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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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We’re really struggling to find the right singles at the moment.
Guys, we implore, please write a paragraph or two explaining who you are, what you want and what you like about us, or the people you’re messaging.
It’s not rocket science. We think there must be so many other couples on here like us, ready and full of intent to get down to some naughty things, but who are thwarted by idiotic one liners and lack of effort from the guys that message.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hi guys
I have looked at couples with the possibility of joining them if indeed I got the bill but that never seems to be the case.
Personally I always send a decent full message but still that doesn’t seem to work.
Good luck you two x
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over a year ago
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"We’re really struggling to find the right singles at the moment.
Guys, we implore, please write a paragraph or two explaining who you are, what you want and what you like about us, or the people you’re messaging.
It’s not rocket science. We think there must be so many other couples on here like us, ready and full of intent to get down to some naughty things, but who are thwarted by idiotic one liners and lack of effort from the guys that message.
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we look on it as another filter...inarticulate in profile, usually the same in real life especially sexually but understand it must be frustrating having to trawl through the dross... |
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"We’re really struggling to find the right singles at the moment.
Guys, we implore, please write a paragraph or two explaining who you are, what you want and what you like about us, or the people you’re messaging.
It’s not rocket science. We think there must be so many other couples on here like us, ready and full of intent to get down to some naughty things, but who are thwarted by idiotic one liners and lack of effort from the guys that message.
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We are in the exact same boat.
We're at the point now where we don't rely on guys making contact anymore and somewhat ignore the inbox and do our own searching, but that in turn brings its own issues as out of say 50 profiles we look at, they'll be no information or no photos of the person behind the profile to warrant messaging. |
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"We’re really struggling to find the right singles at the moment.
Guys, we implore, please write a paragraph or two explaining who you are, what you want and what you like about us, or the people you’re messaging.
It’s not rocket science. We think there must be so many other couples on here like us, ready and full of intent to get down to some naughty things, but who are thwarted by idiotic one liners and lack of effort from the guys that message.
We are in the exact same boat.
We're at the point now where we don't rely on guys making contact anymore and somewhat ignore the inbox and do our own searching, but that in turn brings its own issues as out of say 50 profiles we look at, they'll be no information or no photos of the person behind the profile to warrant messaging."
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And therein lays the irony. The lack of effort in their "pitch" wouldn't impress the Dragons, from the start so why would they welcome them to the den. So instead of getting a foot in the door, its more of a case of we're out... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Firstly I would give it time to build up your connections. We found the first year quite difficult. Then once we had some connections it all flowed. We then knew who the guys were who who got the couple concept. We found our early mistakes were that a lot of guys weren't really into couples. The trick is to identify those who are. The most reliable way of finding the guys who enjoy playing with couples is to look on the verification lists of couples who meet guys. In our area it's the same names that come up time and time again, which I guess show how few guys there are who really understand the couple dynamic. Be careful with the guys who are looking for a FWB, as they probably want something different to what a couple can offer. Clubs that allow single guys are also are way of finding single guys who play with couples, but this a different dynamic than a private meet. But still a good way to build connections and network.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This can work both ways though. Not that I'm implying any of you guys do this but some couples respond to initial messages from a single guy who has thought about the message and has set his stall out as to why he has contacted said couple with uninterested one word replies. This is in no way limited to just couples, single women and I'm sure single men do this too.
It can be infuriating when contact is made and you see that response, thinking great they've replied, only to realise that there is no effort being made in the other direction. Yes in this Fab world single men are ten a penny and I fully understand that we are bottom of the hierarchy but sometimes we would like to get to know a bit about the people we contact. If people can't be bothered to put any effort in with messages it suggests that you aren't going to be high on their agenda should you meet. Some of us while happy to play are not happy to be just play things.
To all the genuine couples and singles out there hope you all find what you are mutually looking for. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"This can work both ways though. Not that I'm implying any of you guys do this but some couples respond to initial messages from a single guy who has thought about the message and has set his stall out as to why he has contacted said couple with uninterested one word replies. This is in no way limited to just couples, single women and I'm sure single men do this too.
It can be infuriating when contact is made and you see that response, thinking great they've replied, only to realise that there is no effort being made in the other direction. Yes in this Fab world single men are ten a penny and I fully understand that we are bottom of the hierarchy but sometimes we would like to get to know a bit about the people we contact. If people can't be bothered to put any effort in with messages it suggests that you aren't going to be high on their agenda should you meet. Some of us while happy to play are not happy to be just play things.
To all the genuine couples and singles out there hope you all find what you are mutually looking for. "
Yup we're guilty of this. We deliberately hold back in messages because we're afraid of leading men on. Every now and then we get a gem messaging us, and we reply positively because they look ideal. But we know that we might not be able to get something arranged cos we're really struggling to get out together, so we keep the message minimal. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"This can work both ways though. Not that I'm implying any of you guys do this but some couples respond to initial messages from a single guy who has thought about the message and has set his stall out as to why he has contacted said couple with uninterested one word replies. This is in no way limited to just couples, single women and I'm sure single men do this too.
It can be infuriating when contact is made and you see that response, thinking great they've replied, only to realise that there is no effort being made in the other direction. Yes in this Fab world single men are ten a penny and I fully understand that we are bottom of the hierarchy but sometimes we would like to get to know a bit about the people we contact. If people can't be bothered to put any effort in with messages it suggests that you aren't going to be high on their agenda should you meet. Some of us while happy to play are not happy to be just play things.
To all the genuine couples and singles out there hope you all find what you are mutually looking for.
Yup we're guilty of this. We deliberately hold back in messages because we're afraid of leading men on. Every now and then we get a gem messaging us, and we reply positively because they look ideal. But we know that we might not be able to get something arranged cos we're really struggling to get out together, so we keep the message minimal. "
I can understand that to be fair. All I would say is think of the shoe on the other foot. I've had some wonderful conversations with couples and we have decided not to go any further than chatting for whatever reason and that is fine. I've also spoken with couples who if we can have our diaries align we are likely to meet up. Interestingly the one couple I have met so far, and had an amazing and eye opening time with, I actually met through the females single profile and after a social lunch with her.
It's a funny old world here. No one can be everything to all and no one knows just how to play every situation. For me personally I need that bit of spark, for that compatibility to shine through in messages or else I lose interest fairly quickly. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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We always put the effort in when we message people and we do get some messages that are awesome, it’s just the majority are not and it’s so frustrating. Without blowing our own trumpet, the hot looking people who hit us with one liners are missing out, we want to meet them, but the lack of effort is killing us.
Love the Dragons Den analogy, we’re definitely ‘out’ most of the time as a result.
We’d love to have a good network of guys, gals and couples to draw on when our mischief needs. Couples, we feel we know a good bunch. Single women, well, we all know the score there. Single guys though seems the hardest to crack, hot, reliable, articulate, local... hmmm... |
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"We always put the effort in when we message people and we do get some messages that are awesome, it’s just the majority are not and it’s so frustrating. Without blowing our own trumpet, the hot looking people who hit us with one liners are missing out, we want to meet them, but the lack of effort is killing us.
