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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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i am in a relationship not on here, she knows i look
and she hates all my mates, litterally will not come on a night out wont talk wont engaged in convov.
Wnats the fuck do i do? Bros or ho's? Connundrum |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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OP I KNEW you were young before looking at your profile as your thread screams immaturity. You obviously don't know your audience: if you did I'm sure you'd rethink the "bro's and ho's" comment.
Then again after giving a couple of 23 year olds very close to home the benefit of the doubt...I doubt it!  |
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isnt it funny the different reaction epople get when they use the same phrases. i have seen other 'established' forum members use the sa phrase receive polar opposite responses!!
Seems at times on here people are looking for a reason to jump all over the OP and make them feel unwelcome so trawl through the profile for a snippet to moan about or throw negative assumptions on their posts.
i read the 'bro's of ho's' comment as a flippant, not serious remark. i have used it many times when talking about friends coming before fucks 
Also funny how all of the negative comments fail tanswer the OP's question, proving my point that people just want to come on here to have a go - how sad!
to the OP, do you love your gf? does thinking about her make feel all smiley? thats the question you have to ask yourself. you are young but life is too short to waste time on a relationship that isnt giving you what you want from it x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"isnt it funny the different reaction epople get when they use the same phrases. i have seen other 'established' forum members use the sa phrase receive polar opposite responses!!
Seems at times on here people are looking for a reason to jump all over the OP and make them feel unwelcome so trawl through the profile for a snippet to moan about or throw negative assumptions on their posts.
i read the 'bro's of ho's' comment as a flippant, not serious remark. i have used it many times when talking about friends coming before fucks
Also funny how all of the negative comments fail tanswer the OP's question, proving my point that people just want to come on here to have a go - how sad!
to the OP, do you love your gf? does thinking about her make feel all smiley? thats the question you have to ask yourself. you are young but life is too short to waste time on a relationship that isnt giving you what you want from it x"
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By (user no longer on site)
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"isnt it funny the different reaction epople get when they use the same phrases. i have seen other 'established' forum members use the sa phrase receive polar opposite responses!!
Seems at times on here people are looking for a reason to jump all over the OP and make them feel unwelcome so trawl through the profile for a snippet to moan about or throw negative assumptions on their posts.
i read the 'bro's of ho's' comment as a flippant, not serious remark. i have used it many times when talking about friends coming before fucks
Also funny how all of the negative comments fail tanswer the OP's question, proving my point that people just want to come on here to have a go - how sad!
to the OP, do you love your gf? does thinking about her make feel all smiley? thats the question you have to ask yourself. you are young but life is too short to waste time on a relationship that isnt giving you what you want from it x"
Well said I totally agree with you.
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"isnt it funny the different reaction epople get when they use the same phrases. i have seen other 'established' forum members use the sa phrase receive polar opposite responses!!
Seems at times on here people are looking for a reason to jump all over the OP and make them feel unwelcome so trawl through the profile for a snippet to moan about or throw negative assumptions on their posts.
i read the 'bro's of ho's' comment as a flippant, not serious remark. i have used it many times when talking about friends coming before fucks
Also funny how all of the negative comments fail tanswer the OP's question, proving my point that people just want to come on here to have a go - how sad!
to the OP, do you love your gf? does thinking about her make feel all smiley? thats the question you have to ask yourself. you are young but life is too short to waste time on a relationship that isnt giving you what you want from it x"
Too be fair the opening post seamed a bit of a fishing expedition.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"isnt it funny the different reaction epople get when they use the same phrases. i have seen other 'established' forum members use the sa phrase receive polar opposite responses!!
Seems at times on here people are looking for a reason to jump all over the OP and make them feel unwelcome so trawl through the profile for a snippet to moan about or throw negative assumptions on their posts.
i read the 'bro's of ho's' comment as a flippant, not serious remark. i have used it many times when talking about friends coming before fucks
Also funny how all of the negative comments fail tanswer the OP's question, proving my point that people just want to come on here to have a go - how sad!
to the OP, do you love your gf? does thinking about her make feel all smiley? thats the question you have to ask yourself. you are young but life is too short to waste time on a relationship that isnt giving you what you want from it x"
Anyone starting a thread stating they were attached, their partner not talking to them and hating their mates etc would illicit the same response from me.
You hardly need to be a Rhodes scholar to read the OP and not guess his age.
Unlike some desperate for attention, lacking in respect for themselves or wanting to be everyone's bessy mate I comment regardless of who the poster is...that includes the Mods for which I've been banned for, won't stop me having an opinion. |
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"isnt it funny the different reaction epople get when they use the same phrases. i have seen other 'established' forum members use the sa phrase receive polar opposite responses!!
Seems at times on here people are looking for a reason to jump all over the OP and make them feel unwelcome so trawl through the profile for a snippet to moan about or throw negative assumptions on their posts.
i read the 'bro's of ho's' comment as a flippant, not serious remark. i have used it many times when talking about friends coming before fucks
Also funny how all of the negative comments fail tanswer the OP's question, proving my point that people just want to come on here to have a go - how sad!
to the OP, do you love your gf? does thinking about her make feel all smiley? thats the question you have to ask yourself. you are young but life is too short to waste time on a relationship that isnt giving you what you want from it x
Anyone starting a thread stating they were attached, their partner not talking to them and hating their mates etc would illicit the same response from me.
You hardly need to be a Rhodes scholar to read the OP and not guess his age.
Unlike some desperate for attention, lacking in respect for themselves or wanting to be everyone's bessy mate I comment regardless of who the poster is...that includes the Mods for which I've been banned for, won't stop me having an opinion."
didnt say you couldnt have one, just aired mine |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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OP, it sounds like you've got yourself into a very controlling relationship.
