter in Morrisons or while having a drink down the Dog & Duck or while waiting for a bus or even while wading through dick pics and 'fancy a fuck' messages. The odds of two people falling in love on Fab are the same as the odds of two people falling in love anywhere. I've heard many stories of people falling in love through Fab
I like the idea of people falling in love at the cheese counter in Morrison's. I'll never look at a supermarket cheese counter the same way again
How exactly are people suggesting that might happen? I don't think it's possible, love at first sight is just lust at first sight. I don't think someone working at a cheese counter has enough interaction with a customer to fall in love with them. I guess two people both working at the cheese counter could fall in love but you could say that about any job. "I guess it's more of a case of those first seeds of love that can be sewn anywhere. Love always has to start somewhere. And that somewhere can be anywhere. After all...sweet dreams are made of cheese. Who am I to diss a brie. | |||
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"Yep.. current situation for me im afraid." he’s a lucky guy lol x | |||
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"Yep.. current situation for me im afraid. he’s a lucky guy lol x" Nah.. he doesn't feel the same way.  | |||
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"Is it possible to actually fall in love with someone on fab?...has anyone actually done it?..." Pointless question as you must know people meet and have married from meeting on Fab. | |||
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"I'm no expert in falling in love but I think you can fall in love anywhere. It's not like everyone falls in love while picnicking by the Seine or while spending a long hot summer holidaying in the south of France. That's just in the movies. In real life people fall in love at the cheese counter in Morrisons or while having a drink down the Dog & Duck or while waiting for a bus or even while wading through dick pics and 'fancy a fuck' messages. The odds of two people falling in love on Fab are the same as the odds of two people falling in love anywhere. I've heard many stories of people falling in love through Fab
I like the idea of people falling in love at the cheese counter in Morrison's. I'll never look at a supermarket cheese counter the same way again
How exactly are people suggesting that might happen? I don't think it's possible, love at first sight is just lust at first sight. I don't think someone working at a cheese counter has enough interaction with a customer to fall in love with them. I guess two people both working at the cheese counter could fall in love but you could say that about any job.
I guess it's more of a case of those first seeds of love that can be sewn anywhere. Love always has to start somewhere. And that somewhere can be anywhere. After all...sweet dreams are made of cheese. Who am I to diss a brie."Completely agree - the first seeds of love. I started falling in love with Marc on a cold night on the steps outside my dorm in university. Trade brie for philosophy, and there you have it. | |||
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"I'm no expert in falling in love but I think you can fall in love anywhere. It's not like everyone falls in love while picnicking by the Seine or while spending a long hot summer holidaying in the south of France. That's just in the movies. In real life people fall in love at the cheese counter in Morrisons or while having a drink down the Dog & Duck or while waiting for a bus or even while wading through dick pics and 'fancy a fuck' messages. The odds of two people falling in love on Fab are the same as the odds of two people falling in love anywhere. I've heard many stories of people falling in love through Fab
I like the idea of people falling in love at the cheese counter in Morrison's. I'll never look at a supermarket cheese counter the same way again
How exactly are people suggesting that might happen? I don't think it's possible, love at first sight is just lust at first sight. I don't think someone working at a cheese counter has enough interaction with a customer to fall in love with them. I guess two people both working at the cheese counter could fall in love but you could say that about any job.
I guess it's more of a case of those first seeds of love that can be sewn anywhere. Love always has to start somewhere. And that somewhere can be anywhere. After all...sweet dreams are made of cheese. Who am I to diss a brie.
Completely agree - the first seeds of love. I started falling in love with Marc on a cold night on the steps outside my dorm in university. Trade brie for philosophy, and there you have it. "You just had cock lust when you saw him | |||
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"Probably not. I tend to find that the men who say that one can are often incredibly desperate. Swinging is a visceral thing. It can be hard for a man to adjust to the fact that other men are also sexually liaising with his girlfriend/wife. There is a very good reason why the lions share of swingers tend to be middle aged couples with a lot of experience before getting into it. I tend to find that men can't help but lose a certain idea of a women when they see her with other men. The sense of "ownership" dies. Whilst ownership sounds bad...who really wants a man who doesn't fight for his woman's commitment. Most of the time I met couples who met through swinging I found one or the other partners had significant sway over the other and used swinging as a source of power. You also tend to find massive age gaps between a lot of couples who meet through here. It's great to meet someone with similar interests but I would strongly advise against someone coming in here thinking that they can make something work." Hmmm...what are your thoughts on the cheese counter at Morrison's?  | |||
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"Probably not. I tend to find that the men who say that one can are often incredibly desperate. Swinging is a visceral thing. It can be hard for a man to adjust to the fact that other men are also sexually liaising with his girlfriend/wife. There is a very good reason why the lions share of swingers tend to be middle aged couples with a lot of experience before getting into it. I tend to find that men can't help but lose a certain idea of a women when they see her with other men. The sense of "ownership" dies. Whilst ownership sounds bad...who really wants a man who doesn't fight for his woman's commitment. Most of the time I met couples who met through swinging I found one or the other partners had significant sway over the other and used swinging as a source of power. You also tend to find massive age gaps between a lot of couples who meet through here. It's great to meet someone with similar interests but I would strongly advise against someone coming in here thinking that they can make something work. Hmmm...what are your thoughts on the cheese counter at Morrison's? "Chances are if you're meeting anyone at the Morrison's cheese counter you're probably fucked. | |||
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"Probably not. I tend to find that the men who say that one can are often incredibly desperate. Swinging is a visceral thing. It can be hard for a man to adjust to the fact that other men are also sexually liaising with his girlfriend/wife. There is a very good reason why the lions share of swingers tend to be middle aged couples with a lot of experience before getting into it. I tend to find that men can't help but lose a certain idea of a women when they see her with other men. The sense of "ownership" dies. Whilst ownership sounds bad...who really wants a man who doesn't fight for his woman's commitment. Most of the time I met couples who met through swinging I found one or the other partners had significant sway over the other and used swinging as a source of power. You also tend to find massive age gaps between a lot of couples who meet through here. It's great to meet someone with similar interests but I would strongly advise against someone coming in here thinking that they can make something work. Hmmm...what are your thoughts on the cheese counter at Morrison's?
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It’s brilliant to be able to carry on our Fab ways together with total trust, honesty and openness 
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"Probably not. I tend to find that the men who say that one can are often incredibly desperate. Swinging is a visceral thing. It can be hard for a man to adjust to the fact that other men are also sexually liaising with his girlfriend/wife. There is a very good reason why the lions share of swingers tend to be middle aged couples with a lot of experience before getting into it. I tend to find that men can't help but lose a certain idea of a women when they see her with other men. The sense of "ownership" dies. Whilst ownership sounds bad...who really wants a man who doesn't fight for his woman's commitment. Most of the time I met couples who met through swinging I found one or the other partners had significant sway over the other and used swinging as a source of power. You also tend to find massive age gaps between a lot of couples who meet through here. It's great to meet someone with similar interests but I would strongly advise against someone coming in here thinking that they can make something work." From our experience thus far, would totally disagree. We are both happy with the other getting involved and stuck in, has only happened together so far but separately is something we have discussed. No massive age gap and no power held at all, even though SSS has much more experience and I’m pretty new to the whole thing. Obv every couple is different, they each have their own dynamics which leads on to their own rules/boundaries. I may have had a similar view to you before I found myself here (in the best relationship ever with every box ticked and then some) but I now though that anything is certainly possible. TB | |||
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"Probably not. I tend to find that the men who say that one can are often incredibly desperate. Swinging is a visceral thing. It can be hard for a man to adjust to the fact that other men are also sexually liaising with his girlfriend/wife. There is a very good reason why the lions share of swingers tend to be middle aged couples with a lot of experience before getting into it. I tend to find that men can't help but lose a certain idea of a women when they see her with other men. The sense of "ownership" dies. Whilst ownership sounds bad...who really wants a man who doesn't fight for his woman's commitment. Most of the time I met couples who met through swinging I found one or the other partners had significant sway over the other and used swinging as a source of power. You also tend to find massive age gaps between a lot of couples who meet through here. It's great to meet someone with similar interests but I would strongly advise against someone coming in here thinking that they can make something work. From our experience thus far, would totally disagree. We are both happy with the other getting involved and stuck in, has only happened together so far but separately is something we have discussed. No massive age gap and no power held at all, even though SSS has much more experience and I’m pretty new to the whole thing. Obv every couple is different, they each have their own dynamics which leads on to their own rules/boundaries. I may have had a similar view to you before I found myself here (in the best relationship ever with every box ticked and then some) but I now though that anything is certainly possible. TB" It says you have only been here for three weeks. I am just going to assume you have been here before but the vast majority of couples who talk about how wonderful it is tend to rarely go beyond the two year point. Everyone thinks everything is fantastic in the honeymoon phase. Relationships are more than just fucking...when it comes to juggling friends, family, expectations, finances...you tend to find that there is more to a serious one than merely the ability to fuck people on the side. It kind of annoys me that people treat swinging so frivolously. But then thats probably the same reason why so few people on the forum actually do much of it anyway. Sexual exclusivity is one of the defining aspects of relationships in this culture...to be able to truly deal with that from a serious standpoint is no easy task...ESPECIALLY for men. People let the guys on Fab gas them up, I would not take anyone worse seriously if they told me that they were open to having a relationship on here. Would immediately think they're full of crap. Thats something you let grow organically...not something you assume can happen. | |||
