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If you've agreed to fuck someone, what do you think to being repeatedly slapped on the arse like it's a porn film when it's not been discussed or agreed beforehand and there's no planned Dom sub element? Yay or nay and why? |
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over a year ago
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"If you've agreed to fuck someone, what do you think to being repeatedly slapped on the arse like it's a porn film when it's not been discussed or agreed beforehand and there's no planned Dom sub element? Yay or nay and why?"
I always ask the do's and don't first.x |
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"Why wasn’t the slapping discussed?"
It was a group play situation, only condoms as a boundary we're discussed. One of the guys just starting slapping my arse like he was riding a horse 
I let the first one go thinking it might be his exuberance but it was quickly followed by the other side. He may as well have shouted yee-ha
I just said slap me one more time and I'll turn around and punch you. In the right context with the right person absolutely yes but with a random without being discussed or agreed, absolutely not  |
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"if its not wanted and its done once - just say dont do that again - if they do then stop play - simples"
This
A bit over excited maybe, it happens
Just say no not for me and continue to fuck senseless |
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"Why wasn’t the slapping discussed?
It was a group play situation, only condoms as a boundary we're discussed. One of the guys just starting slapping my arse like he was riding a horse
I let the first one go thinking it might be his exuberance but it was quickly followed by the other side. He may as well have shouted yee-ha
I just said slap me one more time and I'll turn around and punch you. In the right context with the right person absolutely yes but with a random without being discussed or agreed, absolutely not "
Yeah that's not on if you hadn't discussed it. The odd one fine but that sound's too much if you'd just met him. |
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By *ouble CCouple
over a year ago
Gran Canaria |
"Why wasn’t the slapping discussed?
It was a group play situation, only condoms as a boundary we're discussed. One of the guys just starting slapping my arse like he was riding a horse
I let the first one go thinking it might be his exuberance but it was quickly followed by the other side. He may as well have shouted yee-ha
I just said slap me one more time and I'll turn around and punch you. In the right context with the right person absolutely yes but with a random without being discussed or agreed, absolutely not "
And this young man has all his teeth still? Miss C Xx |
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"If you've agreed to fuck someone, what do you think to being repeatedly slapped on the arse like it's a porn film when it's not been discussed or agreed beforehand and there's no planned Dom sub element? Yay or nay and why?"
I’d be in meltdown, perhaps start crying, then start boxing! I hate my arse slapped |
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By *lceeWoman
over a year ago
Leeds |
I love it so I’d be super happy. But then, I’d definitely have mentioned my predilections and lack thereof before fucking someone.
Someone once gave me a swing across the chops during a session and I was so shocked, I didn’t know what to do.  |
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"If you've agreed to fuck someone, what do you think to being repeatedly slapped on the arse like it's a porn film when it's not been discussed or agreed beforehand and there's no planned Dom sub element? Yay or nay and why?"
men can't win, of course if he was inconsiderate slapping you hard them his fault, but a little palm to the ass you can tell him nicely if you don't like it. |
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By *ouble CCouple
over a year ago
Gran Canaria |
I think unless the lady asked you to do it OR it's discussed beforehand then DO NOT smack the lady's bottom.
What if the lady was on top of you and she slapped u in the face or slapped u like a horse? Miss C Xx |
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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago
Up on them there hills |
Yes men can come to an equal agreement, well if it is done right.
Passive “oh not me” make me smile, discussion with a woman who knows what she wants, not playing games, up for fun with a capital F now that is erotic.
Still keyboard dreams come in all sexes.
High maintenance on the dragon scale mmm, |
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
Northampton Somewhere |
A couple of times would be ok but not repeatedly, not on a first sex meet when it's not expected!
Someone slapped me around my face, I thought if he does that again my fanny is going to freeze up and that'll be game over!!! |
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"I love it so I’d be super happy. But then, I’d definitely have mentioned my predilections and lack thereof before fucking someone.
Someone once gave me a swing across the chops during a session and I was so shocked, I didn’t know what to do. "
Hmmm. Knowing absolutely nothing of your limits / predilections, or what you'd actually discussed prior to your assignation with the individual concerned; and speaking as a Dominant who loves to administer spankings and traditional chastisement. From what I can glean from your post, it appears to me that his out of the blue smack across your chops is purely an assault. |
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The guy has got it completely wrong and seems to have been in his own world.
