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"I would love to see more black women on here, but as with all races, the men outnumber the women by quite some margin." I'm talking about full swap black couples who swap with white couples. That's what I'd like to see. | |||
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"I would love to see more black women on here, but as with all races, the men outnumber the women by quite some margin. I'm talking about full swap black couples who swap with white couples. That's what I'd like to see. " Just giving this a bump  | |||
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"Is someone's skin colour really a factor? Surely everything else is more important? " Why not start a thread about it? | |||
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"Is someone's skin colour really a factor? Surely everything else is more important? Why not start a thread about it?" I'd probably attract about as many comments as this one has...lol | |||
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"Is someone's skin colour really a factor? Surely everything else is more important? Why not start a thread about it? I'd probably attract about as many comments as this one has...lol" Lol they'll be loads soon you'll see! I bet there loads of black couples who full swap with white couples on fab! There's loads of black guys, so stands to reason that there must also be couples! | |||
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"We're struggling to find mixed couples. As in black male half of the couple. " Are you a couple? | |||
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"We're struggling to find mixed couples. As in black male half of the couple. Are you a couple? "Yeah but got our own profiles for now. When we're ready to cause double trouble we'll join forces  | |||
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"We're struggling to find mixed couples. As in black male half of the couple. Are you a couple?
Yeah but got our own profiles for now. When we're ready to cause double trouble we'll join forces " But your only looking for couples with a black male? | |||
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"Is someone's skin colour really a factor? Surely everything else is more important? " Depends if it’s the visual thing that floats your boat really . | |||
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"Is someone's skin colour really a factor? Surely everything else is more important? Depends if it’s the visual thing that floats your boat really . " You know fab rules! You're never allowed to admit it's about looks! | |||
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"We're struggling to find mixed couples. As in black male half of the couple. Are you a couple?
Yeah but got our own profiles for now. When we're ready to cause double trouble we'll join forces
But your only looking for couples with a black male?"Or mixed race guys. Black and white if i remember correctly. Or couples with a bi girl as well. We prefer all to be involved to be honest but have spoken to a few that would just be me,Lexi and the female playing for a bit if the male isn't her preference and the male plays with his own partner. Those couples have been ones where the lady is looking for a black guy but open to female interaction | |||
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"Is someone's skin colour really a factor? Surely everything else is more important? " Well it's a huge factor if you don't like the particular colour  . Everything is just as important but the overriding factor is the skin colour  | |||
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"I would love to see more black women on here, but as with all races, the men outnumber the women by quite some margin. I'm talking about full swap black couples who swap with white couples. That's what I'd like to see. " Chill Clem, m'man, I'm working on it..  | |||
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"Is someone's skin colour really a factor? Surely everything else is more important? Why not start a thread about it? I'd probably attract about as many comments as this one has...lol Lol they'll be loads soon you'll see! I bet there loads of black couples who full swap with white couples on fab! There's loads of black guys, so stands to reason that there must also be couples! "There isn't loads of black couples in comparison to other colours in couples no. There's more black guys than black girls for a start. | |||
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"Is someone's skin colour really a factor? Surely everything else is more important? Depends if it’s the visual thing that floats your boat really . " How so?. If a lady wants a black guy but a white guy is a lot better Looking,how are his looks gonna change the fact that he's the wrong colour lol. | |||
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"Is someone's skin colour really a factor? Surely everything else is more important? Depends if it’s the visual thing that floats your boat really . You know fab rules! You're never allowed to admit it's about looks!" If you've got any balls you will admit it.. | |||
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"this is our preference so we'd certainly like to see more black or mixed couples on here "chatted to a few, but not found any who full swap with white couples  | |||
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"this is our preference so we'd certainly like to see more black or mixed couples on here
chatted to a few, but not found any who full swap with white couples "It's hard as most black couples aren't really gonna be looking for a white couple. So i hear that totally | |||
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"this is our preference so we'd certainly like to see more black or mixed couples on here
chatted to a few, but not found any who full swap with white couples
It's hard as most black couples aren't really gonna be looking for a white couple. So i hear that totally "Why do you think that is? | |||
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"this is our preference so we'd certainly like to see more black or mixed couples on here
chatted to a few, but not found any who full swap with white couples
It's hard as most black couples aren't really gonna be looking for a white couple. So i hear that totally
Why do you think that is?"One would be I think if they're a black couple then the lady is most Likely gonna be looking for another black male but the male will almost likely be looking for any colour female. But unless they're a take one for the team type of couple then clearly it won't work ha. Yes there are always an exception to the rule. But there could be many reasons as to why a black couple wouldn't want a white couple. Maybe as simple as they prefer their own race | |||
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"this is our preference so we'd certainly like to see more black or mixed couples on here
chatted to a few, but not found any who full swap with white couples
It's hard as most black couples aren't really gonna be looking for a white couple. So i hear that totally "ya that could be true, we'll just have to hope there are  | |||
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"Is someone's skin colour really a factor? Surely everything else is more important? " Yes it is a factor as people are allowed a preference  | |||
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"We're struggling to find mixed couples. As in black male half of the couple. " I see lots of couples I'm here with a black male. Don't think I've ever seen one with a black female though | |||
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"We're struggling to find mixed couples. As in black male half of the couple. " We're also struggling to find mixed couples where all four of us are into each other. To date we have only ever met one couple like that. Would have been great if the guy had been orally bi too but we still had lots of fun and look forward to meeting up again at some point. | |||
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"We're struggling to find mixed couples. As in black male half of the couple. I see lots of couples I'm here with a black male. Don't think I've ever seen one with a black female though " I have, but they won't play with couples with white guys. | |||
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"We're struggling to find mixed couples. As in black male half of the couple. I see lots of couples I'm here with a black male. Don't think I've ever seen one with a black female though I have, but they won't play with couples with white guys. " We're ok with mixed couples if the guy is white. Because we are into bi fun too our biggest challenge in that respect is finding compatible couples where the guy doesn't just want to play a submissive role. My girlfriend is submissive (only sexually). So if we meet a couple she want the guy to participate fully. | |||
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"We're struggling to find mixed couples. As in black male half of the couple. I see lots of couples I'm here with a black male. Don't think I've ever seen one with a black female though I have, but they won't play with couples with white guys. We're ok with mixed couples if the guy is white. Because we are into bi fun too our biggest challenge in that respect is finding compatible couples where the guy doesn't just want to play a submissive role. My girlfriend is submissive (only sexually). So if we meet a couple she want the guy to participate fully." That's a great attitude. I've been told a number of times that i can "just watch, no touching". Hence my emphasis on full swap! | |||
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"We're struggling to find mixed couples. As in black male half of the couple. I see lots of couples I'm here with a black male. Don't think I've ever seen one with a black female though I have, but they won't play with couples with white guys. We're ok with mixed couples if the guy is white. Because we are into bi fun too our biggest challenge in that respect is finding compatible couples where the guy doesn't just want to play a submissive role. My girlfriend is submissive (only sexually). So if we meet a couple she want the guy to participate fully. That's a great attitude. I've been told a number of times that i can "just watch, no touching". Hence my emphasis on full swap! " I believe in fairness. Why should anyone have to make do with an appetiser and not get to feast on the main course lol | |||
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"this is our preference so we'd certainly like to see more black or mixed couples on here
chatted to a few, but not found any who full swap with white couples
It's hard as most black couples aren't really gonna be looking for a white couple. So i hear that totally
ya that could be true, we'll just have to hope there are "Are you a white couple then guys? | |||
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"Is someone's skin colour really a factor? Surely everything else is more important? Yes it is a factor as people are allowed a preference "You didn't need to say it like that,especially when it had already been addressed  | |||
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"We're struggling to find mixed couples. As in black male half of the couple. I see lots of couples I'm here with a black male. Don't think I've ever seen one with a black female though " Send them our way please lol. Or pm please | |||
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"We're struggling to find mixed couples. As in black male half of the couple. We're also struggling to find mixed couples where all four of us are into each other. To date we have only ever met one couple like that. Would have been great if the guy had been orally bi too but we still had lots of fun and look forward to meeting up again at some point." That's the hardest bit. All 4 people liking each other enough to play | |||
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"We're struggling to find mixed couples. As in black male half of the couple. I see lots of couples I'm here with a black male. Don't think I've ever seen one with a black female though I have, but they won't play with couples with white guys. " Exactly. Lexi is the same  | |||
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"We're struggling to find mixed couples. As in black male half of the couple. I see lots of couples I'm here with a black male. Don't think I've ever seen one with a black female though I have, but they won't play with couples with white guys. We're ok with mixed couples if the guy is white. Because we are into bi fun too our biggest challenge in that respect is finding compatible couples where the guy doesn't just want to play a submissive role. My girlfriend is submissive (only sexually). So if we meet a couple she want the guy to participate fully." Really. Never come across a sub guy in a interracial couple when the guy is black | |||
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"We're struggling to find mixed couples. As in black male half of the couple. I see lots of couples I'm here with a black male. Don't think I've ever seen one with a black female though I have, but they won't play with couples with white guys. We're ok with mixed couples if the guy is white. Because we are into bi fun too our biggest challenge in that respect is finding compatible couples where the guy doesn't just want to play a submissive role. My girlfriend is submissive (only sexually). So if we meet a couple she want the guy to participate fully. That's a great attitude. I've been told a number of times that i can "just watch, no touching". Hence my emphasis on full swap! " Don't blame you. Who just wants to watch right | |||
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"We're struggling to find mixed couples. As in black male half of the couple. I see lots of couples I'm here with a black male. Don't think I've ever seen one with a black female though I have, but they won't play with couples with white guys. We're ok with mixed couples if the guy is white. Because we are into bi fun too our biggest challenge in that respect is finding compatible couples where the guy doesn't just want to play a submissive role. My girlfriend is submissive (only sexually). So if we meet a couple she want the guy to participate fully. That's a great attitude. I've been told a number of times that i can "just watch, no touching". Hence my emphasis on full swap! I believe in fairness. Why should anyone have to make do with an appetiser and not get to feast on the main course lol" Bcz some couples adopt the take one for the team stance. Not us at all! | |||
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"Men will go and look for sex more than women?. Don't get what this has to do with interracial couples?" You're missing my point. Obviously there are more men than women, but the proportion of non white men is far higher than the proportion of non white women | |||
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"Men will go and look for sex more than women?. Don't get what this has to do with interracial couples? You're missing my point. Obviously there are more men than women, but the proportion of non white men is far higher than the proportion of non white women " Okay. That makes sense as they're more men than women on site,so stands to reason that they'd be more white guys than girls. That's your point? | |||
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"We're struggling to find mixed couples. As in black male half of the couple. I see lots of couples I'm here with a black male. Don't think I've ever seen one with a black female though I have, but they won't play with couples with white guys. We're ok with mixed couples if the guy is white. Because we are into bi fun too our biggest challenge in that respect is finding compatible couples where the guy doesn't just want to play a submissive role. My girlfriend is submissive (only sexually). So if we meet a couple she want the guy to participate fully. Really. Never come across a sub guy in a interracial couple when the guy is black "I think you may have misread my post. What I said was with the white couples interested in us. If the guy is bi too often the guy is sub so my Mrs would miss out. However if the guy in a couple is black yes they tend not to be sub but it would be nice if now and then they were orally bi as well as being Dom like myself. | |||
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"Men will go and look for sex more than women?. Don't get what this has to do with interracial couples? You're missing my point. Obviously there are more men than women, but the proportion of non white men is far higher than the proportion of non white women Okay. That makes sense as they're more men than women on site,so stands to reason that they'd be more white guys than girls. That's your point?" No! Take a random sample of 100 swingers. Let's say 70 are men and 30 women. Of the men 50 are white. Of the women 27 are white. Hence the percentage of male swingers who are white is 72%, whilst the percentage of female swingers who are white is 90%. If these figures are roughly correct my question is why non white swingers are much less likely to be female. | |||
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"We're struggling to find mixed couples. As in black male half of the couple. I see lots of couples I'm here with a black male. Don't think I've ever seen one with a black female though I have, but they won't play with couples with white guys. We're ok with mixed couples if the guy is white. Because we are into bi fun too our biggest challenge in that respect is finding compatible couples where the guy doesn't just want to play a submissive role. My girlfriend is submissive (only sexually). So if we meet a couple she want the guy to participate fully. Really. Never come across a sub guy in a interracial couple when the guy is black
I think you may have misread my post. What I said was with the white couples interested in us. If the guy is bi too often the guy is sub so my Mrs would miss out.