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"Not gonna quote again as would be too long a message! Yep we’re new but not naive, have done all the ‘normal’ relationship stuff too and it’s getting stronger and stronger. We’ve both been in other non-Fab relationships over the years without the same feelings we have now and are aware of the differences between love and lust. Guess time will tell ultimately. Just because sexual exclusivity is seen as the norm in our society doesn’t mean there’s no successful alternative? " It's meant to be the norm, until you realise the small percentage of people who actually stick to it. Serial monogamy is not monogamy! | |||
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" Just because sexual exclusivity is seen as the norm in our society doesn’t mean there’s no successful alternative? " LOL thats the point. There isnt. There is a reason why swinging is seen as a fetish and not a lifestyle/orientation in the same way bisexuality is. There is also a reason why polygamy/polyamory tends to be illegal. As a fetish, swinging works very well. As something one can build something stable off...really depends. | |||
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"I'd say from the amount of couples I know who met on here as singles, it's very possible. You can't chose who you'll fall in love with or if they'll feel the same... Just like meeting someone via any other means " Exactly this The heart wants what it wants. If I had a heart I expect I could fall for someone no matter where we met. When you meet someone you are compatible with in all areas it's easy to fall. Or so I'm told...by a friend. | |||
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" As a fetish, swinging works very well. As something one can build something stable off...really depends." Then I guess we’ll just have to wait and see
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"I'm no expert in falling in love but I think you can fall in love anywhere. It's not like everyone falls in love while picnicking by the Seine or while spending a long hot summer holidaying in the south of France. That's just in the movies. In real life people fall in love at the cheese counter in Morrisons or while having a drink down the Dog & Duck or while waiting for a bus or even while wading through dick pics and 'fancy a fuck' messages. The odds of two people falling in love on Fab are the same as the odds of two people falling in love anywhere. I've heard many stories of people falling in love through Fab
I like the idea of people falling in love at the cheese counter in Morrison's. I'll never look at a supermarket cheese counter the same way again "Other supermarkets are also available m  | |||
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" As a fetish, swinging works very well. As something one can build something stable off...really depends. Then I guess we’ll just have to wait and see
Personally I’d say starting a relationship from a place of total trust, honesty and openness is a pretty solid foundation"LOL, you're new here. Fab is not a place of honesty, openness and trust. LOL, you'll find out soon enough | |||
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" As a fetish, swinging works very well. As something one can build something stable off...really depends. Then I guess we’ll just have to wait and see
Personally I’d say starting a relationship from a place of total trust, honesty and openness is a pretty solid foundation
LOL, you're new here. Fab is not a place of honesty, openness and trust. LOL, you'll find out soon enough "SSS has been here over 10 years, I think we’ve got it covered | |||
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"Probably not. I tend to find that the men who say that one can are often incredibly desperate. Swinging is a visceral thing. It can be hard for a man to adjust to the fact that other men are also sexually liaising with his girlfriend/wife. There is a very good reason why the lions share of swingers tend to be middle aged couples with a lot of experience before getting into it. I tend to find that men can't help but lose a certain idea of a women when they see her with other men. The sense of "ownership" dies. Whilst ownership sounds bad...who really wants a man who doesn't fight for his woman's commitment. Most of the time I met couples who met through swinging I found one or the other partners had significant sway over the other and used swinging as a source of power. You also tend to find massive age gaps between a lot of couples who meet through here. It's great to meet someone with similar interests but I would strongly advise against someone coming in here thinking that they can make something work. From our experience thus far, would totally disagree. We are both happy with the other getting involved and stuck in, has only happened together so far but separately is something we have discussed. No massive age gap and no power held at all, even though SSS has much more experience and I’m pretty new to the whole thing. Obv every couple is different, they each have their own dynamics which leads on to their own rules/boundaries. I may have had a similar view to you before I found myself here (in the best relationship ever with every box ticked and then some) but I now though that anything is certainly possible. TB It says you have only been here for three weeks. I am just going to assume you have been here before but the vast majority of couples who talk about how wonderful it is tend to rarely go beyond the two year point. Everyone thinks everything is fantastic in the honeymoon phase. Relationships are more than just fucking...when it comes to juggling friends, family, expectations, finances...you tend to find that there is more to a serious one than merely the ability to fuck people on the side. It kind of annoys me that people treat swinging so frivolously. But then thats probably the same reason why so few people on the forum actually do much of it anyway. Sexual exclusivity is one of the defining aspects of relationships in this culture...to be able to truly deal with that from a serious standpoint is no easy task...ESPECIALLY for men. People let the guys on Fab gas them up, I would not take anyone worse seriously if they told me that they were open to having a relationship on here. Would immediately think they're full of crap. Thats something you let grow organically...not something you assume can happen. " "So many people on the forums dont do much swinging?" Can you qualify that nonsense with actual statistics? I'd like to see real evidence please | |||
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"Probably not. I tend to find that the men who say that one can are often incredibly desperate. Swinging is a visceral thing. It can be hard for a man to adjust to the fact that other men are also sexually liaising with his girlfriend/wife. There is a very good reason why the lions share of swingers tend to be middle aged couples with a lot of experience before getting into it. I tend to find that men can't help but lose a certain idea of a women when they see her with other men. The sense of "ownership" dies. Whilst ownership sounds bad...who really wants a man who doesn't fight for his woman's commitment. Most of the time I met couples who met through swinging I found one or the other partners had significant sway over the other and used swinging as a source of power. You also tend to find massive age gaps between a lot of couples who meet through here. It's great to meet someone with similar interests but I would strongly advise against someone coming in here thinking that they can make something work. From our experience thus far, would totally disagree. We are both happy with the other getting involved and stuck in, has only happened together so far but separately is something we have discussed. No massive age gap and no power held at all, even though SSS has much more experience and I’m pretty new to the whole thing. Obv every couple is different, they each have their own dynamics which leads on to their own rules/boundaries. I may have had a similar view to you before I found myself here (in the best relationship ever with every box ticked and then some) but I now though that anything is certainly possible. TB It says you have only been here for three weeks. I am just going to assume you have been here before but the vast majority of couples who talk about how wonderful it is tend to rarely go beyond the two year point. Everyone thinks everything is fantastic in the honeymoon phase. Relationships are more than just fucking...when it comes to juggling friends, family, expectations, finances...you tend to find that there is more to a serious one than merely the ability to fuck people on the side. It kind of annoys me that people treat swinging so frivolously. But then thats probably the same reason why so few people on the forum actually do much of it anyway. Sexual exclusivity is one of the defining aspects of relationships in this culture...to be able to truly deal with that from a serious standpoint is no easy task...ESPECIALLY for men. People let the guys on Fab gas them up, I would not take anyone worse seriously if they told me that they were open to having a relationship on here. Would immediately think they're full of crap. Thats something you let grow organically...not something you assume can happen. "So many people on the forums dont do much swinging?" Can you qualify that nonsense with actual statistics? I'd like to see real evidence please" You might be one of the people I am talking about. | |||
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"Is it possible to actually fall in love with someone on fab?...has anyone actually done it?..." Interested to know what sparked this question as it seems pretty obvious. Have you, or has one of your fab friends and coming to terms is difficult? | |||
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"Probably not. I tend to find that the men who say that one can are often incredibly desperate. Swinging is a visceral thing. It can be hard for a man to adjust to the fact that other men are also sexually liaising with his girlfriend/wife. There is a very good reason why the lions share of swingers tend to be middle aged couples with a lot of experience before getting into it. I tend to find that men can't help but lose a certain idea of a women when they see her with other men. The sense of "ownership" dies. Whilst ownership sounds bad...who really wants a man who doesn't fight for his woman's commitment. Most of the time I met couples who met through swinging I found one or the other partners had significant sway over the other and used swinging as a source of power. You also tend to find massive age gaps between a lot of couples who meet through here. It's great to meet someone with similar interests but I would strongly advise against someone coming in here thinking that they can make something work. From our experience thus far, would totally disagree. We are both happy with the other getting involved and stuck in, has only happened together so far but separately is something we have discussed. No massive age gap and no power held at all, even though SSS has much more experience and I’m pretty new to the whole thing. Obv every couple is different, they each have their own dynamics which leads on to their own rules/boundaries. I may have had a similar view to you before I found myself here (in the best relationship ever with every box ticked and then some) but I now though that anything is certainly possible. TB It says you have only been here for three weeks. I am just going to assume you have been here before but the vast majority of couples who talk about how wonderful it is tend to rarely go beyond the two year point. Everyone thinks everything is fantastic in the honeymoon phase. Relationships are more than just fucking...when it comes to juggling friends, family, expectations, finances...you tend to find that there is more to a serious one than merely the ability to fuck people on the side. It kind of annoys me that people treat swinging so frivolously. But then thats probably the same reason why so few people on the forum actually do much of it anyway. Sexual exclusivity is one of the defining aspects of relationships in this culture...to be able to truly deal with that from a serious standpoint is no easy task...ESPECIALLY for men. People let the guys on Fab gas them up, I would not take anyone worse seriously if they told me that they were open to having a relationship on here. Would immediately think they're full of crap. Thats something you let grow organically...not something you assume can happen. "So many people on the forums dont do much swinging?" Can you qualify that nonsense with actual statistics? I'd like to see real evidence please You might be one of the people I am talking about. " I will reiterate what I said to you last week You know nothing about me. We have never spoken. Or met On what do you base these spurious assumptions? I'd love to know | |||
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"I'm sure you can fall for someone on here. Whether you should is a totally different thing altogether "Ouch... you just broke my inner romantic
Why should where people meet dictate whether you can or should or will fall in love with someone.