Love the Dragons Den analogy, we’re definitely ‘out’ most of the time as a result.
We’d love to have a good network of guys, gals and couples to draw on when our mischief needs. Couples, we feel we know a good bunch. Single women, well, we all know the score there. Single guys though seems the hardest to crack, hot, reliable, articulate, local... hmmm..."
As I alluded to it's by no means everyone. I share your pain though. When I get a reply from a hot couple and then read it I can go from anticipation to disillusionment in one word flat.
Thankfully there are those who are compatible out there and they make the frustrating times worthwhile. |
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We’d love to have a good network of guys, gals and couples to draw on when our mischief needs. Couples, we feel we know a good bunch. Single women, well, we all know the score there. Single guys though seems the hardest to crack, hot, reliable, articulate, local... hmmm..."
We've been searching for this also for almost 2 years now. We did have a few guys at one point but they slowly one by one disappeared.
And we couldn't agree more, guys are the hardest to crack. It appears if its not an instant meet as within the next 10 minutes many do not want to make any effort.
For example, spent a few hours exchanging messages with a guy recently to get to know each other, next day sends us a new message saying he liked our photos and did we want to chat to get to know each other.  He obviously realised his mistake and blocked us by the time we saw it. Had to laugh at that one  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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We’d love to have a good network of guys, gals and couples to draw on when our mischief needs. Couples, we feel we know a good bunch. Single women, well, we all know the score there. Single guys though seems the hardest to crack, hot, reliable, articulate, local... hmmm...
We've been searching for this also for almost 2 years now. We did have a few guys at one point but they slowly one by one disappeared.
And we couldn't agree more, guys are the hardest to crack. It appears if its not an instant meet as within the next 10 minutes many do not want to make any effort.
For example, spent a few hours exchanging messages with a guy recently to get to know each other, next day sends us a new message saying he liked our photos and did we want to chat to get to know each other. He obviously realised his mistake and blocked us by the time we saw it. Had to laugh at that one "
We put it down to a lot of guys loving the idea of MMF or MFMF, but when it comes to it they bottle it, which is mad, what’s not to love about actually doing the things you fantasise about.
Then there’s the crazy excuses you get, just so wasteful of everyone’s time. How can you go from being totally up for it to issuing some lame excuse that can clearly be seen right through, madness lol... |
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Our biggest problem on here is guys who just don't read the profile before contacting us. So they send us a message (sometimes well written) offering exactly what we don't want or wanting to meet us hundreds of miles from our location.
We know that our location and the fact that we only want to meet in clubs can limit our options but we would be much happier to get a smaller number of messages but from guys who have read and understood our profile.
We took time to write it and have no interest in anyone who is too lazy to read it.
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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago
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We have loads of fun with single guys, both singly and in groups, but we always play in clubs where we (and they) have the chance to interact before committing to play. Also it removes the problem of no-shows. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We have loads of fun with single guys, both singly and in groups, but we always play in clubs where we (and they) have the chance to interact before committing to play. Also it removes the problem of no-shows."
Clubs are an environment that intrigue and concern me in equal measure. I'm always a bit hesitant as I'm not sure how the single guy goes on in a club. I would hate to become the proverbial spare part.
You guys have some wonderfully artistic photos. Great profile. |
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We get initial messages from single men and couples. I would say that the ratio of incompatibility is about equal and the ratio of poor first message is too.
We find as many couples send a first message without reading our profile as men, more couples message with a sense of entitlement and the assumption that we'll meet without seeing pictures of both and more couples send messages full of entitlement. (I exclude present company of course). In our experience single men mostly make an effort to appeal and those that don't naturally exclude themselves.
Complaining that men aren't suitable because they can't present themselves as you want them to (thereby showing you're not compatible) is a bit like complaining that you can't eat parsnips because you don't like the look of them. Change them to look like peaches, they're still going to taste like parsnips when you bite in to them |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Ive tried talking to couples for a while now as it is something im interested in. Im always polite and respectful but seems to get me no where. The problem with couples is they are very picky, i think thats fair though, why shouldnt they be. Just not having any luck with them so give up really. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I have found it's a waste of time messaging a couple. Doesn't matter what you say or how much you write to achlnowledge you have read their profile, they never reply.
I very very rarely send a message now to anyone, w |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have found it's a waste of time messaging a couple. Doesn't matter what you say or how much you write to achlnowledge you have read their profile, they never reply.
I very very rarely send a message now to anyone, w"
As a couple, we can assure you that isn't true...we reply to 90% of messages... |
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"Ive tried talking to couples for a while now as it is something im interested in. Im always polite and respectful but seems to get me no where. The problem with couples is they are very picky, i think thats fair though, why shouldnt they be. Just not having any luck with them so give up really."
It is a problem for single men, there are so many of you. Don't give up but maybe don't expect it to happen, then you'll be pleasantly surprised when it does |
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"I have found it's a waste of time messaging a couple. Doesn't matter what you say or how much you write to achlnowledge you have read their profile, they never reply.
I very very rarely send a message now to anyone, w"
We reply to nearly all of our messages even those that clearly haven't read our profile. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"We get initial messages from single men and couples. I would say that the ratio of incompatibility is about equal and the ratio of poor first message is too.
We find as many couples send a first message without reading our profile as men, more couples message with a sense of entitlement and the assumption that we'll meet without seeing pictures of both and more couples send messages full of entitlement. (I exclude present company of course). In our experience single men mostly make an effort to appeal and those that don't naturally exclude themselves.
Complaining that men aren't suitable because they can't present themselves as you want them to (thereby showing you're not compatible) is a bit like complaining that you can't eat parsnips because you don't like the look of them. Change them to look like peaches, they're still going to taste like parsnips when you bite in to them"
You’re absolutely right, sometimes it just needs saying tis all, and also knowing that others who have been here a long time and have experience, as we do, find this as well, a commorardary if you will. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ive tried talking to couples for a while now as it is something im interested in. Im always polite and respectful but seems to get me no where. The problem with couples is they are very picky, i think thats fair though, why shouldnt they be. Just not having any luck with them so give up really.
It is a problem for single men, there are so many of you. Don't give up but maybe don't expect it to happen, then you'll be pleasantly surprised when it does "
I never expect it. Just make polite conversation and show interest. Always read there profiles first and make sure they know it by refering to stuff in it but just have no luck. I wont give up as such, just wont be making all the effort to try and be a part of it. Would be nice if couples approached me for a change. |
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We have had times when two guys have let us down on the same night.
Then a guy chat on the phone, so we booked the hotel. Then get a text to say sorry but his flat mate has just told him he has to move out in two weeks time, so cancels just moments after booking a room.
Its a shame but no matter how your profile is or how well written your messages are etc theres always doubt in our minds on the reliability of single guys.