However if the guy in a couple is black yes they tend not to be sub but it would be nice if now and then they were orally bi as well as being Dom like myself."Ooooh seen lol. My bad. With you now haha. I didn't think you ment sub as in the whole dynamic. Thought you ment just with the other guy | |||
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"Men will go and look for sex more than women?. Don't get what this has to do with interracial couples? You're missing my point. Obviously there are more men than women, but the proportion of non white men is far higher than the proportion of non white women Okay. That makes sense as they're more men than women on site,so stands to reason that they'd be more white guys than girls. That's your point? No! Take a random sample of 100 swingers. Let's say 70 are men and 30 women. Of the men 50 are white. Of the women 27 are white. Hence the percentage of male swingers who are white is 72%, whilst the percentage of female swingers who are white is 90%. If these figures are roughly correct my question is why non white swingers are much less likely to be female. " I don't bloody know. . I'm not thinking that deep about it at all. Just having a light hearted discussion. Jeez lol. | |||
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"Men will go and look for sex more than women?. Don't get what this has to do with interracial couples? You're missing my point. Obviously there are more men than women, but the proportion of non white men is far higher than the proportion of non white women " It's a strange one if this stat is true. With regards to asian men I'd figure it was because asian men like all other men have the built in instinct to have multiple partners to presere their gene code in future; all men to some extent are hardwired to do this. However their society as a rule is incredibly restrictive in this regard as to what is allowed with promiscuity. Therefore they probably seem to be repressed by their own culture against what their own instincts are telling them to do, a lot of their women remain as covered up as possible, anything to do with sexuality has a lot of blanket bans placed on it and women are seen as either virginal or wives and mothers end of in a lot of subcultures. For a lot of women's own hardwiring, which tends more towards seeking one mate who can provide and sire her with young, the asian society doesn't restrict her instincts anywhere near as much on average. It is only those women or couples who have 1) fully immersed themselves in western culture and the idea that a lot of pursuits can be done simply for pleasure's own sake and 2) Manage to have the nerve to proceed with this "secret life" away from their disapproving elders and peers who will fully participate. As for why the ratio repeats itself amongst the black community I'm not as sure; it is the case that the black communities contain a higher proportion of men and women who are part of the islamic faith and as such their stat may echo that of the asians, but not to the same extent. It is also the case that this stat may be skewed slightly by opinion and local searches and meetings by those who believe it to be completely true; in areas such as Hackney for example the ratio of black female swingers to white female swingers rises hugely, mirroring that of the local population. | |||
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"We're struggling to find mixed couples. As in black male half of the couple. I see lots of couples I'm here with a black male. Don't think I've ever seen one with a black female though I have, but they won't play with couples with white guys. " Ohhhhh ok I get you | |||
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"this is our preference so we'd certainly like to see more black or mixed couples on here
chatted to a few, but not found any who full swap with white couples
It's hard as most black couples aren't really gonna be looking for a white couple. So i hear that totally
ya that could be true, we'll just have to hope there are
Are you a white couple then guys?"Mr is white Aussie and Mrs is Aussie with middle Eastern background | |||
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"Do you think there's less chance of a black man getting turned on watching a white guy have sex with his wife. White guys seem to love it the other way around. me included. "It does for me to be honest . Can't speak for the masses though | |||
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"this is our preference so we'd certainly like to see more black or mixed couples on here
chatted to a few, but not found any who full swap with white couples
It's hard as most black couples aren't really gonna be looking for a white couple. So i hear that totally
ya that could be true, we'll just have to hope there are
Are you a white couple then guys?
Mr is white Aussie and Mrs is Aussie with middle Eastern background "So yes you're white lol. | |||
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"Do you think there's less chance of a black man getting turned on watching a white guy have sex with his wife. White guys seem to love it the other way around. me included.
It does for me to be honest . Can't speak for the masses though "Just bumping incase there are any that do! | |||
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For this reason alone the couple he needs must surely do the fandango.
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"This thread made my day , a discussion on preferences that actually made sense
For this reason alone the couple he needs must surely do the fandango.
"Let's see! | |||
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"Do you think there's less chance of a black man getting turned on watching a white guy have sex with his wife. White guys seem to love it the other way around. me included.
It does for me to be honest . Can't speak for the masses though
Just bumping incase there are any that do!"Oh okay cool. Yeah I'm sure that there is some out there that do | |||
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"Plenty of black guys n gals, not seeing many full swap black couples though?" When I get myself a black female swinging partner, I'll give you a call!  | |||
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"Plenty of black guys n gals, not seeing many full swap black couples though? When I get myself a black female swinging partner, I'll give you a call! "Then we'll come visit! | |||
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"Personally, having been on the scene for 16 years and often being a couple, in my experience black guys ( not all but a majority) are less likely to want their partner doing full swap than white guys. I have/had a couple of black swinging female friends who have played as a couple with their FB’s at times, but know very few “real” black couples that swing full swap as couples " A forlorn hope then | |||
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"Personally, having been on the scene for 16 years and often being a couple, in my experience black guys ( not all but a majority) are less likely to want their partner doing full swap than white guys. I have/had a couple of black swinging female friends who have played as a couple with their FB’s at times, but know very few “real” black couples that swing full swap as couples " That is unfortunately often very true. I often encounter couples profiles with black guys where the lady is apparently ONLY interested in expressing her bi side in MFF threesome fun. Now if I was the cynical type....... | |||
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"Plenty of black guys n gals, not seeing many full swap black couples though? When I get myself a black female swinging partner, I'll give you a call!
Then we'll come visit! "Our we'll hunt you down...  | |||
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"It probably got a lot to do with upbringing at lot of black women around me age (30-40) were brought up by strict religious african/Caribbean parents and were taught that they're supposed to act/be a certain way especially around men. I'm 2nd generation British so my mum was pretty chill growing up so a lot of those expectations weren't passed onto me. I've got black female friends and you can 100% tell the difference between those 1st and 2nd gen British " I'm first generation and was embarrassed to tell my parents I was pregnant, as they would know I had sex. I was a married woman! 
My daughters would disown me if they knew what I get up too...they already because I live with a man not my husband. We met on here and would chuckle at the hilarity of our situation.
Saturday night, my daughters going to evening worship at church while I'm heading to a swingers club! | |||
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"Replied to a similar thread in the past. When you check against the likely proportion in the population you find that they are just as well represented as any other skin colour. " I've encountered black couples who swing with other black couples and black males. But not who fully swap with white couples or white males. That's where the difference is imo. | |||
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"Personally, having been on the scene for 16 years and often being a couple, in my experience black guys ( not all but a majority) are less likely to want their partner doing full swap than white guys. I have/had a couple of black swinging female friends who have played as a couple with their FB’s at times, but know very few “real” black couples that swing full swap as couples " I think this is a bit ott. No i can speak for am,but to think that a black guy won't want a white fucking his girl,just bcz he's white. Hmmmmm,I'm not sure to be honest with you . What's a 'real black couple? | |||
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"Personally, having been on the scene for 16 years and often being a couple, in my experience black guys ( not all but a majority) are less likely to want their partner doing full swap than white guys. I have/had a couple of black swinging female friends who have played as a couple with their FB’s at times, but know very few “real” black couples that swing full swap as couples That is unfortunately often very true. I often encounter couples profiles with black guys where the lady is apparently ONLY interested in expressing her bi side in MFF threesome fun. Now if I was the cynical type......." That is true,but do you know why?. Bcz most white women who are with a black guy only like black guys . That has been true of all the couples I've encounter in fab to date. Yes there will be always the exception to the rule of course. | |||
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"Personally, having been on the scene for 16 years and often being a couple, in my experience black guys ( not all but a majority) are less likely to want their partner doing full swap than white guys. I have/had a couple of black swinging female friends who have played as a couple with their FB’s at times, but know very few “real” black couples that swing full swap as couples I think this is a bit ott. No i can speak for am,but to think that a black guy won't want a white fucking his girl,just bcz he's white. Hmmmmm,I'm not sure to be honest with you . What's a 'real black couple?"I assumed they ment a real emotional couple, not a fuck buddy couple. Could be wrong though. | |||
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"Personally, having been on the scene for 16 years and often being a couple, in my experience black guys ( not all but a majority) are less likely to want their partner doing full swap than white guys. I have/had a couple of black swinging female friends who have played as a couple with their FB’s at times, but know very few “real” black couples that swing full swap as couples I think this is a bit ott. No i can speak for am,but to think that a black guy won't want a white fucking his girl,just bcz he's white. Hmmmmm,I'm not sure to be honest with you . What's a 'real black couple?
I assumed they ment a real emotional couple, not a fuck buddy couple. Could be wrong though. "You can think it’s OTT it’s my experience, by “real couples” I mean those in committed relationships away from the scene etc. In MY personal experience of being both on the scene and in relationships with black guys since my teens this has almost always been the way. Meet a guy, casual thing, he’s fine with girl doing her thing... Once she’s sat round Sunday dinner with grandma/ making a home/having his kids, has his ring on her finger he suddenly doesn’t want to see another guy spunking all over her face. Again, only my personal experience, but I know plenty of female friends have had the same. I was in a committed swinging relationship for many years and we found it virtually impossible to find couples with black guys looking for full swap, all those we met we ended up just doing girl/girl stuff ( partly my exes issue as he had the same thing once we were living together etc, and didn’t like me with other guys, however all the mixed couples we met were the same and preferred soft swap) | |||
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"Personally, having been on the scene for 16 years and often being a couple, in my experience black guys ( not all but a majority) are less likely to want their partner doing full swap than white guys. I have/had a couple of black swinging female friends who have played as a couple with their FB’s at times, but know very few “real” black couples that swing full swap as couples That is unfortunately often very true. I often encounter couples profiles with black guys where the lady is apparently ONLY interested in expressing her bi side in MFF threesome fun. Now if I was the cynical type....... That is true,but do you know why?. Bcz most white women who are with a black guy only like black guys . That has been true of all the couples I've encounter in fab to date. Yes there will be always the exception to the rule of course. "Hmmm I only agree with you partly on that one. Yes with a lot of women that old say " once you go black you don't go back" is true but I don't have enough anecdotal evidence to say its the majority. That could be the topic of a rather interesting thread. Both with regard to swinging and relationships... | |||
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"Personally, having been on the scene for 16 years and often being a couple, in my experience black guys ( not all but a majority) are less likely to want their partner doing full swap than white guys. I have/had a couple of black swinging female friends who have played as a couple with their FB’s at times, but know very few “real” black couples that swing full swap as couples I think this is a bit ott. No i can speak for am,but to think that a black guy won't want a white fucking his girl,just bcz he's white. Hmmmmm,I'm not sure to be honest with you . What's a 'real black couple?
I assumed they ment a real emotional couple, not a fuck buddy couple. Could be wrong though. "Oooh seen lol | |||
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"Personally, having been on the scene for 16 years and often being a couple, in my experience black guys ( not all but a majority) are less likely to want their partner doing full swap than white guys. I have/had a couple of black swinging female friends who have played as a couple with their FB’s at times, but know very few “real” black couples that swing full swap as couples I think this is a bit ott. No i can speak for am,but to think that a black guy won't want a white fucking his girl,just bcz he's white. Hmmmmm,I'm not sure to be honest with you . What's a 'real black couple?
I assumed they ment a real emotional couple, not a fuck buddy couple. Could be wrong though.
You can think it’s OTT it’s my experience, by “real couples” I mean those in committed relationships away from the scene etc. In MY personal experience of being both on the scene and in relationships with black guys since my teens this has almost always been the way.
Meet a guy, casual thing, he’s fine with girl doing her thing...
Once she’s sat round Sunday dinner with grandma/ making a home/having his kids, has his ring on her finger he suddenly doesn’t want to see another guy spunking all over her face.
Again, only my personal experience, but I know plenty of female friends have had the same. I was in a committed swinging relationship for many years and we found it virtually impossible to find couples with black guys looking for full swap, all those we met we ended up just doing girl/girl stuff ( partly my exes issue as he had the same thing once we were living together etc, and didn’t like me with other guys, however all the mixed couples we met were the same and preferred soft swap) "Fare enough. Glad i'm not one if those double standard,hypercrtical black guys phew lol | |||
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"Are you saying that you won't fuck white couples?" Who me?. Lexi won't fuck a white guy now. It's not a fantasy or anything kinky. It's just who she is. Me obviously i don't mind on colour so much. More respect and manners etc. But saying that I've never been with an Asian woman to date | |||
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"Are you saying that you won't fuck white couples? Who me?. Lexi won't fuck a white guy now. It's not a fantasy or anything kinky. It's just who she is. Me obviously i don't mind on colour so much. More respect and manners etc. But saying that I've never been with an Asian woman to date "Sorry no I meant the OP. Still interesting though. Would you say that Lexi is racist for not wanting to fuck a white guy? | |||
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"Are you saying that you won't fuck white couples? Who me?. Lexi won't fuck a white guy now. It's not a fantasy or anything kinky. It's just who she is. Me obviously i don't mind on colour so much. More respect and manners etc. But saying that I've never been with an Asian woman to date
Sorry no I meant the OP.
Still interesting though. Would you say that Lexi is racist for not wanting to fuck a white guy?"Not wanting to sleep with a certain race doesn't make you racist | |||
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Sorry no I meant the OP.
Still interesting though. Would you say that Lexi is racist for not wanting to fuck a white guy?
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"Is someone's skin colour really a factor? Surely everything else is more important? " My skin colour is very important to me...isn't yours? Chanel | |||
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"Is someone's skin colour really a factor? Surely everything else is more important? My skin colour is very important to me...isn't yours? Chanel" Mine isn't. It doesn't define me. | |||
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"Personally, having been on the scene for 16 years and often being a couple, in my experience black guys ( not all but a majority) are less likely to want their partner doing full swap than white guys. I have/had a couple of black swinging female friends who have played as a couple with their FB’s at times, but know very few “real” black couples that swing full swap as couples I think this is a bit ott. No i can speak for am,but to think that a black guy won't want a white fucking his girl,just bcz he's white. Hmmmmm,I'm not sure to be honest with you . What's a 'real black couple?