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"Probably not. I tend to find that the men who say that one can are often incredibly desperate. Swinging is a visceral thing. It can be hard for a man to adjust to the fact that other men are also sexually liaising with his girlfriend/wife. There is a very good reason why the lions share of swingers tend to be middle aged couples with a lot of experience before getting into it. I tend to find that men can't help but lose a certain idea of a women when they see her with other men. The sense of "ownership" dies. Whilst ownership sounds bad...who really wants a man who doesn't fight for his woman's commitment. Most of the time I met couples who met through swinging I found one or the other partners had significant sway over the other and used swinging as a source of power. You also tend to find massive age gaps between a lot of couples who meet through here. It's great to meet someone with similar interests but I would strongly advise against someone coming in here thinking that they can make something work. From our experience thus far, would totally disagree. We are both happy with the other getting involved and stuck in, has only happened together so far but separately is something we have discussed. No massive age gap and no power held at all, even though SSS has much more experience and I’m pretty new to the whole thing. Obv every couple is different, they each have their own dynamics which leads on to their own rules/boundaries. I may have had a similar view to you before I found myself here (in the best relationship ever with every box ticked and then some) but I now though that anything is certainly possible. TB It says you have only been here for three weeks. I am just going to assume you have been here before but the vast majority of couples who talk about how wonderful it is tend to rarely go beyond the two year point. Everyone thinks everything is fantastic in the honeymoon phase. Relationships are more than just fucking...when it comes to juggling friends, family, expectations, finances...you tend to find that there is more to a serious one than merely the ability to fuck people on the side. It kind of annoys me that people treat swinging so frivolously. But then thats probably the same reason why so few people on the forum actually do much of it anyway. Sexual exclusivity is one of the defining aspects of relationships in this culture...to be able to truly deal with that from a serious standpoint is no easy task...ESPECIALLY for men. People let the guys on Fab gas them up, I would not take anyone worse seriously if they told me that they were open to having a relationship on here. Would immediately think they're full of crap. Thats something you let grow organically...not something you assume can happen. "So many people on the forums dont do much swinging?" Can you qualify that nonsense with actual statistics? I'd like to see real evidence please You might be one of the people I am talking about. I will reiterate what I said to you last week You know nothing about me. We have never spoken. Or met On what do you base these spurious assumptions? I'd love to know" What people post. Many are remarkably predictable. Dont need to read much to know when someone is clearly a talker and here for socializing rather than actual swinging. | |||
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"I believe you can, but you have to be willing to carry on in the lifestyle." Yes although we are both agreed that should either of us want to stop then we do To us it’s a nice kinky extra not a necessity | |||
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"I'm sure you can fall for someone on here. Whether you should is a totally different thing altogether
Ouch... you just broke my inner romantic
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"Probably not. I tend to find that the men who say that one can are often incredibly desperate. Swinging is a visceral thing. It can be hard for a man to adjust to the fact that other men are also sexually liaising with his girlfriend/wife. There is a very good reason why the lions share of swingers tend to be middle aged couples with a lot of experience before getting into it. I tend to find that men can't help but lose a certain idea of a women when they see her with other men. The sense of "ownership" dies. Whilst ownership sounds bad...who really wants a man who doesn't fight for his woman's commitment. Most of the time I met couples who met through swinging I found one or the other partners had significant sway over the other and used swinging as a source of power. You also tend to find massive age gaps between a lot of couples who meet through here. It's great to meet someone with similar interests but I would strongly advise against someone coming in here thinking that they can make something work. From our experience thus far, would totally disagree. We are both happy with the other getting involved and stuck in, has only happened together so far but separately is something we have discussed. No massive age gap and no power held at all, even though SSS has much more experience and I’m pretty new to the whole thing. Obv every couple is different, they each have their own dynamics which leads on to their own rules/boundaries. I may have had a similar view to you before I found myself here (in the best relationship ever with every box ticked and then some) but I now though that anything is certainly possible. TB It says you have only been here for three weeks. I am just going to assume you have been here before but the vast majority of couples who talk about how wonderful it is tend to rarely go beyond the two year point. Everyone thinks everything is fantastic in the honeymoon phase. Relationships are more than just fucking...when it comes to juggling friends, family, expectations, finances...you tend to find that there is more to a serious one than merely the ability to fuck people on the side. It kind of annoys me that people treat swinging so frivolously. But then thats probably the same reason why so few people on the forum actually do much of it anyway. Sexual exclusivity is one of the defining aspects of relationships in this culture...to be able to truly deal with that from a serious standpoint is no easy task...ESPECIALLY for men. People let the guys on Fab gas them up, I would not take anyone worse seriously if they told me that they were open to having a relationship on here. Would immediately think they're full of crap. Thats something you let grow organically...not something you assume can happen. "So many people on the forums dont do much swinging?" Can you qualify that nonsense with actual statistics? I'd like to see real evidence please You might be one of the people I am talking about. I will reiterate what I said to you last week You know nothing about me. We have never spoken. Or met On what do you base these spurious assumptions? I'd love to know What people post. Many are remarkably predictable. Dont need to read much to know when someone is clearly a talker and here for socializing rather than actual swinging. " So, assumption then? Just as I thought. Very dangerous to assume. I would have thought a man of your considerable intellect would know that | |||
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"I'm sure you can fall for someone on here. Whether you should is a totally different thing altogether
Ouch... you just broke my inner romantic
Why should where people meet dictate whether you can or should or will fall in love with someone.
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"Probably not. I tend to find that the men who say that one can are often incredibly desperate. Swinging is a visceral thing. It can be hard for a man to adjust to the fact that other men are also sexually liaising with his girlfriend/wife. There is a very good reason why the lions share of swingers tend to be middle aged couples with a lot of experience before getting into it. I tend to find that men can't help but lose a certain idea of a women when they see her with other men. The sense of "ownership" dies. Whilst ownership sounds bad...who really wants a man who doesn't fight for his woman's commitment. Most of the time I met couples who met through swinging I found one or the other partners had significant sway over the other and used swinging as a source of power. You also tend to find massive age gaps between a lot of couples who meet through here. It's great to meet someone with similar interests but I would strongly advise against someone coming in here thinking that they can make something work. From our experience thus far, would totally disagree. We are both happy with the other getting involved and stuck in, has only happened together so far but separately is something we have discussed. No massive age gap and no power held at all, even though SSS has much more experience and I’m pretty new to the whole thing. Obv every couple is different, they each have their own dynamics which leads on to their own rules/boundaries. I may have had a similar view to you before I found myself here (in the best relationship ever with every box ticked and then some) but I now though that anything is certainly possible. TB It says you have only been here for three weeks. I am just going to assume you have been here before but the vast majority of couples who talk about how wonderful it is tend to rarely go beyond the two year point. Everyone thinks everything is fantastic in the honeymoon phase. Relationships are more than just fucking...when it comes to juggling friends, family, expectations, finances...you tend to find that there is more to a serious one than merely the ability to fuck people on the side. It kind of annoys me that people treat swinging so frivolously. But then thats probably the same reason why so few people on the forum actually do much of it anyway. Sexual exclusivity is one of the defining aspects of relationships in this culture...to be able to truly deal with that from a serious standpoint is no easy task...ESPECIALLY for men. People let the guys on Fab gas them up, I would not take anyone worse seriously if they told me that they were open to having a relationship on here. Would immediately think they're full of crap. Thats something you let grow organically...not something you assume can happen. "So many people on the forums dont do much swinging?" Can you qualify that nonsense with actual statistics? I'd like to see real evidence please You might be one of the people I am talking about. I will reiterate what I said to you last week You know nothing about me. We have never spoken. Or met On what do you base these spurious assumptions? I'd love to know What people post. Many are remarkably predictable. Dont need to read much to know when someone is clearly a talker and here for socializing rather than actual swinging. So, assumption then? Just as I thought. Very dangerous to assume. I would have thought a man of your considerable intellect would know that" How cryptic. Thats all well and good. But, at this point, I am pretty much 99.99% sure I'm right. I think we both know this. | |||
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"I'm sure you can fall for someone on here. Whether you should is a totally different thing altogether
Ouch... you just broke my inner romantic
Why should where people meet dictate whether you can or should or will fall in love with someone.
