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Lady's making the move.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So how do you feel about women approaching you at a club to play? It always seem to be guys that ask, but I have had few times where I cant help myself, see someone one very attractive and have perved there pics on fab before the club (I always have a look to see who's going if it's on here)
But i go in, start chatting, get all flustered, sometimes stutter and blush. But what I am asking is, do you find it more of a complement if I women approached you than a guy? I'm bi so chat up men and women. Greedy girl 
Anyone got some good stories of being chatted up at a club? X |
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We should be so lucky!
We get approached by single men in clubs, but have never been approached by anyone else. I guess equally we're a bit pants at it ourselves, and particularly if it's a single woman! So I guess as long as someone makes a move, but it'd be nice if it was a mix as well.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have never had a girl approach me directly. The usual scenario when I am approached is for her to nudge her hubby forward and make him ask if I wanted to join them/her.
I can live with that  |
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we iften reach out to people before we go to clubs, then we have someone to talk to& possibly more 
we are always happy for people to come and say hi, we try to do the same as it generally makes the visits more fun! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I feel very uncomfortable about making the first move at a club, and on the few occasions I have, it hasn't gone well! "
How has it not gone well!?
Love giving a cheeky smile and see what I get in return and then have a chat, I'm a bit of a what have I got to loose. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I feel very uncomfortable about making the first move at a club, and on the few occasions I have, it hasn't gone well!
How has it not gone well!?
Love giving a cheeky smile and see what I get in return and then have a chat, I'm a bit of a what have I got to loose. "
Well I can think of one occasion when it went well: the other times, the guy in question treated me very disrespectfully; another guy literally ran away; and most recently I was just hit by a wall of indifference. So I rarely bother now! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I have no problem approaching a guy I like the look of at a club, introducing myself, and having a chat. It's 2017, not the 1950s, it's fine for women to make the initial approach. Sometimes a quick chat makes it clear the chemistry isn't there for one or both of us, but sometimes things end up getting very naughty!
I do online too - I will wink or message guys that take my fancy. If I don't hear back from them, it's not a problem, as we can't all be everybody's cup of tea, can we? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I wish I had more confidence approaching people in clubs. Unless they've given some indication that they're interested, I generally assume they I/we won't be their cup of tea, and wouldn't want to make anyone feel awkward. 
I might need to have a word with myself about that! 
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Has happened a couple of times and it's great - especially as I am useless at reading any signs of interest! One would think that in these days of equality it would be happening a lot more often... |
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"I wish I had more confidence approaching people in clubs. Unless they've given some indication that they're interested, I generally assume they I/we won't be their cup of tea, and wouldn't want to make anyone feel awkward.
I might need to have a word with myself about that!
V x"
Shouldn't need much of a word - gorgeous smile. I would imagine that smile would melt anyone within a 100ft radius making it a snap for you to start up a conversation.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I wish I had more confidence approaching people in clubs. Unless they've given some indication that they're interested, I generally assume they I/we won't be their cup of tea, and wouldn't want to make anyone feel awkward.
I might need to have a word with myself about that!
V x
Shouldn't need much of a word - gorgeous smile. I would imagine that smile would melt anyone within a 100ft radius making it a snap for you to start up a conversation.
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What a lovely thing to say, you may have just boosted my confidence a little. Thank you.
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"I wish I had more confidence approaching people in clubs. Unless they've given some indication that they're interested, I generally assume they I/we won't be their cup of tea, and wouldn't want to make anyone feel awkward.
I might need to have a word with myself about that!
V x
Shouldn't need much of a word - gorgeous smile. I would imagine that smile would melt anyone within a 100ft radius making it a snap for you to start up a conversation.
What a lovely thing to say, you may have just boosted my confidence a little. Thank you.
V x"
You are welcome. Just saying what I see. And if you feel a little more confident then that's a beautiful bonus. xx |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
Wouldn't mind at all if someone made an approach in a club - as somewhat of a wallflower it's something I struggle with doing myself unless there are really obvious signs made or a chance conversation arises. |
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By *eadyforachangeWoman
over a year ago
Second star to the right, and straight on till morning. |
I have no problem making the first move as just think if I don't I may miss out on some nice times. Even just chatting is fun and given I visit clubs alone it would be darn boring not to chat to people I like the look of. |
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By *otgirl32Woman
over a year ago
Ashton Under Lyne |
At non sex parties I've had no hesitation approaching a guy flirting with him if I felt he was attractive. Same in real life if I see an attractive man I'll say hello and see if there's potential. In rare horny moments I've even passed my number to a sexy bloke I saw and let him call.
As said above it's 2017 not the 60s |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I think it is difficult for anyone, a boy or girl, a man or a woman to take the first move especially if he/she is trying newly. So it is difficult to break the ice but once broken it usually works but some can only take it forward which leads to long term relationship. People want to explore new things new experiences all new new with short term life in this fast moving world |
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As Mrs M knows what she does and doesn’t like, she takes the reins and will usually start the conversation.
Within minutes I can tell if it’s a want to take it further or not.
I am happy to chat too but she has caught me off guard a few times with her choice of playmate(s) hence letting her lead.
Works for us  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So how do you feel about women approaching you at a club to play? It always seem to be guys that ask, but I have had few times where I cant help myself, see someone one very attractive and have perved there pics on fab before the club (I always have a look to see who's going if it's on here)
But i go in, start chatting, get all flustered, sometimes stutter and blush. But what I am asking is, do you find it more of a complement if I women approached you than a guy? I'm bi so chat up men and women. Greedy girl
Anyone got some good stories of being chatted up at a club? X"
Excellent thread
From our limited experience it’s not been like that, it’s always been the ladies who make the first move, usually with each other and the guys join in, that’s how it’s been so far. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When I was actively swinging, I was always the one to approach people. I've had my fair share of knock backs, I just wish them well and hope they enjoy the rest of their evening. |
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I need to comprehend that now. 