I assumed they ment a real emotional couple, not a fuck buddy couple. Could be wrong though.
You can think it’s OTT it’s my experience, by “real couples” I mean those in committed relationships away from the scene etc. In MY personal experience of being both on the scene and in relationships with black guys since my teens this has almost always been the way.
Meet a guy, casual thing, he’s fine with girl doing her thing...
Once she’s sat round Sunday dinner with grandma/ making a home/having his kids, has his ring on her finger he suddenly doesn’t want to see another guy spunking all over her face.
Again, only my personal experience, but I know plenty of female friends have had the same. I was in a committed swinging relationship for many years and we found it virtually impossible to find couples with black guys looking for full swap, all those we met we ended up just doing girl/girl stuff ( partly my exes issue as he had the same thing once we were living together etc, and didn’t like me with other guys, however all the mixed couples we met were the same and preferred soft swap) "I am like this too. Would not date someone on the scene seriously in a thousand years. I have women that I date in the "vanilla world" who I would never think of involving in swinging and I would drop them in a heartbeat if they told me they had been swinging. Is it double standards? Yes. Yes it is indeed. Added to that, when I date black women I tend to have expectations that they dont involve themselves in swinging or much in the way of "extraordinary" sexual activity. I come from a culture which is harsh on the women...it is inevitable that those same expectations rub off on ourselves despite being raised in a western environment. So I know many black (and Asian too, I guess) guys would be uncomfortable with the idea of their other half playing in the scene. Men are protective of women's sexuality and our egos are fragile. I have seen for myself that, in many cases, swinging and committed relationships are complex things which most people cannot handle. Outside of all this though, I tend to find that most of my black female friends/exes would avoid this site like the plague and the men within it. Lecherous, not particularly much to look at, creepy and extolling oddball fetishizations like those in the OP. Black men may be tolerant of the sexual fetishization of blackness (for good or bad...most likely bad) for an easy lay but black women are far less so. Looking at the behavior and attitudes expressed in the forum, it doesnt really surprise me that black women are not particularly excited at the prospect of swinging on here. Thats not to say there are not those on the scene...but their numbers are small for a reason. | |||
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"Personally, having been on the scene for 16 years and often being a couple, in my experience black guys ( not all but a majority) are less likely to want their partner doing full swap than white guys. I have/had a couple of black swinging female friends who have played as a couple with their FB’s at times, but know very few “real” black couples that swing full swap as couples I think this is a bit ott. No i can speak for am,but to think that a black guy won't want a white fucking his girl,just bcz he's white. Hmmmmm,I'm not sure to be honest with you . What's a 'real black couple?
I assumed they ment a real emotional couple, not a fuck buddy couple. Could be wrong though.
You can think it’s OTT it’s my experience, by “real couples” I mean those in committed relationships away from the scene etc. In MY personal experience of being both on the scene and in relationships with black guys since my teens this has almost always been the way.
Meet a guy, casual thing, he’s fine with girl doing her thing...
Once she’s sat round Sunday dinner with grandma/ making a home/having his kids, has his ring on her finger he suddenly doesn’t want to see another guy spunking all over her face.
Again, only my personal experience, but I know plenty of female friends have had the same. I was in a committed swinging relationship for many years and we found it virtually impossible to find couples with black guys looking for full swap, all those we met we ended up just doing girl/girl stuff ( partly my exes issue as he had the same thing once we were living together etc, and didn’t like me with other guys, however all the mixed couples we met were the same and preferred soft swap)
I am like this too. Would not date someone on the scene seriously in a thousand years. I have women that I date in the "vanilla world" who I would never think of involving in swinging and I would drop them in a heartbeat if they told me they had been swinging.
Is it double standards? Yes. Yes it is indeed. Added to that, when I date black women I tend to have expectations that they dont involve themselves in swinging or much in the way of "extraordinary" sexual activity. I come from a culture which is harsh on the women...it is inevitable that those same expectations rub off on ourselves despite being raised in a western environment. So I know many black (and Asian too, I guess) guys would be uncomfortable with the idea of their other half playing in the scene. Men are protective of women's sexuality and our egos are fragile. I have seen for myself that, in many cases, swinging and committed relationships are complex things which most people cannot handle.
Outside of all this though, I tend to find that most of my black female friends/exes would avoid this site like the plague and the men within it. Lecherous, not particularly much to look at, creepy and extolling oddball fetishizations like those in the OP. Black men may be tolerant of the sexual fetishization of blackness (for good or bad...most likely bad) for an easy lay but black women are far less so. Looking at the behavior and attitudes expressed in the forum, it doesnt really surprise me that black women are not particularly excited at the prospect of swinging on here. Thats not to say there are not those on the scene...but their numbers are small for a reason. "Could you explain the oddball fetish i mention in my opening post? | |||
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"Personally, having been on the scene for 16 years and often being a couple, in my experience black guys ( not all but a majority) are less likely to want their partner doing full swap than white guys. I have/had a couple of black swinging female friends who have played as a couple with their FB’s at times, but know very few “real” black couples that swing full swap as couples I think this is a bit ott. No i can speak for am,but to think that a black guy won't want a white fucking his girl,just bcz he's white. Hmmmmm,I'm not sure to be honest with you . What's a 'real black couple?
I assumed they ment a real emotional couple, not a fuck buddy couple. Could be wrong though.
You can think it’s OTT it’s my experience, by “real couples” I mean those in committed relationships away from the scene etc. In MY personal experience of being both on the scene and in relationships with black guys since my teens this has almost always been the way.
Meet a guy, casual thing, he’s fine with girl doing her thing...
Once she’s sat round Sunday dinner with grandma/ making a home/having his kids, has his ring on her finger he suddenly doesn’t want to see another guy spunking all over her face.
Again, only my personal experience, but I know plenty of female friends have had the same. I was in a committed swinging relationship for many years and we found it virtually impossible to find couples with black guys looking for full swap, all those we met we ended up just doing girl/girl stuff ( partly my exes issue as he had the same thing once we were living together etc, and didn’t like me with other guys, however all the mixed couples we met were the same and preferred soft swap)
I am like this too. Would not date someone on the scene seriously in a thousand years. I have women that I date in the "vanilla world" who I would never think of involving in swinging and I would drop them in a heartbeat if they told me they had been swinging.
Is it double standards? Yes. Yes it is indeed. Added to that, when I date black women I tend to have expectations that they dont involve themselves in swinging or much in the way of "extraordinary" sexual activity. I come from a culture which is harsh on the women...it is inevitable that those same expectations rub off on ourselves despite being raised in a western environment. So I know many black (and Asian too, I guess) guys would be uncomfortable with the idea of their other half playing in the scene. Men are protective of women's sexuality and our egos are fragile. I have seen for myself that, in many cases, swinging and committed relationships are complex things which most people cannot handle.
Outside of all this though, I tend to find that most of my black female friends/exes would avoid this site like the plague and the men within it. Lecherous, not particularly much to look at, creepy and extolling oddball fetishizations like those in the OP. Black men may be tolerant of the sexual fetishization of blackness (for good or bad...most likely bad) for an easy lay but black women are far less so. Looking at the behavior and attitudes expressed in the forum, it doesnt really surprise me that black women are not particularly excited at the prospect of swinging on here. Thats not to say there are not those on the scene...but their numbers are small for a reason. "I admire you for your honestly and self awareness especially with regard to hypocrisy, something we are all guilty of one way or another. From the sound of it I probably come from a background very similar to yours. It also confirms reinforces my reasons for not making it easy for single guys that want to meet us. This is in spite of the fact that our horniest experience to date was with a single bi curious male. If I get the slightest whiff that a guy we chat to on here or in a club environment doesn't fully respect my lady I put a brick wall up. I also have a very strong sense of fair play. One particular person comes to mind. Like me he is a sexually dominant black guy with a bi side to his sexuality. He expressed an interest in meeting me with both my former and current partner. However although he swings as a singe guy he says his lady only has an interest in him and other women. I'm erm........not convinced lol | |||
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"Are you saying that you won't fuck white couples? Who me?. Lexi won't fuck a white guy now. It's not a fantasy or anything kinky. It's just who she is. Me obviously i don't mind on colour so much. More respect and manners etc. But saying that I've never been with an Asian woman to date "Oh I adore Asian women and have had some great adventures with them in my time. However on a sexual level my lady is only interested in black and white men. So unless we bump into an Asian woman with a black or white partner I won't be meeting another any time soon (cries inconsolably ) | |||
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"Lol @Oreokink, there’s a fair few couples like that I think. Interestingly my views on this are fluid at the minute... I’ve always been with black guys, only been with a handful of white guys in my life and only ever had one white partner. However in recent months I’ve been bored on the scene and not really interested in my usual type, and have been craving something different to my previous experiences, I have found myself much more interested in playing with both halves of some white couples I know. " Yeah and its a real shame. I would say that the thrill of swinging ebbs and flows for all or us from time to time. By the way I am fascinated by your shift in interest. Have you acted on it yet. I feel very lucky because as has been mentioned a sizeable proportion of white women do seem to develop a strong preference black guys once they go down that path which is challenging in its own way. In that respect I feel quite lucky because although she probably now has a slight preference for black men. White guys still grab her attention too. | |||
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"Lol @Oreokink, there’s a fair few couples like that I think. Interestingly my views on this are fluid at the minute... I’ve always been with black guys, only been with a handful of white guys in my life and only ever had one white partner. However in recent months I’ve been bored on the scene and not really interested in my usual type, and have been craving something different to my previous experiences, I have found myself much more interested in playing with both halves of some white couples I know. Yeah and its a real shame. I would say that the thrill of swinging ebbs and flows for all or us from time to time. By the way I am fascinated by your shift in interest. Have you acted on it yet. I feel very lucky because as has been mentioned a sizeable proportion of white women do seem to develop a strong preference black guys once they go down that path which is challenging in its own way. In that respect I feel quite lucky because although she probably now has a slight preference for black men. White guys still grab her attention too." Haha no nothing has really happened yet, lack of time means I won’t be doing much until jan now - have had discussions with a few friends about having some sort of group session with a mix of people who know each other and seeing what happens though - you know I never commit to playing as I have to feel the vibe at the moment in time to get into it, but my ideal at the moment is probably a mixed group of 6-8 people who know each other from Xtasia and seeing how it goes. I think women are different to men also.... men seem to be able to enjoy an unlimited string of different women and not get bored. For me, as good as a guy may be, I often feel bored in a 121 situation. As you know, I have a regular guy I’ve been seeing for a couple of years and we have an incredible sex life- and it can be hard for me to match that high in a one-off in a club, I enjoy playing with him, but generally FFM’s have been more fun than MFMF for me as often I’m not that into the guy, hence wanting to try different things (sadly there isn’t too much I haven’t tried!!) | |||
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" Haha no nothing has really happened yet, lack of time means I won’t be doing much until jan now - have had discussions with a few friends about having some sort of group session with a mix of people who know each other and seeing what happens though - you know I never commit to playing as I have to feel the vibe at the moment in time to get into it, but my ideal at the moment is probably a mixed group of 6-8 people who know each other from Xtasia and seeing how it goes. I think women are different to men also.... men seem to be able to enjoy an unlimited string of different women and not get bored. For me, as good as a guy may be, I often feel bored in a 121 situation. As you know, I have a regular guy I’ve been seeing for a couple of years and we have an incredible sex life- and it can be hard for me to match that high in a one-off in a club, I enjoy playing with him, but generally FFM’s have been more fun than MFMF for me as often I’m not that into the guy, hence wanting to try different things (sadly there isn’t too much I haven’t tried!!) " You have that in common with my lady. Its why we don't arrange private meets. She needs to get used to people before even considering it. FFM is a no no for her which from my perspective is a shame but like you I have already done just about everything over the years so its not a major loss. She feels most at ease with MFM scenarios in clubs which is ok with me as long as the other guy is bi curious too. Otherwise I'd get extremely bored quite quickly | |||
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"Personally, having been on the scene for 16 years and often being a couple, in my experience black guys ( not all but a majority) are less likely to want their partner doing full swap than white guys. I have/had a couple of black swinging female friends who have played as a couple with their FB’s at times, but know very few “real” black couples that swing full swap as couples I think this is a bit ott. No i can speak for am,but to think that a black guy won't want a white fucking his girl,just bcz he's white. Hmmmmm,I'm not sure to be honest with you . What's a 'real black couple?
I assumed they ment a real emotional couple, not a fuck buddy couple. Could be wrong though.
You can think it’s OTT it’s my experience, by “real couples” I mean those in committed relationships away from the scene etc. In MY personal experience of being both on the scene and in relationships with black guys since my teens this has almost always been the way.
Meet a guy, casual thing, he’s fine with girl doing her thing...
Once she’s sat round Sunday dinner with grandma/ making a home/having his kids, has his ring on her finger he suddenly doesn’t want to see another guy spunking all over her face.