It shouldn't dictate at all. The whether you should or not relates to people's individual circumstances especially those who may already be spoken for "Yeah....I can't even count the number of threads I've read where people have fallen for someone who is married and cheating. So..yeah. I do think there's a chance to find someone in the swinging world, but I agree that it's probably much harder than meeting elsewhere, for many reasons. | |||
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"Probably not. I tend to find that the men who say that one can are often incredibly desperate. Swinging is a visceral thing. It can be hard for a man to adjust to the fact that other men are also sexually liaising with his girlfriend/wife. There is a very good reason why the lions share of swingers tend to be middle aged couples with a lot of experience before getting into it. I tend to find that men can't help but lose a certain idea of a women when they see her with other men. The sense of "ownership" dies. Whilst ownership sounds bad...who really wants a man who doesn't fight for his woman's commitment. Most of the time I met couples who met through swinging I found one or the other partners had significant sway over the other and used swinging as a source of power. You also tend to find massive age gaps between a lot of couples who meet through here. It's great to meet someone with similar interests but I would strongly advise against someone coming in here thinking that they can make something work. From our experience thus far, would totally disagree. We are both happy with the other getting involved and stuck in, has only happened together so far but separately is something we have discussed. No massive age gap and no power held at all, even though SSS has much more experience and I’m pretty new to the whole thing. Obv every couple is different, they each have their own dynamics which leads on to their own rules/boundaries. I may have had a similar view to you before I found myself here (in the best relationship ever with every box ticked and then some) but I now though that anything is certainly possible. TB It says you have only been here for three weeks. I am just going to assume you have been here before but the vast majority of couples who talk about how wonderful it is tend to rarely go beyond the two year point. Everyone thinks everything is fantastic in the honeymoon phase. Relationships are more than just fucking...when it comes to juggling friends, family, expectations, finances...you tend to find that there is more to a serious one than merely the ability to fuck people on the side. It kind of annoys me that people treat swinging so frivolously. But then thats probably the same reason why so few people on the forum actually do much of it anyway. Sexual exclusivity is one of the defining aspects of relationships in this culture...to be able to truly deal with that from a serious standpoint is no easy task...ESPECIALLY for men. People let the guys on Fab gas them up, I would not take anyone worse seriously if they told me that they were open to having a relationship on here. Would immediately think they're full of crap. Thats something you let grow organically...not something you assume can happen. "So many people on the forums dont do much swinging?" Can you qualify that nonsense with actual statistics? I'd like to see real evidence please You might be one of the people I am talking about. I will reiterate what I said to you last week You know nothing about me. We have never spoken. Or met On what do you base these spurious assumptions? I'd love to know What people post. Many are remarkably predictable. Dont need to read much to know when someone is clearly a talker and here for socializing rather than actual swinging. So, assumption then? Just as I thought. Very dangerous to assume. I would have thought a man of your considerable intellect would know that How cryptic. Thats all well and good. But, at this point, I am pretty much 99.99% sure I'm right. I think we both know this. " No actual evidence of what you have accused me of And we have never met or spoken But you are right? Priceless | |||
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"Probably not. I tend to find that the men who say that one can are often incredibly desperate. Swinging is a visceral thing. It can be hard for a man to adjust to the fact that other men are also sexually liaising with his girlfriend/wife. There is a very good reason why the lions share of swingers tend to be middle aged couples with a lot of experience before getting into it. I tend to find that men can't help but lose a certain idea of a women when they see her with other men. The sense of "ownership" dies. Whilst ownership sounds bad...who really wants a man who doesn't fight for his woman's commitment. Most of the time I met couples who met through swinging I found one or the other partners had significant sway over the other and used swinging as a source of power. You also tend to find massive age gaps between a lot of couples who meet through here. It's great to meet someone with similar interests but I would strongly advise against someone coming in here thinking that they can make something work. From our experience thus far, would totally disagree. We are both happy with the other getting involved and stuck in, has only happened together so far but separately is something we have discussed. No massive age gap and no power held at all, even though SSS has much more experience and I’m pretty new to the whole thing. Obv every couple is different, they each have their own dynamics which leads on to their own rules/boundaries. I may have had a similar view to you before I found myself here (in the best relationship ever with every box ticked and then some) but I now though that anything is certainly possible. TB It says you have only been here for three weeks. I am just going to assume you have been here before but the vast majority of couples who talk about how wonderful it is tend to rarely go beyond the two year point. Everyone thinks everything is fantastic in the honeymoon phase. Relationships are more than just fucking...when it comes to juggling friends, family, expectations, finances...you tend to find that there is more to a serious one than merely the ability to fuck people on the side. It kind of annoys me that people treat swinging so frivolously. But then thats probably the same reason why so few people on the forum actually do much of it anyway. Sexual exclusivity is one of the defining aspects of relationships in this culture...to be able to truly deal with that from a serious standpoint is no easy task...ESPECIALLY for men. People let the guys on Fab gas them up, I would not take anyone worse seriously if they told me that they were open to having a relationship on here. Would immediately think they're full of crap. Thats something you let grow organically...not something you assume can happen. "So many people on the forums dont do much swinging?" Can you qualify that nonsense with actual statistics? I'd like to see real evidence please You might be one of the people I am talking about. I will reiterate what I said to you last week You know nothing about me. We have never spoken. Or met On what do you base these spurious assumptions? I'd love to know What people post. Many are remarkably predictable. Dont need to read much to know when someone is clearly a talker and here for socializing rather than actual swinging. So, assumption then? Just as I thought. Very dangerous to assume. I would have thought a man of your considerable intellect would know that How cryptic. Thats all well and good. But, at this point, I am pretty much 99.99% sure I'm right. I think we both know this. No actual evidence of what you have accused me of And we have never met or spoken But you are right? Priceless" "Evidence" of anything is ban worthy since you're not allowed to speak about profiles publicly on the forums. But, as I said before, even with the posts people make its obvious. They never state explicitly...but their approach to swinging, the way they communicate with others, their attitudes...its obvious that this is more about gathering some attention than it is about seriously meeting. Some will be open with that on their profiles...others will front and pretend to be something they're not. | |||
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"Is it possible to actually fall in love with someone on fab?...has anyone actually done it?..." We met and fell in love on another swinging site. Neither of us were looking for a relationship but it just happened. We have been together over 10 years and married for 3 years. Life is great | |||
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"Probably not. I tend to find that the men who say that one can are often incredibly desperate. Swinging is a visceral thing. It can be hard for a man to adjust to the fact that other men are also sexually liaising with his girlfriend/wife. There is a very good reason why the lions share of swingers tend to be middle aged couples with a lot of experience before getting into it. I tend to find that men can't help but lose a certain idea of a women when they see her with other men. The sense of "ownership" dies. Whilst ownership sounds bad...who really wants a man who doesn't fight for his woman's commitment. Most of the time I met couples who met through swinging I found one or the other partners had significant sway over the other and used swinging as a source of power. You also tend to find massive age gaps between a lot of couples who meet through here. It's great to meet someone with similar interests but I would strongly advise against someone coming in here thinking that they can make something work. From our experience thus far, would totally disagree. We are both happy with the other getting involved and stuck in, has only happened together so far but separately is something we have discussed. No massive age gap and no power held at all, even though SSS has much more experience and I’m pretty new to the whole thing. Obv every couple is different, they each have their own dynamics which leads on to their own rules/boundaries. I may have had a similar view to you before I found myself here (in the best relationship ever with every box ticked and then some) but I now though that anything is certainly possible. TB It says you have only been here for three weeks. I am just going to assume you have been here before but the vast majority of couples who talk about how wonderful it is tend to rarely go beyond the two year point. Everyone thinks everything is fantastic in the honeymoon phase. Relationships are more than just fucking...when it comes to juggling friends, family, expectations, finances...you tend to find that there is more to a serious one than merely the ability to fuck people on the side. It kind of annoys me that people treat swinging so frivolously. But then thats probably the same reason why so few people on the forum actually do much of it anyway. Sexual exclusivity is one of the defining aspects of relationships in this culture...to be able to truly deal with that from a serious standpoint is no easy task...ESPECIALLY for men. People let the guys on Fab gas them up, I would not take anyone worse seriously if they told me that they were open to having a relationship on here. Would immediately think they're full of crap. Thats something you let grow organically...not something you assume can happen. "So many people on the forums dont do much swinging?" Can you qualify that nonsense with actual statistics? I'd like to see real evidence please You might be one of the people I am talking about. I will reiterate what I said to you last week You know nothing about me. We have never spoken. Or met On what do you base these spurious assumptions? I'd love to know What people post. Many are remarkably predictable. Dont need to read much to know when someone is clearly a talker and here for socializing rather than actual swinging. So, assumption then? Just as I thought. Very dangerous to assume. I would have thought a man of your considerable intellect would know that How cryptic. Thats all well and good. But, at this point, I am pretty much 99.99% sure I'm right. I think we both know this. No actual evidence of what you have accused me of And we have never met or spoken But you are right? Priceless "Evidence" of anything is ban worthy since you're not allowed to speak about profiles publicly on the forums. But, as I said before, even with the posts people make its obvious. They never state explicitly...but their approach to swinging, the way they communicate with others, their attitudes...its obvious that this is more about gathering some attention than it is about seriously meeting. Some will be open with that on their profiles...others will front and pretend to be something they're not. " Yup. I concede. You are clearly a man of great insight I am desperate for attention Very 'unliberated' sexually And I purport to be something I'm not You got me | |||
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"Probably not. I tend to find that the men who say that one can are often incredibly desperate. Swinging is a visceral thing. It can be hard for a man to adjust to the fact that other men are also sexually liaising with his girlfriend/wife. There is a very good reason why the lions share of swingers tend to be middle aged couples with a lot of experience before getting into it. I tend to find that men can't help but lose a certain idea of a women when they see her with other men. The sense of "ownership" dies. Whilst ownership sounds bad...who really wants a man who doesn't fight for his woman's commitment. Most of the time I met couples who met through swinging I found one or the other partners had significant sway over the other and used swinging as a source of power. You also tend to find massive age gaps between a lot of couples who meet through here. It's great to meet someone with similar interests but I would strongly advise against someone coming in here thinking that they can make something work. From our experience thus far, would totally disagree. We are both happy with the other getting involved and stuck in, has only happened together so far but separately is something we have discussed. No massive age gap and no power held at all, even though SSS has much more experience and I’m pretty new to the whole thing. Obv every couple is different, they each have their own dynamics which leads on to their own rules/boundaries. I may have had a similar view to you before I found myself here (in the best relationship ever with every box ticked and then some) but I now though that anything is certainly possible. TB It says you have only been here for three weeks. I am just going to assume you have been here before but the vast majority of couples who talk about how wonderful it is tend to rarely go beyond the two year point. Everyone thinks everything is fantastic in the honeymoon phase. Relationships are more than just fucking...when it comes to juggling friends, family, expectations, finances...you tend to find that there is more to a serious one than merely the ability to fuck people on the side. It kind of annoys me that people treat swinging so frivolously. But then thats probably the same reason why so few people on the forum actually do much of it anyway. Sexual exclusivity is one of the defining aspects of relationships in this culture...to be able to truly deal with that from a serious standpoint is no easy task...ESPECIALLY for men. People let the guys on Fab gas them up, I would not take anyone worse seriously if they told me that they were open to having a relationship on here. Would immediately think they're full of crap. Thats something you let grow organically...not something you assume can happen. "So many people on the forums dont do much swinging?" Can you qualify that nonsense with actual statistics? I'd like to see real evidence please You might be one of the people I am talking about. I will reiterate what I said to you last week You know nothing about me. We have never spoken. Or met On what do you base these spurious assumptions? I'd love to know What people post. Many are remarkably predictable. Dont need to read much to know when someone is clearly a talker and here for socializing rather than actual swinging. So, assumption then? Just as I thought. Very dangerous to assume. I would have thought a man of your considerable intellect would know that How cryptic. Thats all well and good. But, at this point, I am pretty much 99.99% sure I'm right. I think we both know this. No actual evidence of what you have accused me of And we have never met or spoken But you are right? Priceless "Evidence" of anything is ban worthy since you're not allowed to speak about profiles publicly on the forums. But, as I said before, even with the posts people make its obvious. They never state explicitly...but their approach to swinging, the way they communicate with others, their attitudes...its obvious that this is more about gathering some attention than it is about seriously meeting. Some will be open with that on their profiles...others will front and pretend to be something they're not. Yup. I concede. You are clearly a man of great insight I am desperate for attention Very 'unliberated' sexually And I purport to be something I'm not You got me" I do. Thanks for the acknowledgement. | |||
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I have been here, i have seen love and relationships, seen marriages, seen children being born from those... seen people split, seen people divorce, seen people pass away!!