Situations have to be read and people need to act in accordance with that. In some situations *a* gentler slap might fit with the tempo of play at that moment. Reactions can be gauged and play can flow as appropriate.
Unfortunately inexperience or lack of those skills exist some people. Watching how people are responsonding and modifying how you are playing is an important part of sex and especially in swinging.
Every small detail can't be pre-planned, but his actions weren't a small detail. He's gone in guns blazing uninvited. You should have turned the tables on him... 
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By *lceeWoman
over a year ago
Leeds |
"I love it so I’d be super happy. But then, I’d definitely have mentioned my predilections and lack thereof before fucking someone.
Someone once gave me a swing across the chops during a session and I was so shocked, I didn’t know what to do.
Hmmm. Knowing absolutely nothing of your limits / predilections, or what you'd actually discussed prior to your assignation with the individual concerned; and speaking as a Dominant who loves to administer spankings and traditional chastisement. From what I can glean from your post, it appears to me that his out of the blue smack across your chops is purely an assault. "
Oh, absolutely, hence the shock. Something I filed away for ‘might enjoy with the right person’ but definitely not appropriate for a first time meet. |
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"I love it so I’d be super happy. But then, I’d definitely have mentioned my predilections and lack thereof before fucking someone.
Someone once gave me a swing across the chops during a session and I was so shocked, I didn’t know what to do.
Hmmm. Knowing absolutely nothing of your limits / predilections, or what you'd actually discussed prior to your assignation with the individual concerned; and speaking as a Dominant who loves to administer spankings and traditional chastisement. From what I can glean from your post, it appears to me that his out of the blue smack across your chops is purely an assault.
Oh, absolutely, hence the shock. Something I filed away for ‘might enjoy with the right person’ but definitely not appropriate for a first time meet."
I'm glad you're cool about it Cat. I think I've made my views abundantly clear on individuals like this and their behaviour.
From reading through your profile, I suspect that you're more than capable of dealing with potential axe murderers / creeps like this (even in the nude ha ha), but there are many submissives who aren't.
One answer might be for you and your sister submissives on here to get together via a new forum thread (good luck stopping blokes posting on it ha ha) with the aim of starting up a Kik / WhatsApp group (I'm aware that you can't "name and shame" on here) to warn others away from these individuals? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"He sounds like a cowboy shagger, you should report him to trading standards 
Ba-doom-tush
I'd probably let the first one go, after the second I'd let them know I didn't like it."
This for me too  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nah I’m not into ass slapping unless pre-agreed/pre-discussed.
In fact I have told someone recently to stop with ass slapping and choking as it wasn’t that kind of meet. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Problem is you can't always negotiate every eventuality beforehand... 
Too much (bad) porn is definitely a factor in this sort of thing. I had young guy literally hoik and spit on my clit once. Such a massive turn off; I told him to fuck off there and then. |
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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago
Up on them there hills |
Spontaneous fun comes in many forms, kind of why I like a little up front discussion, then explore play within parameters.
In a club, well we have all been there... haven’t we, lust/musth
OP, to me, you both got it wrong .
For me, male, the ladies can be a lot worse.
However, don’t let it spoil what is stunning fun. |
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"I love it so I’d be super happy. But then, I’d definitely have mentioned my predilections and lack thereof before fucking someone.
Someone once gave me a swing across the chops during a session and I was so shocked, I didn’t know what to do. "
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"Spontaneous fun comes in many forms, kind of why I like a little up front discussion, then explore play within parameters.
In a club, well we have all been there... haven’t we, lust/musth
OP, to me, you both got it wrong .
For me, male, the ladies can be a lot worse.
However, don’t let it spoil what is stunning fun."
Sexual cluedo - softie in a dark room with several random men, remit fuck me with condoms. I don't think I got it wrong - I stated what I wanted with the one relevant hard limit. To state what I didn't want or hard limits unrelated to the play at hand kind of takes the spontaneity out of the situation and we may all as well sat down with a cuppa for a social to discuss it first  |
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"I love it so I’d be super happy. But then, I’d definitely have mentioned my predilections and lack thereof before fucking someone.