Again, only my personal experience, but I know plenty of female friends have had the same. I was in a committed swinging relationship for many years and we found it virtually impossible to find couples with black guys looking for full swap, all those we met we ended up just doing girl/girl stuff ( partly my exes issue as he had the same thing once we were living together etc, and didn’t like me with other guys, however all the mixed couples we met were the same and preferred soft swap)
I am like this too. Would not date someone on the scene seriously in a thousand years. I have women that I date in the "vanilla world" who I would never think of involving in swinging and I would drop them in a heartbeat if they told me they had been swinging.
Is it double standards? Yes. Yes it is indeed. Added to that, when I date black women I tend to have expectations that they dont involve themselves in swinging or much in the way of "extraordinary" sexual activity. I come from a culture which is harsh on the women...it is inevitable that those same expectations rub off on ourselves despite being raised in a western environment. So I know many black (and Asian too, I guess) guys would be uncomfortable with the idea of their other half playing in the scene. Men are protective of women's sexuality and our egos are fragile. I have seen for myself that, in many cases, swinging and committed relationships are complex things which most people cannot handle.
Outside of all this though, I tend to find that most of my black female friends/exes would avoid this site like the plague and the men within it. Lecherous, not particularly much to look at, creepy and extolling oddball fetishizations like those in the OP. Black men may be tolerant of the sexual fetishization of blackness (for good or bad...most likely bad) for an easy lay but black women are far less so. Looking at the behavior and attitudes expressed in the forum, it doesnt really surprise me that black women are not particularly excited at the prospect of swinging on here. Thats not to say there are not those on the scene...but their numbers are small for a reason.
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"Personally, having been on the scene for 16 years and often being a couple, in my experience black guys ( not all but a majority) are less likely to want their partner doing full swap than white guys. I have/had a couple of black swinging female friends who have played as a couple with their FB’s at times, but know very few “real” black couples that swing full swap as couples I think this is a bit ott. No i can speak for am,but to think that a black guy won't want a white fucking his girl,just bcz he's white. Hmmmmm,I'm not sure to be honest with you . What's a 'real black couple?
I assumed they ment a real emotional couple, not a fuck buddy couple. Could be wrong though.
You can think it’s OTT it’s my experience, by “real couples” I mean those in committed relationships away from the scene etc. In MY personal experience of being both on the scene and in relationships with black guys since my teens this has almost always been the way.
Meet a guy, casual thing, he’s fine with girl doing her thing...
Once she’s sat round Sunday dinner with grandma/ making a home/having his kids, has his ring on her finger he suddenly doesn’t want to see another guy spunking all over her face.
Again, only my personal experience, but I know plenty of female friends have had the same. I was in a committed swinging relationship for many years and we found it virtually impossible to find couples with black guys looking for full swap, all those we met we ended up just doing girl/girl stuff ( partly my exes issue as he had the same thing once we were living together etc, and didn’t like me with other guys, however all the mixed couples we met were the same and preferred soft swap)
I am like this too. Would not date someone on the scene seriously in a thousand years. I have women that I date in the "vanilla world" who I would never think of involving in swinging and I would drop them in a heartbeat if they told me they had been swinging.
Is it double standards? Yes. Yes it is indeed. Added to that, when I date black women I tend to have expectations that they dont involve themselves in swinging or much in the way of "extraordinary" sexual activity. I come from a culture which is harsh on the women...it is inevitable that those same expectations rub off on ourselves despite being raised in a western environment. So I know many black (and Asian too, I guess) guys would be uncomfortable with the idea of their other half playing in the scene. Men are protective of women's sexuality and our egos are fragile. I have seen for myself that, in many cases, swinging and committed relationships are complex things which most people cannot handle.
Outside of all this though, I tend to find that most of my black female friends/exes would avoid this site like the plague and the men within it. Lecherous, not particularly much to look at, creepy and extolling oddball fetishizations like those in the OP. Black men may be tolerant of the sexual fetishization of blackness (for good or bad...most likely bad) for an easy lay but black women are far less so. Looking at the behavior and attitudes expressed in the forum, it doesnt really surprise me that black women are not particularly excited at the prospect of swinging on here. Thats not to say there are not those on the scene...but their numbers are small for a reason.
Could you explain the oddball fetish i mention in my opening post?
Guess not.. "I made it before. A few too many of your posts seem to be about interracial sex. To anyone, especially someone black, who is not particularly swayed by NSA sex with strangers, its particularly offputting. And this is it. A lot of people here dont understand the thin line between having an interest in meeting singles and couples of different races and those who preoccupation makes them come off as massive oddballs. A lot of black women dont find the fact that you're looking for "black pussy" as a compliment...then compound that with the fact that black couples are going to be even less likely to engage as the men are not as open to the fetishism with their other halves. | |||
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"Personally, having been on the scene for 16 years and often being a couple, in my experience black guys ( not all but a majority) are less likely to want their partner doing full swap than white guys. I have/had a couple of black swinging female friends who have played as a couple with their FB’s at times, but know very few “real” black couples that swing full swap as couples I think this is a bit ott. No i can speak for am,but to think that a black guy won't want a white fucking his girl,just bcz he's white. Hmmmmm,I'm not sure to be honest with you . What's a 'real black couple?
I assumed they ment a real emotional couple, not a fuck buddy couple. Could be wrong though.
You can think it’s OTT it’s my experience, by “real couples” I mean those in committed relationships away from the scene etc. In MY personal experience of being both on the scene and in relationships with black guys since my teens this has almost always been the way.
Meet a guy, casual thing, he’s fine with girl doing her thing...
Once she’s sat round Sunday dinner with grandma/ making a home/having his kids, has his ring on her finger he suddenly doesn’t want to see another guy spunking all over her face.
Again, only my personal experience, but I know plenty of female friends have had the same. I was in a committed swinging relationship for many years and we found it virtually impossible to find couples with black guys looking for full swap, all those we met we ended up just doing girl/girl stuff ( partly my exes issue as he had the same thing once we were living together etc, and didn’t like me with other guys, however all the mixed couples we met were the same and preferred soft swap)
I am like this too. Would not date someone on the scene seriously in a thousand years. I have women that I date in the "vanilla world" who I would never think of involving in swinging and I would drop them in a heartbeat if they told me they had been swinging.
Is it double standards? Yes. Yes it is indeed. Added to that, when I date black women I tend to have expectations that they dont involve themselves in swinging or much in the way of "extraordinary" sexual activity. I come from a culture which is harsh on the women...it is inevitable that those same expectations rub off on ourselves despite being raised in a western environment. So I know many black (and Asian too, I guess) guys would be uncomfortable with the idea of their other half playing in the scene. Men are protective of women's sexuality and our egos are fragile. I have seen for myself that, in many cases, swinging and committed relationships are complex things which most people cannot handle.
Outside of all this though, I tend to find that most of my black female friends/exes would avoid this site like the plague and the men within it. Lecherous, not particularly much to look at, creepy and extolling oddball fetishizations like those in the OP. Black men may be tolerant of the sexual fetishization of blackness (for good or bad...most likely bad) for an easy lay but black women are far less so. Looking at the behavior and attitudes expressed in the forum, it doesnt really surprise me that black women are not particularly excited at the prospect of swinging on here. Thats not to say there are not those on the scene...but their numbers are small for a reason.
Could you explain the oddball fetish i mention in my opening post?
Guess not..
I made it before. A few too many of your posts seem to be about interracial sex. To anyone, especially someone black, who is not particularly swayed by NSA sex with strangers, its particularly offputting.
And this is it. A lot of people here dont understand the thin line between having an interest in meeting singles and couples of different races and those who preoccupation makes them come off as massive oddballs. A lot of black women dont find the fact that you're looking for "black pussy" as a compliment...then compound that with the fact that black couples are going to be even less likely to engage as the men are not as open to the fetishism with their other halves. "Black pussy | |||
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"Personally, having been on the scene for 16 years and often being a couple, in my experience black guys ( not all but a majority) are less likely to want their partner doing full swap than white guys. I have/had a couple of black swinging female friends who have played as a couple with their FB’s at times, but know very few “real” black couples that swing full swap as couples I think this is a bit ott. No i can speak for am,but to think that a black guy won't want a white fucking his girl,just bcz he's white. Hmmmmm,I'm not sure to be honest with you . What's a 'real black couple?
I assumed they ment a real emotional couple, not a fuck buddy couple. Could be wrong though.
You can think it’s OTT it’s my experience, by “real couples” I mean those in committed relationships away from the scene etc. In MY personal experience of being both on the scene and in relationships with black guys since my teens this has almost always been the way.
Meet a guy, casual thing, he’s fine with girl doing her thing...
Once she’s sat round Sunday dinner with grandma/ making a home/having his kids, has his ring on her finger he suddenly doesn’t want to see another guy spunking all over her face.
Again, only my personal experience, but I know plenty of female friends have had the same. I was in a committed swinging relationship for many years and we found it virtually impossible to find couples with black guys looking for full swap, all those we met we ended up just doing girl/girl stuff ( partly my exes issue as he had the same thing once we were living together etc, and didn’t like me with other guys, however all the mixed couples we met were the same and preferred soft swap)
I am like this too. Would not date someone on the scene seriously in a thousand years. I have women that I date in the "vanilla world" who I would never think of involving in swinging and I would drop them in a heartbeat if they told me they had been swinging.
Is it double standards? Yes. Yes it is indeed. Added to that, when I date black women I tend to have expectations that they dont involve themselves in swinging or much in the way of "extraordinary" sexual activity. I come from a culture which is harsh on the women...it is inevitable that those same expectations rub off on ourselves despite being raised in a western environment. So I know many black (and Asian too, I guess) guys would be uncomfortable with the idea of their other half playing in the scene. Men are protective of women's sexuality and our egos are fragile. I have seen for myself that, in many cases, swinging and committed relationships are complex things which most people cannot handle.
Outside of all this though, I tend to find that most of my black female friends/exes would avoid this site like the plague and the men within it. Lecherous, not particularly much to look at, creepy and extolling oddball fetishizations like those in the OP. Black men may be tolerant of the sexual fetishization of blackness (for good or bad...most likely bad) for an easy lay but black women are far less so. Looking at the behavior and attitudes expressed in the forum, it doesnt really surprise me that black women are not particularly excited at the prospect of swinging on here. Thats not to say there are not those on the scene...but their numbers are small for a reason.
Could you explain the oddball fetish i mention in my opening post?
Guess not..
I made it before. A few too many of your posts seem to be about interracial sex. To anyone, especially someone black, who is not particularly swayed by NSA sex with strangers, its particularly offputting.
And this is it. A lot of people here dont understand the thin line between having an interest in meeting singles and couples of different races and those who preoccupation makes them come off as massive oddballs. A lot of black women dont find the fact that you're looking for "black pussy" as a compliment...then compound that with the fact that black couples are going to be even less likely to engage as the men are not as open to the fetishism with their other halves.
Black pussy "You come off as a weirdo. Its massively unattractive. Thankfully, I'm one of the few whose honest enough to tell you that to most black couples, you're a turn off. | |||
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"Also, FYI, if you want to entice black couples actually try being attractive. Some of you seem to think that you should be rewarded with sex simply by virtue of being white...because you see the same with people asking for "BBC". You'll actually tend to find that many will not simply fuck a black guy for being black but are simply attracted to black men and aim for the attractive ones. I see a lot of whiners here complaining as if they're being denied sex simply o the basis of being white...amusing considering how many of you then go on to project that same feeling onto others. There are actually black couples on here...if you're not attracting them then that probably has more to do with you than them. You can continue to whine in a thread about all the pointless reasons why they wont fuck you. " that’s made me larf. I didn’t actually manage to finish reading I’m laughing so much.
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"Personally, having been on the scene for 16 years and often being a couple, in my experience black guys ( not all but a majority) are less likely to want their partner doing full swap than white guys. I have/had a couple of black swinging female friends who have played as a couple with their FB’s at times, but know very few “real” black couples that swing full swap as couples I think this is a bit ott. No i can speak for am,but to think that a black guy won't want a white fucking his girl,just bcz he's white. Hmmmmm,I'm not sure to be honest with you . What's a 'real black couple?
I assumed they ment a real emotional couple, not a fuck buddy couple. Could be wrong though.
You can think it’s OTT it’s my experience, by “real couples” I mean those in committed relationships away from the scene etc. In MY personal experience of being both on the scene and in relationships with black guys since my teens this has almost always been the way.
Meet a guy, casual thing, he’s fine with girl doing her thing...
Once she’s sat round Sunday dinner with grandma/ making a home/having his kids, has his ring on her finger he suddenly doesn’t want to see another guy spunking all over her face.
Again, only my personal experience, but I know plenty of female friends have had the same. I was in a committed swinging relationship for many years and we found it virtually impossible to find couples with black guys looking for full swap, all those we met we ended up just doing girl/girl stuff ( partly my exes issue as he had the same thing once we were living together etc, and didn’t like me with other guys, however all the mixed couples we met were the same and preferred soft swap)
I am like this too. Would not date someone on the scene seriously in a thousand years. I have women that I date in the "vanilla world" who I would never think of involving in swinging and I would drop them in a heartbeat if they told me they had been swinging.
Is it double standards? Yes. Yes it is indeed. Added to that, when I date black women I tend to have expectations that they dont involve themselves in swinging or much in the way of "extraordinary" sexual activity. I come from a culture which is harsh on the women...it is inevitable that those same expectations rub off on ourselves despite being raised in a western environment. So I know many black (and Asian too, I guess) guys would be uncomfortable with the idea of their other half playing in the scene. Men are protective of women's sexuality and our egos are fragile. I have seen for myself that, in many cases, swinging and committed relationships are complex things which most people cannot handle.
