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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hi,being fairly new to this,we have just declined a meet with a couple,only to recieve swearing & verbal abuse via txt message.Is this what swingers are all about? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi,being fairly new to this,we have just declined a meet with a couple,only to recieve swearing & verbal abuse via txt message.Is this what swingers are all about? "
no it shouldnt be x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi,being fairly new to this,we have just declined a meet with a couple,only to recieve swearing & verbal abuse via txt message.Is this what swingers are all about? "
report the profile and block them
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You get some here like that ..... not alot just one or two who cant take no .. and get up-set so thay end up being rude and nasty as cant get what thay would like . XXX |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As I said to someone else last night, be Very cautious about giving out your phone number!
I hope you have better luck in the future, and would say this is A-typical, rather than the norm xx |
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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago
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I don't give you my number as part of an agreement with my wife. This does make things a bit awkward when I'm driving around for 15 minutes trying to work out if I'm on the right street. Having said that it also makes sure that I don't get messages at 4AM from someone I met 6 months ago who's had a drink and decides I'd like to hear that they are missing me!
As per other messages, I'd report them, block them and hope they don't have your address. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi,being fairly new to this,we have just declined a meet with a couple,only to recieve swearing & verbal abuse via txt message.Is this what swingers are all about? "
i think you know the answer to that 
i get abusive mail from guys i turn down from time to time but no its not what swinging is about about, you just messaged a twat  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've had abuse but I am so much more careful who I exchange numbers with etc now. I have met some lovely people but there will always be idiots....Move on block and have fun  xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi,being fairly new to this,we have just declined a meet with a couple,only to recieve swearing & verbal abuse via txt message.Is this what swingers are all about?
i think you know the answer to that
i get abusive mail from guys i turn down from time to time but no its not what swinging is about about, you just messaged a twat "
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It's not typical of the members on the site, or swingers in general. It reflects our society a little, as others have said, where diminished respect is a bit more prevalent than it should be.
We can all misjudge people, sometimes hoping for the best, but it's likely that you'll get better at working out who the decent ones amongst us are, and ignoring the others.
For now, look for some nice people, even if not for sexual fun, and let go of that experience. I'd report the user to admin, as this will improve things for everyone, as the site loses the trash etc. Good luck and welcome to Fab! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What i dont get it why would you give your number out to someone you didnt want to meet "
same for some 1 who has it on there profile
that's asking for trouble |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hi Couple Kent, welcome to the crazy world of fab. Don't let the sad bitter abusive ones put you off, they are in the minority, think we've all had someone be abusive to us at some point.
What you may want to do is what many others do.
Buy yourself a cheap pay as you go phone and use that number for giving out to fab folks. You can then turn it off or get another free sim if it gets nasty, and no need to give out your personal numbers to others. xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi Couple Kent, welcome to the crazy world of fab. Don't let the sad bitter abusive ones put you off, they are in the minority, think we've all had someone be abusive to us at some point.
What you may want to do is what many others do.
Buy yourself a cheap pay as you go phone and use that number for giving out to fab folks. You can then turn it off or get another free sim if it gets nasty, and no need to give out your personal numbers to others. xxx"
Fab idea!! lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi Couple Kent, welcome to the crazy world of fab. Don't let the sad bitter abusive ones put you off, they are in the minority, think we've all had someone be abusive to us at some point.
What you may want to do is what many others do.
Buy yourself a cheap pay as you go phone and use that number for giving out to fab folks. You can then turn it off or get another free sim if it gets nasty, and no need to give out your personal numbers to others. xxx
Fab idea!! lol "
I know my personal phone is never switched off because of kids and family. But swing phones can be left switched off for days until you want to arrange meets etc. xx |
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"Hi,being fairly new to this,we have just declined a meet with a couple,only to recieve swearing & verbal abuse via txt message.Is this what swingers are all about? "
Always report and block abusers and only give out a swing phone number. They are the twisted minority.
Mistress x |
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ive got plenty of numbers from this site and would never think about abussive messages to the even the ones that dont want to meet..
just think you were unlucky..
plenty of nice genuine people on here... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i had someone phone me loads of times and the sheer pushiness and not understanding i had work or didnt want to talk made it worse but that was sorted
and i had a threat but thank god i sorted it out in the end x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Any form of abuse is clearly unacceptable behavior. It sounds like your instinct to decline the invite was bang on!.. My old addage..if it don't look right, or if it don't sound right or if it don't feel right.... then it ain't right! If it ain't right don't do it! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i had someone phone me loads of times and the sheer pushiness and not understanding i had work or didnt want to talk made it worse but that was sorted
and i had a threat but thank god i sorted it out in the end x"
ignore it
get an old mobile fone to use it for here rather than use your main number
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By *riseeTV/TS
over a year ago
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I have a phone number exclusively for social activities. If someone harasses me I can block their number, or add a silent ring tone or just toss the SIM and get a new one.
People only use my number to arrange a meet, and briefly after a meet. Seems people rarely keep in contact afterwards. And there is always email to update
I've had the abusive responses too.
Some are simply because I decline to fulfil the male fantasy of 'FMF' (note the order).
Some because the person doesn't turn up and I'll say no thanks for future meets.
I've even been abused for meeting someone else when stood up by the person!!
Sadly, when it comes to this type of swinging environment, it can be more selfish than shared. And I do consider at all times, that many couples are not original relationships, fuck buddies, or fuck buddies 'discrete' from their partners. So I consider reliability, commitment and responsibility to be quite low.
Sad I know.
I also do wonder, considering I've never been a single swinger till May this year, how one does 'swing' when one has no partner to come back to and be loved.
Single men are hardly swingers. Single women I've met so far quickly learn from me that this is not the way to attain love and affection and commitment.
Even my ex has discovered that this site or 'swingers' are not going to help her 'find what [she is] looking for' (U2) or 'better' than what she had for 16 years, though I know she never will anyway. (Plus a lot of people tell me just that, so I feel flattered and ok, despite bewilderment of her actions!)
Just block the abusers and try not to let them spoil the pleasures of genuine people. Like me I've never missed a meet I've made before!
And any single ladies in London who want a really cute girlfriend even if it's a rebound or temp relationship ... do apply
xox
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hi,being fairly new to this,we have just declined a meet with a couple,only to recieve swearing & verbal abuse via txt message.Is this what swingers are all about? "
thats what the block button for |
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We where all new once, and yes you learn as you go along. Dont let one abusive person/couple put you off. I think most will have had disasters at the start. The forums are great for advice and wish I used them long before I did. xx |
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