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Would you tell a new guy on a meet where you worked ?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I have had this happen a number of times when you are intimate with someone and next thing is they want to know your Twitter, Facebook, WhatsApp etc as well as where you work!
I never disclose any of the above and have been accused of being paranoid. I never ask for their details!
What's other people's thoughts. Am I? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No way is that paranoid. There are guys we've met many times who don't know where we work. They know what sort of work but more than that isn't necessary (arguably even that much isn't) Lots of info is on a need to know basis and people we meet on Fab largely don't need to know about our day to day life, that's something we keep seperate. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I work from home or in other peoples' houses, so I wouldn't tell them my address. I don't care if someone calls me paranoid ; I've had someone follow me to my daughter's and knock on the door. |
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Safety is paramount. We would never dream of asking somebody for their personal details, as we would appear to be a couple of stalking, bunny boiling weirdos. So in theory, if someone asks for ours, guess what our opinion of them would be?
Mr x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No, I’ve my own business and after someone stupidly tried to extract money from me for keeping things from my partner, I now like to keep business and pleasure separate |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Absolutely no way is that paranoid. Safety is paramount in this day and age. Although people can ask me for my Twitter. Facebook or WhatsApp name. As I don’t have any of them!!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My private life is exactly that and I keep it very separate to my fab life. I've never been asked by anyone I've met luckily they all understand discretion. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If we are seeing someone regularly I will ask their last name and disclose ours. And we normally play at our house for private meets. Gives me a sense of safety if I know who they are. The anonymity in swinging doesn't sit comfortably with me.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If we are seeing someone regularly I will ask their last name and disclose ours. And we normally play at our house for private meets. Gives me a sense of safety if I know who they are. The anonymity in swinging doesn't sit comfortably with me.
Mrs"
Same here. If it’s an impromptu meet at a club then no need to ask details but if you do get to the point of inviting back home then it’s goid to know a little. We wouldn’t ask for close personal details but a name and maybe a contact number wouldn’t be seen as being a bunny boiler, stalking weirdo. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Maybe, lots of my fab and real friends cross over now, the lines are really kinda blurred, I know my fab friends kids and where they work etc, some I even work with at times  they know as much about me as any other friend...and why not? I wouldn't meet and fuck someone and trust them with my body if I didn't think I could trust them with something as paltry as a couple of personal details
I find it much more organic just to treat people as people and go from there rather than pigeon hole them and categorise them into how I've met them and trying to keep them separate for whatever reason people do that for.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You don't often get threads where the opinion is unanimous, this is one of them.
You're doing the right thing by keeping it to yourself."
My opinion differed...it's not unanimous  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You don't often get threads where the opinion is unanimous, this is one of them.
You're doing the right thing by keeping it to yourself.
My opinion differed...it's not unanimous "
My opinion is different from majority too |
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"You don't often get threads where the opinion is unanimous, this is one of them.
You're doing the right thing by keeping it to yourself.
My opinion differed...it's not unanimous "
Yeah they were a bit quick saying that |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Maybe, lots of my fab and real friends cross over now, the lines are really kinda blurred, I know my fab friends kids and where they work etc, some I even work with at times they know as much about me as any other friend...and why not? I wouldn't meet and fuck someone and trust them with my body if I didn't think I could trust them with something as paltry as a couple of personal details
I find it much more organic just to treat people as people and go from there rather than pigeon hole them and categorise them into how I've met them and trying to keep them separate for whatever reason people do that for.
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Totally agree with you. We believe in treating people as friends, and whether sex is involved or not, it should make no difference to the way we treat our friends. We also believe that our approach generates loyalty in return from our playmates.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"You don't often get threads where the opinion is unanimous, this is one of them.
You're doing the right thing by keeping it to yourself.
My opinion differed...it's not unanimous
Yeah they were a bit quick saying that "
Your not far off though, Most would agree with the main of this thread though i would think ...you'll always find the awkward sods though (me)  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Maybe, lots of my fab and real friends cross over now, the lines are really kinda blurred, I know my fab friends kids and where they work etc, some I even work with at times they know as much about me as any other friend...and why not? I wouldn't meet and fuck someone and trust them with my body if I didn't think I could trust them with something as paltry as a couple of personal details
I find it much more organic just to treat people as people and go from there rather than pigeon hole them and categorise them into how I've met them and trying to keep them separate for whatever reason people do that for.
Totally agree with you. We believe in treating people as friends, and whether sex is involved or not, it should make no difference to the way we treat our friends. We also believe that our approach generates loyalty in return from our playmates.
Mrs"
I just find it easier I think, I struggle trying to maintain fronts and given that I don't do anything i really feel the need to hide either in normal or fab life it just seems easier to let them blend, saves any remembering who knows what or any of that
And there might be something in that as some of my closest friendships have at some point been fab friends at some point |
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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago
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What we disclose to others varies.
Most know nothing about us apart from our first names.
Some know, vague details like what type of work we do, little other snippets of our normal everyday life.
A select few know where we live and even fewer have met some of our family as we consider them 'proper' friends who we've known and met for years. They know lots about us and us them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't give out true personal info about me/us. Guys often think we have but it's usually lies or a mix of half truths. It generally keeps guys happy cus they think we are open even when they aren't lol. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have had this happen a number of times when you are intimate with someone and next thing is they want to know your Twitter, Facebook, WhatsApp etc as well as where you work!
I never disclose any of the above and have been accused of being paranoid. I never ask for their details!
What's other people's thoughts. Am I?"
no x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've just remembered a guy i met about 13 years ago knows where i work because he works in the same place. Its 13 years since we met for sex though anyway. I know the christian name he gave me is correct and vice versa but that's all. |
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Never.
It's not their business.
If they ask, then refer them to the dictionary to find the word discretion.
We have been on this site for many years, but only one woman and one couple know all about our life, family and jobs. In both cases we have a deep rooted social relationship, and though we met through this site we have never played. |
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