Outside of all this though, I tend to find that most of my black female friends/exes would avoid this site like the plague and the men within it. Lecherous, not particularly much to look at, creepy and extolling oddball fetishizations like those in the OP. Black men may be tolerant of the sexual fetishization of blackness (for good or bad...most likely bad) for an easy lay but black women are far less so. Looking at the behavior and attitudes expressed in the forum, it doesnt really surprise me that black women are not particularly excited at the prospect of swinging on here. Thats not to say there are not those on the scene...but their numbers are small for a reason.
Could you explain the oddball fetish i mention in my opening post?
Guess not..
I made it before. A few too many of your posts seem to be about interracial sex. To anyone, especially someone black, who is not particularly swayed by NSA sex with strangers, its particularly offputting.
And this is it. A lot of people here dont understand the thin line between having an interest in meeting singles and couples of different races and those who preoccupation makes them come off as massive oddballs. A lot of black women dont find the fact that you're looking for "black pussy" as a compliment...then compound that with the fact that black couples are going to be even less likely to engage as the men are not as open to the fetishism with their other halves.
Black pussy
You come off as a weirdo. Its massively unattractive. Thankfully, I'm one of the few whose honest enough to tell you that to most black couples, you're a turn off. "That's fine. I'm turned off by hypocritical racsists. | |||
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"Personally, having been on the scene for 16 years and often being a couple, in my experience black guys ( not all but a majority) are less likely to want their partner doing full swap than white guys. I have/had a couple of black swinging female friends who have played as a couple with their FB’s at times, but know very few “real” black couples that swing full swap as couples I think this is a bit ott. No i can speak for am,but to think that a black guy won't want a white fucking his girl,just bcz he's white. Hmmmmm,I'm not sure to be honest with you . What's a 'real black couple?
I assumed they ment a real emotional couple, not a fuck buddy couple. Could be wrong though.
You can think it’s OTT it’s my experience, by “real couples” I mean those in committed relationships away from the scene etc. In MY personal experience of being both on the scene and in relationships with black guys since my teens this has almost always been the way.
Meet a guy, casual thing, he’s fine with girl doing her thing...
Once she’s sat round Sunday dinner with grandma/ making a home/having his kids, has his ring on her finger he suddenly doesn’t want to see another guy spunking all over her face.
Again, only my personal experience, but I know plenty of female friends have had the same. I was in a committed swinging relationship for many years and we found it virtually impossible to find couples with black guys looking for full swap, all those we met we ended up just doing girl/girl stuff ( partly my exes issue as he had the same thing once we were living together etc, and didn’t like me with other guys, however all the mixed couples we met were the same and preferred soft swap)
I am like this too. Would not date someone on the scene seriously in a thousand years. I have women that I date in the "vanilla world" who I would never think of involving in swinging and I would drop them in a heartbeat if they told me they had been swinging.
Is it double standards? Yes. Yes it is indeed. Added to that, when I date black women I tend to have expectations that they dont involve themselves in swinging or much in the way of "extraordinary" sexual activity. I come from a culture which is harsh on the women...it is inevitable that those same expectations rub off on ourselves despite being raised in a western environment. So I know many black (and Asian too, I guess) guys would be uncomfortable with the idea of their other half playing in the scene. Men are protective of women's sexuality and our egos are fragile. I have seen for myself that, in many cases, swinging and committed relationships are complex things which most people cannot handle.
Outside of all this though, I tend to find that most of my black female friends/exes would avoid this site like the plague and the men within it. Lecherous, not particularly much to look at, creepy and extolling oddball fetishizations like those in the OP. Black men may be tolerant of the sexual fetishization of blackness (for good or bad...most likely bad) for an easy lay but black women are far less so. Looking at the behavior and attitudes expressed in the forum, it doesnt really surprise me that black women are not particularly excited at the prospect of swinging on here. Thats not to say there are not those on the scene...but their numbers are small for a reason.
Could you explain the oddball fetish i mention in my opening post?
Guess not..
I made it before. A few too many of your posts seem to be about interracial sex. To anyone, especially someone black, who is not particularly swayed by NSA sex with strangers, its particularly offputting.
And this is it. A lot of people here dont understand the thin line between having an interest in meeting singles and couples of different races and those who preoccupation makes them come off as massive oddballs. A lot of black women dont find the fact that you're looking for "black pussy" as a compliment...then compound that with the fact that black couples are going to be even less likely to engage as the men are not as open to the fetishism with their other halves.
Black pussy
You come off as a weirdo. Its massively unattractive. Thankfully, I'm one of the few whose honest enough to tell you that to most black couples, you're a turn off. "Mr Superfreak, some of your posts are frankly, unpleasant. I dont know why you feel the need. Really I dont | |||
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" It has nothing to do with disrespecting but rather point of view, valve and principle which each individual has been brought up in or developed over time. Because you share your partner does not mean the other man wants to share his partner." Exactly. And its comical. As if, they have a right or entitlement to your partner because you share theirs. Swapping is really down to you, or you and your partner. Just because you engage in it, does not mean others will. I dont like sharing my partners...if thats unattractive to people on here so be it. Plenty of couples on here who are not looking for single men...perfectly fine. I dont even bother messaging. But to think there is some kind of expectation of me to do so is as comical as it is pathetic. But it tends to come from the same types who seem to think that swinging needs to come with some kind of behavioral parity between playmates. Look how quick many of them are to throw tantrums and reduce themselves to the same namecalling they criticize the "politically correct types" for. Its so childish. As said, is people here invested time into being more attractive or desirable they would not need to barter for sex using shaming tactics and criticism. | |||
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"Personally, having been on the scene for 16 years and often being a couple, in my experience black guys ( not all but a majority) are less likely to want their partner doing full swap than white guys. I have/had a couple of black swinging female friends who have played as a couple with their FB’s at times, but know very few “real” black couples that swing full swap as couples I think this is a bit ott. No i can speak for am,but to think that a black guy won't want a white fucking his girl,just bcz he's white. Hmmmmm,I'm not sure to be honest with you . What's a 'real black couple?
I assumed they ment a real emotional couple, not a fuck buddy couple. Could be wrong though.
You can think it’s OTT it’s my experience, by “real couples” I mean those in committed relationships away from the scene etc. In MY personal experience of being both on the scene and in relationships with black guys since my teens this has almost always been the way.
Meet a guy, casual thing, he’s fine with girl doing her thing...
Once she’s sat round Sunday dinner with grandma/ making a home/having his kids, has his ring on her finger he suddenly doesn’t want to see another guy spunking all over her face.
Again, only my personal experience, but I know plenty of female friends have had the same. I was in a committed swinging relationship for many years and we found it virtually impossible to find couples with black guys looking for full swap, all those we met we ended up just doing girl/girl stuff ( partly my exes issue as he had the same thing once we were living together etc, and didn’t like me with other guys, however all the mixed couples we met were the same and preferred soft swap)
I am like this too. Would not date someone on the scene seriously in a thousand years. I have women that I date in the "vanilla world" who I would never think of involving in swinging and I would drop them in a heartbeat if they told me they had been swinging.
Is it double standards? Yes. Yes it is indeed. Added to that, when I date black women I tend to have expectations that they dont involve themselves in swinging or much in the way of "extraordinary" sexual activity. I come from a culture which is harsh on the women...it is inevitable that those same expectations rub off on ourselves despite being raised in a western environment. So I know many black (and Asian too, I guess) guys would be uncomfortable with the idea of their other half playing in the scene. Men are protective of women's sexuality and our egos are fragile. I have seen for myself that, in many cases, swinging and committed relationships are complex things which most people cannot handle.
Outside of all this though, I tend to find that most of my black female friends/exes would avoid this site like the plague and the men within it. Lecherous, not particularly much to look at, creepy and extolling oddball fetishizations like those in the OP. Black men may be tolerant of the sexual fetishization of blackness (for good or bad...most likely bad) for an easy lay but black women are far less so. Looking at the behavior and attitudes expressed in the forum, it doesnt really surprise me that black women are not particularly excited at the prospect of swinging on here. Thats not to say there are not those on the scene...but their numbers are small for a reason.
Could you explain the oddball fetish i mention in my opening post?
Guess not..
I made it before. A few too many of your posts seem to be about interracial sex. To anyone, especially someone black, who is not particularly swayed by NSA sex with strangers, its particularly offputting.
And this is it. A lot of people here dont understand the thin line between having an interest in meeting singles and couples of different races and those who preoccupation makes them come off as massive oddballs. A lot of black women dont find the fact that you're looking for "black pussy" as a compliment...then compound that with the fact that black couples are going to be even less likely to engage as the men are not as open to the fetishism with their other halves.
Black pussy
You come off as a weirdo. Its massively unattractive. Thankfully, I'm one of the few whose honest enough to tell you that to most black couples, you're a turn off.
That's fine. I'm turned off by hypocritical racsists. "LOL, not wanting to play with you makes me racist? Isnt this what white people on here complain about when they state that they dont want to play with asians/blacks/whatever? No, someone not wanting to have sex with you does not make one racist...you child. | |||
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"Personally, having been on the scene for 16 years and often being a couple, in my experience black guys ( not all but a majority) are less likely to want their partner doing full swap than white guys. I have/had a couple of black swinging female friends who have played as a couple with their FB’s at times, but know very few “real” black couples that swing full swap as couples I think this is a bit ott. No i can speak for am,but to think that a black guy won't want a white fucking his girl,just bcz he's white. Hmmmmm,I'm not sure to be honest with you . What's a 'real black couple?
I assumed they ment a real emotional couple, not a fuck buddy couple. Could be wrong though.
You can think it’s OTT it’s my experience, by “real couples” I mean those in committed relationships away from the scene etc. In MY personal experience of being both on the scene and in relationships with black guys since my teens this has almost always been the way.
Meet a guy, casual thing, he’s fine with girl doing her thing...
Once she’s sat round Sunday dinner with grandma/ making a home/having his kids, has his ring on her finger he suddenly doesn’t want to see another guy spunking all over her face.
Again, only my personal experience, but I know plenty of female friends have had the same. I was in a committed swinging relationship for many years and we found it virtually impossible to find couples with black guys looking for full swap, all those we met we ended up just doing girl/girl stuff ( partly my exes issue as he had the same thing once we were living together etc, and didn’t like me with other guys, however all the mixed couples we met were the same and preferred soft swap)
I am like this too. Would not date someone on the scene seriously in a thousand years. I have women that I date in the "vanilla world" who I would never think of involving in swinging and I would drop them in a heartbeat if they told me they had been swinging.
Is it double standards? Yes. Yes it is indeed. Added to that, when I date black women I tend to have expectations that they dont involve themselves in swinging or much in the way of "extraordinary" sexual activity. I come from a culture which is harsh on the women...it is inevitable that those same expectations rub off on ourselves despite being raised in a western environment. So I know many black (and Asian too, I guess) guys would be uncomfortable with the idea of their other half playing in the scene. Men are protective of women's sexuality and our egos are fragile. I have seen for myself that, in many cases, swinging and committed relationships are complex things which most people cannot handle.
Outside of all this though, I tend to find that most of my black female friends/exes would avoid this site like the plague and the men within it. Lecherous, not particularly much to look at, creepy and extolling oddball fetishizations like those in the OP. Black men may be tolerant of the sexual fetishization of blackness (for good or bad...most likely bad) for an easy lay but black women are far less so. Looking at the behavior and attitudes expressed in the forum, it doesnt really surprise me that black women are not particularly excited at the prospect of swinging on here. Thats not to say there are not those on the scene...but their numbers are small for a reason.
Could you explain the oddball fetish i mention in my opening post?
Guess not..
I made it before. A few too many of your posts seem to be about interracial sex. To anyone, especially someone black, who is not particularly swayed by NSA sex with strangers, its particularly offputting.
And this is it. A lot of people here dont understand the thin line between having an interest in meeting singles and couples of different races and those who preoccupation makes them come off as massive oddballs. A lot of black women dont find the fact that you're looking for "black pussy" as a compliment...then compound that with the fact that black couples are going to be even less likely to engage as the men are not as open to the fetishism with their other halves.
Black pussy
You come off as a weirdo. Its massively unattractive. Thankfully, I'm one of the few whose honest enough to tell you that to most black couples, you're a turn off.
That's fine. I'm turned off by hypocritical racsists.
LOL, not wanting to play with you makes me racist?
Isnt this what white people on here complain about when they state that they dont want to play with asians/blacks/whatever?
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"Personally, having been on the scene for 16 years and often being a couple, in my experience black guys ( not all but a majority) are less likely to want their partner doing full swap than white guys. I have/had a couple of black swinging female friends who have played as a couple with their FB’s at times, but know very few “real” black couples that swing full swap as couples I think this is a bit ott. No i can speak for am,but to think that a black guy won't want a white fucking his girl,just bcz he's white. Hmmmmm,I'm not sure to be honest with you . What's a 'real black couple?
I assumed they ment a real emotional couple, not a fuck buddy couple. Could be wrong though.