so yeah, almost seen it all.... if you meet the right person it doesn't matter where you met, be that here, a club, or that cheese counter at morrisons!
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"it was warm and fuzzy.... then "general moodhoover" had to come in and stomp on everyone's mood.......... so before i say what i want to say i need to ask if that if i have been here for 10 years ish if that is long enough to have a valid opinion? it is!... cool!..... i shall proceed!...
I have been here, i have seen love and relationships, seen marriages, seen children being born from those... seen people split, seen people divorce, seen people pass away!!
so yeah, almost seen it all.... if you meet the right person it doesn't matter where you met, be that here, a club, or that cheese counter at morrisons!
so... if people want to be cynical, thats on them! don't let their negativity affect your positivity!"If you have a problem with something I say, state it openly. Your passive aggression makes you look childish and pathetic. | |||
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" If you have a problem with something I say, state it openly. Your passive aggression makes you look childish and pathetic." I think it's pretty obvious after reading all the posts on here that the general consensus to the OP is yes. Yet you have chose to argue & insult those that have not supported your thoughts. That's aggressive, childish & quite pathetic | |||
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"it was warm and fuzzy.... then "general moodhoover" had to come in and stomp on everyone's mood.......... so before i say what i want to say i need to ask if that if i have been here for 10 years ish if that is long enough to have a valid opinion? it is!... cool!..... i shall proceed!...
I have been here, i have seen love and relationships, seen marriages, seen children being born from those... seen people split, seen people divorce, seen people pass away!!
so yeah, almost seen it all.... if you meet the right person it doesn't matter where you met, be that here, a club, or that cheese counter at morrisons!
so... if people want to be cynical, thats on them! don't let their negativity affect your positivity!"The voice of reason, as usual Fabio Wanna get married? | |||
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"it was warm and fuzzy.... then "general moodhoover" had to come in and stomp on everyone's mood.......... so before i say what i want to say i need to ask if that if i have been here for 10 years ish if that is long enough to have a valid opinion? it is!... cool!..... i shall proceed!...
I have been here, i have seen love and relationships, seen marriages, seen children being born from those... seen people split, seen people divorce, seen people pass away!!
so yeah, almost seen it all.... if you meet the right person it doesn't matter where you met, be that here, a club, or that cheese counter at morrisons!
so... if people want to be cynical, thats on them! don't let their negativity affect your positivity!"I'm off to the cheese counter to investigate any possible talent | |||
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" If you have a problem with something I say, state it openly. Your passive aggression makes you look childish and pathetic. I think it's pretty obvious after reading all the posts on here that the general consensus to the OP is yes. Yet you have chose to argue & insult those that have not supported your thoughts. That's aggressive, childish & quite pathetic " Yeah if OP wants a feel good thread in which everyone agrees with what he says (let be honest OP is probably asking because either he or someone who he is close to is in said situation) then yes this is indeed a productive exercise. Me personally, I have no understanding of the need of a "feel good thread" where everyone just circlejersk the same opinion and OP learns nothing. I would actually suggest OP reads some insights into swinging outside of the forums. He'll be able to make a better judgement there as many will be a lot more honest about the pitfalls of meeting partners within this scene. Marc.courtney put it quite well actually. Its all good passing off feel good anecdotes about a dozen or so couples who are doing well (even if they're often in the very early stages of their relationship) but that doesnt negate the fact that there are structural realities of swinging that will make it very difficult to form a real lasting relationship from meeting someone on here. | |||
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" If you have a problem with something I say, state it openly. Your passive aggression makes you look childish and pathetic." oh i have a shedload of issues with what you normally say, but lets keep it to the topic rather than you basically pissing in everyones cornflakes!!!! you were the one who originally brought up the issue of how long people had been here..... no one else!!! 
of course people can fall for people here.... just because YOU don't believe that so, doesn't mean thats the same for a lot of people, especially if has been point out on numerous occasions that you see people talking about being on both POF and FAB for example...... if there use both for sex, what says people can use both for anything else....
if it works for them... good on them!
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"it was warm and fuzzy.... then "general moodhoover" had to come in and stomp on everyone's mood.......... so before i say what i want to say i need to ask if that if i have been here for 10 years ish if that is long enough to have a valid opinion? it is!... cool!..... i shall proceed!...
I have been here, i have seen love and relationships, seen marriages, seen children being born from those... seen people split, seen people divorce, seen people pass away!!
so yeah, almost seen it all.... if you meet the right person it doesn't matter where you met, be that here, a club, or that cheese counter at morrisons!
so... if people want to be cynical, thats on them! don't let their negativity affect your positivity!"Well said | |||
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"it was warm and fuzzy.... then "general moodhoover" had to come in and stomp on everyone's mood.......... so before i say what i want to say i need to ask if that if i have been here for 10 years ish if that is long enough to have a valid opinion? it is!... cool!..... i shall proceed!...
I have been here, i have seen love and relationships, seen marriages, seen children being born from those... seen people split, seen people divorce, seen people pass away!!
so yeah, almost seen it all.... if you meet the right person it doesn't matter where you met, be that here, a club, or that cheese counter at morrisons!
so... if people want to be cynical, thats on them! don't let their negativity affect your positivity!
If you have a problem with something I say, state it openly. Your passive aggression makes you look childish and pathetic."
Huh. Shit just got serious. I don't always agree with your posts, but I usually like your honesty. Fabio has added something to the discussion. Whether you like his tone is one thing, but this comment has really brought the thread down with no substantial addition to the discussion. Was it necessary? | |||
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Those are fun meets!
But if you expend time and effort getting to know people properly and share yourself, your life and its ups and downs with someone you're really compatible with? Of course! | |||
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" Yeah if OP wants a feel good thread in which everyone agrees with what he says (let be honest OP is probably asking because either he or someone who he is close to is in said situation) then yes this is indeed a productive exercise. Me personally, I have no understanding of the need of a "feel good thread" where everyone just circlejersk the same opinion and OP learns nothing. " The OP asked a question, people answered. It's that simple. The need to constantly bash people's answers wasn't called for | |||
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" If you have a problem with something I say, state it openly. Your passive aggression makes you look childish and pathetic. oh i have a shedload of issues with what you normally say, but lets keep it to the topic rather than you basically pissing in everyones cornflakes!!!! you were the one who originally brought up the issue of how long people had been here..... no one else!!!
of course people can fall for people here.... just because YOU don't believe that so, doesn't mean thats the same for a lot of people, especially if has been point out on numerous occasions that you see people talking about being on both POF and FAB for example...... if there use both for sex, what says people can use both for anything else....
if it works for them... good on them!
