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Is it rude to stop if he hasn't cum yet?
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By *lexa OP Woman
over a year ago
southampton |
This one is related to 'can the sex go on too long,' but I think it warrants its own thread here. It'll be interesting to know your thoughts about this. Picture the scene. You've met each other for the first time and things have got to the point where the sex is introduced to the meet. So, you're at it but he doesn't seem to cum for ages. How long is reasonable before you have to say sorry but I've got to get back to the baby-sitter. Do you worry about hurting his feelings if this happens? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It depends, if i have a meet i tend to find out how long i have. If i know my meet has only got 3 hours and i dont cum in that time and she has to leave then no feelings hurt whatsoever |
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By *lexa OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Yes nothing worse than someone banging away and you know its not going to happen, boring unless they continuously change positions "
But if you know he's not going to, how do you stop the session without seeming rude about it? Do you think he should be the one to stop? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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From the guy perspective... I'd be more than happy to hear some encouragement from the lady to finish what I started, long before the time was up!
Plenty of time then for a cuddle/shower/change of clothing/mopping of floor/whatever
Personally I always try and establish the time boundaries beforehand...whether it's my partner or me that has to be away by a certain time, then you know if there's long enough for round 2 (or 5...)  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I give meets a 10 min warning lol.. and yes I have called time.
they are all aware that I only play for a certain amount of time..
but to be fair it rarely happens that I even have to give the warning.
cali |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I just try a bit of dirty talk, begging him to cum for me. Usually works  "
That's what I meant... just put much more succinctly. Thank you!
Works for me for sure |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I just try a bit of dirty talk, begging him to cum for me. Usually works "
Thats what I normally do.. but I think someguys think they have to hang on to it to prove a point.. but really once Master says okay times up.. thats it.. so they are better off just enjoying it and if they cum in 5 mins I really dont mind lol
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This one is related to 'can the sex go on too long,' but I think it warrants its own thread here. It'll be interesting to know your thoughts about this. Picture the scene. You've met each other for the first time and things have got to the point where the sex is introduced to the meet. So, you're at it but he doesn't seem to cum for ages. How long is reasonable before you have to say sorry but I've got to get back to the baby-sitter. Do you worry about hurting his feelings if this happens? "
Ive done it a few times, not because they havnt cum but because i have got bored
Im not here for people to just take their pleasure, if im playing with someone and theres no sexual chemistry and their doing nothing for me or like the other thread the guys had his blow job and now he just wants to bang away for hours without any variety i will stop and leave, sometimes you can lead the way and get them to do something different it you make it obvious you'd like to try something else, but other are just stuck in their ways and are just going to bang no matter what lol
Its not a case of wanting to hurt others feeling its just thats not how sex is supposed to be, both are supposed to be enjoying it and if their not then it should stop
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i have the opposite problem trying to make em last long enuf to make the meet an actual meet and not ten mins of frenzied fun and now what to do for the other four hours pmpl"
I normally have that.. but only meet for 30mins to 2 hours tops.. |
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Not really had this problem as we are not usually on the clock as it were but have had some reluctant to leave... usually we know them anyways and can laughingly sling them out. I always want them to go with a satisfied smile on their faces though (yes, ways and means if necessary!)
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I get more pleasure out of my partners orgasms me cuming is secondary but an added bonus i hope  "
See for me if the guy does not cum, he may as well have not bothered turning up.. Harsh but true for me lol
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Never happened to me.
If you know the guy well enough, you'll know exactly what to do to get him off. Everyone has that little action where they can't help but cum.....or so I've found.
However if he has problems cumming & knows about it, I would assume that he would know when you've had enough.
I know I would want to be (& thankfully am) with a guy that can read me & knows when I either want more or have had enough.
Communication, communication, communication. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Does anyone remember an episode of Sex and the City when Carrie ended up in bed with a guy who banged her so hard and furious he cricked her neck? Watching her lying there as he leapt up and down under the covers always made me giggle - until it happened to me. She was bridesmaid next day and could hardly walk cos of her neck injury and he was upset when she refused his invitation for a repeat session saying I made love to you last night I really made love to you!