You can think it’s OTT it’s my experience, by “real couples” I mean those in committed relationships away from the scene etc. In MY personal experience of being both on the scene and in relationships with black guys since my teens this has almost always been the way.
Meet a guy, casual thing, he’s fine with girl doing her thing...
Once she’s sat round Sunday dinner with grandma/ making a home/having his kids, has his ring on her finger he suddenly doesn’t want to see another guy spunking all over her face.
Again, only my personal experience, but I know plenty of female friends have had the same. I was in a committed swinging relationship for many years and we found it virtually impossible to find couples with black guys looking for full swap, all those we met we ended up just doing girl/girl stuff ( partly my exes issue as he had the same thing once we were living together etc, and didn’t like me with other guys, however all the mixed couples we met were the same and preferred soft swap)
I am like this too. Would not date someone on the scene seriously in a thousand years. I have women that I date in the "vanilla world" who I would never think of involving in swinging and I would drop them in a heartbeat if they told me they had been swinging.
Is it double standards? Yes. Yes it is indeed. Added to that, when I date black women I tend to have expectations that they dont involve themselves in swinging or much in the way of "extraordinary" sexual activity. I come from a culture which is harsh on the women...it is inevitable that those same expectations rub off on ourselves despite being raised in a western environment. So I know many black (and Asian too, I guess) guys would be uncomfortable with the idea of their other half playing in the scene. Men are protective of women's sexuality and our egos are fragile. I have seen for myself that, in many cases, swinging and committed relationships are complex things which most people cannot handle.
Outside of all this though, I tend to find that most of my black female friends/exes would avoid this site like the plague and the men within it. Lecherous, not particularly much to look at, creepy and extolling oddball fetishizations like those in the OP. Black men may be tolerant of the sexual fetishization of blackness (for good or bad...most likely bad) for an easy lay but black women are far less so. Looking at the behavior and attitudes expressed in the forum, it doesnt really surprise me that black women are not particularly excited at the prospect of swinging on here. Thats not to say there are not those on the scene...but their numbers are small for a reason.
Could you explain the oddball fetish i mention in my opening post?
Guess not..
I made it before. A few too many of your posts seem to be about interracial sex. To anyone, especially someone black, who is not particularly swayed by NSA sex with strangers, its particularly offputting.
And this is it. A lot of people here dont understand the thin line between having an interest in meeting singles and couples of different races and those who preoccupation makes them come off as massive oddballs. A lot of black women dont find the fact that you're looking for "black pussy" as a compliment...then compound that with the fact that black couples are going to be even less likely to engage as the men are not as open to the fetishism with their other halves.
Black pussy
You come off as a weirdo. Its massively unattractive. Thankfully, I'm one of the few whose honest enough to tell you that to most black couples, you're a turn off.
That's fine. I'm turned off by hypocritical racsists.
LOL, not wanting to play with you makes me racist?
Isnt this what white people on here complain about when they state that they dont want to play with asians/blacks/whatever?
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"Personally, having been on the scene for 16 years and often being a couple, in my experience black guys ( not all but a majority) are less likely to want their partner doing full swap than white guys. I have/had a couple of black swinging female friends who have played as a couple with their FB’s at times, but know very few “real” black couples that swing full swap as couples I think this is a bit ott. No i can speak for am,but to think that a black guy won't want a white fucking his girl,just bcz he's white. Hmmmmm,I'm not sure to be honest with you . What's a 'real black couple?
I assumed they ment a real emotional couple, not a fuck buddy couple. Could be wrong though.
You can think it’s OTT it’s my experience, by “real couples” I mean those in committed relationships away from the scene etc. In MY personal experience of being both on the scene and in relationships with black guys since my teens this has almost always been the way.
Meet a guy, casual thing, he’s fine with girl doing her thing...
Once she’s sat round Sunday dinner with grandma/ making a home/having his kids, has his ring on her finger he suddenly doesn’t want to see another guy spunking all over her face.
Again, only my personal experience, but I know plenty of female friends have had the same. I was in a committed swinging relationship for many years and we found it virtually impossible to find couples with black guys looking for full swap, all those we met we ended up just doing girl/girl stuff ( partly my exes issue as he had the same thing once we were living together etc, and didn’t like me with other guys, however all the mixed couples we met were the same and preferred soft swap)
I am like this too. Would not date someone on the scene seriously in a thousand years. I have women that I date in the "vanilla world" who I would never think of involving in swinging and I would drop them in a heartbeat if they told me they had been swinging.
Is it double standards? Yes. Yes it is indeed. Added to that, when I date black women I tend to have expectations that they dont involve themselves in swinging or much in the way of "extraordinary" sexual activity. I come from a culture which is harsh on the women...it is inevitable that those same expectations rub off on ourselves despite being raised in a western environment. So I know many black (and Asian too, I guess) guys would be uncomfortable with the idea of their other half playing in the scene. Men are protective of women's sexuality and our egos are fragile. I have seen for myself that, in many cases, swinging and committed relationships are complex things which most people cannot handle.
Outside of all this though, I tend to find that most of my black female friends/exes would avoid this site like the plague and the men within it. Lecherous, not particularly much to look at, creepy and extolling oddball fetishizations like those in the OP. Black men may be tolerant of the sexual fetishization of blackness (for good or bad...most likely bad) for an easy lay but black women are far less so. Looking at the behavior and attitudes expressed in the forum, it doesnt really surprise me that black women are not particularly excited at the prospect of swinging on here. Thats not to say there are not those on the scene...but their numbers are small for a reason.
Could you explain the oddball fetish i mention in my opening post?
Guess not..
I made it before. A few too many of your posts seem to be about interracial sex. To anyone, especially someone black, who is not particularly swayed by NSA sex with strangers, its particularly offputting.
And this is it. A lot of people here dont understand the thin line between having an interest in meeting singles and couples of different races and those who preoccupation makes them come off as massive oddballs. A lot of black women dont find the fact that you're looking for "black pussy" as a compliment...then compound that with the fact that black couples are going to be even less likely to engage as the men are not as open to the fetishism with their other halves.
Black pussy
You come off as a weirdo. Its massively unattractive. Thankfully, I'm one of the few whose honest enough to tell you that to most black couples, you're a turn off.
That's fine. I'm turned off by hypocritical racsists.
LOL, not wanting to play with you makes me racist?
Isnt this what white people on here complain about when they state that they dont want to play with asians/blacks/whatever?
No, someone not wanting to have sex with you does not make one racist...you child.
Weird how you change your tune when it suits. "I have always been adamant that people should never be made to feel guilty about not having sex with those they're not attracted to. But go ahead, state where I said the opposite. Some of you are so stupid, I swear. | |||
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"I would love to see more black women on here, but as with all races, the men outnumber the women by quite some margin. I'm talking about full swap black couples who swap with white couples. That's what I'd like to see. " They do exist  | |||
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"Are you saying that you won't fuck white couples? Who me?. Lexi won't fuck a white guy now. It's not a fantasy or anything kinky. It's just who she is. Me obviously i don't mind on colour so much. More respect and manners etc. But saying that I've never been with an Asian woman to date
Sorry no I meant the OP.
Still interesting though. Would you say that Lexi is racist for not wanting to fuck a white guy?"Oh okay ha. Racist? . No she's not lol. A preference isn't anything to do with being racist  . It's who she's attracted to mentally and physically. He lifestyle is more around black culture. She listens to bashment,dancehall etc. The food she eats,the vanilla clubs she goes to. How can you ask that? | |||
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"Are you saying that you won't fuck white couples? Who me?. Lexi won't fuck a white guy now. It's not a fantasy or anything kinky. It's just who she is. Me obviously i don't mind on colour so much. More respect and manners etc. But saying that I've never been with an Asian woman to date
Sorry no I meant the OP.
Still interesting though. Would you say that Lexi is racist for not wanting to fuck a white guy?
Not wanting to sleep with a certain race doesn't make you racist
Some people think it is."How and why is it,do you think it's racist. I don't like tea but i love hot chocolate. Am i tea racist?. | |||
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"Is someone's skin colour really a factor? Surely everything else is more important? Why not start a thread about it? I'd probably attract about as many comments as this one has...lol Lol they'll be loads soon you'll see! I bet there loads of black couples who full swap with white couples on fab! There's loads of black guys, so stands to reason that there must also be couples! "That's where you're wrong though I think, there aren't many black women at all in here | |||
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"Are you saying that you won't fuck white couples? Who me?. Lexi won't fuck a white guy now. It's not a fantasy or anything kinky. It's just who she is. Me obviously i don't mind on colour so much. More respect and manners etc. But saying that I've never been with an Asian woman to date
Oh I adore Asian women and have had some great adventures with them in my time. However on a sexual level my lady is only interested in black and white men. So unless we bump into an Asian woman with a black or white partner I won't be meeting another any time soon (cries inconsolably )"Oh right. That's fare though haha. I feel your pain mate . Why is she only into black or white guys? | |||
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"Is someone's skin colour really a factor? Surely everything else is more important? Why not start a thread about it? I'd probably attract about as many comments as this one has...lol Lol they'll be loads soon you'll see! I bet there loads of black couples who full swap with white couples on fab! There's loads of black guys, so stands to reason that there must also be couples!
That's where you're wrong though I think, there aren't many black women at all in here"I've seen loads. None are really after black guys though ha. Ima cry. Maybe location and age will differ our results somewhat though | |||
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"Wow well that escalated a bit! Whilst it’s not nice seeing unpleasantness, it’s really interesting seeing different points of view. I kind of get what superfreak is saying about the fetishism- I have always been into black guys, since I became aware of my sexuality, I lost my virginity to a black guy in my teens and all but one of my serious partners have been black. I attend nights like BMFC purely because there tends to be more people I’m attracted to, but hate the QoS crap and all that “BBC” stuff, and I do find it offensive when I get messages off people purely getting off on that.... so I can see how black couples/females could feel there’s a lot of that. " I hate it. Anyone who messages me about BBC. I put them for in their place and then move on. I'm a black male not a BBC. My cock isn't me,it's part of me. Even though i don't mind people's fantasies etc. I wouldn't meet someone just bcz they wanted a black guy. They'd have to have some knowledge of black background as I'm not a fair ride it an attraction | |||
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" Haha no nothing has really happened yet, lack of time means I won’t be doing much until jan now - have had discussions with a few friends about having some sort of group session with a mix of people who know each other and seeing what happens though - you know I never commit to playing as I have to feel the vibe at the moment in time to get into it, but my ideal at the moment is probably a mixed group of 6-8 people who know each other from Xtasia and seeing how it goes. I think women are different to men also.... men seem to be able to enjoy an unlimited string of different women and not get bored. For me, as good as a guy may be, I often feel bored in a 121 situation. As you know, I have a regular guy I’ve been seeing for a couple of years and we have an incredible sex life- and it can be hard for me to match that high in a one-off in a club, I enjoy playing with him, but generally FFM’s have been more fun than MFMF for me as often I’m not that into the guy, hence wanting to try different things (sadly there isn’t too much I haven’t tried!!) You have that in common with my lady. Its why we don't arrange private meets. She needs to get used to people before even considering it. FFM is a no no for her which from my perspective is a shame but like you I have already done just about everything over the years so its not a major loss. She feels most at ease with MFM scenarios in clubs which is ok with me as long as the other guy is bi curious too. Otherwise I'd get extremely bored quite quickly" She like FMF,is that bcz she's not bi?. | |||
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"I love his post the fact that he does not sugar coat anything. straight and direct What you are trying to compare is black and white (literally) apples and oranges. Imo both race usually view life very differently which treacles down into sex, regarding sex and even life looking at it from a black person point of view, white especially westerners are much more liberated about life in general, which blur the boundaries but of course, there is no right or wrong. It has nothing to do with disrespecting but rather point of view, valve and principle which each individual has been brought up in or developed over time. Because you share your partner does not mean the other man wants to share his partner." Bang on! . Said without any malice either. Props to you . But that's another interesting point. Just bcz you share yours,doesn't mean he has to. Some think bcz they don't then you don't it vice versa. That's where it gets sticky,and not in a way | |||
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"This thread has been quite informative. Thanks. "In what way has it helped You,stay away from certain people or how certain faces may look at this particular situation? | |||
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"This thread has been quite informative. Thanks.
In what way has it helped You,stay away from certain people or how certain faces may look at this particular situation?"I don't quite get your question, but to be clear, it has helped because it has given me insight into how different people view this particular topic. Insight I didn't previously have. It opened my eyes a bit. So, yeah, it's been informative. | |||
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In what way has it helped You,stay away from certain people or how certain faces may look at this particular situation?"For me it confirmed my theory. | |||
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"This thread has been quite informative. Thanks.
In what way has it helped You,stay away from certain people or how certain faces may look at this particular situation?
I don't quite get your question, but to be clear, it has helped because it has given me insight into how different people view this particular topic. Insight I didn't previously have. It opened my eyes a bit. So, yeah, it's been informative."Stupid autocorrect  . Oh okay cool. So has it changed how you'd go about approaching a mix couple? | |||
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In what way has it helped You,stay away from certain people or how certain faces may look at this particular situation?