And dont get us started on their performance issues lol |
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"Ive tried talking to couples for a while now as it is something im interested in. Im always polite and respectful but seems to get me no where. The problem with couples is they are very picky, i think thats fair though, why shouldnt they be. Just not having any luck with them so give up really.
It is a problem for single men, there are so many of you. Don't give up but maybe don't expect it to happen, then you'll be pleasantly surprised when it does
I never expect it. Just make polite conversation and show interest. Always read there profiles first and make sure they know it by refering to stuff in it but just have no luck. I wont give up as such, just wont be making all the effort to try and be a part of it. Would be nice if couples approached me for a change."
If it's any consolation, I'd have sent you a message if you weren't so far up north...
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"I have found it's a waste of time messaging a couple. Doesn't matter what you say or how much you write to achlnowledge you have read their profile, they never reply.
I very very rarely send a message now to anyone, w
As a couple, we can assure you that isn't true...we reply to 90% of messages..."
You probably 1% of the users that do then lol |
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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago
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"We have loads of fun with single guys, both singly and in groups, but we always play in clubs where we (and they) have the chance to interact before committing to play. Also it removes the problem of no-shows.
Clubs are an environment that intrigue and concern me in equal measure. I'm always a bit hesitant as I'm not sure how the single guy goes on in a club. I would hate to become the proverbial spare part.
You guys have some wonderfully artistic photos. Great profile. "
For us and many other couples clubs wouldn't be a fraction of the fun without single guys. As long as they are polite and not pushy clubs welcome them, and they can have a great time - largely with couples due to the paucity of single women.
And thanks for the compliment - glad you like our photos. |
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"Ive tried talking to couples for a while now as it is something im interested in. Im always polite and respectful but seems to get me no where. The problem with couples is they are very picky, i think thats fair though, why shouldnt they be. Just not having any luck with them so give up really.
It is a problem for single men, there are so many of you. Don't give up but maybe don't expect it to happen, then you'll be pleasantly surprised when it does
I never expect it. Just make polite conversation and show interest. Always read there profiles first and make sure they know it by refering to stuff in it but just have no luck. I wont give up as such, just wont be making all the effort to try and be a part of it. Would be nice if couples approached me for a change."
What’s not to like??? Your a young good looking guy for us your out of our age bracket unfortunately but couples making the first move does happen, we make the first move when contacting our male friend!
As said earlier it’s finding those that enjoy meeting couples, we turned our filter on for single males purely because when searching we got sick and tired of getting the usual “ I’ll fuck ya wife for ya “ so decided to conduct our own search I would suggest taking that step and show your face at clubs and socials, we are all just people
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"Ive tried talking to couples for a while now as it is something im interested in. Im always polite and respectful but seems to get me no where. The problem with couples is they are very picky, i think thats fair though, why shouldnt they be. Just not having any luck with them so give up really.
It is a problem for single men, there are so many of you. Don't give up but maybe don't expect it to happen, then you'll be pleasantly surprised when it does
I never expect it. Just make polite conversation and show interest. Always read there profiles first and make sure they know it by refering to stuff in it but just have no luck. I wont give up as such, just wont be making all the effort to try and be a part of it. Would be nice if couples approached me for a change.
If it's any consolation, I'd have sent you a message if you weren't so far up north...
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"Ive tried talking to couples for a while now as it is something im interested in. Im always polite and respectful but seems to get me no where. The problem with couples is they are very picky, i think thats fair though, why shouldnt they be. Just not having any luck with them so give up really.
It is a problem for single men, there are so many of you. Don't give up but maybe don't expect it to happen, then you'll be pleasantly surprised when it does
I never expect it. Just make polite conversation and show interest. Always read there profiles first and make sure they know it by refering to stuff in it but just have no luck. I wont give up as such, just wont be making all the effort to try and be a part of it. Would be nice if couples approached me for a change.
What’s not to like??? Your a young good looking guy for us your out of our age bracket unfortunately but couples making the first move does happen, we make the first move when contacting our male friend!
As said earlier it’s finding those that enjoy meeting couples, we turned our filter on for single males purely because when searching we got sick and tired of getting the usual “ I’ll fuck ya wife for ya “ so decided to conduct our own search I would suggest taking that step and show your face at clubs and socials, we are all just people
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Thanks for the advice, maybe i will give that a go. Shame about the other guys making us genuine ones look bad! |
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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago
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Message to couples, from a single bi female:
I'd love to meet couples, but have had the same issues: Mrs not really bi; Mrs only playing because the male wants her to; Mrs wants to play with me while he watches; Mrs 'at work/ shopping/ visiting outer space'; feeling like a 'third wheel'within the dynamics.
This has put me off of meeting couples, sadly. |
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"Message to couples, from a single bi female:
I'd love to meet couples, but have had the same issues: Mrs not really bi; Mrs only playing because the male wants her to; Mrs wants to play with me while he watches; Mrs 'at work/ shopping/ visiting outer space'; feeling like a 'third wheel'within the dynamics.
This has put me off of meeting couples, sadly. "
Used to be the same for me when I was single...so few genuine couples on site that I was always wary... |
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"Ive tried talking to couples for a while now as it is something im interested in. Im always polite and respectful but seems to get me no where. The problem with couples is they are very picky, i think thats fair though, why shouldnt they be. Just not having any luck with them so give up really.
It is a problem for single men, there are so many of you. Don't give up but maybe don't expect it to happen, then you'll be pleasantly surprised when it does
I never expect it. Just make polite conversation and show interest. Always read there profiles first and make sure they know it by refering to stuff in it but just have no luck. I wont give up as such, just wont be making all the effort to try and be a part of it. Would be nice if couples approached me for a change."
I think the trouble is with couples, a man would need to catch them when they are a actively looking. A lot of couples have kids so need to plan around babysitting. For example, we'd love to get some fun in this side of Christmas, and we've just worked out that for us to play together it will be impossible until late January. So any guy that contacts us we'll have to say no to even if we like the look of him. Then in January we might send a text to some of our old faithfuls, or we might go to a club. Failing all that we'll go on Fab to replenish our contacts, and maybe there will be someone who we had parked in the hotlist for a rainy day. But I don't think couples necessarily actively use Fab to search for men in the way that singles might search. I remember when I was single. I used to have a date with someone new at least once a week.
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By (user no longer on site)
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As a single guy I always make the effort to introduce myself properly, and try and establish a connection. Trouble is...it's very often one sided - the couple or fem in question either reply with boring one liners, yes or no answers or nothing at all, thereby giving me nothing to work with. So whilst I very much appreciate the problems you encounter, we singles also feel we're banging our heads against a very solid brick wall. |
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"Ive tried talking to couples for a while now as it is something im interested in. Im always polite and respectful but seems to get me no where. The problem with couples is they are very picky, i think thats fair though, why shouldnt they be. Just not having any luck with them so give up really.