"LOL POF has one of the highest relationship dissolution rates of any dating site...hardly a sign of anything positive really. As said...if you want to circlejerk with the rest of the little clique on here...be my guest. | |||
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" If you have a problem with something I say, state it openly. Your passive aggression makes you look childish and pathetic. oh i have a shedload of issues with what you normally say, but lets keep it to the topic rather than you basically pissing in everyones cornflakes!!!! you were the one who originally brought up the issue of how long people had been here..... no one else!!!
of course people can fall for people here.... just because YOU don't believe that so, doesn't mean thats the same for a lot of people, especially if has been point out on numerous occasions that you see people talking about being on both POF and FAB for example...... if there use both for sex, what says people can use both for anything else....
if it works for them... good on them!
LOL POF has one of the highest relationship dissolution rates of any dating site...hardly a sign of anything positive really.
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"You can meet and fall in love with a life partner anywhere, fab is no different. We met on here just over 4 years ago. I moved in 6 months later and we’ve been married 2.5 years. " BEST story ever !! You both look fab hope that 2.5 becomes 25 | |||
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" If you have a problem with something I say, state it openly. Your passive aggression makes you look childish and pathetic. I think it's pretty obvious after reading all the posts on here that the general consensus to the OP is yes. Yet you have chose to argue & insult those that have not supported your thoughts. That's aggressive, childish & quite pathetic Yeah if OP wants a feel good thread in which everyone agrees with what he says (let be honest OP is probably asking because either he or someone who he is close to is in said situation) then yes this is indeed a productive exercise. Me personally, I have no understanding of the need of a "feel good thread" where everyone just circlejersk the same opinion and OP learns nothing. I would actually suggest OP reads some insights into swinging outside of the forums. He'll be able to make a better judgement there as many will be a lot more honest about the pitfalls of meeting partners within this scene. Marc.courtney put it quite well actually. Its all good passing off feel good anecdotes about a dozen or so couples who are doing well (even if they're often in the very early stages of their relationship) but that doesnt negate the fact that there are structural realities of swinging that will make it very difficult to form a real lasting relationship from meeting someone on here. Unfortunately, you've not quite got the grasp of realising that your opinion isn't fact. I'd say any reationship is difficult where you've met online. So what if there are structural realities of swinging!? Many singles are on here not solely to swing in the traditional sense, but to enjoy sex with likeminded people. If that goes further and you actually enjoy spending time together, great. looool many of the singles here arent actually single for a start ?? I run into this all the time when meeting people in real life. EVERY. TIME. They always have a story about some poor sod who wants to spend a life with someone they met on Fab...not knowing that said sod is obviously playing away. Its hilarious and sad. Hilarious and sad ? Presumably that’s aimed at the deceiver not the deceived ? "Both actually. And yes, as bad as it sounds, more at the deceived. Precisely due to what I mentioned. Its like going to a grocer and expecting to be able to buy a toaster. It would be silly to think the man that u met, whose opening line was how much he wants to fuck you (which he sent to 30 other women the same day), was gonna also be the man who would definitely want to spend his life with you. | |||
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" If you have a problem with something I say, state it openly. Your passive aggression makes you look childish and pathetic. oh i have a shedload of issues with what you normally say, but lets keep it to the topic rather than you basically pissing in everyones cornflakes!!!! you were the one who originally brought up the issue of how long people had been here..... no one else!!!
of course people can fall for people here.... just because YOU don't believe that so, doesn't mean thats the same for a lot of people, especially if has been point out on numerous occasions that you see people talking about being on both POF and FAB for example...... if there use both for sex, what says people can use both for anything else....
if it works for them... good on them!
LOL POF has one of the highest relationship dissolution rates of any dating site...hardly a sign of anything positive really.
As said...if you want to circlejerk with the rest of the little clique on here...be my guest.
Regarding POF. Again, where is your evidence?
https://www.techlicious.com/blog/michigan-state-stanford-online-dating-survey-breakups/
http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/science/science-news/11124140/Couples-who-met-online-three-times-more-likely-to-divorce.html
https://www.engadget.com/2014/09/26/online-dating-study/
LOL, now compound online dating site with one in which people meet for sex. LOL some of you are just...frighteningly delusional. CAN you meet someone to date on Fab? Of course (but then you can meet someone on the cheese counter of morrisons too ) but then thinking that there wont be significant barriers to that process is idiotic.
I dont make any statement or observation without some kind of analysis or statistical backing. With you, its just obvious...I've been here for four years now and the ones who are frivolous just start to look the same after a while...all exhibiting the same traits too. Its remarkably predictable. "You are cute. Wanna hook up? | |||
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" If you have a problem with something I say, state it openly. Your passive aggression makes you look childish and pathetic. I think it's pretty obvious after reading all the posts on here that the general consensus to the OP is yes. Yet you have chose to argue & insult those that have not supported your thoughts. That's aggressive, childish & quite pathetic Yeah if OP wants a feel good thread in which everyone agrees with what he says (let be honest OP is probably asking because either he or someone who he is close to is in said situation) then yes this is indeed a productive exercise. Me personally, I have no understanding of the need of a "feel good thread" where everyone just circlejersk the same opinion and OP learns nothing. I would actually suggest OP reads some insights into swinging outside of the forums. He'll be able to make a better judgement there as many will be a lot more honest about the pitfalls of meeting partners within this scene. Marc.courtney put it quite well actually. Its all good passing off feel good anecdotes about a dozen or so couples who are doing well (even if they're often in the very early stages of their relationship) but that doesnt negate the fact that there are structural realities of swinging that will make it very difficult to form a real lasting relationship from meeting someone on here. Unfortunately, you've not quite got the grasp of realising that your opinion isn't fact. I'd say any reationship is difficult where you've met online. So what if there are structural realities of swinging!? Many singles are on here not solely to swing in the traditional sense, but to enjoy sex with likeminded people. If that goes further and you actually enjoy spending time together, great. looool many of the singles here arent actually single for a start ?? I run into this all the time when meeting people in real life. EVERY. TIME. They always have a story about some poor sod who wants to spend a life with someone they met on Fab...not knowing that said sod is obviously playing away. Its hilarious and sad. " That's a different thing entirely. I don't disagree that there are many attached people on here. Maybe try and open your mind to the possibility that you're not always right. It's a good trait to have. | |||
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Both actually. And yes, as bad as it sounds, more at the deceived. Precisely due to what I mentioned. Its like going to a grocer and expecting to be able to buy a toaster. It would be silly to think the man that u met, whose opening line was how much he wants to fuck you (which he sent to 30 other women the same day), was gonna also be the man who would definitely want to spend his life with you. "Tbf anyone on here past a week wises up on tge joys of fakes and liars | |||
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" Both actually. And yes, as bad as it sounds, more at the deceived. Precisely due to what I mentioned. Its like going to a grocer and expecting to be able to buy a toaster. It would be silly to think the man that u met, whose opening line was how much he wants to fuck you (which he sent to 30 other women the same day), was gonna also be the man who would definitely want to spend his life with you. Okay. You are really fucking judgemental. Just because YOU don't believe this will happen you have no right to belittle anyone else. As proven above it does happen. I get your point of it being a sex site, but does it really matter where you find love? I'm a cynic but you are something else. " "Judgmental" is the pathetic term everyone uses when they want to run from reality. There is nothing judgmental about observing the fact that Fab is not a realistic place to expect to a relationship from. | |||
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"You can meet and fall in love with a life partner anywhere, fab is no different. We met on here just over 4 years ago. I moved in 6 months later and we’ve been married 2.5 years. " How lovely! (: Many more years of happiness to you!! | |||
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Both actually. And yes, as bad as it sounds, more at the deceived. Precisely due to what I mentioned. Its like going to a grocer and expecting to be able to buy a toaster. It would be silly to think the man that u met, whose opening line was how much he wants to fuck you (which he sent to 30 other women the same day), was gonna also be the man who would definitely want to spend his life with you.
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" If you have a problem with something I say, state it openly. Your passive aggression makes you look childish and pathetic. oh i have a shedload of issues with what you normally say, but lets keep it to the topic rather than you basically pissing in everyones cornflakes!!!! you were the one who originally brought up the issue of how long people had been here..... no one else!!!
of course people can fall for people here.... just because YOU don't believe that so, doesn't mean thats the same for a lot of people, especially if has been point out on numerous occasions that you see people talking about being on both POF and FAB for example...... if there use both for sex, what says people can use both for anything else....
if it works for them... good on them!
LOL POF has one of the highest relationship dissolution rates of any dating site...hardly a sign of anything positive really.
As said...if you want to circlejerk with the rest of the little clique on here...be my guest.
Regarding POF. Again, where is your evidence?
https://www.techlicious.com/blog/michigan-state-stanford-online-dating-survey-breakups/
http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/science/science-news/11124140/Couples-who-met-online-three-times-more-likely-to-divorce.html
https://www.engadget.com/2014/09/26/online-dating-study/
LOL, now compound online dating site with one in which people meet for sex. LOL some of you are just...frighteningly delusional. CAN you meet someone to date on Fab? Of course (but then you can meet someone on the cheese counter of morrisons too ) but then thinking that there wont be significant barriers to that process is idiotic.