For me it confirmed my theory."Which was what? | |||
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"This thread may have confirmed theories , it may be that many think there aren’t many black couples that swap , and off topic , plenty who will or won’t fuck black people . But as far as we are concerned all the theories and thoughts are just complete crap , as there are plenty of black couples who swap , and we don’t really give a fuck if people don’t want to play with people of different races ." They were only people's opinions though. Wouldn't go as far as to say they were crap . | |||
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"Are you saying that you won't fuck white couples? Who me?. Lexi won't fuck a white guy now. It's not a fantasy or anything kinky. It's just who she is. Me obviously i don't mind on colour so much. More respect and manners etc. But saying that I've never been with an Asian woman to date
Sorry no I meant the OP.
Still interesting though. Would you say that Lexi is racist for not wanting to fuck a white guy?
Not wanting to sleep with a certain race doesn't make you racist
Some people think it is.
How and why is it,do you think it's racist. I don't like tea but i love hot chocolate. Am i tea racist?. "I said on a thread last week that I won't fuck black men. I was just using it as an example to make a point (it's not true) but I was told that I'm racist. They ignored the other groups I listed in the OP and so missed the entire point I was making. It was an interesting witch hunt though. No you're not tea racist. | |||
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"Are you saying that you won't fuck white couples? Who me?. Lexi won't fuck a white guy now. It's not a fantasy or anything kinky. It's just who she is. Me obviously i don't mind on colour so much. More respect and manners etc. But saying that I've never been with an Asian woman to date
Sorry no I meant the OP.
Still interesting though. Would you say that Lexi is racist for not wanting to fuck a white guy?
Not wanting to sleep with a certain race doesn't make you racist
Some people think it is.
How and why is it,do you think it's racist. I don't like tea but i love hot chocolate. Am i tea racist?.
I said on a thread last week that I won't fuck black men.
I was just using it as an example to make a point (it's not true) but I was told that I'm racist. They ignored the other groups I listed in the OP and so missed the entire point I was making. It was an interesting witch hunt though.
No you're not tea racist. "Bwoy. That sounds like a very heated thread ha. I wouldn't say you're racist bcz you don't find black men attractive. What about black women? | |||
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"Are you saying that you won't fuck white couples? Who me?. Lexi won't fuck a white guy now. It's not a fantasy or anything kinky. It's just who she is. Me obviously i don't mind on colour so much. More respect and manners etc. But saying that I've never been with an Asian woman to date
Sorry no I meant the OP.
Still interesting though. Would you say that Lexi is racist for not wanting to fuck a white guy?
Not wanting to sleep with a certain race doesn't make you racist
Some people think it is.
How and why is it,do you think it's racist. I don't like tea but i love hot chocolate. Am i tea racist?.
I said on a thread last week that I won't fuck black men.
I was just using it as an example to make a point (it's not true) but I was told that I'm racist. They ignored the other groups I listed in the OP and so missed the entire point I was making. It was an interesting witch hunt though.
No you're not tea racist.
Bwoy. That sounds like a very heated thread ha. I wouldn't say you're racist bcz you don't find black men attractive. What about black women?"I find some black men and some black women attractive. | |||
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"Are you saying that you won't fuck white couples? Who me?. Lexi won't fuck a white guy now. It's not a fantasy or anything kinky. It's just who she is. Me obviously i don't mind on colour so much. More respect and manners etc. But saying that I've never been with an Asian woman to date
Sorry no I meant the OP.
Still interesting though. Would you say that Lexi is racist for not wanting to fuck a white guy?
Not wanting to sleep with a certain race doesn't make you racist
Some people think it is.
How and why is it,do you think it's racist. I don't like tea but i love hot chocolate. Am i tea racist?.
I said on a thread last week that I won't fuck black men.
I was just using it as an example to make a point (it's not true) but I was told that I'm racist. They ignored the other groups I listed in the OP and so missed the entire point I was making. It was an interesting witch hunt though.
No you're not tea racist. "It’s interesting how you reduced what was said on that thread to “I was told I’m a racist” — you missed a much more nuanced discussion and the difference between race-baiting and being racist. Ah well. | |||
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"Are you saying that you won't fuck white couples? Who me?. Lexi won't fuck a white guy now. It's not a fantasy or anything kinky. It's just who she is. Me obviously i don't mind on colour so much. More respect and manners etc. But saying that I've never been with an Asian woman to date
Sorry no I meant the OP.
Still interesting though. Would you say that Lexi is racist for not wanting to fuck a white guy?
Not wanting to sleep with a certain race doesn't make you racist
Some people think it is.
How and why is it,do you think it's racist. I don't like tea but i love hot chocolate. Am i tea racist?.
I said on a thread last week that I won't fuck black men.
I was just using it as an example to make a point (it's not true) but I was told that I'm racist. They ignored the other groups I listed in the OP and so missed the entire point I was making. It was an interesting witch hunt though.
No you're not tea racist.
It’s interesting how you reduced what was said on that thread to “I was told I’m a racist” — you missed a much more nuanced discussion and the difference between race-baiting and being racist. Ah well."You clearly know my mind better than I do. You know everything. | |||
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"Are you saying that you won't fuck white couples? Who me?. Lexi won't fuck a white guy now. It's not a fantasy or anything kinky. It's just who she is. Me obviously i don't mind on colour so much. More respect and manners etc. But saying that I've never been with an Asian woman to date
Sorry no I meant the OP.
Still interesting though. Would you say that Lexi is racist for not wanting to fuck a white guy?
Not wanting to sleep with a certain race doesn't make you racist
Some people think it is.
How and why is it,do you think it's racist. I don't like tea but i love hot chocolate. Am i tea racist?.
I said on a thread last week that I won't fuck black men.
I was just using it as an example to make a point (it's not true) but I was told that I'm racist. They ignored the other groups I listed in the OP and so missed the entire point I was making. It was an interesting witch hunt though.
No you're not tea racist.
It’s interesting how you reduced what was said on that thread to “I was told I’m a racist” — you missed a much more nuanced discussion and the difference between race-baiting and being racist. Ah well.
You clearly know my mind better than I do. You know everything. "That’s an odd response. | |||
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"This thread may have confirmed theories , it may be that many think there aren’t many black couples that swap , and off topic , plenty who will or won’t fuck black people . But as far as we are concerned all the theories and thoughts are just complete crap , as there are plenty of black couples who swap , and we don’t really give a fuck if people don’t want to play with people of different races . They were only people's opinions though. Wouldn't go as far as to say they were crap . ", Well based on our experience they are | |||
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"This thread has been quite informative. Thanks.
In what way has it helped You,stay away from certain people or how certain faces may look at this particular situation?
I don't quite get your question, but to be clear, it has helped because it has given me insight into how different people view this particular topic. Insight I didn't previously have. It opened my eyes a bit. So, yeah, it's been informative.
Stupid autocorrect . Oh okay cool. So has it changed how you'd go about approaching a mix couple?"Hmmm. Honestly? I'm generally happy to meet anyone I find attractive, regardless of race - although I do tend to find more white guys attractive to me than guys of other races. But, having read this thread, I find that some of the comments have made me less likely to meet black men. I completely understand some of the cultural points that have been made, and I have no problem with others acting in accordance with these cultural norms, but their existence, and the points made about them in this thread, have definitely made me more guarded about being with a black man in a swinging scenario. Like I said, I have no problem with the cultural points made in the thread, but I wouldn't want to be sexual with someone with that sort of background narrative. So...has it changed how I would approach mixed couples? Yes. It would make me more cautious really. | |||
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"Are you saying that you won't fuck white couples? Who me?. Lexi won't fuck a white guy now. It's not a fantasy or anything kinky. It's just who she is. Me obviously i don't mind on colour so much. More respect and manners etc. But saying that I've never been with an Asian woman to date
Sorry no I meant the OP.
Still interesting though. Would you say that Lexi is racist for not wanting to fuck a white guy?
Not wanting to sleep with a certain race doesn't make you racist
Some people think it is.
How and why is it,do you think it's racist. I don't like tea but i love hot chocolate. Am i tea racist?.
I said on a thread last week that I won't fuck black men.
I was just using it as an example to make a point (it's not true) but I was told that I'm racist. They ignored the other groups I listed in the OP and so missed the entire point I was making. It was an interesting witch hunt though.
No you're not tea racist.
Bwoy. That sounds like a very heated thread ha. I wouldn't say you're racist bcz you don't find black men attractive. What about black women?
I find some black men and some black women attractive. "Huh? . Right okay. But you just said you got called racist for not wanting to sleep with black men. It's too late for this kind of mix up. Either way i didn't think you were racist so cool cool hun | |||
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"This thread has been quite informative. Thanks.
In what way has it helped You,stay away from certain people or how certain faces may look at this particular situation?
I don't quite get your question, but to be clear, it has helped because it has given me insight into how different people view this particular topic. Insight I didn't previously have. It opened my eyes a bit. So, yeah, it's been informative.
Stupid autocorrect . Oh okay cool. So has it changed how you'd go about approaching a mix couple?
Hmmm. Honestly?
I'm generally happy to meet anyone I find attractive, regardless of race - although I do tend to find more white guys attractive to me than guys of other races. But, having read this thread, I find that some of the comments have made me less likely to meet black men. I completely understand some of the cultural points that have been made, and I have no problem with others acting in accordance with these cultural norms, but their existence, and the points made about them in this thread, have definitely made me more guarded about being with a black man in a swinging scenario.
Like I said, I have no problem with the cultural points made in the thread, but I wouldn't want to be sexual with someone with that sort of background narrative. So...has it changed how I would approach mixed couples? Yes. It would make me more cautious really."What points made by one or two people which is clearly a minority have made you think this way. | |||
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"A woman states she wants BBC and no one blinks an eye. A man says he wants to meet with a black couple and all hell breaks loose! "I blink very hard when i hear the term BBC. I have stated that in many threads where people use that describe a black male. I hate it with a passion. If they want a BBC,go by a big black dildo | |||
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"This thread has been quite informative. Thanks.
In what way has it helped You,stay away from certain people or how certain faces may look at this particular situation?
I don't quite get your question, but to be clear, it has helped because it has given me insight into how different people view this particular topic. Insight I didn't previously have. It opened my eyes a bit. So, yeah, it's been informative.
Stupid autocorrect . Oh okay cool. So has it changed how you'd go about approaching a mix couple?
Hmmm. Honestly?
I'm generally happy to meet anyone I find attractive, regardless of race - although I do tend to find more white guys attractive to me than guys of other races. But, having read this thread, I find that some of the comments have made me less likely to meet black men. I completely understand some of the cultural points that have been made, and I have no problem with others acting in accordance with these cultural norms, but their existence, and the points made about them in this thread, have definitely made me more guarded about being with a black man in a swinging scenario.
Like I said, I have no problem with the cultural points made in the thread, but I wouldn't want to be sexual with someone with that sort of background narrative. So...has it changed how I would approach mixed couples? Yes. It would make me more cautious really.
What points made by one or two people which is clearly a minority have made you think this way. "It's not hard to find the posts above that discuss the differences between black and white culture, especially when it comes to swinging. It's a minority, yes. Not enough to put me off black men, but enough to make me think and be more cautious. That's some of what I've taken from the thread. | |||
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"This thread has been quite informative. Thanks.
In what way has it helped You,stay away from certain people or how certain faces may look at this particular situation?
I don't quite get your question, but to be clear, it has helped because it has given me insight into how different people view this particular topic. Insight I didn't previously have. It opened my eyes a bit. So, yeah, it's been informative.
Stupid autocorrect . Oh okay cool. So has it changed how you'd go about approaching a mix couple?
Hmmm. Honestly?
I'm generally happy to meet anyone I find attractive, regardless of race - although I do tend to find more white guys attractive to me than guys of other races. But, having read this thread, I find that some of the comments have made me less likely to meet black men. I completely understand some of the cultural points that have been made, and I have no problem with others acting in accordance with these cultural norms, but their existence, and the points made about them in this thread, have definitely made me more guarded about being with a black man in a swinging scenario.
Like I said, I have no problem with the cultural points made in the thread, but I wouldn't want to be sexual with someone with that sort of background narrative. So...has it changed how I would approach mixed couples? Yes. It would make me more cautious really.
What points made by one or two people which is clearly a minority have made you think this way.
It's not hard to find the posts above that discuss the differences between black and white culture, especially when it comes to swinging. It's a minority, yes. Not enough to put me off black men, but enough to make me think and be more cautious. That's some of what I've taken from the thread. "I don't understand how difference in culture would make you wary to meet black men? | |||
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"This thread has been quite informative. Thanks.
In what way has it helped You,stay away from certain people or how certain faces may look at this particular situation?
For me it confirmed my theory.
Which was what?"Oh i had a theory that black guys didn't want to share their black partners with white guys/couples in a full swap situation, and that if i brought it up I'd get loads of abuse, yet no proof to the contrary. | |||
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"It's just skin pigmentation ffs." No, it's culture. | |||
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"This thread has been quite informative. Thanks.
In what way has it helped You,stay away from certain people or how certain faces may look at this particular situation?
For me it confirmed my theory.
Which was what?
Oh i had a theory that black guys didn't want to share their black partners with white guys/couples in a full swap situation, and that if i brought it up I'd get loads of abuse, yet no proof to the contrary."Wouldn't be too hard to find white blokes that don't want to share their white wives either. | |||
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"This thread has been quite informative. Thanks.
