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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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How do,
I have noticed that some users of the site are quite "aggressive" in their use of language. You can get a sense that they are pissed off with failed meets, etc...
I understand that, I do, but, well for me at least, if I read "aggressive" language (and I realise that term is subjective). Then I get a little put off (well a lot put off lol).
How do others feel about it? For me swinging is relaxed harmless fun, to be honest, its a break from quite a stressful life (anyone that knows me and is now laughing, it is stressful, honest onion!) Perhaps I just don't take all of this as seriously as others??
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By *riseeTV/TS
over a year ago
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I think there is a difference between expressing disappointment and being aggressive.
Remember too, the tone of some profiles and even chat, are part of that persons sexual expression. And some people like an aggressive partner.
I like the opposite so I always giggle when I see a strongly worded profile.
If the issue is about failed meets, I've offered to meet, yet rarely get any result.
I came to the conclusion some years ago, if you fail to meet what you think you want, in many cases a clone of your partner, or the impossible, then try meeting someone you think you never would pick!
Some couples and I have had amazing experiences for hours and hours, simply because one or all of us chose to release a boundary.
I met a couple who had some 'equipment' I wasn't expected, but hey, too late I was there! I toned up, they toned down and we had a pretty good time!
I've enjoyed couples in clubs who have put their prejudices aside and taken a chance ... and 4 or more hours later ... one wishes clubs did not have closing times!
When I brain storm ideas in my professional work, I write up a list of all the things that spring to mind, usually stereotypes.
Then I cross them out and find the things I wouldn't normally find.
More fun can be had when you let your inhibitions down, get away from stereotypes, teach our husband/boyfriend that sex in porn films isn't real, it's acted to stimulate his mind, and start to enjoy what you can have!
Enjoy!
I know I do ... when I can find people who actually are open minded and broad minded ... I know! Rare! Look what we're sold in the media every day!
And they say teen girls are influenced by airbrushed cover girls! Men are way more influenced!
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But I wouldn't say aggresive lol. I've came across some scary lists and demands but each to their own xx