It is a problem for single men, there are so many of you. Don't give up but maybe don't expect it to happen, then you'll be pleasantly surprised when it does
I never expect it. Just make polite conversation and show interest. Always read there profiles first and make sure they know it by refering to stuff in it but just have no luck. I wont give up as such, just wont be making all the effort to try and be a part of it. Would be nice if couples approached me for a change.
What’s not to like??? Your a young good looking guy for us your out of our age bracket unfortunately but couples making the first move does happen, we make the first move when contacting our male friend!
As said earlier it’s finding those that enjoy meeting couples, we turned our filter on for single males purely because when searching we got sick and tired of getting the usual “ I’ll fuck ya wife for ya “ so decided to conduct our own search I would suggest taking that step and show your face at clubs and socials, we are all just people
Thanks for the advice, maybe i will give that a go. Shame about the other guys making us genuine ones look bad!"
Shitty guys don't make the genuine men bed look bad, they only make themselves look bad. On the occasions that we have been actively looking never have have we felt disillusioned, as we find it quite easy to identify the genuine guys. I would go as far as to say it's because of the abundance of genuine guys that we rarely need to use Fab to look for more. |
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"As a single guy I always make the effort to introduce myself properly, and try and establish a connection. Trouble is...it's very often one sided - the couple or fem in question either reply with boring one liners, yes or no answers or nothing at all, thereby giving me nothing to work with. So whilst I very much appreciate the problems you encounter, we singles also feel we're banging our heads against a very solid brick wall. "
That is true. We often reply with one-liners. This is the reason. Men on the whole state that they like a reply and that it's rude to ignore. So if someone for example sends us a complimentary message about our profile, we will politely say 'thank you'. We will not open up a conversation because we are not interested in chatting to random strangers on the internet. Realise that's a bit of a brick wall, but we just don't use a Fab for that purpose. I think a lot of couples are like us, and would rather go out to socials and clubs than chat on line.
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"As a single guy I always make the effort to introduce myself properly, and try and establish a connection. Trouble is...it's very often one sided - the couple or fem in question either reply with boring one liners, yes or no answers or nothing at all, thereby giving me nothing to work with. So whilst I very much appreciate the problems you encounter, we singles also feel we're banging our heads against a very solid brick wall.
That is true. We often reply with one-liners. This is the reason. Men on the whole state that they like a reply and that it's rude to ignore. So if someone for example sends us a complimentary message about our profile, we will politely say 'thank you'. We will not open up a conversation because we are not interested in chatting to random strangers on the internet. Realise that's a bit of a brick wall, but we just don't use a Fab for that purpose. I think a lot of couples are like us, and would rather go out to socials and clubs than chat on line.
Mrs"
I totally get what you're saying. And that's fine.
Its the one's who out of the blue, send me winks, friend requests and the like, then proceed to give me radio silence when I try to chat. That's both couples and fems. Can't work those ones out at all. |
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"As a single guy I always make the effort to introduce myself properly, and try and establish a connection. Trouble is...it's very often one sided - the couple or fem in question either reply with boring one liners, yes or no answers or nothing at all, thereby giving me nothing to work with. So whilst I very much appreciate the problems you encounter, we singles also feel we're banging our heads against a very solid brick wall.
That is true. We often reply with one-liners. This is the reason. Men on the whole state that they like a reply and that it's rude to ignore. So if someone for example sends us a complimentary message about our profile, we will politely say 'thank you'. We will not open up a conversation because we are not interested in chatting to random strangers on the internet. Realise that's a bit of a brick wall, but we just don't use a Fab for that purpose. I think a lot of couples are like us, and would rather go out to socials and clubs than chat on line.
Mrs
I totally get what you're saying. And that's fine.
Its the one's who out of the blue, send me winks, friend requests and the like, then proceed to give me radio silence when I try to chat. That's both couples and fems. Can't work those ones out at all. "
Yeah that makes no sense. I've heard about that. In fact we were told by a guy we are friends with that he had been winked by a couple we had verified. Nice couple, seemed normal. We had met some of the same guys. This particular guy messaged them and they blanked him. |
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"As a single guy I always make the effort to introduce myself properly, and try and establish a connection. Trouble is...it's very often one sided - the couple or fem in question either reply with boring one liners, yes or no answers or nothing at all, thereby giving me nothing to work with. So whilst I very much appreciate the problems you encounter, we singles also feel we're banging our heads against a very solid brick wall.
That is true. We often reply with one-liners. This is the reason. Men on the whole state that they like a reply and that it's rude to ignore. So if someone for example sends us a complimentary message about our profile, we will politely say 'thank you'. We will not open up a conversation because we are not interested in chatting to random strangers on the internet. Realise that's a bit of a brick wall, but we just don't use a Fab for that purpose. I think a lot of couples are like us, and would rather go out to socials and clubs than chat on line.
Mrs
I totally get what you're saying. And that's fine.
Its the one's who out of the blue, send me winks, friend requests and the like, then proceed to give me radio silence when I try to chat. That's both couples and fems. Can't work those ones out at all.
Yeah that makes no sense. I've heard about that. In fact we were told by a guy we are friends with that he had been winked by a couple we had verified. Nice couple, seemed normal. We had met some of the same guys. This particular guy messaged them and they blanked him."
Yup, I get this a lot. As I said from couples and fems. Its pretty frustrating and also quite confusing, especially when they continue to look at my profile from time to time. |
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May I be invited to rock the boat slightly.
You say write a paragraph or two, that is fine and is your preference.
When I joined the site I tried that but when you get your 10th "Delete with out read" then I gave up on that tack.
I write a few lined and send a few winks. They can look and see if it is yey or ney.
Just a different perspective on trying to find couple and single ladies from a single guy.
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"As a single guy I always make the effort to introduce myself properly, and try and establish a connection. Trouble is...it's very often one sided - the couple or fem in question either reply with boring one liners, yes or no answers or nothing at all, thereby giving me nothing to work with. So whilst I very much appreciate the problems you encounter, we singles also feel we're banging our heads against a very solid brick wall.
That is true. We often reply with one-liners. This is the reason. Men on the whole state that they like a reply and that it's rude to ignore. So if someone for example sends us a complimentary message about our profile, we will politely say 'thank you'. We will not open up a conversation because we are not interested in chatting to random strangers on the internet. Realise that's a bit of a brick wall, but we just don't use a Fab for that purpose. I think a lot of couples are like us, and would rather go out to socials and clubs than chat on line.
Mrs
I totally get what you're saying. And that's fine.
Its the one's who out of the blue, send me winks, friend requests and the like, then proceed to give me radio silence when I try to chat. That's both couples and fems. Can't work those ones out at all.
Yeah that makes no sense. I've heard about that. In fact we were told by a guy we are friends with that he had been winked by a couple we had verified. Nice couple, seemed normal. We had met some of the same guys. This particular guy messaged them and they blanked him.