You miss your friends because she won't let you see them and that isn't the way things should be. It seems that the saving grace of the relationship is the fact she let's you 'look' on a swinging site??????
Seriously, you are young... don't let this become the rest of your life because you won't like it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"OP, it sounds like you've got yourself into a very controlling relationship.
You miss your friends because she won't let you see them and that isn't the way things should be. It seems that the saving grace of the relationship is the fact she let's you 'look' on a swinging site??????
Seriously, you are young... don't let this become the rest of your life because you won't like it."
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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Unlike some desperate for attention, lacking in respect for themselves or wanting to be everyone's bessy mate I comment regardless of who the poster is...that includes the Mods for which I've been banned for, won't stop me having an opinion."
Can I just clarify , no one would get a ban for commenting / having an opinion on something a mod has written on the forums.
If someone broke rules while posting that opinion / comment they will be banned though. |
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"the bro's or ho's comment wasnt ment to offend, its just a saying.
thanks fior the advice tho guys, always helpful having a second opinion."
It's a saying that shows your _iew of a relationship isnt mature ,the word partner is used for a reason.If you think its an either or situation then i wud take a step back . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Do you know what I'd say to you - get off the site - and I mean it in the nicest possible way.
You're a young lad, you have mates, you should be allowed to go out with them, living the high life, doing daft stuff together, getting naked in fountains on a saturday night, laughing at stupid things one of you has said. But your girlfrined doesn't like you doing this.
Instead she allows you to sit at home in front of a pc, ogling naked pics of faceless women, knowing as a single guy and a young one, that the chances of you having a meet with a woman off this site are slimmer than finding someone else whilst out with your mates.
Its about jealousy and control and, if I'm making the assumption that she is a similar age to you, its not healthy for either of you.
Now of course I'm not really telling you to leave the site but I am suggesting that you don't throw away fun and experiences whilst you're young, you will have enough years of maturity to live through. A compromise would be ideal and I hope that will work for you  |
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As usual i have to agree with your wise words Iconic.
It is possible to swing/explore as a young couple,and not feel you are missing out on the mates stuff too. But it needs you to be equals in the journey and enjoy the fact you are both having fun. |
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By *lexaWoman
over a year ago
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OP, even at 23 you must be able to see for yourself that your relationship is not well-founded if your GF feels the need to be that controlling! What about her? Does she have her own mates and do you mind her seeing them?
By asking for advice (ignoring the Bro/Ho comment which is probably down to immaturity - I hope,) especially in a place like this (Fab,) then things don't sound like they are going too well for you in the romance deptartment. Possibly the thing to do is to find a gf a bit more like yourself who can appreciate you for who you really are.
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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"Do you know what I'd say to you - get off the site - and I mean it in the nicest possible way.
You're a young lad, you have mates, you should be allowed to go out with them, living the high life, doing daft stuff together, getting naked in fountains on a saturday night, laughing at stupid things one of you has said. But your girlfrined doesn't like you doing this.
Instead she allows you to sit at home in front of a pc, ogling naked pics of faceless women, knowing as a single guy and a young one, that the chances of you having a meet with a woman off this site are slimmer than finding someone else whilst out with your mates.
Its about jealousy and control and, if I'm making the assumption that she is a similar age to you, its not healthy for either of you.
Now of course I'm not really telling you to leave the site but I am suggesting that you don't throw away fun and experiences whilst you're young, you will have enough years of maturity to live through. A compromise would be ideal and I hope that will work for you "
I go with the above... enjoy life
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I believe some men could be very mature and want to settle down at an early age, while some still bounce about and behave like a puppy on heat in their 40s/50s or even older.
It sounds to me the OP is not ready to be tied down in a relationship.
Therefore, I would advise doing the honourable thing to break off with the girlfriend, to allow you both to go your separate ways.
If you still feel strongly about each other after the break, then perhaps you are destined for each other, and should then work on the relationship.
Hope it works out, whatever you decide.
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Get out of the relationship as quickly as you can. Went through the same thing with my ex of 10 years and I regret not leaving her sooner. The longer you stay and allow her to control the relationship, the hard it will be for you to leave.
Left mine about 4 months ago and haven't looked back. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"the bro's or ho's comment wasnt ment to offend, its just a saying.
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A slight, more respectful saying is 'Mates or Dates' it also rhymes.
Who we choose to keep around us defines who we are. Your friends i presume were there first and would be there for you if your misses and you split.
Are you actually making a choice though? Does she let you see them without her or is she the kind who wants you to get rid of them and only socialise with her friends?
Because if you dump your friends to be with a woman who doesnt want you to see your friends, then you split up with her. Who will you be left with?
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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"the bro's or ho's comment wasnt ment to offend, its just a saying.
A slight, more respectful saying is 'Mates or Dates' it also rhymes.
Who we choose to keep around us defines who we are. Your friends i presume were there first and would be there for you if your misses and you split.
Are you actually making a choice though? Does she let you see them without her or is she the kind who wants you to get rid of them and only socialise with her friends?
Because if you dump your friends to be with a woman who doesnt want you to see your friends, then you split up with her. Who will you be left with?
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By *riseeTV/TS
over a year ago
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I sense a relationship designed around two peoples convenience.
He has a 'chick' so he cahn say he's attached, but really he doesn't love her cause no person would be seeking nights out with their mates and looking for other bonks over choosing their partner.
Even though all through my marriage I had the option to date out ... if my partner was not actually doing something constructive (work wise) I'd stay home ... with her ... intimacy with my partner comes first.
Now it sounds like the girl isn't that much different. She has her catch, can send him away as much as possible, if they live together he's probably paying the rent or it's a council house and they are both on benefits.
She's probably trawling the sites looking for guys and attention anyway.
I could be wrong ... but ...
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