I dont make any statement or observation without some kind of analysis or statistical backing. With you, its just obvious...I've been here for four years now and the ones who are frivolous just start to look the same after a while...all exhibiting the same traits too. Its remarkably predictable. "Righty ho So how did you come to the conclusion that I " cant claim to be sexually liberated?" | |||
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" Both actually. And yes, as bad as it sounds, more at the deceived. Precisely due to what I mentioned. Its like going to a grocer and expecting to be able to buy a toaster. It would be silly to think the man that u met, whose opening line was how much he wants to fuck you (which he sent to 30 other women the same day), was gonna also be the man who would definitely want to spend his life with you. Okay. You are really fucking judgemental. Just because YOU don't believe this will happen you have no right to belittle anyone else. As proven above it does happen. I get your point of it being a sex site, but does it really matter where you find love? I'm a cynic but you are something else. "Judgmental" is the pathetic term everyone uses when they want to run from reality. There is nothing judgmental about observing the fact that Fab is not a realistic place to expect to a relationship from. If fab is not a realistic place to expect a relationship to form then how do you explain successful couples who have met on here and been together for longer than many relationships in the vanilla world? That spark of something special can happen anywhere. " LOL, the concept of "anomaly" is going to blow your mind.... | |||
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" Both actually. And yes, as bad as it sounds, more at the deceived. Precisely due to what I mentioned. Its like going to a grocer and expecting to be able to buy a toaster. It would be silly to think the man that u met, whose opening line was how much he wants to fuck you (which he sent to 30 other women the same day), was gonna also be the man who would definitely want to spend his life with you. Okay. You are really fucking judgemental. Just because YOU don't believe this will happen you have no right to belittle anyone else. As proven above it does happen. I get your point of it being a sex site, but does it really matter where you find love? I'm a cynic but you are something else. "Judgmental" is the pathetic term everyone uses when they want to run from reality. There is nothing judgmental about observing the fact that Fab is not a realistic place to expect to a relationship from. If fab is not a realistic place to expect a relationship to form then how do you explain successful couples who have met on here and been together for longer than many relationships in the vanilla world? That spark of something special can happen anywhere. LOL, the concept of "anomaly" is going to blow your mind...." You're an old romantic really I bet . | |||
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" If you have a problem with something I say, state it openly. Your passive aggression makes you look childish and pathetic. I think it's pretty obvious after reading all the posts on here that the general consensus to the OP is yes. Yet you have chose to argue & insult those that have not supported your thoughts. That's aggressive, childish & quite pathetic Yeah if OP wants a feel good thread in which everyone agrees with what he says (let be honest OP is probably asking because either he or someone who he is close to is in said situation) then yes this is indeed a productive exercise. Me personally, I have no understanding of the need of a "feel good thread" where everyone just circlejersk the same opinion and OP learns nothing. I would actually suggest OP reads some insights into swinging outside of the forums. He'll be able to make a better judgement there as many will be a lot more honest about the pitfalls of meeting partners within this scene. Marc.courtney put it quite well actually. Its all good passing off feel good anecdotes about a dozen or so couples who are doing well (even if they're often in the very early stages of their relationship) but that doesnt negate the fact that there are structural realities of swinging that will make it very difficult to form a real lasting relationship from meeting someone on here. Unfortunately, you've not quite got the grasp of realising that your opinion isn't fact. I'd say any reationship is difficult where you've met online. So what if there are structural realities of swinging!? Many singles are on here not solely to swing in the traditional sense, but to enjoy sex with likeminded people. If that goes further and you actually enjoy spending time together, great. looool many of the singles here arent actually single for a start ?? I run into this all the time when meeting people in real life. EVERY. TIME. They always have a story about some poor sod who wants to spend a life with someone they met on Fab...not knowing that said sod is obviously playing away. Its hilarious and sad. Hilarious and sad ? Presumably that’s aimed at the deceiver not the deceived ?
Both actually. And yes, as bad as it sounds, more at the deceived. Precisely due to what I mentioned. Its like going to a grocer and expecting to be able to buy a toaster. It would be silly to think the man that u met, whose opening line was how much he wants to fuck you (which he sent to 30 other women the same day), was gonna also be the man who would definitely want to spend his life with you.
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"The ability to listen understand and accept a different view to your own is the sign of an intelligent empathetic individual. The capacity to acknowledge that others experience does not accord with your own world view is likewise the sign of an open mind and ability to discern that others experience are as valid as the narrow minded opinions another may hold. The fact that you don't find love... Love finds you... In the most unlikely places at the most unexpected times is a fact of all human experience. It's a pity that some feel the need through arrogance insecurity or other distasteful human traits to attempt to impose their world view on others who do not share it.... And fail to recognise that we the people will always confound the do called experts... " This is another horse manure philosophy that needs to die a death. Love is not spontaneous. It is strategic. Always has been. Always will be. The concept of romantic love as the basis of a stable relationship probably does not have much credence prior to the 20th century. There is no such thing as the "most unlikely of places". Peoples dating and marriage habits tend to be awfully predictable. Almost always correlating with race, socioeconomic status, educational level and location. Seems rather convenient that human beings seem to somehow, miraculously find people who (90% of the time) tend to be the same race, religion, tax bracket and class. This idea that love is some kind of miraculous feeling is nothing more than guff fed to you by Hollywood. Its disheartening to see so many middle aged peoples whose understanding of life has not progressed all that much from secondary school. Then again, I think much of society is right when it paint many of us swingers as, ultimately, rather childish. | |||
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" Both actually. And yes, as bad as it sounds, more at the deceived. Precisely due to what I mentioned. Its like going to a grocer and expecting to be able to buy a toaster. It would be silly to think the man that u met, whose opening line was how much he wants to fuck you (which he sent to 30 other women the same day), was gonna also be the man who would definitely want to spend his life with you. Okay. You are really fucking judgemental. Just because YOU don't believe this will happen you have no right to belittle anyone else. As proven above it does happen. I get your point of it being a sex site, but does it really matter where you find love? I'm a cynic but you are something else. "Judgmental" is the pathetic term everyone uses when they want to run from reality. There is nothing judgmental about observing the fact that Fab is not a realistic place to expect to a relationship from. If fab is not a realistic place to expect a relationship to form then how do you explain successful couples who have met on here and been together for longer than many relationships in the vanilla world? That spark of something special can happen anywhere. LOL, the concept of "anomaly" is going to blow your mind.... Your doing a lot of LOL'ing tonight. You should get that looked at..." No, I just find the comments on here genuinely laughable. | |||
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" Both actually. And yes, as bad as it sounds, more at the deceived. Precisely due to what I mentioned. Its like going to a grocer and expecting to be able to buy a toaster. It would be silly to think the man that u met, whose opening line was how much he wants to fuck you (which he sent to 30 other women the same day), was gonna also be the man who would definitely want to spend his life with you. Okay. You are really fucking judgemental. Just because YOU don't believe this will happen you have no right to belittle anyone else. As proven above it does happen. I get your point of it being a sex site, but does it really matter where you find love? I'm a cynic but you are something else. "Judgmental" is the pathetic term everyone uses when they want to run from reality. There is nothing judgmental about observing the fact that Fab is not a realistic place to expect to a relationship from. " Calm down princess, sounds like you need some love. | |||
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Anyway I like to believe that love can happen anywhere and if 2 people fall for each other on here then that's just marvellous
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" You're an old romantic really I bet . certainly multi-talented.... being able to type whilst sticking fingers in both ears and saying "la la la, i'm not listening" and surfing the next for papers to prove that you are all wrong and in fact you are figments whilst surfing the net looking for research papers.... well i am just about ready to bow to our supreme overlord...... "Yeah. Thats right. Whats the need of statistics when I can rely on opinions on the Fab forums.... I mean...considering what I have seen in my real life experiences compared to Fab when it comes to even the most basic stuff like safe sex, I know to take all opinions here with a healthy helping of salt. | |||
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"I fell in love with someone I shouldn't have fallen in love with He is married After lots of bareback sex and him telling me I was the best most beautiful girl on fab ever. " After all that, you just go right ahead and prove my point... I got love for your forumites, your lack of self awareness never ceases to blow my mind. | |||
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"People can fall in love no matter where they meet. Why would this medium be any different? " Because the Orcale said so | |||
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"I fell in love with someone I shouldn't have fallen in love with He is married After lots of bareback sex and him telling me I was the best most beautiful girl on fab ever. After all that, you just go right ahead and prove my point... I got love for your forumites, your lack of self awareness never ceases to blow my mind. " You are so welcome. Can you shut up now I've said exactly what you wanted to hear? | |||
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"I'd say from the amount of couples I know who met on here as singles, it's very possible. You can't chose who you'll fall in love with or if they'll feel the same... Just like meeting someone via any other means Exactly this The heart wants what it wants. If I had a heart I expect I could fall for someone no matter where we met. When you meet someone you are compatible with in all areas it's easy to fall. Or so I'm told...by a friend. " this | |||
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"I fell in love with someone I shouldn't have fallen in love with He is married After lots of bareback sex and him telling me I was the best most beautiful girl on fab ever. After all that, you just go right ahead and prove my point... I got love for your forumites, your lack of self awareness never ceases to blow my mind. " I like to blow minds. Thankyou for blowing mine | |||
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"it was warm and fuzzy.... then "general moodhoover" had to come in and stomp on everyone's mood.......... so before i say what i want to say i need to ask if that if i have been here for 10 years ish if that is long enough to have a valid opinion? it is!... cool!..... i shall proceed!...
I have been here, i have seen love and relationships, seen marriages, seen children being born from those... seen people split, seen people divorce, seen people pass away!!
so yeah, almost seen it all.... if you meet the right person it doesn't matter where you met, be that here, a club, or that cheese counter at morrisons!
so... if people want to be cynical, thats on them! don't let their negativity affect your positivity!