Yup, I get this a lot. As I said from couples and fems. Its pretty frustrating and also quite confusing, especially when they continue to look at my profile from time to time. "
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"May I be invited to rock the boat slightly.
You say write a paragraph or two, that is fine and is your preference.
When I joined the site I tried that but when you get your 10th "Delete with out read" then I gave up on that tack.
I write a few lined and send a few winks. They can look and see if it is yey or ney.
Just a different perspective on trying to find couple and single ladies from a single guy.
Comments and criticism welcome"
I do the same thing sometimes. You just get to a stage where you think, what's the point. |
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One other thing that might stop the receiver of a message from pressing the delete button, is your first half of the sentence that introduces you to them...
As well as a message title that catches the eye, the first half dozen words or so are displayed too.
So this is your moment to shine in a directory of dirge, be the fabber which gets underlined in the personal column... |
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"One other thing that might stop the receiver of a message from pressing the delete button, is your first half of the sentence that introduces you to them...
As well as a message title that catches the eye, the first half dozen words or so are displayed too.
So this is your moment to shine in a directory of dirge, be the fabber which gets underlined in the personal column..."
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"May I be invited to rock the boat slightly.
You say write a paragraph or two, that is fine and is your preference.
When I joined the site I tried that but when you get your 10th "Delete with out read" then I gave up on that tack.
I write a few lined and send a few winks. They can look and see if it is yey or ney.
Just a different perspective on trying to find couple and single ladies from a single guy.
Comments and criticism welcome
I do the same thing sometimes. You just get to a stage where you think, what's the point. "
Not necessarily saying that's the case with you. But as long as there are substantially more men than women on a Fab it will be a case of it being 'no point' for many men. It is mathematically impossible for all men to get a meet, let alone a successful meet, on Fab.
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"May I be invited to rock the boat slightly.
You say write a paragraph or two, that is fine and is your preference.
When I joined the site I tried that but when you get your 10th "Delete with out read" then I gave up on that tack.
I write a few lined and send a few winks. They can look and see if it is yey or ney.
Just a different perspective on trying to find couple and single ladies from a single guy.
Comments and criticism welcome"
That's a totally fair POV and something I can sympathise with having started on here as a single guy. Now, having a couples profile I get to see the other side of the coin and its lack of effort that does our head in, manners, a bit about the person messaging, etc, takes 5 mins to write something decent, a little thought and all those, guys, girls and couples, complaining about not meeting anyone might find their luck changing a little.
Someone said alley cat earlier, some of its shocking, I always want to ask if they'd say such a thing to a random in the supermarket, just because there's a screen or two separating the sender and recipient doesn't mean you should be so crass
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"One other thing that might stop the receiver of a message from pressing the delete button, is your first half of the sentence that introduces you to them...
As well as a message title that catches the eye, the first half dozen words or so are displayed too.
So this is your moment to shine in a directory of dirge, be the fabber which gets underlined in the personal column..."
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"We’re really struggling to find the right singles at the moment.
Guys, we implore, please write a paragraph or two explaining who you are, what you want and what you like about us, or the people you’re messaging.
It’s not rocket science. We think there must be so many other couples on here like us, ready and full of intent to get down to some naughty things, but who are thwarted by idiotic one liners and lack of effort from the guys that message.
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Single males don't really get much replies regardless of wether the message was well presented or not. So why should i bother writing a whole paragraph when it will probably get deleted anyway? See my logic there?
Strange thing that I have noticed is that, if a couple are interested then they are interested...regardless of weather your message was a 1 liner or not.
I have had more success with 1 liners and winks. 0 success with paragraphs and well thought out messages...they get deleted straight away people probably thinking what kind of creep would write a whole paragraph hence why I don't really bother anymore. But hey that's just me.
Fab is weird so you gotta do what works best for you.
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"Message to couples, from a single bi female:
I'd love to meet couples, but have had the same issues: Mrs not really bi; Mrs only playing because the male wants her to; Mrs wants to play with me while he watches; Mrs 'at work/ shopping/ visiting outer space'; feeling like a 'third wheel'within the dynamics.
This has put me off of meeting couples, sadly. "
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"May I be invited to rock the boat slightly.
You say write a paragraph or two, that is fine and is your preference.
When I joined the site I tried that but when you get your 10th "Delete with out read" then I gave up on that tack.
I write a few lined and send a few winks. They can look and see if it is yey or ney.
Just a different perspective on trying to find couple and single ladies from a single guy.
Comments and criticism welcome
I do the same thing sometimes. You just get to a stage where you think, what's the point.
Not necessarily saying that's the case with you. But as long as there are substantially more men than women on a Fab it will be a case of it being 'no point' for many men. It is mathematically impossible for all men to get a meet, let alone a successful meet, on Fab.
Mrs "
Indeed. I did a bit of maths on this. We probably get an average of fifteen messages a day from men. That's 5475 a year. Due to family, work. Existing playmates and so on, we might meet ten new guys a year.
Lets assume we have to chat with four guys to actually find someone suitable to meet. Hence 5435 messages will not get a reply. That's 99.3% of messages.
The ratio will be even worse for single women. |
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"We’re really struggling to find the right singles at the moment.
Guys, we implore, please write a paragraph or two explaining who you are, what you want and what you like about us, or the people you’re messaging.
It’s not rocket science. We think there must be so many other couples on here like us, ready and full of intent to get down to some naughty things, but who are thwarted by idiotic one liners and lack of effort from the guys that message.
Single males don't really get much replies regardless of wether the message was well presented or not. So why should i bother writing a whole paragraph when it will probably get deleted anyway? See my logic there?
Strange thing that I have noticed is that, if a couple are interested then they are interested...regardless of weather your message was a 1 liner or not.
I have had more success with 1 liners and winks. 0 success with paragraphs and well thought out messages...they get deleted straight away people probably thinking what kind of creep would write a whole paragraph hence why I don't really bother anymore. But hey that's just me.
Fab is weird so you gotta do what works best for you.
Good luck x"
You have hit on something there. I got a wink once, sent one back, and an hour later I was in her bed. Just shows. |
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"We’re really struggling to find the right singles at the moment.
Guys, we implore, please write a paragraph or two explaining who you are, what you want and what you like about us, or the people you’re messaging.
It’s not rocket science. We think there must be so many other couples on here like us, ready and full of intent to get down to some naughty things, but who are thwarted by idiotic one liners and lack of effort from the guys that message.
Single males don't really get much replies regardless of wether the message was well presented or not. So why should i bother writing a whole paragraph when it will probably get deleted anyway? See my logic there?
Strange thing that I have noticed is that, if a couple are interested then they are interested...regardless of weather your message was a 1 liner or not.
I have had more success with 1 liners and winks. 0 success with paragraphs and well thought out messages...they get deleted straight away people probably thinking what kind of creep would write a whole paragraph hence why I don't really bother anymore. But hey that's just me.