Someone once gave me a swing across the chops during a session and I was so shocked, I didn’t know what to do.
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Yeah I'd have swung back. I think slapping the arse isn't good if not agreed but slapping the face is far worse. I have done it but it was pre agreed. |
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"Spontaneous fun comes in many forms, kind of why I like a little up front discussion, then explore play within parameters.
In a club, well we have all been there... haven’t we, lust/musth
OP, to me, you both got it wrong .
For me, male, the ladies can be a lot worse.
However, don’t let it spoil what is stunning fun.
Sexual cluedo - softie in a dark room with several random men, remit fuck me with condoms. I don't think I got it wrong - I stated what I wanted with the one relevant hard limit. To state what I didn't want or hard limits unrelated to the play at hand kind of takes the spontaneity out of the situation and we may all as well sat down with a cuppa for a social to discuss it first "
Softie take me in a dungeon please I’ll be a good girl |
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"Why wasn’t the slapping discussed?
It was a group play situation, only condoms as a boundary we're discussed. One of the guys just starting slapping my arse like he was riding a horse
I let the first one go thinking it might be his exuberance but it was quickly followed by the other side. He may as well have shouted yee-ha
I just said slap me one more time and I'll turn around and punch you. In the right context with the right person absolutely yes but with a random without being discussed or agreed, absolutely not
And this young man has all his teeth still? Miss C Xx "
Yeah I needed fucking more than I needed a fight 
Hello lovely mwah xx  |
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"Spontaneous fun comes in many forms, kind of why I like a little up front discussion, then explore play within parameters.
In a club, well we have all been there... haven’t we, lust/musth
OP, to me, you both got it wrong .
For me, male, the ladies can be a lot worse.
However, don’t let it spoil what is stunning fun.
Sexual cluedo - softie in a dark room with several random men, remit fuck me with condoms. I don't think I got it wrong - I stated what I wanted with the one relevant hard limit. To state what I didn't want or hard limits unrelated to the play at hand kind of takes the spontaneity out of the situation and we may all as well sat down with a cuppa for a social to discuss it first
Softie take me in a dungeon please I’ll be a good girl "
Behave bitch otherwise ill mark the other side of your face to match last time 
Ps I may have a suitcase with me  |
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"Spontaneous fun comes in many forms, kind of why I like a little up front discussion, then explore play within parameters.
In a club, well we have all been there... haven’t we, lust/musth
OP, to me, you both got it wrong .
For me, male, the ladies can be a lot worse.
However, don’t let it spoil what is stunning fun.
Sexual cluedo - softie in a dark room with several random men, remit fuck me with condoms. I don't think I got it wrong - I stated what I wanted with the one relevant hard limit. To state what I didn't want or hard limits unrelated to the play at hand kind of takes the spontaneity out of the situation and we may all as well sat down with a cuppa for a social to discuss it first
Softie take me in a dungeon please I’ll be a good girl
Behave bitch otherwise ill mark the other side of your face to match last time
Ps I may have a suitcase with me "
Yes of course, I apologise, staple me though please?  |
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"Spontaneous fun comes in many forms, kind of why I like a little up front discussion, then explore play within parameters.
In a club, well we have all been there... haven’t we, lust/musth
OP, to me, you both got it wrong .
For me, male, the ladies can be a lot worse.
However, don’t let it spoil what is stunning fun.
Sexual cluedo - softie in a dark room with several random men, remit fuck me with condoms. I don't think I got it wrong - I stated what I wanted with the one relevant hard limit. To state what I didn't want or hard limits unrelated to the play at hand kind of takes the spontaneity out of the situation and we may all as well sat down with a cuppa for a social to discuss it first
Softie take me in a dungeon please I’ll be a good girl
Behave bitch otherwise ill mark the other side of your face to match last time
Ps I may have a suitcase with me
Yes of course, I apologise, staple me though please? "
If you let me staple your pussy shut yes (part of a bra and panties design)
Oi I'm meant to be soft |
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"Spontaneous fun comes in many forms, kind of why I like a little up front discussion, then explore play within parameters.