If you have a problem with something I say, state it openly. Your passive aggression makes you look childish and pathetic.
Huh. Shit just got serious. I don't always agree with your posts, but I usually like your honesty. Fabio has added something to the discussion. Whether you like his tone is one thing, but this comment has really brought the thread down with no substantial addition to the discussion. Was it necessary? "I think the moodhoover comment came first and was obvious who it was intended for. | |||
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" You're an old romantic really I bet . certainly multi-talented.... being able to type whilst sticking fingers in both ears and saying "la la la, i'm not listening" and surfing the next for papers to prove that you are all wrong and in fact you are figments whilst surfing the net looking for research papers.... well i am just about ready to bow to our supreme overlord......
Yeah. Thats right. Whats the need of statistics when I can rely on opinions on the Fab forums....
I mean...considering what I have seen in my real life experiences compared to Fab when it comes to even the most basic stuff like safe sex, I know to take all opinions here with a healthy helping of salt. "Statistics aye, since you are a learned man on the subject and "sexual exclusivity is one of the defining aspects of relationships in this culture" - what % of people will marry someone, stay married until death do them part and never cheat? Use whatever definition of cheating you like, just state the definition you use. | |||
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"it was warm and fuzzy.... then "general moodhoover" had to come in and stomp on everyone's mood.......... so before i say what i want to say i need to ask if that if i have been here for 10 years ish if that is long enough to have a valid opinion? it is!... cool!..... i shall proceed!...
I have been here, i have seen love and relationships, seen marriages, seen children being born from those... seen people split, seen people divorce, seen people pass away!!
so yeah, almost seen it all.... if you meet the right person it doesn't matter where you met, be that here, a club, or that cheese counter at morrisons!
so... if people want to be cynical, thats on them! don't let their negativity affect your positivity!
If you have a problem with something I say, state it openly. Your passive aggression makes you look childish and pathetic.
Huh. Shit just got serious. I don't always agree with your posts, but I usually like your honesty. Fabio has added something to the discussion. Whether you like his tone is one thing, but this comment has really brought the thread down with no substantial addition to the discussion. Was it necessary?
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"The ability to listen understand and accept a different view to your own is the sign of an intelligent empathetic individual. The capacity to acknowledge that others experience does not accord with your own world view is likewise the sign of an open mind and ability to discern that others experience are as valid as the narrow minded opinions another may hold. The fact that you don't find love... Love finds you... In the most unlikely places at the most unexpected times is a fact of all human experience. It's a pity that some feel the need through arrogance insecurity or other distasteful human traits to attempt to impose their world view on others who do not share it.... And fail to recognise that we the people will always confound the do called experts... This is another horse manure philosophy that needs to die a death. Love is not spontaneous. It is strategic. Always has been. Always will be. The concept of romantic love as the basis of a stable relationship probably does not have much credence prior to the 20th century. There is no such thing as the "most unlikely of places". Peoples dating and marriage habits tend to be awfully predictable. Almost always correlating with race, socioeconomic status, educational level and location. Seems rather convenient that human beings seem to somehow, miraculously find people who (90% of the time) tend to be the same race, religion, tax bracket and class. This idea that love is some kind of miraculous feeling is nothing more than guff fed to you by Hollywood. Its disheartening to see so many middle aged peoples whose understanding of life has not progressed all that much from secondary school. Then again, I think much of society is right when it paint many of us swingers as, ultimately, rather childish. " I genuinely used to believe that SF. Honest to god. (And you know that I don’t agree with you very often!) I thought that the whole ‘love at first sight’ thing was pure Disney drivel (I won’t demean the bloody, gory fairy tales by ascribing that to them!) Then it happened to me...and it was horrible and amazing all at the same time. When someone takes up a place in the back of your head and at no single point does a thought pop up that doesn’t somehow lead back to them. Everything is dismally faded when they’re not around but the second you talk to them, the freaking sun bursts out. It’s not lust, or infatuation or besottedness. You know because you’ve felt those before and they pale in that glow. Become tawdry. You don’t have to explain your thought processes or reactions because they already understand them and vice versa. (So you’re right, they are, 90% of the time from a similar background and upbringing because it gives you commonality, a shared history, say). And here’s the thing...it doesn’t fade. If anything it grows, like a vine around your throat. Horrible and amazing. And totally can come from a chance meeting on a site such as this. | |||
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"I'm no expert in falling in love but I think you can fall in love anywhere. It's not like everyone falls in love while picnicking by the Seine or while spending a long hot summer holidaying in the south of France. That's just in the movies. In real life people fall in love at the cheese counter in Morrisons or while having a drink down the Dog & Duck or while waiting for a bus or even while wading through dick pics and 'fancy a fuck' messages. The odds of two people falling in love on Fab are the same as the odds of two people falling in love anywhere. I've heard many stories of people falling in love through Fab "Lol which one is your story Howie? | |||
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" Both actually. And yes, as bad as it sounds, more at the deceived. Precisely due to what I mentioned. Its like going to a grocer and expecting to be able to buy a toaster. It would be silly to think the man that u met, whose opening line was how much he wants to fuck you (which he sent to 30 other women the same day), was gonna also be the man who would definitely want to spend his life with you. Okay. You are really fucking judgemental. Just because YOU don't believe this will happen you have no right to belittle anyone else. As proven above it does happen. I get your point of it being a sex site, but does it really matter where you find love? I'm a cynic but you are something else. "Judgmental" is the pathetic term everyone uses when they want to run from reality. There is nothing judgmental about observing the fact that Fab is not a realistic place to expect to a relationship from. Calm down princess, sounds like you need some love. " You were the one who posted aggression so maybe you should take your own advice | |||
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"The ability to listen understand and accept a different view to your own is the sign of an intelligent empathetic individual. The capacity to acknowledge that others experience does not accord with your own world view is likewise the sign of an open mind and ability to discern that others experience are as valid as the narrow minded opinions another may hold. The fact that you don't find love... Love finds you... In the most unlikely places at the most unexpected times is a fact of all human experience. It's a pity that some feel the need through arrogance insecurity or other distasteful human traits to attempt to impose their world view on others who do not share it.... And fail to recognise that we the people will always confound the do called experts... This is another horse manure philosophy that needs to die a death. Love is not spontaneous. It is strategic. Always has been. Always will be. The concept of romantic love as the basis of a stable relationship probably does not have much credence prior to the 20th century. There is no such thing as the "most unlikely of places". Peoples dating and marriage habits tend to be awfully predictable. Almost always correlating with race, socioeconomic status, educational level and location. Seems rather convenient that human beings seem to somehow, miraculously find people who (90% of the time) tend to be the same race, religion, tax bracket and class. This idea that love is some kind of miraculous feeling is nothing more than guff fed to you by Hollywood. Its disheartening to see so many middle aged peoples whose understanding of life has not progressed all that much from secondary school. Then again, I think much of society is right when it paint many of us swingers as, ultimately, rather childish. I genuinely used to believe that SF. Honest to god. (And you know that I don’t agree with you very often!) I thought that the whole ‘love at first sight’ thing was pure Disney drivel (I won’t demean the bloody, gory fairy tales by ascribing that to them!) Then it happened to me...and it was horrible and amazing all at the same time. When someone takes up a place in the back of your head and at no single point does a thought pop up that doesn’t somehow lead back to them. Everything is dismally faded when they’re not around but the second you talk to them, the freaking sun bursts out. It’s not lust, or infatuation or besottedness. You know because you’ve felt those before and they pale in that glow. Become tawdry. You don’t have to explain your thought processes or reactions because they already understand them and vice versa. (So you’re right, they are, 90% of the time from a similar background and upbringing because it gives you commonality, a shared history, say). And here’s the thing...it doesn’t fade. If anything it grows, like a vine around your throat. Horrible and amazing. And totally can come from a chance meeting on a site such as this." https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pd_BOTXkr18 | |||
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" Both actually. And yes, as bad as it sounds, more at the deceived. Precisely due to what I mentioned. Its like going to a grocer and expecting to be able to buy a toaster. It would be silly to think the man that u met, whose opening line was how much he wants to fuck you (which he sent to 30 other women the same day), was gonna also be the man who would definitely want to spend his life with you. Okay. You are really fucking judgemental. Just because YOU don't believe this will happen you have no right to belittle anyone else. As proven above it does happen. I get your point of it being a sex site, but does it really matter where you find love? I'm a cynic but you are something else. "Judgmental" is the pathetic term everyone uses when they want to run from reality. There is nothing judgmental about observing the fact that Fab is not a realistic place to expect to a relationship from. Calm down princess, sounds like you need some love. You were the one who posted aggression so maybe you should take your own advice" I've got a lot of love to give | |||
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"Met my ex on here 5yrs ago. We chatted for a couple of weeks and then arranged a meet. I went round her house for a good fuck one Tuesday night and kind of never really went home. A month later having both deleted our profiles I officially moved in with her. We were together for 3 years and had some really good times before it started to go abit tits up. So in answer to your question yes you can indeed. Sadly tho such as life sometimes things dont work out the way we hope,or plan, but I have no regrets as such. Having been single again now for 2yrs I am more than ready to move on again, and tho I am not looking as such for a full time relationship I guess I will never say never, doh I just did, twice. Mean time tho I am recently back on FAB and looking for abit of NSA safe fun. Shite being a newbie again tho as nobody loves me every body hates me, im going down the garden to eat worms" I'll love you. | |||
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