I haven't had any in a while and its on the table with an old friend. I've been there before and tbh its not good. We've tried different things and I'm never left satisfied, I am fond of him but is it fair to let him think that I enjoy it?
I'm thinking is there any point having bad sex just because I haven't had any in the last couple of weeks or should I be grateful I can get laid and just do it.
Pretty sure I've already decided but wondering what others think.  |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
Sounds to me like you've decided anyway and I don't think you're being fair to him or yourself to pretend it is good if it's not.
Do you know him well enough to talk to him about it - maybe explain why you're not getting enjoyment out of it?
Not suggesting you 'teach' him as such and it's difficult to say without knowing the details, but for example if his idea of a good time is a quick shag and relatively little foreplay - perhaps telling him that and encouraging him to spend more time satisfying your needs, as well as his own, is all that is needed.
If it's more than just that though then I'd rather go without personally. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The last time I actually had sex was the beginning of June, I stopped using the site in 3/16 only returning mid September.
I've had bad sex and it's definitely not fun, whereas good sex you want to repeat.
When I returned last month, one of the things I put on my profile was, that however enjoyable last time was, I don't want to meet up with those I have already played with. To me it never works.
From my point of view op, there are two issues, bad sex and going back. I prefer to wait. |
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Don't disrespect the guy by only having sex with him because you've been without for a while. That would be using him.
It's bad for your soul to use other people and it's bad for yourself to just have sex for the sake of it.
So no, I don't recommend bad sex over no sex. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm guessing he knows your not getting much out of it unless you are a very good actress.
If your not happy then don't do it there is nothing more to say..good luck |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I haven't had any in a while and its on the table with an old friend. I've been there before and tbh its not good. We've tried different things and I'm never left satisfied, I am fond of him but is it fair to let him think that I enjoy it?
I'm thinking is there any point having bad sex just because I haven't had any in the last couple of weeks or should I be grateful I can get laid and just do it.
Pretty sure I've already decided but wondering what others think. "
We wouldn't personally play again with someone we knew was bad in bed again  even if we had not played in a while, but that's our personal preference.
Does not mean we wouldn't speak or socialise with them, we would just decline the offer with a bit of sensitivity especially seen as its a friend of yours  |
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"Surely how good the sex is depends on you... not them?
Cal"
It takes two (or more) to have good sex! If you are not compatible either with what you enjoy or no connection then it's never going to work ... I'd say talk to him OP tell him how you feel ... Do you know what's missing? Is it something he can change? I'd put the ball in his court ... Communication is key .. good luck x |
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"Surely how good the sex is depends on you... not them?
Cal"
You could be right. Maybe I am selfish with what I want in bed.
Without being too graphic. There is only really one position we can have sex in and climax is virtually on penetration. Same if I give oral. If I touch him I can rub maybe twice before he ejaculates.
When he gives me oral or uses his fingers its great but I like to give as well as receive.
I thought my mind was made up but now am thinking again. Maybe its not bad sex its just me  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Definatly NO SEX OVER BAD SEX
I had bad sex in my last relationship tried to teach her but didnt work. Worst thing is she thought the sex was great. So i resorted in wanking instead glad im finally out of thier |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Your not being fair to yourself if your making out its good when it's not nor being fair to him thinking your enjoying it.
I'd hate the thought of being with a guy and he was just going throu the motions. God I'd rather go without |
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Definitely no sex than have bad sex.
Due to ill health I've had to go long periods of time without sex. I'd much rather go without than have bad sex. I hate faking enjoyment or orgasms so my advice don't do it.
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