In a club, well we have all been there... haven’t we, lust/musth
OP, to me, you both got it wrong .
For me, male, the ladies can be a lot worse.
However, don’t let it spoil what is stunning fun.
Sexual cluedo - softie in a dark room with several random men, remit fuck me with condoms. I don't think I got it wrong - I stated what I wanted with the one relevant hard limit. To state what I didn't want or hard limits unrelated to the play at hand kind of takes the spontaneity out of the situation and we may all as well sat down with a cuppa for a social to discuss it first
Softie take me in a dungeon please I’ll be a good girl
Behave bitch otherwise ill mark the other side of your face to match last time
Ps I may have a suitcase with me
Yes of course, I apologise, staple me though please?
If you let me staple your pussy shut yes (part of a bra and panties design)
Oi I'm meant to be soft "
Well yes you are soft, you remember the conversation I had with the other person |
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"Spontaneous fun comes in many forms, kind of why I like a little up front discussion, then explore play within parameters.
In a club, well we have all been there... haven’t we, lust/musth
OP, to me, you both got it wrong .
For me, male, the ladies can be a lot worse.
However, don’t let it spoil what is stunning fun.
Sexual cluedo - softie in a dark room with several random men, remit fuck me with condoms. I don't think I got it wrong - I stated what I wanted with the one relevant hard limit. To state what I didn't want or hard limits unrelated to the play at hand kind of takes the spontaneity out of the situation and we may all as well sat down with a cuppa for a social to discuss it first
Softie take me in a dungeon please I’ll be a good girl
Behave bitch otherwise ill mark the other side of your face to match last time
Ps I may have a suitcase with me
Yes of course, I apologise, staple me though please?
If you let me staple your pussy shut yes (part of a bra and panties design)
Oi I'm meant to be soft
Well yes you are soft, you remember the conversation I had with the other person "
Yes I remember and yes you're still to have your punishment for that
So yes to the pussy stapling? |
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"Spontaneous fun comes in many forms, kind of why I like a little up front discussion, then explore play within parameters.
In a club, well we have all been there... haven’t we, lust/musth
OP, to me, you both got it wrong .
For me, male, the ladies can be a lot worse.
However, don’t let it spoil what is stunning fun.
Sexual cluedo - softie in a dark room with several random men, remit fuck me with condoms. I don't think I got it wrong - I stated what I wanted with the one relevant hard limit. To state what I didn't want or hard limits unrelated to the play at hand kind of takes the spontaneity out of the situation and we may all as well sat down with a cuppa for a social to discuss it first
Softie take me in a dungeon please I’ll be a good girl
Behave bitch otherwise ill mark the other side of your face to match last time
Ps I may have a suitcase with me
Yes of course, I apologise, staple me though please?
If you let me staple your pussy shut yes (part of a bra and panties design)
Oi I'm meant to be soft
Well yes you are soft, you remember the conversation I had with the other person
Yes I remember and yes you're still to have your punishment for that
So yes to the pussy stapling? "
Yes of course as you wish |
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"Spontaneous fun comes in many forms, kind of why I like a little up front discussion, then explore play within parameters.
In a club, well we have all been there... haven’t we, lust/musth
OP, to me, you both got it wrong .
For me, male, the ladies can be a lot worse.
However, don’t let it spoil what is stunning fun.
Sexual cluedo - softie in a dark room with several random men, remit fuck me with condoms. I don't think I got it wrong - I stated what I wanted with the one relevant hard limit. To state what I didn't want or hard limits unrelated to the play at hand kind of takes the spontaneity out of the situation and we may all as well sat down with a cuppa for a social to discuss it first
Softie take me in a dungeon please I’ll be a good girl
Behave bitch otherwise ill mark the other side of your face to match last time
Ps I may have a suitcase with me
Yes of course, I apologise, staple me though please?
If you let me staple your pussy shut yes (part of a bra and panties design)
Oi I'm meant to be soft
Well yes you are soft, you remember the conversation I had with the other person
Yes I remember and yes you're still to have your punishment for that
So yes to the pussy stapling?
Yes of course as you wish "
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