Fab is weird so you gotta do what works best for you.
Good luck x
You have hit on something there. I got a wink once, sent one back, and an hour later I was in her bed. Just shows. "
I was referrint to initial exchange of messages. If you get a wink back that's great. Now the getting to know each other starts there. |
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"We’re really struggling to find the right singles at the moment.
Guys, we implore, please write a paragraph or two explaining who you are, what you want and what you like about us, or the people you’re messaging.
It’s not rocket science. We think there must be so many other couples on here like us, ready and full of intent to get down to some naughty things, but who are thwarted by idiotic one liners and lack of effort from the guys that message.
Single males don't really get much replies regardless of wether the message was well presented or not. So why should i bother writing a whole paragraph when it will probably get deleted anyway? See my logic there?
Strange thing that I have noticed is that, if a couple are interested then they are interested...regardless of weather your message was a 1 liner or not.
I have had more success with 1 liners and winks. 0 success with paragraphs and well thought out messages...they get deleted straight away people probably thinking what kind of creep would write a whole paragraph hence why I don't really bother anymore. But hey that's just me.
Fab is weird so you gotta do what works best for you.
Good luck x"
I can't comment on other couples, but all the guys we have had meaningful friendships with wrote us a personalised message telling us about themselves. They are also guys who seem to be quite popular with couples. I once asked one of them the key to his success. He said 'I write good messages'. He was average in looks with a dad's bod. I guess guys with a youthful hot bod can get away with less though. And of course it depends how the personalised message reads.
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"May I be invited to rock the boat slightly.
You say write a paragraph or two, that is fine and is your preference.
When I joined the site I tried that but when you get your 10th "Delete with out read" then I gave up on that tack.
I write a few lined and send a few winks. They can look and see if it is yey or ney.
Just a different perspective on trying to find couple and single ladies from a single guy.
Comments and criticism welcome
I do the same thing sometimes. You just get to a stage where you think, what's the point.
Not necessarily saying that's the case with you. But as long as there are substantially more men than women on a Fab it will be a case of it being 'no point' for many men. It is mathematically impossible for all men to get a meet, let alone a successful meet, on Fab.
Mrs
Indeed. I did a bit of maths on this. We probably get an average of fifteen messages a day from men. That's 5475 a year. Due to family, work. Existing playmates and so on, we might meet ten new guys a year.
Lets assume we have to chat with four guys to actually find someone suitable to meet. Hence 5435 messages will not get a reply. That's 99.3% of messages.
The ratio will be even worse for single women. "
I did a thread on this recently. I explained that mathematically every woman on Fab (whether single or part of a couple) would need to be servicing a different guy daily for each man to have one shag in a year. So it's bollocks when people say 'be patient'.
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"May I be invited to rock the boat slightly.
You say write a paragraph or two, that is fine and is your preference.
When I joined the site I tried that but when you get your 10th "Delete with out read" then I gave up on that tack.
I write a few lined and send a few winks. They can look and see if it is yey or ney.
Just a different perspective on trying to find couple and single ladies from a single guy.
Comments and criticism welcome
I do the same thing sometimes. You just get to a stage where you think, what's the point.
Not necessarily saying that's the case with you. But as long as there are substantially more men than women on a Fab it will be a case of it being 'no point' for many men. It is mathematically impossible for all men to get a meet, let alone a successful meet, on Fab.
Mrs
Indeed. I did a bit of maths on this. We probably get an average of fifteen messages a day from men. That's 5475 a year. Due to family, work. Existing playmates and so on, we might meet ten new guys a year.
Lets assume we have to chat with four guys to actually find someone suitable to meet. Hence 5435 messages will not get a reply. That's 99.3% of messages.
The ratio will be even worse for single women.
I did a thread on this recently. I explained that mathematically every woman on Fab (whether single or part of a couple) would need to be servicing a different guy daily for each man to have one shag in a year. So it's bollocks when people say 'be patient'.
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"We’re really struggling to find the right singles at the moment.
Guys, we implore, please write a paragraph or two explaining who you are, what you want and what you like about us, or the people you’re messaging.
It’s not rocket science. We think there must be so many other couples on here like us, ready and full of intent to get down to some naughty things, but who are thwarted by idiotic one liners and lack of effort from the guys that message.
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Speaking as a single guy, I don't seek couples.
Firstly, every couple has a different dynamic and wants different things. Trying to appeal to two people simultaneously, ensuring that I am respectful to both parties, making sure I meet their needs and generally don't focus just on the lady is a minefield.
Whilst I like the idea of playing with a couple, I would be happy with having a beer with the chap then playing with the lady.
The MMF's that I have enjoyed are as a result of being invited back after meeting in a club. It was spontaneous and didn't need a drawn out application process.
Arranging anything through Fab just isn't for me. Too much gets lost in the written word. My profile hopefully shows I am articulate, however the subjective issue of being hot is where I fall down.
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"May I be invited to rock the boat slightly.
You say write a paragraph or two, that is fine and is your preference.
When I joined the site I tried that but when you get your 10th "Delete with out read" then I gave up on that tack.
I write a few lined and send a few winks. They can look and see if it is yey or ney.
Just a different perspective on trying to find couple and single ladies from a single guy.
Comments and criticism welcome
I do the same thing sometimes. You just get to a stage where you think, what's the point.
Not necessarily saying that's the case with you. But as long as there are substantially more men than women on a Fab it will be a case of it being 'no point' for many men. It is mathematically impossible for all men to get a meet, let alone a successful meet, on Fab.
Mrs
Indeed. I did a bit of maths on this. We probably get an average of fifteen messages a day from men. That's 5475 a year. Due to family, work. Existing playmates and so on, we might meet ten new guys a year.
Lets assume we have to chat with four guys to actually find someone suitable to meet. Hence 5435 messages will not get a reply. That's 99.3% of messages.
The ratio will be even worse for single women.
I did a thread on this recently. I explained that mathematically every woman on Fab (whether single or part of a couple) would need to be servicing a different guy daily for each man to have one shag in a year. So it's bollocks when people say 'be patient'.
Did you really just say 'servicing'?! "
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I've actually just tweaked my profile because it may seem as if it was mainly singles it was aimed at and may tweak it again.
I am quite happy playing with a couple or a single and dare I say it, for me it's more like swinging playing with a couple. More exciting in a way. Very different to playing 121. I certainly have no hang ups playing in a mfm or more. I'm quite happy with who I am and what I can offer. Relaxed. I tend to think I am there as an extension to their (already great), sex life.
I too have had the winks and stilted conversation from couples and single females. One couple in particular just sent back one word replies despite what was initially a conversation. Maybe they'd lost interest or maybe they wanted more 'sex talk'? Which they wouldn't necessarily get from me, I'm quite happy discussing likes and dislikes, but don't really see the point of telling someone 'what I'm going to do to them'. All winks too, get a reply, buy nothing yet has come from one. |
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"I have found it's a waste of time messaging a couple. Doesn't matter what you say.
or how much you write to achlnowledge you have read their profile, they never reply.