I honestly believe sometimes you just have to stop if its going nowhere banging. Some men think this is what women want. I sort of shifted positions as he was in full flow and gave him a lovely snog and cuddled him in and started chattering knowing he had to leave soon anyway.
Learning how to bring a halt to the proceedings without being callous is another string to our sexual bow when you think about it. I am sure men have experienced trying to cum when they're faced with an inanimate object underneath them sometimes too!
EEEh its a lark!!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I get more pleasure out of my partners orgasms me cuming is secondary but an added bonus i hope "
I have to agree, it is such a turn on knowing who you are playing with is really enjoying themselves! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I get more pleasure out of my partners orgasms me cuming is secondary but an added bonus i hope "
thats fair comment, and nice to hear
but some women feel the same so just as you would be disappointed if you left knowing the woman hadnt cum they would feel the same
so its rude not to lol
i must admit if i meet a guy and he does not come, i feel thats down to me, maybe i wasnt turning him on enough, maybe i wasnt really his type etc and i would make sure i never met him again |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"oh i doubt you fail to make them cum naughtynymphos hehe
ive had a few, i blame bloody viagra lol"
does that stop them cumming then? must admit to being naive on its properties other than keeping a guy erect.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"oh i doubt you fail to make them cum naughtynymphos hehe
ive had a few, i blame bloody viagra lol
does that stop them cumming then? must admit to being naive on its properties other than keeping a guy erect. "
if effects men different
i've played with a few guys who have taken it and while they still cum what it does do it even after they have cum they stay hard and good to go straight away  or they get hard again very soon after they have cum
While other just dont cum
I remember first time my ex took one we went to a party and hes not very good with condoms, could get a hard on no problem but as soon as he put a condom on it went, we was told by a guy that he had the same problem and viagra made him stay hard even with a condom on so he tried it
Anyway he took this viagra friday evening on way to the party, was shagging all night and didnt come, so when we got home carried on, still didnt cum, went to chams saturday night, shagged most of the night, still didnt cum, again sunday we carried on at home and still nothing
to be honest it was pissing us both off by this point lol
it was early hours monday morning he cum |
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By *he tactile technicianMan
over a year ago
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It's taking the singer sewing machine service a bit far, running the machine constantly as it threads away till the motor gets hot and burns out! Definitely the service contract has to be restricted to what the service engineer considers reasonable!
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By *reyyaMan
over a year ago
North Yorkshire |
"This one is related to 'can the sex go on too long,' but I think it warrants its own thread here. It'll be interesting to know your thoughts about this. Picture the scene. You've met each other for the first time and things have got to the point where the sex is introduced to the meet. So, you're at it but he doesn't seem to cum for ages. How long is reasonable before you have to say sorry but I've got to get back to the baby-sitter. Do you worry about hurting his feelings if this happens? "
 Whatever happened to premature ejaculation? It does not affect swingers? Is this the cure for premature ejaculation, get into the swinging scene? |
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By *riseeTV/TS
over a year ago
MacKay |
Strangley my (now ex) partner rarely had guys orgasm, in fact many went floppy after a while and she blamed herself. Took me a lot of convincing that it wasn't her
Even in my experiences where males are involved, they seem to go floppy more often than not (not that this bothers me!)
Sex and the act of, comes in many forms. I like sensual sex culminating in orgasms after a longish period of time.
Men seem to come in two types: those that just wanna blow in the first 5 mins, or those that never seem to. In between is a bit of droopy.
My advice is, no one should have any expectations and enjoy what happens. If you need to have a break or stop, then do so. Nothing worse than feeling 'used and abused' for the sake of pleasing someone else.
If things don't work entirely right the first time, well that's life as an adult!
Anyway, Women's Liberation and Feminism! Time men satisfied us not themselves by using us!
xox
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Wish I could last that long. I try my hardest not to cum to quick but get very excited very quickly. I just fancy a cup of tea after lol. Maybe you can get Viagra tea. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes nothing worse than someone banging away and you know its not going to happen, boring unless they continuously change positions
But if you know he's not going to, how do you stop the session without seeming rude about it? Do you think he should be the one to stop? "
Just tell him that its not working, the only time its happened, he actually stopped play as he knew he couldnt |
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