In what way has it helped You,stay away from certain people or how certain faces may look at this particular situation?
I don't quite get your question, but to be clear, it has helped because it has given me insight into how different people view this particular topic. Insight I didn't previously have. It opened my eyes a bit. So, yeah, it's been informative.
Stupid autocorrect . Oh okay cool. So has it changed how you'd go about approaching a mix couple?
Hmmm. Honestly?
I'm generally happy to meet anyone I find attractive, regardless of race - although I do tend to find more white guys attractive to me than guys of other races. But, having read this thread, I find that some of the comments have made me less likely to meet black men. I completely understand some of the cultural points that have been made, and I have no problem with others acting in accordance with these cultural norms, but their existence, and the points made about them in this thread, have definitely made me more guarded about being with a black man in a swinging scenario.
Like I said, I have no problem with the cultural points made in the thread, but I wouldn't want to be sexual with someone with that sort of background narrative. So...has it changed how I would approach mixed couples? Yes. It would make me more cautious really.
What points made by one or two people which is clearly a minority have made you think this way.
It's not hard to find the posts above that discuss the differences between black and white culture, especially when it comes to swinging. It's a minority, yes. Not enough to put me off black men, but enough to make me think and be more cautious. That's some of what I've taken from the thread.
I don't understand how difference in culture would make you wary to meet black men?"Its the perception of respect. Exactly the same gripe for BBW's who feel that men will fuck them. But not partner with them. | |||
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"This thread has been quite informative. Thanks.
In what way has it helped You,stay away from certain people or how certain faces may look at this particular situation?
For me it confirmed my theory.
Which was what?
Oh i had a theory that black guys didn't want to share their black partners with white guys/couples in a full swap situation, and that if i brought it up I'd get loads of abuse, yet no proof to the contrary.
Wouldn't be too hard to find white blokes that don't want to share their white wives either.
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"This thread has been quite informative. Thanks.
In what way has it helped You,stay away from certain people or how certain faces may look at this particular situation?
I don't quite get your question, but to be clear, it has helped because it has given me insight into how different people view this particular topic. Insight I didn't previously have. It opened my eyes a bit. So, yeah, it's been informative.
Stupid autocorrect . Oh okay cool. So has it changed how you'd go about approaching a mix couple?
Hmmm. Honestly?
I'm generally happy to meet anyone I find attractive, regardless of race - although I do tend to find more white guys attractive to me than guys of other races. But, having read this thread, I find that some of the comments have made me less likely to meet black men. I completely understand some of the cultural points that have been made, and I have no problem with others acting in accordance with these cultural norms, but their existence, and the points made about them in this thread, have definitely made me more guarded about being with a black man in a swinging scenario.
Like I said, I have no problem with the cultural points made in the thread, but I wouldn't want to be sexual with someone with that sort of background narrative. So...has it changed how I would approach mixed couples? Yes. It would make me more cautious really.
What points made by one or two people which is clearly a minority have made you think this way.
It's not hard to find the posts above that discuss the differences between black and white culture, especially when it comes to swinging. It's a minority, yes. Not enough to put me off black men, but enough to make me think and be more cautious. That's some of what I've taken from the thread.
I don't understand how difference in culture would make you wary to meet black men?"Ok, for example, Superfreak said above "So I know many black (and Asian too, I guess) guys would be uncomfortable with the idea of their other half playing in the scene." And then he went on to explain the difference in secual openness between different cultures, namely black and white cultures. What I am saying in return, is that this cultural point would make me a bit wary of meeting black men. It indicates, along with a few other comments, that there is a different way that one views women involved in swinging (in this case, generally white women), and women who you would date (in this case, generally black women). I already avoid men in general who see these differences, regardless of race, but the implication, at least by some, that it's somehow inherent in black culture, specifically as opposed to white culture, does make me more cautious about black men in a swinging environment. I've explained my feelings on meeting other couples and single men on a different thread by the OP (I think it was called Couple Questions or something similar) and this goes hand in hand with that...I think it might even have been part of the point he was making in that thread, but I don't want to read too much into his intentions. I hope that explains it better? | |||
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"It's just skin pigmentation ffs. No, it's culture. " Is it fuck. So what about those with brown skin brought up in white families. | |||
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"I would love to see more black women on here, but as with all races, the men outnumber the women by quite some margin." We've met many black men. Zero black cpls pr women. Racism perhaps. | |||
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"It's just skin pigmentation ffs. No, it's culture. Is it fuck. So what about those with brown skin brought up in white families." In a different culture? | |||
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"This thread has been quite informative. Thanks.
In what way has it helped You,stay away from certain people or how certain faces may look at this particular situation?
I don't quite get your question, but to be clear, it has helped because it has given me insight into how different people view this particular topic. Insight I didn't previously have. It opened my eyes a bit. So, yeah, it's been informative.
Stupid autocorrect . Oh okay cool. So has it changed how you'd go about approaching a mix couple?
Hmmm. Honestly?
I'm generally happy to meet anyone I find attractive, regardless of race - although I do tend to find more white guys attractive to me than guys of other races. But, having read this thread, I find that some of the comments have made me less likely to meet black men. I completely understand some of the cultural points that have been made, and I have no problem with others acting in accordance with these cultural norms, but their existence, and the points made about them in this thread, have definitely made me more guarded about being with a black man in a swinging scenario.
Like I said, I have no problem with the cultural points made in the thread, but I wouldn't want to be sexual with someone with that sort of background narrative. So...has it changed how I would approach mixed couples? Yes. It would make me more cautious really.
What points made by one or two people which is clearly a minority have made you think this way.
It's not hard to find the posts above that discuss the differences between black and white culture, especially when it comes to swinging. It's a minority, yes. Not enough to put me off black men, but enough to make me think and be more cautious. That's some of what I've taken from the thread.
I don't understand how difference in culture would make you wary to meet black men?
Ok, for example, Superfreak said above "So I know many black (and Asian too, I guess) guys would be uncomfortable with the idea of their other half playing in the scene." And then he went on to explain the difference in secual openness between different cultures, namely black and white cultures.
What I am saying in return, is that this cultural point would make me a bit wary of meeting black men. It indicates, along with a few other comments, that there is a different way that one views women involved in swinging (in this case, generally white women), and women who you would date (in this case, generally black women). I already avoid men in general who see these differences, regardless of race, but the implication, at least by some, that it's somehow inherent in black culture, specifically as opposed to white culture, does make me more cautious about black men in a swinging environment. I've explained my feelings on meeting other couples and single men on a different thread by the OP (I think it was called Couple Questions or something similar) and this goes hand in hand with that...I think it might even have been part of the point he was making in that thread, but I don't want to read too much into his intentions.
I hope that explains it better?"This is like the kind of thing I'd type if i was sober. | |||
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"It's just skin pigmentation ffs. No, it's culture. Is it fuck. So what about those with brown skin brought up in white families. In a different culture? " Well if it was that just goes to show it is just skin pigmentation | |||
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"This thread has been quite informative. Thanks.
In what way has it helped You,stay away from certain people or how certain faces may look at this particular situation?
For me it confirmed my theory.
Which was what?
Oh i had a theory that black guys didn't want to share their black partners with white guys/couples in a full swap situation, and that if i brought it up I'd get loads of abuse, yet no proof to the contrary.
Wouldn't be too hard to find white blokes that don't want to share their white wives either.
That's not a cultural difference, that's just being a dick. Imo."Don't think I've grasped the nub of the debate here. Are we talking about black couples swinging but the black bloke not be g happy if their partner wants to swing (or swing with white people)... Or just that there aren't many black couples on here and so we can't tell other than a few knob heads on here swinging without their wife's knowledge? | |||
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"This thread has been quite informative. Thanks.
In what way has it helped You,stay away from certain people or how certain faces may look at this particular situation?
I don't quite get your question, but to be clear, it has helped because it has given me insight into how different people view this particular topic. Insight I didn't previously have. It opened my eyes a bit. So, yeah, it's been informative.
Stupid autocorrect . Oh okay cool. So has it changed how you'd go about approaching a mix couple?
Hmmm. Honestly?
I'm generally happy to meet anyone I find attractive, regardless of race - although I do tend to find more white guys attractive to me than guys of other races. But, having read this thread, I find that some of the comments have made me less likely to meet black men. I completely understand some of the cultural points that have been made, and I have no problem with others acting in accordance with these cultural norms, but their existence, and the points made about them in this thread, have definitely made me more guarded about being with a black man in a swinging scenario.
Like I said, I have no problem with the cultural points made in the thread, but I wouldn't want to be sexual with someone with that sort of background narrative. So...has it changed how I would approach mixed couples? Yes. It would make me more cautious really.
What points made by one or two people which is clearly a minority have made you think this way.
It's not hard to find the posts above that discuss the differences between black and white culture, especially when it comes to swinging. It's a minority, yes. Not enough to put me off black men, but enough to make me think and be more cautious. That's some of what I've taken from the thread.
I don't understand how difference in culture would make you wary to meet black men?
Ok, for example, Superfreak said above "So I know many black (and Asian too, I guess) guys would be uncomfortable with the idea of their other half playing in the scene." And then he went on to explain the difference in secual openness between different cultures, namely black and white cultures.
What I am saying in return, is that this cultural point would make me a bit wary of meeting black men. It indicates, along with a few other comments, that there is a different way that one views women involved in swinging (in this case, generally white women), and women who you would date (in this case, generally black women). I already avoid men in general who see these differences, regardless of race, but the implication, at least by some, that it's somehow inherent in black culture, specifically as opposed to white culture, does make me more cautious about black men in a swinging environment. I've explained my feelings on meeting other couples and single men on a different thread by the OP (I think it was called Couple Questions or something similar) and this goes hand in hand with that...I think it might even have been part of the point he was making in that thread, but I don't want to read too much into his intentions.
I hope that explains it better?"Ah yes crystal clear. I only play with white men but in real life I only date Asian or black men, never really thought about it from the any other point of view until now. | |||
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"It's just skin pigmentation ffs. No, it's culture. Is it fuck. So what about those with brown skin brought up in white families. In a different culture? Well if it was that just goes to show it is just skin pigmentation" And not cultural? Right.... | |||
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"It's just skin pigmentation ffs. No, it's culture. Is it fuck. So what about those with brown skin brought up in white families." 100% it is about culture as well as skin colour | |||
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"I would love to see more black women on here, but as with all races, the men outnumber the women by quite some margin. We've met many black men. Zero black cpls pr women. Racism perhaps. " Doubt it | |||
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"I would love to see more black women on here, but as with all races, the men outnumber the women by quite some margin. We've met many black men. Zero black cpls pr women. Racism perhaps. " Our first bi experience was with a black couple. The first man I went down on as his wife, and mine, watched. | |||
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"This thread has been quite informative. Thanks.
In what way has it helped You,stay away from certain people or how certain faces may look at this particular situation?
For me it confirmed my theory.
Which was what?
Oh i had a theory that black guys didn't want to share their black partners with white guys/couples in a full swap situation, and that if i brought it up I'd get loads of abuse, yet no proof to the contrary.
Wouldn't be too hard to find white blokes that don't want to share their white wives either.
That's not a cultural difference, that's just being a dick. Imo.
Don't think I've grasped the nub of the debate here.
Are we talking about black couples swinging but the black bloke not be g happy if their partner wants to swing (or swing with white people)...
Or just that there aren't many black couples on here and so we can't tell other than a few knob heads on here swinging without their wife's knowledge?"Yeah, i think so. Delete as applicable. | |||
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"This thread has been quite informative. Thanks.
In what way has it helped You,stay away from certain people or how certain faces may look at this particular situation?
For me it confirmed my theory.
Which was what?
Oh i had a theory that black guys didn't want to share their black partners with white guys/couples in a full swap situation, and that if i brought it up I'd get loads of abuse, yet no proof to the contrary.
Wouldn't be too hard to find white blokes that don't want to share their white wives either.
That's not a cultural difference, that's just being a dick. Imo.
Don't think I've grasped the nub of the debate here.
Are we talking about black couples swinging but the black bloke not be g happy if their partner wants to swing (or swing with white people)...
Or just that there aren't many black couples on here and so we can't tell other than a few knob heads on here swinging without their wife's knowledge?
Yeah, i think so. Delete as applicable." | |||
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"I would love to see more black women on here, but as with all races, the men outnumber the women by quite some margin. We've met many black men. Zero black cpls pr women. Racism perhaps. Our first bi experience was with a black couple. The first man I went down on as his wife, and mine, watched. " Hey, if you got to fuck his wife to then fair play to you . | |||
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"I would love to see more black women on here, but as with all races, the men outnumber the women by quite some margin. We've met many black men. Zero black cpls pr women. Racism perhaps. Doubt it "Mono-cultralism maybe. | |||
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"I would love to see more black women on here, but as with all races, the men outnumber the women by quite some margin. We've met many black men. Zero black cpls pr women. Racism perhaps. Our first bi experience was with a black couple. The first man I went down on as his wife, and mine, watched. Hey, if you got to fuck his wife to then fair play to you ."It was in chams. Four consenting adults. Much fun was had  | |||
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It was in chams. Four consenting adults. Much fun was had "Is that a polite way of saying you didn't?! | |||
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