I very very rarely send a message now to anyone, w"
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I agree with many points on here. I was just shedding light on a single guys point of view.
It seems to have been listened to which is nice. I have also looked at your responses and I sympathise with your situation too, and that of the single ladies.
I lot of it is largely logistical and I do not thing people are out to disrespect and hurt each other.
I think it is fair to say it's people's expectations not quite lining up with others.
I feel this page so one of the more constructive threads on the forum as it puts aside bane calling and broad assumptions.
On a personal note, I do not do to badly as a single male. But yeah it is so deflating when you send a lot of messages and get deleted without being read.
I would always suggest to single males be persistent but not pushy, be different, and chat to people and not always about sec either.
Anyway, these are just throw away thoughts |
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Like others on here, I have spent hours poking out messages to numerous fab members re meeting and have had some response but usually of a negative nature possibly due to age or not being mobile/driving. It's nice to get replies though even if it's a polite thankyou. Winks don't seem to work even though it means you like the person/persons profile and pics - wishful thinking! So I suppose I will just have to keep poking out messages. |
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"May I be invited to rock the boat slightly.
You say write a paragraph or two, that is fine and is your preference.
When I joined the site I tried that but when you get your 10th "Delete with out read" then I gave up on that tack.
I write a few lined and send a few winks. They can look and see if it is yey or ney.
Just a different perspective on trying to find couple and single ladies from a single guy.
Comments and criticism welcome
I do the same thing sometimes. You just get to a stage where you think, what's the point.
Not necessarily saying that's the case with you. But as long as there are substantially more men than women on a Fab it will be a case of it being 'no point' for many men. It is mathematically impossible for all men to get a meet, let alone a successful meet, on Fab.
Mrs
Indeed. I did a bit of maths on this. We probably get an average of fifteen messages a day from men. That's 5475 a year. Due to family, work. Existing playmates and so on, we might meet ten new guys a year.
Lets assume we have to chat with four guys to actually find someone suitable to meet. Hence 5435 messages will not get a reply. That's 99.3% of messages.
The ratio will be even worse for single women.
I did a thread on this recently. I explained that mathematically every woman on Fab (whether single or part of a couple) would need to be servicing a different guy daily for each man to have one shag in a year. So it's bollocks when people say 'be patient'.
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I like a good mathematical debate :_)
I can't see how you work that figure out. Given the 75/20/5 men, couples, women ratio, that gives three single men for every woman, whether in a couple or single. If every couple or woman chose a new man each week every man would get a meet every three weeks and thus 17 meets a year. |
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It seems finding guys using fab alone is like needles in a haystack. We've only played with two single guys, but met both at a club. They were real, had showed up, we could see what they looked like, and could converse properly with them. Life beyond the keyboard is sometimes the best way |
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"May I be invited to rock the boat slightly.
You say write a paragraph or two, that is fine and is your preference.
When I joined the site I tried that but when you get your 10th "Delete with out read" then I gave up on that tack.
I write a few lined and send a few winks. They can look and see if it is yey or ney.
Just a different perspective on trying to find couple and single ladies from a single guy.
Comments and criticism welcome
I do the same thing sometimes. You just get to a stage where you think, what's the point.
Not necessarily saying that's the case with you. But as long as there are substantially more men than women on a Fab it will be a case of it being 'no point' for many men. It is mathematically impossible for all men to get a meet, let alone a successful meet, on Fab.
Mrs
Indeed. I did a bit of maths on this. We probably get an average of fifteen messages a day from men. That's 5475 a year. Due to family, work. Existing playmates and so on, we might meet ten new guys a year.
Lets assume we have to chat with four guys to actually find someone suitable to meet. Hence 5435 messages will not get a reply. That's 99.3% of messages.
The ratio will be even worse for single women.
I did a thread on this recently. I explained that mathematically every woman on Fab (whether single or part of a couple) would need to be servicing a different guy daily for each man to have one shag in a year. So it's bollocks when people say 'be patient'.
I like a good mathematical debate :_)
I can't see how you work that figure out. Given the 75/20/5 men, couples, women ratio, that gives three single men for every woman, whether in a couple or single. If every couple or woman chose a new man each week every man would get a meet every three weeks and thus 17 meets a year. "
Fair enough, I was exaggerating  . However, we have had a private meet with 4 guys in the past twelve months. 2 new, 1 long term, and 1 we had met ages ago at a party when he had had a couples profile. How many men will we meet privately in the next 12 months? Probably much the same. Will there be any new ones? Depends on if old ones are available, but maybe another 2. My maths is failing me now. If every couple or single lady were to meet with 4 different guys a year, which is probably a typical number, is it possible for all men on Fab to have a meet? |
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"It seems finding guys using fab alone is like needles in a haystack. We've only played with two single guys, but met both at a club. They were real, had showed up, we could see what they looked like, and could converse properly with them. Life beyond the keyboard is sometimes the best way "
This I would agree with. |
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"May I be invited to rock the boat slightly.
You say write a paragraph or two, that is fine and is your preference.
When I joined the site I tried that but when you get your 10th "Delete with out read" then I gave up on that tack.
I write a few lined and send a few winks. They can look and see if it is yey or ney.
Just a different perspective on trying to find couple and single ladies from a single guy.
Comments and criticism welcome"
Yes, we always look at the profiles that wink and send messages (even one liners) if their profile is compatible with ours we will wink and message back. |
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" Yes, we always look at the profiles that wink and send messages (even one liners) if their profile is compatible with ours we will wink and message back."
Exactly my point. There's no need to look over a guy just because he sent a wink or a 1 liner. I think the profile should be the deciding factor. The "getting to know each other" part can always start after the initial wink or 1 liner
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"May I be invited to rock the boat slightly.
You say write a paragraph or two, that is fine and is your preference.
When I joined the site I tried that but when you get your 10th "Delete with out read" then I gave up on that tack.
I write a few lined and send a few winks. They can look and see if it is yey or ney.
Just a different perspective on trying to find couple and single ladies from a single guy.
Comments and criticism welcome
I do the same thing sometimes. You just get to a stage where you think, what's the point.
Not necessarily saying that's the case with you. But as long as there are substantially more men than women on a Fab it will be a case of it being 'no point' for many men. It is mathematically impossible for all men to get a meet, let alone a successful meet, on Fab.
Mrs
Indeed. I did a bit of maths on this. We probably get an average of fifteen messages a day from men. That's 5475 a year. Due to family, work. Existing playmates and so on, we might meet ten new guys a year.
Lets assume we have to chat with four guys to actually find someone suitable to meet. Hence 5435 messages will not get a reply. That's 99.3% of messages.
The ratio will be even worse for single women.
I did a thread on this recently. I explained that mathematically every woman on Fab (whether single or part of a couple) would need to be servicing a different guy daily for each man to have one shag in a year. So it's bollocks when people say 'be patient'.
I like a good mathematical debate :_)
I can't see how you work that figure out. Given the 75/20/5 men, couples, women ratio, that gives three single men for every woman, whether in a couple or single. If every couple or woman chose a new man each week every man would get a meet every three weeks and thus 17 meets a year.
Fair enough, I was exaggerating . However, we have had a private meet with 4 guys in the past twelve months. 2 new, 1 long term, and 1 we had met ages ago at a party when he had had a couples profile. How many men will we meet privately in the next 12 months? Probably much the same. Will there be any new ones? Depends on if old ones are available, but maybe another 2. My maths is failing me now. If every couple or single lady were to meet with 4 different guys a year, which is probably a typical number, is it possible for all men on Fab to have a meet? "
Given the three to one ratio, if every woman or couple met four new men a year and each woman or couple didn't meet a man any other couple or woman had met, every man would get a meet in around nine months. |
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"What's with all the maths ratios on this thread?! It's making my tool go limb. Fab is meant to do the opposite "
It certainly is, the problem is finding the guys that follow through and match our needs, like a dec t message |
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"May I be invited to rock the boat slightly.
You say write a paragraph or two, that is fine and is your preference.
When I joined the site I tried that but when you get your 10th "Delete with out read" then I gave up on that tack.
I write a few lined and send a few winks. They can look and see if it is yey or ney.
Just a different perspective on trying to find couple and single ladies from a single guy.
Comments and criticism welcome
I do the same thing sometimes. You just get to a stage where you think, what's the point.
Not necessarily saying that's the case with you. But as long as there are substantially more men than women on a Fab it will be a case of it being 'no point' for many men. It is mathematically impossible for all men to get a meet, let alone a successful meet, on Fab.
Mrs
Indeed. I did a bit of maths on this. We probably get an average of fifteen messages a day from men. That's 5475 a year. Due to family, work. Existing playmates and so on, we might meet ten new guys a year.
Lets assume we have to chat with four guys to actually find someone suitable to meet. Hence 5435 messages will not get a reply. That's 99.3% of messages.
The ratio will be even worse for single women.
I did a thread on this recently. I explained that mathematically every woman on Fab (whether single or part of a couple) would need to be servicing a different guy daily for each man to have one shag in a year. So it's bollocks when people say 'be patient'.
I like a good mathematical debate :_)
I can't see how you work that figure out. Given the 75/20/5 men, couples, women ratio, that gives three single men for every woman, whether in a couple or single. If every couple or woman chose a new man each week every man would get a meet every three weeks and thus 17 meets a year.
Fair enough, I was exaggerating . However, we have had a private meet with 4 guys in the past twelve months. 2 new, 1 long term, and 1 we had met ages ago at a party when he had had a couples profile. How many men will we meet privately in the next 12 months? Probably much the same. Will there be any new ones? Depends on if old ones are available, but maybe another 2. My maths is failing me now. If every couple or single lady were to meet with 4 different guys a year, which is probably a typical number, is it possible for all men on Fab to have a meet?
Given the three to one ratio, if every woman or couple met four new men a year and each woman or couple didn't meet a man any other couple or woman had met, every man would get a meet in around nine months. "
I stand corrected. If women and couples stop flocking to the same guys, and the popular guys stick with one woman/couple for a period of time, there are indeed enough women to go round on Fab so that men get a meet. |
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"May I be invited to rock the boat slightly.
You say write a paragraph or two, that is fine and is your preference.
When I joined the site I tried that but when you get your 10th "Delete with out read" then I gave up on that tack.
I write a few lined and send a few winks. They can look and see if it is yey or ney.
Just a different perspective on trying to find couple and single ladies from a single guy.
Comments and criticism welcome
I do the same thing sometimes. You just get to a stage where you think, what's the point.
Not necessarily saying that's the case with you. But as long as there are substantially more men than women on a Fab it will be a case of it being 'no point' for many men. It is mathematically impossible for all men to get a meet, let alone a successful meet, on Fab.
Mrs
Indeed. I did a bit of maths on this. We probably get an average of fifteen messages a day from men. That's 5475 a year. Due to family, work. Existing playmates and so on, we might meet ten new guys a year.
Lets assume we have to chat with four guys to actually find someone suitable to meet. Hence 5435 messages will not get a reply. That's 99.3% of messages.
The ratio will be even worse for single women.
I did a thread on this recently. I explained that mathematically every woman on Fab (whether single or part of a couple) would need to be servicing a different guy daily for each man to have one shag in a year. So it's bollocks when people say 'be patient'.
I like a good mathematical debate :_)
I can't see how you work that figure out. Given the 75/20/5 men, couples, women ratio, that gives three single men for every woman, whether in a couple or single. If every couple or woman chose a new man each week every man would get a meet every three weeks and thus 17 meets a year.
Fair enough, I was exaggerating . However, we have had a private meet with 4 guys in the past twelve months. 2 new, 1 long term, and 1 we had met ages ago at a party when he had had a couples profile. How many men will we meet privately in the next 12 months? Probably much the same. Will there be any new ones? Depends on if old ones are available, but maybe another 2. My maths is failing me now. If every couple or single lady were to meet with 4 different guys a year, which is probably a typical number, is it possible for all men on Fab to have a meet?
Given the three to one ratio, if every woman or couple met four new men a year and each woman or couple didn't meet a man any other couple or woman had met, every man would get a meet in around nine months.
I stand corrected. If women and couples stop flocking to the same guys, and the popular guys stick with one woman/couple for a period of time, there are indeed enough women to go round on Fab so that men get a meet. "
Indeed
In reality, given that the percentage of male idiots is probably around three quarters any man who has a modicum of social skills and a degree of patience can get a meet. |
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"This can work both ways though. Not that I'm implying any of you guys do this but some couples respond to initial messages from a single guy who has thought about the message and has set his stall out as to why he has contacted said couple with uninterested one word replies. This is in no way limited to just couples, single women and I'm sure single men do this too.
It can be infuriating when contact is made and you see that response, thinking great they've replied, only to realise that there is no effort being made in the other direction. Yes in this Fab world single men are ten a penny and I fully understand that we are bottom of the hierarchy but sometimes we would like to get to know a bit about the people we contact. If people can't be bothered to put any effort in with messages it suggests that you aren't going to be high on their agenda should you meet. Some of us while happy to play are not happy to be just play things.
To all the genuine couples and singles out there hope you all find what you are mutually looking for. "
I think this is spot on and I couldn't of said it any better. |
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As a much older man, I find that couples write to me, for their particular need for older.
I have no problem with meeting couples, as I believe that the male is equally important in a meeting, he is wishing to see his partner enjoying what she enjoys, as she is showing her partner.
Without bi play in the meeting, just always feel that a meeting should be enjoyed by the couple. Therefor a well answered reply is needed, for both of them to read and progress or not from there. |
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